Not sure if you're aware of it or not, but there's a Viagra commercial they run on TV quite often in which an attractive woman about 40 - years - old states, ' Curling up with your favorite book is nice, but I think most women would prefer to curl up with their favorite man ' . So, what about you ?... Book or man ?

The father of my twins &I have been trying to work things out (atleast on my end).There's been an accumulation of things that bother me but now it just seems to have peaked. He is just recently unemployed and says he is stressing/worried over bills ( me knowing after having to pull words out of his mouth since he never opens up). 1.He never really contacts me and when we do "speak" he never replies. I mentioned this to him &he says he is busy &chooses to live a busy lifestyle making me feel that I am bugging him or giving him the impression that he shouldn't be "busy". REMEMBER he is unemployed &used to call me in between busy days. 2.He doesn't talk to me about things,I have to specifically ask and sometimes he doesn't answer my questions.He pushes me away when he needs to talk and when we have something to discuss he avoids me. 3.He doesn't kiss me like before,if at all, and just basically sends me to bed saying "get some rest". 4.We don't have sex anymore 5.I never spend time with him at his house or with his family.I had to invite myself over for easter which is something you think he would consider since we do have twins. I broke it off with him and he didn't even respond.

I'm 20 yrs old and I work at a restaraunt and go to school. My boyfriend is 25 and he just got his degree in math. He would like to be a teacher. If we get married, I want to stay at home with our children until they're school aged and then work in a daycare. But when I tell this to people they think it's just me being lazy and that this isn't realistic? I'm sorry but I think moms SHOULD stay home with their babies? Like what's the point of having a baby if someone else is going to watch it? Why is this a bad decision now days when this was the norm 40 years ago??

I've been with my husband for 7 years, married for almost 1 year. I've lived with my mother in law before & I never realized what a sneaky lady she is.right before my husband & I got married his sister Told me his mom was talking bad about me saying she didn't like me, Im really not a bad person, I treat his son so good, I have been there for him through thick & thin even when he was on drugs which she doesn't know about. I'm a good wife I really am, & I'm not praising myself. I'm not perfect either but what I'm trying to say is I haven't given her a reason to hate me. She just does. Everytime she calls my hubby she never includes me in her conversations.example, she called him this weekend and told him she had a Surprise for HIM, my husband hung up the phone told me to get ready to go see his mom because she had a surprise for US! & know she never includes me so I told him not for me for you and he says no she loves You too & obviously the surprise was for him which was a family member out of Town. She always says that my husband has a house & never says oh they have a house together, my husband got me a car & I pay for it lol & she says oh my son has two cars, & when she posts pictures on Facebook she never includes me in them or forgets to tag me she only posts the pictures of her son. I want to be a part of the family but she makes me feel left out & makes me feel like I'm not my husbands wife, I'm truly starting to wonder how she's gonna treat me when we have kids.

So i got married back in 2008. since we got married he would always cheat and treat me like crap. finally in 2011 i had had enough and left him. he was suppose to file for divorce and told me he did but i found out when i went to pick up the paper work from the court house it was never filed. I since then filed all the paper work and since we had a child i filed threw the courts with child support.. Which leads me to my question: While we where married he opened credit cards under my name. upon doing so he would buy the most ridiculous stuff. Like a 52in tv along with many laptops (because if the charger wouldn't work he would buy a new one with telling me). He ran the cards up to there max which one was a 3000 limit and the other was about 1000 or 2000. some how with fees and everything it came out to be about 6200 if not more. this amount was taken from me threw taxes due to the fact he was in the military ad these where military credit cards. so i paid i believe even more due to it going to collections. Also while we where married he bought a car that was about 15000 when he got it. And In have a agreement that when i was ready to buy a car he would help me get one dude to the fact he sold a car that was meant to be for me that he owned prior. I filed everything like bills and stuff get split.. what can i expect? Will he have to sell his car? will i get all for the credit cards? By the way i live in nj if anyone knows the prosses of what is to come.

In my work at a local famous retail store and grocery, I see alot of young moms and couples...

I know lots of people who say it's wrong and it tramatizes the kids..............what do you think?

Many men will NEVER, EVER put their wives before their parent,s but society doesn't degrade them that much for it. However, when women do this, society thinks such women are selfish & cold, putting their husbands second to their parents. Why the difference?

Do most husbands resent when the baby is in the bed with him and the wife? Obviously intimacy is affected a little, you have to get out of bed to have sex or you have to move the kid. FYI I am pregnant and unsure of what to do when our kiddo comes. I don't want my marriage to be plagued by a parenting move

Not about me, it's about my sister. She made the mistake of sleeping with a man after only a couple dates, only to find out he was actually married. She got pregnant… She has decided to keep the child. She has only told me, and my parents about who the dad is. My parents are well-off enough that they are willing to help her out, so the married guy (who wants nothing to do with her or the baby) is irrelevant at this point. But if you were having a child by a married man, what would you say when people ask who's baby it is? Even our extended family and people like that. My sister is just 23, and not sure how to explain this mistake. I feel like she should just say she got pregnant by a guy she was dating, and things didn't work out, and there's no need to tell people who ask what the guys name was. What do you think?

My wife gives me a list of rules to live by if I want to make her happy, so here s the list. 1. Can t shower until she s ready 2. I have to watch and like movies and shows that she does. 3. No computer during meal time or while watching movies and shows. 4. Always have to be on her side no matter what. 5. Have to eat meals whenever and wherever she does. 6. I have to ware whatever she wants me to. 7. Can t talk to any women or have female friends. 8. I have to eat/drink anything she tells me to. 9. Can t have no privacy in the bathroom. 10. She comes in the bathroom on me, but I m not allowed in there when she is in there. 11. I m not allowed to say what I want when I want. 12. She wakes me up late at night to make love and I have to do what she says. 13. I can t tell my wife what to do, but she tells me what to do. 14. She gets mad if I m in the bathroom more than a couple of minutes. 15. She doesn t let me sit wherever I want. 16. I have to put my silverware in the order she wants them. 17. I have take communion in church. 18. I have to go to church. 19. I m not allowed to fall asleep during any movies or shows that we watch. 20. I have to go wherever she goes. So what should I do about this?

This has been a problem ever since I've returned to work (I was unemployed for 3 years and a SAHD then went back to work). Now, I'm so unmotivated. I have no goals, dreams, aspirations, or achievements in mind. Rewarding me for doing a "job well done" is never satisfying, consequences for NOT doing a "job well done" doesn't make me afraid, and letting me self motivate doesn't work either because I'd rather relax (which drives my wife insane). Any suggestions?

My husband has a bad habit of being late, or going somewhere and saying he'll be one hr and being 5 hours. Last night he said to me at 10pm "hey I'm just running to cvs, want anything?" I said "no".. I expected him to be at least 2 hrs but he decided to go see his friend Mark and he feel asleep there. He broke his phone, but he could have used his friends when he woke up. SOOO, I got no call all night and I was so worried. Last time he went out and didn't come home, I found him in his car and they put him on life support. The time before that, he was in a mototcycle accident and almost died. So you can see why I'd be scared every time he leaves, ESP on his bike. Pretty much about 8 times he hasn't come home, he's wound up in the ER or in ICU and that's in the last 5 years. Wouldn't you be upset? He said I was over reacting and he didn't do anything wrong, because he just fell asleep. Am I over reacting? I can tell you after his mom's death and his motorcycle accident he has never been the same. I have suggested counseling for him, but he think's he fine. idk, I'm just upset he thinks this is acceptable.

I think my husband is trying to turn a fake copy to immigration

Hello my wife wants to be closer to friends and family but they live in Oregon and we live in California. She wants to take six months of seperation to help our marriage and work on ourselves. We have three children I love will all my heart and I love her too, but the time away the last two years with just one another and no friends has been really hard on our marriage and friendship. I don't want her to go, but don't want to tell no and make things worse. She promisses me that she would never cheat or lie or keep the kids from me,but knows the time apart will make our marriage better in the long run when we work on ourselves instead of hiding from each other under the same roof. Please comment on what you think about this situation and if it sounds like this could work for us.

I been married for 46 years we been separated for 12 years but we are still legally married can his girlfriend override any of my decisions

My husband's friends constantly criticize me. I get upset because we have a 3 year old that loves both his parents. But, even though we are married it seems I'm the only one in his life. I can't make my husband understand that his staying out all night drinking has an impact on our marriage & our son. His daddy never wants to spend time with him. He just wants to hang out with his friends. Last night I asked him to come home with me at 4:30 in the morning but his friends weren't ready to leave so of course I got told I'll be home "in a little bit" which basically means when he's good and ready. I got so upset that I told him how I felt. He didn't understand where I was coming from but he yelled at me for being too controlling. He went to his friends house where he continued to drink and have fun while I pleaded for my husband to come home. It eventually led to his friend (who has no children of his own) taking the phone and telling me that I need to let my husband do whatever he wants. He told me a woman's place is in the kitchen and my husband was doing his part by working (i work full time too). He said and I know your not the mother that you say you are because of your son's vocabulary. My son talks all the time but gets shy around strangers.I told him to ask my husband how much he talks but my husband didn't speak up. When he finally came home he denied hearing that about our son but I know he heard. I feel as if I'm losing my husband and there's nothing I can do

My mother cheated on my dad when I was 14 while my dad was going through horrible physical health problems and was bedridden. She left my dad financially desolate and became a deadbeat mom to her two daughters. Her new marriage is happy and she always talks about how it was the best decision of her life. My best friend of 8 years started seeing my boyfriend behind my back when I was 16, when I found out I of course dumped her as a friend and dumped him too, they remained together and they are now happily married with a baby. How can people have a happy marriage when the foundation of it was based on pure betrayal, cheating and hurting those closest to them? It doesn't make sense to me. They just go skipping off into the sunset like it's some f*cked up romantic movie?

I need advice. Me and my husband been together for 6 years and married for 1 year. We had a baby girl a few months after our marriage. Ever since we had our precious baby things havent been the same. Before we would be so luvy duvy and so close we were inseparable. We went out and did everything together. But now that im stay at home mom and hes working full time, we just fight all the time. I get annoyed with his flaws alot, like him not keeping up with his body odor, his cloths all over the livingroom, ect.... I get so irratated by him easily. We try talking things out about whats bothering us but We dont communicate really good with blowing up at each other. Hes also been letting him self go and its becoming very unattractive. I talked to him about us going to the gym but hes very lazy. Sometimes what bugs me is that he doesnt want to do anythinge as a family, just sit at home and play video games. Sometimes i just wish he was somebody diffrent. Dont get me wrong, i love him and i really dont want to be with somebody else, i just get so tierd of the fighting and his flaws. Im not sure if we were meant to be sometimes or im just over thinking it. But went thru this in a marriage?? Please give me advice, what should i do

Can I get legalised if separated but legally married? We split up two years ago we have to kids together I pay child support pay taxes have clean record and take she hasn't worked since we split up... Any help will be gladly appreciate it.

I'll try and make this short. My wife and I have been together 8 years, married for 5. We are young.. only 24 yrs old. We have a 3 yr old boy. We are soulmates.. awesome marriage.. she Is a stay st home mom but goes to school for dental hygiene. I have provided for our family for the past 4 yrs. We own a home, I have a great career. I treat her like a princess and she has always treated me amazingly. Everything was great. We are Christians but we are umm different lol. For example we love to rave. we go to raves (no drugs) all the time. Everything was great.. then all the sudden my wife said she needed space, felt trapped and hooked up with another man. She has only ever slept with me. It's been 3 weeks and she is back in the home with me and my son and we r working on rebuilding. I don't know who the guy is and she says I don't ever need to know. I asked for every detail like a dumb *** and she gave me everything. She was honest and open to everything. through this she has lost a lot of emotions for me attaching herself to another man. Now im here, cooking her dinner still, letting her have the Brad new car while I drive our beater.. supporting her. idk how u get over something like this. I feel like I need to know who it was. It's eating me alive. Is he better looking then me? Muscular? etc? I could easily check her phone logs and reverse the phone nbr and figure it out but then I might as well divorce if we have to be shady like that. End rant.

For the last 3 months I've become very self perceptive. I know what I'm feeling and I can articulate it VERY well. Honestly, this isn't easy for anyone to do; it takes practice, and I actually feel like I'm a little ahead of my people my age learning it. Yes, I just tooted my own horn just now. #SelfLove So when my wife says that she is extremely happy with our relationship, it disturbed me a little. Yes, we have a great "no nonsense" relationship now. We really understand each other and we understand how to maneuver our life without stepping on any of the many landmines out of on the field. We are in a good place financially and the kids seem to be happy. We have no use for "Carrots/Sticks" as a means to motivate anyone in the house, and everything is grounded in OUR VERSION of respect and reasoning. So with all that said, why am I so unsure of how things are going? I am bored. Yes, I am bored. I've spent 20 years of my life (11 years old to 31) constantly fighting against something/someone so I can have control over my own life, and now that I'm on top there's no fighting left. I am indeed in control and I can do whatever I want!!!!! But at the same time, I've lost my one and only passion; I have no more adversaries to fight... I'm restless in this calm, I'm nothing without a fight that I can prove myself victorious over. My passion was to be the underdog who won, but now I'm not an underdog. I'm officially just - winning. I've lost my focus... Woah, that's a typo that should have never happened. "I actually feel like I'm a little ahead of people my age" not "my people".... I can't go back and change it, just know that it wasn't meant the way I typed it. I didn't backspace far enough, something else was said there. I originally said "I'm a little ahead of my age group" but I wanted to make clear this is a both gender issue. "Drama Queen" might be the negative connotation to label my behavior since the idea is to hate on me and make me feel bad for who I am and make you feel better about who you are. But if you were a respectful person, you might call me a "Passionate Debater". Either way, my white privilege wasn't given to me, I earned it; and now I don't know what to fight for.

My husband s moodswings are driving me nuts. He doesn't think anything is wrong with him. Its like walking on eggshells. We are stressed like everyone else with financial strains like everyone else. He doesn't seem to get past things and will get stuck on a stressful issue and brood about it. Please help.

Hi, Almost two years ago, I met this wonderful educated guy who i thought was my soul mate. I am 27 years old and he is 44. He lived about an hour away and was unemployed. He was a successful business owner who lost it all to divorce battle with his ex-wife. So when I met him, he didn't have a dime and was staying at his friends house and i was always there to help him when i could with money and always drove to see him. we decided to get married at a court house, we did not even have rings but i didn't care because it was true love…it was never a money thing for me. After wedding, he found a great job and we both moved in together & I got pregnant but 7months of pregnancy, he started treating me different, distant and just snappy over small sh*t…we were not as intimate anymore and i gained a lil weight from my pregnancy & once i had my beautiful baby boy, a month ago, he still treats me like crap..like arguing with me over small things, yelling at me, telling me to shut the f up, that he'd beat me up..etc, the old him would have never spoken to me in that manner…why do men change? new haven't been intimate in over 3 months but the fact that he's treating me like crap now, makes me think he could be cheating. I just find myself more unhappy in my marriage now even though it's only been 7months since we've been married…I'm really depressed over this. We live in the same house but stay in different rooms …i watch my tv shows upstairs as his down stairs..What would you do?

My husband and I are having problems. I have had depression/anxiety and recently started a job. I feel better than ever except for my marriage. He said that I still have problems and am not on the correct medication but no other parts of my life have problems except when he is involved. Whatever I do and say he says something bad about. He has even gone so far to make the kids treat me poorly. He won't go to counciling with me to try and fix things. Today he wanted to take the kid out by himself and I was upset but let him. When I told the kids I was going to stay back he told them I didn't want to go. Which wasn't the case. I am not sure what to do.

My wife is filling for divorce we are both on the mortgage can she kick me out knowing that I am disabled and getting a lifetime disability living allowance. Please help

My husband and I are divorcing and I'm not sure how its going to work and what i need to do. Im currently pregnant and I have a 2 year old and he wants to keep the car but I actually need it. Will i get spouse support? I'll need to get a job as well i just need help I don't know how this works.

My wife and I have been together 15 years. She is a shy person by nature which may explain a lot but you'd think after 15 years she'd open up to me. But anyway. She is never interested in sex. It has always been me who initiates it, and even at that there is a good chance I wont get any. We typically have sex about twice a month and even at that she just lays there and does nothing, it feels like she just wants me to hurry up and get it over with. She just seems to have zero interest in sex and she only does it to keep my happy I think not that she wants it. Any advice?

I used to speak to him before he got married and I spoke to him after as well. We would talk about marriage. He is getting an arranged marriage he tells me. But he never mentioned that that arranged marriage had already happened. I only found out a year ago. Why did he hide it from me? I'm a girl by the way

I have put some description in but for some reason yahoo wont allow more than a few words title for a question so you can put an explanation unless you do it as an answer.i dont know why yahoo doesn't allow more than a few words as you can explain an issue in 5 words or less. I think he may have problems too.Even now we are married he is extremely shy and a bit inhibited and gets very embarrassed about sex and blushes if I mention the word knickers or tights.I just got used to that thought it was just him.Ive only had one bf an although he wasn't like that I assumed some men are just shy.I am the opposite i'm not shy so I think this is where we clash.I think perhaps he cant handle my forwardness.

I'm newly wed. I'm moving out of town to a place where my wife's friend is living. The husband is a bit of a everything - gambling addict, visits brothels, etc.. Let's say he wants to invite me with his buddies out to these places. First, I'd be a hypocrite for saying, "I'm sorry, I'm staying faithful to my wife." Because I do want to go see a strip club. But I feel more comfortable taking my wife with me and I'm sure she'd be happy to accompany than let me go alone. But I'm sure the friend's husband doesn't want the ladies to know and wants to go alone. Without creating any conflict, drama, distance etc. with anyone; what's my best course of reaction to this?

Husband and I have been married since 1998. I never wanted to get married before I met him but through the pressures and brainwashing of the christian church I was led to believe I would go to Hell if we didn t. My Husband and I have now both woken up to the Insanity that is religion and although we still wish to stay together we want to break every bond we have with Religion. So we want our CHURCH marriage to be dissolved. I thought marriage was a contract between my husband and I but apparently it also includes Church and State and for that reason we cannot just agree to dissolve the marriage. Divorce is for irreconcilable differences, which we have none and Annulment seems the only way would be under the "Fraud" claim that we were brainwashed by the church to get married under the false pretense that if we didn t we would go to Hell. Any Legal type advice on our rights would be appreciated. I don t want any religious advice thank you. Its not just about the Church either, we want to dissolve the Marriage to separate ourselves from the Government as well. We can be "together forever" in the sense without having to be "Married" by any form of State or Religious means.

Me and my husband get along perfect and we're together all the time. Were in our 40's neen married 20 years. But our sex has never been fun. I love a lot of roleplay and the only thing he can think about is the bed. I want him to pretend he is a serial killer and hes gonna make me do what he says or kill ,e. Pr chase me around the house but all the doors are locked and he forces hiself on me. I think about him tying me up and dragging me through the woods. I think about incest roleplay like he is my father and im his daughter or brother and sister. I think about him cutting me with knives. He works a lot on the computer and i think about standing there fully nude in just high heels and letting him touch me or use me in any way he wants. I think about him controlling my mind and making me his slave. I think about him writing stuff like "whore" on my forehead or maybe the name of an ex girlfriend and just having at me. Ive told him all of this but he wont do any of it and its starting to make me upset. I want it. I am not ugly at all. I am blonde straight white teeth and kind of chubby/thick but he loves that. I have a very curvy body and super thick legs. I,m chubby mot fat. He keeps hiself in excellemt shape which makes me want it even more. What do i need to get what i need? Who would troll about fantasies they want?

Not just that she couldn't, but that she outright refused to even try. Would it be a deal breaker? and what do you think of women who love cooking?

I think he is seeing someone else. I feel he to busy for me. He text me a lot but it's weird. Plus every night at 9pm he disappears he says he goes to bed. He text me gd night I call him and nothing till the next day. Ok so it's been two months we are official. But one we Havnt went on a real date we went out for lunch at the mall, coffee, and the movies. He pays but he says he is struggling financially and I understand that I even offered to pay. But we only see each other once a week and it's been beginning in sex lately. Its like that's all he wants and he says he don't have time to go out on the week ends cause he has his kids. I'm starting to feel like he taking me on cheap dates and I'm a booty call. I never been to his place and he been to mine. I tried to friend him on Facebook and no response. How do I slow things down to see if he really likes me or did I screw up already I dunno thanks for listening.

So we had a disagreement mainly because she wanted to come to my place of work and cause drama with me which since I am a boss sucked cause it was in front of a worker, so I get upset and after work I go to the river to cool off when I arrive home I find out she has contacted her sons father who is a drug adict I'm a bad way because her and his son was missing him since he hasn't had contact in 4 months nor even on his birthday. How should I feel about it it was 10 pm at night

Been married for about 3 months, however its a long distance marriage at the moment. We are happy and doing little, but important things to sustain our marriage until we can live together. But now problems there at all. I usually travel back to my home country at least once a year, which is where he lives. This year he will be coming to visit me here for my brother's wedding, which will be his first visit to the US. He wants me to travel back with him the day after the wedding... However, I really had planned to be here for my sister's 18th bday, which is 14 days after the wedding. I really miss him and have been looking forward to going home to be with my love every single day since I've been away, but I really wanted to do something big for my sister's birthday, especially since we didn't do anything big for her 16th birthday. He's already expressed how much he needs me and wants me traveling home with him, but I feel very guilty leaving before my sister's bday... What should I do? Its not that he is unreasonable, or selfish, it's just been hard being apart, especially as newlyweds. So do I just forget about my sister and go home with my love or tell him that I can't leave before her birthday but I will fly home that same day? Need to buy my ticket soon...what do I do?!

He put like one slice of turkey and three spoonfuls of mayo on this I mean seriously why Should I break up with him? I don't even like mayo I told him three times before this He always tellin me I look like an eggplant but round I'm so done with him

when me and my wife got married everything was great for 2 years until 6 months ago. We used to have sex almost daily. We used to be practicaly attached at the hip. Did everything together... And since she had her olveries removed due to a major cysts she has went through changes that I really don't like. it's like someone took my wife and replaced her with this Mr's Hyde. Now i have to Beg for sex, and 99% of the time I get denied.... Im 30 and shes 26 im a nymphomaniac and i feel she doesn't want sex from me ever. And when she does give me sex theres no fire to it. No feelings to ot at all. Where did i go wrong??? I have Never cheated on her. She is on estrogen and something else but i want my wife back... What can I do to get the fire... The bedroom passion back... Ive been thinking of leaving her but I don't want to do that.... Please help!

My serious boyfriend has full custody of his two kids. The kids typically see their moter a couple of days a week. We have been together for three years and are planning on getting married. We decided that when that happens, I will not be "stepmom" to the kids because, 1.I am younger and haven't fully explored my career and dreams yet 2.the kids are relativley older (8 and 12 and very mature), 3. they already have a mom, even though she is relatively absent, he has been doing the full-time single dad thing just fine for years.Basically, we decided it was not my responsibility to "mother" them, even though the kids and I have always had a good relationship. I guess I am wondering what the living situation would be like. He takes complete care of them for the most part and they are getting more mature each day. Has anyone else been in this type of married relationship? Married to Dad but not stepmom? What is it like?