This is something I've never understood. If I get a girl pregnant, I become a parent, so according you what everyone believes, I'm immediately right about everything and I know what's best for my kid. We all say that teenagers and young adults think they know everything (which in some cases may be true), but maybe, we want to live our own life, even if we make mistakes. You might say they have experience, but their experience is from their generation. We live in a completely different generations with new opportunities. As for my parents, they claim that getting a 9-5 job will make me happy because I'll have a lot of money, which isn't true. They're teaching me to conform and they even said "just get good grades and you'll be fine". I'm actually more miserable than happy now, and even after getting good grades and a degree, I'll be at a job that I hate for the rest of my life. What I want to do is do YouTube, stream on Twitch. Basically, I want to make money working for myself. Many people are doing it right now, and I've heard stories from them. Some of their parents actually supported them, whereas the rest went against them.

My Dad has told me straight up that the worst thing he ever did was have sex with my Mom cause it gave him me. He said this before beating me. Eventually CPS took me away from him and he made no effort to keep in touch. I have not spoken to him in 12 years. My Mom was a showgirl and prostitute. I said was a showgirl and prostitute but she still is. She is in Nevada at a brothel.

After years and years of rejection and failure in my 20's, I finally got my bachelor's degree. I also worked hard and got into grad school. It was always hard growing up bc there were so many expectations from my parents. My dad wanted me to just "settle" and have a mediocre job in life and just have a family. Thing is, I don't think that way. I'm a go-getter and I want to life my passion. As a way to protect myself, I've learned not to share things with my parents because they sabotage my plans by guilt tripping me, demeaning me, or discouraging me. Even small things I would share would include unsolicited "advice". Anyway, I was just awarded with a travel scholarship to attend the biggest conference (globally) and to represent the university by giving a presentation (which I love). I was so excited and forgot my rules and told my mom. Instead of being excited, she said, "oh but that means you have to travel to another state. Don't go." What is her deal? She encourages me to network locally instead (which I do sometimes) but this is such a great opportunity for me! I shouldn't care but this is something I need to heal from for the rest of my life. I shouldn't be surprised but I'm so angry that she just wants me to settle and bring me down.

Sexually... :( but say, they are very very close and they always have been, always have had each other. I'm 17, we've always been best friends, closer than my brother is to her and even her husband. She is the most wonderful person in the world, and I only want to always be with her, make her happy, and to be just like her... but there is something dark in me and it scares me. What's wrong with me? 😥 is this normal??

So i walked in on my brother ******* his girlfriend right infront my niece, their daughter while she was watching cartoons on a phone. Now if they were trying o hide it i would have been kinda "ok" with it but he thry were both ******* butt naked moaning and all on the bed while my niece is like 5 feet away on here bed watching cartoons. I got pissed and yelled at them but he just closed the door they got dressed and left with my niece. I really had to take a step back, i wanted to beat the **** out of both of them with my bat but i just froze and let them leave. My niece is 2 and a half and i don't think they touch her or anything but this just really ******* worries me and makes me really suspicious. They were porn style ******* infront of my niece :( idk what to think now, should i do something?

I'm 18 years old and my parents are controlling my life. Everyone at my college is excited for break, but I'm dreading it because I don't want to go back to my parents' house. These past 4 years of high school were not fun at all. Not only were my parents putting pressure on me to get good grades, but during the summer, they gave me extra work. This last summer was the worst. Imagine working a full-time job that you hate(talking about the extra work from parents) for 7-8 hours a day, even on weekends, and not getting paid for it. I'm planning to get my own place this summer. I have the money to buy a car and get an apartment, but my parents are keeping track of my money. I found an apartment that will let me pay a 5 months of rent in advance in order to move in, and that's not a problem. I also know that I need a car in order to get food(got license), and that I need a job. I'm also seeing if there's a way to remove them from monitoring my bank account after cutting financial ties. I eventually want to start creating an online income (right now I'm thinking of YouTube bc that's what I know most about), but it will take a while, so I need to get a job in order to stay afloat until I do. I was thinking of being a toll collector until then. Continuing college is clearly not going to make me happy, and as long as I'm in college, my parents won't leave me alone. I want to drop out, start earning, and get my own home so they'll leave me alone. Is there anything else I need to do? I'm not saying I want to disown my parents. I'm saying that I need to get my own life, and that's not going to happen as long as I'm dependent on my parents. Also, I know my parents want what's best for me, but so do I. However, they don't KNOW what's best. I want to go down my own path, even if I make some mistakes. Also, even if my plans of YouTube don't go as planned, I should still have a job. This summer, I plan to work part-time so I can focus on my channel. If something happens, I'll just change to full-time, so don't say that I'll go running back to my parents begging to live with them. Also, the work my parents gave me was not for independence, even though they said it was. They made me study over the summer to get good grades, not work on life skills. They claim good grades will make me independent, but I'm sure that's not the case. Just to let you know, if EVERYONE blindly listened to their parents, 99.9% of people would be living miserable, corporate jobs, and not be chasing their dreams. There would hardly be any creators, many people will never get to live a life of their own, and they won't be able to think for themselves. I don't see the point of sucking up to people for the rest of my life just for a paycheck that I only get in order to survive in order to keep working. Also, about YouTube, there are many people doing it right now, living their dreams. Even if YouTube fails, there's still Twitch, and other ways to make money online. YouTube is what I've done the most research on so I'll go after that first. I'd rather struggle trying to achieve my dreams than be miserable and struggle doing something I hate.

I've been seeing and sleeping with a guy for the past 2 months. I recently found out that he has me listed in his phone contacts as "booty". He said it's a compliment. Ok, maybe I have a nice backside but why would he list me in his contacts as booty and not by my name?

My sister guilt trips me and I don't know what to do. It makes me sad and I don't know how to talk to her about it. Don't get me wrong, I love my sister and she loves me. But she makes it so that I don't want to talk to her or be around her. I don't know what to do. Any advise

I texted him after 2 months of being broken up that he was on my mind then he said I honestly dont know what else to tell you, you really offended me and the things you said about my family unbelivable. I said are you still on the past he said of course, the things you said about mom are you kidding me? no sorry I can't forgive that or allow that.I didn't respond to him then 10 min later he texted back My mom has the purest heart and for you to say those nasty things about her are you kidding me My mom has the purest heart and for you to say those nasty things about her are you kidding me I just said i'm not in the state to discuss the past nor do i want to. He said and thats fine but you should know why this will not work and why I won't allow myself to have feellings for you again. I didn't respond. I go to church where he's a deacon, and he constantly stares at me from the alter to where my friends and family notice and tell me. I don't look at him The only times i have i've given him a dirty look. It's been more than a month since that convo. He said something first about my mom fyi. Does he still have feelings or being dramatic? FYI in the past he's also said a lot of things and gone back on his word so idk if he's trying to be dramatic cause he keeps staring. I chased after he stopped chasing me so Idk if thinks he can get away with saying stuff like this. He said it looked like my mom came from the club the way she was dressed i said his mom had no voice in their family, he said at least she doesn't dress like she came from the club(at church) and I said your mom looks like she came from the stable and that you don't buy her any clothes.

Me and my fiancè broke up 2 months (she cheated on me) her daughter thinks im her real dad. I was willing to take on that responsibility for the rest of my life but now I am not feeling the same especially that I am going to be moving on with my life we have another child as well which I am her biological father. She is my responsibility nobody else. How will I go on in life find somebody else meet their family and say here s my daughter and here s my other daughter that really isn t my daughter?? It just can t be like this especially since her mother been cheating on me! Please help!!

I'm from California but have been living in NYC for awhile now for school. I'm graduating soon & already have a job offer back home, but I'm not so sure if moving back is the right decision for me. I originally decided on moving back because I have a massive student loan debt, and moving back means that I won't have to pay for rent, food, and other expenses since I'll be with my family. On top of that, I feel like I have an obligation to my family since they supported me pretty much throughout my entire life, and as my parents are getting older, I feel like I should be there for them. On the other hand, I'm afraid I'll become bored and regretful since all my friends are in NY now, including my lovely boyfriend, though he's willing to come to CA with me after awhile. I'm going to miss the nightlife, the independence, and all the fun that comes with living in NY. It's just that the cost of living here is so damn expensive, especially with student loans on the side; I'm definitely not going to be able to save as much money as I'd like to each month. So what would you guys do in my situation? Tl;dr: Would you guys sacrifice financial security & close proximity to family for the fun, friendship, and independence with staying in your college town?

I literally scream until I am hoarse when the brats visit. Their father cannot handle them so I have to do it. I am not allowed to hit them .No one else who knows them has a problem with them. Other mothers and teachers seem to think I have a problem and reprimand me for yelling nonstop because they don't seem to be doing anything wrong.I have told them they are going to jail , but they call their relatives or friends and go over there when they are supposed to be there. I expect them to sit like statues on the couch all day long and never make a sound or talk to me.They play make believe and sing and play hide and go seek and They never shut the hell up. I expect them to eat really cheap stuff they hate , but instead they either refuse to eat or go in the fridge and eat MY STUFF.They get their shoes dirty and they don't get 100 percents on every single paper and the perfect behavior color every day. They seem immune to the yelling and won't talk to me. The one said it is impossible to make me happy and she can't wait until she can choose where she wants to live. They hate visiting us because we are always yelling at them or each other. The one stinky redneck uncle and grandparents never yells at them or hits them and they listen to them perfectly I don't get it. I just want him not his bratty kids , bitchy ex wife, and white trash family.

The family still sees each other, especially in summer, but now that the grandparents have died there is no Christmas or Thanksgiving get together anymore. It will just be my Dad and I on Thanksgiving and on Christmas we might see his brother but no gathering on my late mothers side and none on either side at Thanksgiving and possibly Christmas. I am 22 and a guy so not supposed to be sentimental but it feels so weird. This is the 3rd year. Ever since my grandmother (last surviving grandparent) died in 2014 holidays are no longer special. She was my Mom's mother so basically a mother to me since my Mom died when I was two. How do I make them special and can we still consider ourselves close to my Mom's family even though we don;t see them on Christmas or Thanksgiving? I feel the holidays are the test of closeness since we all live near by. The only families I know that don't get together at holidays are ones that are not close. However, our extended family is close, I think. So is this normal? Does this happen after the grandparents die?

I texted him after 2 months of being broken up that he was on my mind then he said I honestly dont know what else to tell you, you really offended me and the things you said about my family unbelivable. I said are you still on the past he said of course, the things you said about mom are you kidding me? no sorry I can't forgive that or allow that.I didn't respond to him then 10 min later he texted back My mom has the purest heart and for you to say those nasty things about her are you kidding me My mom has the purest heart and for you to say those nasty things about her are you kidding me I just said i'm not in the state to discuss the past nor do i want to. He said and thats fine but you should know why this will not work and why I won't allow myself to have feellings for you again. I didn't respond. I go to church where he's a deacon, and he constantly stares at me from the alter to where my friends and family notice and tell me. I don't look at him The only times i have i've given him a dirty look. It's been more than a month since that convo. He said something first about my mom fyi. Does he still have feelings or being dramatic? FYI in the past he's also said a lot of things and gone back on his word so idk if he's trying to be dramatic cause he keeps staring. I chased after he stopped chasing me so Idk if thinks he can get away with saying stuff like this.

A few months ago, my parents told me that I am adopted and biologically they are my grandparents. They said my biological father was abusive, physically to my biological mother and to me and my brother and when he was sent to jail, my mother eventually gave up me and my brother to her parents who are my grandparents because she could take care of us anymore. Since they told me, I've been feeling really depressed that they hid this from me and just told me now. I am 13 and they decided to tell me now. Why didn't they just wait until I was married and had my own kids!??! I feel different. My brother doesn't know, only I do. I feel like poop. I've told only one person even though my parents told me that no one should know. I told a girl I go to church with. I have no one to talk to because I'm homeschooled and my brother is 3.5 years younger than me.I have mood swings. One minute I'm happy when I get up in the morning, and then my brother will say something to get me ticked off and I go berserk and my whole day is ruined and I'm angry all day.My parents now are super unfair too which doesn't help. They are super over protective and they don't let me do anything socially. I have no friends, just that one girl from church who I only see once a week, and I'm lonely. Because I'm adopted by my grandparents, what does this mean? Im really confused. Nothing seems fair anymore since they told me and because of this. Sometimes I wish I still lived with my bio mother :( Im so confused.

Hello. I just need a place to vent right now. I am 20 years old and I'm halfway through my bachelors degree. To save money I went to community college first and now I am at UT. I have a minimum wage job that I work at part time to pay for my college expenses. Luckily with my financial aid and my work money, I have not had to take out any loans for college as I've been able to pay off each semester. However, I still live with my mom. We live in an old townhome and we've been living here since I was a young child and my dad left us. We don't have a lot of money, sometimes I go hungry and all I have to eat is ramen. I am honestly very tired of living here. I'm grateful for having a place to live, but I'm tired of repetition and I can't wait to move out. It feels like my nursing degree is taking forever to finish, as I still have two more years left. I do the same thing everyday, study study study. And right now I feel like I'm working hard and getting no where. Thanks to whoever reads this I just needed to vent.

So I am a college student living in his parents house. I have been working on computers since when I was a high school junior. During this time, I never had a computer desk, so I sat on my bed in a way that I can see the tv on the foot of the bed, which was really uncomfortable. So yesterday, my friend was cleaning out his room and said he was offering me his computer desk because he wanted to make space for a treadmill. It s a small wooden desk that s a bit bigger than a nightstand with a keyboard drawer that was fully intact. I accepted the offer and brought it to my room, while both my parents were out at work. When my dad got home, he said it s a nice desk, but it s primarily a microwave holder. He didn t mind and carried on. Then my mom came home and I told her about the desk, and she got really upset, saying that I m bringing too much trash in the house like a 5 year old. I calmly explained to her that I needed a desk because I m working on desktops and it hurts my back whenever I try to lie on my bed in this weird way,and all that did was make her even more upset. So today, I try to talk to her and now she s ignoring me. She would go in her room and close the door while she would normally go in the living room. What should I do? Is she overreacting?

Her favorite is Ni Hao, Kai Lan. She also watches Dora, Diego, the Backyardagains, and My Little Pony. What's wrong with her? She's 16, by the way. She also colors in children's coloring books. Not the ones meant for adults. Actual CHILDREN'S coloring books. Like ones that are Hello Kitty, Care Bears, and My Little Pony. She has many stuffed animals, and a blanket she sleeps with. I even caught her sucking her thumb while she slept. Does she have a mental disorder? This can't be healthy, can it?

I'm still trying to move in with my mom. I've started acting better, and more respectful towards my dad in hopes that my situation would get better, and we wouldn't have any more problems. But it still ahppens. I wnat to move in with my mom still. HELP.

Long story short my dad has never really been part of my life. He was a drug addict and alcoholic and he lived with my family on and off when I was Little, but I remember him as mean and scary. He fought with my mom. Yelled, swore, even killed our pets if he was mad and we weren't home. Once he held me against the wall by my neck because I was 9 and not listening! Anyways my mom kicked him out and got s restraining order against him. I gave him one more chance when I was 23 and i still didn't feel comfortable around him so I told him to never come around me or talk to me again. He is homeless now and I still won't have anything to do with him. He cried to my half brother because he has no one and he tried to call me but when I realize it's him I just hang up quickly. I feel like he just needs us now because he's homeless and if he had a house and money he would ignore us and act like he doesn't care again. Am I wrong for this

My dad has been nonstop accusing me of dumb **** like he blamed me for our 3 month old dog digging, he accused me of leaving all of my *** on the floor, and he accused me of charging money to his card. The dumb **** can go on an on but now he's threatening to kick me out for this stupid ****. What do I do

Hi there, Years ago I believe my step-dad hit me at a family event. My family and I were hanging outside in the dark and I just remember something along the lines of my step-dad trying to get through or something (a lot of us were sitting down and he was walkthing through) and I just seem to remember he hit me on the back of the head. It s not like it left a mark or anything but I didn t think it was necessary. I wish I had told someone as soon as it happened. I want to let it go or justify it as an accident but it recently started bothering me and doesn t seem to want to go away. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions? Thank you.

My mom and dad haven't been members of the same church in some 30 years. They raised us all in the family church for years until we all grew up and decided to venture out. All of my brothers and sisters, including mom, are at different churches now and I'm the only one still at the family church with my dad who is a deacon there and has worked all his life in. Several years ago the church went through a financial hardship and we're no longer at the location we were at. Our church has moved to a location about 25 miles away. Yes, we lost members but my dad and I remained members and didn't mind the drive. Dad is now 80 and health is declining rapidly. In the past few months he has been attending church with my mom so she can keep an eye on him. He would occasionally go to the family church where he's still a deacon and still a member. In speaking with one of my sisters yesterday she mentioned that mom has said that when he dies she's not having his funeral at the family church because she feels that's too far for the family to travel. She wants to have his funeral in a more convenient location for her so she doesn't to ride that far to the family church. Yes, I know that the spouse makes the decision in situations like that but how would you like it if someone decided to have your funeral not at the place your served simply because they didn't want to go that far? Should I talk to mom to get her to reconsider this decision? Let me say this, there's no animosity between mom and anyone at the family church. She's still friendly with a number of older members who were there when she was a member. A number of them still come by the family house to visit with her and check on my dad. She just doesn't want to ride that far to have his funeral in his church. Again, I say ride, because on that day she'll be in the funeral home limo so she won't be driving. It's one day, his last day. She wouldn't like it if we decided to have her funeral at a place other than her church where she too is a church mother. Or if a family member decided not to come to her funeral simply because it wasn't convenient for them.

his dad is dead, brother and uncle died in a car crash, older sister killed herself and now he's left with his mom and step dad and his little sister. his step dad abuses him and his mom died. his step dad gets arrested so his little sister is put into foster care. a while ago she was kidnapped along with a few other girls playing outside. when they found her she was raped. so like..?

My brother who is 24 is so annoying I don't know why my parents don't kick him out of the house he pays nothing and swears at my mom and literally is abusesif he gives my dad stress and compalins and tells lies to my dad about me I'm 15 OK my dad gives me money I don't ask for it I am sick of my family my doctor said that my vitiligo was caused by me taking emotional stress I can't take it anymore I need help?

I pulled a knife out on my brother because. My brother laughed and wasn't the least bit frightened because he knew I wasn't going to do really anything. Eventually, towards the end of the year, my brother told our mother what I did and I was honestly surprised by her reaction, as she threatened to call the police and said I needed help. She also called me a sneaky a$$ in thinking I was being deliberately quiet under her nose for the sole purposes of threatening him and possibly hurting him. Later on, my father comes home, 30 minutes after midnight and my mother told him what I did, and my father exploded, telling me he was going to kick my a$$ and that I didn't care at all about my family and that he cares about my mother and brother. He also told me to pull the knife at him, not my mother or brother. The following morning, I could overhear them talking about what I did, my father telling my mother that he told me I could get the f@#$ out of here and that I didn't seem to care and my mother agreed, saying I do nothing but "eat, sleep and $hit" and repeated this twice. I've had enough and I hope someone kills me violently. I hate my parents for reacting like they did and I not hoping I die violently solely to hurt my parents—I can't stand myself for what I did or want to gamble with the possibility of what I could become. I don't really feel remorse, just self-pity over the possibility of becoming a monster if I'm not one already. I need to die, I don't deserve forgiveness.

I believe I was left a trust fund from a relietive of mine. Long story short he passed away around August and I have not been contact by anyone in my family about this. Is this a cause for concern or should I just be patient and wait until someone contacts me? Should I bring it up the wife of the one who passed away? I'm not sure but I believe they had a joint trust. One set for our side and she had one set for her side. Also if he passed away is there anyway she could tamper with it at all? Thanks I'm sorry if Im not doing a good job of explaining things. If you have any queastions feel free to ask. I also am not very close to them so asking them queastions makes this difficult. But I'll do my best to reply with responses if you have any queastions.

I am 55 and have hated being a father for 16 years. My kids are 18 and 19(yes I know the law says they're legal adults now but even before they were legal I did not do much to help them at all and I still don't). I have had them home schooled. I never put them in any activities. I never taught either how to drive, they both refuse to walk in the middle of the highway, I stopped buying them christmas and birthday gifts and stopped celebratingn their birthdays 11 years ago. I stopped spending time with them in 2009. I just wish they would move out and leave. It is not my fault it is dangerous to walk places(as they would have to walk in the highway I don't care if that is illegal to do either). I never taught either how to have their own place to live, I took them off(yes it is legal) my wife and I's health insurance plan at 14 and 15. What do you think?

Rejection is really awful

My daughter will only read books about other cultures. She also only listens to Asian music. She says she doesn't like English music. What's wrong with her? She's 18, and I found kids books about other cultures in her room. She also invented an Asian country, and writes stories about it and draws pictures about it. Is there something wrong with her? She was diagnosed with schizophrenia and some anxiety disorders. She also has autism. Is she like this because of her illnesses? Please, help.

I'm overage and working full-time. My mother considers me her best buddy because she doesn't really have friends. I'm an only child. She doesn't do anything fun without me, she just complains that there's nothing to do. But then she turns around and still treats me like I'm a teenager when she doesn't want something from me, or if I disagree with her or want to do something on my own she acts like I'm just being immature. I told her I'm moving out and she broke down crying about how I'm abandoning her and how she's worked so hard to make home great for me and she doesn't understand why I hate her! I've tried to talk to her but she just cries, she tries to find the "real reason" I'm moving out. Now she's trying to find out if I'm hiding a boyfriend from her that's convincing me of this! I love her, I really do, but I want to spend some time on my own too. And I really am tired of being treated like I was 14 and needed to obey my parents when she's the one who wants me to stay. But I don't want to ruin my relationship with her either. The trouble with pushing her to find friends, is she won't do things or keep up with people unless I do all the work for her. She's absolutely terrified about anything that's done online and basically thinks everyone on the internet is a rapist in disguise. I've pushed her to go to some stuff in real life but she just complains, it's too far, she's too tired, they're mean and she doesn't get along with them. It really feels like having a teenager in charge sometimes.

theirs a certain word when someone cant get over griefing ones death what is it?

My 8-year old son has severe asthma especially in this season. We live in an area with a lot of sand storms and dust (which he is allergic to). Some night he comes to me and his lips are pale or blue and tells me he cant breath. While he does have a puffer, I have walked into his room at night because I heard him wheezing and just doesnt get up, I've had to wake him up to use it. Is there some kin of hack that will help wake him up or even reduce the attacks. I keep his room clean and the windows shut already but since this is seasonal, I dont really have much other experience or ideas on what else I should do.. Thanks in advance

I was cleaning my sons room and little Jimmy had a note that said he was going to kill himself and he's sorry and depressed. Now I haven't seen little Jimmy since three days ago I thought he just went to his friends without telling anyone for the week. He hasn't been gone like this before. Should I be worried at this point?

So I know I'm only 16 and I'm only a teen but I feel like I'm 10 years old and that my 12 year old cousin has more freedom then me my parents give me a Strict bedtime they also said I must be off my phone and everything electronic at 9:30 even if I wasn't on anything this whole day they also said I have to keep my door unlocked and they keep trying to make me open my bedroom door and sometimes they bring stuff up like wanting to monitor my instagram and snapchat my dad even tried to make a snapchat but then I said please delete it because this is my private life I don't want my parents to have me on snap he already has me on instagram and I might sound like I'm am disrespectful but I really am not I just want some privacy and to not have people on top of me at all times thats why I don't invite any of my friends over because when I do they ask me 20 times a day that I should invite them over or they say there name repeatedly like chris chris chris chris chris chris what do I do im a 16 year old guy I feel like I deserve some privacy am I right or no also another example is when I went to after school yesterday with her for a meeting and my mom kept embrassing me like saying oh watch out for that puddle don't walk over there I don't like when ur on that side or just trying to control me

They have chronic fatigue and have no where else to go.

My dad and his friend are about the same age I think.

Ive been dating this guy for a couple months and decided to tell my sister as one of my most trusted friends because we tell each other everything and it doesnt feel right if i had kept it from her. She and my best friend are the only ones who know and i thought it was gonna stay that way until today i received a call from my cousin (my sister went to my cousin s house today and was also in the call) they were just casually asking me if i could look something up. I said "im sorry i cant right now im a little busy) and my sister said "yeah my sister s probably busy with her boyfriend" hearing those words made me shatter because i trusted her with all my heart and i never thought that she would just say it like that out of the blue. I dont care about my cousin knowing i just cant believe my sister would do this to me. I dont think i can trust her anymore. She hasnt come home yet but when she does i wanna confront her about this i just dont know how. Please help me ): Update: I keep my relationship a secret because i dont want my parents to find out. What my sister said was a joke but i asked her over the phone if my cousin knows and she said "oops..was she not supposed to know? i told her almost everything about it"

Ive been dating this guy for a couple months and decided to tell my sister as one of my most trusted friends because we tell each other everything and it doesnt feel right if i had kept it from her. She and my best friend are the only ones who know and i thought it was gonna stay that way until today i received a call from my cousin (my sister went to my cousin s house today and was also in the call) they were just casually asking me if i could look something up. I said "im sorry i cant right now im a little busy) and my sister said "yeah my sister s probably busy with her boyfriend" hearing those words made me shatter because i trusted her with all my heart and i never thought that she would just say it like that out of the blue. I dont care about my cousin knowing i just cant believe my sister would do this to me. I dont think i can trust her anymore. She hasnt come home yet but when she does i wanna confront her about this i just dont know how. Please help me ): I keep my relationship a secret because i dont want my parents to find out. What my sister said was a joke but i asked her over the phone if my cousin knows and she said "oops..was she not supposed to know? i told her almost everything about it" I made it clear to my sister that i dont want anybody else to know except her and my best friend I'm not doing anything bad with this guy i just dont want my parents to know because they will be all up in my business and wont leave me alone. I know they do this because they love me but i can take care of myself and know between right and wrong so i rather wait a little longer to introduce him the rest of my family. for now i just wanna keep it lowkey. my boyfriend is in a similar situation

I've always wanted to move out and start a life of my own after high school. To go on adventures and make mistakes and learn from them. But my parents are very religious and strict and I don't know how to tell them that I no longer want to live with them or live in the city I'm in. What should I say or do?

My little sister is a brat, she wont let me sit with my mom, lay on a couch with her, watch tv or even do anything anymore. She screams when we do anything with our mom and wont even let me sit with her on the couch. I wanted to go to lunch with my mom and just talk to ourselves for at least an hour and she refused and everyone just gives in to her. How to get her to stop?

So it's something that caught me by surprise the first time she did it but my mom has been calling me names like "baby" or "sweetie" as if I was a little kid recently. I mean, it wouldn't be THAT strange if it wasn't for the fact that I'm 23 and this is the first time in my entire life that I've ever heard her call me anything besides my name. The only ones in my life who have ever given me cutesy or stupid nicknames are my siblings and friends, NEVER my parents. Recently we've been having a bit of trouble in the family where we're all getting tired of her bulls*it and personally I'm wondering if it's her trying to keep me from leaving her. As if acting like the cliche mom who gives all of her children silly nicknames is going to keep her 23 year old child from siding with her father instead of her mother. I'm pretty sure she finally got the message that everyone is sick of her behavior but starting to call me cutesy nicknames out of the blue is very strange to me. Ah I forgot to add "and uncomfortable" in my last sentence. Curse Yahoo for not having an 'Edit Question' option!

5 years ago I got caught shoplifting 2 times in that same week and I hired a lawyer, he was able to get me off with 3 years probation. I got caught stealing yesterday from Walmart for the amount of $40. When I meet the same lawyer today he asked me why I did it again and I confessed to him that I always shoplift when I'm stressed out. I told him about how my husband (we are Arabic) makes me have sex with his brothers, friends and people online. Then I showed my lawyer the burn marks I got from my husband when I don't do what he wants. My lawyer started crying when I told him about this and he tried convincing me to arrest my husband. I told him I just want to take care of this first. I have 5 kids and don't want to put my husband in any trouble. By the way I'm 31 years old. My lawyer told me he will be able to get me off with no jail time since he knows the court well. Is that possible since it's my 3rd conviction? Thank you for your answers

I've never been good at anything academic-wise (unless you count history and science). When I was in a public high school, I always got either As or Bs in those two classes. Well, I dropped out last year when I was in 10th grade (due to being unable to focus from my ADHD and I constantly got sick every morning from stress) and since then...I've been feeling like I won't really accomplish much in life. At least not as much as my younger brother probably will. He's in 6th grade and he's very popular, plus he's got straight As all over his report cards. In other words, I feel like my parents are more proud of him than me. The only thing I can think of that's worth being proud of is that I was in the state honors chorus in 8th grade and I was chosen out of 600 other kids. My singing voice and acting skills are really the only two things I've got going for me in life at the moment and in a few years, I'm going to be getting my G.E.D. I just don't feel like I'll really get far in life. I already gave up my dreams of being a singer or an actress some day because I know I don't have a shot, but I still sing and act as a hobby on a daily basis. What I see for my future is just being a cake decorator in a bakery somewhere (I'm already taking courses) and possibly having a family if I'm still with my current boyfriend years down the road. So yeah, to shorten my question...is getting a G.E.D something to be proud of?

We were watching wheel of fortune yesterday and I guess the volume was a little loud so my husband angrily turned it down and said, "ever heard of a hearing aid?" She then proceeded to ask several questions because she couldn't hear so she asked him to turn the closed captioning on. He got up in her face and started yelling at her. I felt horrible and I'm very angry at him for treating MY MOTHER like that. I would never treat his like that. Well things are getting a little scary. He peeled out and went somewhere and came back with guns in the middle of the night. He said, "this is gonna be your last days you old hag." as he walked on the front porch to the door. I quickly walked outside to stop him and he said the guns are just to go hunting with. I don't know what to believe and I'm honestly scared. What should I do? Oh yeah. I made all this up btw. Trying to become a writer.

My dad has no contact with his brother, his dad is gone and his mother is just bitching about my dad not helping her out all the time and all she does is sit in her house and drink all day Mom has barely any friends that she hangs out with and she seems really sad about the whole thing, Dad said that they had a divorce because he thought Mom was drinking a bit too much and they just have no feelings for each other anymore but I just feel so bad for them both, My dad runs a farm but owes the bank a lot of money after he got scammed when building a garage for 100'000$ He said that he would keep the place running and clean so that me and my siblings could move in when we grow old, since my dads grandparents built up the farm from scratch, But all the money he owes, All other family issues... He loves running the farm and when he said he'd do anything to make us happy and support us as much as possible until we move in when we're old enough to decide, I can't stop thinking about what will happen after, I asked him what he would do after he couldn't look me in the face and changed subject It just feels like his only goal left is to keep our family running and then he'll leave us.... Moms drinking and the fact that she lack friends doesn't help at all.. He said Mom can live at his house while she tries to find an apartment to hire, they're still friends but it kills me seeing them act like they dont know each other

My girlfriend and I live together in our townhome. Her sister has been renting a room in it for the past two years and everything has been fine. Her long distance boyfriend finally moved to the same state and they're building a house together. Their house isn't going to be finished for another 6-8 months. Originally my girlfriend agreed to let him stay for a month until he found an apartment to live in until his house was built. Now that he's here and been in the house for a couple weeks he's staying he just wants to stay here until the house is built for his convenience. He gets military housing allotment so finances aren't an issue, he actually said he just didn't want to deal with the hassle. He has no jjob currently so he's always at the house now. My girlfriend suffers from severe anxiety and depression and feels very uncomfortable in her own home right now. I'm furious because I work evenings and get texts from her saying that she feels like she can't even leave her bedroom and will actually go hungry until she feels like no one is there to leave. I want to confront him because he is directly distressing my girlfriend and he is basically just pushing her to the side and doing as he pleases. I've explained to the sister that my gf is suffering but it seems neither are taking it seriously are not looking for apartments. My girlfriend does not want me to talk to him but I really feel like I need to, the longer this goes on the more my blood boils. What should I do?

Each year at Thanksgiving my Mom's family gathers and we are the lone clan of the family not there (my siblings and I and my parents). My Mom doesn't like her brother cause he is an alcoholic and so my mother refuses to go. They asked us for a time but no longer do. It hurts so much to be rejected. I am an adult now and no longer need my Mom's permission to go but I catch hell from her when I go to anything in her family. They don't ask me at Thanksgiving and one of them was down right mean when I invited myself one year at 4th of July. So I can't just stop by. It hurts so much cause it hurt so much when I was a kid and we didn't go cause my grandfather was an alcoholic. Then when he died we started going and I was full of such joy from 14 to 20. Then her brother's drinking got bad and my Mom stopped going and we no longer were asked. Now I am 31 and I once again am dreading a family holiday. It hurts me so much and yet I can't just show up or I will get chewed out by the formal aunt who is the host. I know they are not the easiest people to get along with but they are family. I am different and have learning disabilities and maybe some Aspergers. As a result I don't have friends. The rejection memories from when I was a kid hurt so much. How do I calm my nervous stomach knowing the rejection is once again going to reopen on Thanksgiving? Christmas will be easier as only one of my Mom's siblings is in town and it is one we can see.

That bittches and complain about everything? Who isn't family but a peasant

Die in a car crash I mean. He is very arrogant so he doesn't think anything will happen to him.

He didn't file his taxes for 6 years either and while the accountant my Mom was using is evil it still doesn't make my Dad lying right. Should we never trust him again? He also lies to me when reassuring me of stuff and constantly lies to my Mom and probably my brother and sisters with this (he has 4 kids).