My husband and I are getting a divorce. We haven't filed yet, but we are not together anymore. Ever since our break-up, I've been talking to my best guy friend again (him and I barely talked while my husband and I were together because he didn't like the fact that I was with my husband). When my soon to be ex-husband found out me and my BGF were taking again, he yelled at me and started acting jealous. If him and I aren't together anymore, why would he care who I'm talking to? I mean, me and my BGF have no feelings for each other whatsoever. I've told my ex-husband this.

I read a story long time ago that a 19 year old male (who was an athlete) courted a young very beautiful girl to marry him within 6 months. The girl agreed but the male died before they get married because of ruptured appendicitis. The reasoning was that the male was not prepared for marriage and that the girl was saved by God. Because the girl was very Godly and prays the rosary everyday. (This story is an outrage) This story was told by someone who became a catholic priest (who was a cousin of that man) and published it in a book (Mama Mary and her Children Volume 1) --- Based on those evaluations, it seems that God for some reason condemned that man due to economic or age reasons (which is easy to alleviate). It seems that some lives are more important than others and God is not really that pro life. Anyway, I have been researching about marriage and that the ECONOMIC conditions of marriage are rarely discussed. Presupposed that if I were to marry a girl, I would need some cash and some assets. Maybe a bank account with $50000, a house, a stable job, a certain age or guaranteed inheritance. In my case, I cannot guarantee a stable employment but I have a guarantee of at least a years of minimum wage. (If I put it in the bank, that could be retirement) and a home separate from my parents. Can somebody discuss economic conditions?

I realize it s a loaded question with probably no simple answer, but several months ago, I got involved with a man who didn t tell me he was married. It went on for months and we were very happy...or so I thought. But ever since I found out he was married, I can t help wondering what the point in pursuing me was. If he was unhappy in his marriage, wouldn t he just leave? They have no children together, after all. And if he is happy, then why did he need me too? I just need to try to understand.

Listen up folks. My husband goes to sleep super early, so I'm looking for fun things to get into at night. Any ideas? :)

We went to a homeless shelter together as a family . And then he said he was having a very bad day at work and that he had an intense emotional connection with her and that she made him forget all his problems, Later everyone in the shelter said they found them suspicious, so I confronted her and told her to stay away from him . Staff finds out and prohibits them from seeing each other. He goes out of his way to see her. Fast forward we find an apartment and he goes and visits her and when she dissapeared he called all the jails and hospitals until he found her , stayed waiting eight hours until she was released while his family was waiting at home.

The reason I ask is because divorce or separation seems commonplace for most of the younger people getting married. Though, people from the old school seem to claim people don't have the same sacred meaning to marriage anymore.

My wife and I have recently gotten involved in the BDSM lifestyle. Not super deep into it, but scratching the surface. We would like to expand our knowledge of this and be able to put it to use on each other. Both of us are switches but we prefer her being the top. If anyone of you can help point us towards some good information or help, that would be fantastic.

Especially when there was so much miscommunication. The times I was with him was amazing. I really care about him. We haven't spoken for almost two months. Got into an argument last time :-( I've tried forgetting him and tried to date others but it always leads to me thinking about him again. I felt such goo energy between us but it just seems like something always goes wrong. I really care about him but I feel really silly about it at the same time. Is it normal to feel this way?

I have a friend who is in her late 20's and is a single mom to a 4 yr old. She is very hardworking kind, but does not make very much money but does have enough to self sustain. She works in a local gov. jobs that offers great benefits but pay is not the best. She recently started dating a guy in his early 40s who has never been married and has no kids. So far she thinks he is a good guy. In the beginning when they started dating he would mostly pay for the dates. Now about 3 months going out has slowed down but his expectations have change. The guy is an accountant is pretty stable financially. What my friend is finding is that she has discussed with him how she cannot always afford to go dutch each time they go out. Now when they discuss it, it seems that they have an understanding but when they go out he is hesitant to open his wallet and she ends ups paying for her portion. She has no issues going dutch BUT at the same time the guy likes to travel alot and she is not at a point where she can do those things. IMHO I told her while he seems nice he seems to be self centered as he knows the situation. I told her this type of guy who has never had a live in girlfriend or relationship for more than 6 months in his entire life is not going to be able to fully understand the where she is coming from financially bc he has been at his job for 10 yrs and makes decent money and has no dependents. What are you guys opinions on this situation? Now right now her custody arrangement is 50/50 so basically it's a wk on and a week off with her son so the dad is fully involved, but the new boyfriend expects her to take days off work and be able to pay for vacation when he goes out of town. Is this reasonable for a man his age and financial status to do this? She has not problem staying in but when she has suggested coming over and maybe cooking something together he gets uncomfortable. She has however been over to his place and spent quality time together and met his friends.

So I ve been at my job for the last 4 months. Its an outside sales position, which requires a lot of time out on the road with my Sales Manager who is 20 years older than me ( I m 28, hes 48). Since day one we both had this immediate chemistry,( we both come from similar backgrounds). I found out he was married with kids and on his third wife, so I immediately tried to supress those feelings.He talks about his kids all the time, but his wife not so much. With that being said, We ve gotten extremely close over the last few months and I think he is falling for me He always trys to make me happy at work. Praises my successes to higher ups, and me. Also praises how smart, beautiful and talented I am and that any guy would be lucky to have me. If I m having a bad day he ll try to cheer me up by taking me to lunch or buying me little things out on the road, and then call me at the end of each day to see how I m feeling. He also tells me that he thinks about me and If im having a bad day, he is too. When I m with him he opens the car door for me, holds my bags. Tells me to wait for the best guy, because I deserve the best. He also says things like..If you were my wife..I d treat you this way. etc.. It s like he wants to see my response to that. I don t know what to do, because he s very smart and charming and I feel I m starting to fall for him. I don t want an affair.

I mean, I don't want to organize anything without their consent, but they look so cute together and are always together. HOwever, neither of them have even thought of getting married yet. I really want them to, though, because they both cost like seven bucks at the shop and if they don't produce more baby hamsters I'm gonna be mad

So I'm married and my husband has 4boys with his ex... They all live with us right now. It's an on going problem that I think my husband should tell me when he talks to his ex. He doesn't think so though. And I don't think he needs to talk to her alone when they see eachother in person (live over 1000 miles apart). I feel like anything they need to talk about they can say with me there. What do they need to discuss that they need to be alone? What do you guys think? If your a stepmom, does your husband tell you everytime he talks to his ex wife???? Do you feel comfortable with them talking in person and you having to go into a different room???

I've been a full time dad for about a year, i left my ex wife and took the kid, due to her drinking and other nasty things. She only sees him once every 2/3 weeks, in some cases a month. Earlier tonight, she demanded child support from me, stating that if i paid her she wouldn't have to work so much to support herself and that " because I'm a woman you have an obligation to support me and pay me child support " now I'm not very familiar with everything, i cannot afford a lawyer right now either. Im 26, an Army Vet and currently a full time student graduating soon. Any advice would be great. Is her argument valid? will a judge take her side? I've documented as much as i can since i left her.

Having your spouse as a coworker..

So i found out indirectly...that my wife of 7 yrs, has NEVER enjoyed sex with me...I guess you can imagine what I'm thinking an feeling...what on earth do i do? thanks

I don't want to give details now of my situation, I was just curious what most people do.

Not sure if this changes after marriage or most women generally enjoy this.

Of his approximately 3,000 fb friends, I would say about 80% are female. And yes, he was unfaithful, with me, after I met him on a facebook page for SINGLE professionals. We were even FB friends at one time, so maybe he didn't intend on things becoming physical, but I thought it odd that there was no mention of a wife or any pictures, etc. Also, he doesn't allow his friends to post on his page.

I think it's very unhealthy and very inappropriate for a married person be friends with someone of the opposite gender after marriage.There's no such thing as a married person having a healthy friendship with someone of the opposite gender.I don't see a reason for a married person to have any non business like contact with non family members of the opposite gender.It's very wrong and it's the appearance of evil for a married person to have opposite gender friends.I think if a person is friends with a married person of the opposite gender,it's homewrecking,very disrespectful,very wrong and I take that person doesn't care about that person's marriage otherwise they won't talk to someone else husband/wife about non business stuff.It's emotional cheating for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender.If a married person want opposite gender friends,they should have stayed single.There are no excuses for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender.Same gender friends after marriage is great but opposite gender friends is very wrong and disrespectful.I also think a married person should be only be polite and civil to non family members of the opposite gender and not friendly with someone of the opposite gender (being friendly is a sense of friendship) This has nothing to do with insecurity,it's about respecting marriage.Do you it's wrong for married people to have friends of the opposite gender?

bought the house in Feb 2013. Everything in my name; mortgage, insurance, taxes, utilities, etc. He signed a quit claim deed at the time we closed on the house. Due to damage he did when drunk and wear and tear/lack of maintenance, I believe, at best, the house is worth what we paid. I am not an appraiser so I couldn't say for sure though. We paid 130k and I owe $120,805.02 at this time so if I understand it correctly, we have an estimated $9195 in equity. He is demanding money. We have $12k in credit card debt. I tell him if he gets 1/2 assets, he gets 1/2 debt. He says he won't pay the debt or he'll just file bankruptcy. All debt is in my name (he has cards with his name on them). I have agreed to keep all debt and give him two boats, three vehicles and much of the furniture. I get the house, a financed car, a broke down truck and primary custody of kids. I've been told we don't have enough equity in the house for it to be considered. Is this true? Since he signed a quit claim deed, does he even have any right to the house? If he were to get the house in the divorce, wouldn't he have to get a mortgage in his name? Since all debt is in my name will the credit card companies just change it into his name? If I do end up having to pay him for half the equity, how long tilI i have to come up with that money? If I have to sell, can I ask for deferred distribution until the kids leave home? I have a lawyer but she hasn't gotten back to me on these questions yet.

My husband has had a serious drug problem the last six years. Been in and out of detox and recently went to the rehab 3000 miles a way, checked out early and is back on drugs no more then a day later. I have tried everything and am now at that point where I know I cannot save him or control him but I keep wondering, because i have 1000's of videos of him messed up, if I post one on his wall on favebook..maybe the public embarrassment might make him get better. But I'm in the process of marksman acting him anyway, but idk. Would you do it??? He's really bad. He's been on the floor the last 5 hrs unconscious and high as a kite. He's breathing and just being retarded. Been through it so many times, I'm know he's just high. I did not take him home. I called the rehab and he had left. Then at 2am, I hear the garage door open and he was home. I ask him to leave, he refused. Not in the financial position myself to just leave. He slept on the couch and I sleep in the room. I really cannot stand him at this point and I don't think I want to go to any more alanon meetings. I've been to 100's. I just want to leave him but I cannot at this point. That is why I am marchmaan acting him.

I mean, nothing serious. Nothing long-term. If you were out one day and she came onto you, what would you do? Perhaps she's a (younger) family friend? Just a one-time thing. Just for the experience. Don't men crave that experience when they're over 50?

ive been married for 5 years now have 1 kid i really do love my wife she is a very good person and respectful but lately am having this problem whenever we try to make sex i can't get hard with her it's like i dont feel attracted enough near her to have full erection and be able to perform, i tested myself on porn and also went to a brothel and chose a my type hot lady and i was able to perform normally i did this to see if i have sickness erectile dysfunction but all seems working so why my wife :( i really want it to work with her am feeling down she still looks the same as before she didnt get old yet

My husband and I both work but its not enough to cover some food and rent. I just recently had to start a new job because my last job cut my hours so short I had to quit. I work part time and my husband works full time. I'm looking for a second job. Any advice would help

We've been married for 10 years and now I am sensing things that make me wonder if he is monitoring me. No, I am not cheating but can't for the life of me figure out why he would do this. I don't think this is all in my mind. Somehow, he has repeated some of the things I have said to my children, while in the car. Even something I said to a female friend of mine. I do have sirius radio but the account had already expired by then. Since I don't have an smart phone, then I don't think this is what he is using to listen in. What do you think he is using to monitor me in my car? Thanks I am not sure if this is the right category to put this in. If not, can you suggest a category? Thanks

well not sperm in his balls more like come ejaculation you know

My coworker and I are both married and love our spouses very much. We both have children and are basically happy with out lives. We work together one on one pretty much away from everyone else. We talk about everything and have become friends. Recently however, we started talking about our sex lives and how being on our shift has made it take for a turn downhill worse than it was before. We both sympathize with each other since we are going through similar situations. A couple of weeks ago we were messaging each other like we randomly have and he brought up sex and with my responses and our needs it quickly turned into sexting. Since then, he has come to me requesting my help in his physical needs. I ended up helping him out orally and I enjoyed it very much. It is nice to feel appreciated in that way. Since then he has been requesting more and i have such guilt about what i already did. I turned him down. He seemed fine with it but things are just different between us. We still love working together and get along great. Bottom line I guess is how wrong is what we are doing, after all It is only physical. We both got enjoyment out of it and carried on with our normal lives. I feel a lot of guilt even though I get turned down at home. I don't know how he feels about the idea of cheating and we never discussed that part of it. What should I do? How can i make things right?

Is it at all?