My girlfriend and I started having an affair. She was 35 that time and have two children. After the messy divorce, we took the relationship to the next level with her introducing me to her kids. Everything was great until I officially moved in to her house. The problem is I couldn't stand it when she has to discipline the kids. There's constant yelling and whining and it rattles my brain. They're cute as a button (only 4 & 6) but I can't picture myself being alone with these messy monsters, I adore them but they scare me to death. I don't think I have the vocal chords to yell at them. We were having sex one time and my girl screamed at the top of her lungs to tell her daughter to go to bed. Weiner went back to sleep after that. I want out- I love her but not sure how to let her go?

He knew I wanted children, why did he marry me if he didn't want kids and was going to find me unattractive after I had them. I read his text to a friend and he's attracted to this 25 year old girl at his job, she has a roommate, no kids, no responsibilities and he thinks she's hot. Should I be worried

I met this beautiful woman while working out. She was confident and an absolute beauty. We talked and I even suggested that we do things together as friends. It turned out she's married. She doesn't talk to me all the time but when she does, it's very flattering. We never got to hung out but she still stop by to say Hi. I may have blown our last conversation by telling her I tend to keep an eye on my rest time. I also realized that she knew a lot of people at the gym. This bruised my ego because maybe she's just being friendly. The only difference is shr approaches me and I never approach her. The question is whether she's attracted to me. Yes or No?

Currently in jail for 8 months, not employed, arrested for burglary, domestic violence and assault, he doesn't even have a high school diploma. Why do I feel as though I miss him and want to write him? I know I can do better, I know I deserve better but yet I keep thinking of him

I know the dumb saying, "You marry someone like your mom." I honestly think is pretty dumb to say because my mom is my mom and I'd rather not have the with my own wife. Well unforantly we got married probaly just becasue we had a child that was born five months before we were married and maybe engaged for less than two months. It was all very rushed into and now very complicated. But simple things she talks to me like I am a child, I don't go off doing childish things but for example. We were in the store and she wanted to look at clothes for our daughter and and while we were making our way I saw the picture frame aisle and I said I wanted to check something out and before I even made my way she said no, you don't even have your phone so just stick together and I just said I will quick which I was, jut glanced and came back, she stated that her opinion doesn't matter or what she wants just doesn't matter but when she says stuff like that wouldn't mine opinion/want be just as much not cared for? There are many times I am talked down like I was five and she was my mom, very annoying and honestly think it will ruin our marriage if she keeps it up. What can I do to approach her with this or am I just on the wrong side of this.

I yell out of frustration, he yells to deliberatly involve everyone(opens door, invites them to particpate, speaks horrible things about me to them, directly) He says what he's doing is exactly the same. He says that there is ZERO difference in yelling or attempting to involve them. I say asking them to witness us at our worst is not = equal to a fight in our bedroom. My intent: keep the vicious battles between us. His: to have them particpate. Singular example- husband, fingers in his ears while arguing, I attempt to remove his fingers from his ears. He tells me(in private) he's gonna hit me if I touch him again. I tell him he wont, he cant. He says he can, he will. He then goes into the living room calls the kids and tells them all he needs a witness, explains if i even accidentally touch him hes going to punch me in face, they need to now i had a chance to stop, that ive been warned. Because i curse him out or throw an affair he had in his face(yelling,) (in our bedroom, door closed) he is comeptely justified in saying whatever he wants to them about me directly. Is there a difference. I realize the arguing is damaging regardless.the question is are those things equivalent? He says what we're doing is exactly the same. Is there a difference?

This husband and wife couple has 4 young children. They are both working professionals. The wife did all the house work, dealt with the kids. The husband would belittle the wife. He had an affair with the secretary that both the wife and husband hired to deal with their home business. Everyone knew the husband was having an affair but the wife did not know. The husband wanted a divorce. Why would this man do something like this? The wife is pretty good looking. The wife looks better than husband. The husband walked out on the 4 kids and wife.

I'm finally going through a divorce but sadly it feels like nothing will change. He feels this divorce is just a financial move and we will get married again. We live in section of my parents house. He threatens to kill me and whoever I am dating. Threatens my family. I'm scared I don't know what to do. Should I just move or Kick him out and get a restraining order and call the cops. I just don't want him knowing where I am. I don't feel safe. I don't have any money because he takes my money. We have a child. I never learned how to drive so I can't just move to a different state.

Me and my wife have been married for 3 weeks. We've been having sex since we've been together. I've been kind of rough with her I'm bigger than her i try to be gentle but its kind of hard. How can I be more gentle ?

My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years, together going on 5 years. Before me, he was known as a sort-of 'player' and he was known for being gorgeous & super fit and women seemed to throw themselves at him. He could have any girl he wanted, in all likelihood. Anyway, my husband met me and changed his ways, a total 360. Our first date was long and we fell in love quickly, moving in together just a month after we met. I've always struggled with my weight and although have always been curvy, I've not been skinny since freshman year of high school. I really struggle to feel like I'm 'worthy' of my husband. He draws stares everywhere we go. I constantly catch women checking him out. I just honestly feel like I don't know why he chose me.....I feel like he could have had someone prettier and skinnier than I am and I wonder if people look at us and wonder why he's with me. Or maybe I'm just crazy.

So many questions on here about infidelity, breaking families apart, etc...include the phrase, 'don't judge me.' If you didnt wan't others to think of you as a homewrecker or a cheater, why did you act like a cheater or have an affair?

My friend described his mother as the most independent person he has ever known, even though she was married to his father for over 30 years before she died. How is that independent?

The thing is I developed a crush on a younger man who works out at my gym. He complimented me and we just started talking. The only thing is I found out that he is only 26. I am pushing 41 this year and I am a divorcee with two kids. If you are a much younger man, would you consider having a long term relationship with me? I look young for my age,I'm very put together despite my divorce, and I have a great career. Aging is something that I'll have to put up with and 15 years is a big age gap between him and I. Should I let it progresss? He asked me out onna date but I'm not sure if I'm ready to date someone like him. Any advise will help.

She always says that she'll never ever swallow semen but she always drinks my coffee

My husband who's active military decided to cheat on me while overseas now that i founf out im leaving if I get divorce papers while he's overseas do they send him back home? Cause I sure as **** don't want to see hisome face.

Wife took a half day to get hair done and I didn't know about it. I then think she is cheating. My mom randomly cheated on my dad and they got divorced after 30 years of marriage. Thinking my brain still runs wild on this.

Non custodial father flips out,curses me out and calls me a coward when i try to reach him about childs insurance information. He has also flipped out in rage on my husband who answered phone (bc i was sick..preg) before neone says my husband has no say...my husband has raised her with me since she was 3...her father all in all has literally no relationship.hes always been mia. Neither of us have ever disrespected this man,even due to the fact he went mia for 3 years. Anything i say or ask him is flipped and treated in a way he feels needs such a negative reaction. I dont feel i need to deal with it but since its not physical threats..ik there is nothing through police to stop him. Is there anything legally? Hes starting to scare me to be honest. He hasnt spoken to my daughter since the first time he contacted me after 3 years. But if hes quick to snap with me ..im questioning how he would be with her. Any suggestions will help.

I'm so embarrassed :| i can't stop like at the most random moment he'll start sucking on my neck and then he'll slowly go down with his hands and comes really close to touching my v and then he'll work his way back up. he'll spend a good 5 minutes teasing me and when he finally touches me down there I can't stop breathing hard. WHY AM I BREATHING HARD? he just laughs at me

I'm turning 26 soon and this man who is 39 he is my coworker but is staying at my parents mom's house till he settles and finds a place since his from another state...and last night he told me " when are you planning on living with your mom and don't u want to get married and have kids or do u not?" To myself I'm like of course I want to get married but I don't have time to date!" And it annoys me how he asks me that type of questions...

I'm not sure I can tolerate this

So, without going into detail (not enough space), my marriage is not good. We have a lot of problems. Foundational problems. Communication difficulties. Financial conflicts. Sexual issues. Lack of intimacy. Insecurities. Betrayals of trust. My husband says I'm not forgiving. He's probably right. I have a lot of resentment and I don't feel he truly works to right his wrongs. I'm not perfect either, but I can objectively say most of our problems stem from something he's done. Sometimes I want to go out and do something f'ed up so we can be "even," but I know it will only make things worse. I want to go to therapy, but he doesn't want anyone in his business. I feel very isolated most of the time because we communicate so poorly I can't even express my feelings with him without him being defensive. How can a marriage survive these things without therapy? I'm curious if anyone has ever experienced anything like this and overcome it with their marriage intact.

The only person I ever seriously dated in my life was a girl that developed into my best friend over a 2 year period. We started out as decent friends, got into a relationship, and quickly became best friends. We have since broken up, mainly due to communication issues, but we maintained our friendship after a small break. After many talks over the years, it seems we are past the communication issues, and reestablished ourselves as best friends. She has since been in a long term relationship nearing 2 years, and I have been on several dates, but no relationships since we broke up. We are from the same state, but since May, I have moved out of state to go to grad school. However we talk all the time about living together (not necessarily as a couple) in different cities and traveling together during vacations. While we are not in love anymore (at least that's what I think), we are definitely best friends and at times affectionately close. I cannot imagine a life without her, and it seems she feels the same way. Am I living in a fantasy, or does it seem like we are bound to get married and live happily together? All comments appreciated, thanks.

My wife and I have been super busy of late and the bedroom has been very quiet. Almost six straight weeks of quiet. I asked her if she missed it. She replied "a little." I was taken aback. She's 57, I'm 55, married for 22. Is the "a little" comment cause for concern? I'm not sure. Was kinda hoping to hear "a lot, let's make up for lost time."

How do you handle it?

My husband & I got married when I was 32. He was 28. We've been married 5 years & the sex has always been bad. The only other woman he's been w/ was his ex wife. I have way more experience than he does. I've never compared him to anybody. I'm only explaining this because he uses so many excuses for why the sex can't get better & I KNOW it's b.s. I've had exes in the past who have done things he pretends men don't do. I don't want to tell him, "That's bull because other men do that," but I'm getting there. We've worked our way UP to him lasting 15 minutes w/ him stopping/starting & breaking our rhythm until he can't take anymore & ejaculates. It's better, but I still get nothing out of it. I could deal w/ it if he pleased me in other ways, but he doesn't. No foreplay but me giving him oral, which I stopped doing b/c he doesn't reciprocate. In 5 yrs, he has gone down on me 2X & both times sucked b/c he's inexperienced. I'm willing to teach him, but he's impatient & gets angry. He can't even find my vaginal opening. He tells me to "stick it in" for him. So, I stick it in (no lube!) for him to come in less than 10 minutes or give me 15 minutes of rhythmless screwing?! I know people will ask what I'm doing. Well, I've tried. When we first got together I did a lot, but I stopped when I realized he was a taker & not a giver. Even to this day, if I try to throw in some extra moves he'll tell me not to move b/c it'll make him come quick. So, seriously, what am I supposed to do????????

Or do you have to get a legal agreement to prevent that to happen? the prenup agreement have to be written before you get married or can it be written when you are married?

To keep matters short, wife has drifted apart and refused to acknowledge as a problem (married for 6 years, dating for 3 years). I have constantly communcated about her rejections, brought up marriage counseling and after some time I got tired of it. Few months ago, I asked her for divorce due to intimacy issue and felt that I should be with someone else. She completely broke down, then goes on calling me names, makes last attempts to save the marriage. I ignore them all and straight away tell her I want a divorce. She can keep most of our financial assets, house, cars but I don't want to be with her anymore. We can remain friends and co-parent our 2 children but I would like to be someone who appreciates me, as my wife failed. How can we ease this sudden transition so our children won't take a good impact? Thanks! If you have any experience (or recommendations) to share, please do! There is no other woman but I am unhappy in my marriage. and the children are 11, 8 both boys.

My lawyer says once our divorce is finalized, I can file a petition for contempt. I really just want my money that he owes me and I don't want to spend more than I already have on this man... Any tips? I read I could file a motion to enforce or file for contempt. Has anyone else experienced this?

She's freaking out big time. It wasn't even loaded!

I'll start by saying that she is Chinese and I'm Aussie. I work hard on shift work and study on top of it. My studies have finished for the year and I'm thinking about taking a part time nursing job a couple of days a month to fit around my full time job. My wife works in a Chinese real estate company. For the past few years, our life has been difficult. She doesn't really seem to see the importance of balancing work and life with me. I think she is pregnant. I have been living in the hope that we can settle and have a family together. But I go through rough periods like tonight where I've finished my exam and gone for dinner and a movie alone. That's ok but I have been trying to call her for hours to see how she is going. She finally picked up at 9:30pm and yelled at me for bothering her and said her clients were facing financial ruin if she doesn't settle the loan so they can settle the property. This is typical. She has put us in a position where she needs to work long hours to afford the 2 investment properties due for completion soon. This has meant no time for a relationship. Aside from seeing each other in the evening. If I want to say something nice, it's a waste of time. Throughout the day she is too busy to even notice me. Then I feel guilty for her working so much and like she is carrying the family and I'm not being the traditional breadwinner... if she shoulders all that pressure, I feel like I'm not working hard enough or doing enough for the family. So basically I am continually bothered by feelings of guilt that I can't earn as much as her and she carries a burden as I see it. And then I feel bad because I can't have quality time with her. On top of that, I feel undermined and like I'm being treated poorly with the hanging up on me etc

He has lied to me about this twice before and I expressed my feelings and concerns but I just don t think he understands. She brings up their past and how much fun they had. He says that he told her stop but she keeps messagin. My trust in him is a bit shaky. Is it wrong to ask?