I'm 21 and grew up with a very loose knit and problematic family. My biological dad abandoned me as a baby and my biological mom was my domestic violence abuser for 10 years. I have an adopted dad who has always been there for me, but I have an incredibly small family due to distance and mental illness being prevalent in the family. I have always wanted to have a stable family. I hear of families adopting adults, but is it possible for me to seek out a family? I don't want to replace my current family, but its barely a family at all, and I'd like to invite others into my life as family to have that support system I want so much.

She texts me constantly ,texts my husband too . Worrys everytime we have a doctor appt ,or like if the cable company comes she has to come and join in ,she came when the lowes people put my washer and dryer in . Its rediclious. I feel like she thinks i cant be an adult . She even speaks for me at my appoitments ,gives me the index finger to stop talking ,mom im 31 and this is getting old .

Had she done it humbly I'd think "maybe she is offering an olive branch" but she boasts of it like "I am the better one, look at me, I send cards". She has lots and lots of enemies in the family cause her solution to conflict is to disown the person. We kids are the ones who suffer cause we lose an otherwise close extended family.

As she gets older will she likely get worse and maybe narcissistic? Right now she is 23 and my parents give her all she wants if she fights for it enough. Growing up if punished she'd throw a temper tantrum and my Mom would lift the punishment.

For example my Mom and her brother's wife both like to hold grudges (even at each other at two times in my life). So they command their husbands who to see and not see. The husbands follow their orders. We kids lose family as a result. Is this unfair or is this just part of marriage just like the man works and the woman doesn't (other then driving the kids)?

He has it all, millions of dollars, two mansions, a family, a marriage (though it's his 2nd), a submissive wife who does as he says, a close family of origin and super close set of in-laws, and again lots of money. He even has a private jet his pilot brother-in-law flies. So why would someone with all this be so grouchy? He also drank too much but with retirement I think he cut back on that.

Kind of creepy my mother got involved.

Hi! So my little sister is 3 and i'm her big brother and i'm 13. I love my little sister wth all my heart but she always manages to hit me in the balls! I know she doesn't understand but its pretty painful! Like today when i got home from school she came running up to me to give me a big hug but managed to punch me pretty hard in the balls! All i could do was moan and double over and she thought i was playing! Yesterday i was playing with her on my bed and she stomped on my balls which was really painful! I know she doesnt understand at all but how do i tell her not to hit me in the nuts without upsetting her? I dont want to seem really mean coz i know she doesnt understand.

Yes, my life has been horrible, annoying, and miserable this year. My family is almost broke, I was robbed last month and had a lot of money and my phone stolen from me, we haven't been able to do ANYTHING fun lately, and I've been so angry/sad all the time. I hate where I live so much (Los Angeles, CA), and wish I could move to Georgia (or at least visit there more than I get to). I badly want to go to Europe, but I feel like I'll never get a chance (due to the horrible money situation). I mean, we have enough money to survive, but I just can't be happy. What should I do? Man, why are people on this site so rude?

So, my dad has anger management issues, and often gets abusive when he loses his temper - he's been calling me names and putting me down for years, and has several times blamed me for "tearing apart" my parents' marriage. My mum would sometimes defend me when he did this, but her ultimate judgment was always "he's the boss, and he makes the money, so he can do what he likes." The other day after Dad and I had another fight, I got dinner at a restaurant with my mum. We talked about dad, and she said "Why do you think you're so special with the name-calling? He's been doing that to me for YEARS whenever we fight. We had a big argument the other day where he shoved me against a wall, and I still have the bruises to prove it. You've just got to accept that's the way he is." I was shocked by this, and asked her why she stayed in the marriage, and she said "Because I'm tougher than most women, I'm stronger. I'm thick-skinned, and I can handle your dad." She said she could understand how a "weaker" woman might leave him, but she doesn't because she's strong. My mum seems okay most of the time, but her comments here really alarmed me...should I do anything? Should I be concerned at all, or is this something she's chosen for herself?

My sister has been with her boyfriend for little over three years now. At times she and her boyfriend have had a tumultuous relationship (at times). She has even called the police on him once because he was breaking things throughout the house when they got in an argument (not okay). Currently, he lives with my mother and sister (long story) and I do not care for him at all. My mother and sister often vent about him to me and since I'm not there so I don't see any of the good things about him (assuming there are). He was recently extremely rude to me and texted me a plethora of rude text messages (another long story) and I decided in that moment I would stay out of any drama they experienced with him that moment forward. This Thanksgiving my boyfriend's family has extended a Thanksgiving dinner invitation to my family, so I have invited my family - my sister and my mother. Today I received a book of texts from my mother explaining why I should be inviting my sister's boyfriend as well. I do not see the necessity in doing so and I am just wondering how I should handle this situation. My sister and my mother have both been to thanksgiving at my boyfriend's house before. her boyfriend did not attend then. I don't see the need in him attending now.

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Two days ago, my wife's sister Cassie was visiting us. Cassie is the second oldest sibling of four in my wife's family, but she thinks she runs the family. My wife is third in line in age. Cassie is always telling people in the family what to do and how to do things, but her own life's a mess. When I mention this to my wife, my wife covers up for her saying she's only trying to be helpful and means nothing by it. Anytime I say to my wife that I don't like what Cassie is doing, my wife angrily tells me not to say anything because because it might trigger Cassie to have depressive episode because apparently she's depressed. Two days ago, I just returned from my late parents' home. My parents died within the last several years. The upcoming holiday period is still hard for me because of their passing. I told my wife that I had just shredded a bunch of my parents' personal papers. Cassie was in the room and said that I should bring them to her parents' home so they could burn them in their wood stove. I was so mad I was shaking, but I said nothing. I spoke to my wife a few minutes later and my wife got angry with me for getting angry. She said that her sister was not out to get me and was being helpful. This Thursday is Thanksgiving and Cassie will be there. I really want to tell her that I didn't appreciate her comment and why I didn't. Should I and why or why not? Thank you for reading.

Virus: My mother is just what you describe.

Last Christmas my father wrecked Christmas Eve with a drunken rant about his wife and my son seemed very uncomfortable. Plus he told my son who is ADHD "quit being a brat" when he was making noise. We see my father 4 or 5 times a year only because of this even though he lives 10 minutes away,

We're 21 and 27 so we aren't kids or anything. So his birthday was 2 days ago and he came over our house to get his gift from our parents (I still live with parents) . I walked right passed him and asked me why didn't I wish him a happy birthday and I told him because he didn't wish me a happy birthday back in july. We kind of had an argument over it because he felt that it was wrong of me because he felt someone should have reminded him but I'm not gonna remind him. You knew me for 21 years of my life you should know my birthday.

I will be with my Dad and his small family but my Mom's big family does not ask me and comes up with excuses when I try to get together. My Mom died from a suicide so my Dad says it is just their coping mechanism. I will be 7 minutes from where my Mom's family gathers so that is what makes it hurt so much more. If we were out of town or lived far away the rejection wouldn't feel so bad. How do I get over the hurt that is going to come with Thanksgiving this year? I am dreading Thursday. Luckily at Christmas my Mom;s family doesn't do the big gathering and her mother (my grandmother) accepts a private visit from me Christmas Eve. Thanksgiving I see no one but my Dad's family and I feel this void. I also feel as though I am viewed as responsible for my Mom's suicide since I was hyper as a kid (ADHD) and anxious (OCD) she worried about me a lot. I have two siblings but they don't mind cause their not as sensitive.

I'm 17 years old, graduating high school in May, turning 18 in April. I am wanting to move out of my dad and step-mothers house and move in with my boss. I grew up living with my mother in California, but at 16 I was sent over to my dad to live with him. For 4-6 years, my step mom has been nothing but hateful towards me. We had a falling out 4-6 years ago, and ever since she treats me like a dog. She's done petty immature things like sprinkle food, sugar, syrup, chips on my clothes in my room, eggs under pillows, dumb ****. She douses any of t food with salt so I can't eat it, has locked me out of the house for hours on end after working and coming home from long mornings. She throws away my clothes, shoes, books, on a regular basis, anything I leave downstairs and not in my room. My most prevalent issue is when she steals my school work. I've had to replace my school laptop with a $250 out of my car savings, I've had to rewrite entire note books because she stole them. This morning I realized she stole both my anatomy and precalculs note books and my entire binder for school, which I had notes, work that needed to be turned in, important papers, paychecks from work worth almost $300. She calls me pathetic, trash, disgusting, rat, spoiled brat, special needs child, and more. My dad takes no action to end her behavior because if he does she gives him an ultimatum and holds out on him. My grandparents, aunt, uncle, and mother are furious over how she treats me and refuse to be anywhere near her, and they don't even know the half of it, actually living with her. Ive been to 3 different high schools, I've lived on my own in Los Angeles for periods of time back home, I was a bit of a trouble maker in my younger years but now that I am almost adult, I've made a lot of changes in my life, I've been working hard for the past 2 1/2 years and have $4000 saved up for a car. I'm a manager where I work, and I work 80 hour periods. My dad only takes me to school in the morning when he gets home from work and during the week I'm at work, and he goes out with his wife every night. The only times I see him is when he takes me to school and on his days off, when he stays up all night and drinks behind his wife's back. I rarely ask my dad for money, I provide my own school supplies, clothes, food(I literally don't eat any of the food they purchase), I've bought my own phone and my own laptop, and I'm about to buy my own car. But I'm so tired to living somewhere where the one important thing I need goes missing, it's just too much and she crossed the line when she literally took ALL of my work, notes, and more. I have 5 months before I turn 18, but I'm capable of leaving now. My boss lives in apartment behind my workplace and I'd have transportation to school in the morning, she said I can stay whenever I want and she wants me to move in as well. I'm simply tired and I need a way out. I love my dad but staying here for 5 more months so he can say he "cared" isn't work it anymore. This is taking a lot out of me and it would be more peaceful for ALL of us if I just left. Please help me!!_ ☆ Sent from iOS Dr. Know! 1.1.02

We live in West Virginia and it is perfectly legal and we even had a child together.

It has been 27 years. I am sure they long ago thought I had died. I escaped my pain by running away. It was not a bad family but not a close family. I blamed myself for my parents' divorce and still do. I have lived off of welfare and disability since 1994. I am 47. I was 20 when I disappeared. I have addresses from Internet searches and stuff but don't know how to go about it as I sent a suicide note so they would think I had died. I live in Long Island and they are spread out through Chicago area and I see two have moved to Florida. My Dad died I see from the search and it has me listed as "predeceased by his son Adam". My mother is alive and I found an address for her and a Facebook page for numerous relatives. I worry they hate me for making them think I had died. How do I go about locating them? My last note was a month after I disappeared. I am a loner and finding them has been suggested in therapy. Would the TV Show Dr. Phil be able to help?

To make a long story short, I love my wife very much I feel sick to my stomach thinking of what I did and how that would break my wife's heart, as wrong as it was I had a one night stand with her sister, already regretting what I did her sister continues to demand that we have sex again, I have blatantly told her that I feel like crap as it is and reject having sex again, her sister now says if I don't have sex with her again she is going to tell her sister, I can't stop thinking about this just the thought of her telling at any second has me nervous and sick to my stomach

It hurts me that she restricts me from seeing him each and every Christmas. It wrecks the holiday. I see him in the summer (Father's Day Week and one weekend in August) and that is it for the year. She insults him all the time but I want to be close to him. He says when I am an adult I can be but I don't want to wait. I am 15 and tired of having bad Christmas' because of how selfish my Mom is. she insults him all through Christmas and embarrasses me. I feel ashamed not to be able to see my Dad's parents, siblings, and my cousins on his side. How do I get my Mom this year to let me see my Dad for Christmas? She says if he loved me he wouldn't have mistreated her and he won't bother to take her to court like my cousins' Dad did when their Mom banned them from seeing him. I am 13 so can't drive. I am so sad.

my dad for Domestic Abuse (physical and verbal) at me and my mother for the last 2 decades or so...? I do forgive my dad on the other hand for what he did to us, but after 20 years in my case, I am still emotionally affected.... Also I don t always feel angry at him but only when this issue comes to my mind..... Also, some of the time I just don t want to hear the mention of him.... I would appreciate any reasonable answers.... WARNING: No inappropriate answers please!!! --> I WILL NOT tolerate it nor will I put up with it.....

My boyfriend's mom doesn't like me because she is miserable and doesn't like when her son is happy. I've tried everything to make good terms with her and she still hates me. She prevents him from talking to me by taking his phone and making him do house chores and go places with his older siblings. He's 17. All of this sounds normal except for the fact that the entire family is toxic. His mother makes him miss school to go see his brother and over there, he's not allowed to text or call anyone. My boyfriend will go to school and then come home and do chores and then go to work and then come home and do more chores. Most of the nights he's up until 1 or 2 AM on a school night. She makes him do things to where he is physically exhausted and incapable of staying focused in school. She doesn't want him to be happy or have a life at all. I don't know what to do. I hardly see him or talk to him anymore and I really want to help. She's unfit and nobody knows this but it needs to be proven. He turns 18 in a month and a half.

My parents are divorced and they agreed that my dad would live in our basement. They have been fighting a lot recently, and my mom gave my dad 60 days notice to leave a month ago. In their divorce agreement, it says my dad can legally stay until the 60 days are up. My mom threatened my dad, forcing him to leave yesterday. All he had was his car and he couldn't afford a hotel because he was saving up to rent an apartment. He had to sleep in his car because my mom was threatening him if he came back. Usually, this would happen to a father who abuses his wife, but my dad didn't do anything. My mom claims she kicked him out because "she can't deal with fighting with him anymore" but that is no reason to make someone sleep in their car. My dad is afraid of my mom and wants to be able to come over for thanksgiving so he can't come back, even if it's legal. I'm really worried about him, so what should I do?

My clothes are not in bad condition or dirty, they look fine and they fit me well. Yet, when I see my dad he's always on my case about how my clothes don't look cool or high quality enough for his standards. He tries to fear-monger by saying that people outside will laugh at me for dressing how I dress, that he's embarrassed that I see his wife and am in his home with my type of clothing that he doesn't approve of. I've tried confronting him about it by asking "if he actually loves me as a son" and that he should be happy to see me and not care how I look. Unfortunately, he responds with "I do love you but I expect you to wear nicer clothing!". My clothes are not ugly, they are in good condition, and I am hurt that he looks down upon me because of his insanely high standards when it comes to how I dress... What do I do? How do I handle this? I'm 22 year old male. Parents are divorced, my dad lives outside of me with his wife, I see him on weekends, my clothes are casual.

So my mom has OCD and finds it easier for me to do the dishes and other chores and she do the majority of the cooking. Before people freak out and say to just move, neither of us can afford to live separately. It's just something we have to do to survive. It all works out fine, we're both happy with the agreement. But, several times my roommate has decided that the dishes weren't 'clean' because she touched them when her hands weren't 'clean', so she's taken every single thing out the cabinets and decided that they needed to be rewashed, and that it was part of the agreement that i had to do it. I know just cooking for myself is an option, I've done that, but her OCD means that if I touch a 'dirty' dish and then something else, then even more things will be 'dirty' It's a complicated situation that I'm not getting into the details of right now. So the issue right now is that she wants every dish done or neither of us will be 'allowed' to make Thanksgiving dinner, and I simply want her to promise that it won't be undone if I do it. She claims that that is me not holding up my end of the bargian. But I won't do every single dish if I can't be made certain or hold her accountable if she takes them all out again. So who's wrong? Me for wanting a guarantee that my work won't be undone, or her for not giving one because 'her making a promise wasn't part of the deal and would be her doing extra'. *Extra info: she pays more rent than me and I do other chores of course

My mom and I are really close. We live in different states and the flight is 3 hours and about $400. Unfortunately, the rest of my family is straight up crazy. I didn't visit for 10 years because of that. There is always a colossal fight with screaming or crazy antagonism and I get incredibly uncomfortable. I just went to visit her in April for the first time in 10 years when she had a surgery and it was really uncomfortable again. So anyway, I was there 7 months ago. Now my mom is turning 60 in January and she has been hinting that she wants me to fly there. I've been struggling with panic attacks for the past year. She doesn't know about all the details, but she knows I'm in therapy. I had a panic attack at the airport last time I traveled there alone. I'm married. My husband can't go. I think it's a lot for her to expect me to fly there, pay $400 for the ticket, and leave my husband at home alone again. I can never imagine him going on a trip without me. I used to fly to visit my grandparents, but only because they were in their 80s and I knew time was of the essence. I think since they've passed that my mom thought I'd just start flying to see her now instead. I wouldnt have left my husband and traveled alone if my grandparents weren't close to the end. My mom doesnt see the difference. So I feel really guilty. Is she asking a lot? Or is it a normal expectation that I go for her 60th? Wow... I've seen my mother over the 10 years. Wrong assumptions were made... We would fly to my grandparents at the same time up until a couple years ago when my grandmother passed. Since, she has traveled here because I live in California and my niece has wanted to come here on her spring vacations. And then like I said, I flew there less than a year ago when she had a surgery to take care of her. So I'm not a dirt bag... So to be clear... the questions is: is it a lot for my mom to expect me to pay $400 to fly there alone for her birthday? It's a pretty big gift... I understand it's a landmark year, I feel like it's asking a lot when I was just there 7 months ago. It's not the right time for me with my health and financially. So I'm really struggling with not knowing exactly how guilty I should feel here.

My dad hates my sister and I, he recently kicked her out of the house too. My mom is the only one who works in the house and she cares about me but not my dad. My parent managed to save up $80 000 but my dad gave it to his brothers and sister so they could use it instead of us. He told me he would kick me out when I was 18 a few times. My mom is always mad that he spends her hard earned money on his brothers and sisters. I have to dress poorly and have to deal with him swearing at me. He cares so much about my cousins but not about me for some reason. He also told me that he only lives with us for his share in the house. Oh and his brother also has $18 000 CAD of my moms but he won't give it back. What can I do?

Based on what my mom told me, I was 2 years old when she gave me cooking pots, and I was playing beats on them. I also began signing. I guess I grew up with it and it developed into a hobby in my early life of 6 yrs. Around 9 yrs old, my dad gave me his table set he used when he got together with his friends. I also was given a mini keyboard that had about 50 small keys. I used to play frequently. When we had guests over, they would tell me to play for them and were somehow impressed by my skills, even rewarding me $5 or $10. I'm now 20. At 15, as a birthday gift, my mom bought me a 61 key Yamaha keyboard. I learned how to play a lot of songs on it, then at 19, upgraded to a Korg arranger keyboard. My family encouraged me with music, especially my extended family. They've asked me to play for them at some family gatherings. I'm even told to play a few songs at family weddings. However, my youngest sister, always seems annoyed by my music. She always yelled at me ever since I first got my Yamaha, to shut my music off or something. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it somehow put me into depression. Its like I can't control it. I feel so let down. Except parties, she never wanted to hear my music. I've even lost confidence in keyboarding. Its not worth talking to her, she'll just argue. Music is a getaway from life for me, but no plans to pursue it. My extended family may be shocked about it, my mom will likely be upset about it because she has high hopes for me. Just by looking at my sister, I feel depressed sometimes. My family may talk me into pursuing it, but at times, when I'm playing for fun, thought about my sister comes into my head and I feel like crying.

I don't like males. I'm not a lesbian, but I don't like males. Asexual, i guess? There's really no other word for it. I'm 15 btw. No, i am not a late bloomer, no it is not a phase. I'm pretty darn sure I'm at least old enough to know my own sexual orientation. Geez. Just because i'm young doesn't mean i'm completely clueless. I've tried to tell her I don't like guys or girls before, and she just got quiet and we talked about something else. Should I say something again? Because she still thinks, for whatever reason, that i'm going to get married and have kids. And that's another thing, I don't even like kids. She's just got it all mixed up. Whatever fairytale she's living in needs to come to an end. She's delusional. I can't just leave her like that, she's in for a very rude awakening. OKAY ya know what?? My sexual orientation is not what's in question here. How do i break it to my moM? THAt's IT! THAT'S ALL I NEED TO KNOW. THANKS.

I really hate my life and I'm so unhappy and I hate the holidays ever since mom died and I lost my daughter, and everyone in my family hates my guts and says I should live my life the way they want me to live it! They are jealous of me because of my dad being there for me because my dad wasn't there for them when they was younger and it's so immature and stupid, I didn't ask to be here! I can't seem to find a REAL man to treat me like I'm his treasure I'm either being used or cheated on or ignored when I put all my attention on my love and spoil him...i live alone and no friends because everyone spreads gossip and back stabs me which is why I'm homebound! I feel like I'm ment to be unhappy for the rest of my life! I'm a young 28 beautiful young woman with no life so it seems! I live my life normally like everyone else does I feel like I'm in everyone's way and if I died tomorrow no one would care...no I'm not killing myself just making a point! I don't make a lot of money and it's hard to support myself and people think I've got money to fix my problems it's f****ng bulls**t....i have to keep myself locked up at home because of all the negative hate people have towards me when I didn't do any thing to them and no one wants to know the real me and makes me wanna just cry!

She's been out of employment for over 20 years and has difficulty finding a job. She got a job at Boots but soon left after a week or so. She doesn't have the drive, assertiveness or self confidence to make it in the world of work. I'm 24 and my sister is 20 and we're gonna be moving out soon. My mother has anxiety and I think this one of the things she worries about. She recently has a seizure and was hospitalised, and as she's in her 50s she may have other health issues down the line. She finds it tough even with us living with her, I think she'll find even more difficult living alone. I would feel better if she could live in a care home where she was around other people to make her feel a bit more at ease. She doesn't have the confidence to get out in the real world.

tl;dr: how to be patient i want to buy a wacom mobilestudio pro tablet. i have enough money to get it, but my parents tell me to wait. its just hard to wait. even though i've asked them if i could buy a cheaper tablet, they still said to wait. the tablet won't level up my art, but i feel like i should get one now. its been about 6 years since i got my original tablet. yes its important to save your money. so no need to tell me that.

I m 17 and my mother is a lot different than me. She s a proud Christian who s very open about her hate for the lgbtq community. She hates girls who show their butts even a little. Calls them whores, etc. personally, I believe love is love, regardless of gender (no. I m not asking for a debate here.) and I think a female should be allowed to wear what she wants within certain guidelines. She states I m "everything wrong with the world." And we simply can t seem to get along because of it? In my eyes, she s judgmental... and it honestly drives me crazy! How can I connect with her more?

El problema es que desde hace 1 año o 2, me empezo a entrar una ansiedad y miedo hacia que mis papás discutan ya que mi padre se ha ido de la casa 1 o 2 veces pero por pocos días y arreglan sus cosas y regresan y prometen que ya no van a discutir y lo vuelven a hacer y ya hasta me meten en sus discusiones, y me pone mal un día les dije que me ponia mal verlos pelar, que toda mi niñez los vi gritandose y que ya no queria eso más y que si estaban mejor separados que lo hicieran, y lo unico que saque fueron gritos por parte de mi papá diciendo que ese no era asunto mio y que ellos hacian lo que querian y que yo tenia que aguanterme porque eran mis papás. Mi papá tiene un caracter muy explosivo y mi mamá es igual, solo que ella tiene más de cordura cuando esta así. Ya le dije a mi mamá que se separe de mi papá y me dijo que no sabía que hacer porque el es que da dinero en casa y ella casi no ha trabajado porque mi papá no quiere porque hay más problemas, entonces si lo deja nos quedariamos sin dinero suficiente porque mi papá solo nos daria para mis estudios y los de mi hermano de 10 años.Hoy estaba viendo la tele y haciendo tarea en la laptop, de repente mi papá le cambia a la tele le dije que la estaba viendo y me dijo ni modo estas en la laptop, entonces me enoje y cerre la lap un poco fuerte, y se enojo y me grito que estaba jugando y se fue enojado. Y ya no sé que hacer, estoy desesperada, tengo mucha ansiedad y estres porque aparte estoy en la universidad. Necesito ayuda

I lost my mom 8 years ago due to cancer and it's something that I cannot accept. After her death, I felt that I lost a part of myself, my confidence, my self esteem etc. Everything in my that was bringing me forward in life suddenly died when she did. I feel that my mom was my strength and now I am left with nothing. I feel that I was more capable when she was around, I was "smarter" when she was here. I did finish university and get a degree and job but I never feel proud of myself or fulfilled. People will tell me she's still around but I don't feel it. I really don't know how to help myself get back my confidence or motivation. Can someone please help me please?

Growing up my family has never been close. It's always just been a small circle. My parents, brother and myself. I've never had an aunt or uncle. She died before I could get to know her. My uncle just simply ignores me. My brother and his girlfriend are about to have a daughter. His girlfriend already has a 5 year old as well. I don't know how I'm supposed to act.

gonna die as they gave discomfort in my heart. What should I do?

My moms dead so I can't live with her and my step brother is disgusting too. My dad and her went on vacation this weekend and when he expected me to go to bed at 9:30 on a weekend I refused and woudnt for him my phone at night so when they came back my dad took my phone for a week. (I'm on my computer) She's brainwashing him. What do I do??????

But don't want anything to do with the mother.

My siblings spread lies about me. I blocked them and they are now contacting my husband to trash my name. My father is now attacking me as well. What hurts the most is that my siblings have succeeded into making everyone forget all the progress i am making. Why would they do this? Especially my brother who is older than me and is also married with a kid. To give a few examples; my brother is telling everyone that i am a drug addict, when I was diagnosed with ADHD a year ago and counseling and medication has helped me get back in college after dropping out for years. I sent my father my entire savings to get him out of a bad situation, but my brother said that the money came all from husband so instead of seeing that i did a good thing they're now trying to figure out who helped me with the money. My brother is saying that I am back in school because my husband helps (as he should) and that him and my sister didn't get any help. So now everyone is focused on this as opposed to the fact that I am back in school. I helped my sister financially while she was not working and my brother calls me screaming that I should have had her live with me and my husband. My father is now calling me to tell me that I getting so much help with everything and i should admit that the money i gave him came from my husband. These people have spent my childhood telling me that I am an idiot and a whore. Today I am back in school and married and i am still an idiot whore who is now getting help.

I am 19 years old and a freshman in college. Embarrassingly, I am still living at home. I am unable to get a job. All summer, I desperately applied everywhere I could think of. I even applied to work at my university for a work-study program. Rejected or ignored every time. I applied for at least 40 or so jobs. I cannot move out, obviously, because I have no money to support myself, hence the reason I was unable to afford a dorm. It's already extremely pathetic for someone of my age to be stuck to my parents like a lost puppy, but we are always arguing. I can't decorate my room the way I want to. I can't go where I want to go when I want to. I don't even have my own car. I can't buy the clothes I like because my parents don't like it. It's driving me insane. Whenever I ask them to go to the store or get something, they start screaming uncontrollably. They take my things away like a child. What should I do?! I am an adult and deserve the proper amount of freedom. I am so sick of them babying and monitoring me. They are so negative; my mom is always screaming about how much she hates her life because I'm in it. Why? Just because I talk to her or say I want to get something. She's yelling right now. I want to get out of here more than anything. I hate this life I'm ready to rip my hair out if someone doesn't give me a job. I hate my mother so much. She's calling me a ***** right now just because I want to run by the store tomorrow and apparently I'm not allowed.

Im in an online college and he wont let me go cuz im a girl

I have a bad mom but am not bad myself.

The uncle is out of rehab and sober but grouchier then ever.