I want anyone to list pros and cons for premartial sex, and pros and cons for postmartial sex.

Hey everyone, I'm 16 and I recently moved to South Carolina from Pennsylvania about two months ago. My parents might get divorced. My sister is currently in the Navy and is stationed in San Diego(we are communicating via text) My father said everything will be alright, but I'm not getting my hopes up. My mother asked me if I would go back to PA with her or stay in SC with my father. I figured who ever I choose to be with, I will probably not be able to see the other very much or not at all. Eventually my mother said she will go back to the Phillippines(I am half Filipino). At that point it will be nearly impossible to see my father(If I choose my mother) My mom and dad are great parents, and I will always love them both, but it is very hard for me to deal with this because I have to eventually choose one of them, I have just switched schools, and my only sibling is across the country. Any help is greatly appreciated.

When Sarah gave her maid to Abraham, she was rewarded with a child of her own. It should still work with either a maid or a single friend of the wife.

The last time I checked my fiance had one female best friend and that was me before we started dating... He worked with one female at his job that he talked to on a regular...(she's a lesbian)... but now there's females callin n texting him... he say they work with him... his military and he keeps calling them battle buddies but I've never heard of them before and sometimes I'm not sure if it's a guy or a girl because he only puts their last name in there phone... like there is this one girl who been calling her number wasn't save he just kept ignoring it and I finally answered and she said her name n I handed him the phone... When they hung up I asked who she was and he said some female at work... I asked how she get his number and he said idk... while they was on the phone he asked her who she was and she said so u don't know me.. so I had him call her and ask how she got the number.. He said to her." My fiance tripping she wanna know how u got my number" she said I think from one of your friends... then he said she going crazy. And the female said tell her I don't want you I'm married... my thing Is I'm mad because they way he asked her and what he said.... and if she has a husband Y she keep calling him???

How old would you get married and what type of engagement ring would you want?

two months together. ex wife tricked me into getting her pregnant and rejoining our family with our 2yr old son. A week after finding out she was she splits. I have full custody of our 2yr old she is also behind $7000 in child support. She was also trying to get me to stop it. As soon as I didnt budge on that because I don't trust her she starts saying I kicked her out of my home. Could she be up to something legally maybe. Whats she up to???

Where is your husband? or wife Especially when they are too deep in your business or doing things they have no business doing.

I'll make this short. My wife had secrets that she never told me until today, when I visited her in the hospital. (She tried to overdose while I was at work last night and collasped in my In-laws house this morning) She was raped a couple of months ago (I thought she had cheated on me) and miscarried several times throughout our marriage. I am just so angry and guilty that she was too afraid to talk to me about this. Today she told me that "I deserved better" and that "I shouldn't be stuck with a burden like her and that I would be better off without her." I don't think any if this is true. Now I don't want to leave her and I want to help her. Any advice on what to do, would be greatly appreciated.

My husband is very loving and good with money. He has always put me first. I found out that before he meet me there was a two year period that he lived in his car even though he could financially afford a apartment or house. He had approximately in savings. I asked him why he decided to live in his car instead of living in a house he told me because he would just be wasting his money and his dream was always to live in a house with his wife. He said that's what the money was for and if he had spent that money on an apartment that would be taken money away from you. I just wanted to see how other woman would feel if maybe even ur bf or current husband told you this?

I have been married to my husband for some time and while his looks is all I ever need, I know they would not measure up for some. He has a small acne problem on his back and has no 6 pack. He tells me he wishes he could be shirtless more outdoors, but he does not want to embarrass himself or, he thinks, me. One time, on a long trek, he was hot while he was driving and told him to be shirtless, but he did not want to. He told me this summer he would like to try a bit more, but he is still a little embarrassed. Ladies, if your man was only "average" would you not want him shirtless in public, even if that is what he wanted? Should I help him accomplish this or not? I feel bad for him...I find him sexy, but I know, like once when he was shirtless in public (at the park, where other men were) some were giving him strange looks, and he put his shirt back on. What would you do ladies?

This guy and I have been seeing each other for 2 years. Its a casual relationship and everytime I'm ready to let go he comes back to me. He tells me that I make him feel good, that I'm beautiful and this and that....I'm 23 he's 41. He is a mystery and he tells me that he's single. He refers to the mother of his child as "his ex/baby mommy type of thing. I have this weird attraction to him. I tell him that I'm done with him and ignore his txs and calls and he'd be there for me. I'm also attractive and he's jealous.  A year ago after we broke up months later he called me with a different phone number and he looked like he changed.... well not really. Hes a cop and also works nearby my job. Yet, hes very obsessive with me calls me and texts me almost everyday to see what I'm up to. Asks me randomly about my past relationships and what happened with them and also what I'm looking for in a guy. After sex he'd kiss me repeatedly and he'd even laugh at my silly jokes. He said to me for the first time after so long I love you at the end of the conversation and there was just a silence... Then, I asked him why is he sometimes distracted and kind of jaded and he tells me that his job stresses him out. Why can't we both moved on and stop this mess from getting more complicated?

I've been married for three years and we've been together for 7. We have no kids. She is 29 and I'm 32. I have expressed my unhappiness for a while. Most of the time it is because she is so busy that she makes no time for me at all. Even the wedding of her colleague yesterday involved not bringing me along. Later when she got home, she used the excuse that she doesn't feel the need to always bring me along. She hardly makes an effort to go anywhere with me. Today is a typical Sunday. I'm off work because I haven't been feeling well. It's just a typical day alone. I'll eat alone too. Meanwhile she is going out with her friends again because they have just come from China. So she will spend the whole day and night with them and come back late this evening. That's normal. The home is a resting base for her before she heads out again. She turns around and expects intimate things to happen when she gets home and she loves this setup where I pay the rent and she comes home to hug me in bed and that's it. As for doing nice things together? Forget it. If I want a break, I go myself to the cinemas. I tried to bring this up before and she accused me of being stupid and narrow minded because she is doing all the hard work to buy the property. She even won't sit in the same room as me for a meal. Before anyone asks, I do work full time and I study full time at uni. The only benefit of her being out of the house is the opportunity to study. When she leaves she doesn't say a word either. She just gets up and leaves. I spoke a bit to mum and she said that it is normal for a married couple to check in with each other before going anywhere. I don't know because my wife just comes and goes as she pleases. The last thing she spoke to me this morning? Don't forget to pay the rent. I feel more used than ever before.

Every now and then my hubby gets in this mood where im accused of hiding "things" and cheating. Its the same arguement every single time i even call out what hes gonna say next...its soooo repetitive. I cant handle anymore of this accusations. I dunno what to do anymore. When he starts up he wants the passwords to my email and Facebook. Which i would have no problem with but he would abuse the password sharing and constantly read my stuff. I like a little privacy. He will take my phone and go thru it but wont find anything cuz im not doing anything! It hurts so much when he does this. Then he will flip his psycho switch and be happg then expect me to be the exact same way! I need a few opinoins i cant talk to my friends about it cuz its to embarrassing to me. Thanks!

My husband and I got into a fight earlier tonight about him not being home enough and he has to rearrange his schedule when the baby comes in a few months. He was getting mad and started yelling and getting in my face, trying to restrain me from walking away and as when I started to walk away he grabbed my arm and took hold of my waist and shoved me against the wall and left the house. It's the first time he's ever put his hands on me aggressivly and feel bad bc I started the argument. Would u guys do that to ur wife or am I overreacting? Is it a good idea to give him a second chance?

I'm surprising my husband with a weekend getaway for our anniversary I'm going to make an agenda as well but I'm trying to think of a surprise letter to leave him when I take our daughter to my parents house to be watched for him to pack his back but I can't think of exactly how I should word the letter can anyone help me with this?

I had recently got married to my wife we had been dating 8 years since she was 16 and i was 24 i feel bad for all those years because we've only been on 2 dates for the first 5 years and we had kept a secret from friends and family until someone had spotted us on our 2nd date any who since i had gotten married i wanted to surprise my wife and i had just got a tattoo done on my right arm has my wife's full name and i went with my best buddy and he told me if i would ever regret it since it's a permanent tattoo i had told him that "well I see people who break up regret on having it that is why i married so I won't regret" and I'm planning on having our future kids on my left arm it's my first tattoo and I'm not sure how my wife would react because I've never been a tattoo guy

My baby boy having septic spot all over body, please advice. Just 3 days born baby.

I have a husband who always packs his things and leave after an argument. With that being said, he can go days without talking to me:( He always talks about having a divorce when things get heated. One time he left on good terms with me only to have me worrying about where he was the past two days. I tell him communication is key but he doesn't listen. another example, So I had my last straw and kicked him out. Only to find my debit card missing and 500$ withdrew from my account. He took from me and said, "why should I ask? You didn't give a sh*t about me, you kicked me out " I don't know what to do anymore, we have a baby, and I still care about him. P.s: We've been married for 5 months

My husband cheated on me one year ago with a massage therapist that was into BDSM. I contacted the woman, and she did not realize he was married. My husband used a fake name, but he kept the details of his life correct (carefully omitting that he was married). When I caught him, he said that he was doing it to spice up our marriage (yeah right!). The woman apologized and was horrified by his deception. When I confronted my husband a second time about the affair, he beat me and tried to choke me to death. He had been beating and emotionally abusing me for two years at that point. The next day I filed for divorce and got a restraining order. Several months later, he apologized through friends and promised to change his ways, and we got back together. One year later, and he has barely changed. I found the massage therapist's card in his wallet STILL (from a year ago). He blames me for the lawyer fees and says they caused all his life problems ($2K vs. $12K I paid) and will not own up to his abusive past. I recently found out that he was searching for swinger clubs and events AND hookers on the internet since October. At this point we are tied together by debt, and it feels like "till debt do we part" not "till death do we part." He is very irresponsible, and I know from the last time I filed that he will not pay for debt even when ordered by the court. What should I do? Do you think I should stick it out or declare bankruptcy and be rid of him once and for all? The debt is unrelated to lawyer fees. I have worked throughout our marriage, and it is highly unlikely that a judge would order either to pay lawyer fees based on our income. There is currently no restraining order, and he is no longer beating me. The last time I tried to divorce him, he would not pay for joint debt even when ordered by the court. He is very controlling and manipulative, and will even violate court orders to suit his needs. We have been married three years and have no children.

I told my husband of 12 years about a guy I work with. He's much higher than I am. My husband wasn't upset since he knows I've only been with him. But he says the guy is trying to sleep with me and I don't know if I agree? Here's some of what has happened: Makes hallway jokes about running into me, is playful... Jokes that I yell at him and asked why I stopped Did not introduce me to his wife when we ran into each other outside of work Tells me I'm "awesome" Invites me to his area to update me and apologizes for things, like his schedule. He's much more senior in the company than me Followed me alone in the garage, walked up 3 flights of stairs with me talking back to his office Followed me into the copy room to ask idiotic question he knew the answer to Stared at me longingly from a distance in front of everyone else Changes his route when he runs into me to start a conversation Cooked for me a special dish I asked for. Spent hours in our kitchen after working for 10 hours that day! Gushed about my culinary skills Made a vegetarian dish just for me ( I had written it was my favorite vegetable) I'm a vegetarian. Came into my office and saw a wall hanging I have. It reads "Vegetarians... If you cook them right, they're delicious!!"He looked at me, smiled and said, about the sign:"This one, I agree with it wholeheartedly!" Gave me an important assignment that should have gone to his direct report Complains to me about wife sometimes Is my husband right?

I love him a lot and I have to admit that we are struggling a bit financially (we always have to borrow money from relatives) and he seems to think the answer to this is a second job which he already got. But I really don't want him to get one since we barely have enough to together as it is since we both work and we have to take care of the kids. As it stands right now we can spend a little time together after the kids go to bed since we work at the same time during the day but on his other job he'll have to work nights and I'll be sleep by the time he comes home. So I don't want him to take it at all. I haven't told him that since I think it may be coming across as being selfish but should I tell him how I feel and not to take the other job? I'm afraid I'll be starting a fight. bonn: I do work during the day, I stated this in my question.

men always go around telling women that they're married to try to get a no strings attached affair.

If you just married for 3 to 4 months, how often do you have sexual intercourse with your spouse?

Okay so when I was eighteen I got pregnant by my abusive boyfriend. He promised me he'd stop, we got married and while I was pregnant he did stop. Then he got abusive again. I left him when I discovered he was beating our twin sons. I moved back to my home state and started being a teaching. Thats how I met my current boyfriend. This man treats me fantastically well, and he treats my kids as if they were his own. He is a good deal older than I am however. My ex husband is attempting to gain visitation rights with his sons even though he hasn't wanted that for four years. He says its unhealthy for them to be around me and my husband due to the age difference even though the only thing the boys ever see is my boyfriend and I cuddling on the couch and kiss one another's cheeks. He is stalking me via the internet and even has somebody in my town that takes pictures of me, my boys, and my boyfriend. I have contacted the police and they are doing all they can. I've blocked him from everything I can but he still finds a way to contact me. What else should I do? He sends me the same message at least once a day via the picture guy who leaves notes on my door. It says "I love you. I love our sons. I wont let you keep them near that man, and I will save you from him. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE MINE!". Its scary and my boyfriend is super supportive but he is so scared and is always up at night making sure the boys and I are safe. Does anyone have ANY advice on what else I should do? I have contacted the police, I have a lawyer, and I've alerted everyone I possibly can.

I have know about my wife's abused past since the beginning. We have talked about it and worked through much of it. We have been married for nearly five years and our "Sexual Argument" continues to this day. Before we were married I felt attractive and sexy. We got married and our first child was born that's when it all started going down . She stopped kissing me , stopped enjoying sex, stopped taking any sexual initiative. I understand that sometimes shutting sex down for a season to "heal" is okay but then I think she needs to buck up and "heal" i.e. I am not going through ten years of marriage with an unsatisfying sex life. I know it seems shallow but I GOT MARRIED SO I COULD HAVE SEX! That's right I got married to the woman I love so I could have sex with her without the condemnation. So, how am I supposed to take her "healing" for the past five years? How am I supposed to respond to a sexually unresponsive wife? How should I feel? Because, really I feel ugly, unattractive, unwanted and altogether not sexually appealing to the woman I love. When will I find my reward for being a "patient husband", waiting on her to make it past her boundaries? Why don't I say 'That's enough! Figure it out or we're though!'? I think she prolongs it because she doesn't want to deal with it. If you've got advice to make this go away, I'd like to hear it. I've been married for five years and I am sick and tired of her not being interested.

We got married when we were 19. We've been together since we were 13. Both of us are now 28 and have three kids together. I feel horrible even feeling like this, but my feelings are changing for him. He never wants to spend time with me, he lets the kids down a lot and he snaps at me whenever I try to do something with him. An example of that would be when I wanted to go out to a movie, had a babysitter ready to watch the kids and when he found out, he said he was tired and didn't want to waste the money on a movie. I've tried talking to him about our problems and he shoots me down every time. I booked an appointment with a marriage counselor and told him the details and he never showed up. So I went alone and have gone a couple of times and he never shows up. I've basically given up on him turning up. And I'm not sure what to do now. I honestly believed when we got married that we would be together for the rest of our lives and I think he did, too. But it's obvious his feelings have changed and mine have started to. Should I continue to fight for our marriage? Should I give up? Any advice? I tried talking to family about this, but all I got was judgmental comments about how young we were when we got married and how God is against divorce, so not much help at all!

is there any certain position I can try that will be more interesting that missionary and not as complicated as standing doggy style?

Am 30 and have been dating this girl for two years. Is 30 too young and am I going too fast? Im also a child of divorce. https://youtu.be/EvmDyTLOYwA

My husband is always on his phone these days. I know he is always txting another woman. He is even doing it at night at home in front of me. But he won't show me the messages cause it invades his privacy. We were supposed to have dinner out and he was late cause he was already out having coffee with her. I checked the bank statement and he bought the coffees! He says it's only cause she bought him lunch that same day! It was the third time this week they met for lunch! Is he having an affair or something? How can I get him to focus on me and not her?

i've seen a lot of people instantly divorce after their spouse becomes paralyzed, disgusting. nike you have no feelings

My husband and I are fighting alot lately .... we recently took a break for about two weeks were he stayed at his mom's house. He is home now but it's like we are roommates no I love u or hugs not even text messages ... I brought this to his attention all he said was he does love me and if I'm unhappy to suck it up at least he's still here .. :( we have two very young babies and he says it's important to be a family and we will just work on our marriage along the way .... what do I do or say I've never been so lost

I've been married and widowed twice. I'm getting married for the 3rd and final time in my life. My first spouse died in 1991 (while deployed). And my second spouse died in 1999 (killed by drunk driver on our honeymoon). My fiance and I are 42 years old, and we've been together since May of 2005. I can say that he is my last and best love. We have 3 children together (18 month old triplets) I've been hearing from various family members that think I am low class for having kids out of wedlock, and for getting married for the 3rd time. Frankly, I think I'm doing the right thing for my family. He's been wanting to get married for years, but I didn't want to. Now that I am, I'm rather excited to be honest. @ Charles, neither of my spouse's abused me. They were very good to me in fact. I'm just tired of hearing from my extended family that I don't deserve to get married again, let alone have 3 healthy babies. They won't be invited to our wedding that's for sure.

Im a 19 year old girl and alot of my friends want to get married. It bothers me because I think marriage is unfair for women, men what you to do all the cooking and cleaning when you both have careers while they come home to play video games. Like I don't want to babysit a grown a** man.

for age group 20-40 (sex)

My wife has never smoked before and neither have I. We are in our thirties. She recently started working in an office where a lot of the people go out to smoke a few times a day. She was going outside with them to take a break from work, and one day she decided to give it a try too. She was just smoking once or twice a day with the people at work, but now she has started smoking out on our balcony at home too. Should I confront her about it? I'm not going to leave her over something like this and we don't have kids for her to influence or harm with the smoke.

Everr since my son was born i have felt like his dad is jealous of him n also how i yreat my son.I will be 30 this year i waited along time to have a child.n i did it the "right" way..he guves us funny side eye looks whenever i kiss n hug or even play with my son.just this morning ,my babay woke up cause he oeed his diaper out..we were in the middle of kissing(my husband that is)..but i stopped to go clean my baby up..this dude walks off with a attitude...everytime i confront him about it ..he denies it..His mom didnt raise him.he was raised by his grandparents but his mamaw passed when he was 14n he was left wit his pawpaw..his brother is the same way..iv noticed with his step child..he hates the fact that that lil girl is not his..am i tripping ,can a dad really be jealous of their own kids..and by the way i am raising my husbands daughter fromhis previous **** around ,she is about to be 4..we have sole custody since she was 11months old..N by the way he treat her like she is doesn't even exist..he has xero attachment to his daughter n is jealous of our first son/child together...smh..somebody plzz help a sister out before i bust out with myson.cause im really tired of this bull

Ok.... so my wife and I are going through a sexless time. Things aren't so great in that area. I have a super active sex drive. 1 + 1 = 2 right? No sex = I am going to whack it myself. Well I did. I was in my office and pulled up a porn. She walks in on me. I was able to cover up and all and minimized the window. She comes over and grabs my erect penis to verify it was erect and then demands to view my screen. I wouldnt show her. It was just a regular porm but the way she was talking to me and treating me not only made me feel embarrassed but dirty and wrong. I am not going to lie, I had wanted to cry she made me feel that bad. I hot called every name in the book. It was pretty rough. Apparently I cheated on her by doing this. Even when I went into the bedroom (our 2 year old shares our room currently) she says to respect our daughter and to not cheat on her in there and for me to have some decency. I would never do it where my kid was present, she knows that too but just wanted to try and get under my skin. I feel so terrible I got tears in my eyes writing this. Did I do something wrong? Is masturbation and a porno really that bad? I dont want to address the problems with the marriage that led to the no sex. That stuff is obvious. I just want to talk about tonight and the whack job.

My husband and I met in high school, fell out of touch and reconnected 5 years ago, we've been married for 4 years now and have 3 beautiful children. My husband had a rough childhood so his emotional skills are not fully there. We've had previous arguments in our marriage about him opening up to me but it still went back to normal. He shuts me out most of the time. Well a couple months back I came across my husbands phone messages, and noticed a name that was no one I knew. All I knew was that it was my husbands old high school nickname..... Long story short he had a crush on a girl in the same high school as us which I've known about. Well it was her. He named her his nickname. They didn't talk about anything personal just small talk, little problems with the kids. Since she a nurse... I confronted him about it and why her name is that. All he said was because I didn't want you to get upset like you are now. And that it's strictly friend talk. Well a couple days ago, I see "his name" again... This time he was talking about me and what I'm doing wrong and what upset him, which he never even mentioned to me... He even said he would take the kids to see her and he wouldn't tell me about it... I got furious and left the house. I needed to clear my head, well we talked the next day and I forgave him and he told me he will try to make this work and try to open up. Well from that day I can tell he's trying to make it work and he's been helping out more. Sadly in my head I want to get past this but I felt like he dug a hole and buried my heart in it. He opened up to some girl he's friends with and had an emotional conversation with her which I honestly been wanting our whole marriage. I feel like a stalker but I just can't get over this feeling that he's just going to go back to his natural ways and talk to her again. Did he have an emotional affair or am I just over thinking things through??? I need an outside perspective. Please.

My hubbys bday is coming up, he came home unannounced one day and I was on a site buying a gift for him. I shut down the page quick so he wouldn't see I went to history later to get back to the site and came across suspicious history. He started out on one page and clicked link at bottom "3 questions to make any girl chase you" It takes you to a series of videos where you answer the poll question and enter your email. I checked his email and he did enter it and got the 7 day crash course on how to attract women. I have caught him at the Ashley Madison as well. He deletes messages from facebook. I need a legit spy service to find out if he is looking to cheat or not

6 months into dating my now-wife, I " slipped" up. I regret it ever happened and I made a vow that I would never hurt her again like I did. i attended counseling sessions to get to heart of the issue and it helped. it has been 5 years and i have not had one slip-up, NOT ONE !!!. they say " once a cheater, always a cheater". that is completely false. if you give your word ( and i gave it twice since we are now married), then all should be forgotten over time if your partner put the equal time in to forgive you. they say you can forgive but not forget. another misnomer. i can forget some of things she has done to me and it is b/c i love her. i try not to dwell on the past. sometimes its hard but i work on letting it go. my question is how long does it take to get that trust back ?

My husband has always wanted to open a business and one day while talking to my close personal friend and editor about this he offered to help fund my husbands dream which was not so far fetched as he had done similar things in the past like pay bills for me and help with funds (MY FRIEND IS GAY SO NO HE IS NOT TRYING TO GET LAID) I got excited told my husband and we made plans. Then about a month into planning my friend backs out but my husband is riding high on cloud nine and has done told everyone. SO I lied as I tried to come up with the money myself to start up the business. To tell him now would bring on an anger I have never seen maybe even cause a divorce what should I do? I been lying and allowing him to still make plans and tell people. To come clean now would cause him to lose face in front of those we know but also lose faith in me I am so confused. I don t want to lie anymore but I also don t want to lose him. He places big deal on no lying and always telling the truth.

I've been married for nearly 2 years. I don't regret this experience, though I know it was a mistake. We do not have much in common, and we argue at least once a day. The respect is gone. We call eachother names, and he has a horrible temperament. He is like a time ticking bomb💣 if things don't go his way he yells and gets in my face, if I give him bad attitude he says I need to learn respect so he threatens to beat me up. He has on several occasions, I of course, defend myself. I feel it's gotten worse every time. I am not clamming to be a victim, sometimes his anger is reasonable, however, I don't think physical or any type of abuse is acceptable. He started by calling me names, to pushing & shoving, now he squares up, like he's fighting a man. Today inclusively he punched me in the back of my head, when I was unaware. I'm Sick and tired of this. Recently he has been interested in purchasing the condo we live in, and he's pushing it to happen by the end of this month. I don't know if I should or just get out, and separate from him once & for all. I really don't want anymore attachments to him. He is pressuring me, into doing this.. Would you walk away or try things out one more time? I really don't think he will change. I need real advise. Your probably wondering why I'm still here, it's hard to go, especially because we work together. I have a good job and don't want to have to leave it. I guess that's one of the reasons why.