I am quite concerned about my autistic 5 year old as she has not made any progress at school this year. It is not just school where we haven't seen any growth though, it's all aspects of her life. She is physically and emotionally still about 3 years old... Maybe even younger. I've never wanted to force her to grow up before she's ready, but I am at a bit of a loss right now. I am considering going completely cold turkey on all her "baby habits". She's still using a pacifier when she gets stressed and still nursing at night before bed. Her doctors/therapists support both these things as they help to keep her anxiety levels down. What concerns me though is that she will be 6 in February. It really hurts to see my child so far behind her peers. I don't know any other 6 year old child who still needs to nurse. I am wondering if these "baby habits" are acting as a barrier to her growing up, and without them she'd progress more at school. I will have an in depth conversation about this with her therapists but want advice from outside people who do not know us personally. Thanks!

She calls me and it happens to her too.What is going on?

My dad had sex with my aunt who was 13 at the time in which she had a son. He went to jail for years for this because he was in his mid 20s. I believe him and my mom were together at the time. I am not sure because I was young when this happened and found out a couple years ago. My mom had 2 children with him: me and my sister. So we both are related to my aunts son as a cousin/brother. My dad is out of jail now and has 4 kids. He only tries to talk to his daughters and not his son that my aunt was pregnant with. He messages me and my sister and sends pictures of himself and tells us that we can keep them. He talks to us in ways we find weird. Not sexual but it's weird. My boyfriend met him and he finds him strange too. At first, me and my sister thought it wasn't because he didn't know how to "parent." My mom doesn't care if we go see him but she also gets hostile if we bring up what happened with him and my aunt. She has also blamed my aunt. My mom is extremely verbally abusive and has told me I got molested by him as well in a fit of rage.

Why is that? Is it for body count? All they do is glare at me from across the room and make snippy comments when I am there but if I don't go then they complain endlessly about that too. My family (both sides/in total) holds half a dozen Xmas parties.

So basically my parents dropped me off at her house because they wanted me to see her and I'm 14 this happened yesterday and so when I came into my grandmas house she hugged me and said hi and I sat down at the table while she gave me a cupcake And I had some while we talked about my school and such and then I accidentally dropped a piece of the cupcake on the floor and I picked it up and apologized and my grandma SCREAMED SO LOUD HOW DARE YOU!!!!!!!!! and came over and slapped my face very hard and screamed in my face YOUR A FREAK and grabbed the spoon she was holding and beat my hand with it over and over and I yelled what the heck! And she came over and grabbed her wooden spoon and beat my head over and over and I screamed to stop and she grabbed the plate she had and threw it at ME and I ran out of the room and she grabbed a big kitchen KNIFE so I ran out of the house and called my parents and they picked me up and I told them I had to study for a test I forgot about and I don't know what to do I'm scared they will make me see her again pls advice

I have a cousin who visited with her 1 year old baby. Both her and the dad don't work and live with her mom. Her mom's house has like 17 cats and 2 dogs and when I met the baby her eyes and nose were all red and puffy. My cousin and the dad have no jobs but they smoke weed to this day and she smoked it while breastfeeding and while she was pregnant. The baby isn't even 1 and my cousin will sit on her phone the whole time and ignore her. The baby was making some baby noise to which my cousin screamed at her to "knock it off you brat." She also told me that she is going to do coke in the next coming month. I don't know where she is getting all the money to support her and the dad's weed intake. This baby also doesn't know how to walk/crawl or even sit up straight by herself and I think that's abnormal for a child turning 1 in a week. She smokes weed in and around the house so around the baby I am assuming and she posts it on social media. I want to intervene but I have never been in a situation like this and don't know what to do or how to make her change. She won't listen to anyone and claims there is no way out. I am simply worried about how the child will grow up to be. How should I go about this?

My uncle who was banned from all family gathering for 10 years because he raped me when I was 7. My parents thought it was long enough and maybe he changed and invited him to our house for thanksgiving. Everyone left over the weekend and he was one of the last to leave. I have noticed just this morning that my dress I wore to my quinceanera was gone, my new Michael kors coat my dad just bought me a couple weeks ago is gone, some of my lingerie and mini skirts are gone. I wanna say it was my bum uncle that took them, and I wonder why he needed them. Is there a way to get my things back?

I was scarred for life, jk. My parents are of older age. I was grossed out. I never thought they would do that at that age. They were groping each other in the kitchen and I walked in.

Ok so the school sent a letter about me coming late ok so they said you need to come earlier or they will put that in my reference for university so my dad got the letter and he started to beat me up and told me to kill myself I ran away I don't understand why he couldn't tell me nicely I always behave well and get good grades the school does not understand that my dad has bipolar,Disney,hypertension and stress

I'm 16 and I live with my mom and stepdad. They are ridiculously hard on me and treat me just like I'm a step child. My step siblings have freedom and I don't. My dad lives in Florida and has joint custody of me. I don't want to move in with him because I have built a life up here and I wanna stay but I can't stay in this house anymore. My dad has agreed to help me in anyway he could. Is there a way I could move in with a friend? I live in Georgia and at 17 I can move out and not be a runaway, but I can't wait a whole year.

My daughter is almost 2 and my boyfriend has been in her life for 8 months now. She wants to call him Dad. I've always corrected her about saying his name instead of Dad but lately as soon as I correct her she wants nothing to do with him. She's fine until I tell her to say his name. She sees her bio dad every other weekend and Wednesdays so he's around in her life. My boyfriend is amazing with her and considers her his own. I just don't want to confuse her with letting her call him Dad. I just don't know what to do with that. Any suggestions??

And in a way they're even less related than 2 people of the same race

former-best friend James, his cousin(s) Adrian, and Stacy offered me a place to stay. (Heads up, I know all of this was said because the walls here aren't sound-proof) Bills ran up, James refused to pay. I helped out. Adrian feels bad 'supposedly' gives me 20 out of the the 250. Adrian talks to Stacy on the phone the same day saying I bitched about how I have no money. Catherine and James go to Oregon, spends his student loan on her. She breaks up with him 1 hour after they returned. I have a stress induced seizure, get called a "Piece of **** seizure boy" while they all were in the back room. Catherine gets back with James after his 2nd student loan comes. Catherine to James "Anon made eye contact with me when I came in the apartment". James tells me to stop. They have sex in the living room (where I sleep) during the day and night. Catherine says "I'm afraid of Anon, he scares me" to James. Catherine tells James that she needs to move in and that I can't be here. Adrian lies to me and says that Stacy has family coming. I get called a "Piece of **** retarded nerd" Today in the room they said if I respond to an insult, do it more to get a reaction that way they can call the cops and have me removed. Today they booked me a random flight and said "You owe us $300" I'm losing it. I have nowhere to go and I'm being hovered over when I'm on the phone with my father. My Dad is trying to find me a place to crash while he gets his place. I'm trying to find something as well.

Me and my dad share a car. I usually get it during the schools days and he get it when I don't have school and the weekends. Thanksgiving break just finish and he said "you sure u can drive today?" I said yeah and I'm weird way and asked why he ask me that question and he said, "because once you don't drive for a few days you forget." Like, deadass? I'm still a new driver and yes I will make mistake on new situation, but I know how to drive, really well.

When I was about 8yrs old princess Diana passed away. I knew little about her but knew her face. From watching television I became very curious about who she was and why she was so well loved. We didn't have internet but we had books and in the days following her passing I began looking at pictures of her and trying to find out more about her. This made my mother furious and she told me to stop reading books about her and said I was "obsessed" and it really confused me why she was so angry then and now. My mother is an extremely controlling and unreasonable person. But why was she so angry about curiosity? Would you be angry if your child did this?

My father died 16 years ago in a car accident, when I was only 4 years old. I'm 20 now. I was very young when he died, but there was a point in my teenage life where I did grieve over the loss of my father and talk about him frequently. I feel like I have finally grieved and had closure over this and have let it go. My mother grieved for my dad for about 3 or 4 years after he died, but she has also let it go. However, my grandmother, (my father's mom), has not let it go, and I don't believe she ever will. His birthday was this past Friday, and ever year she bakes a lemon cake for him and makes us get together to sing happy birthday. My aunt who is a psychologist says this is abnormal and unhealthy to do after so many years. My mom and I agree, but we go along with it to make my grandma feel better. This year my mom and I were not able to get together because we were caught up with work. So to make up for that I went to my grandmas house yesterday to drop off some flowers for her, and she was being very rude to me. Insulting me and being very passive aggresive towards me. My boyfriend believes it's because we didn't go over on my dads birthday. My question is, do you think it's abnormal to sing happy birthday to someone who has died so many years ago and how can I help my grandma let this go?

My Mom divorced him is why she says she and I are blamed.

I feel family is the reason for Christmas and they all live nearby. Yet, I am rejected as I have noted caused my Mom committed suicide. In case you haven't seen my other questions my Mom's family rejected me after her suicide I guess cause I am a reminder of her.

My sister is 15 she cries at everything even something stupid. She cried when Charles Manson died she cried because I got a spray bottle for her cat. She cries over her favorite band The Beatles. She even cries when she's sick. I didn't think teenage girls cried this much. She's worse than Caillou. Even I don't cry that much. If I do its not over something stupid. She even cries over her boyfriend everyday. He hasn't done anything to her. Our parents died when we were younger it's just been me and her. What's wrong with her ? Is it normal for her to cry so much ?

Me & my mother in my opinion are not good living together. She's controlling, ocd, has anger problems etc. I'm 20 & feel like she still wants to shelter me. My sister is 16 & has been homeschooled since she was 11, doesn't get out the house or anything. My mom is a good mom but her anger/anxiety is ridiculous. I feel guilty she brings stuff up like how are you going to pick your sister up from school etc if your move so far(Nc to Florida). At one point I was giving her my checks to help pay bills for 3 months. One day she got mad & said I didn't need your measly checks, I would have been ok regardless. That hurt I don't feel appreciated. She always says how I'm 20 and work at a burger joint ad not in school, I have my diploma atleast. I have a long distance girlfriend who is In florida im in NC. I told her I'm moving there & starting a better life I'm 20 & want better. She's offering me a place to stay & all & says my mother doesn't need to treat me like that, also my friends said the Same thing. My mom said I sound like a idiot wanting to quit my job & move away & that's not bettering myself. I'm still young & don't want her to control everything I do & I can't take the name calling & anger etc I been dealing with her anger all my life. Out d all the kids I get it the worse . am I wrong?

Everyone always hits on my mom. They think she's my 25 year old sister. Men always cat call her, guys from my high school used to ask me to hook them up with her. I've never really had any boyfriends, where my mom dated the home coming king, football captain, basically any guy she wanted. She was extremely popular when she was my age and was pretty much the queen bee. I feel embarresed all the time because I'm not as pretty as her and am kind of a loner. Its embarrassing that I never really go to parties and have never had a real boyfriend, unlike her. Though, I was moving around a lot for medical treatment and never really had a chance to go to school and meet guys. I've lied to her saying I've had my first real kiss, because I don't want her to know that her daughters such a loser. Its humiliating and makes me feel awful about myself.

My brother is a creep. At a wedding recently when we had some family photos he kept rubbing his hand up mu side and wanting to touch me. He was sober. When we were younger, I was 12 he as 17, he asked me to lay on his bed, out his arm around me and asked me to throw my underwear into the hallway for $5. I ran away from him and never told our parents. He is a real creep. Now he has a 12 year old step daughter and I m scared he is going to abuse her. I don t know what to do. I m 29 and he is 34.

If you were mallested at a very young age by your own cousin and haven't told anyone would would happen to him if it came to light? It happened when I was only 6 and he was about 17. I haven't told anyone because it's hard for me to talk about it. I don't know how to tell my mom. I'm 22 yrs old now and last time I saw him was when I was 15 and ever since I haven't seen him.

I'm a middle child and I never showed delinquency and rebellious behaviors. I didn't feel the need to get bad attention. There were times when I wished I had just as much freedom as my older brother, and I couldn't get away with acting like an irresponsible 9 year old. Generally, most children want more freedom at some point. And most parents will get frustrated if their child acts out. There wasn't behavioral problems that was only a problem when it came to me. I've met other individuals who were of a medium position in their families, and most of them don't have a "syndrome" where they act very badly. I meet unkind people from all kinds of birth orders.

say a single middle aged man has sole custody of his seventeen y/o daughter. he's responsible and a good dad, but here's one of his flaws: he's a womanizer. he sleeps around a lot and loves to go out and party on weekends every once in a while on friday or saturday nights, the man will stay out all night or spend the night with some random woman or something and not come home until the next afternoon. when that happens, the man doesn't try to hide it from his daughter. he'll simply text her "i won't be home tonight" and she knows what he means because she and her dad have an unspoken understanding okay or inappropriate?

I've been with my baby mama through thick and thin. From the moment she was pregnant to my daughters 2nd birthday. I feel like I'm not me anymore. I've taken so many verbal lashings from her. Things like "you're pathetic" "dick "I'll find another Daddy for baby" etc. I'm constantly attacked for something little and ridiculous. I've taken care of everything from the get-go. I have my own business and attend school. I'm not a deadbeat father. She gets mad over things that are out of her control. She's had something to say about every family member in my household. Her relationship with my mom is atrocious because she feels that she needs to stop going out on weekends and for other things. She's said so much that my mom doesn't want to even say hi to her ( I wouldn't either). I feel drained emotionally. Baby mama tries to hold my hand, cuddle me, kiss me, etc, and I don't open up to her. She'll get pissed and will start again with her verbal abuse. She's even gotten to a point of getting physical with me. I've near-missed elbows and swings from her. We've been broken up for a year and a couple months now and she's still living with me. I can't even go sleep in the guest room without her barging in and trying to convince me with a crying kid in her arms to go sleep in the room with her. The situation I'm in is so uncomfortable and weird. I've felt cynical and suicidal because I feel so trapped to someone I don't love intimately. I long to be free

Im 13 (male) and shes 21. She cried while going clubbing because she felt faint after drinking. (Also,we're Canadian so u can get in by the time u turn 19). Its the most stupidest thing shes ever done. People get fevers, colds, virus and most of us arent drama queens/kings. She cried in FRONT of hundreds of people,on the dance floor and the bathroom. Then our parents babied her. I mean, she's 21 not 8 anymore.... It just seems Emotionally immature. Adults shouldnt act like little kids. Does she sound weak or her emotional stable-ness doesn't match her real age?

My mom is violent and angry, but because I ve been hospitalized for depression and suicide attempts I m the "crazy one" and she s perfectly normal according to her and doesn t get help or take responsibility for her anger. She has thrown me by my hair, hit me, kicked me, she cusses me out and threatens my siblings and I saying she s going to kill us and stuff. When my brother was doing the dishes he dropped something for example, she came in and said "What the f*ck if that had broken I swear to God I would have cut the sh*t out of you with it." Or she calls is idiots and tells us we re dumb and can t do anything right. We re adopted and she s told us that if she knew what the hell she d have to deal with she would go back and never have adopted us. And she leaves the house and doesn t tell anyone where she s going and then comes back hours later and tells us that she didn t come back because she cares about us but because she has other responsibilities like work. My adoptive father works most of the time and takes my mom s side of anything he doesn t personally see and ignores whatever he does see. She s had Child Protective Services called on her 4 times and they have done nothing. If we have bruises or anything my mom claims that we re mentally messed up and have self inflicted any bruises or injuries that we have and they just take her word for it and leave. I don t know what to do, but I really can t take this anymore.

My dad is very good looking, funny, successful, likable, etc., so I really think he could get any girl he wanted, but he's only had two girlfriends in his whole life - one in high school that barely counted, and one when he was in his early 30s. Other than that, he's gone through life single. He has nothing against relationships or marriage, he doesn't go around bashing that stuff or anything, but he just claims he's "not a serious relationship kind of guy". I'm pretty sure he sleeps around a lot and is big on one night stands (of course he didn't tell me this, but I'm not an idiot so I figured it out on my own) but he's never been with a girl for long at all, he's never even considered getting married, and I can't figure out why. He's extremely family oriented and he's a great father, so he seems like the type of guy who would love to get married....but he swears he never will. I've always worried about my dad and wished he could find someone to fall in love and spend the rest of his life with, but now that I'm 18 and plan on moving out of his house next year (I'm his only child), I'm even more worried than usual about him being completely alone :( Why do you think he doesn't want a relationship? It makes no sense to me.

So I m 21 years old and I have this niece who s now 9 years old and has been living with us as an adopted "sister" with my mom and brother since she was 2 years old. Now me and her started having issues when she was 4 years old. She s a very disrespectful kid and has been the entire 7 years she s been with us. She has these long and loud outburst and acts like a maniac and my mother treats her like a victim. You know how older people have this idea that millennial kids are treated like victims so we ve grown up as the generation of "snowflakes" well, as much as I hate that word, my mom is doing exactly that with my niece. Now, I m no victim. I ve been a self-proclaimed ***** since forever. I m principled and argumentative which doesn t go over well with most people. But, I ve never pretended to be anything other than that. I just don t like to be disrespected. My niece is the type of kid who constantly talks back no matter what it is and my personality being what it is, can t allow that. So we argue a lot. And in the eyes of my mom, I m this mean and jealous person who is, and I quote, "abusing my niece". Last week, my niece spilled milk on the floor and I told her to pick it up, she tells me "I ll pick it up when I m done with my cereal." so I walk after her and tell her to pick it up, after some back in forth, she finally does. Eventually she calls the police on me because I put her in time out, telling the cops all types of crazy ****. Which my mom told her to do.

My friend's sister really hates me. She thinks I'm trying to steal her brother from her but I'm not me and him are together but I'm not taking him from her. I don't know why she thinks that. I love her like she's my own sister I kind of have a crush on her too I'm bi-sexual I like both. I think shes also jealous since I'm cute and popular I get so much attention from other girls. I think she really likes me too in a way. The only time she needs me is if her brother or fiancé isn't around. Other than that she says I'm her friendemy. Sometimes I also think shes probably afraid of me. I'm a really nice guy. How can I make her trust me ? How can I be friends with her ?

I know a family with a 4 year old son and a 2 year old girl. They both swear excessively. These children know words that most kids don't know at their ages. They don't have any older siblings and they don't have smartphones. How would such young children even know how to be verbally offensive?

When I was going to do my hw on my computer my dad kinda got upset at me because he had already been using the computer and I was waiting and I was impatient. Then my mom just took his side and they were all yelling at me for no reason. Then after my hw I went to practice the saxaphone which is a new instrument for me. I remembered that my band teacher has told me that I need to buy a new strap for the sax because the one I had was kinda crappy. So I told my mom this and she replied with "well I can't afford it" in a really rude and nasty tone. My dad isn't working right now so I guess money is tight but I still know very well that my mom can afford to buy me a saxaphone strap. Yet she's still rude and mean to me for no reason?

Parents can't tell how their child will turn out for sure. They change as they develop and learn. That means that a child might display certain traits when they're 6, but all those traits can disappear when they turn 16. So when they are an adult, how likely is it that they'll have the personality that is often stereotyped on their birth position?

My friend wants to marry his sister he said he's deeply in love with her. Is there anywhere they can get married ?

Long story short my moms sister has been stalking my mom for the past year or so since we noticed. She recently got in contact with me and I simply just told her to not bother me because she didn't have good intentions. Things escalated reall quick she called my mom and I a *****. I didn't disrespect her just called her a hipócrit chz of everything she told me. I still have the texts & another sister of my mom told her that she was scared for my mom cuz her other sister said she was going to do something to my mom. I just feel like it's better to act now before things get worse. Her daughter contacted me today and came at me without knowing anything and threaded me by saying her mom was not alone and that I needed to watch my mouth. When I never insulted her mom the way she insulted my mom and I.

I could never trust anyone in my immdiate family they have always singled me out, gossiped about me, back stabbed me every single time. I seperated myself from them when i was 18, I went to live on my own. Things got tough I didn't want to go back home So I moved in with an uncle. Well now my uncle and my aunt.. My moms brother and sister gossip about me alot.. It's been 2 years how, I'm a good person. I mind my business, I go to school, I go to work, I hang out with my boyfriend when he is off. I don't do anything wrong yet they find things to gossip to my mom and my grandma about. .. I can't move out just yet because I am still saving to find my own place.. So I have to suck it up but it breaks my heart.

Both used me to get the other parent back during their divorce. I forgive in the religious sense, I don't wish any evil on them. However, the hurt and pain are still there and neither parent has ever acknowledged their role in the family related anxiety I have other then my Dad vaguely saying it saddens him that him protecting me by ending the marriage at the opposite effect. My parents both claim they divorced to protect my siblings and I from their fighting and that just ads to the guilt I feel. Sad part is he has apologized to his son from his 2nd marriage for sending him away to school when ti caused greater pain (both his kids from 2nd marriage are adopted and sending the one with behavior problems away added to the sense the boy had of rejection). So if he apologizes for that I wish he would for hurting me. My Mom was worse then my Dad and would say things like "your Dad doesn't want a relationship with you cause he is busy with his new wife and kids". This hurt so-so much and I am 35 and still suffer greatly from it. I traveled alone for Thanksgiving instead of dealing with the competition over which parent I would choose to have Thanksgiving with. I dread Christmas.

He has the opportunity to take a ski trip with the whole family in March and instead he is picking to go with this friend of his who is married to a snake (a snake of a person) and he is picking this guy over his family to travel with. Is this just wrong in every way like I feel? We are missing the trip now also.

How would it

It's my friends birthday and i cannot be there to celebrate with her so I am making her a birthday box (basically a care package) full of cute tiny gifts and snacks. What are good snack ideas, that I can put in there? I don't know her faveoties and her other friends don't really know either, so what are snacks that everyone would like?

Sorry for any mistakes but I'm Germany I am 17 years old and met my father when I was 6 , after being taken from my mother's custody bc she was extremely violent and negligent . My father was always very good to me, supporting me and giving me every chance to overcome my traumatic past. But this week, after hours talking with my psychologist, she made me realize how important it is to me to talk about the abuses I suffered with him. Because of the nightmares, panic attacks, flashbacks… my father has a good idea of what it was like to live with my birth mother but he does not suspect (I think) of the sexual abuse committed by her boyfriend. He always helped me and listened to me when I ventured with him, always making me feel safe and protected and loved. This is too much for me to deal with alone and It's consuming me but I don't know how to talk about with him, actually, the problem is about start talking . Like, how do I start the conversation, how do I show that I have something serious to talk about and when is a good time? If you were in his shoes would you like to know? Is this even something I should talk to him? I do not want to deal with this alone but I'm too ashamed and scared to talk.

And they think I'll never get married or im very unattractive. Is it haram to disown them?. They make me feel so bad about myself. And the make me hate ny face. Its bad enough i already have people talking bad about my face even neighbors. And i gotta deal with my oare ts making me feel worst. They not saying I'm ugly or my faxe ugly. But they are showing that they think i am by they face expressions. And i feel like disowning them for making even think that way its bad enough ive been through so much with my self esteem and healt problens i even tried to commit suciide a couple of times and for them to even make me think that their looking at me that way is horrible and a disgrace for a loving parent should do

I honestly believe asian parents are scum. They say stuff which borders verbal abuse. Manipulate you into doing things only they want. My own mother is an example of this. She always compares me to other people. Constantly calls me worthless. Thinks i'm doing nothing when i'm doing a bunch of work for a project or stuff for my university. I'm also depressed often but she doesn't seem ti even care. In fact she said she wouldn't even care if I died. And whenever i give a differing opinion i'm considered "talking back". Also the fact i'm forced to socialize with people I don't even know because of this filial piety bs. I honestly believe asian parents in general are one of the most disgusting and do not deserve to have kids. If i knew that i was born just to "save face" for some hypocrites then I wish I never been born. Also people like Amy Chua make me sick. I don't do drugs, i stay out of trouble, I have good grades and I do all i can to keep my parents happy but all they do is treat me like s**t i've had it. Bob L, I'll say whatever I want to about them. I highly doubt someone that wants me to die wants the best for me. In fact she even told me she tried to abort me one time. You think that sounds like what a caring person would say? Rick N, respect is earned. I don't care if they are my parents. I bust my *** pleasing them. In fact, I give up a lot of my time just to help them. Even quit school for a day just to drive my mom back home from her surgical operation. yet she doesn't even look after me when I'm sick in bed. She could care less whether i'm sick as a dog or happy or depressed. It's not like i'm disrespecting them either. I'm not saying anything to piss them off, they just hate anything I say or do regardless. my dad is nothing but an egotistical jerk who takes his anger out on me when he gets drunk at night. Creating problems out of thin air from something as stupid as me forgetting to fill up a bottle of water to things that don't even involve me such as his backstabbing relatives not paying him the money they owe. And Bob you don't know anything about me. You have no idea how I lived. I basically lived my life raising myself. I made my own food, I took care of myself when I was sick, I walked myself to and from school, I applied for my own health care. I don't get any moral support whatsoever. In fact, the only people that ever supported me and made me feel like a human being were a couple teachers from high school. A woman my mother knew even wanted to adopt me but my never did because she's selfish. Rick N, bite the hand that feeds me. what a joke. my parent sends money to their relatives all the time. I remember nights where I went to bed on an empty stomach. Hell, they even mooched off my first paycheck. How can you call it biting the hand that feeds me when they don't even do that. In fact, when I was little, I had to reuse old school pencils, starve myself so they can eat, watch my money I earned go towards stupid relatives. They made no investment towards my future. RIck N, my jack a** dad even tells his mother that he put me to school with his money when that's not true at all. I filed for financial aid and go to school with that. none of his money is involved. He has never done anything for me, it's like I said these people only use you to brag to other people

This happened wednesday and I was in his office and he was talking to me about a advice on certain things and then I farted by accident and I was really embarrassed and he said "what the heck did you just do!?" And I said "excuse me sorry.." and he screamed WHAT DID YOU DO and threw his own phone across the room in rage and his face was bright red and he SCREAMED AND YOU DISGUSTING BRAT and came over to me and slapped my face and grabbed my backpack in rage and threw it across the room and slapped my face again and hit me on my hand and I said what the heck??! And he grabbed my phone and threw it in the trash too and grabbed my glasses and snapped them in half and screamed get out of my office and I went back to my class crying and I don't have my phone or glasses and my parents think they were stolen pls help

i'm a 19 year old girl, and my dad dated a woman from the time i was 9 to the time i was 13, but other than that, he's basically been single as long as i've been alive....or so i thought. he was never officially with my mom, and he's never married. anyway, long story short: the other day, i was looking through some of my dad's old pictures with my aunt, grandma, and cousin (he let us look, we weren't snooping), and we found several pictures of him with two different girls. there were pictures with one girl that were all dated 1999-2001 (when i was 1-3 years old) and pictures with a different girl that were all dated 2003-2006 (when i was 5-8 years old). we asked him who the girls were, and he told us they were his ex girlfriends. we were extremely confused because none of had ever heard of or seen either one of the girls, so we asked why he'd never talked about them or introduced us to them, and he said, "i don't know, i just like to keep that stuff private i guess." he acted like it was no big deal. apparently, he'd dated both of the girls behind everyone's back by only spending time with them when i was spending the night with my grandma and never telling anyone about them. my dad and i are extremely close, so it's bizarre to me that he'd hide two girlfriends....not only from me but from the whole family. to make it even more bizarre: he dated both of the girls for over a year (one of them for THREE YEARS!!!), and he didn't hide his last girlfriend from us....just the first two. i facebook stalked both women, and they're both completely normal, nice people who are married now and have kids. they're not sketchy or trashy or anything, so he had no reason to hide them

both of my parents are way too strict but my dad isnt home that much (travels for work) so most of the time its me and my mom. ive had to grow up a lot earlier than i was suppose to (14) and take on huge responsibility. i am now 15 & way more mature than most 15 year olds. my parents are too strict & barely ever let me do anything! im always sitting inside raising a child (my sisters) and argue with my mom. i do talk to this guy who is 21 (dont judge) we started talking but he thought i was atleast 17 so we just kept talking but i cant see him or be with him as much as i want because of my parents. i have to sneak around and lie to my parents about where im going w friends to see him & i hate doing that. i dont drink smoke or do any drugs. i do have some friends who would let me come stay with them but my parents wouldnt allow that and its not even just that theyre strict, theyre completely ridicoulous and blame my sisters failures on me. please help what should i do

I am 13 and my parents are separated, its really hard to find a schedule because my mom has full custody and therefore all the power. I primarily live in the city with my mom and I go to school here. My dad lives upstate about 50 mins-1hour from my mom. I see my dad every other weekend (twice a month). Sometimes my mom gets certain holidays, or I have to stay in the city for sports, parties, etc. I feel like I want more time with my dad but me or him don't have the power to change that. My mom's main argument is that she pays tuition and for almost all of my necessities and takes care of me, which is true, which is why she has me more. How can my dad legally pay childcare, and we can legally work out a schedule, and maybe my dad can apply for custody. I have heard of mediators but from research I feel like it may need to be a court decision/legal document. Thanks so much!

He was a very frugal person all his life but suddenly, in the last week, he want to blow through the money doing big expensive things to the house and yard. The yard got scorched in the back because there are no tree and he want to hire someone to landscape the yard. That work will be ruined in one hot summer. He won't listen to reason.

I'm 35 and live with my mother because she struggles a lot financially and in other ways (stuff like house repairs, etc.). She also has heavy OCD and says that she "can't multitask like my brother and I can". She doesn't have a husband because he shot himself in the head in the other bedroom one morning when I was 10. She spent years trying to get him mental help for what I presume was paranoid schizophrenia. He was abusive and they fought a lot when we were kids. My brother was 13 when we lost my father. Throughout his teenage years, he was always into it with our mother. He'd lie about where he was going and what he was doing. Even after high school when he was working, some nights he'd go stay at a college with some shady people that he knew there and he wasn't even going to the college yet. So he wouldn't even bother coming home some nights. When he finally went to that college, he flunked out. He has moved on and married and has a kid with lady, but she has brainwashed him somehow. He gives her full control of finances and what goes on in the house, who visits and when, etc. His mother had to have an "appointment" agreed to by his wife to see her grandkid. She just hates our guts for some reason. The ex is hanging around his house frequently and she just blatantly flirts with him and my brother never says a word. This same brother hasn't done anything for our mother in a good 15-20 years, which ticks me off. Marriage and having a kid aren't an excuse to not do anything for your mother. I'm his brother and I haven't seen my nephew in 1.5 years. In all of this, I keep getting collection calls and my mother has gotten them, too. They're specifically calling for my brother and his wife by name from some car loan place and he's making a good 9K a month after taxes. My 82 year old grandmother has lived with her daughter (my mother) for a long time now. When we lost my father, my grandmother was on the street in her 50's or 60's and came to live with her daughter. She has parked there for a good 20 years since. She's 82 now and has been paranoid schizophrenic for at least half of her life. Doctors aren't helping and she won't take her meds. We had the same problem with my father and you see how that worked out. She couldn't get his side of the family to do anything to help her. In all of this, I'm kind of holding up the household. I have my own life, but I don't feel that free and it kind of bothers me. I know my mother and she genuinely couldn't do a complicated job that could make more money to support herself and the house along with my grandmother. My grandmother always quit/got fired and had no retirement, so SS that she gets is minimal $750 at best. She only pays $300 a month rent to her daughter who basically does everything for her. I'd like to get married at some point. I don't make enough money currently to be able to help my mother on the side and also have my own place and do what I wish to do in life. If I just up and leave, everything falls apart and there's no one to help. I'm not sure how much longer my grandmother will be around. My mother owes a good 40K to 45K on the mortgage. What should I do about all of this as a son? I feel that I've done way, way more than the average person would do, but I have my days when I get frustrated.

I don't know whether my mom abuses me or disciplines me because she hits me. I know most moms hit their kids to teach them lessons, but sometimes my mom gets mad at the littlest things like not picking up the fallen books and she lashes out, kicking me and slapping my back with a ruler. She also says nowadays that she wont hit me because when SHE kits me, HER hands get hurt too, and I find that pretty selfish. She only hits me when I make mistakes, so maybe its just discipline? I also sometimes get bruises/cuts from her beatings, and I cry of course, and she stops when I ball up into a ball, full of fear. Is it abuse or discipline?