Family: Question: Is it wrong that my mom doesn't let me cuss?

Question: Is it wrong that my mom doesn't let me cuss?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:47 PM PDT

I will be 23 exactly 1 month from now. My mom is my legal guardian. I use all of the F word. My mom is my legal guardian cos I have disabilities! I already live on my own. When I see her I do cuss.

Question: My stepmom went through my wallet and took my credit card, and wouldn t return it. Why would she do this?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:47 PM PDT

When I got home I phoned the credit card company and reported it stolen. Didn t tell her, when she tried to use it, she got into trouble. Now my father is angry at me that I reported my credit card stolen. Does my father have a right to be angry at me for reporting my credit card stolen?

Question: Baby mama won't let me see my child?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:46 PM PDT

My baby mama won't let me see my daughter because I left her for my new girlfriend okay I understand she hurt but it don't give her the right to keep me from my daughter. What can I do to see my child I don't have big money for a custody case I work at Walmart..

Question: Why do you think my sister acts this way towards me?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:45 PM PDT

Since we were kids she s called me weird, told me to shut up constantly and so on. However, this type of behavior hasn t exactly changed over the years. I m 21 now and she s 28. She criticizes/questions everything I do. Some examples of things she says would be, "Ew, what are you eating?", "Why are you talking like that?", "I can see your bra straps.", "What are you wearing?" "Calm down.", "Shut up." Btw I don t dress in revealing ways, usually I just wear tanktops and such around the house. She s often told me to learn to stick up for myself, though when she snipes me for what I m doing or what I look like etc, and I snipe back or when I m simply stating my opinion, she absolutely blows up. She yells at me, cusses at me, and just recently she took it upon herself to throw water at me. She s absolutely disrespectful towards me and I m really tired of living with her (she s living with us now that she s divorced)... I feel as if she projects negativity at me when I do nothing to her. It s really pathetic considering she s nearly 30. But, I wanted some of your guys input on this... As a side note she has been recently divorced, is a little heavier etc. Maybe she just has something against me, I ve decided to avoid her as much as possible since she gives a really bad vibe. Thanks for any input!

Question: What should I do about my dads birthday?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:43 PM PDT

My dad is upset with my sister and me becuase we aren't throwing him a party. I have school, and then an eye appointment, and then a meeting scheduled with my professor, both of which have been scheduled for months and I can't get out of. My sister isn't even old enough to drive so he isn't really mad at her. Now my dad has always been a very self-absorbed person, so I saw this coming. He keeps dropping hints such as "I wish you would throw me a party" "I at least wanted a cake for my birthday" I'm now starting to feel bad. What should I do?

Question: Is it a sin to get naked in front of my family?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:21 PM PDT

Before I begin I just want to say that I keep posting this question because none of you idiots are giving me helpful answers. And when I get helpful answers then I'm going to stop asking this question. So now back to my question. I'm a 35 year old women and I enjoy getting naked with my 15 year old daughter. Me and my daughter have been doing this for 2 years. My Husband who is 40 , Son who is 17, Mother who is 69 and Father who is 72 get excited when we get naked. Me and my daughter get naked because we have beautiful bodies and because we are tall which makes us even more beautiful. But I'm worried that what I'm doing is a sin. So is this a sin? Can you people please give me helpful answers.

Question: My older sister shouts alot!?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:07 PM PDT

She keeps bringing over her bf to the house and befire he comes in, because there is sime stuff on the table or sofa she keeps shouting! Why does my mum put clothes on the sofa? Aren't the clothes supposed to be in the wardrobe?

Question: What should i do?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 11:54 AM PDT

I am 22 years old and in my 2nd year of medical school. However, 2 years ago my parents met in an accident and everything went down hill. (financially) Our bills are getting paid and we are able to get the basic necessities of life but there's much more to life than that. My father is really trying to support my sister and me but the business isn't making as much money as was. My questions; should we leave school and get jobs? She wanted to do law initially but she's willing to resort to teaching. I want to get my own pharmacy. I would work in the day, and take classes in the evening. I do not want my father to "kill" himself, literally, because he's a diabetic, so that i can get a job. I am willing to get a regular job like everyone else, help to clear our debts, start my pharmacy and get married. Thoughts please...thank you

Question: How do I stop my mother from swearing?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 11:38 AM PDT

I have a two year old daughter and I'm six months pregnant with my second kid. I'm afraid to leave my daughter alone with my mother. I love her but she swears like a sailor. She can't go a whole conversation without dropping the f bomb at least once. She's still very nice but she curses constantly. I've tried to tell her to stop but she says that all she's doing is speaking English and that those words are part of people vocabulary.

Question: Lazy "poor" family?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 11:34 AM PDT

I grew up in a small town.My father was an office assistant and my mom was staying in the house caring for me and my older brother.Years passed,we managed quite well for some time and then my brother was old enough to study.I was 9 and he was 18 and he tried 2 times to go into a university and failed.My parents had some money and decided to send him abroad to study.All these years my mom was doing pretty much nothing,even cooking and cleaning sucked and I had to take care of myself all the time.She went to a few jobs(she finished only high school and didnt have many options)but after a few days she was always got fired.So anyway,years passed,my father is now retired,my mom still the same lazy woman and my brother now 28 still living with them doing absolutely nothing.This year it was my time to go to uni and I actually made it with my first try.I am now in another city a few hours away but living very poorly and it is very hard for me to find a job since the economical state of the country is pretty bad but I keep looking.The thing is,my family keeps calling me all the time to come back and work in the village or something and actually take care of them.They send me very few money and now they will stop that too.I was thinking that a good improvement would be if my brother could work somewhere...Has anyone had a family likes this before?

Question: I have never had a conversation with my sister in law?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 11:32 AM PDT

I have never (ever, ever, ever) had a conversation with my sister in law, or her family, who tends to just show up...LOOK YOU IN THE FACE then remain mute and expressionless. It's been that way for the past 5+ yrs. She now has two kids with my younger brother. Who has never been much of a brother (whatever that is), but I digress... Once, she very randomly cried to him that 'I don't like her', at a party! Strange? I think so. Assuming ***? I think much. Attention seeking? Possibly. Sadly, I won't have the relationship that I imagined with my little niece or nephew, because their hesitations are clear reflections of the words their parents do not say. Energy speaks. But, it's a fight I knowingly will not choose. Stop having kids, kids. It shouldn't be the first thing you do in life. Hey @sleepingliv...go back to sleep, why don't you? Everyone has a right to vent, however they please, where and whomever they feel will lend support. If that isn't you, don't' stop here. I'm obviously not going to take a tip on being mature from a coward being insensitive behind a computer screen. GARY B - explain the points that lead to your assumption?

Question: Who was wrong me or her? Please answer!!! Thank you?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 11:00 AM PDT

My neighbor is a nice friendly person but she's the type to make you think if she's either a user or clueless. Like she always asks people to do things for her to the point where everyone thinks that she's a user/manipulater. For example she'd bring me food then seconds later ask me what I was doing tomorrow but its not to hang out but to ask me if could babysitt her son. My job is to watch her son during the week for the whole day morning to night and she pays me. But asking me to watch her kid during the weeknd for free is a bit too much. We always used to hang out. Ww used to be close but ever since she got a job she only called me for favors. Everyone told me that she's using me but no one knows her like i do. So one day i had enough of her using me and finally told her no but asked my sister to babysit and that day she was taking so long that even my sister got mad. She was watching her kid for 8 hours and she got home at 3 in the morning. I got made and sent her text saying come get your ******* jit, tired of yo ***, my whole family talking ****. I later found out she was crying and and said it was my fault. Who was wrong me or her? Thank u

Question: Should my daughter visit her sister in prison?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 10:34 AM PDT

my 21 year old daughter is in prison for 10 years for killing her friend when she crashed while she was drunk driving. Her friend was in the passenger front seat. Obviously, I have no defense for what she did. She did a terrible thing and ruined her life and is paying for it now. my other daughter who is 15 expressed some desire to see visit her sister in prison. But I do not think it is a good idea. A prison environment seems like it would be unpleasant and there is no reason for her to put herself through that, but I wonder if I should reconsider

Question: How to deal with mentally abusive live-in sister-in-law?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 10:28 AM PDT

Out of good heart we took in our sister-in-law, her husband, and their 3 young kids to live with us temporarily until hey find their own place. It's been a few months now, and even though we haven't necessarily set a move-out date for them, it's become completely unbearable for us to live with them. The SIL suffers from severe depression and is bipolar, and she constantly lecturers me and my kids (all under 15). My husband works late hours, and SIL's husband, when he's around, does whatever he's told by his wife. I'm at home by myself most of the time, and I'm at my wits end. My SIL always runs around the house (MY house) looking for trouble and for a chance to throw a tantrum or to yell at my kids. They do pay us for rent, but now it seems like they think they're entitled to rule this house and my kids. I am not a confrontational person and I don't want to cause scenes or drama, but I don't know how much longer I can stand this situation. What's the best way for me to act or what's the best thing to say of do (other than kick them out right away), so that there could be some kind of peace restored?

Question: My mom is crazy?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 10:22 AM PDT

Ever since I can remember my mom has always been a yeller. My dad is not really in the picture and I live with my mom and no job but I am moving out soon to work with my dad and start my life. I'm 18 now and I am a senior with one class left to finish and I am a male. My mom will not allow me to date and ever since the middle school days shes would rage and yell if she found out I had a girlfriend and she threatend me this morning that she would put me in the fire pit of hell if she finds out I have another girlfriend. I have tried talking to her about this but she still refuses to let me date and i think it is silly considering I am guy too. I think my mom is too overprotective and wants to control my life and wants to remain in my life, but I am moving out soon to go work with my dad and she knows that she soon wont be able to control me and baby me much longer which is tearing her apart. does anyone agree?

Question: Is father banging prostitute? :(?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 09:55 AM PDT

I was using my father s phone and was looking through his whatsapp (trying to fix it)...and spotted a contact refered to as "House Super with a quite provacative looking girl in the display pic --she looked 19 - 20. I thought the contact was probably added by a random Facebook add and then synced up to his phone (he s not too good with facebook. Heck, he doest even know how to accept a friend invite) but then again, that person is not located in his Facebook friends list. It looks more like a manual Entry. It s wierd because he s less likely to be a person to bang a prostitute compared . He has values as a "christian". He always tells me stories of co-workers doing stupid **** like bangaing a protistute before being kicked out by their wives later. He considered him as Immoral. I don t tend to care much about other human lives, but he s married to my mom who I love and who also loved him for more than 25 years (he s near his 60s, mom in late 40s who looks good as him --she used to be a model). I m also worried about his own mental health after doing such because "values"..... However, above all, im worried about my little sister who could be affected by this action more than anyone. What would she think of life or men after this? As me, she would never think her father would do this. She s 11 Any ideas?

Question: Who else likes groping girls?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 09:51 AM PDT

me and my friends like to grope girls a lot. We like to play a game to see how many girls butts we can slap. Who else likes groping girls

Question: Bathing with cousins?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 09:50 AM PDT

I am 17 years old girl from indian living in Sydney, we celeberated awesome holi with my hole family at my home. After celeberation me & my cousins went to my room for bathing ( we all were five age b/w 15 - 18 )as its enjoyment day we decided to take bath togather, actually we want fun in water, I told them to take shower first to wash color from body. We removed our cloth except undies & took shower before jumping in the bath tube. I have big bath tube in my room. We almost spend 1 hr in it. Really we enjoyed alot. Then my mom came to see us she found us in bath tube & start shouting on us. She thought that we were doing something wrong. Finally we finished bathing. At the night when my cousins went to there home my mother start complaing to my dad infront of my bro that we were nude bathing I inform my dad we were in undies & there is nothing wrong happend. My dad ignore it but mom still angry with me. My 1 cousin discuss this matter with her mom & she thinks there is nothing to be worried. I know in india it is may be not acceptable but we are not living in india we saw nude girls women men at nude beach. We use to go topless in school gym shower. Should we did not go topless??

Question: My younger sister is controlling my grandfather?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 09:49 AM PDT

I am the middle of 3 girls and for most of our life our grandparents raised us. Last summer my grandmother passed away. After she passed my younger sister moved back in with my grandfather. Ever since she has been ruling over his household. No one is ever welcome to pop in like we always have and she starts a fight with anyone who shows up to see him. We have literally been told to walk on egg shells and keep her happy our whole lives but now it is affecting my sons relationship with his great grandfather. My mother, my older sister, and I all agree something has to be done but we don t know what to do. Quite frankly we all agree she needs to move out and stop using my grandfather but we don t know how to convince my grandfather this is what he needs to do. Any advice?

Question: Are my parents going overboard?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 09:46 AM PDT

So it is snowing out and I currently attend a community college. My dad wants to drive me to school and "hang out" in the cafe while I am in class. Being a 19 year old I refuse to let that happen. Is this going overboard?

Question: Is it illegal in the state of California to put a child's arm behind their back when they're punching you?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 09:36 AM PDT

I'm a stepmom of three and I keep having trouble with the oldest girl. Every time her dad leaves she doesn't listen, gives me an attitude, argues with everything I say to her or her brother and sister, and throws a huge tantrum. She's 10 years old. Today when her dad left She kept calling everyone stupid so I asked her nicely to stop twice and raised my voice the third time she didn't listen and the fourth time I told her to go to her room. When she didn't listen to that, I took her by her arm and tried to lead her to her room but she turned around and started punching me so I put the arm she was trying to hit me with behind her back. She tried hitting me with her other arm so I trapped it against the wall and then held her there until she stopped trying to hit me. Now my husband is telling me that what I did was child abuse even though she was the one hitting me! If that's true then how do I stop her from hitting me when she won't even listen to me??

Question: I don't like my husbands family what can I do about this?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 09:32 AM PDT

My husband and I fell on hard economic times. My husband lost his job when I was six months pregnant, and medically since I had a pregnancy complication, I couldn't go back to work. We stayed in our home we rented out for two more months, then no longer had enough and had to go live with his parents. My husband recently got a new job about a month ago, but I can't find a job I've applied at over 25 places in total now, after being told my position had been filled at my old job. Anyways, my husband hasn't saved up for us to move out he goes to the gas station every week and spends around 200 there on junk. His family tries to tell us what we will do with our baby, and his Mom will always pick him up while he's sleeping and wake him up so he freaks out. She tries to pick him up when he's about to eat and gets mad when he freaks out. When I went into labor, we told them we wanted no one there and they just showed up anyways and said we said we were coming and we meant it we don't care what you guys say it's our grandchild. Whenever he cries, she stares at us like we're doing something wrong. My husbands vehicle got taken since he couldn't make payments after his job loss. I have the option to go live with my Mom but my husband cries at the thought. Any help would be appreciated

Question: My boyfriend of 6 years and I have broken up and his family acts like I was scum?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 09:16 AM PDT

My boyfriend and I just broke up and his family treats me like I've been evil to him his whole life. I don't really understand because I treated them like my own family. I loved them and made sure that they knew it. I bought them little gifts, I made sure I gave them gifts for every one of his sibling's birthdays (4 siblings.) I'm really hurt because they seem like they're happy to be rid of me...except for the two younger sisters, they're not aware of what's happening. The two older ones, however, haven't said one word to me and it hurts. What should I do?

Question: My step dad hates me for no reason?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 08:51 AM PDT

Every single day for 16 years my life has been nothing but hell. What ever I do I get criticized by him. I can understand why he hates my dad (he cheated on my mom) but just because I look like him, he feels the need to bully me. I'm just gonna make this short, but today, I called in sick to work. He heard me call in and he came storming into my room shouting "you useless lazy child" "you nobody" "f*cking waste of life" he then smashed my soccer trophies up, smashed my favourite perfume, threw a shoe at my head and then laughed then I started crying. He just lashes out at everything. I have no friends so nowhere else to go. Just stuck in my room getting more and more depressed to the point where I don't see the point in me being around anymore. I've tried doing everything he says, but nothing words. Why does he hate me? And what can I do?

Question: How do I get my mom to go?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 08:44 AM PDT

so I ve needed new jeans for weeks. I literally have on pair that I can only wear rolled up and another pair that is so small the the company label ripped and the zipper broke. and my mom knows I need a new pair of jeans. we ve been planing to go this week. and I was talking about how we should go to the mall a few days ago and she started yelling at me and telling me that we aren t going because I had a huge mess in my room and that apparently I m not greatful. so then everything calmed down and the next day I tried to bring it up and she yelled at me even more.and now I ve kind been replying short or not talking to her. how do I get her to actually want to have a shopping day? and should talk to her like everything s ok or ignore her or what do I do?

Question: My mom is crazy?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 08:44 AM PDT

Ever since I can remember my mom has always been a yeller. My dad is not really in the picture and I live with my mom. I'm 18 now and I am a male. My mom will not allow me to date and ever since the middle school days shes would rage and yell if she found out I had a girlfriend and she threatend me this morning that she would put me in the fire pit of hell if she finds out I have another girlfriend. I have tried talking to her about this but she still refuses to let me date and i think it is silly considering I am guy too. I think my mom is too overprotective and wants to control my life and wants to remain in my life, but I am moving out soon to go work with my dad and she knows that she soon wont be able to control me and baby me much longer which is tearing her apart. does anyone agree?

Question: How can mean Pacific Islander parents raise sweet kids?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 08:31 AM PDT

How do they raise sweet kids by being so MEAN? I've noticed that the parents are soo tough on their kids and tell them to do everything as if they are maids. But i expected the kids to be like them but instead they come to school and they're the most sarcastically cool and loyal people I (or anyone at my school) have ever met. They are protective of one another and always hang out in groups. Everytime there's a new kid and he or she is an islander, the other islanders will take the new kid under their wings and treat him like family.. My guess on this is that they stick together because there's very few of them compared to the other races. For kids who come from a seriously tough home, they are suprisingly sweet and loyal..

Question: How to deal with people nosy people?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 08:28 AM PDT

I quit my job couple months ago to pursue a couple of personal projects ill be working part time fro my computer but I am handling various business avenues havent figure it out yet in adittion to that I am traveling more and going to travel even more since i can work from pretty much anywhere the problem is that i am tired of giving explanations!!! i get people asking me thing like "what kind of life you have that allows you to travel that often" "How do you manage to support yourself with that kind of life" "how much do you get paid, " "wow you must be a millionaire" Jesus im so exhausted of explaining what i ma doing once i start telling them a short answer more questions come up. Can you please help me figure it out short answers for the nosy ones?

Question: What shall i do?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 08:02 AM PDT

Sharing a room is stressing me out, what shall i do? Im a 14 year old girl, and for the past year or so i have been sharing a room with my 8 year old sister. It was originally my room but my mum gave up work and got students so my sisters room is being rented out. when my sister moved in my room she had to bring all her stuff and she has ALOT of stuff, and now i have litterally got my bed, 2 draws in my wadrobe, a shelf and two small baskets. Recently, i have been wanting to paint my room and decorate it. my parents have given me permission but i cant do it when my sister is in here because she will ruin it.... It it really stressing me out because she never keeps it clean and i can never do homework because she messes my stuff up and all my work goes missing and that is starting to really affect me because im in im GCSE years in school and im getting in alot of trouble.... my mum always blames me and tells me to sort my stuff out but its my sister who keeps going through my things and stealing them, and when i tell my mum she keeps telling me to grow up.... i really dont know what to do and my mum says we are going to have students for ages so my sister has to stay in my room...

Question: If a family member dies suddenly hjow do I handle it?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 07:45 AM PDT

Only deaths in my family have been expected ones (people with terminal illness) and a 102 year old great-grandmother when I was a teen where it was sudden but she was 102. Only sudden unexpected death was a more distant cousin of my mother's (heart attack) so there it wasn't the impact. So if someone like a grandparent, parent, sibling, etc.... dies suddenly how would I handle it?

Question: Im 17 and my dad told me to move out?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 07:33 AM PDT

I just told my dad I need new clothes and he didnt believe me but I said I really do. He then didnt let me get anything and the top were literally like 7 dollars each and he still wouldn't. He is so cheap and annoying they are literally millionaires and they don't do a thing for me, but expect me to help around the house and have a good attitude 24/7. IT's bullshit. Also, they said that they are "higher" up than me and that I wasn't equal to them so whenever they want to stop talking the say so and then they won't even let me talk anymore. It's ridiculous. They said they are buying my !5 YEAR OLD sister a used/new porsche for her 16 birthday and they don't give me anything at all. Not trying to sound bratty but I feel unloved and like they don't care anymore. So my dad said he doesn't like "dealing with people like me" and said "why don't you just leave". He has said he hates being around me and doesn't want to do anything for me.

Question: I wanna get rid of my older brother please help!!!!!?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 07:16 AM PDT

My older brother who's 19 always hits me, it's like he takes his anger out on me and it's not like I can ******* defend myself I'm only 15 and a girl but last night he raised his hand to hit our mother and threatened her. Can I call the police on him or anything at all?

Question: Do I let something silly affect where I go to college?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 07:06 AM PDT

I'm a senior in high school and an all-state swimmer. I have multiple D-1 athletic scholarships, including some to some great schools I couldn't otherwise get into (I'm a good student, but these schools are even better). One of those schools is my first choice. I like the academics, the location, the coach, and the atomosphere of the swim team there. It's a great fit for me. The best fit. But when I took my on-campus visit I realized that they all shower together before and after practice, and that the showers are completely wide open (poles in the middle of the room). I don't have any sisters, have never really been nude around anyone, and my high school team had shower stalls with curtains. I know this "shouldn't" be a big deal, but it is freaking me out and making me consider other schools I have offers from. Some of them I noticed had private showers, others had open ones but the team went to great lengths for privacy. But it also feels like a silly thing to make a decision on. If the team is comfortable, its all girls, why shouldn't I be comfortable too? But I'm not comfortable, I'm really nervous. What do I do? And if you do think I should go, what can I do ahead of time to get more comfortable with the idea?

Question: Is my friend abusive?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 07:06 AM PDT

So my friend doesn't really physically abuse me except some time when shes mad she hits me one time she pinched me because of someone else saying something to her, it left a bruise. If I ever fight back when she does this she gets even more mad and hits me even more. Shes also really rude and hypocritical. For example one time I was trying to memorize that i had to say in front of the class she was yelling in my ear knowing i couldn't work so i told her to be quiet and she flipped out and started yelling and then she went up to other kids and pointed at me and said how bad i was and stuff but when shes working if i even move a little bit she yells at me to shut up.Whenever anything goes wrong she blames it on me. Also this morning i had to miss school so she got really mad (over email) and told me to walk to school, which by car takes almost and hour so walking would take forever anyways i told her no because my family would freak out and she was like your family is not more important than me. I didn't respond to that because no matter what i say shes going to get mad. These are just a couple of situations that have happened, so I'm not freaking out about like two things that she did for no reason.

Question: Whats your opinion on when an adult asks his parents for money?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 06:36 AM PDT

my bro asks my parents for cigarette money and he hasn't paid them back yet. my parents cant afford much. do you think this is right? I don't.

Question: Can I live with my grandma?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 06:02 AM PDT

My parents are extreme perfectionists so nothing I ever do is good enough for them. I could find the cure to cancer and they'd still scream at me, especially my dad, always telling me I'm pathetic and can't do anything right. I'm sick of trying to impress them. can I do something? Like move in with my grandma even if I'm 16? She's always wanted me to live with her, we're both really close

Question: How do I stop myself from ruining this relationship?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 05:54 AM PDT

My fiancee and I have lived together for a year now. My dad just asked us to move back in with him for a month or two to help out with our siblings. We moved in and everything has been great. There's just one problem though. I have trust issues from previous relationships. My dad works out of town and sometimes my fiancee and step mother are home alone with the kids. There is a 12 year difference between them and I don't know if they would try anything. I told my step mother that I had a dream that they were having an affair and her response was. "You know that's weird you said that because I always wonder if you ever worry when Sam and I are at the house together." My fiancee tells me that I have absolutely nothing to worry about. But like I said in the beginning, I have trust issues and my step mom gets lonely when my dad goes out of town. I'm the only person my fiancee has ever slept with. I am worried he might get curious about other people.

Question: We have a family racial issue..?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 04:50 AM PDT

While visiting my inlaws with my two younger children ages 13 and 14, we were discussing politics. My inlaws strongly dislike Obama and they were explaining why. Teasing with them, I said "OMG ya ll are so racist" and they replied "If not liking Obama makes us racist then I guess we are" We all laughed about it and that was it. Here s the real problem....my new son in law is hispanic. We have embraced him into our family, we love him to death! He s a good man. A great husband to our daughter and father to our grandchildren We are very proud of him. Our 14yr old daughter visited with him and her older sister for a few days and while there told my son in law that her grandparents were prejudiced. My son in law is very sensitive about racial prejudice and assumed it was about him. His feelings were badly hurt. Now he makes excuses why he can t come to our family functions. We love him and miss him terribly. How can I fix this??.

Question: My brother has relapsed on drugs, a few questions?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 04:46 AM PDT

1. How do I avoid my anxiety which is that he is going to die and it will destroy my parents. I am not so much worried about him as I am my parents, my mother mainly. Not that I wouldn't be said if he died but if it happened of course life goes on. For my mother her life would not go on aside from the physical rituals. 2. Are relapses normal? He got clean two years ago, relapsed around Christmas of that year (2014). Then he did well all of last year aside from a brief semi-relapse (abused a prescription drug) last summer. Now he has relapsed again (we don't know which drug). 3. Can my parents call the police to report he is drugged or are they only allowed to prosecute if they catch him selling or buying in person? I should add he is 24 and has had problems going back to 13 with behavior and drugs became a problem after high school (in high school it was just being unmotivated, raging, and he got a girl pregnant (baby was put up for adoption and now with a good stable family).

Question: Would you be kin to your step dads ex wife's family?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 04:43 AM PDT

Question: I don't get along with my dad at all. He is very mean to my son and I. He calls my 8 yr. old a little bastard and me a whore. Do I forgive?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 04:11 AM PDT

My dad is in a nursing home. Do I visit him after he has called me a whore and he wished I wasn't his daughter, and then calls my 8 year old a little bastard? We moved in with my parents 5 years ago, and he never showed any kindness about it. He never made us feel welcomed. Instead he is mad that we share the upstairs and I had to move his books and cards. He was pissed about it! We get in fights a lot and basically acts like he hates me. He ignores my son too. Do I visit him?

Question: In this situation, who should pay for the meal?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 03:57 AM PDT

My boss asked if I could take his two little sisters (15 & 17yrs old) to meet their mum at a local restaurant, as the mother was not allowed to be alone with them & no one else was available to take them. I agreed, and when we got there, me and the mum got something to drink & the girls got something to eat.. I kinda expected either the mum to pay for them (& I for myself)... But when they were ordering, they went for the cheapest thing, & when the cheque came, I quickly realised it was because the 17yo sister was paying for herself, her sister, AND HER MOTHER! (what, their mum couldn't afford the orange juice she ordered herself??) So I, obviously, said firmly that I'd pay. The sister refused with a horrified look on her face, but when she swiped her credit card it said unavailable funds. So I immediately took out my cash & paid for us all. She said stubbornly that I had to give her my acc details so she could pay me back. I said no way, it was only $30. When her younger sister heard she also looked horrified & demanded I give her sister my acc details. I asked if they'd get into trouble if their guardians found out I paid, and they said no. When I again firmly refused they said I had to come inside and talk to their brothers wife (one of their legal guardians).. I agreed. However on the way to their house my father called me & so I told the girls I had to leave & couldn't come in & talk. They demanded in a distressed tone that I send my account details,so I looked at them & asked then sincerely if that's what they really wanted, and are they really sure. They said yes,so I agreed that when I got home I would.. Now I'm home but I feel so bad. Their brothers are rich, but the girls didn't even have enough money in their acc... I'm their elder by a few years + I work.. $30 is barely even felt. What do I do? Ignore them & not send my details? Or do as I said I would - send it & let them pay for their share??

Question: I'm going to be alone ):?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 02:51 AM PDT

My parents divorced when I was 3 and my mom is a sing mom and working 2 jobs now we're moving to a different state but now I wondered what if my mom dies?? I've lived with only her all my life and we don't have family around since they live in a different country, if my mom dies I'll be alone, since I don't live with my father and I'm her only kid.

Question: How do I show respect while hearing a funny name?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 02:47 AM PDT

My brother and his wife have just had their second child and my third niece. They have given their daughter an unfortunate name which to some might bring thoughts of sexual innuendo. When my brother and his wife introduce their child to her uncle (me), how do I hold a straight face when holding back laughing?

Question: What do you call a grown man with no job who free loads from his mother ?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 02:46 AM PDT

What do you call a grown man in his 30s who lives with his mom who works two jobs while he sits cooped up in his room all day and eats food while she works 2 hard jobs? He eats food up but when food is out he buys snacks for himself while everybody is hungry and broke. When his daughter comes over he feeds her food from his mom/my grandma bought but to when the food runs out in the house he'll go out and buy her food. P.S His mom has a dog to feed, bills to pay , and groceries to keep ppl from starving. I mean how are u gonna feed your greedy daughter when you dont put food on the table for the house (his mom/my grandma the one that works two jobs he's jobless idk how he get his money because he sits cooped up in his room all day.

Question: I feel lost over my boyfriend dying :( I need help.?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 02:05 AM PDT

I'm at a really really sad place where I miss this man . I've tried hating him convincing myself he didn't love me everything negative so I can just feel better. I wake up first thing my brain goes to is omg he's dead . He died almost 5 days ago . I was by his side the whole time talking to a man I thought might wake up eventually but he didn't I'm so crushed and sad that I can not and do not want to deal with it . I hate what I'm feeling right now too many intense emotions that are robbing me of my sanity and health . I can't function. I want this feeling to go away so bad but I want to respect my dead boyfriend at the same time. I've turned my brain upside down. Facing reality and dealing with my own feelings has never been one of my strong points. I've never done it and I don't know how to do it now. He deserves me to honor him and hold on to good things but I just want to think of the bad things so I can get rid of this . Please help me . I loved love this man so much I think it's gonna take me down harder and I can't phathom what that's going to look or feel like . I dated him in and off for almost three years we did not have the healthiest or most honest relationship but there was love between us.

Question: My mom said that she won't tell my dad that I snuck out if I cooperate with her. How Is he not going to notice that I'm basically grounded?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 01:18 AM PDT

I don't want my mom to tell my dad because he'll hit me. :( He's really mean to me. My mom said that she'll keep it between me and her if I cooperate with her. She said that if I don't do exactly as she is saying, she will have to talk with my dad. I just can't figure out how my dad isn't going to find out anyways. My mom says that I need to come home immediately after school for 5 weeks. She also said that I can't go out on weekends. I always go out after school and on weekends. Won't my dad think something is weird about that? Then my mom told me that I need to hand my phone to her and start on homework right away. After I finish homework, then I have chores. Won't my dad know that I'm in trouble for something? I really want to cooperate with my mom and I really want to deal with her consequence instead of getting hit by my dad, but I think he's going to figure it out. Should I talk to my mom about doing something else that my dad won't figure out? You're right Grumpier Old Woman. It's a pretty good deal for me. I'll just tell my dad that I'm trying to focus on school and that I don't feel like going out with friends. My mom will probably help me out if he starts questioning more. I'll just do what my mom says. I don't want my dad to find out about what I did. That's a good idea lil.ms.suductive. I'll just let my mom know that I'm leaving my phone on the kitchen counter or somewhere else where she can get it. It would be suspicious if my dad sees me handing it to her everyday. I'm not going to talk to anyone about this Tina. My mom is trying to help me out. She's doing me a big favor by not telling my dad. She knows that he'll hit me. I don't think she knows how bad it is, though.

Question: Is it wrong to like my sister in law's little brother?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 01:05 AM PDT

My sister in law's brother and I get along really well. I've kind of started to like him... is it wrong?

Question: I m 14 years old and the other night my dad came in drunk and hit me?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:42 AM PDT

When my dad hit it was because I just swept instead of picking up a while room. Then I forgot to finish washing my sheets. He came up and smacked me in the face. Yelled at me to get up. Hit me again. Pushed into the trash can. I fell. He yelled get up. My step mom can up the steps and he smacks me and turns me over on the ground. He smacks me 4 times on the butt and i eventually turn over on my back. He turns me over and screams keep your hands up. He hits another four times and I turn around again. My step mom dragged me out amd.passed me in a corner and stood in front of me. He then threatens to hit me in the head with his belt because my mom hit me with a belt on the butt. I m truly scared of him. Does anyone else think that s abuse?

Question: I believe nobody would want a family like this?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:30 AM PDT

My family wants only to profit from my money,my granny is apathetic,doesnt give a damn if i try to meet and date a girl on another continent,only scandals and shouting from my aunt to her mother my granny after she got 2 apartments one for her son other for her daughters... My granny actually has a mix of Stockholm syndrome and schitzophrenia I think..she gets angry with me on simple things and loves unconditionally her older daughter and her children,no matter the harm they did to me. You wouldnt want such a family to be pain in your back right? The family is of East European origin.

Question: My sons half-sister from his father (kinda my daughter she is an adult living with me ) & is an Empath yet cannot see her own situation.?

Posted: 04 Apr 2016 12:06 AM PDT

The problem is she has gotten herself into a relationship that started off with her helping him with the problem relationship he had. She ended up kicking her previous boyfriend out and within 30 min. this younger man was in her bed. Even though I saw this coming and told both of them ahead of time to please let the current situation have some time to heal before anything else starts. They both tell me they are not in a relationship its only sex. Yet tells his mother there is No sex its just a friendship. He comes home from work and went directly to her room closing the door not to re-emerge until needing to use the bathroom, get food/drink, or go somewhere. He stopped paying any of the rent as well. She was at her wits end & said he had to go back staying in other part of apt & if there is sex he cant sleep in her room. She moved his stuff out of her room locked & blocked her door & said she could not open the door or she would give in to him. I said fine i will fix that...I am asking him to leave & if you open that door you are out too. She threw me under the bus & told the last part of the sentence to him and his mom making me the bad guy.Here is the part that i dont get. We live in a gated apt complex directly behind motel/suites beyond the gates. He rented a room this wknd & she is there with him saying he is still her friend and she was not getting into the middle of our problem. yet she started the entire situation & against my better judgement! Any suggestions?

Question: I hit my parents. I don't know what to think?! I'm so ashamed.?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 11:56 PM PDT

My mom hit me (as puishment)since I was a kid. Right now not anymore cuz I always stand up for myself. Anyway when I was kid my dad molested me. I didn't tell anybody till I was 17. I finally told my mom so she can feel sorry for me and leave me alone but she forgave my dad and think I should forgive him. I pushed myself away from them I don't know to think of them. I lost my respect for my mom. I crossed the line month ago when my mom and I argued that she think I should pay rent(I'm 18). She came so close to me I pushed her little because she was in my space and she hit me so I hit her back then we were kinda fighting because she wanted me out the house and start taking my stuff that she gave me. Next day we apologized. I felt so horrible that I hit my mom I never thought I would hit someone. I told her I'm so sorry I didn't mean to. She look at me like I'm not her daughter anymore.I can see that it's sad. I thought it will never happen again till yesterday. Both of my parents yelling at me that I better pay the rent this month. I said I'll pay them when I go to the bank and they still wouldn't leave me alone and kept yelling at me. I said something to pissed my dad off and he came up to me so fast like he about to hit me I was so scared at that moment so I pushed him away and he pushed me back. I started to hit him because he went into my space. Then I left to cool myself and just couldn't believe myself.

Question: I think my mom is manipulative?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 11:52 PM PDT

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XKfm723mISo I recently watched these videos, and I've seen what this "mom" does saying things like "i'm the mom and you have no choice but too listen to me." "you're being ugly right now" pitting my me against my dad my mom always uses physical violence too scare me She asks me about why i'm so "depressed" in life and says that life isn't fair you should suck it up and that i should be sad about nothing also things like, your opinion does not matter you must do what i say

Question: I feel like my life is wasted !?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 11:00 PM PDT

i was forced to study in a hard university which doesn t put on account that we have a life to live ! all I do is study the whole ******* time to rise my GPA .. My cosins study in another counrty and another university they travel all the ******* time with their unis i can see they are happy they have full life they laugh eat new food talk and are genraly happy they have friends they look pretty and always take care of them selves .. I can t do that .. I never heard of a uni in my town that makes such trips to Korea/Lebanon/Japan Or such places :) ... I hate my parents so much cuze they can t relize how shitty it is in this town .. Everything my cosins do reach us after 5 or 6 years a new technology new culture and so on .. I have 2 years left to finish my bachelor degree i keep telling myself that everything is going to be fine and i will study abroad and get far away from this place and those people ..for now i just don t know what to do or how ro think .. I hate myself and i feel hopeless i went to alot of doctors to talk about this their talk made me high for a a short time . I made alot of calls and asked alot of quetionson wether i can change my uni or not .. The answer was always no .. I tried to the point of not wanting to live anymore I mean it ain t worth it if thats what i m doing and will be doing for the rest of my life .. 20years old girl

Question: How do Pacific Islander parents do it?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 10:54 PM PDT

How do they raise sweet kids by being so MEAN? I've noticed that the parents are soo tough on their kids and tell them to do everything as if they are maids. But i expected the kids to be like them but instead they come to school and they're the most sarcastically cool and loyal people I (or anyone at my school) have ever met. They are protective of one another and always hang out in groups. Everytime there's a new kid and he or she is an islander, the other islanders will take the new kid under their wings and treat him like family.. My guess on this is that they stick together because there's very few of them compared to the other races. For kids who come from a seriously tough home, they are suprisingly sweet and loyal..

Question: Is a five year sentence for killing someone while under the influence too light?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 10:47 PM PDT

my 21 year old daughter is in prison for five years for killing her friend when she crashed while she was drunk driving. She also has an additional five years of probation. Her friend was in the passenger front seat. Her friend was drinking too so if she decided to drive it could have ended up the other way around. We received an visit from her friends parents who are still angry at us and say that five year jail time and five year probation is is too light and it should be longer Obviously, I have no defense for what she did. She did a terrible thing and ruined her life and is paying for it but it seems like a lengthy sentence

Question: My mom has been lying a lot lately. What should I do?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 10:27 PM PDT

For the past three months or so, my mom has been twisting the truth and just straight up lying to turn things in her favor. It started with "oh you told me that convention was next week. I'm busy this week." But I literally marked the date on the calendar MONTHS ago. And then, when she went to recount an earlier conversation between the two of us, she twisted my words around and made me look like an absolute idiot and no matter how much I insisted that that wasn't what happened, she ignored me. On Easter, she made a racist remark and when I called her out on it, she flipped out about me "challenging her opinion" when I wasn't challenging anything. She made my whole family turn against me for something I didn't even say. And on top of that, she's been fake crying to try to bend me to her will too. She's never done any of this before, at least, not in the fifteen years I've been alive, and I don't know what to do. She's accusing me of "acting weird" and asking what's going on with me when it's not me at all. I want to talk to my family about it but I already know that they'll take my moms word over mine. I'm at an absolute loss for what to do here....

Question: I just made the biggest mistake of my life , how do I fix this? Please help?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 09:50 PM PDT

My sisters texted me over the weekend (was at my boyfriend's house) and they said that my mom was looking for something of hers and apparently I took it and they said that she came in my room and threw everything of mine away and the gifts that my boyfriend gave me so I came home the next day and I went into the room with my sisters and started **** talking my mom hardcore calling her a phsyco ***** and worst mother ever and this and that. Also saying that I hate her so much and don't care about her and that she doesn't deserve us as daughters. My sister went to go out of the room and she opens the door and of course my mom was eavedropping the whole time and she came in saying I give you freedom I let you sleep at your bfs house , and even if you re saying this out of hatred and don't mean it the damage is done a D this whole speech about how she is the only one who took care of us (haven't seen my dad in 8 years) and how I'm ungrateful and you know. So how do I fix it? I truly feel bad.

Question: BAD GRADES AND TELLING MY PARENTS HELP?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 09:46 PM PDT

ok i'm really lazy this year, i used to get all A's but this year I'm having B's and C's cause my teachers got replaced fml.My mom and dad will be so angry and mad cause they always warn me about my grades and because im always in my pc, im like relax i will get all A's, now its time to tell them im so scared theat they will take my phone away, pls help me how to get away w this

Question: Was my dad a drug dealer?

Posted: 03 Apr 2016 09:32 PM PDT

Okay so I was wondering if my dad was a drug dealer ever since i was little he would take us places and we would meet up somewhere with strange people and he would always tell us to stay in the car as he went out to meet them and he would hand them something and yes they gave him money and yes this happed often yes my dad is hispanic mexican wont give out his name but he has been sent back to Mexico and thrown in prison hear for a year before being deported I don't know.. what do you think drug dealer or what?