My grandpa could not live by himself anymore so he moved in with my dad mom and me and he has a whole lot of health issues. We have not taken a vacation in years because we are stuck watching him and my aunt wants nothing to do with this. I want to go on vacation with my mom and dad and they agree but we are all Stuck changing pee bags and dealing with his health issues/ doctors. Dad just says hold off for maybe 3 years and we can take a vacation to Singapore that's assuming his health stays the same.

My grandma lives in New York, nearly 6,000 miles away from me. I try to call her every Sunday, but she never answers me back. I stand on my roof shouting "Grandma! Grandma!" But I hear nothing. What should I do?

So my mom and I got into an argument over me leaving the living room a little messy then she started carrying on about me being just like my "scumbag father," then she got super angry and she slapped me and that is when she said that she hated me. I told her that I knew she didn't mean that and she said she did. Later on that day, she was watching this video where these kids were talking about the most hurtful thing that anyone has ever said to them and this girl said that her experience was her mom telling her that she hated her. My mom then said that that sweet, beautiful girl does not deserve that but my ugly *** does. I honestly don't know what to do right now, all it took was a few books scattered in the living room to find out how she really feels about me

I will be paying for the bike the insurance and good safety equipment. I don't want one because it's "bad ***". I don't want to go on the highway with it. I already take my road bike most places on the roads I would be on with the motorcycle. I want one to work on and customize. I genuinely enjoy everything on 2 wheels and I'm not an adrenaline junkie but I snowboard and I enjoy the rush but at the same time in know my limits. I've been driving a truck for about a year now. I will be buying one when I turn 18 and insuring it myself either way I would just like to start early.

My sister in law is mobidly obese. She doesn't seem to be serious about doing anything. She is suppose to get surgery but she keeps not meeting the expectation/requirements before getting the surgery (diet, exercise, some weight loss proof). Her brothers live with her and some other people but they are doing everything for her around the clock. I mean EVERYTHING. The only time she gets up is to use the facilities or go out to eat. I'm not one to enable her. I prefer tough love. Anytime someone calls her out, she blows them off and EXPECTS them to do what she orders so she's doesn't have to get up. I don't understand why ppl are jumping at her beckon call. Anyway, I need to just give up hope at this point. I don't want to and it's not in my nature, but it's either give up hope, let go, or suffer in silence just watching her deteriorate and eventually die. :( Is there anyone else that has a family member like this? How do you cope? It's so hard to watch. so very hard. SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE...I REALLY COULD USE POSITIVE FEEDBACK RIGHT NOW

I am 15 years old and my Dad used to abuse me when I was younger. He hit me last week for something my sister did. I didnt do anything. It was a back hand/ open handed hit so it is seen as dicipline. wtf! He threatens to beat me with a belt and threatens to take away my food. What should I do? Ca I call the police if he threatens to beat me or take away my food? I've talked with a counselor and teacher. They cant do anything because it was open handed, though it was in public. I don't know what to do. My Mom and Dad are divorced.

I don't have a car, but my family member does and he offered to drive me to and from work daily and I give him 100$ a week for gas...the drive is 25 mins one way....would you do it?

I'm not gonna write a whole story here, ill sum it iup. My brothers 33, im 19. My brother has Psychosis (although i think he over exaggerated it to be diagnosed) - but i am pretty sure he's depressed because he does nothing with his life. He has no disabilities, kids, or responsibilities, he lives in a apartment and gets a high amount of welfare/benefits and has the freedom to do whatever he wants. But all he does it sit, complains about there's nothing on the tv, that he's bored etc but he chooses himself not to do nothing? btw he isn't overweight or anything either. So, last week we went from ireland to england to visit my sister, who's husband is disabled and has autistic kids (he can't move out of his bed, very bad back plus they're the same age) - and i thought (since he hasn't seen him in years) that his perspective on life in general would improve as he's seeing someone who isn't as fortunate as him and can't' do simple things etc etc - btw they were friends years ago back when he was a teenager. But I was wrong, he's just going back to complaining about being bored, nothing seems to register in his head, i was literally up at his place for an hour and the whole conversation was about him and how hes bored, literally he'd drain the life out of you. I mean when me or my sister is off work/college he expects you to go up to his and entertain and feel sorry for him. I don't even think he has phycosis, he just plays on it for money and sympathy,

I didn't realize it until now but our daughter was treated the worse by my wife and she left last night and I don't know when or if i'll ever see her again.. I feel like I lost a huge part of me. she's my only daughter. after my daughter left my son and his girlfriend came over and a huge argument arose like it normally does because my wife insists on telling our adult sons how to live their life. my wife kept telling our sons that the jobs they have now aren't worth anything and she wants to see them getting back into college. my son was like " I didn't and don't want to go to college so accept it. you don't know how to let stuff go. i'm not about to go in debt over college when I have a mortage to pay. my job pays extremely well. and now that I think of it you've never told none of us you were proud of us. you are so negative and not uplifting. you're supposed to uplift your kids not drown them with negativity. the crazy part is that you don't even see what you are doing. my son said he only went to college one semester and realized it wasn't for him. I knew college wasn't for him from the jump but my wife wanted all of our children to have degrees. our daughter that walked out last night is the only one that has a degree. my son said he only went to college because it was what my wife wanted. I think she's trying to live vicariously through our children as she never graduated college, she's 50 and has been working in a retail store her entire life and not even as a manager our son's have great jobs they are passionate and happy about. they make more money than my wife! My wife told our 23 year old that all he does is play video games and that he's not doing anything with his life and he was like " i'm 23 and purchased my own home in my name and my own house. none of my friends are making as much as me. damn what else do you want from me. you are never happy. so what if I want to play video games in my spare time, I pay my own bills and handle my business." my son said that my wife wants him to work a job he's miserable about just so she can brag to her friends and the rest of our family, which might be true because my wife loves to tell people's business. then our 18 yr old son turned towards our 23 year old son and said " she's negative and cold and soon as I walk through the door, I can't keep going through this. I need to leave like all of yall have. you can't talk to somebody like her because she just wants to control people's lives. our 23 year old said " mom you need to let people live and learn and make mistakes and spread their wings." his girlfriend didn't say a word during their huge argeument

Im not trying to be mean but I don't want him to spread autism onto his children

I had to see them this weekend, their friends, and I hated it.

I have a compulsion to see him and yet he abuses me emotionally. I am an adult so have no obligation to see the man ever again but I cannot stop. How do I get the hell away? How do I move (I live not far from him)? I want to cut him largely from my life but can't seem to get myself to. I have to pretend I am happy when I am with him like when he sees me today as he belittles me if I am not happy. I am anxious if I am around him and he bullies me like my teachers did when I was a kid if I show anxiety. I am dreading today as I have to see the loser.

I just want to stop living but am afraid to hurt myself. It hurts too much, I am rejected like my parents did to me as a kid.

-He's 35 years old, I was raised with him, known him my whole life. he pays no bills because his parents still support him. -He's always asking to borrow a couple hundred dollars from me but he never paid me back $10.00 for a movie ticket so I won't lend him money. -He steals from friends, his parents are old/frail and he doesn't help out around their house with chores or anything. -I got him a job paying $25. an hour, he didn't show up on the first day because he wanted to go to a concert and they fired him his first day. -While He was on unemployment for 2 years his dad bought him a camaro, he didn't maintain it and it broke down. Then his dad bought him a second camaro, same thing happened. It broke down. -Growing up I had no money, his parents bought him everything he wanted. -He's always going to jail over drunk/disorderly conduct or d.u.i.'s. -He steals from friends, hangs out at a dive bar all the time and drinks left over beers that people leave behind. -Hes always insulting me for going to school, working 2 jobs and taking care of my family. -His family hates him and he disrespects their catholic faith all the time. -Hanging our with him I feel like I love him like a brother but I also don't respect him as a man. Should I stay away from him?

I am 15, I go to a regular public high school. I have a great group of friends, I get good grades, I do track.The thing is- I am not happy. I know people are going to tell me to stop being selfish and what not, but I do try to be happy, and I want to be but, I just can't. I wake up- get ready for school- go to school, at school I have my friends but, Idk I just feel so alone. Even though I am far from it. I tell my mom all the time I just wanna be out of school I hate it I've been extremely sensitive lately. I get upset and sometimes even just go to my bedroom and take a minute to cry, and they don't understand so my dad just tells me to knock it off. Another concept could be the fact that my mother drinks red wine constantly. To the point that every night she has about 4 glasses if not more. She doesn't get "wasted" she gets to the point she isn't all there. She gets real mean. She just tries and picks an argument with everyone- my dad normally just gets up and goes to bed. And I know this hurts him too- and I'm the person that tries to keep everyone happy even though I'm not happy myself. And for the weekends- oh boy. I have no idea but I just wanna stay home and sleep, idk relax. Alllll day. And when my friends want to hangout- it's not that I don't want to, it's just that. I'm not in the mood- like ever. I just wanna be home all the time. I get homesick just being at school. I just need to be home. If you need more info- just ask. Thanks.

I got a good job recently and a lot of my family members seem a lot more interested in talking to me. Before I told them I got a good job, it seems like they kind of ignored me.

This would be my first time eating at a food bank. There is a place called Faith Mission that offers food everyday to individuals and family in need. Due to personal problems, I cannot afford to feed myself right now. I feel embarrassed.

My mom cheated on my dad multiple times. They divorced when I was 6. I don't understand WHY people cheat. How could she? My dad is/was the most loyal, selfless and kind person I have ever met. He put everyone before himself. After they divorced, my mom began drinking. She met another man, and married him. He got her into smoking cigarettes. I always disliked him, and so did my brother, yet she continued to put him before my brother and I. My mom was emotionally and verbally abusive. She would threaten to drive the car into a wall while driving with me, and once even said she hated me, didnt love me, and I wasn't her daughter. While I wasn't the easiest kid, I definitely didn't deserve it. I finally had enough, and left to live permanently with my dad. After 5 years, birthdays and Christmas's with no calls or contact, I gave her another chance. She messed it up. She is still married with the same man, and I believe he is abusive. I don't really remember any good memories about my mom, only the abuse she caused, and still affects me today. I want a mom so bad. I am tired of lying to everyone She texted me today, saying she loves and misses me. And I miss her a lot. I don't know if I just like the idea of a mom, or it's her. I want to forgive, I have given it many years. Life is short. But I just feel so angry at her, how she has messes up my life. We could of been a happy family, but she messed it up. How do i forgive? I hate living like this! Any advice otherwise

I've got a cousin who I don't know very well and only seen a few times. we are friends on Facebook, but haven't interacted with each other in a few years. I hope to start talking to her again and possible build a better relationship. How should I start a conversation with her without it being awkward?

Her cousin was not there but she had this really bad woman he was with over. He was married at the time and still is. He broke off the affair.

I try to only see the two bad people at family functions.

My sister said no to ANY leftovers when I asked if she wanted to take something . I was putting food into Tupperware and she saw it wasn't an inconvenience. Dies this mean my food was bad?

My life is too hard since my baby sister was born. I'm not saying that she was a mistake, but is just that I'm stressed. As soon as I come from school, I have to babysit her until midnight. I can't even do my homework to be dealing with her. When I have to shower, I have minutes counted. Every single day I have to wake up at 4 A.M to take care of her. My grades are low, and there's nothing I can do at home to at least try to improve them. I have 2 more siblings that literally do nothing than be goofing around in the streets. Some friends even tell me that she looks like my daughter. I feel tired, I'm 14 and I've been dealing with this for over 9 months. Please help!

So yesterday I had this big fight with my mom but we made up and today when my mom didn't feel good to cook she asked if we would just like to go out to eat and my brother was like "Sure" and I was asleep then when I woke up she said to decide on where and she came out of her room and said what about this place and my brother didn't like it because he had a bad experience and she said something else and he disagreed and I said I don't think it would be a good place because last time I went with a friend to eat there and I got food poising and she went off on us and said "I thought I was supposed to pick you guys never do anything for me." and she went on about how we don't care but we clean around the house without her asking I try buying her something or try expressing but I have trouble like my father but I try the best I can and I try to make her happy but it always fails and I told her I would just eat what I was eating and my brother could go out to get what she wants because he apologized and this is kind of what happened yesterday but more yelling and her telling me when she was out that she was going to leave us. Any suggestions to make her happy because I've tried cleaning the whole house daily, Hugs and expressing feelings, buying her something nice but it always fails I feel like It's not good enough and it hurts me when she says that we don't care and that we hate her and that she's never enough and I try to tell her we do and she is more than enough. If anyone comes back I just understood it was mixed up and misunderstood I couldn't even read it. I had a bad fight with my mother and the next day she asked in the morning when she came home if we wanted to go out to eat for dinner and my brother said sure because I was asleep. When she went to sleep a little later my brother talked with me downstairs in the kitchen and then my mom came out 5 minutes later and wanted to decide something my brother didn't tell me and got upset.

Growing up, I was exposed to my father hitting myself and my mother. Not punching or anything awful. Just flipping over chairs my mum and I were sat on, spitting in my face, throwing drinks on me etc. I'll always remember him throwing and breaking the last thing my mother had of her mother who passed away when she was a child. It breaks me heart to this day. All this led me to self harm and have a lot of suicidal thoughts as a teenager. When I moved out to go to uni, I noticed he had calmed down a bit. I have now moved back home and have experienced a few of his violent spells - he occasionally flips and calls my mother and I c***ts, throws glass and breaks things which we then pick up and mend together. He is quite verbally abusive too, he picks on her weight a lot. My father has never worked before - my mother has worked her whole life and single handedly bough our family houses and paid for everything. I am moving out again soon, and I'm so worried for my mother. This morning she burst into tears and said she often stays quiet because she is worried that he will get angry again. I know that there are families out there that actually have properly physically abusive fathers, and my mother has always shrugged it off like it is normal. But now I am getting older, I am wondering, is it? What shall I do with my mother. Does she need to escape, or is this just a part of life?

The uncle knew I was alone as he saw me last night at the grocery store he was at with his son. I asked "what you all doing for Easter" and they said "nothing really" and I joked "any Easter Egg Hunts" knowing the answer was no as his son is 20. Late today I saw my Mom's cousin (uncle's cousin) and he and his two kids had been over at my uncle's and he said my aunt was there with her husband. I am devastated not to be asked and feel rejected. I know it is silly as the other uncle in the area was not asked but that uncle has 6 kids, I have no kids, no spouse, and it was known I was alone today. It would have meant so much to me if my Mom's family had included me here. My Mom has died and I made reference that my Dad and step-mother were out of town seeing my sister. I have felt devastated the last two hours. How do I get over this and remember the good parts of today as I enjoyed the morning and most the afternoon before this news.

I've been a slave throughout this pregnancy. My stepdad has been working abroad most of the time. My mum has been sending me to the shops for food, like actual full food shopping. She said she's too tired to carry it home. Then she also will send me out for food or drinks she randomly wants. At night she sits on the couch and makes me get her water, she drinks so much water I'm filling the bottle up every hour at least. Then I have to get her a spoon so she can take her indigestion medicine. It's been weeks of this. Now due to hot weather she's become even lazier and wants more water than usual. She made me go and get her some ice cream from the shop. It was closed because Easter so I had to walk further to another shop. I complained when I got home and she called me ungrateful and told me to go upstairs and leave her alone. She's so rude. She still has like another month until she has the baby. I can't stand it!!

I've seen some cases where parents are judged for dying a child's hair, piercing their ears or letting them wear makeup. Most of the time, it's the child who requests it (not all cases though). Is it really that wrong? I mean, there's worse parents out there who abuse or neglect their kids. Changing their appearance won't kill or hurt the kid - and most of the time, it can be temporary.

I still got all my gifts but we were meant to invite people over for burgers and cake. It had to be cancelled. Why cancel?it's not going to make a difference to grandma being gone. My mom had already made the burgers so they're in the refrigerator, and my dad is with his family at the hospital I think. My mom could have still grilled the food for me and friends. Or she could at least grill me a burger while we wait to see what's happened to grandma

I'm a man in my early 20's. For a few years I worked with a woman in her 40's. We became friends at work. Always busting chops, joking, etc. Just recently we became friends on social media. She's worked for another company for a while. I want to initiate an event or activity we can hang out. Not sure if she actually wants to hang out with me, a 20 year old, but I think she's cool and would love to have a convo with her again. She already has friends and a family (plus a daughter my age who I briefly dated but that's another story), so not sure how much time she has. But she was kinda family, or ''mom'' to me at work for a few years, lol.