If you have disagreements and small arguments often with your gf or bf would you even consider marrying them ? How easy is it to find someone you barely argue with ?

Is it the ridiculous double standards of modern society?

There are many good points about her though and I've heard divorce is even more miserable sometimes. I was alone for a long time and very lonely before her, so I really don't want to risk that happening again. If she could change a little, not yell, it might be fine. But, the simplest things can tick her off.

My fiancé and I bought a car for a very good deal. I love it and so does he. However, it looks very similar to his ex wife's. Hers is a Hyundai and ours is a Ford. Both same color. They both have kids together so we both have big space in each of our vehicles. Should I worry about that it looks similar?

My husbands entire personality changes when he drinks. He hasnt had a job in six months and finally got one yesterday. We were celebrating, i drank too much and started puking then blacked out. I woke up to him texting me about how he has to celebrate alone and he comes home, i say hi and hes like ur just a *****. Goes upstairs, i follow. I said sorry i got sick... he starts screaming at me that i got sick from overdrinking so that makes me an asshole. I pushed him out of my face and he smacked me against the wall. Threw his ring at my face. This morning he is still saying what a ***** i am etc... then all of a sudden quits, starts acting normal and affectionate then leaves to go buy a tv. Im so numb I cant think straight. This behavior isnt abnormal for him since he has bpd but I think its becoming more abusive

What if the mother cheated and caused the divorce? or if she was abusive to the children?

I worked hard and got 2 college degrees. One of the kids is still a toddler but my family taught me that being a stay at home mom is both lazy and a waste of life. That said, I am ready to go back to work. I have some health issues but my lawyer said that until we go to court for disability I am free to work. My husband lies and tells Ppl that I am too crippled to work and "can't". Truth is, he has goals to be a famous country and western musician and thinks that playing gigs on the weekend is going to get him there . Every band he's ever been in has failed . I schedule weekend jobs and he forces me to miss them or purposely schedules shows so I can't go. We have no family to babysit and he claims childcare is "too expensive and we would spend more on that than I would make". When I had a full time job he came up to the office and fought with my boss and accused him of harassing me and I got fired . What should I do? Yes I have divorce papers ready just need the job to support the kids .

I think he's a hypocritical selfish asshole.

I tried changing and stopping, but I can't. Believe me, I tried.

We have been married for 4 years now. We are both in med school. We are taking a break from school right now. We cannot stop arguing. Our sex life is great, everything is great. I know we are not ready for a divorce yet. We have been through worst. Now it is just petty stuff. Three arguements were because she thought I was upset and I thought she was so we were both mad. One was because she wanted me to be more affectionate towards her so I started doing that. We tried going on a date, though it failed because of an argument we had about her friend humiliating her so many times yet my wife keeps giving her a second chance. We are on a break right now. The house is silent. I am staying in our guest room. It has been this way for three days now. Maybe this will be good for us, but I am worried about our future. We how will we take breaks after we graduate and when we have kids around in the future? (We cannot afford counseling or therapy) we searched online and found that we have to see the point of the arguments to mend them, but that's the thing! We keep apologizing and mending our arguments, but we keep starting new ones over and over! How do we stop this cycle! It is driving us nuts! We love eachother and definitely not ready to divorce. But we need some advice.

Is it possible to love your spouse and still cheat?

Alan, my ex husband and I are on friendly terms. We did not have any children. Two times in the last 3 years I ran into financial difficulty. I could not pay my rent or car payments. I called Alan and told him my problem and he gave/loaned (I am not sure which) me the money to solve my problems no questions asked. He never ask for the money back. Another time my computer died and I ask Alan how I would get it fixed. He sent a repair tech out to fix the computer and when I tried to pay the tech, he said Alan had prepaid him for the service call. My friends tell me I have to stop asking Alan for help if I ever expect to live on my on. I think that is probably true especially if he gets married again. However it is hard to get a loan from a commercial source and so easy to just call Alan and he will solve my problem no matter what the problem is. How do I stop my self from taking the easy way out and calling Alan when I have a financial problem? ALL ADVICE WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

Our daughter is 26 and she walked out two nights ago after telling my wife she was done being abused mentally, physically, and physically.she told my wife she was done being her punching bag and would live in a homeless shelter if she needed to. My wife is and always was extremely controlling. She even tries to control me and the boys but it's worse with our daughter. When my daughter was 14 my wife choked her because she didn't like something she was doing . I can't remenber the exact reason. And my wife says that my daughter only likes me because I don't say a whole lot to her and that I'm laid back. I tell her a few things but for the most part I'm not about to scream and curse and degrade and beat her like my wife does. I told my wife " me and you are not the same. I'm not going to call my own daughter a $ut. When I discussed the problems with my wife with yahoo before a lot of people were saying that my wife feels like my daughter is the " other woman" and I kind of see it now because my wife gets in a rage whenever my daughter cooks for me but she refuses to cook. Our daughter blew up the other night about how much pain she was in and how she couldn't take it anymore and how she Didn't deserve this. The other time she called our daughter a $lut was when she went on a vacation with her boyfriend and the vacation was only two days. She allowed our son to go all over the world with his girlfriend but refuses to let her daughter go anywhere with the boyfriend.

My wife cheated on me with multiple people between the end of last year into this year and has gotten pregnant with the guy she was in a relationship with the guy basically played her the whole time. Basically I had caught a virus and my family invited my wife over to help out since I was sick. So she came over and helped out I was being nice didn't bring up anything and plus she is supposed to watch the dogs next week while I'm on family vacation but heat got me is when I talk to her she tries not to answer but sometimes she did, but she couldn't bring herself to look at me at all the furthest she look was at my mom but never at me it's like she would freeze...and then when I left she would start rambling about other things to my family..she is also still worried about the guy who played her.

For example beating up an innocent woman simply because the woman is younger and has a bubbly personality and better body than her.

So I am reaching near 30 and I really want to settle down. For years I've had troubles getting a date and I never had a girlfriend. I'm even getting rejected present day when I tried asking some girls if they could go to a wedding with me as my date. My family for years have been trying to set me up with someone and we've had no success. My aunt in my native country has been useless as she tried to set me up with people and they all replied that they weren't interested. I'm thinking about going to an matchmaker when I go to vietnam this next time. A lot of people criticized me about it. My friend was like can you stoop down any lower than this ? I am ashamed of you. I'm really hurt that he said that. Does it really make me less of a person if I have to get a matchmaker to help me ???