My boyfriend and I have a one year old son. His family is really unstable and haven't been able to have there own place for months now. They are always on and off and this time they moved in with us. His mother is a drug addict and they have 5 children plus the mom and dad. Plus our roommate and my boyfriend and i. In a 2 bedroom upstairs apartment. I'm honestly so over whelmed and idk what to do anymore. There's about 11 people, living in a 2 bedroom apartment that's on my name. What should I do? They have been living with us for months and they don't even try to look for there own place. They never even help with bills only food since they get welfare. My boyfriend and I are always fighting about them. I'm tired of living with them. I want my own space. I want to live like how a family should. Not with his mom and dad and a whole bunch of brothers and sister. On top of all this we have a whole bunch of warnings. I'm so stressed out. Help!!

id say about 3 times a week at least, my mom flips out and goes on a spree of name calling, and calls me things like : Crazy, Loser, Fat, a piece of ****, a baby (because i ask alot of questions, and she calls me that after she has said a few and i start crying) etc, and comments things like : "no wonder why you have no friends, I think there is alot more wrong ith your head than the doctors can see" etc then about 50 minutes later shes all calm and i ask her if shes sorry and she says no in a relaxed way. and she doesn t seem like the drug type or alcloholic (leave the alclohol up to my dad) and also, my dad gets home at 7 at night then cracks open a case of beer at 7:15, and when he wakes up hes hungover , and my brother also tags along with my mom and says im an asshole and i tell my mom (who else do i tell?) and she says "well hes not lying!" most of the time. and i dont know what to do, i dont want to be a druggie (nor will i ever be) not smoking because of lung cancer, not drinking because i dont want to be like my dad, and i hate hurting my self ( tried cu77ing once, never again, it didnt help, and my mom gets me tested every two months to see if any new mental illness popped up, but howmany has she gone to for herself? 0000000000000000000000000000 don t you think she should?

So my baby's father has decided to leave our 5 month old son and I to live back home with his parents to pursue his goals which are going to school and playing soccer and only working a part time job. Nothing is wrong with soccer or school and I very much support him but I don't support the part-time job. I also don't understand why he thinks that he can't do those things living with us? I am trying hard to understand where he is coming from, but to me it sounds very selfish and that he doesn't want to take care of his son. Also, I feel like his parents have manipulated him as well. His mom is always begging him to come home to live with them while I work full-time and take care of the baby...she has even told me that he doesn't love me and that we just aren't meant to be. Who says that? Ugh. She also said to me that "oh, he's still young and he isn't ready to be a dad so that is why it is not best for him to work right now and he needs to be home with us" um what? I wasn't ready but I don't have a choice, so why does he? We are both 20 years old. She makes no sense to me, its like he is less of a parent than I am. I don't know what to do, he doesn't really have any interest in our child like playing with him, feeding him, changing diapers etc. I don't know if I should let him go or fight for our relationship. I feel like he is going backwards wanting to be a kid again and be taken care of by his parents. I don't have the choice to leave and pursue my goals. What should I do?

I already hate the high school I'm in, I have almost no friends and everyone there is a complete douchebag.... but then they forced me into AP US History, and they're not letting me drop it even though I've repeatedly told them how much stress and anxiety the work and amount of studying is causing me on a daily basis.... they want me to be at the top of everything and and just suck everything up and deal with it otherwise I'm just a failure.... I'm just pissed and I've had it up to here with everything. Suggestions?

My very very close cousin just found out that her husband has been entertaining/communicating with other women and she's heartbroken. I don't really understand how she feels because I haven't experienced what she's going through, but I just want her to get better. This weekend is the 40th birthday of one our close cousins (we're both the God mothers of her twin daughters). We've been planning her birthday dinner for about 3 weeks now, but she just found out about her husbands actions this week. I basically want her to feel better and i want to encourage her to go to our cousins birthday dinner this saturday. She's close to our cousin who's turning 40 and this is such a milestone birthday for her. I think that her going out may take her mind off things for awhile. I don't know if i should encourage her to go, and if i do, how to do that? Or just leave her alone? Thoughts please

My father competes with me. If I play a nice song he has to outdo the song I play and play an even better one. If I cook something really tasty he acts as if he's too good to taste it. I had made gumbo and it was really good but he always comes up with reasons to not eat it. The rest of the family eats it and they love my cooking he has even told me I can cook well but it seems like now he always comes up with reasons not to eat it. If I do something he always has to give me pointers to make it seem like anything I do isn't good enough and he'll always come up with some sort of criticism. If I wear my hair a certain way he'll say "that hairstyle looks like sh*t" or he'll say something like "why don't you fluff it up a lil bit stop straightening it." one time I bought an outfit with my own hard earned money and I never wore the outfit. And he told me "if you don't wear that outfit I'm gonna get rid of it" the nerve of him! How can he tell me if I don't wear an outfit that I bought with my own money from my own job that he'll get rid of it. And guess what happened? It disappeared right after that and then I got on him about it and he had the nerve to act like he was going to hit me for "accusing" him when he told me himself that he was gonna get rid of the outfit and said that I was being "disrespectful" and then days later the outfit appeared but it had rips and oil stains all over it. One time I had a collectors item doll and he told me he was gonna get rid of it.. (continued) days later this collectors item doll disappeared after he said he was gonna get rid of it and then I confronted him about it and then he tried to act like he was gonna hit me because he said I was being disrespectful and that I was a liar and that he didn't say that. He also has a problem with women he's always talking about "how women want to be seen. They only want men to think about sex." He always tells me my friends are fake and none of them are my real friends he tells this to my other siblings too. It's like he wants us to believe nobody likes us. He likes to do things that he knows I don't like. If I tell him to get something from the store for me he'll get what I told him not to get. One time I was straightening my hair with a hot comb and a hot comb has to heat up on the stove he kept turning it off to hinder me from finishing my hair he kept doing it and I told him to (continued) I told him to stop turning the comb off. He told me that if I leave the stove on again while I was straightening my hair that he was gonna take my comb and throw it outside. Then I told him "If you take my comb and throw it outside I'm gonna take your stuff and throw it outside" he flipped when I told him that. He said if I threw his stuff outside that he was gonna punch me in my head, so I told him if he punched me I was gonna punch him back then that's when he punched me in my head (continued) so I we were fighting on the floor and he told me "you can't do what I do" basically saying since he was a man that I couldn't fight him back because he's stronger and im a woman and can't go toe-to-toe with him. I called the police on him, they gave him a warning that if he hits me again that he'll go to jail. One time we got into an argument and he told me that "I don't care if I go to jail, I'll hit you" and I told him I'll make sure he goes away for a long time (continued) then he said "If I go to jail for a long time I'll make sure it's worth it. I'll mess you up so bad your jaw will be all wired up" I told him I was keeping track of the things he was doing and I was going to write down the threat he gave me and then he tried to project what he said to me back on me by saying he was going to write down what I was saying and was going to let the cops know what I was saying. I think he's crazy. @Sandy, you're right. I think my father is a narcissist. I don't trust him he tries to convince me that none of my friends like me and he says the same thing to my other siblings. I don't get why he wants me to believe none of my friends like me.

I'm looking for a good book that details basic infant care, for either the first six weeks or the first six months. I'm looking for something small and easy to read, that outlines dressing, bathing, hair care, nail care, child safety, soothing, and how to deal with illness and injury. I'm not interested in one that outlines sleep or breastfeeding (I already have books for that). I'd also like to find something that's a little more natural minded; something that has an open mind and/or information about vaccines (or forgoing them), homeopathic and herbal remedies, baby wearing, co-sleeping, and cloth diapering. Have you seen anything like this on bookshelves? I'd appreciate any suggestions.

i pay my mother to take care of my kids but she doesn't report it to the welfare her and i don't get along very well and now she is trying to f*** me over with my tax income check what can i do my son goes to the school where she lives my son goes to her school deistic

i am currently trying to get my sisters three kids before they have to go into foster care. i live in another state then my sister and we both are trying to figure out the best way to keep the three of them together while one of the kids has a different dad who never was really in the childs life but now wants to take him for him self all the kids no most is there mom and me and there nana but there grandma is not able to take care of them while i am currently working and have all they need

So I know there's alot of trolls on this site and i'm not one of those people, I legit need help right now, Lets just say I accidentally under my breath revealed a secret that was supposed to be a secret (Its a personal abuse problem i'm not comfortable talking about) that was about my siblings, she became very VERY DEPRESSED and wanted to kill herself, my dad kicked me out right there on the spot, I grabbed my laptop, threw on my shoes and left, I walked to the honey toast cafe which is an internet cafe nearby, I didn't bring my charger and my laptop doesn't have long left before it runs out of battery, I need some quick answers of what to do, I can't live with my parents again, and I have siblings who are willing to take me.. I'm just so embarrassed to contact anybody, so what do I do? Please have it be something that does NOT involve my parents at all please.... Sorry I messed up a part, I didn't bring my charger I just brought my LAPTOP

I am a lefty, so is my older sister, both my parents are right handed, so are their parents and their brothers and sisters and cousins and uncles and so on, only 1 or 2 people from all of my mum and dad's family are right handed yet me and my sister somehow are both left handed. Personally I love being a lefty for many reasons, mostly because it helps me think I'm special from time to time especially since I get depressed easily and very often. Now I was wondering what degrees of ambidexterity there is. I mean I write with my left, I can sorta write with my right but very very poorly but still understandable, now that's not what makes me think I might be a bit ambidextrous, what makes me think it is because I can use many other things perfectly with both hands, computer mouse, mobile, knives, scissors, many things, I also love to play football (even though I'm a wee bit overweight) I predominantly shoot best with my left foot but my right is also very good. Lots of things like that make me wonder if I am ambidextrous to a certain degree.

Well my atic is always opne and if I look up at it I feel cold then I feel presure on my back like someone is pushing me down or up the stairs but it wont happen if someone is there I get an errie feeling on the stairs or landing or bathroom on my own when my mum closed the door it stoped and but then she opned it and its not like my mind is playing tricks on me once I took my top of and there where 2 adult sised hand marks so I took a pick of of my back and 2 red hand prints showed up after showing my mum I deleted it cos I was freeced out and 3 weeks ago I had heard that my nephrw has got hand marks on his chest its freeking me out Please help

Ever since I was a kid we've never had a close relationship. My parent are always working, so they leave me and my siblings at my grandma and neighbor's care. Thoughout that time I was sexually molested by the neighbor and became even more distant with my parent. I've wanted their support, but cannot tell them about the abuse. Now I've made so many mistakes because they never fill their roles and teach me. Sometimes I really resent them, also they yell at me for making little mistakes and act like they are perfect. I want to improve this relationship but our views are so different?

My husband and I would give my parents $1,000 to $1,500 every two-three month. We pay for every dinner, which bills up to 100-200 dollar each time. We have dinner like 2-3 times a month. We just recently bought them a $3,000 bed. We buy them gifts almost every time we see them. (Water dispenser, shower head, etc.) Just thing we think and heard them say they need. Is this not enough? What she wants from us is like a steady paycheck? (500-1000 a month) which I am very uncomfortable with. Our current financial situation, I am the only one working I make around 4-5k a month, my husband is in grad school, his parents gives us 3k a month. I just feel very uncomfortable giving my parents money every month. First off my husband parents give us money, it's like taking their money and giving it to my parents. Second off my husband and I have a family now, we want to save some money to buy a house and have a baby later on. And we just barely have enough for our self. My mom is currently not working because she has acid reflex and it hurts her every now and then. My dad works and my sister who live with them works and pays for everything. (My sister gives her whole paycheck to her and support them.) Bottom line question is, am I giving too little to them or is she asking for too much?She makes me feel obligated to give her money. It's like I can never satisfy her? I did try talking to her, but it just ends up as a fight. I'm 23.

Yesterday when I was changing clothes in my room suddenly my sister came inside I never lock the door.She came inside when I was removing my socks and I was totally naked.I said her to get out from room but she said bro I don't mind to she you naked please solve this query of mathematics as tomorrow is my exam.She don't even take me the towel she said please don't create panic and I won't tell anybody started solving her problem.I also got hard on in front of her.She was there for 10 minutes.Do you think it's normal relationship.

I don t have anything against my parents, they are pretty nice. My family in general can be annoying but the reason I want to move is more to be closer to my school than family problems. I have a 2 hour commute that I could cut to a 5 minute drive. Is it legal to move in with my 18 year old brother?

This person keeps calling me, when he calls it says "Unknown Caller" I picked up the phone, he told me "You better have a good lawyer, and then he gave me a phone number and told me to call it, he told me "if you ignore me I will find you and kill you" is there any way he can find me? I don't know how he got my number!!! Should I call the police? Is there anything they can do? I'm so scared!! The man had a scary voice. And last night, a car parked by window, I looked out, it was a man watching my house. He was there for about 30 minutes.

I have a friend who dislikes confrontation's and avoids them at all costs and by doing so her parents have complete control. She works but all the money she makes goes to an open account in which her parents can block her purchases. She is not allowed to be out by herself unless escorted by her brother and is not allowed out no longer than 10pm. Argument wise her parents are light weights and just get upset and say no. she was grounded not allowed to go out that includes work and had her phone taken away.

To make a long story short, my mom is going to find out by the 23rd of this month that I've been lying to her for over a year and she'll definitely kick me out. The reason the lie will finally be exposed is because she is expecting me to give her $2,300 that I told her I'd get by the 23rd, knowing good and well that I won't actually get it because I messed up and lost the opportunity to receive it. I've mostly resigned to the fact that I'll have to pack my things and leave my house in six days and figure out where the hell I'm going to put my huge boxes and suitcases when I have literally eleven dollars, no ride, and I don't talk to anyone outside of my house so I don't have anyone to help me store my things. My mom will be too pissed off to help me and if I just sit outside with my things, she'll call the cops and have me removed. I definitely can't leave ANYTHING behind because she'll destroyed or have it all thrown out. Backpacking is not an option because of the amount of stuff I need to bring. I think I'll eventually end up going to Job Corps since that's one step up from homelessness. That solves the issue of where I'm going to stay, but I still have to figure out how I'm gonna get there and move my things there. I have no idea what the hell I'm gonna do. I've never been so desperate in my life. My mom doesn't negotiate, so that definitely won't be an option. I will definitely get kicked out when she finds out. What would you do if you were me? What are my options? Hi Ben_Gazzi, 1) I don't mooch off my mother. My mother mooches off me and is very angry when me and my siblings are unable to provide for her. 2) I clearly said that I'm GOING TO LEAVE, so growing up is inevitable. My purpose in asking this question was to seek help in figuring out how to move forward into adulthood, idiot. Thanks for making literally no contribution to answering my question. Thanks everyone else for the answers so far. For those who asked, I just turned 18.

Yesterday, I went food shopping. As per my perfect princess' rules, I can only by brand named items. However, I purchased store brand cereal as it was cheaper and a larger box. When my angel came home from school, she was so angry! After she calmed down a bit, she stated that I can choose any three punishments that she normally inflicts on my husband an I. They include: 15 slaps across the face, 5 kicks to each leg, going to bed without dinner for 3 days, punching and scratching our cheeks, and hitting our tounge until it bleeds. Please understand and realise that I deserve thses punishments as I was disobedient to my perfect princess' and her rules.

Before you say it's because she's more responsible, know that she pulled a fire alarm & (I WISH I was lying) jumped off a 12 foot bridge Their rules for dating when I was a teen: -No going to his house even WITH parents home -Only go to public places & okay the place with my parents 1st -No kissing When my younger sister got a boyfriend my parents: -Let her "have a sleepover" at his house WITHOUT anyone else home -Let them go anywhere without permission -Took him on vacation with us while before my dad wouldn't even take extended family -Aloud him to be mean to me -And once my mom cut his hair for free 20 minutes after he tried to kick me out of a room in MY home -They could have "sleepovers" on a school night. I wasn't even aloud to do this with female friends! My mom's 3 excuses were -He's a nice boy -His parents are divorced -You're over reacting By the way after they broke up this "nice boy" broke into out home & stole her laptop & all her underwear My honest question is: What did he do to make my mom make such a 180 turn with rules in teen dating?!

Heres a the situation. My wife and I took my 37 year old brother in last week after we found out that he has been living in his car. In the past 2 years he has been seeing this girl that no one in our family approved of. He pretty much started paying all of her bills and lost everything and got evicted from his appartment. Since then they have broken up and he pretty much just drives her around when she needs something. When I asked him what his plans were. He said he didn't want to look for a place because they may move to Florida in 2 months. In my opinion it doesn't seem like its going to happen and honestly I cant have him stay with me that long. He also asked my wife for 20 dollars for gas. My question is where is all of his money going? I really want him to just try and find a place to live and move on from this girl. Any suggestions?

My sister has moved in with my mother because her husband is an abusive bastard. Her kids 4, 3, and 1 keep asking about their dad. Especially the 4 year old who keeps asking when they'll all go back and live with their dad and if he can come down. He even asked me if I liked his dad... which I replied with, "Uhh, I never said I don't like him (in front of you)." He asked my mom the same question and she said no because he hurts his mommy who is her baby. She made another comment about him hurting his mom when Michael said that he wants to live with his mommy and his daddy. It makes me kind of uncomfortable that she's saying this all outright, but I understand I could just be overprotective. I feel like he's too little to have to already deal with the fact that his dad isn't a superhero. I mean, he's a bastard and I despise him, but he's still Michael's daddy. What do you think? If you have any links to psychology websites on this matter that would be awesome too!

So i will be 20 in exactly one month from today. I was raised in a fundamental baptist background. kjv bible, dress modest, no sex, no kissing, all that stuff. well it is very hard to explain, i listen to whatever music i want, or movies. My parents aren't perfect but they try. they are so overbearing on me though. i cant do this...i cant do that. anyway i met this guy about two months ago. he has become the center of my universe. we talked constantly, he would sneak me around. me kissed and hugged, walked in the rain. i think i am in love with him. any way long story short. big fight between me and my parents. i had to stop talking to him. they took my privacy...i couldn't go anywhere by myself...all that for over 2 mnths. i had to stop my job at a preschool which i loved, and i work full time at my parents school now. they finally gave my phone and everything back last week. and that whole time i would find a way to talk to him. well i am still talking to him. he makes me so happy. i want to leave the house. but my parents have such a grip on me i cant. it hurts me so bad. i need to leave and get out. please help me. also sorry for the grammar and mispellin i am so busy at the moment.

My mother doesn't understand my personality, i'm a little introverted and anxious, i hate my face without makeup i never want anyone to see what i truly look like without bangs and makeup because they will judge me, my mother in the other hand is very outgoing and dedicated to the family Once they visited us, and i was in a bad mood and everything in me was a mess so i got out of my room welcomed them then never came out meanwhile they spent the whole evening in our hourse they were all of my uncles and aunts my mom was furious at my behavior and told me that i'm selfish and don't care about her sacrifices for me then she blamed me for always never staying and hangiing with the family members and being the quiet child that never helps or contributes to the family.. but that's me that's who i am, i'm 17 and i am very anxious about myself and everything i have those days that i want to stay alone in my room i'm not very outgoing and social and i fear peoples judgment on me but my mom just calls me a psycho for being like that and that she and i will never get along, i love my mom alot she's good to me and all but it just seems that she doesn't try to understand me that's why although i love her so much and want to stay with her for a long time, i think we should part soon and i should take my own path since staying together will only cause us to fight and for her to be mad and stressed because of who i am... i'm very confused and sad..

I'm 22, recent grad. The "Problem" is that my final GPA was 2.95. 2 point 9 f*** five. You know how students I know who would kill for that? You think I'm kidding... The real problem: It's just godd***, she keeps using every godd**** thing I've ****** up to insult me, berate me, and crush my psyche. When you've contemplated punching your mother just to get her to shut her mouth, you know you need to leave. It's getting difficult to even function with her around. What do I do? Pack my crap and just leave? I'll have to discuss that with dear old dad, and if he won't help because of mom, well f*** him then. Just what do I do?

So this morning I was told I would have to be ready for school earlier today by my mother. So I decided I would get ready an extra 5 min early and waited by the door for her to get my brother and sister ready to go. Instead she looked at me and said to get my dumb *** in the car instead of just standing there. So I went out and waited in the car. When she gets out there with my siblings she starts yelling at me about how it's my fault she's late because I wasn't inside to help her. And when I ask how is it my fault she slapped me in the face and my nose started bleeding, and she said she did it because I was talking back to her. I didn't say anything back and just stayed quiet. Is this technically abuse?

My boyfriend and I been together for 4 years. He raised my daughter like his own since she was 3 months. We had a few small breakups, but he always still bought things for my daughter and visited her like a Father would. Now we have a newborn Son biologically together. He now complains about taking care of 2 children while he only has one. We broke up a few months ago and he told me he's only to going to take care of his son because that's his only obligation. What do you think? I disagree because he raised my daughter before our child and now all of a sudden it's a problem when we have a biological child together?!

This morning at around 8am, me, my two brothers and my mum were all sitting down in the living room while my dad was in his bedroom. This was before my brothers went to school, by the way. About 8:10am, I decided to get my breakfast. As I was getting breakfast, my dad ran down the stairs just to sit where I was sitting. That seat was actually the only seat left and he took it. After I made my breakfast, I asked my dad if I could sit there because I need to eat my breakfast. My dad replied with "no, sit at the table." I then said "I can't sit at the table because there's piles of clothes and other stuff on it." And dad said, "no one cares you big cry baby." I then said "I was sitting there first, and you stole it. You can't do that." My dad then forced me to my room, thinking that I'm the one in the wrong. I overheard my dad calling me a "big snot-noses brat" when I went up the stairs, and my mum and brothers AGREED WITH HIM! Am I the one in the wrong or my dad?

I've been so embarrassed to talk about this but what better way than anonymously.. When I was 9 and my cousin was 7 she used to lock us in my moms room and tell me to take my pants off and if I didn't she was going to tell my mom something I can't remember what so I did and she would start touching me in inappropriate even painful at some point. And I never told anyone because she moved away and I pushed it behind my mind because I was the older one and I feel guilty I should've done something but I didn't so I'm just so confused by this situation was this molestation? We were both girls and I was two years older but it didn't feel right to me I sometimes wake up in the middle of the night with random pain like if I'm reliving it and this is just such a confusing topic

I have been with my ex for 5 years. I broke up with her about a week ago. I have felt unappriciated in the relationship for a long time. I have given her everything I can within my means. Including the house she wanted, vacationS, clothes etc... She is very lazy and rarely wants to do anything. I am very outgoing and always trying to get out in the world. She is very controlling, any time I wanted to spend time with friends and family (aprox 2 hrs away) she would throw a huge fit and tell me I don't care about her. She like to try and control the money I spent on others including baby showers, christmas, best friends daughter clothes, and even my sisters birthday. (I dont go crazy just $10-50) I could see if i wanted to buy them something outrageous or like a kitchenaid even. Either way she is pissed that I wont be there to say bye when she moves out this weekend. I feel like Im trying to get space from her and start heeling and she keeps intruding it. As well as her mother who has contacted me multiple times about this situation and how horrible I am. I still love and care about her but no longer want to be in a parent child relationship with my significant other. She constantly back talks me, interupts and defends her self to me which is quite annoying all the time. I feel like I gave it my absolute all. SHOULD I HELP HER MOVE OR SHOULD I LEAVE AND STAY AWAY LIKE I WANT TO?

So I m a normal 25yr dude that s going through some hard times right now I m broke, no job, car **** the bed, and student debt. I have the option to move back in with my folks but they currently live with my granny in a small three bedroom house due to my dad losing his job over being arrested for some questionable acts with a younger cousin(not convicted still pending) needless to say I hate my dad. For one I think he did it and two for ******* up everyone in my family s relationship with each other and also putting my granny/mom in this situation. Can t even look at him I hate him so much so living in the same house would be a lot on my psyche. My mom is extremely over bearing and looks to me for advice and places her happiness on my success, which is minimal. Also my younger brother and i have been staying together but now he is in the same situation as me and there isn t room for both of us at my granny,s house, not that he would even consider it for obvious reasons. It would save me a lot of money and would potentially be able to go back and finish school but I don t know if I could handle it. Also they live in the middle of no where and I would have nothing to escape to. Any advice? Any one ever been in a similar situation? I really appreciate you for reading this and hopefully you have some words of advice for me. Thanks again John

So I m the oldest of five girls, and our parents split up a year ago. I m not going to lie and say I was a great teenager, but I m 20 now and I ve grown out of that ish. My younger sister is 14 now, and she s becoming ridiculously bratty; worse than I ever was. I was pretty bad, but I at least understood that if you expect your parents to help you with something, you need to tell them what you want them to do. My sister is so disrespectful to our father that it s starting to affect HER life in a negative way; because she ll expect him to give her a lift somewhere, but won t TELL him that. She shuts down every single time he opens his mouth, won t even say hello when she gets home, and has almost gotten me into trouble at work because I got time off to help her with an event which she then almost cancelled. This is becoming a serious issue. With three other children - ranging between nine and five - to take care of, dad NEEDS BT S help; she can t afford to behave like this. Our mother s useless and won t do anything. She s more interested in being a friend than a parent, and none of the girls respect her as a parent anymore anyway. I m the ONLY person BT ever listens to anymore; is there anything I can do to try and get her to open up a little? I have no doubts that she'll eventually grow out of this on her own. But we can't afford to wait for that to happen. Btw when I say she's worse than I was, I also mean that she's developed a tendency to be genuinely CRUEL to our other sisters in a way I never was. I once told her to think about how she'd feel if I'd treated her the way she treats the others, but no dice. I'm not just trying to ***** her out; I love her and I'm worried about her.

Well I live with my boyfriend and his family because his parent can't afford all the bills but I don't mind because I have my own room with my boyfriend. Lately I've been missing panties and bras but I just ignore it. Today I went into his sisters room because she was dog sitting my puppy. I saw my bras all over the ground. I told my boyfriend because I didn't want to make a big scene in front of his sister. He just reacted like it was no big deal and to wash and return them. I find that disgusting so I tell him no I want new ones because she already wore them. She didn't get in trouble in anyway. Am I overreacting? I don't like lending my stuff out especially bras and panties. Isn't the gross or am I just being weird?

Okay so about 4 years ago my mom left my dad out of nowhere, and she forced me to live with her. When it happened i didnt feel sad or anything really at all. I was in 7th grade. Last year i moved back in with my dad as my mom called the cops on me for no reason, literally. Anyways one reason i feel like i felt nothing is because my mom always kinda taught me to hate my dad.... okay so about 5-ish years ago my dad had major emergency heart surgery and my mom didnt even care. When the doctor came out to tell us he was okay she didnt even say anything or look like she cared and i guess that influenced me to not react either. There is a lot more but i wanna keep this short... Anyways, now i feel upset and it has been bothering me for like a week now... What should I do?

Very long story, gonna skip through some. My mom has been in the hospital for like a month now and step dad has been there with her. Cant come home for awhile since his car is broken. Im slowly saving up money to get out on my own, but being the only person in the house that pays bills, i cant save much. Now something has happen that got me even more stressed. I got home yesterday and my sister told me my brother sold my step dads games. My step dad is very very protective of his game gear. So much so that im sure my brother will get kicked out. He rather sell someone elses stuff instead of getting a job so he deserves to be. My biggest problem is my fear step dad will kick all of us out when he finds out. I dont really care about my other siblings. Ive been working alone paying bills for 3 years. Everytime i save a little something happens. Like a sudden bill, or parents demand money. Siblings dont deserve my compassion if kicked. Im sure that makes me sounds like a jerk but they have lived easy while i stress over work. So what happens to them is their peoblem. I just need a solution about how to get through this. This makes me just wanna give up. So frustrating and depressing. There is alot more to it then this, but ive stated my main concern

I am having issues with my mom. I am 23, chinese, female, and the youngest in my family. I understand there is a degree of overprotectiveness, but ive had enough of it. I graduated from college (which I payed for) in june with my bachelors in nursing, took my boards in july, and just received a job offer at kaiser permanente. The hospital is about 20 minutes from my house, but i still want to move out. My parents, of course, are against, but know they cant stop me. I have started looking into apartments. My mom said that if i move out, shes coming to live with me, because she does not want to be with my dad anymore. I understand that feeling, because my dad is a pain in the ***. But I DO NOT want her living with me; It would be like not moving away from home at all. My mom does not work so she has nothing but time to micromanage me and i know shell continue to do that if she lives with me. "Where you going? Why dont you work more? Youre so lazy. You eat too much. Youre so fat." I cant stand it. My dad is more relaxed because hes working all the time, but he doesnt treat my mom well, so i understand her Not wanting to live with him anymore. My mom is leaving the country for a month soon, and im planning on using that opportunity to find a place and move out while shes out of the country. That way when she comes back, ill be gone. I dont want to tell her where ill be living, because then shell try to move in too. How should i handle this situation? I want my freedom!

I'm from TX and me and my mother aren't the best friends always fighting she took my phone that she bought me away so when I got a job the first thing I did was buy my own phone . Her name is not on the bill and is not on my card information because it's a total pay card that got from work.so can she take my phone away still because I know she will try. Please help

I'm 17 and he is 19. can't tell my parent, they gonna disown us both. what should I do now? please don't troll I'm in a very bad situation. I don't wanna do abortion. it scares me to death

So today I went to my local Walmart that is less than a mile away from my house. I went to get my car fixed in the auto section. I was there for about an hour and never left that area the whole time. Once my car was finished and my dad was paying for the service, one of the undercover security comes into the auto section and STARES me down along with a dirty look. As soon as I see him I stare him back and he proceeds to scoff at me and give me a leery smile and then give me a dirty look right after. He never took his eyes off of me and I would stare back but occasionally looking at my dad to see if he noticed, he never broke the stare for probably a whole two to three minutes. Then the other undercover security came up and he STILL didn't break the stare! He continued to talk about me to the other security because he was pointing at me and the other security would all turn around and give me dirty looks too. He then nodded at me and walked away. For a backstory I was caught stealing from that Walmart two or three years ago ( I learned my lesson is was a terrorizing experience i was never in trouble before or after that) But that guy was the same one who caught me when that happened. When that happened he was asking me kind of inappropriate questions stuff like " do you have a boyfriend" so whenever i see him I feel very uncomfortable. I barely every go to my local walmart because of HIM, I drive 30 minutes away to a different walmart because i feel much safer there.

After I was born, I'm pretty sure that my mom had her tubes tied up. Along with that, she's in her forties, and will probably be going through menopause soon. I want a baby sibling, but I can't have one, and it always makes me sad to see others enjoying time with their little siblings, and to see babies running around. I have an older brother, but we're five years apart, which is mainly why we don't get along. That's why I know that since I'm way older than that, having a younger sibling probably wouldn't work out. A few people have suggested to me that I just wait until I'm married and an adult to actually have a child, but I'm uncomfortable with the idea of... y'know, and I'm starting to think that I'm asexual. I'd probably have to adopt, and I'm still not sure how that in itself would work out. Any suggestions?

First don't say that I'm a teenager. I'm a 22 year old woman. The truth is I love my family but I'm hurt by their attitude towards me. My family is never happy with anything I do. They complain about EVERYTHING, right down to the way I dress. I don't dress slutty, just jeans and t - shirts. They also accuse me of starting arguments with them that most of the time they start, but I'm always seen as the bad guy. They don't like me dating anyone either. They're also over controlling, a couple of years ago I was severally depressed, mainly because of them and their overly critical nature and I knew I was on the verge of failing my classes in college, so I told them and instead of letting me drop they forced me to stay in them and in the end I failed horribly and ended up on probation, I know it was my fault I failed but I begged them to let me drop because I knew I would fail but again they made me stay and in the end they blamed me even after I told them that would happen if I didn't drop seeing as it was too late to raise my grades. Another thing I was in a long distance relationship with this guy who turned out to be an asshole and when he broke my heart instead of trying to make me feel better and supporting me they would constantly fight with me and yell at the top of their lungs "We told you he didn't love you!" and "Did you really think he would marry you?" It honestly hurt me to the core of my heart. So my point is am I a bad person for feeling this way about my family?

so I was invited to go to this trip with my Cousin to San Francisco tomorrow to help her move when she contacts me today and says that her sister is going to go, because her sister is taking it hard that she is moving. Making me unable to go because there is not enough room in the car. Now I got very sad over this because my cousin means a lot to me and we are very close like sisters. I was asked a 4 days ago to come along and packed all my stuff and made arrangements for school. I even cried a little and to add it was through a text.I would have felt better if she would have called me that way it would have been a better way to say goodbye .Is it rude or wrong that she canceled on me to let her sister go or am i just being an insensitive jerk? This has happen before where things where canceled on me. My cousin and her sister(also cousin) don't always get along so it's where that she acting up now. In fact she was happy that she was getting her old room.

okay, so I just went into my brothers room to test out this voice changing phone call app. Through his phone, we couldn't hear my voice at all. So, I picked up his phone and tried to figure out what was wrong. I then decided to just give up, so I ended the call and it went back to what he was doing on his phone in the first place. I saw a porn website. I just looked at my phone while handing him his phone to play it off like I didn't see. But, I'm worried that he thinks I saw. I don't know what to do. Help?

I know it sounds very weird, but I was just working on an assignment for Science, and my sister came up to me and judged me on how I wrote everything and the way I was working and tried to help me out. She succeeded in doing one thing right, but when I told her to leave (which she did), I immediately started crying. Am I just too sensitive like everyone else says, or is there an actual reason for me to be upset?

My brother is already 18 and he does not have a part-time job or any sort. This means that he won't be moving out for a long time. He goes to a community college but he got kicked out of his math class because it's too challenging for him. At home, he does absolutely nothing. He's on his laptop all day and comes out to eat and that's it. He doesn't even help out at home! We own 2 rabbits, one is his and one is mine but he can't even take care of his so I do. I also wash dishes and I finish, he brings new dishes. That literally pisses me off. When I yell at him to do something, he yells back as if he has a say in this. My mom works her *** off as a divorced woman trying to support two kids. My brother does ****. He doesn't even earn money or help her out. All he does is waste money on useless stuff, waste electricity, and make my mom sad. What can I do? Why doesn't he do anything? I wanna send him to a therapist or to a boot camp.

I'm a junior in high school and I don't have a car, my parents can't afford a car for me, my sister can't either. I can't get a job because I don't have a car, and my parent's car...you might as well say they don't even have one. It rarely ever cranks and breaks down all the time so I can't rely on it. If I can't get a job how am I suppose to gain money to buy a car? Is there some discount for high school students first car or something like that?

So just found out my stepmom is leaving my father. i live with my biological mom in a different state and my stepmother is moving out of my dads state. He has no good friends and his life was based off of there relationship. im somewhat concerned for him, as he is completely alone. advice?

im 15, and yes i have messed up a couple times here and there, but recently i have been a lot. My dad has always been yelling at me ever since i could remember, and it has really affected our relationship overall. I love him and i always tell him, but he never tell me back. He says i don't respect him. We recently got into a fight and he told me that "my life is a joke" and that i was dumb, and i can't let it go. My mom thinks i've been "rebellious" because of how i feel towards my dad but i won't admit it. I want our relationship to be good but i don't know how to fix it at this point.

My girlfriends mom just died and i was wondering should i go to her funeral when i've never even met the family or her mom? We've known each other for almost 7 years, started dating last year and i have never met her family because they live in NORCAL while my girlfriend and i live in SOCAL. I just want to know would it be disrespectful to her family if i just showed up?

I ve always been that kid that nobody noticed or cared about. I ve been hurt so many times, I m not sure if I have any tears left. My boyfriend hates me and treats me like ****, but I m too pathetic to leave him. I was living with my dad until he up and moved across the country, leaving me with my mom who hates me, and wants me gone all the time. I was very close with my grandfather until he passed away this year, and no one has shown an ounce of sympathy. I m so sick of being treated like ****, like I don t have feelings. I want to die. No, I m not a teen going thru a "phase" I m a grown adult. I ve just faced reality that I don t mean **** to anyone. Anyone who ever "cared" just ended up hurting me.. Why am I even alive. I have no purpose here.. I m obviously an inconvenience to everyone for being alive. I wish i could take the place of someone who has died and didn t deserve it.. Because I would gladly die.