Family: Question: How hard should I beat my wife?

Question: How hard should I beat my wife?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 02:18 PM PDT

Me and my wife are about to go to the bowling alley. I am a much better bowler than she is. What should I do?

Question: My Dad lies to my Mom and recently had me lie to her and has done so before. Do I confront him?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 02:13 PM PDT

He is an arrogant liar.

Question: My MIL and SIL never answer the phone when I call, but then give me an attitude if they don't hear from me. What should I do?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 02:11 PM PDT

My SIL generally has a good reason, as she has 3 kids, but it is still strange to me that she never calls me unless I call her. My MIL never calls anyone. It's just her MO. But she rarely even answers when I call her. Then they both expect me to show up to places (20-30 min from my home plus traffic usually), like weekly family dinner and visits at the retirement home of my FIL, when I have absolute silence on their end. For example, my husband's aunt had a small ladies brunch and sent a group text. I didnt recognize most #s on the text so I called MIL and SIL to see if they were going. No response. So I didn't go. Then I get an attitude from MIL about why didn't I go. I feel horrible now. The same with weekly dinners.. my SIL has things come up and they don't happen sometimes. So i always try to call and text before. If i dont get a response, i dont go.. but then they make me feel bad, like i flaked. My husband works a lot so ihave to go to almost everything alone. It's making me really insecure like I'm not doing enough. I just need general advice please.

Question: Stepdaughter says wildly racist things at the dinner table in front of biracial brother...should I intervene?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 01:59 PM PDT

I've usually left the discipline of my stepchildren to their mother. However, lately Ive noticed my stepdaughter has started saying wildly racist things at the dinner table. This is even worse then you would think, because her little brother is biracial. She is clearly doing it for attention, so I mostly ignore her. My concern is that this will hurt the feelings of her brother. Should I start scolding her when she does this, to show my stepson that I don't agree/approve? Or just ignore it as I have been.

Question: Last weekend I was grounded cause my aunt was in town and my parents didn't want me to see her. How do I make up for the bad memory?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 01:57 PM PDT

How do I make up for the bad memory this weekend? My parents frequently use me to get their enemies back so it was my aunt they hate this year and wanted me to not go to my grandmother's where the aunt was. As a result I couldn't go anywhere and then had to leave town with my parents and siblings for the day Sunday and drive 4 hours in case our grandmother came by. My parents have obsessive grudges though this aunt they hate is just as bad as they are. Both playing the same game. How do I make up for the bad weekend last weekend where my parents put their hate onto me.

Question: My parents fought constantly when I was growing up and now I fear any day I will be in danger of conflict or rejection. What do I do?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 01:53 PM PDT

My parents divorced but still clashed daily and my sisters and I were the pawn they used to get each other back. Both parents deny they did this and blame me.

Question: My Mom lies and covers up for my brother. How do I get someone to point out she is an enabler?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 01:50 PM PDT

Question: I have an evil sister. Why do my parents think I have to like her?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 01:49 PM PDT

Question: My mom won't let me spend my own money?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 01:26 PM PDT

I'm 19, in college and I work part time. I work from 1:30am to 9am monday-saturday, mon-thursday after work I go to school at 10:20am and after I go to the gym. I keep to myself because by the time I get home from the gym im exhausted. I bought this exhaust for my car and I had it shipped to my house. When It came my mom saw it and freaked and told me I wasn't going to put it on my car because it was gonna attract cops and I was gonna waste money on my car and stuff like that. I feel it's unfair for her to say that because I work hard everyday from 1am to 9 am and then go to college which I pay, and I have car insurance which I pay for the car I bought with my own money. The only thing I don't pay for is rent but we agreed as long as i went to school i woudnt pay rent. Then she brings up my brother and his past with the law having tp do with his car being too loud (my brothers a car enthusiast).i have a steady income and have a savings account which half of my check goes to so it's not like I'm wasting money left and right. Do you think she has a point or should I stand up for myself?

Question: Shouldn't my mom know about this?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 12:44 PM PDT

I am a guy in high school. My step mom Lisa is just 5 years older than I am. Dad married a much younger woman. She is also VERY beautiful and has a great figure. I guess dad just likes beautiful women. Lisa is a great step mom and I really like her. She will sometimes tell me "I am going skinny dipping in the pool". "Don't watch me out the window". Every guy reading this knows what I did when she does this. Something will come up and I have to take care of it. I think the next time she goes skinny dipping, I will ask her if I can join her. Don't you think it is important that a mother know her son is well hung just like his dad?

Question: My mom doesn t want to teach me to drive, what can I do?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 11:23 AM PDT

She had my dad teach my brother in the family car but she doesn t want to do that with me. It kinda hurts, she says its because of my ADHD, nevermind I m on medication that fully controls it. I am already scared to drive but her doubt scares me and hurts. I always try to believe despite my disability I can do anything but its hard to believe that when the person who tells me that I should believe that doesn t believe I can drive without crashing.

Question: Losing 2 grandparents plus my sister please help..?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 10:58 AM PDT

I lost my grandma and my grandpa this year 3 months apart. My sister went to jail.. A day after my grandma died and i don't know if i got like depression or ptsd but everytime i see something that reminds me of them i try and brush it off and everytime i hear that someone died or a funeral makes me nervous and my sister used to SCREAM all the time at me so now everytime someone yells at me or blames me it hurts... And i wanna cry when they do. Please help i need help asap..

Question: How to convince my dad to use medical marijuana?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 09:38 AM PDT

my dads leg has been in horrible pain for months, he's tried massage therapy, creams, so much stuff and nothing really helps. i want to suggest medical marijuana because it would be worth it to try and i know it's helped a lot of people with pain but he's very against marijuana and he has a conservative outlook on it if you know what i mean. how should i go about suggesting this, if i should at all?

Question: How do I make myself invisible?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 08:46 AM PDT

I don't wanna be a scared little boy no more. I want to be invisible calm and collected.

Question: My mom wont let me have my own opinion?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 08:04 AM PDT

So, I'm 13, which means you probably won't take me seriously but oh well. So today i was about to get some breakfast and i was going to put some apple butter on a slice of bread. So, i never really eat anything on bread and in my house we have 2 different types of bread. So i asked my mom "mom what type of bread do i eat?" and my mom said "it doesnt matter eat the one that's sitting out or in the freezer" and i said "why is there bread in the freezer?" mom said "to keep it from molding" then i said "do you mean you put it in the freezer because it started molding?" and since i was really tired out of nowhere i said "eww thats disgusting, im gonna eat the bread thats not frozen" and instead of my mom having a normal reaction she went hysterical on me. She started yelling, calling me ungrateful, and said shes teaching me how to live. Then I said "woah mom why are you so mad?" And she said "because you of you!!" Then I said "what? All I did was choose to eat the other bread" then she said "give me your phone you're grounded. Then I said "so I can 't have an opinion? And then all she said was "you should be ashamed" and I said " mom I don't know why this upset you, I'm sorry." Then all she said was "you're grounded. how do i get my mom to understand i have an opinion?

Question: Got a package not belong to my family delivered to my house, waht to do?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 07:20 AM PDT

Question: Why does my mother feel the need to make herself known to any woman that seems to be interested in me or that I seem to be interested in?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 06:21 AM PDT

P.S. I am 26 year old, live on my own. She says she doesn't poke around in my business but actions speak louder than words. I was getting close to a girl at the hair salon and "poof" she has now started to go to that hair salon.

Question: Who is in the wrong?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 05:35 AM PDT

My kids refuse to get a job or go anywhere just because they won't walk 15 miles(5 hours) to get to town and 15 back and because there aren't any side walks or places to walk and because they both refuse to walk in the middle of the street with cars why do my kids abuse me like this. All I did was like them(18,19) both up until they were 2 and 3, at 2 and 3 I started yelling and hitting them my wife would not let me put them up for adoption. I never taught either how to drive at 15 and 16 and I do not plan on teaching them, do not plan on driving them to get a job and do not plan on getting them road bicycles. I ripped up both of their birth certificate and ssn's and I had them in online school for 9 years. I stopped liking them at 2 and 3 why did my wife abuse me by refusing to let us put them up for adoption when they were very young? I have not wanted them for 16 years don't you think this is abuse to me? We do not live near a bus as it is 30 miles in the city from us.

Question: I have a heavy cloud over my head because my family doesn’t really help us out with the kids or see them much. My wife’s family does.?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 05:04 AM PDT

Her family is always there to watch them when we need it. They will watch them overnight and during the day to give us time to go out with friends. My family hasn't offered. Not sure what I should do, but it makes me feel really bad and embarrassed. I want to be able to do things every now and then with my wife, but we cannot as my parents do not help. Thoughts?

Question: Why do my parents create this pointless drama?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 04:10 AM PDT

They became so annoying whats their problem?? So i'm living by myself for two years, I am 23, I have my own job, own money, own car, own home and am a independent grown up now. I met this wonderful man about three months ago and we started dating and going out, we begin to start a serious relationship and we will see what the future will bring. But my parents started to create all the drama when they found out, its because he is 42. I try to explain them every time how age is just a number and that he's a wonderful man unlike most immature dudes my age who only want one thing. I tell them that they should stop treating me like a child cause i'm grown up now and can date whoever I want but they still keep going, I get so tired of them. How can I convince them that it isnt bad and that they should accept and respect our relationship? Is it normal that they react this way? I find it idiotic creating all the pointless drama for nothing, its not like we are gonna marry or have kids or something. We just want to have fun so whats the problem?

Question: Is it weird if gay men kiss their sons on the mouth?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 03:34 AM PDT

Would it be weird if two gay men kissed their children on the mouth?

Question: My Grandma is Mean to Me help?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 01:50 AM PDT

She's a Control freak but she's very nice to my mom but she's mean to me. Stresses me out. She was mean to my mom for a year but she stopped to my mom. I'm an adult but she's mean and demanding. I hate her she's not like other ordinary grandmas. I can't move out until a year and a half. What should I do?

Question: My mum won't give me any privacy?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 01:42 AM PDT

I hate it when she checks my messages so that;s why I turn my notifications off.I'm not hiding anything bad i just text my friends about things like movies,guys,gossip not anything inappropriate.Whenever i have a celebrity which is a male around the the teen ages like for example jacob sartorius,she goes and asks who is that,you shouldn't be talking to guys.i mean i'm just a fan I'm just supporting them.i mean she is my mum and mothers have the right to check everything but parents do have to give privacy to their child.She always stalks me on instagram because she always says to me who is that person ur following on instagram and stuff but i cant block her and make a new account because someone how she always finds it. I do have passwords but she also asks me for the password,if I don't she gets very mad

Question: How does it feel becoming a mother in law?

Posted: 27 Oct 2017 12:50 AM PDT

I would like to know how it feels becoming a mother in law. There have been some misunderstandings with my mother in law,though we have overcome them, I see that she wants to be more possessive of her sons and she probably misses being the queen of their lives. It makes me want to understand her more. Is it really so hard seeing your children married off? thanks

Question: I’m stubborn and my parents hate me. Idk what to do with my life?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 10:06 PM PDT

I'm 17 years old and in my last year of high school. I've done a lot of bad things in my life that made my parents lose trust in me but today was terrible. I smoke a lot of weed and my parents have caught me, even though I still do. I've snuck out of my house multiple times too and been caught terrible by my parents and I still do it. I never learn from my mistakes and it's so bad. Well, today I snuck out and 5 minutes after I left, my mom txted me and i told her I was going to the 7/11 across the street, and she told me to come back. Wasn't angry or anything.. but as always, my stubborn a** left through my window... i Had a feeling that i could get caught, but i always do it anyway. Well my dad called and lashed out on me after finding out I left through the window and said that if I **** up one more time it's over. And my mom told me she feels disappointed as a mother and thinks she's a failure for raising me so bad & she basically hates me. I have no job either and i'm in debt 4,000 for something i did. I feel my life is coming to shambles and I want to die so bad already. I need help Idk what to do...

Question: Is moving back home with parents for a couple years a bad idea? (I am 23 years old)?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 09:17 PM PDT

I graduated college last year and am 23 years old. I live in indiana and moved to chicago and i do not like it as much as i thought i would. Im not as happy and I love indiana (all my friends and family live there). I am going to be moving back home once I hit a year with my current company and live with my parents while I have a job downtown Indianapolis. So I would be saving so much more money as I spend just $1600 a month on rent in chicago. What do you guys think?

Question: When should I tell my 2 year old that his sister died three years ago?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 09:13 PM PDT

My daughter was 12 when she committed suicide after getting repeatedly sexually abused by a college boy in 2015. We gave birth to our son later on so they never met. He asked who she was when he saw some pictures with her in them. Our son is not old enough to know about such serious topics! One question will lead to another. She would've been 15 by now. I often wonder what she'd be like today and what she would look like.

Question: Should i call cps? i am scared of what will happen if the do come over?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 09:03 PM PDT

i am not feeling safe at home and no i am not abused and it feels like my parents are just ignoring me or make jokes that make everything seem like its my fault and i just want to run plus my dad and mom hardly talk to me my mom says hows school? are you ok? and dinner is ready plus i tried to talk about it and my mom lashed like i was in the wrong plus it is stuff happens and for two weeks i went without seeing a doctor then three weeks before we learned about my blood pressure drops. i feel safest in a forest and a bit safer at school. so should i or should i not? btw i am 16 and it feels like my parents focus on my brothers more or the dogs and i talk to them they pick their head up look at me and say nothing and act like they can hear me at times when they can i even yell sometimes and get ignored Should i call cps? i am scared of what will happen if the do come over.

Question: Why is my parents don't take me serious when I tell them how I feel and that?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 08:17 PM PDT

I'm 24 year old female. I live with my parents because my dad wanted me too. So I moved it. I'm in Certified Family Housing and they are my care givers. But when my dog dies sometime when I'm in my 30s I will kill myself. I have told my parents but they don't take me seriously. Like when I tell them when they do something wrong they say something like I do it too and they will deny it. It seems like they just don't care. What should I do? Not matter what I say it doesn't work.

Question: I feel not wanted and somewhat hated at home. I need to know how I can get out of this mess.?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 08:16 PM PDT

Hello I am 20 years old, a single father with nowhere else to go. I live with my parents and they have money issues, the mother of my child left him with us almost a year ago so she could go do drugs, when she did I was on my way to getting a job but had to cancel in order to take care of him. Well, fast forward to today, nothing I do is good enough, I am yelled at every day. I ll explain, I raise my son the way I want to raise him because he is my son, I am told how to raise my son all the time, I am not the most talkative person but I talk to him to try and get him to learn words, I don t talk enough apparently. I am the one who changes diapers, feeds him, bathes him, and is with him most of the time but yet I do nothing at all. If I don t do it, who does? Well anyway, I m jobless because I am a full time dad and I m fine with that for now but where I am is destroying me as a person. I need to know how to get out of this horrible place, it s eating me alive having to take **** every day and be the scapegoat for their money issues and I can t say anything or I m on the street or worse. I don t know anyone who has been remotely close to my situation and I have no one, is it possible to get out of this without giving up my son? I want a job and a house and my own car but I got a stupid ***** pregnant when I was 18 because I was a moron.

Question: My maid shouting and screaming at my mum in her own house? Acceptable?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 07:59 PM PDT

So my sister who is 2 really struggles to sleep at night, so my mum warn everyone in the house not to make any noise because she wakes up really easily and doesn't sleep till very late. She also has a lot of health conditions and my poor mother has been getting merely 3 hours of sleep a night for two years. So basically, yesterday night at around 11, 2 hours after everyone had slept, she came into their room to gather the clothes for the laundry. My sister woke up due to the noise and my mum got quite angry, but she was just really annoyed when she told her and the maid started screaming saying oh you shouldn't even have a maid etc, REALLY loudly I'm not exaggerating. Like she had all day to do it. In the afternoon, my sister sleeps for 3 hours, and the maid demands for another hours worth of rest so whycan't she just rest in those 3 hours? It's happened a few times where she just doesn't like us telling her what to do, but dude that's your job?! Thanks for anyone who actually offers good advice.

Question: Who do I tell?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 07:52 PM PDT

I'm honestly really suicidal and my parents make it so much worse... first off my mom is a complete ***** she calls me a slut, she tells me go kill myself, she hits me, and she has literally thrown me out of the car like 10 times on the highway, I have told my dad I want to kill myself and all he says is if you ever say that again your going to reform school... but I'm actually suicidal and I need help. What should I do?

Question: Should I be concerned if my neighbors let their 11 year old daughter sexualize herself and “impress” high school boys?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 07:41 PM PDT

Their 11 year old uses sexual words to describe herself and wears very age-inappropriate clothes. Her school doesn't have dress codes. She is always hanging around with 17 year old boys and talks about losing her virginity, explicit pictures, and attempts to "date" high school kids. I'm worried that one of those boys will actually take advantage of her. She makes herself seem more vulnerable. I think the girl makes certain decisions to make herself "attractive" to young men. Her parents don't seem to be concerned about her inappropriate behaviour.

Question: What are your favorite Christmas traditions?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 07:35 PM PDT

Question: I'm dreading the pain of the Thanksgiving holiday when I am not welcome with family but everyone else is. Got confirmation today, what to do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 07:32 PM PDT

How do I cope at Thanksgiving knowing the whole family is together and I am not good enough to go cause my Mom was unfaithful to the family years back? I feel I suck.

Question: Would you still love your mom if she had an affair with a inmate in prison while married to your dad?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 06:48 PM PDT

Let's say your mother always had s thing for prison inmates and she starts flirting with a man who went to jail for killing a small child and selling drugs. Your mom is trying to bail him out of prison and says how amazing and smart this dude is. She says she wants to have this guy's kid. She tells your dad that he's stupid, worthless and gay. She also goes on rants about how worthless and ugly you are and how you got your looks from your ugly, worthless father. If this was your mom would you love her?

Question: Why is my family so sexually repressed?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 06:32 PM PDT

I'm the only person in my family that talks about sex. I'm also the most promiscuous person in my family despite 2 women in my direct family getting pregnant as teenagers I've never have had any issues probably because I don't view sex as shameful and dirty. I'm not afriad to go to a doctor about anything sex related.

Question: My girlfriend broke up with me for someone else who makes her feel good enough?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 05:37 PM PDT

My girlfriend moved 4 hours away. She lives close to family. (They are all with in 10 mins from her) There is this guy who she met that lives about 5 doors down. They became good friends. Today she broke up with me to be with him..she said she never feels good enough for me, because of stupid things I said in the past she can't get over, and sex. She got into head somehow that I care about sex to much. She said sex makes me lover her more, and more sex means more love. All I ever wanted was a little more. Apparently this guy was never asked her sex, and I knew he was interested in her. He was always helping fix her car, helping her bring in groceries if he saw her. He even helped her put in a dishwasher. He brought her his " mom's soup " when she was sick. He's "a good guy" and apparently he has a good job. His dad own a some kind of Home Remodeling Company. He works with his dad, two sisters, and cousin's. It's family that all works together... I don't even know how to feel.

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 05:32 PM PDT

I found out I'm recently pregnant and I'm only recently 20 years old and my boyfriend is 21. I live with my parents and he lives with his mom. I have a low paying job and he has an okay job and is joining the military hopefully soon. He doesn't have a car and he never for some reason doesn't have money even thought he gets paid weekly. I haven't told my parents and they believe he just uses me for money. I don't know what to do... or how to tell them.

Question: Am I a bad daughter?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 05:28 PM PDT

I can't remember the last time I said " I love you " to my parents, they would never complain about it and I would never know how they feel about me. I think I'm a bad daughter cause I've been such a failure all my life, always losing, always crying about my insecurities, my problems and my uselessly, I didn't change...I'm still the same stupid girl except I'm older now. I don't have words to describe how miserable my life has been all these years I stopped talking with them, I don't have them by my side anymore and I see myself as a little girl who cries and wines about being lonely without her parents to comfort her when she thinks she's useless and her life doesn't make any sense. Now, all is gone and I can't fix it no matter how much I try because they're not here... And I still cry

Question: I think my stepdad ruined my moms life and my mine and my siblings. Any opinions to help change things?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 05:17 PM PDT

So i wont talk about my sibling or my relationship with him. Basically i feel sorry for my mom, all she does is wake up at 5:30 am to go to work, comes back at 5:00pm gets home cooks for my stepdad that comes at 6:00, she literally rushes to cook for him. (I know that's most people's schedule of there life) but she's blind to see how much it's wasting her life she's been doingg this s*** for more than 30+ fu***** years. Nothing has changed, she's been in the same f ing job for half of her life cause my stepdad put in her mind she wont find another one. We never go out to eat, go for walks to the park, go to the movies, go to the mall ect... He fu***** makes us stay home cause he doesn't wanna spend money or cant find a parking but anyway keep in mind he's been doing this since i was 4 we went to places but it was very rare. After my mom cooks they watch tv for a bit then they shower and sleep. It's so depressing especially we she can't see it herself. It also has affected my life aswell i feel trapped, bored, depressed, all he cares about is work and everyone should work that all he has in his mind im sick and tired of it i tried talking to my mom but she doesn't seem to bother to change anything knowing she can have such a better life if she went to go live where my uncle lives in another state. The only option i have left is to go where my uncle lives and live with one of her good friends over there, should i do? it I feel bad leaving her behind cause she loves alot

Question: Help, I am being abused by my younger sister?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 03:33 PM PDT

I'm 18, she's 11. I am 5'2 and she's 5'2. She's just as big as me. I want to be nice, kind and loving too her. The nicer I am the worst I get treated. She made me wet myself. ( this isn't a joke) one day I really had to use the bathroom one day and she noticed I was wearing her panties. We got into a argument and a short fight. I had a accident. One morning before school she punched me in the stomach and made me piss myself. It's gotten worse. She hit me, kicked me and made me wash my hands. In the bathroom she walked in on me washing my hands. She grabs the soap, dumps a bunch on my hands .... when I told her to stop, she grabbed my arms, singled her finger nails into it. It's painful I don't fight her, I don't want too, and I don't know what to do. I want to make her happy and be a good sibling. I wanted to treat her better because I used to be mean to her. But I wouldn't physically abuse her. This doesn't make any sense. What do I do?

Question: Giving my college refund check to my parents?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 03:33 PM PDT

My parents never helped me with anything th first semester of college. I will take my refund check for this semester and my mom keeps asking me what will I do with it. I got so mad when she asked me that. It's none of her business. She said I should give it to her to pay bills, etc and I said no. She said I was cheap and that 'I don't need them anyway'. She keeps asking me when I'm going to spend the money and what will i do with them. I'm considering of giving the check to her just so she'll shut up and leave me alone.

Question: My dad works in Saudi Arabia, and I have to live here with him?? I m 18 but my parents don t believe in me being 18?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 03:12 PM PDT

My parents think me saying I m 18 is an excuse for me to do bad things, like my siblings did. When I say it s my life, they say "Okay, go, leave, we ll disown you though." Or "You re a girl, you re not supposed to be alone" I get that they love me but there s too much weight on my shoulders as the last remaining child, and the youngest. None of my siblings became successful, his first kids just want his money, and my sister got married and left, my brother is a delusional paranoid bipolar . I don t hate it here, but I m a free soul. I need nature around me, I need a place where I actually feel like I am able to breathe. They told me to finish my remaining courses of High School in order to go back and study in the U.S. Is there any way I can convince them to take me sooner? They re too stubborn, they don t understand that me being here is turning me insane. I feel like a bird trapped in a cookie jar, I just don t belong here. Any advice? Convincing techniques? Strong argumentation points?

Question: How long do i have when i withdraw from school to get back into one?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 03:00 PM PDT

Hi, I'm currently on my junior year of high school and I'm moving a few towns over, Since I'm the only child living with my parents. My parents are already getting a little old, they complain that they can't unpack/pack themselves and ask me all the time. They need my help, but why can't I just do it after school. Well they work when I come home from school making it almost impossible to move in. We only have a limited time of a 2 weeks to drive 1 1/2 hours one way and unpack/pack everything.

Question: My inlaws look down on me bc i didnt go to college ?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 02:33 PM PDT

They say they like my bil wife better because she has a college education and can do ao much better ? They look down on my husband too because he didnt go either . We both have jobs ,a car ,a duplex .i think that is something to be proud of but guess i'm wrong ?

Question: Need advice?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 02:18 PM PDT

I moved out of state to be with my girlfriend. We live at her moms house and she promised me that we would move back to my home state after she finishes this year out. But now she wants to stay another year here. Her dad just got arrested and will be in jail for awhile. Her mom depends on her daughter quite a bit and always asks for money. My girlfriend also has to be a mom to her brother who is 15. She said she's worried about her mom and her brother and that she needs to stay here another year to make sure they are okay. I can understand that part with her dad being in jail for assault. Not sure when he could get out but what should I do? I feel like I'm the only one making sacrifices. She told me she wanted me here to help her get out of this place with all the bad memories and now she's wanting to stay. I really do love this girl but not sure what to do anymore..

Question: My dad never lets me hang out with my friends!?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 02:08 PM PDT

My dad hates all my friends. He's always telling me that they're bad influences. Most of them are from my art class at school, and we're all into all types of art, including graffiti. None of us would ever do graffiti illegally, though; one of my friends' dad even lets us paint the side of their garage. But my dad is a cop, so the second he hears graffiti or sees spray paint, he goes berserk on me, and rants about how no child of his is ever going to break the law or do graffiti, so he never lets me go to my friend's house. He simply doesn't trust me, just because of one of my interests! What should I do? I'm never allowed to see my friends outside of school because of this!

Question: If you can't afford to pay for your child's education, why didn't you get a better job or better yet why have children?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 01:27 PM PDT

Question: I'm 16 years old and I go to college I have my high school diploma but I don't want to go to college anymore?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 01:20 PM PDT

I have been going for awhile and I hate it so much but my family has told everyone I go and how proud they are of me but I don't want to go anymore and I don't know how to tell them I don't know what I want to go to school for I just want a simple job save a lot of money and buy a place when I turn 18 and live like that I already have a car pleas somebody tell me what to do. I can't do this anymore and I'm going to feel like the biggest disappointment ever if I don't go

Question: How to deal with family struggle? Are my feelings justified?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 11:30 AM PDT

live with my mum and my Dad comes to visit every once a month for a week or so and though he is nice and the fights between him, my mum and I aren't causing me to be depressed and suicidal like it used to, since they are a lot less intense and I care less. I still get those feelings when he comes over. He loves us but mainly he shows it through doing favors and buying us things. He's nice but shallow and has depression. My mum becomes irritated every time he comes over and it's just unpleasant. My Dad is nice but he never actually pays attention to us socially only with favors. He wants the best for us and loves us but it's just hard to love him..

Question: My Dad / Divorced Parents?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 11:23 AM PDT

I live with my mum and my Dad comes to visit every once a month for a week or so and though he is nice and the fights between him, my mum and I aren't causing me to be depressed and suicidal anymore, I still get that way when he comes over. He loves us but mainly he shows it through doing favors and buying us things

Question: Was I wrong to be offended?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 11:21 AM PDT

Recently one of my best friends started hanging out with a woman that my ex cheated on me with. I didn't have a problem with him befriending her because I thought he was interested in dating her. Turns out my best friend had a get together that I wasn't invited to but he invited her. I guess when she mentioned that she was still having sex with my ex he decided to invite my ex over to his house as well so that him and her could hook up. I was deeply hurt and felt betrayed by friend. My friend didn't understand because he said well the two of you aren't together anymore so what's the big deal. I introduced my friend to my ex and he'd only hung out with him when I was around. He knew how I felt about him cheating on me with with woman. It's one of the reasons him and I broke up and that was only 2 months ago. Me and my friend had a big falling out about it because he told me I was being stupid for being upset. So now, we aren't speaking. All of my friend tell me that I had a right to feel the way that I did and he was being insensitive and selfish. Was I wrong to be offended by this?

Question: Why are parents allowed to hit their kids?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 11:16 AM PDT

It makes 0 sense. I've heard the argument that because kids aren't developed as a adults its ok. Imagine using that on other vulnerable populations, "oh my grandmother with Alzheimer doesnt process things like adults so i hit her with the belt." "I hit my brother with down syndrome because he doesn't process things well" With everyone else its obviously abuse. If a teenage son was to slap his mom or dad in the face he could be sent to prison for assault and battery. Other way around nobody cares.

Question: I think my parents are doing drugs, Help!!?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 11:16 AM PDT

I find small pieces of tinfoil randomly, I found a small bag of weed which isnt that big of a deal and I found a package of tinfoil and my parents are big cigarette smokers, i also unwrapped a piece of tinfoil and there was a brown residue that smelled like tobacco with a syringe next to it, maybe not related but I also found ghetto tinfoil pipes. does anyone know what the brown substance that smells like tobacco is?

Question: My controlling mom is visiting me in a few days. How can I get her to leave sooner?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 11:00 AM PDT

Question: My father refuses me to be independent, why?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 10:52 AM PDT

I'm 24 yes old and have high functional autism. Is he worried?

Question: Need some advice?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 10:37 AM PDT

I moved out of state to be with my girlfriend. We live at her moms house and she promised me that we would move back to my home state after she finishes this year out. But now she wants to stay another year here. Her dad just got arrested and will be in jail for awhile. Her mom depends on her daughter quite a bit and always asks for money. My girlfriend also has to be a mom to her brother who is 15. She said she's worried about her mom and her brother and that she needs to stay here another year to make sure they are okay. I can understand that part with her dad being in jail for assault. Not sure when he could get out but what should I do? I feel like I'm the only one making sacrifices. She told me she wanted me here to help her get out of this place with all the bad memories and now she's wanting to stay. I really do love this girl but not sure what to do anymore..

Question: My mom keeps taking my money, what should I do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 09:50 AM PDT

My mom literally lives off of welfare checks and expects me to, whenever my father gives me allowance, pay for our expenses here at home such as such as giving her money to go to the rent and other stuff. She always says she'll pay me back but she never does. All I really want to do is either save my money or spend it on stuff like books, clothes (she never buys them), etc. I'm 15 by the way. And she's the one who made my father start giving me allowance and now she's just asking me for it.I know this is making me sound selfish and spoiled but I'm not, I just want to have something of my own. I honestly don't know why my mom doesn't want to get a job. :/ How can I tell her in a nice way that I don't want to keep giving her money when I know she won't pay me back? She never listens to me and is very close-minded so I can never talk to her without her turning it into an argument.

Question: I have being holding my anger and hate for 2years or more and whenever i raise my voice my mom gets mad at me.?

Posted: 26 Oct 2017 09:49 AM PDT

and yet she always yells at me and i can never express my anger without getting yelled at. and she makes it worst for me all the time and she only thinks about herself and I m starting to dislike my mother and i hate it and its getting me more angry!!!!! help? how do become happy??