Family: Question: My kids refuse to pay for their own education?

Question: My kids refuse to pay for their own education?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 01:52 PM PST

How do I get that through their heads? My son and daughter are supposed to be in 11th grade. They have been doing home school since they were in 6th grade. Homeschooling is not free or cheap, I stopped buying them the school workbooks and school supplies they needed at the end of 8th grade. They have not been doing school for basically 3 years. Why are they so spolied? They say it is my fault they will be a failure, isn't my fault I don't want to buy them anything, and it is not my fault they refuse to buy their own workbooks. I am also not responsible to drive them places. If they don't want to be a failure, they will need to walk on the side of the road to get a job. It's a 13 mile walk to town, and the road is narrow they refuse to walk it because they say cars go by too fast and they think not getting hit is more important. Why are they like this?

Question: What Is up with parents not letting their kids talk back?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 01:49 PM PST

Before getting to the question, I am 14. My mom (mainly) has this problem with me and my sister talking back to them, its like she (mostly) thinks shes always right My whole life I've seen my sister and my mom arguing, and it always ends with my mom slapping her and she goes to her room crying. Now, that shes in college, I've seemingly have to deal with my mom more and more with her arguments. It has become a almost weekly occurance. By her logic, she apparently can slap me in the face all she wants, but I can't even talk back when I am "wrong". She never apologizes for slapping me, claiming that I escalated this and she was right. Now she has begun to blame the computer for talking back, saying it makes me antisocial (she is kinda right, I do spend a huge amount of my day next to the computer, but I do talk with my friends/other people alot on it). So my question is: how do I deal with this? Surely the answer is not to be quiet, which is so frustrating, she would go on and on for minutes without letting me to respond, what is up with my mom?

Question: I'm jealous of what my sister is getting for christmas?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 01:46 PM PST

I don't want to sound spoiled, but my sister is getting something awesome for christmas and I am soooooo jealous. I was with my mom when she bought it (like an hour ago) and I've been so jealous and depressed since I found out what she's getting. I know my mom is spending the same amount of money on me and my sister, so that's good, but I am still really jealous. I don't want to say what she's getting because I don't ant my sister to find this, but the dollar amount is 200, so if you can imagine it's pretty awesome and I don't know what to do. I get jealous easily, can you help me be not so jealous? Thank yous so much

Question: My girlfriend's parents love me more than my own parents ? Am I being adopted basically ?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 01:20 PM PST

I am a 25 year old male, live in a nice 5 bedroom house with my grandfather who was the greatest man I knew the backbone of the family the light of my life and I was the light of his life. My mother had me when she was 18 she was a good mother but still young during the whole process... But my gandfather took the role as my father figure and made me out to be a successful man. My mother had another child when I was 15 and another one when I was 17 (brother and sister) I felt like at that time thats when the detachment of being my mother baby boy began to disappear. She has met my step father when I was 14 in which she had the two kids with and they basically are a new family.. My grandfather passed away this year we were all living under one roof. My grandfather my mother and step dad and brother and sister and me. When grandfather passed away is was like a weird timing because right at that time I moved out to my own apartment and they stayed at the house, I had been with a girl I fell in love with for a year and here parents love me very much, they brought me food to my apartment and furniture they helped out with everything. My mother has really came to bless my house or do anything. She comes over at times but nothing feels right since my grandfather passed away and I feel like I am starting to basically be adopted by girlfriends family. What the hell is going on ? I invited them over for a Christmas dinner my mom said she was going to my stepdad's mother's house instead

Question: I m meeting my cousin for the first time today.?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 01:14 PM PST

She lives in England and is visiting us in New Zealand for the first time. She is 12 and I am 13, so everyone is expecting us to become best friends. I met her for twenty minutes this morning and I had to do all of the talking all she said was, oh, and I don t know. She seems really nice, but I Don t know how to socialise with her. We are going to a family Christmas event in an hour, how should I act? Also it was really awkward before

Question: How do I get in a space of productivity?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 01:12 PM PST

I have all the tools to be successful except freedom. I m 19 yrs old and I m never going to get these years back. My mother can be a control freak and I have so many ties that keep me from pursuing my dreams that it sometimes seems impossible. What steps should I take to live the successful life that I dream.

Question: What should I do with my REALLY strict parents?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 01:01 PM PST

Im a 17 y.o girl and so far Im not even allowed to go out of home on my own. I am not allowed to be in a taxi on my own or go out with my friends, I never had a boyfriend or stuff and as they say "they completely trust me"... and they think they are protecting me but Im sick of their protection. They have wasted 17 years of my life so far.... I cant even talk to them about it, what do you suggest I should do?

Question: Is this a stupid excuse?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 01:01 PM PST

My friend asked me if I wanted to go to her house so I said I would ask my dad. I asked and he said that we were eating dinner soon. It was 1 pm and we usually ate dinner at 5. I only hang out with my friend for 1-2 hours. All he s doing right now is sitting on the couch watching tv and I m sure by the time he could ve picked me up from my friend s house he will be doing the same thing. Is this a stupid excuse or is it just me?

Question: Tired of my husband and kids, what do I do?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 12:32 PM PST

I'm 28 and my husband is 30. I'm biracial and he's white. He acts like a typical white man and annoys me all the time. We have 5 children the youngest is 6 months old. My husband works long hours and I appreciate him for that but he's so annoying. He leaves a mess wherever he is and makes stupid jokes. We have been together for several years now. I'm not in love with him and haven't been for a while now. It's just the same old every day he works I take care of the kids and cook. There's no excitement. I'm so bored of the marriage it's just the same old all the time. He always has to act in a silly way. I was 19 when I met him and still in college when I got pregnant. I never got to finish school or experience things I dreamed of and it's all his fault. He's selfish like all white men. He has his dream job and kids but I would have dumped him a long time ago. I never have time for myself, everything is about the kids and my husband. I'm worried I might be pregnant since I missed my period and I'm having cramps. I couldn't handle it. What do I do?

Question: I have a suspicion that my husband is being disloyal. Please help?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 11:58 AM PST

Recently my husband and I went to a Christmas party and the way he acted has got me very concerned. First, he made us arrive an hour early and kept moving us around saying "I want a more hidden place to sit" then, a former female coworker showed up and he started acting very strange. He kept taking his ring on and off and kept going to the bathroom. He acted like I was a stranger and basically avoided me. He also kept looking at this former coworker. Oh and he made me get up to get his food and yet he had no problem getting up every 2 hours to go to the bathroom which he never does. One other thing is that his good friend announced when this female got to the party. And about a year ago he told me that she was so nice and sweet and that I m just mean and nasty. We were formally split apart and recently got back together. There s times not accounted for that I don t know what he s doing. One other thing is that he runs off when he gets a phone call. And he deletes specific messages from only certain people on his phone. What should I do?

Question: My girlfriend is 3 months pregnant and She s being crazy?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 11:53 AM PST

She has the shortest fuse. It takes the smallest things get her into a freak out frantic aggressive mood. We were heading out of town for a couple days. While she was inside finishing packing. I had started to smoke outside in the truck as I waited. Well, she comes down and gets in and I immediately after starting the car. Make sure that the cig is outside the car hanging out the window. We drove down the road when she asked me to put it out so I did because I don t have a problem with putting it out and I am aware of the effects it can have for me and my pregnant gf. But, she continues to yell at me for about another 10mim. I finally tell her to ******* stop because it seems to me like she s trying to start a fight. (I noticed moments earlier before the fight she was in one of her moods). Anyway after I finally yell back to stop because she is relentlessly talking ****. She gets mad and then threatens to hit me. I can t understand why she is being hostile. I know pregnancy isn t easy and that she s been sick. But to keep yelling after I ve already done what you ask and then when I have enough of it and tell you to stop bitching. Your gonna threaten to hit me?? We are in the car now not speaking. I can t get her to see that she literally took something so small and now has ruined our day. I love her so I want her perception to be clear. Can anyone advise me on how to handle this in a mannered way. So she can realize what she does to this relationship.

Question: I hate my dad!?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 11:44 AM PST

Next week is finals for me and i am sick yesterday was Friday I wanted to rest so I get feel better he then gets mad at me for sitting around bd on my phone. Last night I couldn't fall asleep until 1am this morning I woke up around 11 he comes in to my room and started yelling at me for being on my phone. I was checking to see if I had any homework but he doesn't listen. Whenever my brother sleeps to 11 it's fine but I can't. I wish my parents never had me my dad makes everything in my life miserable.

Question: Which is safer, wearing your seatbelt and holding the baby or putting the seatbelt around you and the baby?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 11:34 AM PST

Hypothetical question: In the backseat of a car without a child car seat. the baby is 10-15 months old. In theory, would it be safer to wear the seatbelt yourself and hold the child tightly in your lap or to wrap the belt around you both, with the baby in your lap?

Question: Why am I so afraid of my dad?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 11:33 AM PST

he's a very opinionated person and I really don't like it, all my life he has told me I have to have my hair my natural blonde hair colour, blue eyes, no tattoos unless they are small and hidden and he hates my music taste. im not hi's "dream" kid that he's always wanted as ive gone the opposite way, stretched ears, tattoos, piercings, green hair and he absolutely hates it and constantly tells me im not allowed more tattoos.... im 20 years old!! he use to do this to my mum as well and if he doesn't get his own way he'll get shitty, im also pregnant and during the first 12 weeks of my pregnancy he told me to abort my child which I told him straight up no (im now 29 weeks) he has told me he doesn't want the father of my child involved but when I got back with my ex he seemed ok with me being treated like **** till I realised that I didn't need that and me and the father of my child have recently got back together and I've not told my dad at all because he hates him for no reason! me and my boyfriend made this beautiful child and my dad says I cant have anything to do with him. all my life ive been controlled by him and too scared to tell him anything! I seriously cant open up to him im really mentally f**ked up because ive learnt that I cant tell my dad anything. I don't want to be told "grow up" I just actually need some advice because theres only so long I can put up with hiding my relationship and how I feel about this mental abuse :/

Question: My mom always says as her girlchild/daughter I shoul help her with cooking, cleaning and other womanly duties isn't that a bit sexist?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 11:00 AM PST

I live in the pretty old fashioned society of barbados it isn't like I don't help around the house I take out the garbage, mow the lawn, fix anything around the house like pipes,electronics etc. She also said if she is sick I should be two steps behind her asking her how she is and taking care of her I van barely take care of my self when I'm sick I'm only 14. How can I change her way of thinking my dad doesn'thave the same mindset he and my stepmom thought both me and my brother how to cook,clean,mow a mow a lawn, fix Tvs etc and wire a house wire a house with electricity. Should* Sorry for all the spelling mistakes I was typing really fas. Fast*

Question: How do you ban a parent from a school loop account?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:52 AM PST

My parents are being really annoying. Like CRAZY annoying! they are using my grades against me. Ex: If I have a D in math because i failed a test they wont let me have my laptop back until I get that D back to a B or higher. It doesn't seem annoying but it is almost IMPOSSIBLE to get my math grade back up. While i still have my computer, can anyone tell me how to ban y parents from my school loop account?

Question: Did I deserve to be cussed out?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:50 AM PST

My family and I evacuated to Dublin, ga for hurricane Matthew. My dad kept changing our evacuation plans and at the last minute decided to leave that night for Dublin. When we got in the car I put on the gps he said he didn't need it until we get to Dublin ,ga . My phone was math at 38 percent. We get to Dublin and my phone is on low battery and we trying to find the hotel . I explained to him that all he had to do was plug the car charger in and plug the phone up. The phone was not dead. He cussed me out and said I had all day to charge my phone which is not true prior to I thought we weren't leaving til the next day cuz he changed plans at last minute. We found the hotel with the gps without an issue he was just real mad at me for the charging thing. He cursed me out like a dog like I was nothing and a stranger on the street and threatened to take me outside

Question: Need help with my relationship with mother?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:42 AM PST

I m a 21 year old female and my mother and I have always been close. Lately though we ve been getting into more fights, every disagreement blows up into her screaming she s done with me and doesn t want me around her. There have been situations where we get into arguments and she calls me selfish and self-centered, how I never cared about her and can move out of the house. She often says she s depressed with her life and she s probably going to die soon, that ll make my life easier because I don t care about her. If I go out with friends/my boyfriend she says I put them before my family and can move in with them for all she cares. Yesterday, I forgot to update her on what was going on while spending the night at a friend s house and since then she keeps saying I don t love her and told me to take the ballet tickets I got for her birthday and go with my friend because she doesn t want to go with me. It s really frustrating because I love her and told her multiple times but she doesn t believe me and says very hurtful things that make me want to move out. I don t even know how to talk to her anymore and it makes me sad.

Question: What can I do about living in a toxic family?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:40 AM PST

I'm 19 years old, still living with may parents because after 2 years of job searching, I have nothing. I live with my mum, step-dad and 3 siblings. My step-dad has a short fuse, likes to bet on horses and football (soccer) and is easily put in a bad mood that lasts all day, and he's the kind of person that has to let the entire house know he's in a mood, e.g banging his hand against a light switch to turn it on, slamming cupboards etc. When he's in a mood, everything I do is a problem. I make food, I'm suddenly wasting all the food. I go on G-Mail, I'm suddenly never off the internet. I talk about places I've applied to work, he doesn't want to know. He runs out of tobacco, I've apparently smoked it all. I have no problems at all with him when he's in a good mood, but whenever he's in a bad mood I have to either leave the house or go to my room because literally anything I do (even doing chores like washing the dishes) is a problem and if I do go out, he accuses me of smoking pot when I come back home

Question: How do I handle/deal with my disrespectful father?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:36 AM PST

I am a 27 year old woman who has been leaving on my on for almost a year but my parents are a huge part of my life. They make me call them when I get home every night so they know I got home safe and if I don't answer and get super late they ride out to my house and are angry at me. My dad in the past has cussed me out like a dog and has been verbally abusive to me and my mom and it gets on my nerves.

Question: Should i get in worse trouble than my brother because it's the right thing?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:32 AM PST

my brother is a drinker in the house and my mom knows he drinks and everything (at home and at college). but last time he was home he let me have some as im only 18, and then i said leave it home in case i go to a party or something. so as any teenager would do, i hid it so my mom didnt find it and then we'd have a whole different problem on our hands. today she found it, and my brother stood up and took the heat for me, knowing it was mine. my mom got mad for hiding alcohol in her house and all that, and hes pissed because he told me to get rid of it over a week ago and i didnt. should i do the right thing and say my brother took the heat for me, knowing it'll cause a bigger problem, or should i just let it be?

Question: My mother won't let me see my Dad for Christmas because he is an alcoholic. How do I get her to change her mind?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:27 AM PST

I am 14 years old and have no say. My paternal grandparents offered to supervise but my mother says know. She punishes me to get my Dad back. She wrecks family holidays. How do I get her to change her mind and be nice and let me go supervised? I know I can't be alone with him in case he drives but with my grandparents there they can drive and be there if something is uncomfortable.

Question: My aunt is in town and she and her daughter refuse to see each other (daughter lives nearby). Am I right to find this horrible?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:24 AM PST

The mother emotionally disowned the daughter in 2011. The daughter in return refuses to physically see her mother. The mother has a weird almost narcissistic way of parenting where her one daughter is terrible and the other amazing and practically a soulmate. The son is just treated as okay. There is no doubt the daughter had some issues in high school but she does not anymore at all. She however doesn't take the step to reach out to the mother the very few times the mother reaches out. My aunt, the mother, seems to not care she is estranged from her daughter. So while it is none of my business am I right that this is horrible by both parties, especially the mother? My aunt refuses to come for Christmas and she says it is because of her daughter that she doesn't. I think Christmas we should reach out to family even if they are not easy family.

Question: How can I help my sister feel better ?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:19 AM PST

My sister was watching the weather channel she said there was a tornado that hit Alabama 5 years ago she said that some kids were killed in it. The saddest part was that there was a newborn baby who was blown of its mothers arms she yelled for people to come help her she thought she heard her baby cry but sadly it was a child's toy that sounded like a real baby they said they never found that baby. She's lucky we don't live in a tornado alley. Ohio has had tornadoes but no monster ones like most states get. We had one in our town a few years ago but our house wasn't in the path of it. If a tornado came to our house we'd be dead. We live in a 4 bedroom trailer we have no bassinet no storm shelter we only have closets the only choose we have is if we can make it to our uncles house who lives down the street or go to our neighbors house. Whenever we have a storm or a tornado warning she starts packing up in case if we have to go anywhere. She's always been afraid of tornadoes since a town up north from us got one without warning a couple years ago. She gets scared when we have storms and clouds are dark and wind blows hard. Sometimes she has nightmares about them. Even though she loves them she's afraid of them. How can I help her feel better ?

Question: Advice with dad and stepmom problems?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:12 AM PST

I need some advice. I've been having some significant trouble with my dad and step mom. I've always had a hard time with my parents divorce.My dad has always had no empathy for me or my younger sister, never seemed to want to spend time with us, and he wasn't around much.I ended up finding out he cheated on my mom with my now stepmom.from the start he always seemed to value her over us and always side with her, even though she might be wrong.she has never liked me.She constantly glares at me at the dinner table and whenever I practice piano. At church she sits 3 feet away from me and my dad never seems to notice this.When my dad isnt home she screams at me for not folding my clothes or the fact that I have an -A in a class.she and my dad always insult my mom.when I try to stick up for her they say my mom brainwashed me. a week ago I found out that my step mom had cheated on my dad and they are trying to work it out, but is it wrong of me to wish that the lady that has insulted me(one time she said if I wore more makeup I would be prettier) and my mom would just divorce my dad? I honestly believe that I want a relationship with my dad but with her constantly around him and making me feel depressed all the time I feel like it's not possible. I have tried to tell my dad all the things she has done that he hasn't seen but he just says I'm over reacting.i don t know what to do any more and sorry for the long paragraph, but if anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it

Question: Can't discipline my daughter?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:09 AM PST

I have an issue discipling my 5 year old daughter, I can't bring myself to. She'll do something she's not supposed to and then, right when I'm about to put her in time-out, she gives me these sad eyes, and this puppy dog pout look and asks, " Am I in trouble?" and, I just let her go play or whatever. I just, as a single dad, I don't want her to hate me, but, I do realize that not punishing her will eventually turn her into a little monster. How do I get over this reluctancy?

Question: :( family problems? Please help?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 10:03 AM PST

Hi, my son is 18, his profoundly Deaf and has 2 hearing aids, we communicate using speech and sign language (though his speech isn't very clear) his in year 12 at school, his in special classes- so he does ok) His the only deaf person in our wholee family, i lived in Brazil when we was born, he got a bad virus when he was 3, lost his hearing then we moved back to australia and his siblings were born Anyway his been acting up lately for about 1 month ever since he was taken to hospital for a high blood sugar ( his also type 1 diabetic and we were out and he forgot his insulin and he passed out ) Now his being rude to his brother and sister (they are 17 and 15) usually his an angel to everyone always offers help etc.. Now, he hasn't been doing his injections, his been ignoring us when we try to speak with him and last night I hear him crying softly in his bedroom but I didn't disturb him Him and his father have been having issues since then too He knows he hasn't been doing his insulin injections so his been yelled at even to the extent his dad has been doing his injections for him like a child Anyway, please help me and tell me what you think is going on? What do i do??

Question: My parents needs are not being met. Need help.?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:50 AM PST

About four or five years ago my parents took in my niece, her husband and small child. it was my understanding that it would be for about eight months until they could get on there feet. Since then they have had another child, bought a 60" TV, playground set and other nonessentials. The don't pay rent and my parents use there money for my niece and her family. Both children are special need kids and my mother tends to the kids needs. My father is recovering from a stroke and I was thinking this would turn things around but no luck. The neighbors have to shovel snow and the list could go on. I live about 20 miles away and it looks like I will need to change this bad situation. How do I get these bums out so I can help my parents.

Question: Burke Ramsey killed Jonbenet and Patsy covered it up. How did they get away with this?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:42 AM PST

Question: Did I overreact? Who was wrong?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:41 AM PST

My mom picked out a doll for her granddaughter and I said it was creepy. Then she picked out a small carousel for her grandson and I said I didn't think it was appropriate for a toddler. Then she said Oh! You know what, you're creepy! I told her I was leaving if she was just going to insult me. She started yelling that no one else would tolerate my attitude and I'd be sorry when she was gone. Who overreacted?

Question: Was my daughter treated unfairly?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:40 AM PST

I just picked up my 2 girls from a friends birthday party (ages 7 &10) and my oldest is in tears... she was sort of a pitty invite because she was with her sister when her sister was invited to this 'cool' party and the mother noticed she looked sad. I guess it was bad enough there was a 10 year old in a group of 7 year olds that she didn't know (she is very shy) but she is upset at how the adults treated her. They were playing a game where they all put on blindfolds and crawled around the living room to collect candies. One of the mothers saw that my oldest was peeking out from under the blindfold and announced 'the big one is cheating' and then proceeding to STAND OVER my daughter cupping her hands across her eyes! My daughter became upset and said she didn't want to play anymore but the mother kept on holding her hands over her eyes, even my youngest started to get upset when the mother wouldn't let go. My eldest was told to sit on the couch for the rest of the party and excluded from the cake and gifts - this was a punishment for cheating. She cried on the couch for almost an hour being 'supervised' by the mother that held her eyes. I was told the exact story my daughter shared by the mother throwing the party trying to paint my daughter as a bad kid. I don't know what to do. I feel like my daughter was bullied by these moms - it is entirely possible she could see under her blindfold but covering her eyes after she wanted to stop playing is excessive to me. I am also appalled that they would deem it necessary to punish my child over something as silly as this - isolating her on the couch from the rest of the party, which the one who upset her watching her, just seems to take it way too far. I want to confront the adults involved to let them know that this was just unacceptable...

Question: My mother thinks I should become a girl what should I do?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:30 AM PST

She has always wanted a daughter bad like my other two brothers more manly than I am so she's proposed I have a sex change. I don't really want to but I've always done things for her so I'm thinking of doing this for her. What should I do?

Question: Accidentally spoiled a christmas present?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:15 AM PST

so i've been wanting a laptop for a while now. well, today i logged onto my moms computer so i could check my emails. but you get to her emails before you can switch to any others. i saw that she had ordered a laptop from bestbuy and i know it's for me bc we went to best buy the other day and looked at laptops (i've been saving) i feel really bad, what should i do?!

Question: Does this seem crazy to you?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:13 AM PST

When I got married I was just out of college and had a $51,000 dollar student loan debt. My husband Jack worked a lot of overtime hours to payoff that student loan debt. That was several years ago. Jack is not my ex husband. We remained on friendly terms after our divorce. I recently received an inheritance and I think I have a moral obligation to pay back Jack some or all of the money he used to pay off my student loan debt. My friends and family tell me I am crazy to do this. They say I don't owe him anything. It is a husband's duty to pay off his wife's debts. I am confused. Can someone tell me what is the right thing to do in this situation.

Question: What to do with my parents?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:09 AM PST

I'm a 24yo girl attending college, living with my parents. 6months ago I met my bf. We recently got enganged and are planning to move in together next year. A month ago I found a part-time job (that is relevant to my education) because I need work experience and I want to be able to share expenses when we will move in together. My college, work and boyfriend happen all to be in a city that is far away from where I live. I live in the countryside and have to travel 3 hours a day just to go to college/work/fiancee and go back home. Since I started working I started sleeping over my fiancee's place 2-3 times a week because there's no transport late at night to back home. My parents are calling me names simply because I sleep over his place. They insist I should stop working or work once-twice a month. They either give me the cold treatment for days or they just start random fights with me and insult me all day calling me a sl*t, idiot etc. Want to mention I've had only 3 boyfriends in my entire life, I've never been into one night stands either. My mother said as well she is jealous and hopes something bad happens to my relationship, even though they both do admit my fiancee is a really good guy and they even said it's obvious he loves me. I'm really happy with my life. I got an amazing fiancee, I love what I'm studying at college and truly like my job, but they are causing me so much pain. I didn't even tell them I got engaged because they would make a huge drama out of it. want to mention I live in Northern Europe, so I received from the state a student loan that I will have to pay back once I'm done with college. so my parents are absolutely not paying for it. I will have to pay it by myself.

Question: My kids refuse to leave my house! Help!?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:07 AM PST

I want my kids to leave. They're in 11th grade home schooled. They won't leave. They don't have any money and when I tell them get a job, they say how they say they don't want to because they don't feel safe walking on the narrow side of the road as there isn't much room and cars zoom by. I don't want to buy them a bike, going into town is 13 miles away and they refuse to walk on the side of the road. I am not teaching them how to drive they don't have a learners permit. It is not worth the money and obviously the public transportation is in town 13 miles away. Why are they like this? Who is in the wrong?

Question: I Want To Ask My Stepdad To Adopt Me?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 09:01 AM PST

I am 23 years old and I have never known my father. My stepdad has always been there. I want to ask him on Christmas, so I don't have enough time to get the forms I need. My problem is that I would like to write a nice letter...but I can't think of what to say of how to say it...I'm not very creative.

Question: How do I divert the subject when my mom starts bad mouthing family for Christmas?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 08:52 AM PST

It's not us that she badmouth but her our own siblings

Question: How do I get my dad to let me go skydiving for my birthday. I turn 14 next Saturday day before Christmas?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 08:26 AM PST

Question: Why do I feel like I'm being taken advantage of by my parents?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 08:24 AM PST

My first car was PROMISED to be a classic chevelle. My dad has been working on it since I was even thought of to. It was supposed to be my first car but it never got finished. I've been driving for a little while now and I've been driving my dads Chevy truck. I'm grateful he lets me drive it but I was promised my own car. My dad "bought me" a nice 2006 Honda and promised it would be my first car. I was happy with this because of gas. It is stick shift but my dad said he would teach me and it wouldn't be a problem. After being persuaded my dad bought the car and I have only attempted to drive it once. Right after my dad bought the car, both my parents agreed to not let me drive stick shift because it's dangerous which I understand entirely. Therefore, now I am left without a car. My dad has many cars, and claims he uses the Honda to commute but I travel further than he does daily. He is now sending me super cheap and ugly cars for sale from Craigslist and asking me if I want them. After me saying no he continues to try to negotiate them down to an even lower price. I feel as if I was used for an excuse for my dad to get himself yet another car. I am a good student who maintains good grades and I will be getting my own job soon. I have been poking at a car around the years of 2011-2015, such as a Honda or Toyota because I feel like I deserve that now. Am I wrong for this?

Question: Since my sister will not grow up and is 22 is it hopeless that she will one day?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 08:08 AM PST

She throws tantrums like a nine year old.

Question: How can I get my alcoholic father to want to see me for Christmas?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 08:08 AM PST

He is picking the alcohol over me. I asked him to lunch and doesn't even have to be on Christmas. He hasn't called back and I know that means no. How do I get him to care about me? He always picks his alcohol over me,

Question: How can i Persuade my dad to go half?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 08:04 AM PST

I want to buy gta 5 2k17 and ps plus but i only saved 50 dollars how can i get him to get the rest?

Question: Family problems?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:59 AM PST

I'm an 18 year old girl and a senior in high school and my parents are technically still together but they fight constantly and my mom doesn't like him anymore because he has been verbally abusive towards her for a while now and has always been a heavy drinker. But I don't know what to do because my mom isn't planning on moving out because neither my mom or dad has money to just leave. But it's pissing me off so much because my dad gets drunk almost every night and I just don't want to assosiate myself with him anymore. Even when he's nice to me, I just don't want to be near him. I'm pretty sure he's very depressed because things are going downhill with my mom but he really doesn't realize that things are going down hill because of him. It just doesn't register to him that he caused this. What can I do? Am I wrong for not wanting to be around him? Please help.

Question: My dad likes to argue in the car?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:59 AM PST

I have noticed that almost every time that i'm in the car with my dad he starts an argument about any little thing. He used to do the same with my mom. It feels like he enjoys it. How do stop him when he starts? I avoid getting in the car with him but sometimes I have to.

Question: My Mom is in labor and we didn't even know she was pregnant. What do we do?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:51 AM PST

**** my sister just yelled the head is coming out

Question: How can I comfort my sister ?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:48 AM PST

My little sister cried herself to sleep last night. I tried asking her what's wrong she didn't want to talk about it. She wanted me to lay down with her but I didn't think it was ok so I just sat next to her until she fell asleep. How can I help her feel better ? Is it ok to sleep with her ?

Question: How Do I act Black?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:38 AM PST

FYI I'm black not some white person who wants to be black. I'm moving to Georgia with my mom and sister in about 2 months and I have been raised in Colorado for all my life. Most of my friends are white, but I have a few black friends. I fear that the people there won't like me because I act white. How do I act like them? BTW, don't leave me any lectures about be yourself! I want tips!

Question: My father looks at my butt all the time.Intensely when I turn my back usually.Some morning I wake up and I have pain in the anus.Sharp.?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:33 AM PST

I dont want to sound too dramatic.Or paranoid.What do you think?

Question: How can I legally move into a friend's house away from abusive parents?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:29 AM PST

My survivng parent, my mother, is abusive. (https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20161001173629AA9R5gW) Anyway, I'll spare you the details. My friend knew what was going on in ny house, and she talked to her parents and they said they'd let me move in. I'm a minor, but so is my friend. She is living with her parents. I am under the age of 15, so how can I legally move in to her house?

Question: Why does my mother in law copy me so much?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:07 AM PST

My mother in law is young for her age (just under 50) but will try to "one up" (as I call it) my recipes that are known to be things that her husband and kids or my family enjoy. For instance, my husband (her son) likes my chocolate pies and she tried (and failed miserably) to make a chocolate pie and did not put whipped cream on it, and made an issue to make sure I knew she made one. Then, she tried to make my moms green bean casserole which is super cheesy and her family loves, but made it with the wrong type of soup and it was not like my moms but she made a point to say "look Brenda, I made this green bean casserole just like your mom does!" Then- she knows her husband likes my turkey because I make it a certain way and she started asking me how I made it yesterday and said "I made turkey my regular way at Thanksgiving but would like your recipe for how you get yours so moist". Why is she doing this? It is like-- she makes a point to avoid trying anything I cook (which is why I no longer bring things to her dinners) but tries to talk up her own food and get her husband and kids to as well. I don't get this woman, what is going on with her?

Question: Should I skip going home for Christmas?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:04 AM PST

So my family is not always the most supportive of me, in that they tear me down constantly, in ways that have been really harmful to me in the past and continue to be today. For starters, I'm bulimic and have a host of anxiety issues, none of which my family take seriously and constantly tell me I just need to get over it, that my problems aren't real. This made me take my own issues less seriously than they are, which prevented me from getting help sooner and made everything so much worse. They're also super homophobic. They dont know that I'm gay, and make comments every conversation about how gay people are horrible, shouldnt have rights, etc. Which is never fun to hear. My parents are constantly critical of me, nothing I do is right. My girlfriend thinks I shouldn't go. She said that she sees my family's treatment of me as classic emotional abuse and given how sick I've been lately it would be really detrimental to my health to go. I don't know what to do. The ticket's already bought and everything, but I've been having several full blown panic attacks a day for the past week because I'm so scared that I won't be able to handle the things they will say. What should i do?

Question: My brother just hacked my Facebook site and said that I didn`t admire Hitler. What should I do?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 07:01 AM PST

Question: My sister breaks everything?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 06:55 AM PST

I need your opinion. She is 18 and breaks everything! She threatened to quit the college that my parents pay for because they told her to clean her room. We only have microwaveable food and she broke the microwave and I have to wait to eat.... I haven't eaten all day.... She does this because she is Pacified. She yells when she doesn't get her way and almost broke my parents door last week because she was told to clean her room. I'd see it if she has problems mentally but she doesn't! She is making my family suffer and I don't know what to do.

Question: How can I help my friend ?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 06:48 AM PST

My brother is dating this girl he's mean to her. When they have sex he's really rough with her. He beats her and tortures her. He's really nice and sweet to me but he's not nice to her. Whenever they have sex he makes me watch. He ties her up he whips her he does horrible stuff too her. He use to be really nice to her. He said if she left him he'd kill her if she got pregnant he'd kill her. He said not to call the police or anyone if I do he'd kill me. I don't know what got into him he use to be very sweet. If I let her go he kill both of us. I'm really worried about her. How can I help her ?

Question: Why do some parents abuse their kids?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 06:48 AM PST

I mean, why do they even have kids if they are going to abuse, beat, rape, torture them, facing potential jail, or driving their kids to suicide. I mean, what kind of mental dissorder does one have to have to look at its child and go: ohh yea, i gave birth to that... hmm, lets beat it until it kills itself or loses most of its sanity

Question: How do I get over the hurt and anxiety that comes with Christmas with a mother who blocks my access to my Dad and his family?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 06:36 AM PST

My Dad won't do anything about it. I know when I am an adult I can see who I want but I am 14 so that is still 4 Christmas' or more away. I feel anger and hurt at the holidays. The rest of the year it doesn't sink in as much but here at Christmas it hurts and wrecks the holiday. Even people I know at school with divorced parents get to see both. My Mom says my Dad doesn't deserve me because he mistreated her (they both fought like kids) and that I shouldn't love someone who was unfair to his wife. All he did was not have good financial ethics. People say maybe there is more but believe me, my Mom shares everything, way too much. His flaws all involved work and my Mom having to work because of his mistakes. How do I get over this hurt my Mom causes and how do I get my Dad to fight her over it (he says he is done fighting her). He;s no saint but he is my Dad and he is better then her since he doesn't block my access to people like she does.

Question: How to say no to my mother wanting to move in?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 06:33 AM PST

First of all, my mother is 50 and we do not have the best relationship. We see each other occasionally, but we're not super close. We argue a lot and many times has she said that I'm a disappointment and disrespectful to her when I make my own choices in life as an adult. My husband and I have been married for 4 years, no kids. My mom's lease is up and she is planning to move in with my uncle for 6 months to save up for a house. This weekend she slept over because once a year we make cookies for Christmas and she lives an hour away so she stayed here. I do not want her living here. One of my family members is actually siding with her. I can't believe it. Just after they condemned her for years of treating me poorly. I get that she is my mom, but she treats me like garbage and I'm supposed to help her out?! My cousin says she's so stressed thinking about living with my uncle and needs another place. So she's mooching off of someone to save up for a house and it's my responsibility? Please someone help me.

Question: Why does my mum so obviously prefer my younger brother?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 06:10 AM PST

I'm 15, I have 6 and 20 year old sisters and a 10 year old brother. My mum pretends she doesn't have a favourite, but it's very obvious that she favours my brother. She's even said to a pregnant friend "Ive always wanted a baby boy, but unfortunately I only got one" He's spoilt, and even people who we've only known for a short amount of time notice it. I believe that I am last in the pecking order and I don't understand why. I do well academically, I've never been a troublemaker, I'm generally a good person. But I've never felt close to my mum, and to be honest I envy most of my friends relationships with theirs. I feel like she's always picking on me, calling me fat and telling me I'm a disappointment. I may be overweight but I eat a balanced diet. my brother on the other hand eats a restricted diet of chocolate, Nutella, bread, chips and fat. He's putting on weight but she just carries on providing him with this and insulting me about my weight. It's crushing and, as I'm not popular at school and really only have one friend, makes my life lonely and makes me feel distant from everyone. I've recently been getting help for anxiety, which I organised myself because I didn't feel I could tell her, and the person I'm speaking to suggested that this could be partly why I have such anxiety. I don't know why she doesn't like me as much as my siblings. Like I said, I'm fat, ugly, have a skin condition and am already very down about myself, without my mother making this worse.

Question: My mom says she hates me what do I do?

Posted: 17 Dec 2016 05:58 AM PST

I am 11 years old. Recently my mom and I have been getting into big arguments. This morning all I did was ask for my iPod and she started yelling and screaming at me. She says that my brother and I are a piece of **** and that she cant stand me. Recently she slapped me across the head- really hard. She says that she would gladly put me up for adoption. I say I love and she says yeah right. I do really love her though. The way she is always mean to me, it makes me want to commit suicide, but I am too scared to. The thing is though she is always sooooooo nice to my sister! She got mad at me when my sister failed a test, when I didn't have anything to do with it! Please help me. I am so depressed and sad. Sorry for bad grammar and spelling- im crying right now.