He can tell me all day about smoking. But I never hear convos about him trying to get his life together. Can spend money on Mary Jane but can t help pay a bill? I don t know what to do.

My natural hair is dark brown, but I have been dying it blonde for years now. My husband and I want to have our first child soon. While I am pregnant I don't want to dye my hair, because I don't want to risk harming the baby. I was planning on dying my hair to my natural dark brown before pregnancy, so that it will look consistent when my hair grows out. However, my husband has always only seen me with my blonde hair. I have brown eyes and I look very pretty with my blonde hair. Dying it back to dark brown, I am afraid my husband won't find me as attractive. Help.

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My husband and I are newlyweds. I normally hate peoples feet but because I love him sooo much I find his feet adorable! He has chubby feet with pink toes and he's a clean man so they aren't gross or anything and for some reason I just love grabbing his foot and all that. Because of this he thinks I have a fetish. I don't! There is NOTHING sexual about my love for his feet! How do I get him to realize that I just love him in general and think he has cute parts?

If you could spend a night, or a weekend, or even a week with anyone, a celebrity crush, a hot neighbor or coworker, anyone, and you knew that you would have a fantastic time filled with fun, romance, and mind blowing sex, AND you knew that your spouse would never find out, would you do it?

Babysitter. My husband is the one who works and we have even been together throughout his Army career (4 yrs) and we have been married for five yrs. I have been going absolutely stir crazy for the past year, to the point of extreme anxiety and depression issues, plus being more lonely every day. My husband always acts like im putting him out when I wanna spend time with him...saying, 'cause its all about you! Some of us have been actually working but dont worry ill stay up with YOU'. Am I wrong or being naggy for wanting to spend time with him??? I literally watch cartoons with my two yr old all day with no adult interaction or ability to leave, EVER. We CANT afford a day care and I wouldnt even make worthwhile money if I could...he makes me feel so inconvenient and like an annoyance instead of his wife....not to mention he didnt get me anything for xmas or my bday....i really dont know what to do anymore. It seems like whenever we have no money or something specific to do he just falls asleep or gets easily annoyed at me and that makes me feel so unloved and unwanted. Am i the problem?? Every day is becoming worse and im really getting tired of feeling like this and whenever i even bring anything up he rolls his eyes or barely listens....does he just not love me idk why he never even tries to get where im coming from...:( im losing my mind!!

My husband accidentally tazed me yesterday. It hurt really bad. I am pregnant too. This isn't the first thing he's done. He shot me with a pellet gun directly in the stomach from point blank. It hurt. I'm worried he's going to hurt my poor baby.

We had to change the locks because of a a robbery the other night. He installed them himself this morning only he put the locks on backwards. Like you lock it from the outside. He accidentally took the key with him. So I have no way of getting out.

Your spouse gets into a car wreck and is injured, off work and you are helping take care of them. They help with your kids even though they are not their kids and are in pain. The holidays come and you get them nothing for christmas yet you get your children tons of gifts and you allow your spouse to pay for everyone one of their own meals and sometimes your too when you go out and on Facebook you make no mention of your spouse and keep posting selfies and videos of your kids and get angry with your spouse when your children act up and are rude and they mention it to you.

My "husband" proposed that instead of marrying for love we d marry for his health incase something ever happened to him he didn t want me to have to worry after discovering he had cancer and also to assure he d have someone on his side, however the understanding was that there are and were no obligations meaning we ve never had any type of sexual encounter and he has a mistress where would that leave us standing for an annulment?

I've have been married for 4 years and only recently have I discovered that my wife had a ' Handfasting Commitment Ceremony' with her previous partner. My wife is a Pagan and her previous relationship was meant so much to her that she 'binded' herself to him, Granted it was not a legal marriage and they vowed " as long as love shall last ", instead of rings they exchanged necklaces, They obviously parted ways, We met and married officially/legally. When she mentioned this to me the other day I was taken aback, four years and never once did she mention it to me and her ex, who is an acquaintance of mine, I've noticed still wears that necklace she gave him. I am aware people will tell me to grow up and that she had a life before me, I am aware of that but this hurts me that not once has she nor anyone else told me this! She keeps telling me its not a big deal and is annoyed that I wont let it go but I think its a pretty big secret to keep from me, Would this bother anyone else?

As a little girl I had the biggest connection with this particular child. I had to try hard not to favor her. But now my relationship with her is damaged. She disrespects me when my husband is around because he always runs to her rescue. And because of this she is becoming a brat. Don't know what to do.

and finger her when its cold out ? or is this something my bf and me have to do because we are broke and no privacy place to go to.?

We have a 2 bedroom condo in the city and one room is used for an office and we have a master bedroom...no kids. My wife wants her mother to move in with us because her abusive husband left town for good and she's never had a real job and she's like 50. My wife not only wants her to move in our condo but in our bedroom! The other room is my office when I work at home at times, pay the bills and is my retreat from my wife sometimes. Our master bedroom is huge...3 times the size. My wife said we can get a small bed in the corner and she can sleep there. I told her not only no but HELL no! Now she won't talk to me and she won't do me. Well how am I supposed to do my wife with my mother in law in the same room? I need my sex like every other couple and last couple of years my stamina has got really good. I have to usually pound my wife for a long time until I nut on her. Ya, that should be a nice site for my MIL...seeing me do this to her daughter.I say on her because she's bad about taking her birth control pills...don't trust her and will force her to get an abortion if she gets pregnant and she knows this but I love her so I don't know what to do?

I am depressed and suicidal but I have kids and am trying to keep their environment stable through all of this. A couple of days ago I saw him sitting in his car in the driveway while I was doing dishes so I thought he would come inside, he was sitting in his car for over 20 mins on his phone doing God knows what when I asked him he said he was reading an email and then got angry with me for asking. I don't trust him anymore because he has proven untrustworthy more than once. My family won't talk to me because of what he did since he embarrassed all of us by stealing and when I told him this he said his family still talks to him and it's my own problem if they don't want to talk to me. Thoughts?

We ended in a good way, but then in a not so good way I had to even stop being his friend as he kept being clingy and did not seem to get we were over. I am not proud of it but I was harsh. Anywho, I lived in a different country back then and moved back home but to a different city 9 yrs ago. We havent talked for maybe 10 yrs. Two weeks ago, I was having dinner with some friends and when we were leaving I noticed my ex having dinner in the table behind us. We were back to back so I am not sure did he see me. Or was he with his gf/wife. I am married now. I have had that in the back of my head since then, shouldve I had said hi? I mean would be nice to hear from him. I have been tempted to send him an email too. I think it was s random the whoöe situation, but then again of he is married, would it be ok? I know I would not like my husband to get messages from his ex! But if its innocent hi? What do you think? Should I contact him?

It seems domestic wives stay married the longest and get married young. You think they might stay for financial reasons.

I love my current husband and I am worried that we may end up in a divorce due to age difference. He is 18 years older than me. The 1st one I tried learning his culture but he was extremely abusive. The 2nd one he already has a kid and 18 years older. They are both Asian and I am Caucasian. I am heart broken. I am still married to the 2nd but thinking of getting out somehow. He is extremely supportive and loving but is not able to provide lifestyle I want. I've had to go through over 10 or 15 jobs in my life and tired of this. I have a Bachelor's degree in Psychology. How can I find stability? What can I do about the 2nd one to divorce? The one I am with loves me so much but we are a generation apart and according to him we don't have a lot of money to have a family. I have 0 kids and sometimes have 0 compassion. Any advice? We are not able to provide the lifestyle that we both want*. I have had to take a backseat to his family and it seems we can't have one of our own.

My x husband found someone else and yes I know I have been remarried but I also lost over 100 lbs and haven't ever received an apology from my x. I gave up my house to him and everything. Lucky jerk. I served him, cooked him his cultural food everyday but it was never good enough for him. Now even after getting remarried to a man who really loves me I want revenge on him. He hit me over 5 times and called me many names. He found someone else now and I want to torture his life. I am constantly hit on and under 30 years old still with no children. He took over our animals and everything. What is the best revenge? I am in super good shape going to be school for a fitness trainer but he used to call me fat ***** and was very cruel. I am not the nice girl that I used to be and just take crap from others. Let me know how to torture his life. We bought our first house together that is now in his name. I struggled and had to go through over 20 jobs in my life with a bachelor's degree and trades. He's playing it safe with another girl from a country. should I light up our house on fire or what should I do? I am not just a nice girl that he can hit forget and say oh well I don't need to fix my ****.. **** you. I'm not taking it. He even took me to China and Korea where he raped me repeatedly and I left him a little after. He is Korean and I am Caucasian. My new husband is Asian now but no problems with him. He is a wonderful man a lot older though and I know does not deserve this but I still want revenge. Any suggestions? I mean I want revenge on my x without my current husband finding out. I want to literally torture this guy who hit me with frying pans and tortured me. Not only that but this guy used to have social anxiety disorder which I helped him with. Now everything I helped him with he is using to his advantage even the adorable dog I bought and I want to blow it all up in flames. He didn't once think about the pain that he caused me. Another thing that's so hard is an abusive guy also took my sister away who I haven't spoken to in 10 years I want to just destroy these men. How can I? I'm scared that I am becoming like an equalizer. I want to destroy others for what they took from me. And it took me a lot to even get to where I am today and I miss my sister so much who chose her abusive husband over me her sister and family. I feel I want to blow things up in flames. I came from an abusive background which makes it so hard. I chose Asian thinking I would find order but finding myself disappointed in the process.

Like, do you stop doing things like spontenous suprises and dressing up for each other as the time has passed? B.Q. Are you still as attracted to your spouse now as when you first met?

If his wife and kids are on vacation, can he watch porn?

My wife has this thing to where she feels that anything we buy is suppose to be for everyone in the house. This weekend we were grocery shopping and I picked up a bunch of grapes that I paid for myself. I like to take grapes to work for breakfast and a snack until lunch rolls around. Well, she took that to mean the grapes were fair game for everyone in the house. Today I got a bowl full of grapes and she looked at me and said, "Oh, I forgot we had those." I told her to not touch my grapes. She then goes off the deep end to say how selfish I am. She said she brought a bag of apples and oranges for everyone in the house so why couldn't she eat some of the grapes. I told her that in the 15 years since we've been together when has she ever seen me eat an apple or an orange? He son's girlfriend gave us Christmas gifts last night and she got some kind of jewelry holder and she gave me a tin of the 3 flavored popcorn. When my wife looked at the popcorn she started to open it saying how she likes the caramel flavor. I looked at her and said, "she bought you a gift and she bought me a gift. I'm not using your jewelry holder so what makes you think you can just take my popcorn?" According to her, anything I have is ours or community property for everyone to share. Whereas, things she owns are hers only. Are people not allowed to have something of their own? Do you share everything? She has her favorite brand of cereal and I don't touch it but she feels she can have at it with anything I own. Our kids are 20 years old. One is away in college and the other just graduated college. They aren't kids anymore so we're not depriving them of food. The one at home has a job and works so if he wants something he can buy it himself or go without. Am I selfish for not wanting to share my grapes with my wife?