Family: Question: My lil Brother went too far!!?

Question: My lil Brother went too far!!?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 01:30 PM PST

So I have a young brother he will be turning 21 soon. Hes not the brightest. Hes always been a loner. Ive always been there for him. Hes had trouble with the law and has had a hard time coping with my parents recent divorce. So my fiancé and I try to include him in activities with us and our two sons to keep him busy happy and out of trouble. We took him to a Black hawks game for his bday and I got him good Christmas gifts since he had bought us all presents when we told him he didn't have too cause I know hes kind of broke. So he came over the other day and showed us his new tattoo (with my name on it) for goodness sakes!!!?? I didn't want to be mean about it but I have to admit I was weirded out! I want him to cover it! how do I say it nicely?? what will people say when he answers I Got my sis name tattood?? omg im just really upset! And him spending money he doesn't have !!

Question: How to clean my really messy house in hours?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 01:26 PM PST

Okay so my house is a mess. I'm talking about beer bottles everywhere, clothes in most places, boxes of stuff all over the place, my art crap spreaded out, hundreds of books scattered (I'm a literature major), and just plain gross. On top of that my dogs decided to take a dump and piss all over the floor today. Why am I panicking? My sister in law and brother are stopping by tonight with my nephew and mom. My boyfriend thought it would be a good idea to stop by back from his trip to visit his family to spend time with my family. They aren't staying and my house isn't huge. It's three bedrooms, one story and quite small. Since they aren't staying I think I can clean up the kitchen, the living room, a bedroom and a bathroom. Which I will probably end up stuffing it in another bedroom or in the garage. Any tips? I know I'm a horrible human being.

Question: Is my 15 year olddaughter spoiled?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 01:15 PM PST

Ok, so my daughter asked for a mix media sketchbook for Christmas, whatever that is. I told her no, to just draw on normal paper and she got upset. She has a $50 Windows phone, which she hates I gave her my old N64 which I used to use back then, but she wants the PS3 even though she already has a gaming console. My daughter wants a new computer or a new phone so she can do her homework online, but I think she is lying about just wanting it for homework. I told her to go to the library and she got upset. Is my daughter spoiled? She doesn't seem to be very thankful. She also wanted canvases to start selling art because she wants to start making money, and I said no because I'm afraid it'll cost more than what it's worth I also expect my daughter to get straight A's. I don't want her too distracted I am a single father, and my income is about $60k per year.

Question: I will be 18 in 2 DAYS!!!!! Im so tired of being told what to do and i want to leave!!!?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 01:12 PM PST

Im aout to be 18 and i want a hotel room. I have tried to leave before but everytime they called the cops and forced me to come back. I hate this house. his ***** hates me and we ALWAYS argue. They keep getting mad because i dont wanna listen to them but I DONT WANNA BE THERE!!!! Im ready to start my life. theyre doing nothing but holding me back.

Question: This isn't fair ?? ( please be kind and honest , you are not in my shoes to judge me )?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 01:07 PM PST

Here's the deal. I am a 21 year old woman ( who look's 15 ) and I have been living with my mom. There is a total of 6 people living in my moms apartment and that includes me , my 2 older brothers , my brothers girlfriend and her daughter AKA my 5 year old niece..there's my 10 year old brother and my mother. One of my brothers whose now 27 years old...stole my mothers room while she was on vacation a few years back...that room now belongs to him. My mother makes him give her money as rent. He works only a few days out of the week, he goes partying every weekend. He sometimes doesn't pay her. My oldest brother whose 31, sleeps in our living room. He can't get a job because he got arrested during his early twenties and now has a criminal record. I have a third brother who moved to Florida so he can become a cop. He left his girlfriend and daughter here in my mothers house until They can get things in order. His girlfriend and daughter have their own room. I sleep in a room with two beds. In one bed my mom sleeps with my young brother, I sleep in the other bed. I want to move out but I am a full time student in college and I live in New York City. It is SO hard to get a apartment in New York these days. I would also have to start working a part time job and I think that would be very difficult to do. Not to mention, I get no privacy and I'm always the one cleaning up everyone's mess because my mother is 60 years old and low on energy. ...What can I do ??!!

Question: My sister is a mess?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:58 PM PST

So I'm a 15 year old male and my sister is an 18 year old female she does whatever she wants she says she's gonna leave the house hold and talks bad to my parents. Right now she started cursing at me and everything and doing whatever she wanted she even tried to hit me and I blocked her hit and she broke a piece of her nail and said that I BROKE IT... Then I went to my room and she followed she kept talking crap and stuff and she went back into her room after she was done cursing at me and I called her a b*tch (keep in mind that this was the only time so far I called her any offensive words) she came running back and tried hitting me and ripping my new shirt I got for Christmas (she didn't rip it) and she kept on trying to hit me all I did was grab her hands and kept telling her "I don't want to hit you please stop" then my grandma came and tried to break us up and told me that she's gonna tell both my parents I called her a b*tch.....which means I'm gonna get in trouble for my only word I said when she tried to attack me both physically and verbally and told me to leave the house because no one likes me...I really don't know what to do when an adult is on her side, can someone help me with what I should do?

Question: What do I do about this?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:53 PM PST

So I am still on my Christmas break from school. So my dad bought me and my brother tickets to come to new York from December 21st to January 4th. And me and him came alone without parents. My dad lives in new York . We live in georgia. But my mom came to new York with my step dad and half brother by car and my mom told me i had to leave with her to georgia on Saturday which is January 2nd and I feel bad that my dad paid so much money for the tickets and plus my aunt who is going to leave us at the airport has to work on the day we leave. So i have mixed emotions over this whole situation. Please some advice. ....what should I do about this. ..

Question: Which was ***'S behavior when he found his father NOAH DRUNK & NAKED and which his PUNISHMENT?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:47 PM PST

Question: Older sister is leaving back to college in 2 days. How do I stop feeling so depressed?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:41 PM PST

My older sister is 7 years older than me, but she's my only ACTUAL sister. I have two half sisters, 2 step sisters, and 1 actual sister which is the one leaving. So we've grown up together and usually stuck with each other unless we would go with our friends. She's on her second year and she came for winter break and now she's leaving again. We've done this before but it feels like it's getting worse. She goes to college in another state (New York) and I live in a state across the US (California). I've been told many times "you can just FaceTime or text her," but it's not the same. I won't be able to see her every morning, I won't get to be able to hug her, and I always either cry or just feel depressed when i see a picture of her or something. OH, and I forgot to mention that she won't be back until at LEAST 5 months. It hasn't really hit me until now. Please help....

Question: Is think my father is cheating on my mother. What should I do?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:35 PM PST

Whenever he's on the phone he speaks low and sometimes I can hear a female's voice. It may be a family friend or something but whenever he does speak to her around us he's very low and doesn't speak of anything specific. What should I do? It's not only me because my sister just told me that she suspects him also. What can we do?

Question: My brother's wife is obsessed with socks??

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:30 PM PST

At their house, they literally decorate the house with socks. They came up to New York from North Carolina and they're staying with my fiancé and I for a couple weeks for Christmas. She's been stealing MY socks and taping them to the wall. She says they add a "cozy" feel to the house. Every time I go to take them down, she begs me to leave them up for the rest of the day. How can I tell her that I want them off the walls?

Question: Can I still grow?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:26 PM PST

I'm an 18 year old guy but I'm only 4'8. I don't get why. My mother is 6'2, my dad is 6'0, my older sister is 5'11, my other older sister is 6'2, my younger sister who is 11 is 5'6, and my youngest sister who is 8 is 4'9. It's humiliating to be this short. What annoys me the most, however, is that girls don't wanna go out with me. They say things like, "You're funny. If you were taller, we'd go out with you."I try to wear lifts but they only take me so far. I tried doing stretches but they haven't worked either. Do you think that I still have time grow taller? Thank for any responses.

Question: Niece says she's gender-fluid?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:22 PM PST

This Christmas, my 16 year old niece revealed to our whole family, out of the blue, that she is gender-fluid. Since none of us knew what that was, we asked her. She told us that we "wouldn't understand" so why bother explaining. When we pried for more info, she said she couldn't exactly put it in words. Online definitions make very little sense to me, especially in terms of my niece. What is gender-fluid, and if she can't put it into words, how does she know that's what she is?

Question: My 11yro girl has been masterbating daily,she does it anywhere ,her face turns blood red in the process is this normal?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 12:04 PM PST

Question: Do i move to my moms or my dads?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:52 AM PST

if i stay with my mom she will not inforce discipline or check my grades she yells at me for things i dont do but i love my mom and she loves me very much and i dont want to hurt her if i move to my dads he will inforce discipline and check my grades and there will be better structure but if i move to my dads and have second thoughts i wont be able to leave mind you i am 13 please help

Question: What type of social class am I in?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:43 AM PST

My parents are divorced and I live with my mom. She teaches second grade and has a boyfriend who has been unemployed for a long time now. I've started working (im 16) so I could pay my car insurance and gas as well as put some towards my college. Ive insisted on my moms bf getting a job or getting out of the house. As for my dad I still don't talk to him

Question: I saw my dad drinking.?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:39 AM PST

So im 15 years old and you could say i live in like the most normal family ever and am a bit spoiled yet still. My dad is a businessman at jp morgan and my mom works at home. I have 4 brothers and one is turning 18 and going off to stanford university. We go to good private schools and everything.. One thing i feel important to point out is that my dad didnt have a very happy childhood and would get hit by his parents. He had to work hiss *** off to be able to pay for a masters and college. And idk but when hes home he doesnt express his feelings…. but the point is right now, we are vacationing all the way in mexico, and the road trips from one place to another are extremely far…so i was using my moms phone(i kow i know i should never have done what i did and i regret it), and read my mom and dads conversation.. At one point, my mom sent a text to my dad which said something like: I lost my best friend in another one of your nonsense and these videos where sent viral. Dont say sorry cuz it isnt the first and is not going to be your last. I saw them and he was drunk. I am kind of not well behaved but still at the begining i started ignoring my dad and idk why i didnt want to sleep in the same room as him in the trip cuz i felt freaked out and i would talk to him meanly.. But now, i feel bad for him and i feel like he has an issue with alcohol and emotional problems. I just cant act the same anymore or even look at him the same.

Question: So how do I avoid my mom?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:34 AM PST

Lately she has been yelling at me for no reason and just complains 24/7 . I'm not sure if it's because she is tired of seeing me since I am home all day from college break. Should I juss stay in my room until school starts Jan 13th?

Question: Will my son hate me for not knowing who his father is?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:34 AM PST

My son is 9 years old. When he was conceived I was young and reckless. I slept around and partied. I have been trying to get in contact with these men from my past but most certainly are not forth coming. My boyfriend of 3 years keeps telling me that if I don't find out soon, my son will resent me and hate me for it someday. My son is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and it breaks my heart that he could hate me for this terrible mistake someday.

Question: My Dad is angry all the time, what should I do?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:32 AM PST

My dad is probably the most unpleasant and bitter person I know. He's had anger issues for as long as I can remember and I don't know what to do anymore. Everday he gets mad over the smallest things and throws fits for no reason. He'll seriously blow his lid over something as small as not holding a fork "properly". Not to mention, he throws insults like it's his second language and will never hold back in pointing out your flaws. I've endured 17 years of him calling me and the rest of my family stupid and useless and have had my self-esteem disappear as a result. He almost purposely gives me tasks that he knows I can't do, just so he can point out how useless and inept I am and brag about how great he is just because he can do those things. And he NEVER, and I mean NEVER admits that he's wrong. He has way too much pride for some reason and always thinks of himself as god's gift to the world. I remember him once screaming nonstop at me just because I made a small mistake on my homework. I was just 6 years old at the time, but he still felt the need to unleash his rage on me. Things haven't changed at all since then, and it's been 11 years! His behavior has pretty much torn apart my family, but no one seems to care. My mom and brother put up with his verbal abuse all the time for some reason, and whenever I get upset over it, they'll just tell me to suck it up and say "that's just how he is, you can't change him". I don't want to put up with this anymore, what can I do?

Question: I ******* hate my brother?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:32 AM PST

He is the most annoying ***** with the most privilieges in the family and he always ******* is negative and makes annoying sounds and lives to annoy me, i tell him thousands of times to shut up Nicely and he never listens.. I feel like beating him up so hard that he cries I dont care if he is twelve, lmao he is about 2 and a half months younger than me but he still thinks he is the boss.. Im gonna make his life a living hell from now on. He think he is the best and always act nice to my dad but he is a shithead to my, my brother and my mother.. What am I supposed to do?

Question: Why did baby bathroom himself?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:30 AM PST

Question: I hate that my stepson is close to his mom?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:25 AM PST

Me & my stepson do not like each other. We absolutely hate each other. I hate it when he rests his head on her lap & says i love you. They are really close that he is attached to her. He likes talking to his mom when he bathes. His father was deported back to el salvador & died there. I hate that he hugs her. She does give time to show that she loves me, but why her son. Its dumb. That kid needs to be a man. Who cares his father died. How can i break them apart?

Question: My boyfriend's sister has "temporarily" moved in, but I'm not sure what "temporary" means to her....?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:23 AM PST

My boyfriend and I live in a relatively small 1 bedroom apartment with our 2 cats. 9 days ago, my boyfriend's sister got into an altercation with her husband, which actually landed her in jail (she was found to be the instigator). The two have been rocky for some time, but it's the first time it escalated to this level. After her overnight stay in jail, we picked her up and based on the initial 'story' she told us, were horrified that she was found to be at fault. Of course we allowed her to stay at our house because she justifiably terrified of him. Throughout that next day, we found out more information on what happened, and it's now clear to us she instigated the whole thing. She refuses to talk to her husband, and makes off handed comments about "being our live in maid forever", even though she does have a job. On Christmas eve when she knew he'd be out of the house, she went over and got 3 bags of clothes and anything else one might need for a long stay away from home. She's now been staying with us for 8 nights, and it's totally thrown our whole routine out of wack. She's gone so far as to hang clothes up in a closet and make a permanent bed out of our couch. We want to be supportive, but are not sure why she's not taking the reigns on her own life and sparing us the financial (and spacial) inconvenience. It seems like she's set up and wants to stay forever, but we don't want that. What do we do? My boyfriend is ready to talk to her, what can he say?

Question: Kinda irritated at sisters comment?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:23 AM PST

I got my aunt a fairly expensive nikon camera for Christmas, it was pink because I couldn't find the exact same model in any other color and didn't think it was a huge deal, I mean she does like pink/purple. I was just irritated because she (my sister) arrived at my aunts house and saw my aunt snapping some pics, then turned around to my aunts boyfriend and made a comment about it being pink and laughed. She then realized I bought it for our aunt and immediately shutup....She got her a purple fleece zebra print looking scarf so I don't know where she gets off., and my aunts boyfriend didn't buy her a freaking thing yet they laughed at my gift.......Am I overreacting? I don't want it to get to me but it does and I kinda have this urge to punch them both in the face...

Question: I need help with my parents? are they abusive? ( long )?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:15 AM PST

i think my parents might be abusive. they make me feel alone, controlled, judged, afraid, worthless, disrespected, invaded. i can go on and on.. they've been like this forever but its picked up since i started dating my boyfriend. ( I'm 15) they control everything about me, i get that I'm only 15. but i am still a person. my mom had twins recently and its been hard. i have to watch them and my other 2 siblings everyday for many hours. i get home from school, and its straight to watching the babies. everyday. meanwhile, my mom sleeps the whole day. my dad is never home due to work, and when he is my parents are fighting. my parents get on to me everyday for the little things, example not doing the dishes. they believe that i don't watch the babies and that i don't help around the house. i don't get to do anything anymore, my friends & i have drifted due to me always watching the twins. my boyfriend & i are going through a hard time, bc my parents don't trust me. they won't even let me go to the park. my boyfriend & i have been together for 6 months so far, and they aren't helping our relationship. i fight with depression and he's the only thing that makes me happy. anyways back to my parents. they go out randomly without any heads up and don't come home till midnight. my parents threaten me. they tell me if i don't start doing more, and if i don't help watch the babies they will take away my bf. they have banned me from seeing my family.. i need help.. are they abusive? tips? my boyfriend is 16, he isn't a negative influence . he gets almost straight A and he even helps me out with the babies. my siblings love him. but no he isn't a negative influence. i try to tell my parents i love them, they don't say anything they just glare back

Question: Dad died and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:15 AM PST

I'm 25 and my dad died suddenly less than 2 months ago. He was a strong man who was unfortunately misdiagnosed and mistreated by doctors for years and it caught up with him..he was in hospital for 2 weeks and was supposed to get better, until one day he ended up in ICU and eventually passed on. He was my best friend and protector. I depended on him for everything. He saw me through graduate school and i'm thankful for it all. However, I'm so young and was not ready for this. I have my sister, who has the strain of taking care of everyone now. She's 30 and has a good job and a good bf. My mom is a housewife...we were all dependent on my dad who worked hard and was successful. I recently graduated with my master's and don't yet have a job. It's very difficult to sit at home in my grief and not be able to go out and contribute something positive to world, at my age. I'm sure I'll get a job in my field in the near future, but it's still so hard. My mother has not always been the best person either and it scares me that soon enough my sister will get married and move out and I'll be stuck with her. Where I'm from, families usually stick together until the children get married. How do I deal with this giref? I can't help but feel my whole life has fell apart sometimes. My friends don't understand either because none of them has been through this. I feel sad whenever I'm reminded that everyone else I know still has both of their parents and a happy life.

Question: Should children be paid large amounts of money for grades?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 11:05 AM PST

It's grade time and my wife and I are butting heads about the issue of paying our children large amounts of money for their grades. We are newly married and each bring 2 children into the marriage. My wife's parents have traditionally given her children large amounts of money for their grades...I am talking roughly between $800-$1000 for report cards of straight A's, which the kids usually achieve. My kids have always been expected to get good grades, and also achieve straight A's regularly...however, it is my belief that their achievement should be intrinsic, and not motivated by money or outside rewards. So when grades rolled around this quarter, my wife's response was, "Oh great, your kids are going to make out. They are going to have a lot of spending cash." I told her that I disagreed with the large grade payouts, and that they wouldn't be participating in the cashing in. So this is my questions...I do feel bad that my kids are going to know that her children are getting these large rewards for doing something my kids were raised to do as an expectation. What is everyone's take on this subject? Just curious...thanks :)

Question: What are good place in America to live in?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 10:55 AM PST

My parents are in their 50s and they dont speak english that very well... What are some good city for them to live in? We are living in Chicago and my dad is struggling to find a job. What city have alot of factory job?

Question: I'm going to be an Aunt! My brother is not married though will they make him do a blood test?? (Indiana)?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 10:53 AM PST

My brother is 26 and expecting his first child! I'm excited yet worried for him at the same time as my husband and I are going to have a niece or nephew! I am worried though as they have only been together since October 2015 but they knew each other before that and my brother is not very tolerant and still has some growing up to do. The timing of the baby is right for them being together so that's not my concern and she does seem nice even though we don't know her quit that we'll yet. Of course though there new relationship lovey dovey phase is over and arguments Have started and my brother thinks they may not work out (ugh) I have honestly told him that they are now expecting a little life and that he cant just base the relationship off himself anymore and needs to learn patience and tolerance. Now though here is why I'm concerned. They are not married and I heard some years ago that they have made it that you are required to do a blood test. Reason why was because all these girls getting pregnant and pinning it on the wrong guy, they get attached, pay support, etc only to find out its not theres. He needs to man up but my big sister mode also worry for him. I have googled bit cannot find a direct answer.

Question: What would you do if you found out that your 14 year old was cyber bullying?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 10:45 AM PST

And calling some other teen "titty monster", fat @$$, and etc?

Question: Help?! Domestic Violence!?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 10:43 AM PST

I'm 22 years old and have moved away from home for college. My parents have been domestically and violently abusive towards each other since I was about 12 years old. I know this goes on which I'm away because they litteraly fight every single day over stupid ****. The police around here are absolutely ignorant. My dad has been to jail for it for 3 months, but was released and every time the police are called, they dismiss everything my siblings say or my mom says (including physical evidence like bruises) and take my father's word because he's a great liar. I don't know what I'm supposed to do!

Question: My mom and I got into and argument and..?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 10:33 AM PST

She called me useless and good for nothing. I got really mad because I'm the one who helps her out with almost everything she needs help with, and I'm pretty much the second mom to my brother since my parents are never home because of work. I got really mad because she called me useless, yet she praises (even though she denies it) my 26 year old unemployed sister who lives at home and doesn't pay any bills. I ended up calling my mom a b**ch (I know I shouldn't have, but I did) and she just continued to dig at me, saying that I'm trash and telling my teenage brother that I'm not related to anyone in the family. She also blames me for everything - even for her bad health in the past, saying it's because she gave birth to me. She and my sister constantly team up and attack me, calling me selfish, immature, ignorant, and etc. My mom also calls me lazy, messy, fat, and etc. all the time. What I can't stand is her favoritism for my sister, and it seems like she's scared of her too because she does everything my sister wants, speaks so politely to her, and doesn't confront her about annoyances that she has with her. Yet it's pretty much the opposite for everyone else in the family. I've addressed all of this to my mom before, but she just denies it and doesn't want to listen. She tries to ignore me and walks away. What can I do? I know for one, I shouldn't curse at her. But other than that, what else? My mom once said she speaks in such a rude tone with a bad attitude to me more frequently than to my sister because her relationship with me is more playful and because I supposedly act like a kid, but that makes zero sense to me.

Question: Girls emergency help?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 10:18 AM PST

Went out 7 months. no sex. She claimed to be a virgin and wanted to wait. She left to college & we broke up. A year later she moved back because she missed home. One day she calls me and we got food. We met up and started to kiss. Now remember i haven't seen her in 1 year. I asked if she dated? and she said "nothing serious". I asked how far she got sexually. She wouldn't answer it (playing dumb). I had to ask numerous times. She then began to sprint walk, cover her ears, sing a song to avoid me. I then admitted i slept/dated an ex. She got mad and said "Just one? hotshot". We went on 2 more dates but she just had to bring her little sister along (maybe she was scared i was going to ask questions again that's why) and after the 2 dates she cut me off. She also got a tongue ring so you'll never know if she did oral or anal. Why couldn't she answer a question? Either she slept around or really did nothing and i ruined it....,

Question: How to deal with this person?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 10:17 AM PST

I live with my aunt and we're never really comfortable with each other. I moved back into her and her husband's house a few months ago due t some circumstances. My mom always tells me to stay calm and not get into any tension with anybody in the house. But my aunt always seems to want to bother me; she looks at me whenever i do something (even something simple like getting some water), she goes into my room and looks through my stuff when I'm not home, she offers a helping hand when her husband is home but when he isn't she doesn't lend a helping hand. I feel upset everyday because of her (I keep it on the inside of course) but I try not to let her bother me but she always tries to push my buttons. So I want to know how anybody out there would deal with a person like this. Please and Thank You.

Question: My mother and i are just not getting along and I'm so tired of this? Someone please help?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 10:08 AM PST

So im 19 years old i work 2 jobs and i give my mom 1400 every month and i keep 700 to myself . Things are getting rough and on top of that i still have too have enough for all my things . I live with her along with my 21 year old brother who does nothing with his life but sleep all day he lives here for free and yet my mother still gives me crap. I asked her that il only give her 500 and she told me if i don't give her the full 1400 that i have to find som where else to live ? Idk what to do anymore should i just move out is it the wrong thing to do because I'm so tired of hearing her I just feel bad because al the bills she has to pay but I'm the only one helping and she give me so much crap and its stressing me out so bad . I know if i live shell never talk to me again but if i stay i know I'm going to be miserable please help me what do i do

Question: My horrible stepdad?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 09:49 AM PST

Every one in my family hates my stepdad were Christian he s atheistic when he came into my brother my mom and my life my whole family stopped going to church he drinks everyday smokes weed everyday and my mom knows he dosent have a job he uses all of my moms money we used to live in a fairly large house he used my mom s money so she couldn t pay mortgage now we re poor we live in an apartment we used to live in an 5000 square feet house now a small apartment my grandmom didn t come for Christmas because of him he an asshole he took away my ps4 because me and my brother were playing with cranberries he wants us to beg him for it but I m not going to because my mom bought it and he didn t he beated on my mom when he was drunk I stabbed him when he was about to attack my mom my 12 year old brother knocked him out I want him out so I can live my good life with my Mom and my brother also she s pregnant for him so she thinks she has to be with him can someone give me suggestions because if he dosent leave I m not afraid to go to jail.

Question: I am upset over something?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 09:47 AM PST

My cousin started an argument with me. I apologized for yelling at him. Then, we just moved on. I started thinking about our argument and I realized he did not apologize. Why am I still upset even though I thought the issue was resolved

Question: What can I do with my little sister? She s been cold and distant.?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 09:47 AM PST

My sister for the past 4 or 5 has been becoming more and more distant with me and the family. She s 18 and lives with my parents and goes to school near by. She has a new boyfriend and spends nearly every time she is not working with him. My dad is a little hard on her and I understand why she might not want to talk to him at all. But I been nothing but nice to her and she wont talk to me anymore. She did not even spend Christmas with the family and does not want to go with us to visit the family out of state for new years. Something we have done as family for years. We only see our family out of state once year.

Question: Is it really a big deal for kids to hear their parents have sex?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 09:17 AM PST

My Wife and I are expecting our first child soon. And we were just curious about this. Backstory, My Wife was adopted because her parents were Best Friends and not lovers, so she never had that interaction. My Father was gay, but still married to my mother for a long time, so I obviously never heard them have sex. lol This question pops up into our heads, because we feel Sex is a very important part of a relationship, and we ourselves believe its no big deal to hear mommy and daddy go at it. Especially if we don't make a fuss over it. Basically if a kid grows up with these sort of interactions, but it was never labeled as a bad thing, could it cause any issues? We tried to look online for answers, but most of them were from teenagers hearing their moms have sex with boyfriends (not fathers)

Question: Do you ever think it is appropriate to call your child STUPID for no reason?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 09:04 AM PST

I was called that just because I was having a casual conversation with a person about something; adult child. We were casually talking about real estate. I gave no intent

Question: How exactly do you resolve this situation?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 09:00 AM PST

So basically my stepdad's wife is crazy. As in she's been diagnosed with multiple personality disorders. She lost me at seven when she made me take a nap with a pedophile. She lost my half-brother not long after when her sister called CPS on her. About six months ago I got in contact with his adoptive parents and met him again. Around the 22nd my stepdad's wife discovered that he lives alone now and has been talking about kidnapping him and bringing him back with her to live in the shed she rents. I told her that I really did not want to have to come back to Alabama and explain why this wasn't going to happen. Using a shovel. She's already seriously damaged this kid to the point that he's still in therapy for a lot of things and will never be a completely normally functioning adult. She doesn't ever need to be around him at again. One thing led to another and I ended up discovering his half-sister though his dad. We talked. It turned out she had no idea that our brother existed. I mentioned the possibility of introducing them. She got really excited. I asked his adoptive mom if it was okay and she said that he didn't want anything to do with her because he hates his biological father, who abandoned any claim to him before he was born. That leaves me in an awkward position. I can try to explain that she hasn't seen the guy since she was two, or I can tell her that her long lost brother isn't interested.

Question: Should I stop sending christmas gifts to young children in my family?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 08:59 AM PST

It bothers me that their parents don't say thank you and don't even acknowledge that they have received the gift in the mail. I have to check tracking info to see if they got it. Even a thank you text would be awesome.

Question: How do you deal with people with alzheimers?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 08:58 AM PST

So my grandma apparently have that decease and it's kinda driving me insane actually. I know people with alzheimers tend to repeat themselves but my grandma got this kind of weird behavior. She's like keep accusing people for stealing her money even when we're not and keep blaming my mom for not cooking any food for her while she just ate like 5 times that day. Also, she's a very prejudice person and always accuses people that she's unfamiliar with that they're nice with us only because they have bad agendas against us. Also, when we're trying to fix mistake that she says, she'll went angry on us and curse at us non-stop. We already talked to her to fix her behavior many times but she won't listen and ask us and said she knows everything she said are right. More ridiculous is, she keep pointing out that we won't live our live if it wasn't because of her money and keep calling me useless for not getting any job. Which is in fact not true considering i'm in my college right now. I just feel like wanna leave my home but at the same time, i feel bad for leaving my mom stuck alone with her considering my dad rarely come home due to his work.

Question: I'm about to punch my dad and idk what to do?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 08:51 AM PST

So my dad is being a complete asshole and I'm about to hit him. I'm a teenage girl but I consider myself strong. My parents are divorced and I recently moved away from my dad (me and my brother used to see him every day) we don get to see him much any more but he woke up today and started yelling at use he I. He's always yelling at me to do stuff for him he wants me to clean the kitchen. Oh go clean the bathroom oh will you go wash my car. Hey go do the laundry not yours but mine. Hey go clean y'all's room. Go and vacuum the house. Sweep the floors STOP TELLING ME TO DO **** WHILE YOARE SITTING ON YOUR *** DOING NOTHING IM SO TIRED OF THIS JUST BECAUSE IM THE ONLY GIRL IN THE HOUSE DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO MAKE MR YOUR SERVANT IM YOUR DAUGHTER NOT YOUR SLAVE IF YOU WANT THE HOUSE CLEAN WE CAN ALL DO IT TOGETHER NOT JUST ME WHILE YOU SIT AROUND AND DO NOTHING

Question: My 19 year old son is always enraged, angry and won't help us with anything he calls us names breaks things?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 08:51 AM PST

He sleeps all day and stays out late at night

Question: My mom is always yelling and complaining. Need advice?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 08:33 AM PST

Last night, she kept yelling at the cat because she was "bothering her" and then when my dad came out into the living room to see why she was yelling, she was like "oh now you come out of the room, all you do is just sit on your phone, I've been yelling for an hour and nobody's came out to help me" Then he took the cat and went back in his room, and she kept yelling saying that he's a "no good mean old man" and stuff. The whole time I was sitting in my room, and I even have my door closed and I could still hear her. When I hear her yelling, I usually just stay in my room because whenever I come out to try to help, she just yells even more. She does stuff like that all the time! She's very mean to my dad, she calls him names all the time. She used to be physically and verbally abusive to me as well when I was younger and my dad used to just sit there and watch, he wouldn't even try to help, but that's pretty much stopped. She also frequently uses the n-word and she makes rude remarks about how gay people shouldn't be able to get married and she makes trans-phobic comments as well. Like if we're watching TV and something about gay or transgender people comes on, she starts with her rude remarks about them. I'm 17 and I've been trying to get another job (I had one before, but I wound up quitting) so I can save up my money and move out when I'm 18, but I don't turn 18 for another 8 months, and I dont think I can handle her yelling for much longer, she just keeps getting worse. I mean I try to sit with her in the living room and talk to her but she always ends up complaining about something like how much she hates the cat, or how much she hates where we live, or she'll just complain about family members and stuff like that so I just stay in my room And I hate it when she makes comments about gay people and when she uses the n word. I always confront her and tell her she's ignorant for talking about them like that, but she just says when you're my age you'll understand

Question: Im 25 and pregnant but still deeply afraid of telling my parents since I still live with them? How do I do it?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 08:13 AM PST

I'm 25 and going through a rough patch working minimal hours a week in retail. I dont pay any bills at home living with my parents and I have my own room and car in my parents house. This is why despite my age, Im stil deeply afraid of telling them that Im pregnant. What do I do???? I didn't plan on having a child this way. I wanted to be moved out first, married, have a career, then do it. But everything became opposite and even though the Father's child is supportive, he also lives at home, doesn't pay any bills, and makes enough just to make his new car payments. I fear because all this, my parents reaction will freak, despite my age. Im stuck between abortion or keeping it. More than anything, I want to keep it but I dont know Im just so afraid and so unprepared...

Question: How do I explain my reasoning to my Mom?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 08:07 AM PST

*WALL OF TEXT WARNING, MOSTLY JUST BACKGROUND INFO* My mom has been going over to a guy named Carol a lot and visits him pretty often. My dad is living with his girlfriend currently. I often rely on Mom and am afraid she'll leave (?) us kind of how like Dad did (frequent visits to a place, then ending up deciding to stay there). She seems very close to Carol and I really do /not/ want them in a relationship. I know that's wrong of me, but I can't help it. I need to learn some independence but when she's gone, we're left with our grandmother, who doesn't lend a listening ear when you need it. Mom went to a party (with Carol) last night and Haelee (oldest sister) began her drama queen act through text messages, and Mom messaged me telling me to leave her alone (when I didn't really do anything). I just snapped and said "You left your daughters and your mother at home, I'm not sure what you expected by going to that party considering we're always pestering you anyways." (Considering chaos normally happens when she's gone) and I regret it immediately. She replied, hurt, withe [shortened]:"EXCUSE me for honoring my commitments and having a life. Guess your Dad's the only one aloud to have one" And I ****** up, she's coming back today but she'll probably be all negative when she's driving us to Dads house. **How do I explain that I'm just scared of her leaving us for Carol and that I'm just being "overprotective" (?)** ((I bet I sound like an *** in this, sorry everyone.))

Question: Will my cousin still like me?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 08:04 AM PST

So my cousin is three year older. We don't have a narmal relationship since she live 5 hours away. Anyway we used to have a lot of fun we were little but now she's older and I'm 13 and she's 16. When I go and visit do you think she'll have time for me? Do you think we can be friends again? Please give me advice on what to do!

Question: Why do girls do this?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:58 AM PST

Went out 7 months. no sex. She claimed to be a virgin and wanted to wait. She left to college & we broke up. A year later she moved back because she missed home. One day she calls me and we got food. We met up and started to kiss. Now remember i haven't seen her in 1 year. I asked if she dated? and she said "nothing serious". I asked how far she got sexually. She wouldn't answer it (playing dumb). I had to ask numerous times. She then began to sprint walk, cover her ears, sing a song to avoid me. I then admitted i slept/dated an ex. She got mad and said "Just one? hotshot". We went on 2 more dates but she just had to bring her little sister along (maybe she was scared i was going to ask questions again that's why) and after the 2 dates she cut me off. She also got a tongue ring so you'll never know if she did oral or anal. Why couldn't she answer a question? Either she slept around or really did nothing and just thought it was none of my biz and i ruined it.

Question: Father's skewed political views are ruining family time.?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:58 AM PST

My father used to be a Democrat. For some reason, he turned full Republican after the Clinton administration left office. Now, he's currently a right-wing Conservative, and often times repeats untrue statistics and seems to get a lot of his information from Fox News. At first he never wanted to admit that he was Conservative, but now it seems like he doesn't care. Lately, his intolerant talk about Muslims is really making family get togethers tense. He will bring up Muslims at any opportunity, even if it has nothing to do with the topic at hand. It makes me uncomfortable because I actually have some Muslim friends who I know are great people- not like what he is saying about them. Over Christmas, my parents invited some of their friends over (who lean democrat and do not share my father's polarized views). He kept talking about Muslims so much, even though they had nothing to do with anything in the conversation. I don't live with them anymore, but every time we have a family gathering, or I go to see them, etc., he always brings up politics, or how bad Muslims are. Before the dinner prayer, he will even make a point to ONLY pray for the Christians suffering abroad, not "please help everyone suffering abroad"; no. it's just "please help the Christians suffering abroad." And we are Catholic. Does anyone have any advice? I've already told him that politics shouldn't be discussed and he knows my views on Muslims are not negative. He knows what my political beliefs are as well.

Question: Im pissed off at my girlfriends brother?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:55 AM PST

so my girlfriend has a brother who pushes her around and when their parents aren't home he tries to scare her and knocks some things over. her mother is a control freak and she yells at both of them a lot and he takes out his anger on her. im not sure what to do and Im kinda close to fighting her brother. what should I do? @P its hornets nest not rats nest but thanks for advice @Linda well I was gonna get back at her brother since she was messing with her

Question: When in a new relationship,should your ex tell his/her kids that he/ she is" finally happy?"?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:54 AM PST

Me and my son's father of four years broke up a year in a half ago. He didn't want to change ...He would drink a lot , and worked . Never had time for me or his son. I would try to be spontaneous with him and try to get him feeling better because I knew he took care of me and his son although he was barley home. Well, he has a new girlfriend and he's extremely happy now ,never seen him so happy . She seems to love our son which is great. I'm still hurting that he changed for her and not for me ...but when my son comes over my house (he's 4 1/2) he always tells me "momm daddy said he's finally happy " is that something his dad should be telling our son? I honestly want to call his dad up and tell him that's not right to tell our son ,keep that between you and her .He's only 4 in a half.... He doesn't understand much but when they keep repeating that to him of course he's going to feel that way . Me and his father were happy the two years we were together so I don't think it's right to say. What's your opinion ?

Question: I am running from the people who makes me sad or angry im trying to not to talk to them. Why am i doing this? You guys do the same?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:51 AM PST

Question: How can i not be like my dad?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:46 AM PST

I'm an adult i'm not perfect dad doesn't seem to be concern about me. He doesn't apologize and it seem he is ashamed of me.

Question: I'm 31 years old and I'm still behind in life. How can I feel better about my situation?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:36 AM PST

Im 31 years old and at my age, I dont have too much going for myself. I work 2 jobs and go to school. My 1st job I work at an elementary school cafertia. My 2nd job is a very famous factory (wont say the name) and I go to college during the evenings for graphic design. I was in school for 1 semester back in the Spring of 2003 when i was 18. The reason why I went back so late (Fall 2014) is because throughout the years when I tried to go back, my dad talked me out of going to school. My younger sister had just graduated high school and happened to go to college the same time I was going back. He would get so angry with me and made me feel wrong for going back to school. He thought I was tryin to compete against my sister when I was actually in school before her. She now has a Bachelors in Business Adminstration while I still dont have my associates. My parents as well as everyone else said that I may have a learning disability because there's things my sister know that I dont (like driving expressways, catch on better at jobs). My dad once said that I dont have a college mind because i struggled in high school which was true. I know you once mention something related to that, but my current job actually pays for college tuition. I went back to school last year, August 2014, a month after I turned 30. I really didnt get a whole lot of support. My dad would say to me "I dont know why you wanna wait til a certain age to do something you wasnt interested in" But he sweated me all through my 20s when I wanted to go back to school. I got 19 more classes to complete before I graduate and I blame this all on my parents. How can I feel better about my situation?

Question: I need help , please soon?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:33 AM PST

So I've been babysitting my sisters daughters which are 3 and my brothers Son from when they were just babies the oldest is 10 now, they bring them to my house from 6:30 am and they dont got. Schedule to when they will pick up,iy can be 6pm or something, i never know, i have decided to start charging them money because in this whole years that i have been taking care of their daughters the most they have giving me is 20 per month , so i have decided to start charging them even if jey are family , maybe not as much but at least a little for my expenses, but i dont know how much to charge them , please any ideas

Question: My brother is ignoring me?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:27 AM PST

My brother is way older than me and doesn't live with us but a year ago he was accusing me and my mum of not saying happy birthday to him when we did (I have proof) and now since my birthday's been and gone, he hasn't even said happy birthday to me on Facebook or anything. He hasn't spoke to me and ignored my messages and he said merry Christmas to my mum and all my other siblings but not me and I don't understand why he's being like that? I'm only 14 and I haven't done anything to him. I've been really nice to him all my life because I treasured having a family that spoke to me since the rest didn't and it's really upsetting me that he wont speak to me. I've been crying over it for weeks and I don't know what I'm meant to do :'(

Question: Please help??? ASAP... My mom is mentally insane?

Posted: 28 Dec 2015 07:17 AM PST

My mother is insane and ill but she doesn t believe anyone and she wont get medicated. She makes up stories and twists them to where its not her fault, but its someone elses. My brothers And i are scared of her. She is very antisocial. She says she and her siblings were abused when she was little and that my grandparents still are cold to her. I hear all there conversations, but my grandparents arent cold, my mom is. All of her siblings say that no one in that family was abused. Yesterday was awful and she had a big outburt. She kicked out my brothers and cursed at everyone. Today she is cold to me, and she will barley talk. She has aleays been like this and it scares me so mich i dont feel at home. I spend so much time crying because she makes me feel uncomfortable. My family cant figure out what kind of mental illness she has.... Does anyone have an idea??