I know just by reading the question it's like " obviously". However , I have been trying to decide what the right choice is . My best friend has been with this boy "steadily" for a year , they used to date a couple years ago but reconnected again . I honestly don't like him and my friend knows this but I try to let it go and be happy for her . I was recently on YouTube watching one of the girls I am subscribed to and I just so happened to came across a video that he was in . He was flirting with the Youtuber and another girl in the video . I was literally so shocked . The thing is , this video was uploaded in early January . I remember my best friend telling me that they were on a "small break " in December but I know for sure that they did not completely cut ties . Right now they are doing fine I guess but I don't want to bring this up to her and then find out that he was flirting with these girls while they were on a "break". I also can't help but think if he's still out there disrespecting her like that , months later .

On Sunday, my grandmother caught me touching myself in my den and watching porn. I thought I was alone and no one would notice but I thought wrong. However, instead of me being embarrassed, it is her that's embarrassed. She had the gall to call me "shameless" and asks me "why you are not embarrassed?!" about it, despite it being a natural non-sexual means to alleviate stress. She gave me such a sanctimonious and prosecuting spiel and then start shedding alligator tears for me to not do it in the den anymore but do it in my room. Sure, I feel embarrassed and guilty for what I've done, and for getting caught, but what I couldn't stand were her tone and her extremely black and white morals. The thing about my grandmother is that she has no respect for anyone's privacy but her own, barging into rooms without knocking or interjecting in other people's conversations. She also holds people in unrealistic standards, including me, to the point that she lives in a world where people wouldn't do the things that I just did. She is even so histrionic that she would cry and yell and thinks that it would make me stop what she doesn't approve of. The question i am asking is that if this happens again, what do i do? Before start accusing me about being sick and amoral. Let me tell you that I am a college student living in a house where I rarely have any privacy in the matter. When I'm in the bathroom, or in my room, or in the den, my family bursts in without knocking and I have to be extremely careful about what I do in my private opportunity without getting caught. Does that make me a horrible person just for wanting a little privacy?

I was a junior in high school, and me and my friends were drinking. My boyfriend had just broken up with me, so I drank a little more than I intended and was soon blacked out. I find out later that me and one of my best friends had sex. I told my closest girl friends how I felt that he had taken advantage of me, but they told me that I wanted it and that I initiated the hook-up even though I don't remember it at all. I believed them and continued to hang out with the friend. About a week later he invited me over and I went, which I understand was not a good decision. He once again forced me to have sex, but this time I was sober I knew what happened. My friends then told me that I did it to myself for going there by myself. its been 4 years and im afraid its too late to do anything about it now but it haunts me.

Im female, in my mid 30's and don't make friends very easily. Ive been going to a sports club on and off since I was 13 so know a few people from there but still I'm not close to them. Im not great socially, people have said I'm 'offish'. I don't mean to be. Anyway I am trying to be more social with them but Im wondering if I've 'cooked my goose' so to speak not only because I've been very quiet for years but also because I dated a man nearly 30 years older than me. He was physically fit (looked younger than his age) but I received odd looks from people and some deleted me off facebook. I was told that it didn't look right as I looked very young myself. This was 4 years ago though (the relationship ended) but still pretty much everyone in the club knows. Most are ok with me but I worry about what they think. I was thinking of going elsewhere to try to make friends but then really I want to stay there. Is it impossible for me to suddenly get closer to people there now given my past?

there's this girl from work that I really like and since yesterday we have been messaging each other on Facebook so not long ago I sent her a message and I said, "i know this is random but yesterday you looked really gorgeous." She reaplied with, " LOL your right that is very random lol but thank you tho :p"...........i feel like she sounded very boring on her reply. Is she not interested?????? What else should i say???

When I was around 9/10/11 I would go to a friends house often (she's a year older than me). The adults stayed downstairs and we'd go upstairs. One day in her room she showed me 2 porn videos. One straight and one lesbian. I, at the time was confused and shocked but I also found it kind of funny and intriguing and I remember once she was done showing me the videos we went downstairs and she hid her laptop from her mom and I wanted to laugh. Then before I went home she whispered something in my ear about how it's "good to be a lesbian" and I, feeling quite cheeky said something like 'yeah lesbians are great they can have sex and not get pregnant'. It's stupid but I was playing along. I continued to hang out with her and she never showed me porn again but looking back I was thinking how strange that all was. Is this something common? I'm an anxious person and I've heard of children showing their friends porn then molesting them, but I have no memory of molestation. But then I find out people get molested and forget. But I don't remember feeling uncomfortable around her any more than expected considering she'd shown me porn. Was she just showing me something she was fascinated by? Could something have transpired that i forgot? Nowadays I do struggle to make close friendships and I'm sometimes intimidated by other girls. I also hate opening up to people and I feel, small and vulnerable compared to girls who have a lot of confidence. Is there a link? Am I being ridiculous?

I love buying people gifts because I want them to be happy! But I am beggining to realize its going to take a toll on me being broke lol. My brother and I have this issue where its so addicting to buy people more than 3 gifts. I ended up buying my cousins more than 6 gifts each and I bought my friend 10 gifts for her birthday. How do I stop??? Argh. I love buying people gifts and seeing their reaction..but at the same time I have to pay for bills. I need help! Maybe it runs in the family but my parents are certainly not like this.

Hello my little marshmallow (marshmallow is her nickname her real name is Maddy) started to live with me a couple months ago. She decided to live with me because her parents are not in a place to take care of her. I won't go into detail but they aren't fit to take care of her and she hates living there. Anyway I go to know her a little better since she's lived with me and I am worried. She doesn't have any hobbies, she has manic moods, sometimes she breaks down crying, and worst of all..she only has ONE FRIEND!!! I feel bad for her and I want her to be in a better place. But I don't know what to do. What advice do you have?

I'm a very personal guy. My friend moved away and wanted me to come visit him. So I did and after going out drinking we were watching a movie on his couch and I fell asleep. I wake up and decided to get ready for bed. I go to my bag and all the side compartments are empty. I'm wondering if I left my car unlocked or what. Where did my stuff go? I go to the bathroom and all my stuff is on the counter. My friend thought that he was being helpful going through my bag and pulling out my stuff for me. I feel weird talking about it even, but one thing I've been trying to deal with is my hair thinning. It's not very bad, but it's definitely happening. I use Rogaine, but I keep it a secret. I don't know if he realized that's what he pulled out, but he did pull it out. If he did realize what it was he's probably not going to understand that I don't want everyone knowing. I can imagine him bringing it up in front of people . "Oh yeah, you're using Rogaine, you must be going bald." I'm just wondering what people think. Was what he did normal? I would feel really weird going through someone's duffel bag as they slept.

Yes, they are my best friends. But every time when we're on a group chat, start chatting, having fun, and then when I make a typo or if my grammar was bad (English is not my first language) they really take advantage of that and trying to have a good laugh by making fun of me. And it's not like how best friends laugh at each other or making fun of each other like everybody else. No, my friends always like to tear me apart. Even if I was really serious. All I want is to have a normal chat with my best friends. Every time I get into group chat, I regret it so much. And you might ask why am I still friends with them? They're my only friends i have. Literally. And I don't want to lose them. So I really need help. What should I say to them when they start to humiliate me? I don't want to be rude to them. I want to say something with respect and effective at the same time that's going to stop them from making fun of me. I'm 18 btw and they've been like that for 3 years till now.

If it's just sex with a friend is it ok to cuddle?

This guy and I had sex at a hotel he stayed the night. And I laid and cuddled with him he and I are only friends though.

We're kind of friends, but we get into arguments/fights ALL the time. He just tries to act bada$$ all the time for no reason at all. Like he'll tell me something disrespecting me, and I'll just be like "f*ck off" and then he gets up and comes over to me and threatens to kick my a$$. The other day he was on the phone with his girl, and I said something, which I don't even remember what it was, and he took it as disrespectful so he pounced on me and punched me in the face, so I punched him back and we both bled a little, and he held me there until I said I was sorry. I only said it because I wanted him to get the f*ck off me because he basically just started sh*t with me for no reason whatsoever. Like how are you gonna attack me and then tell me to say sorry? Next time he puts his hands on me I will literally knock him out. He is so arrogant and immature. I only ever hang out with him because he is friends with my best friend and any time I am hanging out with him, he calls that pr*ck over. Why do people feel the need to act tough all the time? I can understand if you need to stand up for yourself, but being an arrogant a$$hole is going to get u hurt.

This guy and I had sex at a hotel he stayed the night. And I laid and cuddled with him he and I are only friends though.

Not your friends Your "friends"

My boy-friend (gay) chats with a male colleague who is allegedly straight. They both end their texts with an X. Should I get worried?

I gave her $5 to get me a six pack of beer and coffee from the stores today and she brings me food from the Peace House charity. I give her a couple cigarettes when she comes to my door asking.

One of my friend's relatives made a kind gesture stating that I could stay with them in their house if I ever was passing through their town. Well a few days ago I emailed them the day before and asked if i could stay with them for the weekend. And they sent back a slightly lecturing email that told me I should have emailed them a week or so in advance to give proper notice. They think I was just looking out for myself and now they don't look at me in a kind manner. But it was an honest mistake and I didn't mean any attitude or strife.

I've had girls harass and bully me and 2 or 3 guys try to play me. The bullying in college has been both ongoing harassment and physical bullying bring pubchrf. Why is this happening to me

This semester is coming to an end and I would like to continue keeping in touch with some of my classmates after its over, but I'm wondered its not going to work out since in the past, I received phone numbers from classmates, but they no longer keep in touch with me anymore for whatever reason. What should I do?

-Growing up he was always spoiled, I never had money do I worked all the time. -He's 35, lives with his parents and doesn't contribute. -A few years ago he was laid off from his job and he got Unemployment pay and milked it until they cut him off. -His dad bought him 2 cars to motivate him to get a job but he didn't change the oil on either car and within a year each they broke down. -Every time I gave a problem I would get a 2nd job until I'm stable again. Every time he faces a problem he asks friends and family for money. -His siblings hate him because their parents are getting frail and old and he doesn't do anything around the house to help them. -I got him a job at my work once which pays $25.00 an hour but he told them to reschedule his first week of work because he wanted to go on a trip to see a punk rock concert. -I think he stole $100. from my wallet one night when I was asleep camping. -I have a family to support and one-by-one everyone in our old group of friends stops talking to him. -He always hangs out at a bar, drives drunk a lot and argues with police officers. -This one time he refused to pay me back $10.00 for a movie ticket then the next week he asked to borrow $600.00 from me and acted offended I said hell no. -The list goes on, I grew up with him and I get lonely without hanging out with him but I feel like I've out-grown my best friend. Should I stop hanging out with him?

i'm a sophomore in high school and these 2 boys in my chemistry class started being friendly and talking to my best friend and i. fast forward a couple months later we're all good friends who talk regularly. well i started distancing myself from these boys because one of them showed me his journal filled with these bdsm hentai drawings, and i got weirded out. well i was sitting with my lab partner (my other friend) and talking to her while my best friend, was sitting at the table behind us with the two boys. i guess they got too comfortable with her, but they kept making rapey comments about how big our asses are, that they imagined us scissoring and how they would rape us if we were their slaves in like the 1600s. my best friend told me this and i was so afraid to walk the hallways to the next class, or even ever. later that day, the same boy who showed me his drawings dmed my best friend asking for permission to touch me and my lab partners asses. this was like in march, and to this day, my best friend still talks to them, like regularly. i confronted her and told her that it bothers me because these are the people who made sick comments about my lab partner and i while we were doing our work. she basically made me feel guilty for wanting her to stop talking to them. am i wrong for wanting her to stop talking to these boys in my chemistry class?

I've never fit in with the popular kids. They were always mean and thought they were better than everyone just because they wore all the name brand clothes and had the latest phone. I was the opposite of that. I'm not mean, I'm shy and awkward. I have a hard time fitting in and standing up for myself. Not that I want to fit in. I never wore name brand clothes but I did have the latest phone which nobody really cared about. I know this is all high school stuff, at least I thought. But even after high school people have this mindset of "look at me! I'm better than you!" It's annoying and they just look stupid and need to grow up. The real world doesn't care about your fancy car. Is this just kids and people in their 20s?

my best friend of 4 years is upset with me and i don't know why because she has yet to address the issue. i know this because in our group chat with our other friends, she was being very passive aggressive and every time i texted in the chat, she would change the subject. (keep in mind that i have no idea why she was doing this, or what i had done to piss her off) when i noticed this, i asked her in the chat if i had done something wrong to make her upset because she was making it very clear that she was. she then proceeded to blatantly ignore me and change the subject. i thought this was weird so i asked her again but in private message just in case she didn't want to say what was on her mind out loud. after that, she left me on read then responded like 2 hours later, still with the same tone. the next day i asked her again and once again, she left me on read, so i followed up asking her if she was ever going to address the issue or continue to leave me in the dark confused because 24 hours later, i still don't know what it is i've done wrong to set her off, so i can't even properly apologize. then she finally responded hours after she had already read the message saying that i should already know. we had barely even talked that day, so i was even more confused. i offered her confrontation multiple times but she neglected that, proceeded to ignore me and leaving me in the dark, forcing me to assume the worst. am i wrong for not knowing?

I was being nice to one of my homies, and let him borrow my **** for the night. He still hasn't returned it in a day, after telling me this. "Really bro cmon its just 1 night, I'll give it back tmmrw." Now when I ask him he says he ain't home. But I just saw him online on Xbox. What what would you do? Should I just let him keep this **** and stop talkin to him?

Don't have any friends because they all seemed too phony for me to hang out with them. I mean if they cared they would be in my life now. I honestly don't feel the need to make new ones. I am 37 and never had any real friends.

My actual birthday is on October 18th and I hate it because it is so late, my 2 best friends have early birthdays, one has her birthday on January 23rd and the other one has her birthday on March 20th, they both turned 15 while I am still 14. Would it be weird if I lied and told them that my birthday is next week? it sucks being the youngest one in my friend group.

I've known this guy, James, since I was 11 years old. I'm now 28, he's almost 30. We met through my older brother. We didn't become friends ourselves until late 2016. He was my very first BIG crush in middle school, I was obsessed. When we became friends in late 2016, I started developing feelings for him again. I told him in February 2017, but he said he was brokenhearted over his last FWB situation and didn't see me as more than a friend, but we agreed to be FWB ourselves. We only had sex 5 times within a year, though. During that time, I tried to date other guys, but it didn't work out because they weren't good for me. Whenever James found out I was going on a date with another guy, he would say he's jealous. Keep in mind, he was the ONLY guy I was sleeping with at all. Anyways, fast forward to now: last April was the last time we had sex. I eventually told him I no longer would have sex with him until and unless he made me his girlfriend (which I didn't REALLY want to date him anyway because he's extremely toxic and manipulative). He said he liked me, though didn't want a relationship and didn't really know what he wanted. I started dating somebody else and I've now been engaged for 2 months. James continuously tries to get me to cheat on my fiance, but I won't. I refuse to because I love my fiance and I'd never risk losing or hurting him like that. I've blocked and unblocked James numerous times and he's done the same to me. A few weeks ago, I told him that we clearly can't make it work as friends because all he's ever going to want from me is sex and not actual friendship, so I blocked him. I unblocked him again last Sunday and wanted to see how long it'd take to hear from him again. Last night, I got a message from him (6 days later) saying "I know you don't like me, but I miss you." Why do I enjoy hurting this guy? I used to REALLY like him, but I also knew he was only using me for sex and I kind of became numb to my feelings for him. He still tells me that he wishes he had given me a chance back when I was single and that he misses me and likes me and all this crap, but when I was single and completely infatuated with him, he kept saying he only saw me as a friend and would tell me about all these girls he liked and was trying to screw.