Family: Question: How do I change my person truths about my relationships, last time I will ask?

Question: How do I change my person truths about my relationships, last time I will ask?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:38 PM PDT

My mother was bitter towards her family because her Dad was an alcoholic. She cut her Dad from her life but claimed he cut her from it. The conflict was always personalized to me as a kid once I was about 13. My mother told me starting at about age 13 that her father doesn't love us, only loves alcohol, and that my grandmother doesn't want a relationship with us (My grandmother differed with my mother's position and was married to the grandfather so couldn't come over much). She also told us every family secret there was including many I later learned were not true or exaggerated. So repeatedly I would hear that my grandparents did not want a relationship with us (I took it as me). At age 15 I got closer to the grandparents much to my mother's dismay. Things started getting better but my mother always reminded me (your grandfather doesn't love you and doesn't love anyone). This once again personalized it even though he was real nice to me (though couldn't visit for long at visits). He died a few years later. So now my personal truth is that I have to earn family relationships. Also that I am a very unfaithful family member (like a 2nd rate relative) because of how my mother drilled in my head "they don't want a relationship with us". If not invited to a family event I think "oh yeah, I am 2nd rate" when usually it turns out it was not a big family event (just a few people for something little). There to my mother personalizes it "they never ask us and don't want much of a relationship". When in reality they do ask us at every holiday and my parents decline. So my question is how do I overcome this damaged personal truth?

Question: My brother and sister, 12 years younger then me, take advantage of our mother and Dad (step-Dad) always for money. is this normal?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:34 PM PDT

Is this normal for people in their 20's to do? We have different Dads but the same mother. They also have serious temper problems and my brother is downright dangerous when he was a teen, now is just an unsuccessful person due to behavioral problems and drugs but no longer a raging maniac. So is the taking advantage normal? My brother is in jail right now but I anticipate won't be any different when he gets out in March.

Question: Dad is abusive, mom refuses to leave. What do I do?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:32 PM PDT

My dad isn t physically abusive as far as I have witnessed. But he has a temper and once he almost threw a chair and another time to charged at my mom (but didn t touch her). My older sister claims he hurt her before but I was really young so I don t remember anything. He yells, cusses, violent body language (once again, he has never hit as far as I know), I know he s at least verbally abusive, my mom knows he is, but she s too stubborn to give him up for some reason. I know our lives will most likely be better without him so what do I do? I fear for my mom, sisters, and myself.

Question: My mother caused me to get Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, how do I stop the emotional flashbacks to what happened?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:32 PM PDT

When they come what do I do to turn them off? I am diagnosed PTSD and it is from my mother's reaction to her divorce from my father. She handled it by personalizing it to us kids as "he left all of us" when he had actually just not been the best spouse and failed at an ultimatum, thus my mother divorced him. So growing up I thought my Dad didn't want to be my Dad because of the stuff my mother would say. Now I am in therapy for PTSD and have serious trust issues. So how do I stop these emotional flashbacks when they come? The holiday season is coming and that is when the flashbacks are the worst because my mother wouldn't let us see our Dad at Christmas for a few years until a judge ruled different. I am now an adult.

Question: Should my daughter be teasing her brother like this?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:22 PM PDT

I have a teenage son John and a teenage daughter Lisa. They are good kids and get along good well with each other. They just like to have fun especially with each other. One night at the dinner table Lisa ask me if she could get some balloons like John had. John said "What are you talking about? I don't have any balloons." Lisa said "I saw them in your desk drawer". "They are Trojan brand balloons". OH MY GOD, am I going to have to have the "talk" with Lisa again. But what she said next told me the "talk" was not necessary. She said "John, do you have to special order the balloons to get the size extra extra small". John said you misread them. They are extra extra large? Should me daughter be teasing her brother like that? John thought what she ask him was REALLY funny.

Question: Question about family general practitioner?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:19 PM PDT

So just some quick back info I live in a state where medical marijuana is used for serious life threatening problems. Sorry this is kind of long I just really want an answer :/ I use to have a doctor who knew I smoked weed to control my anxiety because I don't like taking pills when something natural works very well. But sometimes I was in situations where I couldn't smoke and my anxiety was bad so he prescribed me xanax to take as needed. I recently went back to the doctors to refill my script(because I had to stop smoking for a job and my anxiety has gotten much much worse) to find that the doctor I had been seeing is no longer in the practice. The doctor I saw took away my script because "she can lose her license if she gives a controled substance to a drug addict" and told me that giving someone who smokes or use to smoke weed a controled substance is no different than giving someone who does coke xanax. So my question is: was she telling the truth? Why did my last doctor have no problem with it, also I've talked to a few people I know who smoke and are prescribed xanax and their doctors know they smoke...so I'm just very confused.

Question: They keep on pushing me?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:16 PM PDT

Okay so i'm 18 and my parents keep on tring to push me to do things I that in all doubt I don't want to do , let meh give you an example. Just recently my grandparents asked if me and younger bother can go to visit with them for the weekend I personally don't feel up to it for my own reasons but my parents don't seem to get what I'm tring to get across to them , cause no matter what I say they always attend to constantly nag me or to push me, or in other words make me feel guilty. To be honest when ever someone makes me feel guilty I give in just to make them happy but I had enough doing so , because I make others happy but for meh nope, how can I get them to just let me be and to stop nagging me to death. Please note that I'm looking for friendly advice thank you.

Question: Question about applying for food stamps?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:10 PM PDT

I am 22(23 next month) I work part time making at most $250 a week. I live with my mom and her boyfriend but spend a lot of time at my boyfriends place, both places I do not pay rent. I am pretty independen. Paying all my own bills. I want to apply for food stamps because I can hardly afford to buy groceries for myself. My question is about how much would I get? Also is there a way to mark that I am independent without paying rent?? I'm worried they will see I live at home and put my income with my mothers and I won't get approved/won't get a lot

Question: Birth Certificate-DMV-Paret Name Change?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:05 PM PDT

Warning: screwed up situation, should've been taken care of yrs ago Anyway, on my birth certificate, the hospital had made a mistake when I was born & put my mom's ex husband in the father's spot. He is no blood to me & my mom put my real dad's name when she filled out the thing when I was born-there was no reasonher ex should have come up on anything @ all. On my social security card, my last name is my real dad's last name. On my birth certificate, I have my real dad's last name, so there are 3 diff last names on it (mom's maiden, ex's last name, my & my real dad's last name). I haven't had any trouble w/ this (I didn't even know bout the screw up) until I went to the DMV to take my learner's permit test when I was 15. They require 2 proofs of residency @ the DMV & the prob is everythin is in my real dad's name. My mom can't put anythin in her name. My ? is if there is a way for me myself @ 17 to change my birth certificate to where the father is my real dad instead of my mom's ex husband? If so, please list step by step the procedure to fix this. If not, tell me step by step how my parents can go bout fixing it.

Question: I feel super horrible?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 12:47 PM PDT

So my sister was way younger then me and I touch her private part like once or twice and I can't remember if I was 10 then 12 or 13 or just 10 when it happen, it's really all a blur to me but I feel super bad. When I was little I was crazy, I use to dry hump stuff and etc., was also sexually abuse, and I didn't understand that I was being abuse until last year. I would never do such things ever like that ever but I feel really bad about what happen years ago, and I can't even remember but I don't it wasn't nothing big but I do remember that I touch/rub her really fast. I'm 17 now and I feel really bad Im a girl

Question: He continues to cancel on me for his family...help?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 12:15 PM PDT

He has a large family. A lot of brothers and sisters. He's the only one without kids. Everytime something comes up with his family, they come to him, and it's cut into our time. I understand family is important, but when you got that many people in your family, why do you feel it's always your responsibility to take care of whatever? He doesn't really make plans, but when I try to its either work or family. I'm okay with him taking care of his family, but everytime? Cutting into our time? Do you feel like I have a reason to be upset? I am trying to work out a compromise.

Question: What should I do about this issue?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 11:52 AM PDT

I m having a issue about seeing my child I don t get to spend the holidays with her or anything every time I wanna see or make plans with my child the mother always has to be by my daughters side I always have to vist my kid at the mothers house and it shouldn t be like that.would should I do

Question: My uncle makes me really uncomfortable and I don't know how to tell my parents I don't want him here for the holidays?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 11:45 AM PDT

So I'm 13, my parents always throw the Christmas for my family cause we have the largest house, my grandparents and sometimes my uncles and aunts stay and my cousins always come. One of my uncles came is my grandmas favorite and everyone loves him so last year on Christmas Eve I was in the shower and I out to go in my room to get some clothes (i was in a robe) and I walked in and he was smelling my bra he acted totally normal after and I didn't really understand till after he left but I just found out he's staying for almost a month this Christmas I'm scared to tell my parents cause they like him so much but I don't know how I'm gonna handle having him here for so long he makes me uncomfortable what should I do?

Question: Emotionally Abusive Parent?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 11:34 AM PDT

I live with my dad and he's emotionally abusive, he blames it on his depression. He ignores me and tells me he hates me because I ruined his life. CPS has been involved but I don't know what's going on with that. He's threatening to take everything away from me and not letting me leave the house until I turn 18. I'm 17 right now. I can't deal with this anymore. It's affecting everything around me. My grades were perfect when he walked out of my life and then when he came back everything went wrong. I want to leave. I've thought about running away and I have people who are willing to take me in but he said he'd find me and things would be worse.

Question: Should I give them a second chance?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 11:26 AM PDT

My grandparents have not had anything to do with me in a while thanks to my aunt living off of them. Now all if a sudden they want me to come out there and eat with them tomorrow. I feel like something is up. They did not ever stay away from me until she started living there. What should I do?

Question: Is your mother a MILF?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 11:15 AM PDT

Question: Which daughter sounds better, the 20 yr old who is 6 months pregnant and dating an e1 private or the 22 yr old who is a ?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:53 AM PDT

College student, part time employee, virgin, and is a good girl?

Question: What to do when someone you don't like is coming for Christmas?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:47 AM PDT

So I'm 13 I'm staying at my grandparents house with my mom and dad and little sister until the renters for our house can get out and I have an uncle who I hate my grandpa Hates him and my mom and him hate each other he is an awful person he married a Philippino girl and divorced his wife for her and left my 15yo cousin to move with her to the Philippines to run a pineapple and pig farm not even kidding but anyways he's coming for Christmas and staying the day before and the day after I hate him he comments on everything i do he once saw what I was watching on tv witch was big brother and tried to go tell my mom that I was watching "some sort of porn *** ****" were his exact words and obviously she didn't care cause she watches it too and it's not innapropriate but anyways he always has so show everyone up he buys his fiancé Chanel bags and stuff but Like can't even afford to get his son presents and I don't want to spend Christmas with him I know my grandma will devote all her time to him. What should I do to make him leave or for him to not come it even just deal with him being here

Question: I am in love with a beaufiful muslim girl but our parents are opposing our relationship?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:44 AM PDT

I am a Hindu Brahmin but the girl I love is Muslim. She is actually an atheist and so am I. We were just born to families of different ethnicities. I really love her because when I think of a life without her, my heart pains to death. She's so beautiful and has cuffed my heart. I could not listen to my parents. They want me to forget her but I cannot. She lives in my heart . Both of our parents oppose our relationship. What do we do in a world of divisions and hate

Question: Can anyone need some help to pick these names for this family?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:41 AM PDT

Surname: 1. Thompson 2. Gallagher 3. Harding 4. Hamilton 5. Miller Dad: 1. John 2. Adam 3. Spencer 4. Patrick 5. Kevin 6. Michael 7. Colin Mom: 1. Laura 2. Claire 3. Angela 4. Emily 5. Rose 6. Tracy 7. Rachel Daughter 1: 1. Heather 2. Kimberly 3. Lindsey 4. Hilary 5. Tori 6. Madison Son 1: 1. Connor 2. Noah 3. Matthew 4. Evan 5. Liam Daughter 2: 1. Shelby 2. Emma 3. Dawn 4. Daphne 5. Ariana 6. Grace 7. Jennifer Son 2:! 1. Jason 2. Jared 3. Jensen 4. Finn 5. Anthony Daughter 3: 1. Mia 2. Kathryn 3. Kendall 4. Chelsea 5. Kelsey 6. Zoey 7. Gemma 8. Chrissy 9. Aubrey 10. Lily

Question: My mum doesn't appreciate me at all!?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:39 AM PDT

It's not really a question, I just need a place to rant. I rarely ask my mother for anything. I do a lot for her. My mum and dad both work full time and I'm a full time student yet everyday I still come home, do all the housework, cook the dinner, and do pretty much everything. I don't have to do it, but I do. And when I ask for something in return, even just ask for a bit of there time together, I get nothing. What's the point? They don't appreciate me at all. I don't ask for anything, and when I do it gets rubbed in my face. Ffs

Question: Do you have a relative who's selfish and easily offended?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:20 AM PDT

My aunt is just like this. I am her nephew and she literally stepped to me about ready to box when I told her that her 30 year old son who's somewhat of a retard kept coming towards me with his hand in the air made me feel threatened. She even called her 26 year old son over to make sure I didn't do anything to him. I was just 15 and stood 5'7" and weighed 140lbs. She only seems to care about her kids and husband. I'm not even over exaggerating. She's been this way every since I've known her. My cousins don't give a damn about me either. See this is what they do... Anything 'wrong' they do they will find a reason to justify it. Anything an outsider does 'wrong' was solely meant to kill one of them.

Question: How do I get my boyfriend's mother, with Alzheimer's, to bathe and wash her hair?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:10 AM PDT

I live with my boyfriend and his mother, who has Alzheimer's. Recently she has stopped bathing and washing her hair. I suggest it to her several times a day, so does her son. Sometimes she says she's going to do it, but just changes clothes. She's still capable of doing it herself when she wants to, but she hardly ever wants to. Does anyone have any suggestions on a way to solve this problem?

Question: How do I change my person truths about my relationships?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:04 AM PDT

My mother was bitter towards her family because her Dad was an alcoholic. She cut her Dad from her life but claimed he cut her from it. The conflict was always personalized to me as a kid once I was about 13. My mother told me starting at about age 13 that her father doesn't love us, only loves alcohol, and that my grandmother doesn't want a relationship with us (My grandmother differed with my mother's position and was married to the grandfather so couldn't come over much). She also told us every family secret there was including many I later learned were not true or exaggerated. So repeatedly I would hear that my grandparents did not want a relationship with us (I took it as me). At age 15 I got closer to the grandparents much to my mother's dismay. Things started getting better but my mother always reminded me (your grandfather doesn't love you and doesn't love anyone). This once again personalized it even though he was real nice to me (though couldn't visit for long at visits). He died a few years later. So now my personal truth is that I have to earn family relationships. Also that I am a very unfaithful family member (like a 2nd rate relative) because of how my mother drilled in my head "they don't want a relationship with us". If not invited to a family event I think "oh yeah, I am 2nd rate" when usually it turns out it was not a big family event (just a few people for something little). There to my mother personalizes it "they never ask us and don't want much of a relationship". When in reality they do ask us at every holiday and my parents decline. So my question is how do I overcome this damaged personal truth?

Question: He always finds fault in everything I do or say?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:04 AM PDT

We have been seeing each other for over a year and a half. He is always nitpicking, trying to find fault in everything I do or say. He is always criticizing me and uses me as his punching bag. I told him he is always making me out to be the bad guy and he said 'not in this situation.' He does have two kids, not by the same women, which were born the same year so i can see how his life can be complicated. But he treats me as if its my fault. I told him that I am so tired of having to explain myself to someone who always finds fault in everything I do and that I can't win for losing. I told him that if he doesn't want to be with me, just say so. He has not responded. I am so upset, but I've cried long enough. It is so frustrating because nothing is ever enough. How would you deal with him?

Question: Should I move from home?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 10:00 AM PDT

My mom kicked me out and one of my mom's friends friend asked me if i wanted to move with her to Vegas, Nevada and she'll hook me up with a job so i won't be homeless here in my home state because i currently have no job, money, friends or family, i'm currently in school and imma drop out, should i go to Vegas i've been back and forth with it. It's either that or be homeless which i currently am.

Question: My dad bullies me and judges me all the time cos I like Hitler and the Nazis. What should I do??

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 09:44 AM PDT

Everytime I go over to his house he yells at me cos of it. I don't ever mention it to him. He has does this to me like 4 or 5 times I came over to his house in a row. I'm 23 and my mom still takes me over there. I told her before I didn't want to go over there and she still takes me over there. She does nothing about this. She gets mad at me if I say something to him about it. I do live on my own which I'm glad for this reason. He didn't really used to do this to me. And now he does. I don't even want to go over there anymore. What should I do? Serious answers please. He has even told me to go kill myself.

Question: Why won't the demon I summoned on Halloween go back to where he came from?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 09:37 AM PDT

I summoned a demon on Halloween and he is still in my room. I was just curious to see if I could do it and maybe ask him a few questions. He is still trapped in the Devils trap that I made but he won't go back to where he came from. Now all he does is sing Weird Al Yankovic songs without interruption. I hope my parents don't find out I don't want to get grounded

Question: Is it dangerous to help someone that doesn't want to be helped?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 09:32 AM PDT

Right now I'm currently trying to help my brother with a ton of issues he's dealing with and he doesn't want me to help. Problem is, he doesn't have anyone else but me and, on top of that, he doesn't know how to deal with things in a healthy way. He's very destructive and that's why I am trying to help him. But some people have told me to just let him help himself and for me to stop trying to save him cause it can cause damage. What I am I supposed to do if I can't help him and he can't even help himself? Let him continue to be destructive? I am afraid that if I do that he might end up killing himself because he's tried to in the past and I don't want that to happen again.

Question: This weekend my parents and two of my siblings get to go somewhere fun I can't. How can I make up to myself that I am missing out?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 09:26 AM PDT

It is tied to a wedding I wasn't asked to (understandably as it is someone I don't know that well) and so that is why I can't go.

Question: Which is cute? Father and daughter dance or mother and son dance?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 09:13 AM PDT

Question: Weird situation with my son?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 09:08 AM PDT

I'm a single mom raising a son and we have always been very close he is 14 now. Recently I took my son to a family reunion and we got a motel because it was out of state and the room only had one bed so we slep in the same bed. It was all ok until later that night I was on my side and my son was up against me and I didn't think anything about it until I felt his erection up against but butt. I started talking to him to see if he was just getting one in his sleep but he started talking to me so I just fell asleep feeling very akward. He has never made any kind of sexual advances towards me and we are very do you think I should be worried because I think if he feels that way about me and can't help it I should not do anything to make him feel bad what do you think?

Question: It has been a rough week for my husband at work, and he also has to come into work on Saturday.?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:57 AM PDT

He works in construction, and I am coming into help him paint on saturday so that he can get out early. Its my grandma's 80th birthday party on saturday and its 3 hours away from us. We also have a baby and we aren't sure what time we are going to get out of work. I don't really talk to grandma, and if I went, I wouldn't go for her, I would go for my parents and brother, because they haven't seen my kid in 2 weeks. However, I am planning on visiting them next weekend. What should i do?

Question: My dad died in a car crash how can I get my mom to let me see his family I am 13?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:50 AM PDT

She never got along with them but I like them I haven't seen them since he died three years ago she says I can't see them because they're not nice to her and then if they love me they be nicer to her

Question: My dad, always tells me to never let my sister in, and I did a week ago. She ended up stealing money, without me knowing. What do we do?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:42 AM PDT

Question: What do I do about my mom?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:37 AM PDT

It feels like my mom only cares about my grades. At holidays, she doesn't let me go to friends or anything like that, she only let's me do my homework. Also, if I get a bad grade (like a 7 or something) she would literally kick my head with her foot and do other inhuman **** like that. Thankfully, I don't get bad grades often. What do I do? Honestly, I've been wanting to kill myself a long time ago, but never had the courage and I also was thinking about running away from home.

Question: Step mom jelousy?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:23 AM PDT

Okay so my stepmom and dad have been together for 14years, I'm 19 years old. My stepmoms daughter died when she was 4 years old. And now she has become pregnant 5times and she had miscarriages so in other words she can't have babies no more. I am my dads only daughter and I feel like my step mom secretly hates me cause I remember when I was small she would always treat me bad when my dad wouldn't see... But now she's normal but sometimes I feel like she gets jealous over me... My main question is if I get pregnant would my step mom be jelouse of me ???

Question: Can I move out of state with my older sister?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:14 AM PDT

I m 14 years old. Recently, life hasn t been going anywhere in the state we currently living. Things have always been depressing and unrewarding. My mother has an awful job, and my father has mental issues and is unable to get a job. My sister realizes this and is moving to California with her boyfriend, soon to be husband. I really want to move with her, but I don t know if that s allowed. She s 18, and her boyfriend is in his early 20 s. Are they old enough so I could live with them? I honestly want to move to California anyway, as it s a much better state compared to where I currently live. My mother wouldn t mind me going, neither would my father, but would it be legally okay for me to go with them? Could I continue school even if my parents weren t in Cali with me? Any help is appreciated, thank you.

Question: I was wondering if a few kind people could help me out. (Moving for the first time)?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:09 AM PDT

I am a 26 year old man, and I just moved out of my parents house (35 min away) for the first time. I have one older brother and a very good, close family relationship and we've never moved before. Born and raised in my little town, same house, same bedroom for 26 years. I have moved north just a half hour away and moved in with my girlfriend as it is closer to both of our jobs so it seemed to make sense. Now that I've moved in, I just feel home sick and miss my family more than ever. I know, I'm 26 and most people move out long before I did, but I commuted to college so I never had to leave for that. I just now got a good job that allowed me to live on my own and pay bills. But all I want to do is go home. Can anyone tell me how to cope with this feeling and if this gets easier or better? My family keeps telling me it will but then a new memory pops up and I just want to go home again. To be honest I've never even been an emotional guy until now. I sound like a big baby I know, but I'm a family man and always have been.

Question: How to tell my parents I have a boyfriend?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:03 AM PDT

So I am 23 years old and recently started dating a guy back in september who treats me how every girl deserves to be treated. They actually know of him but never met him because we were friends before we started dating. The last two relationships I was in were bad, one got drunk without me knowing and we ended up in a car accident but he didnt act like it at all. The other was sort of an emotional abuser and I never felt so bad about myself until him. It actually took me 1.5 years to accept my boyfriend as my boyfriend and he tells me he wants no other woman in his life and he keeps hinting marriage as he tells me "you never know what can happen in a year or two with us" My first boyfriend my parents figured it out i was dating him and they already knew him through our family since he was a cousins friend. My boyfriend is not much older than me, we both have the same birthday he is exactly one year older than me

Question: My friend wants to get away from her family?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:00 AM PDT

She says she wants to go live with her biological dad forever to get away from her mom and step dad and siblings, but her dad is an alchohalic and he is actually homeless and doesn't have a job. What should I do to get her to stay?! She doesn't want to stay with her mom or step dad because they are getting a divorce.

Question: I have a right to be mad about this right?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:00 AM PDT

my mom and I have been staying for about a month at her "friend's" house, and we agreed that If I help her around the house with some things we could use her car to 1. take me to work, 2. Take me to rehearsal, and 3. Use it for Six flags on Halloween. Well, now that most of this stuff is wrapping up (work and rehearsals) I really don't have much use for the car and what the problem is she seems to think that I can read her mind. She won't tell me what needs to be cleaned or what needs to be done. and IF I don't do it I get the passive aggressive sighing, silent treatment, the one-word answers but how can I do something if she dose not tell me??? hmmm? also this women is VERY controlling and its really hard to clean something and have her be happy with it. It seems no matter what I do its not good enough or if I do something thats not cleaning 24/7 I'm walking on egg shells because she'll get pissed if she sees I'm not cleaning......and the issue is she wants me to do EVER LITTLE TINY THING! WHILE she sit and dose nothing. I finally got two days off from work! and she got pissed becasue I wanted to just sit and relax for a bit (This women dosn't have a job and hasn't for years so I don't think she understands what its like to be up at the crack of dawn and be a retail store for 6 hours a day maybe more) lets not even mention the fact that she gets pissed with we use her bathrooms, washing machine, and food some of which my mother paid for. and I have been paying for gas. she disrespects me, and treats me like I'm stupid.....and when we told her she needs to be direct with us and tell us what to do she pulled the "oh woes is me" card and started getting upset. and he huband things she can do no wrong bu what he dosn't know is that she sits around and dos absoultely nothing but sit and watch netflix and craft oh but the second I do that I'm terrible and I'm a brat and My mother raised me wrong. No My mom raised me to clean up after MY SELF (Unlike this woman) and to do things WHEN PEOPLE TELL ME TOO....I was never raised to read minds....

Question: How do I get my kids to leave?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 07:57 AM PDT

They won't leave for a few hours. I've had them in online school for 11 hours, I tell them go hang out places. But they refuse to leave because we live on a highway. There are no side walks or grass areas to walk on. They would have to walk in the road behind cars. They claim they're afraid because it is "dangerous" to walk in the road with moving traffic. Wimpy babies! They have no friends in the neighborhood, how do I force them to go walk in the street with cars? I don't care if they get hurt I'm 53 year old father with bipolar and cannot tolerate being around them or any family member. They have no permit to drive or car because I do not want to teach them and I do not want to drive them anywhere so they have to walk in the street on highway with traffic they have to walk as fast as the cars drive as there are no walk ways or sidewalks and can only walk in the street.

Question: Does Emma need a spanking?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 07:23 AM PDT

Emma is 12 she has a sister drew she is 9. Drew was sick one day and Emma started making fun of her cause she was eating candy from Halloween that drew can't eat. Mr being her dad I told her to stop teasing her and just leave her alone. Later on that day I go back up to see how Drew is feeling and Emma is still making fun of her. I've spanked Emma and Drew before but this time I think Emma really needs a spanking. I gave her a nice hit on her bum was I right?

Question: How powerful are the Rothschilds in modern times?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 07:20 AM PDT

Question: HELP! My brother punished me?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:59 AM PDT

Ok so i'm 16 and my brother is 19, i use his electric toothbrush to masturbate and he came in on me, i think he wanted to brush his teeth and came looking for me, he came in and yelled OMG what are you doing! So he dragged me by my arm with my throbbing horny clit into the bathroom and forced me to chew a bar of soap while he masturbated my clit with my own tooth brush! Did i deserve it? Was he wrong?

Question: Am I a cannibal if, When I was in my mother stomach my mother swallowed my dad s nut. Consider I would of eaten my brothers and sisters?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:56 AM PDT

Question: My wifes father just passed away. Looking to make something for our house in memory of him.?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:40 AM PDT

My wifes father just passed away suddenly at the age of 62. He was a wonderful carpenter and taught me many things. I want to make something in memory of him to give to my wife for Xmas this year. Thought of maybe taking some wood from his house and make a picture frame to put in our bedroom. Some thing to that extent. Any good ideas of something that I could do like this? Thanks!!

Question: I am so done with my life?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:39 AM PDT

I have never felt so stressed out in my life. Everything was ok back in philppines then my family came to australia. I have mever felt so alone depressed and stressed. I feel like living in a jail. My Seriously Strict parents they tell me what to do every single time and if i dont follow it i get punished. They also fight like every week and i always get stuck in the middle. I AM SO FCKING DONE WITH IT!!!!!!!! Please help me

Question: Custody question? NJ?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:18 AM PDT

My childs father and I split up do to his family harrasing me and either being honest or making up lies of him cheating on me.I just cant take it anymore. I have a 3 year old son who i adore. He goes to daycare fulltime and its very south about 45 min of where his dad lives and works. The father will not be an adult and just pick out days with me and a plan . he wants to be dramatic and do the whole court thing. Whats the normal schedule he would get with something like this? I dont want my son gone to long :-( i dont trust him or his family let alone he is a fellon and was in prison for over 10 years. ( he lied to me about it all) should i get a lawyer .. im ok with every other wknd IF THAT but nothing too much ?

Question: Help with in-laws, who aren't helping.?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:16 AM PDT

My in-laws have been living with us now for over a year, My father in-law is retired and receives a small amount of$ from disability and I believe he took a lump sum retirement payout witch I believe they blew, my mother in-law can work (but has had a hard time finding a job or hasn't been able to find a job she likes) They are in their mid 60's and since they have moved in with us have not paid a dime. Now they are home to get my daughters off the bus which is great and my father in-law does small odd jobs around the house, but that is it they seem to wait for me to get home to cook, I buy the groceries, we pay all the bills and things are tight. I want to start saving for my retirement of my 2 daughters collage, but it is hard to keep up.... They go to movies 2-3 times a week and eat breakfast or lunch out 3-5 times a week and I am starting to get frustrated. I love them but don't know what to do or say to them. I am worried that this is going to continue and they will never move out or start helping with $. This arrangement was supposed to be temporary. Please help I love them and so does my husband but we are both frustrated.

Question: I haven't spoken to my 16 year old son in almost a month...since putting him out to live with his father. HELP!?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:13 AM PDT

I am absolutely devastated. He was not listening to me...dad appeared to be his only influence. His father has been trying to turn him against me for a very long time. As a result here we are. I moved to one of the best towns in the state so he could attend the high school. These last two years have been unbearable. Looking for him 3 to 4 nights out of the week...while he would be sitting over his fathers house and not even have the decency to call. He is not a street kid...as we have always lived in suburban areas...but dad lives in a pretty rough area. He now catches the bus from his father house to the school in my town. How could someone I've been there for since day one...hate me so much and cause so much pain? I'm sure his father is loving this because it has always been his intention to destroy me. I sent his dad a message telling him to ask my son to call me and his response was...."If does not want to talk to you it is not my problem". Do I simply let things go? This is his senior year of high school and he is only 16...will be 17 on 11/10. What is a mom to do? HELP! I set up a FB page just to connect with him and see what's going on. How crazy am I?

Question: Maybe I shouldn't see him anymore?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:02 AM PDT

He will not let me in his apartment. I've seen the outside of the building but in 6 months he's never invited me in. We can only stay at my place. He dates other women. I have seen him out on dates with other women. I've gone through his phone and seen messages to other women that he's dating. His car is a mess. It's old, damaged and he takes his plates off whenever he parks to keep it from getting booted. He sometimes ignores my calls and texts for days at a time. There are days when he's very attentive but then there are other days when he doesn't answer or call back. I've given him money. He got hurt on his job and his workman comp. wasn't enough to cover his expenses so I offered to do his laundry, and give me some pocket money. We have fought in public. I get mad whenever I see him with other women and I throw drinks at him and start fights. He often disrespects me by ignoring me in public and acting like he doesn't care. We still see each other behind closed doors occasionally but he doesn't invite me to hang out in public anymore

Question: My mom and my Aunt are fighting?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 05:05 AM PDT

My mom and my aunt are twins and don't get along. When they do get along everything is great. When they don't get along our family is devided. It makes me so sad because I know my aunt hasnt always treated my mom with respect. But then my mom holds my sisters against my aunt saying that if my aunt wants to see them she has to ask first. My mom gets down to my aunts level and it makes me mad. The holidays are coming up and I know it's gonna get nastier because they're fighting. Any advice on how to cope with this? I'm an adult so I can see my aunt but my dad can't also stand my aunt. Whenever my mom bashes her in front of us he goes right along with her. It makes me upset because at the end of the day she's still my aunt and my mom wouldn't like it if that was done to her. How do you cope with family drama?

Question: I have no transportation to school what to i do?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 04:58 AM PDT

Look, I missed the bus and my parents are really mad. IM not late or anything, I still have 30 minutes until the tardy bell. My parents are in their room, and Im afraid to ask them, cause they locked their door, nd my dad just yelled at me. He told me to walk. Which is absolutely impossible because its so far away. Im scared to talk to my parents, and I can t be late to school, I have a limit.

Question: Do some mothers want to be more successful than their own daughters?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 04:55 AM PDT

When I was in college for my Associate's degree a few years ago, my mom's entire attitude toward me changed. She never asked me how I was doing and she always seemed to look for things I did wrong. Whenever I got an A in my class and told her she would say "Good job" sarcastically and walk out of the room. It seemed like I hit a sore spot with her whenever I talked about school. SHE doesn't have her degree and I'm wondering if she might be jealous that I get to go to college and she wasn't able to...especially since she raised me to have so many other deficiencies...mental illnesses and being overweight. I always feel like SHE wants to be the most successful one in my family.

Question: How do I change my person truths about my relationships?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 04:53 AM PDT

My mother was bitter towards her family because her Dad was an alcoholic. She cut her Dad from her life but claimed he cut her from it. The conflict was always personalized to me as a kid once I was about 13. My mother told me starting at about age 13 that her father doesn't love us, only loves alcohol, and that my grandmother doesn't want a relationship with us (My grandmother differed with my mother's position and was married to the grandfather so couldn't come over much). She also told us every family secret there was including many I later learned were not true or exaggerated. So repeatedly I would hear that my grandparents did not want a relationship with us (I took it as me). At age 15 I got closer to the grandparents much to my mother's dismay. Things started getting better but my mother always reminded me (your grandfather doesn't love you and doesn't love anyone). This once again personalized it even though he was real nice to me (though couldn't visit for long at visits). He died a few years later. So now my personal truth is that I have to earn family relationships. Also that I am a very unfaithful family member (like a 2nd rate relative) because of how my mother drilled in my head "they don't want a relationship with us". If not invited to a family event I think "oh yeah, I am 2nd rate" when usually it turns out it was not a big family event (just a few people for something little). There to my mother personalizes it "they never ask us and don't want much of a relationship". When in reality they do ask us at every holiday and my parents decline. So my question is how do I overcome this damaged personal truth?

Question: Can't say no to my dad?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 04:46 AM PDT

My parents have been divorced for 6 years. When they got a divorce my dad said he only wanted to see me one weekend a month. It's in the divorce papers. But he doesn't really follow those papers anymore. My dad is bipolar and super aggressive when he gets mad. He gets mad very easily. Whenever he feels like doing something or going somewhere he texts me and says something like "i'm picking you up at 5pm today" not caring about my other plans. I'm in senior year so I really try to do my best at school. A few months ago I had to study all weekend bc I had many tests coming up. Then suddenly my dad texted me saying he'd pick me up in a few hours to go out eating with him and his girlfriend (who's a golddigger, it's so obvious). I'm always too scared to say no. Even though I have every right to. But then I texted him saying "I can't sorry I have a lot of schoolwork". And he got so mad. He called me 4 times and I picked up once and he was cussing me out and yelling on the phone. Saying he's the boss and gets to choose when and where I see him. He was cussing me out the whole time and texting me things like "Idgaf about you I could never talk to you again and I wouldn't care" He didn't talk to me until last week. But this morning he texted me again, saying he's going to this bookfair and will pick me up in a few hours. But my mom and I had plans to go to IKEA and look for furniture since we're moving and also because my mom and I never go out, she works so much. I want to text him no and say I have plans with mom but I can't. I'm too scared? How is this even possible? I can't even say NO to my dad, even though I have every right to? I'm scared of him.

Question: Are we wrong to reach out to my aunt's son (my cousin) after his mother distances herself greatly from him?

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 04:42 AM PDT

He lacked motivation in high school and had trust issues as he was adopted at age 4 from foster care. He also supposedly lied a fair bit when school aged. So after he dropped out of college following a semester my aunt and uncle cut regular contact with him. It started with them telling him he couldn't come to Christmas. I don't think they ever formally said they didn't want to associate with him ever or anything like that. So an uncle of mine who is not married took him in for a year. He was doing much better after that and got a job. He now is working 6 days a week (now a hard worker and not lazy anymore). He also is getting help in therapy for his trust issues. He does not lie like he did as a kid but might still have emotions that distort stories (not intentionally). However, my aunt (his mother) remains very bitter that he is not grateful she adopted him. He is cold to her as he apparently feels rejected that she is really good to her biological daughter and the adopted daughter who is super loyal. So now my aunt resents all of her siblings because they reach out to this son of hers. She feels as a family they should be supporting her and not the son. Also she seems bitter about the son. She no longer comes to any holidays with us (she used to) and suddenly only goes to her in-laws. It seems to be because her son is there. My grandmother has just stayed neutral (grandfather has died). So my question is are my Mom and her siblings wrong here or the aunt?