I asked a question about this before but I felt more info needed to be added and updated. I'm 30 and my husband is 36. He has schizoeffective disorder, rheumatoid arthritis, COPD, degenerative spine disease, and a slew of other issues causing him to be unable to have sex most of the time and when we do its terrible. I started reconnecting with an ex a week ago and actually met up with him tonight with the intention of having sex. I just kept talking. I couldn't even bring myself to kiss him. I shouldn't feel this way. My husband has cheated on me when we were younger and was a emotionally abusive, controlling ***. Why is this so hard? I don't want to leave him and him not have anyone to care for him. I love him and always will but I want to have my life :-(.

My husband and some of his friends are going on a guys trip somewhere. So his friends wives and I decided to go on a weekend trip too since they were all going to be away it seemed like the perfect time. And then all the husbands made a HUGE deal about how we aren t allowed to come to the same city they are going to be in on our trip, which we weren t even planning on doing anyway. But after telling us we aren t allowed to go there, me and one of the other girls decided we want to go there just to pay them back for being such jerks and not even tell them we are planning on going there. We just want to go there and do our own thing and not try to run into them but if we do then we will just tell them they shouldn t have told us we weren t allowed to come and we never would have. Is this unreasonable or not. Every time the subject comes up they say the same thing and it is so irritating that we just want to go so next time they don t act like such idiots.

I briefly dated him 15 years ago. He seemed charming at first but over time I gradually felt that he was attempting to mooch and live off of me with no willingness to work or to contribute any income whatsoever. I was naive, giving him the benefit of the doubt and yet he became increasingly verbally and financially abusive. Eventually he got me pregnant by "playing" with me, and then when I told him, he categorically denied not knowing how it happened and then said he wanted an abortion. Eventually, I kicked him out, and he threatened to physically hurt me if I didn't continue to financially support him. The police later took him away and he never properly followed up on my pregnancy ever since. Recently, I located him on facebook and called him out on abandoning his child, and he said he never knew he had a child by me, declaring "he was never informed" despite that I told him at least 5 or 6 times and that he told me to get an abortion like I said. He added, "No one ever looked for me," as another excuse. It's only now, after he got to skip 15 years of child support, that he's now interested in reuniting with his son, who is 14 now; he seems to believe he can now waltz back into our kid's life despite the magnitude of all he's said and done. So just wondering if aside from the possibility that he's severely mentally retarded, if he really has a valid reason for not knowing he had a child by me all these years, if his rationale in neglecting his kid is legitimate.

Our daughter was born before we got married. Her dad IS on the birth certificate. We got married and are now getting divorced. I want full custody for a number of reasons I can't go into right now. How would custody work since she was born BEFORE the marriage?

Now we have been together for 3 years. Married two. We had a huge thing with my ex taking me to court, manipulating, starting stuff.. all kinds of drama... He stayed.. saving drained and all. I came into this relationship broken. (Stayed 10 years with the ex) jobless, no education, confised on life... Now education, have a job.and taking control of what I need to do. But my husband is so controling about everything. He's OCD, speaks his mind no matter how it sounds. Doesn't care of he hurts people feelings. Everything I do is wrong. From the house. To the kids, to how I speak to my ex or deal with parents and my love of animals. Today we argued because my son failed a test. They went to their dads Friday so I didn't ground him was waiting till he came back.. apparently I was wrong for that. I should have grounded himright then. Once we argued about me leaving a shampoo bottle on the tub floor rather than putting it up, or a rag I left in the sink too long, once we argued cause I got up at 630 am with my three year old.. when I shouldn't cause I'm the parent I should determine when he got up.. now I know I'm not perfect. I don't get mad often, I slack sometimes but even when I slack my house is freaking clean. I just don't want to be wrong for the rest of my life. He knows all this and how I feel about it. The only time I'm right is when it's done his way. Now if we divorce I'm a single mom of two with a 900 income.. that's 11.50 working 36 hours a week.. he has me getting all the insurance the hospital offer so plus taxes 500$ is taken from my check.. just ranting. We've tried therapy. B

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My company offered me a job opportunity in Brazil with a promotion and a raise. It's a great chance. I'd be a fool to waste it. My wife doesn't want to go with me. She wants to stay and she expects me to turn down the offer. I want to propose something. I go to Brazil and she stays. Like that everyone is happy.

My stepmother is one of the nicest people ever to me and my brother. She helps me with homework, never calls me names or yells at me, cares about me, buys me nice things, takes me to the movies and is very nice. My mom and dad have never been married. My dad did cheat on my mom with my stepmother but I was not affected by it as I thought I would be. I know they ended up together in a way that's not morally acceptable, but they have been married almost six years. So my mom is even more bitter about that. My mom has a new boyfriend too. Well my mom kicked my brother and I out because her boyfriend doesn't like us. My dad and stepmother welcomed us of course. My mom started calling me horrible names, blaming us for the breakup with my dad, hitting me, telling me that she needs space and being mean. I was really hurt by it. I am a bit sensitive and I do love my mom. When I come back in from school, my stepmother always cooks and asks us how our day was. My mom never cooked much and fed us quick cooked or frozen, unhealthy food. My mom doesn't work and receives public assistance. When she does work, she quits after a few months. My dad still pays her child support but she gives us a small portion to spend for allowance and uses the rest on her loser boyfriend. At a point, she stopped giving us an allowance. My stepmother is a police officer and gave my brother and I much more than my mom does. My dad shares joint custody with my mom, so we split in btwn homes. Am I wrong??

The man I dated for two weeks lied about being single (therefore, obviously cheated on his girlfriend with me), belittled my looks in a passive-aggressive manner, spoke about hot women all the time, confessed to punching his ex-gf once, used "gaslighting" tactics on me, and swore up and down that he didn't lie about his relationship status. He admitted that he's crazy and most girls don't like him. I was always a nice/cool/respectful person with this guy. 1. Do you believe he treats his girlfriend this way too? If so, what makes someone tolerate this? 2. Do you believe this behavior jumps into other areas of his life (e.g. work)? At times, I believe it was something I did/said to be viewed as something other than a human being with feelings and that he treats his girlfriend, for example, better. Then again, no good person switches to being a monster especially with a person who didn't do anything bad to them.

My husband is at a football game tonight. We live about 2 hours away, so he won't get home until about 2 or 3 am. He asked his boss to go in a bit later, but they need him at the job site for 6:30; he has to leave our house at 6. I am really worried he will be too tired to go to work! I want him to call in sick but he said he is a grown man and has a responsibility to his job. He said maybe he can take a nap on the car ride home, or maybe they will leave the game early. I am really worried about him being too tired to drive. Am I over reacting? He didn't drive into the game....his friend did, but he drove to his friend's house. So he has to drive after the game. I don't even know why I ask a question when people assume things such as he is partying. Please answer the question I asked and don't insert opinions you think you know to be true. He is watching a football game. They got amazing seats for free from someone they know. He never goes to these things, so this was a special opportunity. I am worried about the lack of sleep he will have. He goes to bed around 8ish or 9 each night, and is up around 5....this will be unusual for him.

I'm just curious about experience and some advice would be nice... Thank You!

My wife refuses to work. She takes all of my money and treats me like ****. Im at a low point and very depressed. I cant afford a divorce. What should I do?

I asked for the divorce and I know it was the right choice for the both of us. He's moved out and we are in the process of getting everything finalized. I'm depressed and it's impacted my sleep, eating, performance at work. I'm lonely. Is this normal after going through a divorce? We got married young he was 19 I was 20. I'm now 29. I know I made the right decision but why am I still sad?

They're identical twins and we together with the twin sister since we got married. They all take care of me like I'm married to both... of course they're limits with the twin sister. Coz of the closeness of the twin sister to both of us, I'm developing strong feels for her too. What should I do?

Me and my husband have two kids we have a 8 year old son and a 3 year old daughter. I used to do coke but I quit when I wanted us to have a second child. I told my husband multiple time how I feel about his drug use and he just ignores it. He doesn't do it around our kids. But he's almost always high around them. I tried getting him help in the past but he quit after a week. How can I stop his drug use

He almost died 2 months ago and since has got very clingy...idk what to do i don't like it

I discovered that my husband was having an affair five months ago. When I confronted him about it, he confessed, and we've been working through it in the best way that we can. We're technically separated right now, and I'm not ready to forgive him but I also don't think I'm ready to divorce him. I asked for some space and we've only been talking again for about two weeks now. I asked him who he was having an affair with and he admitted that it was one of his former students. My husband is a 12th grade English teacher, so admittedly I was concerned. The girl in question is actually a student I'd met twice while visiting him for lunch, but I clearly never thought to be concerned about it. She's 19 now and the affair happened while she was 18, but still. It was technically legal but I feel so gross even knowing about it. I can't be the only person who thinks this might be considered statutory rpe. I think it's definitely made me lean towards a divorce but I have no idea what to do here. Any advice is greatly appreciated. @myfavoritelucy I think maybe you misunderstood? I know that their relationship was consensual (at least, he says it was) and she was 18 the whole time so that's not the issue. I was talking more about the obvious age difference/the power imbalance he had over her as a teacher. She was 18 and he was 31 at the time. I would never accuse him of rape but the fact that she was his student definitely gave me a sense of unease. I'm only asking if the age factor would change things for anyone else.

Me and my husband have been married for two years. We barely fight, still have a lot of passion, and are in a very healthy stage in our marriage. We are both white. That might've seemed random, but it is relevant. A few days ago, I was looking for an article I had seen on our laptop and stumbled upon a bunch of porn. I don't think men watching porn is a big deal, so I just laughed it off at first. But I got curious and read the titles and noticed that they all had things like "chocolate", "ebony", "black girl", "black butt" etc.. All things clearly fetishising black women. This made me feel a bit confused, as I am none of those things, and, although it may be presumptuous of me to jump to this, his girlfriend before me and him became romantic was a black woman and he has a black, female assistant who he interacts with on a daily basis. Should I ask him about it? I have no real reason to believe he is cheating and he has never hinted at being sexually frustrated, but I suppose he could simply be hiding it. I don't have many friends and this is a bit embarrassing, so I thought I could get advice anonymously here.

on other documents such as SS, passport, license, etc.? Or can I take that document years from now and change my name to the new name later? Basically, if I state on my marriage certificate that I will change my name, do I need to have that reflected everywhere else right away? How will this affect insurance, taxes, etc? Ideally I would like to change my name years from now when children come into the picture, till then I would like to keep my maiden name. All the while combining taxes and insurance with my future husband. And avoid having to go a legal name change through the court later and spend much more money. So can we act as a married couple on things such as insurance and taxes even when I don't use my "new" name on the certificate or will I not be considered married on documents till I use my new name? I am in California by the way. Will I not be able to "take advantage" on the benefits that come with getting married until all of my documents reflect my new name? or Can I be in sort of a limbo where we are married but my name has not been changed everywhere all the while having my certificate show my "new name"

My husband and I have two children together 2 and 1 years old.I have tried to convince him to let me work,but he will not change his mind.I have a very close girlfriend of mine that is trustworthy,and reliable that can watch our boys while I work,but he still refuses.He is very adamant that I stay home and just be a stay at home mom.Now don't get me wrong I love my kids,but I feel like I have no identity anymore.I been suffering in silence with anxiety and depression and I feel like I'm about to have a nervous breakdown.He thinks I just want to be away from the kids,but that's not it.I just want to work and help contribute since he struggles sometimes with the bills.He also has a close friend that had a wife that was cheating on him and lying about being at work,but was really seeing other guys.I just keep thinking that maybe he thinks I'm trying to do the same thing.I am not trying to cheating on him,I just want to help and have an identity again. 😞😞

Is it wrong of me to think that any woman who has had sex with my husband has no place in his family's (Mom and/or sister) life anymore? Am I wrong to find this highly disrespectful (being his wife and the mother of his child)? What's worse is that I've made it clear that it hurts my feelings, but they don't want to offend the other woman by ceasing their contact. Now that they've shown that they don't have any intention on respecting my wishes, I feel like they care more about other people's feelings than someone that is supposed to be treated like their family. I'm very hurry by this.

My husband works as an English teacher at a high school and I recently applied for a position as counselor at the same school. I haven't worked since our son was born but I want to, and I have all of the credentials and didn't really see a problem with it, but when I told my husband he was upset. He seems convinced that working together will "ruin our marriage" though our relationship has been rocky recently and I feel that if anything it will improve. It's not like we'll be seeing each other much during the schoolday, if at all, but he's still angry about it. Part of me feels like maybe he's hiding something, or maybe I'm just being paranoid and working together isn't really a good idea. Does anyone have any experience with this? Is it good idea to accept the job if I do get it?

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