so i am a giving person it is jsut who I am and reasontly a new friend I have told me I try to buy people and that I try too hard. I have never thought of myself as this, I am just always thinking "Oh I like this maybe my friend would too." So I give a lot of little things to ppl all the time. (Not rich lol I'[m in highschool.) Am I like subconsiouly trying to buy them? I never thought I was until now, And they like say I'm too nice and it is like I'm buying them because I don't even ask for stuff in return. It is just weird because I have never thought of myself of buying them, especially since I have never worried I would lose them or anything like that..

I don't get it probably because I'm the grungy kid at school and I don't care about trends or whatever is new. I just want to know...

He used to tease me and kinda mean to me. He used to talk a lot. Now he's seems so nice and shy thats its gotten so awkward. I have to do all the talking. He doesn't even make eye contact with me anymore. He just looks at me when im not looking and when i look at him i laugh like why do you keep looking at me? and he just laughs and looks away. He used to be so talkative and constantly teasing me but now he barely says anything plus hes super nice.

So, I'm a very giving person, I'm certainly not rich, my family is middle class, (btw I'm in highschool). Like if my freinds and I go somewhere I ask if someone wants something. Ocasionally I will be at the gas station or something by myself and think my friend would like something. Well recentaly a friend told me I'm trying to buy my friends. Or I try too hard. But I don't understand, I have never NEVER thought like that. I have always though "hey maybe he would like some candy, I know I sure do". Am I trying to buy friends but I'm doing it without really understanding im doing that?

To say to a friend I don't care if you don't like me that's your cross to bear not mine

My grade was trouble since the students in my class had access to a lot of beer and drugs and they were pretty much causing all sorts of trouble no matter what it is. Would having access to beer and drugs make them want to hang out with them and make them cool? I don't even know where my grade would even get the beer and drugs since they weren't even legal at that time or was it something else they liked about them? My brother just has this thing that he would always have to hang out with people from his grade, my grade and I'm two years older than him and the grade below him. Why can't they hang out with people just from their grade? Why cant my brother find access to his own stuff with his friends and half of those people still all hangout.

so basically i was walking to my friends house with my iPad to show him it to brag and show off because he's poor bc his parents have no job right now and as i was walking, this woman mrs. peace was walking by and she accidentally rammed into me and i fell over and dropped the iPad and i picked it up and it was cracked and dented and smashed and wouldn't turn on!!! mrs peace just smirked and ran away quickly and i chased her screaming at her because the ipad costed 400$!! and she just kept running, i started crying and went back home

Just drift like less invested in the friendship

Hi im 7 months pregnant with my 1st child and one of my friends gave me a used carseat because her child is 1 years old now and she didn't need it anymore so I accepted it and i also had another friend who was pregnant and had her baby before me and she needed a carseat and since I was only 4 months pregnant at the time when she gave it to me i gave it to my other friend who had her baby before me because she couldn't afford one and she needed it more then i did. So my friend who gave me the carseat got angry at me yesterday because she found out i gave it to my friend without asking her first we got into a big argument about it and she said she will never try help me again because i gave it to someone else..she said I should have asked her because I didn't know if she wanted to sell it or give it to a family member or something. I told her she sound selfish and my friend needed it but she still got angry and said it doesn't matter that's YOUR friend and said I still should have asked her because she gave it to me..were not talking now..any thought?

i feel used.. unappreciated. I give my everything to people and i get nothing back. Is there any way I can fix this

This girl that I am friends with through improv has tried inviting herself over to my place to smoke pot and I've managed to put her off. But recently she told me she got edibles and wanted to give me one. I agreed and then she asked if we could do it together. I didn't know how to say no so I agreed. I only see her as a platonic friend and plus she is married. And I sometimes get the feeling like she is crushing on me. I trust myself and know I wouldn't do anything but I don't feel comfortable even putting myself in that position. We did edibles last night and it was getting late and I was trying to get rid of her but she said she was still too high to drive (something I should have seen coming) so I offered to let her take my living room couch and I would go sleep in my own bed. She finally ended up deciding she was good to drive and left. Anyway, I've already had her over once but I don't want to again. I don't want to hurt her feelings or make assumptions about her intentions. I mean, even if she means to keep things platonic and her husband doesn't mind her staying out with a guy by herself until the early morning hours, I certainly mind. I don't want there to be rumors either. So how do I maintain a friendship but avoid a situation like last? Can I just be forthright or should I just always make sure to invite other people as well to make it a group hangout? Help!

I have a close friend who is a Cardiologist. We have been friends since college. His soon-to-be ex-wife is an Assistant District Attorney and they have 3 daughters and been married for 18 years. When they were dating in college, she got pregnant during their senior year and they got married a year later. However, it got revealed recently that he had a long term affair with a close married friend of his wife's, who is a respected Dentist. He also had an affair with a married nurse who works with him and she got pregnant. This absolutely disgusts me, he is supposed to be a friend of mine, should I still keep a friendship with him? After, his affair with his wife's close friend ended, he got mad and sent her husband a long email detailing their affair and attached their long-time text messages to the email, along with racy photos. He told me he seemed proud of it. He said that he didn't want that affair to end and that she got what was coming. His wife wants a divorce. Should I give him advice or no?

I have this friend and me and her are both adults and we're both women and we are pretty close to each other and we're best friends but sometimes though when I'm not having a good day or when i'm not in a good mood I will text her in a lot of times in a row and even sometimes when I am having a good day I will do that too because I do have a lot to say sometimes and she says that i'm ok with doing that but I have regretted that so much and sometimes when I text her a lot in row sometimes I don't make sense with what I say and that means I am really struggling at the time and she has seen me struggle more than my own parents have I would say and more than anyone else has seen me struggle and I live with my parents. I'm just concerned that this getting to be too much for me well with what I say sometimes to her but I know we all make mistakes and I have never had a true friend like her before and I feel like it's gotten kind of to the point of obsession with her but she doesn't know that and also her and some of my family have known each other for years and so how do I really feel better about this from now on? Because I feel like I have made a lot of mistakes in my friendship with her and I do care about her a lot and I am trying to be the best friend that I can be to her and I think about her a lot too

Just recently, I'd experienced a problem with a co-worker who had been negatively gossiping to me about two of my fellow co-workers whom I have good relations with. It's conflicting when it becomes a "he/she said battle" when there aren't other witnesses besides myself. When I confronted this co-worker and told him to stop with the gossip as it damages the team dynamics, he flat-out denied it by gaslighting me—calling me "ignorant", "crazy" and "childish".

A person told me my friend talks crap about me behind my back. I confronted my friend she told me she talks crap behind my back mostly how she picks on me.....

To begin with, I never really cared for any of them. And over the years, I've grown to actually hate them. A couple of years ago, I quit going to her family's holidays, I've deleted them off of Facebook, deleted their numbers, I leave my house when they come over to visit. They're all selfish, self obsessed, parasites who don't talk to anyone unless they need something from them. They pretend they're these goody goody people, but it's all a front. Most of them are addicted to pills, but they act like it's not even a big deal. They're stuck up and awkward to be around. They need to come back down to earth with the rest of us. I hate everything about them.

I always thought it be nice to know technology and to handle tech tricks. But I'm too dumb to figure it out on my own. I'm also poor, so I cant afford to ask the geek squad or take internet classes. I kinda wish I had friends that were technology smart. That way I might learn from them without an expensive cost. Does anyone know where a good place to hang out? I'm thinking maybe the library would be a good place to find these kind of friends

I have a male friend that I had a fling with a short while ago. I wanted to take things to the next level and actually be boyfriend/girlfriend with him at the time but he did not want that but he very much wanted to remain friends with me. He now seems to be dying to see me again and is quite flirtatious with me again so I came right out and asked him if he is after me with the hopes of getting a free BJ from me since that was one of the things we did the last time we were together. I cant believe I sent him a message like that now but I was just trying to figure out why he is so motivated to see me like this. Anyway, was that slutty or inappropriate for me to ask him that? I guess I just want him to be honest with me and I did not want to beat around the bush about it....but now I am wondering if that was slutty of me to ask that? Please be honest for best answer

I was going through my close friend's Snapchat story when there was a post of her saying the n word and she's completely and nothing else other that European. Our parents are friends and we see each other often. I don't know what to say to her. I don't wanna be that bìtch who does nothing. But I don't know what to say or how she will react

Im a junior in high school, and as u can see from the question, I stole my best friends girlfriend about a year and a half ago. He (we'll call him John) and I had been friends for around 5 years or so since we met in junior high. We were in a group of other close friends, and John and a girl in our group (we'll call her Diane) were dating. This was a little bit before our friendship ended so they dated for a little while. Long story short, they broke up because, to be fair, he didnt treat her the best, and she came to me saying that she had feelings for me. A few days after we started dating, we broke our friendships with the rest of the group, and I even ended up throwing nasty remarks at John that I regret saying now. Since then, none of us have really talked except for one occasion where we tried to fix the situation to no avail, granted it was only a month of so after it happened. Me and Diane have been dating since and its going really well and I love her a lot, but I cant help but feel like the shittiest person alive for abandoning my true friends. Ive gotten nothing but a year and a half of silence from my ex-friends. Ive had a year and a half to think about what ive done and I wish I wouldve done things differently. All I want to do right now is talk to John and just tell him that im actually sorry. Im just looking for advice on how to approach this situation because right now I have no idea what to do.

I have a friend who has a foot fetish, but it's only limited to jacking off to pics of females pedicured feet and shoes with the feet in them. He's not very outspoken and none of his friends nor family know about it. He only confided to me that he wants to keep it under wraps for a long time. Is this normal?

For example the other day I said i wanted to try and sing in the talent show. She had never even heard me sing before but said "Oh my god you should never sing." When I asked her why she felt that way she said "because I feel like you'd be reaaaally bad at singing." This didn't make sense to me because my other friends said I have the type of voice that sounds like I would be really good at singing. She says these sort of demeaning things to me very often. Another example: we take ap spanish together and whenever I happen to practice in front of her she says I say it really weird and that it's probably because my tongue is shaped weird. Like WUH? & when I asked her how I can fix my "accent," she said I can't even if I tried. So she says this sort of stuff often so one day I honestly told her that her spanish wasn't good either. And even though I've dealt with her saying that **** to me all the time her face turned to stone and her demeaning remarks towards me have only been getting worse. I've always been an encouraging kind friend for her, someone please tell me what I should do with this *****.

like if it'd just be me and her talking it'd be normal and she'd be nice and i'd be able to actually talk to her. But when she's w/ people she is really rude and always tells them everything i'm saying and they use it against me. It's really annoying. What do i do?

my brand new ipad mini 5, i was at youth group at my church and i was playing a game on the ipad with my friend and we went to go get some food and the ipad was gone!!!! i screamed and searched for it and we saw this girl with moles holding an ipad and it had my case to so i went up to her and she denied it then laughed and ran away