When I met my SO we were both in the party stages of life. We split up twice before we got engaged &married. Not long before we got married he got a DUI. I quit drinking &grew up. Ive started going out with my friends more& it never fails while Im out he will call &complain. when I go out with him he gets drunk& tells people things about me that are not true &embarrasses me. he has no answers. A few months ago I told him i was not happy&he shrugged his shoulders. We slept in diff rooms 4 weeks&did not speak. I ended up asking him to move out&asked 4 a divorce so he left. He was only gone 4 about a week. I came home from work&he was on the porch. He ended up saying I had 3 days to figure out if I wanted a divorce or not or he would file for the papers. He said if he had to file for divorce, I would be homeless because we are living in his parents house (they do not live with us) so I told him to come home because I do love him. He agreed to work on his drinking cause it s gotten to the point hesdrunk everyday of the week& not coming home til late.I made plans with a friend to go out of town. By that time he was already back home. Sincewere trying to work on things I decided to surprise him &come home a day early. He had just gotten home before I did around 10PM & he was drunk! He asked why I was mad& I expressed my feelings. His excuse was he didn t know I was coming home early so he didn t know not to drink. I need advise!

My wife cries when we make love. Why does she do this ? How can I help her feel better ?

He and his drinking buddy decided that they want to have a contest to see who can impregnate as many different women as possible now that they're both single. How do I make him quit trying to beat cheeks with all these women??

my wife is graduating and just accepted a job in another state paying twice my salary. she tells me we've drifted apart and she's leaving me. i quit school three years ago to work full time and support her until she graduated. i was supposed go back after she finished, but now i can't because i'll need to keep working full time. now what?

I really need as many unbiased opinions of how you would handle this situation if it were you. I've been married for 7 years & my husband has been very supportive & loving. But whenever we have a disagreement & I go to my grandmother's house for a night to a couple weeks, there's always some random female disrespecting me. In 2015, we hit a rough patch with relatives & I asked my husband to get a job to cover some of the bills because the stress & pressure was too much for me & I needed to work less and try & resolve these issues. As a result of him getting a job, he changed the locks to our apartment & I had to move in with my grandmother. Now 2017, he is pleading and apologizing sincerely for another chance & not to divorce. Problem is, he got one of those girls pregnant that disrespected me. She now has an 11 month old son for him & he disrespected her terribly & refuses to have anything to do with the child or her. My concern is, right before he started to apologize to me, he was good with his mistress until she contacted me about their relationship. I also found out that she wasn't sure who the father of the baby was, so that child is not registered in his name, but registered as a 'Junior' for another man. Now she messages me everyday & tries to befriend me, hoping that I coerce my husband to be a part of his son's life. My husband is adamant that he doesn't want to have anything to do with the mistress or the baby. He's begging me to move into the marital home :(

My husband and I have been legally married for a year we re currently pregnant,my husband wants to adopt my 5 year old son. Who s been in his life since he was 1 and thinks he s his father. The biological father has never been present or met him. I haven t changed my last name yet. Can my husand adopt my son ?

I'm 19 met this guy online he's 24 we never had sex but we did engage in sending nude pics and vids on snapchat but he's married and i thought he wasant he lied to me , he also has 2 kids , At first i saw his wife on his snapchat story and i asked who's that ? He said it was his "baby mama" but they split up and that she was just getting the kids from him anyways I found his Instagram and found out he was still with her! I felt so guilty I sent him paragraph telling him how disgusting he was for doing that to his kids and wife I also told him I hope he changes his ways and blocked him .. But I never actually told his wife what he did should I feel bad and guilty?

My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married 4 years. He s the love of my life and the only man I can ever picture being with. Anyways, we both had the same views when it came to watching porn. I know it s normal for some couples, but for us we considered it cheating. He would always tell me on a daily basis that I was the only woman he ever needed in his life and the most gorgeous woman he has ever seen. He s the only person I ever fully trusted with everything and I was never the the girl to go through his phone. I literally never worried about it at all. Well Friday night , my phone was dead, so I went to Google on his phone to look up a local Christmas event. When I hit the search bar, his recent searches popped up and the first one said "naked girls dancing" I of course questioned him about it, and he said he would never do that to me and his family. So I moved on from it but had a gut feeling there was more. So Monday night, i logged into his Google account on my phone and found tons of porn. I completely lost it. I broke down and just cried for hours. Keep in mind I m 17 weeks pregnant and we have a 3 year old daughter, so I m trying to keep my cool for my kids, but I find myself crying all the time. He finally confessed to doing it and said he had a problem with it since he was 12 years old when he was molested and forced to watch porn. How can I trust him again?? I m dying insid!

My friend who is married told me she used to have the app "Seeking Arrangements" during the beginning of her marriage cause she was broke. To me, that's not right. Her husband was cool with it, but I cannot judge, their relationship is NONE of my business! I'm just curious as to how you guys would feel if your SO did this?

Been married 17 years. Never suspected there were any problems until I walked in on my husband looking at porn and doing the 'dirty'! I grabbed the phone and seen he had joined over 60 chat rooms. I asked him if there was anything else he needed to confess and he did own up after many threats that he had placed an ad looking for 'oral sex'. It has been a tough road and as a Christian I have tried to forgive and fall back in love with him but cannot. Our divorce will be final in a few months. I have since met and fallen in love with a wonderful man but feel so guilty about it since I am still legally married and the divorce is not final. I know it is just Satan stealing my joy. There are times I feel sorry for my husband but then I have to remind myself that I cannot live with a man I cannot trust. How do you think God views this? I have even been questioning my salvation and I know better than that. Just staying stressed over the whole situation. I do not know why I would even be carrying so much guilt..I am not the one who did this to my marriage. He said he never cheated but placed the ad to "build his ego"? Seriously? What frightens me is that he was also teaching Sunday School while this was going on. I also remind myself how he was 'caught' and did not confess! Any advice will be appreciated!

I know all too well how unhealthy and destructive it is to place all of your happiness in the hands of someone else, even if that someone else is a wonderful person like your spouse! What's strange is that I'm not an insecure person; I am confident in myself and view myself as a successful, kind-hearted person. I'm also not insecure within my marriage, I have never worried about my husband being unfaithful or disinterested in me (and he's never made me feel that way either). I love him so much.... that's the problem. I am OBSESSIVELY in love with him, to a consuming extent. My happiness is totally dependent on him and I know it's unhealthy but I don't know how to fix it. It's so bad that I literally broke down crying today because he's going on his annual hunting trip from Saturday-Tuesday and I have no idea what I'm going to do without him. I'm getting sick to my stomach over how little I'll be able to talk to him because I'm going to miss him so much. I want to gain control of my own happiness back but I don't know how. I have my own interests and hobbies outside of my marriage. I have my own career and I enjoy the arts like ballet, film, and books. I have friends but don't see them often because most are busy raising toddlers (I don't have, nor want, children). But even with these hobbies, I feel so lonely without him, and so dependent. How can I work on improving this on my own?

Boyfriend (30 y/o) cheated on me a few months ago with this girl at his job. I found out that he was pursuing her (flirting, getting her to call him, etc) for about a year. After much pursuing, she finally gave him a chance. I saw the texts of my boyfriend telling her he was a lucky guy to have met her, how she was cute, pretty, smart, and they spoke about life/their day almost like if they were a couple. It was painful.The girl became suspicious and he kept going around her question until he admitted he was not single, but that he has no intention of getting married with me so he talks to other girls just in case. She told him not to contact her ever again. He still wanted to keep her around, but she said no. He told me he was lying to her about the whole, "not wanting to marry" me thing & that if he wanted her he would have been with her, but he's choosing ME and that should say a lot. I believed him and forgave him. Now, I found out through one of his coworkers that she's working in one of the offices my boyfriend goes to work in. He goes to that office [rarely] to fill in for his boss. His boss knows this girl and her family and offered her a job. His coworker told me that my boyfriend looked stunned when he saw her & wouldn't take his eyes off her. She said the girl smiled at him, but he just kept staring at her until she looked away. He was then in a bad mood the whole day. She ignored him. Does he still like her since he reacted emotionally? Bing Bing: I care.

Naomi Campbell complexion black lady that's 25, 5 ft 8, size 2 dress Wearing red office dress with black tights and red Stilleto heels at mall around 4:30 pm on weekday, her dress is showing through a long black jacket that is unzipped Has long loosely curled jet black hair and professional looking makeup Wearing gold choker necklace with gold pearl earrings and carrying a Sephora makeup bag

My friend's ex from years ago contacted her on FB from another state where he now lives but he makes frequent visits back here. He obviously has a wife because all of his pics are plastered on his profile. He asked her if she would be his mistress on his visits here and says he and his wife have an open marriage. My friend is no fool and privately contacted his wife- who was very pregnant with twins and advised to have no sexual relations until after the birth- and his wife was devastated. What would you do? My friend, people, not me- if it was me I would say so! READ MY QUESTION! I, myself, had NO contact with ANYONE besides what my friend told me!!! OMG, read before you type, especially if you type rude answers without READING thoroughly first! **** on toast, can people not understand f@#@ing English??

we,single guys normally intends to find single girls for relation or marriage.But in case of girls,many likes to date married or divorced man.Girls give no preference in marital status of a man now a days,its quite shocking.even divorced woman or married woman likes to date or marry divorced or married man than single guys.I totally fed up with it,how make divorced or married man more appealing than a single man?they are boring and domesticated,in some case out of fun,but still girls like to date or marry them.one of my sister having affair with a married man,another just got married with a divorced dad.Both was single before their relation.woman even many case blinded by the age difference,many girls date 10 year older guys than them.What to fun with a man to date,who has kids behind calling him 'papa'?

We got divorced not even a year ago. We hadn't been getting along for years and our sex life was struggling. Now she has come out of thre closet as a lesbian and has a girlfriend. I am heart broken. We have two kids together and I thought she was the love of my life. What should I do?

My husband has a history of stalking his ex on Facebook, we have been together 5 years. I went away for the day this week and got home to find that he had been stalking her page for hours, looking at every picture, etc. as well as several other women that he claims he doesn't know. I thought he was over it, but again I don't monitor his online behavior, conduct, etc. I never look for this stuff, I always find out accidentally. He is in the Army National Guard so he spends a lot of time away and I have no idea what he does while gone, but he has even gone as far as to be on dating sites int he past, just to talk to women and exchange pictures. He says it doesn't mean anything, that I'm overreacting and that I shouldn't be hurt - but I am. I don't know what to do. He is kind to me, loving, affectionate, considerate, and a good Father and supports me, my/our children and himself. I feel so inadequate, what should I do? Talking to him only gets it turned around on me, denied, explained away as nothing, etc.

Here s what happened. I am obese and feel I need to have the gastric balloon. Insurance won t cover it, and the cost is nearly $10,000. My husband refused to spare one cent of his money. He said it wasn t safe, and that I could lose weight by disciplining myself. Feeling he doesn t care about my health, I filed for divorce. Did I do the wrong thing?

My wife is complaining that I am not as close to her family as I could be. We live relatively close to them and technically we could be closer to each other. But despite my family living 3-4 hours away she is closer to them than I am to her family. But I can't force something that isn't there. She has 3 brothers and a sister. 2 of her siblings are too young for me to have any real relationship with. One of her older brothers is not really interested. Her oldest brother is a Bible thumper. I call her mother sometimes and we talk. But it's rarely anything more than the usual pleasantries. And her father is just not interested in people, period. As it stands now I go over and see them once every 2-3 months, stay for a dinner and that is it. I wish that there was someone in her immediate family I could click with but it is what it is. They are not exactly the most inviting of people. She gets along great with my mother and they talk at least once a week. My parents are warmer and friendlier. It's just the way it is. I can't change that. What am I suppose to do here? Force myself into their family? Get involved in their problems? Call them every day? I doubt that would be very welcomed. These things are suppose to develop naturally. And if it doesn't just don't force it. That's my opinion at least. Are you close to your in laws? Do you try to be closer?

We madly love each other and she misses me badly but She gets so busy with her family over there that she forgets to call or text me and she hasn't even gotten a proper data plan so my texts sometimes don't even get received. I know she is busy and taking care of our baby son but is it that hard to pick up a phone only twice a day and call your husband who is missing you badly? Am I expecting too much. Should I give her more space?

I have been very much into men ever since I can remember. I have also been attracted to the female body, but I've never been romantically connected to girls. So basically my attraction to men has always been significantly stronger for me. However, a a couple months ago, triggered by my anxiety, I started having intrusive thoughts about my sexuality, feeling as if I turned into a lesbo overnight. All of the sudden I felt more interested in girls and not just their bodies. My husband knows I am questioning if I'm attracted to girls, but Im so confused. My husband is my vest friend and I love him to peices. He even said I can have a girlfriend if I wanted one. But what do I do? I love him to death but I feel more attracted to girls lately. What does this mean? How should I go about this? Is what I'm feeling wrong? I really do love him and I don't want to leave him. Would I love someone this much if I was a complete lesbian?

Okay, so my husband and I got married in July. He took my last name due to circumstances with his "family". We don't currently have a vehicle so we haven't been able to make it to the Social Security office to legally change his name. We won't be able to make it until after Christmas and his current ID expires on his birthday which is Christmas Eve, if we have his current social security card, his birth certificate and our marriage certificate will the Social Security office accept his expired ID as valid proof of photo identity?

We had our in laws over for thanksgiving That night we made love and I did my usual screaming when I came. My mother in law akwardley mentioned it to my husband who asked me to stop it in future! Why should I? I am uncontrollable when I'm coming always have been! They are in MY house!