Family: Question: The mother of my child wants control of our daughter even though she allowed me to raise her. What steps should I take?

Question: The mother of my child wants control of our daughter even though she allowed me to raise her. What steps should I take?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 01:24 PM PST

I was in a casual relationship with an older woman and everything was fine until she became pregnant. She made it care that her life and career was the priority and that was did not want a baby. However she kept the child and allowed me to take the responsibility. She gave birth last year when I was still only 22 (she being 34) so it was a really big responsibility for me. Our relationship broke down after and all my efforts were on caring for this beautiful little girl. Thankfully I had my family to help me - it's been tough but it feels amazing to be a dad. However the mother has really contracted me demanding to have a fair share of custody. Of course she has rights and it's important for everyone that things can be resolved. But I don't like how she can just walk in.

Question: My family walked in on me having sex?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 01:10 PM PST

I am in a long distance relationship with my bf of 2 years. We are both 21. He flew out to stay with me for Christmas. I live with my family still because I go to school. Anyway he just got in at around 10 last night. We'll this morning we woke up and it was the first time I really got to be with him because he went straight to sleep. We started getting intimate and my family, parents and little brother and my older sister, all came in at once. When they walked in we were both naked and I was riding his face. They shut the door immediately but they all saw us. I'm mortified and now my bf feels uncomfortable and he'll be here for a month. I don't know what to do or say especially to my dad or my little brother.

Question: Hey I just found out my mom has been smoking pot secretly for years. What can I do?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 01:10 PM PST

I'm pretty sure she's addicted. It used to be illegal in our state but just recently got legalized. We're not super rich so I'm worried about how much this is costing her also. What can I do/ is there any way to get her to stop?

Question: What would the relation be?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 01:09 PM PST

Ok, so my friend was interested in this girl only to find out that they are related. According to her, his dad is brothers with her mom's dad and his mother is her dad's niece. So, who exactly is he in relation to her?

Question: My brother doesn't seem to even want me to confide in him and help us get better ?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 01:09 PM PST

I lost my parents & 12 y/o brother a month ago in a car accident.The only family member I have is my 17y/o brother.Things are emotionally broken for us.I am the oldest brother & his guardian.I recently got a shocking phone call from school that my brother injured another student,I mean this has never happened before.After finding out,I came to realization that my brother was bullied all the way through high school by this particular student & his friends, because he was normally the 'quiet one', so they liked pushing him around.But my brother never told me or our parents about it & taking the bully down was actually easy for him,as my brother used to go for kick boxing(b'coz of the bullying).My brother actually fought back was as the bully made an offensive remark of our late 12y/o brother,that obviously made my brother to snap & attack.The principle has given permission for my brother to stay home for a week so he can clear his mind off.My brother doesn't want to even talk to me,he has been in his room & crying.Him & our 12 y/o were very close & after the deaths,my brother has changed & his behavior is unpredictable.He has become quiet even at home & gets angry if I try to even comfort him.This is very hard on me,its been over a month,I will always miss my parents & brother & I just want to confide on the only family that I have.I feel if I could talk to him,we could make things better for us in this hard time,as even Christmas is approaching,but he is keeps pushing me out?

Question: How should I speak, communicate with my family (parents) if that cases greatest distress and sadness?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 01:01 PM PST

I moved from home when I was 22 to another country. now that I am 38 I find it very hard to communicate with my family. I find it very irritating. what can I do? My parents are old and now I can't even spend few minutes on the phone with them. They purge information on me and talk at me. I don't watch their news anymore (can't) it is so low grade and now I cant even speak with them :-(

Question: Should i reach out to a councilor, if it might make things worse?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:48 PM PST

ok. so i absolutely hate my life. my friends betrayed me, i dont live with my father because he physically abused me. i live with my mom but my mother is always with her bf. last year, i attempted suicide by overdosing. the school guidance councilor reported it to my mother. and my mother told my brother and my brother started mocking me. he would take out the pills and be like "u forgot 2 take ur medicine" and hed start laughing. and for the past 2 years, every now and then, my brother would tell me to go and kill myself. and he said that i have no friends, that no one likes me, and he would call me a pig and a cow. and he still sometimes says those to me. i dont talk to a therapist or councilor because my mom thinks that i dont have thoughts of suicide but i still do. i want to reach out for help, but then theyll tell my mother and trust me, my mother will tell my brother. she cant keep secrets. and then ill get mocked at again. i want to commit suicide but im scared and i dont want it to hurt. i tied a belt around my neck and pulled on it slightly and i can tell that if i hang myself than it will hurt. and i cant get carbon monoixide . and i googled the time that the train is so post 2 pass by but i dont really want to jump in front of a train because i dont want to hurt the conductors feelings or shock other people who have to watch me. i read online about other methods but they all seem painful and im too scared. im scared to do any method. im not even sure if i want to die. when i grow up i wanted to be a singer (even though my family pukes on that dream) but its still a dream and i want to live my life. and if i kill myself, im afraid of whats gonna be on the other side. and i also want to cut, deep, but i dont want scars because if i get scars then my family will know and then my brother will start picking on me. i cant talk to anyone without them telling my mother and having my mother tell my brother and then have my brother make fun of me. i used to have a friend that i could talk to...but idk though i dont think he likes me anymore. and i just cant take it anymore. im almost 15. what should i do? should i reach out to a councilor? i would but then theyre gonna tell my family. and im so confused i dont know what to do!

Question: Need advice on a Live-In MOOCH!!!?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:47 PM PST

I just spent about an hour writing this, and it was way too long and I was only half way through this mess. So, I'm just going to give you bullet points... Deleted, let me try this again. You know what, I'm not going to say anything other than She is a singe mother of 4 kids doesn't have a job, my father pays for everything, and we are both fed up with her and her sh*t. My dad doesn't want to kick her out with 4 kids, he spent his money to move her from Utah to Arizona because she had no where to go, so he would just be kicking her out in a totally different state and he doesn't want to leave them stranded as much as he just wants this sh*t to end. The thing is she spends all his money, and quite frankly my father and I don't have the money to move her back to Utah, and neither does she. My dad and I have talked about this, and we're not quite sure how this is going to go down, but they need to gtfo. And she is in complete oblivion, she thinks she's living in heaven, anything she wants is granted. But it's coming to a corrupt ending. How do we go about this situation, I was thinking about going to a church and asking for their help to move her and her kids back. My dad and I want to move to Hawaii. She wants to go, but there's no way in hell. How can we accomplish this transition? We can't afford to move her out. Any advice? If you really would like to talk about this please email me I could really use the help, pagalacalagaya at gmail thanks for your sincerity. We're planning on moving to Hawaii sometime next year, but we have to save our money. AND this living situation is only costing us more and more. There's no way for two people to save enough to move states while supporting a houshold of 7.

Question: Why is my Asian mom a bit influenced by culture? Is it because she's misjudging things and doesn't want to even try?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:37 PM PST

I m not trying to bash my mom or anything. I love her very much, and I m thankful for what she did for me. But she does the most embarrassing stuff. For instance, she made me wear band aids on my fingers to stop bitting my nails. And who brings secretly a pepper spray to school? IT S NOT EVEN ALLOWED!! Plus, she doesn t let me play certain violent games, watch anime, or do some things that I like. I think my mom is too restrictive too. Plus, I m christian, so can anyone write down any non-rebellious answers? Anything that pleases God at least?

Question: Are my parents justified in being upset when I get home at 10:30 PM?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:25 PM PST

I am 25 and a college graduate who works at a corporate job. I pay rent (cheap - only $350) to my parents. When I was in school, I payed for all my tuition, but my parents got the educations credits of $2,500 per year since I was a dependant. Bottom line is they get money from me. However, on the weekends I sometimes work late and get home around 10:30. I don't wake anybody up and am quiet, but will find that they lock the door because they are upset and think I am out partying or something. Are they justified in locking the doors at 1030 out of being upset with me?

Question: Okay I'm in a real tight spot. I moved to another country that I really don't like and my parentswill let me go home if I pass my classes.?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:24 PM PST

I'm living with my mother, father (who is leaving on the 15th for business purposes), and my sister. So my problem is should I stay where I don't want to be and be miserable for my family or should I go where I want and be happy but without my family. I'd be living with my grandparents so I guess I'd technically still have family but I'm nervous because my sister and mother would be here all alone. I'm a guy.

Question: Can someone please help me decode the enigma that is the male mind?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:23 PM PST

We dated for three years in college, then started long distance when I went to veterinary school. One time while I was visiting him, I went through his text messages and found out he "took another girl home". When I confronted him and was about to break up with him, he claimed it was just a kiss. He begged for me back, saying I was his only love, the most serious relationship he's ever had, etc, and I took him back. Then later I got randomly jealous of some girl I saw he added on facebook. That triggered him to say he "can't do long distance for four years and put his life on hold anymore, it's too hard being away from me." He was crying the whole time. I begged for him to take me back, and he did. Then a couple weeks later, the girl I was suspicious of messaged me that she had been on several dates with him and they had had an hour long hook up/grinding session. As soon as she discovered he had a girlfriend, she ended it. I contacted him angrily and called him an *** hole. He said he was so sorry, he knew i could never forgive him, and I deserve someone better. But he would always love me and care about me. I know that all of this makes it sound like he didn't really like me, but throughout the 3 years we dated he wanted to be with me constantly, texted/called me 24/7, told me I was his one and only love, he loved me so much, etc. He was crazy for me. Now, I keep trying to talk to him, and he barely responds. I stopped trying, and he hasn't spoken to me in weeks. Why??

Question: How can I help him?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:22 PM PST

My boyfriend and I are both 15. Since we've been together, he's told me horrendous stories of things his mother has said to him. She tells him she wishes he wasn't born, that she doesn't want him to live with her, and that she doesn't "like" him. She's gone as far to take away privileges because she, "doesn't like him." Once when we were on the phone Facetiming, his mom texted him and asked his favorite part of Christmas. He said picking the tree. She sent a picture of the rest of the family picking out a tree. I don't know how to help him, he's constantly depressed about it and I've had to talk him out of suicide. Also, his parents are divorced and he lives with his dad half of the time. He can't stay there all the time because his dad said no. What do I do?

Question: Would my wife be OK with me doing this?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:09 PM PST

My mother in law Ann is young in her early 40s. She really has a jest for life. She loves to joke around with me and enjoys it even more if I joke around with her. She just loves to tell me jokes. Recently she said "You want to keep your mother in law happy don't you"? I said "sure, what will it take to keep you happy"? She said "8 inches should do the job"? Going along with her joke and bragging at the same time I told her "I won't cut off 2 inches for anybody". She laughed and laughed at that and the said "In your dreams shorty". Afterwards I ask my wife if she was OK with her mother joking with me about sex. She said "Mom thinks you are the greatest guy ever. She loves to joke around with you. Just keep doing it with her but keep your pants zipped. Could my wife really be OK with me joking with her mother about sex? What do you think?

Question: Is it bad I love my grandparents more than my parents, but I live with my parents.?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 12:08 PM PST

Question: How do I report abusive teenager?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 11:52 AM PST

I ve been with my boyfriend for over 18 months and he lives with his younger sister who is 16. She is extremely abusive to him and his mother. Physical and verbal abuse, threatening them with knives and guilt tripping them whenever they retaliate. This has gotten worse as she s got older. The problem is obviously she s only 16 and I feel that no one will do anything and it ll be brushed off as "teenage problems" and her mother is too scared to kick her out and is in denial about the problem. Is there a way to report her behaviour?

Question: My mother is depressed and my life sucks!?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 11:51 AM PST

My life sucks, my mother is depressed, she is breaking everything she can see. She just broke her laptop, the screen is completely broken. And she is also screaming alot! My dog is also frightened and is always in my room. My mother says she doesn't want to live and that one day she will commit suicide. My father is also quite mean and harsh. I cannot call the cops on him. My mother has no job and gets her money from the state. It's not much. So my father is supplying us with money, computers, and everything. What can i do to stop feeling bad? It feels like that if my mother commits suicide, i will be depressed all through my whole life. And probably feel just like her. The reason for why she is depressed is because she just reached 40 and she sees small, small details in her face which makes her feel like an old lady. Me, my brother and my dad thinks she looks beautiful but she doesn't agree. She does not want to talk to any doctors and i cannot call the police.

Question: Do you think it's wrong for a mom to constantly mention her will and dying to her kids?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 11:41 AM PST

My mom threatens my brother and I with her final will and testament whenever she doesn't get her way. When we upset she'll say she's taking us out of her will and we won't have any of her money. We tell her we don't care about her money, because we really don't, but she says all her kids are greedy and after her money. She uses as bait all the time. Then she'll start saying things this will be her last Christmas, even though a doctor has never said she had any illness that could kill her. She constantly talks about death and how she's going to die and everyone is going to feel guilty for the way they treated her. I've taken care of her for a long time, even though I'm only thirteen. I clean and pay the bills and sneak money in her purse because she doesn't have a job and makes us feel bad by saying we use all her money and she's poor because of us. She's even started saying she better look for a coffin. It's so sickening. Is it wrong?

Question: What is wrong with the people living with me ? Help please ?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 11:18 AM PST

I don't know wtf is wrong with everyone here, my mother, my stepfather, my stepsister, seriously wtf... We all live in the same house i mean, me and mom, her husband (my stepfather) and his kids (daughter and a son); so me and this person who's supposed to be my STEPbrother, like each other, and we are already in a relationship, so mom and my stepdad saw us kissing and they got crazy about it, my mom kept screaming and my stepdad as well yelled at his son's face, and now they're angry and don't speak to us, we tried to explain that we like each other, but they totally refuse to listen and they make excuses like "you cant do that, cause you're brother and sister", "this is forbidden" bla bla... for god sake he's not my ******* brother, he's the son of my stepfather, and my step sis now doesn't talk to me, and when i try talking to her like usual, she doesn't answer like i'm a barking dog or something... and my stepfather is telling us to stop this bullshit or he will stop paying for our studies ??! what the hell ... seriously i'm really mad and angry, it's no big deal, what's wrong with these people ? Please tell me something else that i can do to solve this shiit ? i feel really lost !

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:57 AM PST

Ok so my grandpa called today and I spoke to him. My mom is sick and everyone from my family are acting like she's sick because of me. Then they gave the phone to me and I spoke to him. He asked my sister what I was doing and she said I was washing the dishes. Then my sister kept repeating what I was doing like they thought me washing the dishes was funny. Then I took the phone and spoke to him and he asked me what I was doing again. Then I said nothing and he said they said you're doing the dishes. He said it in a negative way too like he wouldn't expect to be washing the dishes and doing some other bad stuff. He was talking to me in a way like he doesn't like me. He was even treating me like a retard on the phone based on the way he was talking to me. He always thought negatively of me and treated me like garbage when he lived in our household. He also gave me a hard time because he always brought me down. He even liked my sister better than me and wouldn't blame her when she did something but would blame me instead. I'm 15 turning 16. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Question: Why dose eveyone hate me?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:56 AM PST

Im just a kid in middle school but my family, my cousins my dad even people like my great aunt and uncle especially seem to hate me.people at school dont really like me either.... my dad has called ME not my sister brat bossy rude. I dont understand.

Question: Art director in Film (Hollywood) how do I get there?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:51 AM PST

I am interested in becoming an Art Director in the Hollywood Film industry but I am very torn and overwhelmed on how I would initiate such career from Sweden. My family and I recently endured a hard separation between my dad and my mother, so me, my mother ans sister have to downsize and move into a very poor estate. With my mother sleeping on the couch. It makes me sad to see the conditions my mother has to endure right now and all I want is to invest into my future be successful, so I'll never have to feel this way again

Question: Does this sound like abuse?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:44 AM PST

Ok I am so lost and confused. me, my mom, and my brother argue a lot. When we are in an argument they say things a lot to make me fell stupid like call me "genius" sarcastically and tell me to use my brain. They constantly make me feel worthless and then when I confront them they make it seem like I am the bad guy and I m the one who is causing it. They don t ask how my day is and sometimes they completely ignore me and don t talk. Like they are neglecting me. Also when the fight gets really heated they get in my face and scream at me. My brother is 20 years old and he grabs me and shakes me screaming in my face, I m a lot smaller than him too. My mom watches and acts like it s ok. She says I deserve it and I am asking for it and that he right for doing it. He even has punched me straight in the chest really hard and slammed me on the walls calling me a *****, a weird kid and I need to try and be normal, saying I m not like sister all this ****. Afterwards they will tell me they are so sorry and make it seem like it s alright that they did it and I start to believe them. I believe that it s my fault and I don t tell anyone about it. Then they do it again and manipulate me. I honestly don t know what to do. I don t know who to tell and I fell so depressed it s unimaginable.

Question: What are the effects of favoritism?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:38 AM PST

My cousin was the unfavored one "the black sheep" of the family he would get blamed for everything while his brothers would get away with doing whatever they wanted to do. Anyway he's now an adult and he doesn't care about his parents anymore he's moved out and haven't talked to them ever since. So can favoritism cause someone to be cold hearted and not care about anything in there life later on.

Question: Gift basket ideas under $10?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:36 AM PST

It's for my dad

Question: I live with my fiancée and family ..?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:33 AM PST

I asked my fiancée what his biggest darkest secret was he told me when he was 8 He used to sexually explore his sister? at first I said I was shocked . but now I'm numb , I'm angry and sad and I broke up with , is it because I live with him and his family? is it because I'm jealous ? what is my problem ? he said he used to watch porn that his brother would steal them when they were kids ? could watching something sexual like that trigger those sexual feelings? I read in forums that it's completely normal at young ages , that a lot of kids do that . why is this hitting me so hard? is it because I know his sister and love her like my own sibling ?

Question: Mentally challanged daughter HELP?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:30 AM PST

I was 15 years old when my daughter was born. Her father lwft the moment doctors told him. She was 2 years old when I noiticed something atrange. I had 3 other girls. One was younger tgan my 2 yearold and way more advanced that her. So doctors started running different tests. About the age of 10 she was at the mental age of a 4 yearold. My daughter is now 21 years old and is at the mental age of 6 years old where she will peobably stay. My other 3 kids are well advanced. They are moving out and having fun. My youngest daughter is 20 years old. She invited the ENTIRE family over. Even her father.... (All my kids have the same father) I askes her why me and her siater wasn't invited. (Her sister was stabding next to me holding my hand.) "I don't know... Maybe I have grown up and realized that you never had my best interest. Only hers. You never came to my games. My residals. You never came to a open house. You never thought ny report card was even though I always got staright A's. I hate you and you have never gave me a reson trust you. You taje her aide over mine. You let her destroy everything of mine and you sid nothing to stop it. So nowI am 20 and I don't some baby embarssing me and some lady not doinf anything about." How do I help my daughter now... She wants to go over their for christmas but she is not allwoed to and neither am I. Please help me...

Question: Hurt real bad?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 10:28 AM PST

I just got out of a year n a half relationship with my boyfriend who I lived with also. We ended because I have a five year old son he he always made comments that my son wasn't his if it came down for him to eventually raise him but he kept the relationship going an he kept loving me. Now I moved back in with my parents 16 hours away from my hometown an everybody. My son was living with my parents while I lived with my boyfriend even tho he still lived with his mom which mad it hard at time for us which made me get a job so we could move out eventually an have my son out here! He was all for me finding an apartment at times an others was against moving with me! My sons father left us an moved to another state an said he can't be a father anymore I feel all guys hurt me what did I do wrong I never cheated on my boyfriend so what is it! I now live with my parents an hate it my dad doesn't even talk to me a has family meetings an leaves me out now. I just want my boyfriend back I went from seeing him everyday to now not. I don't kno what to do I just want him around again. He says my son isn't the reason but just that I don't think all the time or some other bs to me. I feel played

Question: Is my mom being fair?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 09:59 AM PST

Currently, I'm only 13. I can't exactly get a job or anything, but I do definitely try to be independent. I do chores that my parents don't ask me to do, and I try so hard on my grades. Over the years, I've worked up over $500. I'm suppose to get $30 every week, but I don't so that's why I don't have a ton. My parents tricked me into putting it into the bank by saying I can always take it out whenever I want. However, I tried but my mom confessed to lying and that that money is gone forever and I will never get it back. She says that the money I have with me should be spent on others because Christmas is about giving. So, I made a list of things that I would like to receive, making sure it was under my parents budget. My mom told me I don't need to get anything from others. But, I can't buy anything that I really want for myself, because my mom says I should buy things for her and my brother. Is this even fair? I can't get anything, so I would just buy it myself but she won't let me!

Question: How can I fix my relationship with my stepdaughter?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 09:56 AM PST

I left my first wife and when my daughter was three for another who had a daughter the same age as my own. We grew close and I remarried. My first wife rarely let me see my daughter so I left it be. Years later, when my step-daughter turned thirteen, my first wife died from cancer, leaving me with my real daughter. Over time I grew real close with my stepdaughter and she's extremely shy and such. Or at least I thought so. My real daughter instantly made a connection with me and we started spending time together and she was extremely kind to my stepdaughter. However, my stepdaughter grew distant from me and her mother over the next two years (she's turning sixteen next week). She and my other daughter were in choir together and suddenly she dropped out. She insists that I spend time with my real daughter rather than her. She makes excuses to get away from all three of us. And anything my real daughter wants from my stepdaughter, she gets it. Recently I found out that my stepdaughter has a boyfriend that she has been hiding from all of us and we grounded her for it. The next thing we know she beats up her stepsister and says she deserved. She said she hated me and wanted me out f her life. I don't understand what I did. We used to be so close and now she hates me. I want to fix it, but I don't know how. It's hard talking to her because she ignores me, makes excuses, and just doesn't say a thing when I try to force her to talk to me. What do I do?

Question: Parents made me drop out of school and said I would be homeless?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 09:53 AM PST

I wanted to take one, class and work more in order to take a small break from school. Then my step mom said I was going to drop out. She then made a statement about me smoking weed and then said I was going to be homeless and made my dad stop paying for my school and my housing. I had a job but only worked weekends since I went to school the whole time and they ended up not paying me. I then got a job with the school as an internship with a professor and now I have a job at his company and they pay me a lot better. I am now going back to school and the school let me come back immediately after I told them I could pay for my classes. Why did my parents do this? Why did my step mom say I would be homeless?

Question: Is it normal that I want to live alone at 16?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 09:47 AM PST

I really don't like my parents, they're really weird and annoying, I try to avoid them but they're always here!! They never leave to go anywhere so I want to have my own place where they won't bother me

Question: Would I be considered a first generation kid?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 09:33 AM PST

Both my parents were born in India and immigrated to the USA. They had 3 kids. The first was my older brother, then sister, and I am the youngest. So my question is am I considered to be a first-generation child? Or would it just be my brother since he's the first child born in the US

Question: Whats up with my cousin?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 09:15 AM PST

She acts overly nice to me, yet everything that I tell her, she tells other family members behind my back. She also tries to get everyone in the family to fight with me, she like instigates a lot of **** between me and family members... She also compares herself to me alot thats the weird thing... shell look at my pictures and compare them to her saying omg were twins were sisters my face looks like yours and she tells everybody how much i look like her and i really dont..? Im also always talked about by her every time my other family members meet with her. she like always talks about me and has something to say, my name always involved in her conversations.,, What is she doing?? why is she doing this?? how do I handle this??

Question: Was I wrong for doing this?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 09:07 AM PST

I'm 17 and my parents give me $20 a week for allowance. I had a job for a few months, and they stopped giving me money. Now that I've quit my job, they give me $20 a week again. I notice that I was missing $20 and I asked my mom if she knew where it was. She said that she took it. So I took it back. Now I feel really bad because it's my parent's money anyways, and I should have just let her have it. Should I just give the money back? I feel like I don't deserve to get their money again because I quit my job. No, sometimes she just takes my money, just because she wants it. I didn't do anything wrong for her to take it back.

Question: What does hispanic mean?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 08:57 AM PST

i got some papers from my school that has my "background information" and for my race it says: White. i know im white. but for my ethnicity it says: Hispanic. what the hell does that mean? thanks in advance.

Question: Please help me, its about my cousin?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 08:51 AM PST

As a kid, I always felt so close to my cousins and got along with them so well. I have this one cousin, I'll call her Gia. I always felt like she was my big sister and she would always tell me I can tell her anything/ As soon as I hit 18, things went wrong and I opened up to her about my virginity being lost and feeling guilty about it. I know that was stupid of me to say but shes like a big sister to me and I thought I could tell her everything. Now I find out she always has talked bad about me and tells all my other cousins everything that I tell her.... Why has she done this? why did she lie to me? how do i go about this..? thankyou

Question: I'm mad at my brother for trying to kill himself. How should I handle this?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 08:36 AM PST

My brother tried to kill himself by driving into another car on the highway. No one got hurt really all that bad, no broken bones or anything for ether of them. However both cars are totaled and now our family of 4 only has 2 cars to drive around in when 3 of us work and 2 of us go to school. Financially we are going to be screwed, I wont be able to get a second job or hang out with friends as much anymore because of him. His reasoning is also ridiculous. He says that people dont take him seriously enough and that people are pushing him too hard (he doesn't have a job, C average student and is always late for school.) I feel like if he cant handle his life now that I really can't take him seriously. I'm mad that hes blaming my mom for this when she just tells him to do his homework or get ready for school. I'm mad that I cant have my own car anymore and will need to share it and cant go wherever I want anymore. I'm mad we cant afford it. I'm mad that he put someone elses life in danger. I don't even want to live at home anymore because I don't trust him. I'm locking up my money, car, and all of my other valuables. I honestly resent him so much right now. I don't even want to be in the same room as him, I am not initiating any conversation with him. I don't know what I should do. I was thinking that I could let my parents borrow some money for a car, but I feel like if we get a new car right after he wrecked one he wont understand there are consequences for what he does.

Question: Is it possible for my senile father to mistaken me for the violent one when it was my brother who is the violent one?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 08:26 AM PST

For example, my 27-year-old brother is the violent macho one where he assaulted both parents and siblings on a number of occasions and being in trouble with the police . But my dad has now mistaken me for the violent one who assaulted everyone and damaged property around the home when it was clearly my brother who did all this. I'm just trying to find possible causes that may have lead to my dad permanently blacklisting me from feminization programs after he took my teen siblings and 27-year-old brother to such programs where he also blamed, scolded and bossed me around for everything around the home. I'm non-violent, self-conscious and sensitive.

Question: I feel sad for my mother???!!!?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 08:03 AM PST

My dad in America lied to her and said that he owns a million dollar business with his brother. My mom believed him (she is from Lebanon and he from Turkey), and he once handed her a house catalog and said :Choose any house, and they married. Turned out he lied and he verbally abuses my mom. He actually worked at the store and couldnt buy a house. The reason why she stayed with him: My grandma was sick in Lebanon, and my mom didnt tell her mom becuz she was afraid her mom would "die of sadness". Im 17, and all my life I realized my mom does 90 percent of the taking care for me. She doesnt work, and the only reason why we have a house is because she sold a piece of her grandpa's land. My dad could have gone to college while another man worked at the store part time and gotten a better job, but my dad was lazy. He complains about the bills, but hit is his fault. HE RUINED HIMSELF! My dad could have done better... But my mom.... She suffered from my dad. My dad thinks he is going to heaven like this... My mom is a hero of my life. She is an amazing woman, a strong woman. Despite what happened, she still kept going. It wasnt easy, but I love her. She kept cooking, and cleaning, and etc. She tried to keep me happy

Question: How can I get the courage to call for help when i dont have the right to mess up my family?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 07:55 AM PST

I have an abusive father.. im used to him hitting me and touching me, that it feels like anormal everyday thing. Is it right or am i messing with something bigger than I am if I report my dad? My mom knows hes abusive and just ignores it. My aunty knows too but i asked her not to tell. My former teacher knew because i was crying before the bell rang and i told her. She told my counselor and my counselor looked for me in the morning and asked me if my dad hits me. I lied and told all he does is take my stuff away because I have two little brothers and if someone finds out, there is a chance they wil take my father away and my brothers will grow up without a dad. My brothers are my reason for not ending my life or running away or telling the police about my dad. I had a video of my dad yelling at my brother while he was laying on the floor lying and my dad had a stick in his hand threatening him. My brothers love dad, they are very forgiving and like to be around him even though how he is. They are 5 and 9 years old, i am their sister, 16 years old. What happens if I report my dad? Will i be happy in the future? My mom doesnt have a job.. i dont either.. will it affect my adult life and is it the right thing to do? What are the pros and con?

Question: I think my girlfriend needs to move out of her parents, but they're old school, and she's afraid too.?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 07:20 AM PST

I want to marry this girl, but I how she's always stressed out. And ends up getting bad anxiety. She's 28 and they treat her as if she's a kid. Her dad thinks it's wrong to live together before marriage, her mom is always calling her asking when is she coming home. She wants her by 8. Her dad is always getting on her about the house being messy.(honestly it's not bad at all) eg her daughter left a cookie on the floor, and she had an empty water bottle on the table. She's not working because she had to take care of her mom. (Cancer) She looked into nanny jobs even but they're giving her a hard time about that. When ever she has a little money, and ends up giving half of it to her mom. Her dad got mad because she was very tired one day, and ended up falling asleep, and she didn't do anything that day. If she talks back it makes everything worst. Hell, she still ask if she can go out. She also has a daughter, and she never ask them to watch her. IDK she's so scared to make them mad. I hate seeing her like that. She's such an amazing person

Question: Would this ruin a relationship?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 07:00 AM PST

i did not pick up the hone when my relative was calling. they called 3 times. they got mad at me. i pretended like nothing happened. i did not even defend myself or make up an excuse like i was in the shower. was i wrong or is my relative over reacting. i pretty much forgot about the whole thing until now. i don't think this would ruin our relationship phone they still accept me like a daughter. maybe they though i was young and stupid

Question: Girls just a mature question?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 06:51 AM PST

girlfriend of three months and we just graduated. She has lots hs guy friends but rarely hangs out with them (once a month). These are friends no worries. A particular guy friend of hers that has been bothering my mind for a minute. She likes this guy's pics/post on facebook a lot and only him. If he posts a joke she will put "lol hahahah". The things he posts aren't just posts some say "i need a girl who's real and knows what she wants", "i kind need a babe and kind of don't". Another time he told my girlfriend "you a real one" and my girlfriend replied "real recognizes real". If this isn't enough my girlfriend last time told him "hey we should race with our cars and drink a beer after and omg are those new rims? *in love emoji face* ". Three months later after this she was wishing dude a birthday and she said "Happy bday and her don't forget about our future race" something like that she wrote but she indeed reminded him. Am i overthinking this or is this girl on the way to cheating? no she doesn't txt/call him this is just on facebook. To be honest he's threat/competition.

Question: What can a teen do if she has a disrespectful, abusive father and can't call for help?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 06:34 AM PST

A few minutes ago I woke up to my dad just touching my body. He bothers me like this, which makes me not want to sleep anywhere while his still in the house because most of the time he does this. Other times he will pinch me while I'm asleep and get on me and hold me down while he slaps me and says to fight him and make him get off. He is very disrespectful and I am getting used to him treating me like a servant. He used to call me his slave and would slap me whenever he felt like it because he can. I live in the US, we're not religious, just my mom treats dad like a baby and does everything for him and now he acts immature and disrespectful and feels he can get away with whatever he does. I don't say anything to him because I can't find words that will make him leave me alone. All I think about is whether I'll leave him when I graduate high school or will I be caring towards him because he's a good person at heart.. just misguided

Question: Me and my mom are planning to run away?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 06:30 AM PST

So me and my mom are planning to run away tomorrow. We want to find a refuge so we can get help...we live in the state of Wyoming. Anyways, me and my mom are 100 percent sure that we want to do this for a reason. First, my father is a really, really weird man. He often likes to fight with my mother about her side of the family because my dad has never liked my mom's family. He also calls my mom names like fat, slut, or lazy and she's tired of it. Also, I'm really scared to go to school or take a shower because I don't want my dad to do something violent to my mom. So, please, can someone give me information for refuges in the state of Wyoming. My mom has been dealing with all this crap for 21 years! Right now I think we deserve to get out of the house and start a new life, but the only problem is that we only have like $30.00. We need immediate help and never want to see my dad. He acts like a psychopath and likes to collect lamps, because he wants to feel protected. There's a lot of things that make me feel bad for him.

Question: My "Christian" family sucks!!!?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 06:13 AM PST

Ihave 5 other siblings and I am a teen guy but my parents said that my younger sister is more mature than me so she doesnt have to do what I tell her. My parents suck so much! They get angry at me for EVERYTHING. they are always telling me there poor and then my dad always buys stuff for my shitty mom. She works from home, and practically lives on her computer. Then she gets all this vented up anger from her work at lashes it out on us. I m also homeschooled using a very strict and hard homeschooling video program that my mom thinks is just a big joke, so she ll stop us from our school in the middle of the day and make us do pointless dumb chores. We never buy healthy food, they just expect us to make our own food so I m overweight and my dad and mom aren t supportive of me trying to get into shape either. Plus, I can t ever hang out with my friends because the only time I EVER see them is after church but my parents always rush us out of church. We call ourselves a "Christian" family but we nver act like it. I m always getting the short end of the stick. They care about no one but themselves. I can t ever buy anything and when my relatives offer money my parents take it away and spend it on themselves. My grandmother gave all of us kids 100$ and my parents told us so we got excited and started thinking they were going to hand over the money and then they said but you little kids don t need any and they took the money and spent it on themselves, Any help is appreciated thanks

Question: Do jobs give you a break for a week if a family member is visiting town and you want to spend time with that family member?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 06:04 AM PST

Question: What would you feel?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 05:55 AM PST

Would you feel angry or disappointed if you saw your father's penis, and found out yyou had a bigger one than his?

Question: So my girlfriend is having family problems her oldest brother 17 and shes 16 he doesnt do anything around the house?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 05:23 AM PST

but every time her mom comes home she gets beat and punished like i have witnessed this she does anything she can for her mom to stay off her *** the way she been the past couple of days wash dishes .. wash the clothes mop sweep wash the tub out everything !!! But her mom finds the smallest things to beat her about i feel like its getting out of hand n i dont like it we cant even enjoy our relationship without her mom cursing her out or just come in the room slapping her for no reason what should we / I do ??? HELP PLEASE

Question: Would this happen to be one of those things were I just have to move away from my parents?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 05:09 AM PST

I'm a 23-year-old male who was always blamed, scolded and bossed around with the most arduous chores around the home . But now my dad has been much more inclined with doing those 3 things mentioned where he would also look for any reasons (even small reasons) to scold and give me the silent treatment when he does not treat my other siblings like this, and he has been like this ever since they went to a Christian indoctrination center late last year without me since I missed out due to a job. I'm just wandering what is best for my parents and siblings, not for what is best for me since I missed out on my Christian indoctrinaiton late last year where they even blacklisted me from it.

Question: I want to punch something so hard!!?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 05:09 AM PST

for years my mom and sister would constantly fight. they scream and yell and my sister is always trying to put it on my mom saying shes rude or selfish when its totally my sister who is. then when i try to stand up for my mom i get yelled at saying "im not in this" by my mom. but I really want to help because i know my mom is too nice to do anything about it and my sister knows that. Then if and when my sister screamed and cried she would get what she wanted.

Question: Many women who suffer from depression have ABORTED.It is a guilty conscience (for murdering a baby). CONFESSION can help !!!?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 04:53 AM PST

you hear Pope Francis

Question: When should you stop loving your family? E.g I doubt anyone could expect Idi Amin's children to love him after what they did to their mother?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 04:51 AM PST

He murdered her barbarically for partying with the bodyguard then forced the children to look at her body mutilated body. Unforgivable.

Question: Boyfriend and I had sex?? ASAP!?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 03:46 AM PST

My boyfriend and I had sex Dec.3rd and at first we were using a condom when he came the first time. He used his shirt to wipe himself off at the tip and then reinserted it...what are the chances of fallen pregnant? I had my last period Nov.25-Nov.30 my periods are irregular and it came early that time. According to my period tracker I started ovulating Dec.3rd. We weren t particularly avoiding getting pregnant either..

Question: Guys, does it drive you nuts when your wife uses your razor?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 03:46 AM PST

So, I'm shaving and my razor feels like a rusty saw. And I ask my wife if she used it. She said, "how am I supposed to know its yours?" Seriously? Because I've kept mine in the same spot for a year and a half and you know it's not yours. Then, she said, "I'm not the keeper of your razor." How do you deal with this lack of logic. Of course you're not the keeper of my razor...I am and I keep it right here!

Question: My brother is masturbating to pics of me in my bikini - should I tell my parents?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 03:09 AM PST

I'm 15 & my little brother is 13. I have an album on FB of my girlfriends and I out swimming and I caught my brother jerking off to the pics, with me in them. He also was looking at ones of just me. Is it normal since he just hit puberty? I love him but that's perverted of him, isn't it?

Question: Is it weird to think your parents are a cute couple?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 02:51 AM PST

My mum and dad love each other so much and what they have is really special. One year for my mum's birthday, when i was little, my dad made her a book called 'Why You're So Amazing' and it just warmed my heart. I think if other people my age had parents like that, they'd get grossed out but i think it's beautiful. Is that weird?

Question: My younger cousins felt around my crotch while I am sleeping.?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 02:00 AM PST

I'm Jacob a sophomore and my 2 cousins (both boys) recently invited me for an over night hangout. I sleep in boxer briefs. I slept in late that morning but I heard my 10 year old cousin running up the stairs to the guest bedroom yelling me to play Xbox with him. I was too tired to get up so I continued to sleep. He barged into my room and took the blanket off me. I just kept sleeping. He was silent for the next minutes and I heard him say woah his private parts are big. I felt him put his hand on the outside of my underwear feeling around. Since I was half asleep half awake I had morning wood so of course it was big. I then felt him start to reach inside my underwear. I was going to stop him but since he was 10 years old he is probably just being curious about what it is like being a teenager so I let him feel my penis and testicles in my underwear. But then I heard my 12 year old cousin come in. He asked what his brother was doing and he said Cousin Jacob has super big private parts. And my 12 year old cousin said I don't believe it. He then stuck his hand in my underwear and started feeling around and said woah that's huge. Now I was feeling a little weirded out and pretended to wake up as if I was really tried. I slowly opened my eyes and I saw them with their hands in my underwear feeling my junk. They saw me wake up and ran off. What should I tell them or should I just leave it alone and forget it. I didn't realize how weird it would once the both start feeling my junk.

Question: Why is my little sister mad at me at my birthday party (my mom doesn t show/has favoritism & a single mom?

Posted: 06 Dec 2015 01:54 AM PST

Shes get mad at me the day of my party when I have friends to spend the night she always follows us Me &my friends were sleeping on a air mattress and my sister was sleeping on the couch in the living room(there wasnt enough room)they were right next to each other shes asleep and rolls a little off the couch on to the air mattress it was at my head I woke her up & told her that she rolled off & if she could get back on the couch she just blankly stared at me & then I tried to push her back on the couch & she hit be & then was literally laying on the mattress with her head on the couch I kept asking her then my bf woke up & talked to her & we finally got her to move after like 5-10 minutes But she was just sitting up with her feet under the mattress(which was under my head)moving them for I couldnt go to sleep I told her to stop & she would listen so I tried to move her my self &she hit me & then I told if she was gonna be like this she can go to her room She said then give me my blanket & pillow( we brought both of our blankets & pillows for us) I told I was using About 5 minutes later I looked at her & she was still sitting up I asked why do you have to do this to me ever year she would answer I kept asking & then she started to cry then of course I was trying to figure out why she was crying then she stormed off to her room.she like she jealous every year when something is about me like my bday she was mad when I had surgery & was in a cast with crutches & needed help