My girlfriend and I are about to have sex for our first time together. We're both 19. I'm terrified of hurting her. Honestly. I think that just might be my biggest fear. My girlfriend was repeatedly molested as a child by a relative. When she got older she had severe behavioural problems. She did drugs constantly, including cocaine. When she was about 14 she got really drunk and a guy took advantage of her and her virginity. At 15, she was sexually assaulted on a date. She's also told me about some really scary situations where she thought a group of guys were going to rape her, and she wasn't being paranoid. The story she described was terrifying. My girlfriend has had a history of severe mental health problems as well. It honestly breaks my heart that she's had to deal with these things. She's had other sexual encounters that have been consensual but they were just hookups. All I want is to make her happy. Does anyone have any advice?

Ladies, how would you go about messaging a guy that seems attractive to you but then you don't want to seem desperate, awkward or needy for his attention? This means trying to message him for the first time. I need some opinions on this matter?

I need some help guys. I have this friend, she isn't one of my closet friends, and we haven't know each other extremely long. But I am so afraid of loose her so much so that it is depressing me extremely. I legit don't care about the friends I have known all my life, but this one girl is making me go crazy and I can't stand the thought of loosing her or not talking to her. I am too a girl, and I also have a boyfriend. (Idk if thats necessary but I don't think im falling in love or anything). I need any advice I can get, what is going on with me, and how the hell can I actually get over this?

So since this requires a lot of detail, I will write everything that I think you will need to know to give me an accurate answer, so be warned about length: Me: 13 year old male, goes to all boys school (since 4th grade), extremely nervous and shy around girls (get red just talking to them). Absolutely NO dating or romantice experience AT ALL. Not even like flirting with a girl really. Her (name lucy but that doesnt matter): 14 (pretty sure) year old girl, goes to a coed school that I went to up until 3rd grade, don't know about relationship status, but I think she is single. Has twin sister. So me and lucy were in the same school up until 3rd grade (so 5 years ago, so a long time), and were just in the same church sorta sex ed class 'O.W.L.' For this whole year that met every other week on sunday night. I found her attractive before we were in the O.W.L. Class from instagram and RARE 'sightings' of her around town. As O.W.L progressed, I got her snapchat and came to like her. We snap back and forth and have some conversations on snapchat, but never really see her in person at all because school would be that place and we don't go to the same school. As a guy, I can't really tell if she flirts with me or not but during O.W.L she would laugh a bit at my jokes (didn't make that many jokes but idk if im right about that) and she responds very quick to my snaps (usually) and she seems to try to make an effort to look 'good' (attractive) in her snaps, but that (see update) Could either be me just finding her attractive all the time, or she does that for everyone she snapchats. I really like her and since I havn't really had any time to get to know her, I want to ask her out/ask her if she finds me attractive (or however you reccomend) but don't want to seem like an overly hormononic guy cause we don't really know eachother that well. (And just adding this part, forgot to at beginning, no friendship past either, just aquatinces) [Now see update 2 for last thing] So what im asking is 1, should I even pursure a relationship in anyway because I don't really know her, if yes, 2, how should I ask or tell her I like her, 3, how can you convince me to actually do what you reccomend because i've asked this question before (with less detail) and they have all said to ask her out, but i've been too scared, 4, if I ask her out and she says yes, where should I ask her out to? A movie? Bowling? I have no idea becasue I have no romantice history. [See update 3] PROMISE LAST UPDATE, just thanking you guys: Thank you guys for answering (who ever does) and if you read over this, and think its too long and are ready to skip it, please don't, im really in the dark here and don't know what to do. I have an older sister in 10th grade that I could ask for help but am too scared to. Also, if all of this works out, How do I tell my parents that I am going out on a date, we never talk about girls or anything. Thank you! Ummm, how do I ask someone out in person if I never see them in person? (At least not anymore, O.W.L. Ended) Also, should I just tell her right away (not drag it out) or drop hints that I like her until she figures it out? Should I ask one of her friends if she is dating anyone, or would that risk everyone at her school (who do live in my town so I would care) knowing?

I'm best friends with this girl and she's recently been staying in contact with me ever since i've broken up with my girlfriend several months ago. we've known each other for 2 years. our time out together at the gym and food stops have increased as well as talking outside of work however she doesn't really like texting that much she likes face to face conversation.. when i was with my girlfriend we made clear that we didnt have a thing for each other and now i have a crush on her and i think she does with me too? whenever we're with our friends she acts different but not all of the times. last week i flipped her off after she flipped me off and she said "you wish" and laughed. this is every time i flip her off too. and she put a pillow next to me while sitting on a couch so it wasn't "awkward" but eventually we made contact. but then when we're alone she acts different and is 10x more vocal and giggly and sometimes darts her eyes. thoughts? when we're together she always takes pictures of me on snapchat and couldn't stop showing me her new haircut she got last week. she always tells me to let her know when im home if i drive her to her house and said "he'll be going to his birthday party because im gonna be there" last night to a friend. thoughts?

I should have been a bully in high school and I hope my future kid becomes a bully so that they will get married young. Women getting married past age 33 is not beautiful. Christians pray that I will be engaged in 5 years because I deserve it and being single at 27 is weird for a woman.

My boyfriend and I never had sex, and yesterday it was brought up in conversation. He said he would like to better himself to be good at sex to which I replied with "why does it matter, I probably wouldn't feel anything anyways" To which he was very hurt by. How wrong was what I said/ what's the big deal?

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So I ve had no success using these dating apps. I hear all of these people talking about going on dates and meeting people. I ve had plenty of matches, however most women I ve tried talking to either don t respond to the first message or can t hold a conversation. The ones that I ve felt like were going well and the conversation was good usually inexplicably stop responding out of nowhere. Do they expect you to ask them out right away? Or is the conversation not going as well as I think?

there are so many questions here and so broad topics

Me and this girl used to snap all the time and for a little I became a little unresponsive and left her on opened multiple times. So one morning when I was sending the normal everyday "streak" snaps she replied with "why don t you ever snap back" I was taken back and said sorry idk. Ever since that say when I send her a picture or even a question she refuses to answer it. She always opens the message really fast almost as soon as she gets it but never responds. At this point I feel like I m wasting my time. Should I move on?

Long story short the guy used to like this girl but then he and I bonded over his bad friendship with this girl. Me and this guy became so close and we would hang out and talk all night. Now that he and the girl are friends again it seems like we talk less and less. I feel like he doesn t even care about me anymore. I am always the one to start the conversation but I feel like I start to annoy him so I back off. What should I do? Am I crazy for thinking this guy likes her more? Do I let go of him as a friend or do I try to keep this friendship alive?

My ex and I were together for about a year. He cheated on me, we got back together and he cheated again (no surprise) and then so did I. When he found out he called me a whore and said I was nothing but a wet hole to him throughout our relationship. I know this sounds crazy but It has been a month and I really want to text him or wish him well. Should I? he sounds bad but we did have a loving connection at one point

A friend and I are dropping acid both for the first time in a few months. We re getting a hotel room. I have only been smoking weed for about a year and never had anything else and only been drunk once. I have anxiety but can handle it pretty well. I feel excited but nervous for sure. I will do more research but I m just looking for any tips to make sure I don t have a bad trip? Any advice? Experiences?

So since this requires a lot of detail, I will write everything that I think you will need to know to give me an accurate answer, so be warned about length: Me: 13 year old male, goes to all boys school (since 4th grade), extremely nervous and shy around girls (get red just talking to them). Absolutely NO dating or romantice experience AT ALL. Not even like flirting with a girl really. Her (name lucy but that doesnt matter): 14 (pretty sure) year old girl, goes to a coed school that I went to up until 3rd grade, don't know about relationship status, but I think she is single. Has twin sister. So me and lucy were in the same school up until 3rd grade (so 5 years ago, so a long time), and were just in the same church sorta sex ed class 'O.W.L.' For this whole year that met every other week on sunday night. I found her attractive before we were in the O.W.L. Class from instagram and RARE 'sightings' of her around town. As O.W.L progressed, I got her snapchat and came to like her. We snap back and forth and have some conversations on snapchat, but never really see her in person at all because school would be that place and we don't go to the same school. As a guy, I can't really tell if she flirts with me or not but during O.W.L she would laugh a bit at my jokes (didn't make that many jokes but idk if im right about that) and she responds very quick to my snaps (usually) and she seems to try to make an effort to look 'good' (attractive) in her snaps, but that (see update) Could either be me just finding her attractive all the time, or she does that for everyone she snapchats. I really like her and since I havn't really had any time to get to know her, I want to ask her out/ask her if she finds me attractive (or however you reccomend) but don't want to seem like an overly hormononic guy cause we don't really know eachother that well. (And just adding this part, forgot to at beginning, no friendship past either, just aquatinces) [Now see update 2 for last thing] So what im asking is 1, should I even pursure a relationship in anyway because I don't really know her, if yes, 2, how should I ask or tell her I like her, 3, how can you convince me to actually do what you reccomend because i've asked this question before (with less detail) and they have all said to ask her out, but i've been too scared, 4, if I ask her out and she says yes, where should I ask her out to? A movie? Bowling? I have no idea becasue I have no romantice history. [See update 3] PROMISE LAST UPDATE, just thanking you guys: Thank you guys for answering (who ever does) and if you read over this, and think its too long and are ready to skip it, please don't, im really in the dark here and don't know what to do. I have an older sister in 10th grade that I could ask for help but am too scared to. Also, if all of this works out, How do I tell my parents that I am going out on a date, we never talk about girls or anything. Thank you! Ummm, how do I ask someone out in person if I never see them in person? (At least not anymore, O.W.L. Ended) Also, should I just tell her right away (not drag it out) or drop hints that I like her until she figures it out?

A few months ago I had a best guy friend I ve never been so comfortable with someone. He ended up liking me as more than a friend but I didn t like him back. eventually we started to talk less and I started liking him when we didn t talk. It s been a on and off me liking him and not liking him but he hasn t shown much interest or as much as he did when we were best friends. He has a girlfriend now and he knows I like him but he isn t showing any interest and I feel like he isn t the same as how he used to be I don t know what to do I feel like i want to be with him now and now I ruined my chances because it s been a while since he likes me and things are different.

Have you ever met someone who seemed "too perfect?" I've gotten to know a guy like that. He's handsome, athletic, semi-smart, and chivalrous. But I see right through him. His kindness isn't genuine and I think he does it to seem like a good person.

So this is what's been going on 1. 6 months ago my girlfriend broke up with me for an f-ed up reason. Like a week later a girl in one of my college classes came up to me and was like "we should study together." She's way smarter than me and didn't even need my help. So we studied together a few times and it seemed like she liked me. She would touch my arm all the time and she started dressing better than usual and looked super hot. I was still traumatized from my last relationship, so I didn't ask her out right away. 2. A couple weeks after we started hanging out, she randomly started talking about going on tinder dates all the time. She showed me some guy she went out with and said he was hot. then she told me that i should get on tinder so I thought I got friendzoned. 3. I saw her all the time at school and she would touch my shoulder and arm and whatnot and she was all like "you're so handsome." I went out with her and a couple of her friends a few times and she always talked about going on tinder dates. 4. a while later I asked her out for coffee. She was like "i can't do it today but save the date because my roommate is going on a tinder date and we have to go watch her and make sure she's ok. So I went to the restaurant and i didn't see her or her roommate. i texted her. she texted back 3 hours later and was like "sorry. change of plans." i never got an explanation about why she didn't show up 5. A month ago she said to me "we should go out sometime. Not this week because I'm busy, but sometime soon." A week later I asked her out to this new restaurant. I said "what day is good for you?" she was like "Probably Friday. I'll let you know." On Thursday I texted her "are we going there tomorrow?" she texted back "I'll let you know. I have to check my schedule." I didn't hear back from her and then I didn't see her for a week and she acted like nothing happened 6. We're from different states, so we're probably not going to see each other over the summer and a couple days ago she saw me in the library. She gave me a hug and almost started to cry and was like "I look forward to seeing you. I'm going to miss you." Then she invited me to go eat with her and her friend. I went and she started talking about a tinder date she was going to go on that night. so is she f-ing with me or something? should i GHOST her?

So I just graduated highschool and the entire time was miserable I always dated black guys and every time I got screwed and everyone around me said get you a white guy. So I fell for a pretty *** white boy , good family , beautiful face , nice car and good reputation but maybe more ****** up then any of the black guys i messed with wow what a world we live in

I'm a freshman and I like a guy that's practically perfect (too perfect if you ask me.) He sits next to me in English class, and we talk most of the time. He looks at me in a way that I've never seen a boy look at me before. But he has a girlfriend and I'm not athletically inclined. I'm trying to be realistic but every time he messes with me, he gives me false hope. I just want him to stop talking to me altogether. How can I forget about him?

There is this girl in one of my classes who I think is very pretty. She doesn't talk a lot but sometimes she does talk. I would like to go up and talk to her but I don't know what to say. And I don't know even if I should since she has a boyfriend. Since she is a senior she gets out early than me so I only have like 1 or 2 days with her in the same class. I do notice sometimes I look around the room and I see her looking in my directions I don't know if she is looking directly at me. I look back for a few secs and I get this weird feeling like butterflies in my stomach and look away. I don't talk much in the class and most people know me as the quiet kid.

iv'e been in love with this guy for years. we are not talking at the moment. we would have on and off contact. its pretty much all my fault. i'm still in love with him and i pray every day that he gets out of heart and it is not working. how?

Matched with this guy on tinder from my hometown. We went to high school together. We kind of knew each other and talked a few times in high school, but not too much Anyways we both matched each other on tinder and I sent him a little message basically saying hey do you remember me from high school? and he replied back about two hours later. We messaged for a bit, each time he took a long time to answer. Then I asked him if he wanted to get some coffee and catch up. He took a long time to reply to that as well. I asked him what day works for him. He took about 3 days to respond to that, but he asked if Im free this sunday evening. I said that should work for me. Our plans haven't been finalized yet, neither mentioned where we would be getting coffee or anything of that sort, but its been 2 days and he has yet to reply. Hes not especially good looking, to be quite honest I think I have the upper hand in terms of looks, and I know in high school my friends would always say he had a crush on me and that he would stare at me a lot and stuff but is his taking soooo long to respond each time a flat out sign that he's not interested? Even though he said yes essentially to hanging out? or is it me coming off desperate? I don't reply right away (mostly because I'm at work or my phone is dead, so I reply within a couple hours, maybe like 12 hours tops)

My name is Tiffany and Im 16. Im not a "girly girl" and never had a sex before. I love guys but I've had thoughts of being with another girl maybe kissing, touching, and tasting someone but I do not think I'd ever act on it. Anyways, I was at a party with my best friend who is 18 and way more experienced with only men as far as I know. But sonething strange happened. She asked that i go to the bathroom with her to pee. Then when she stood up to wipe she showed me her vagina and made it obvious by looking into my eyes. I think she is sexy but its just awkward between us. Am i overreacting or is this normal behavior? Once we were sitting in my room and she kind of sat behind me with her breast against my back. I could feel her erect nipples in my back.

this guy and i used to see each other. we weren't talking then we made up and he said sometimes we say things we don't mean. what did he mean by that?

I ve had a really bad few weeks and it s getting really hard to be happy. None of my friends have noticed it and my parents are being really hard for me. Yesterday, something really exciting was going to happen for me but of course it now can t happen. I m not sure what I can do.

I'm 35 and never had a girlfriend or a date in my life. I ask forgivness of all the pointless rants I give.sometimes lol. I figured it out since before was not able to put into words without creating a Stephen King novel out of it lol I'm older and still like girls 18-29. When I was in my 20s, women hated me, ignored me, or were interested and I had no courage to speak to them. Lol. At 35 I'm still into girls those ages. Here's the scoop. I'll never ever go up to a young lady and speak to her nowadays not because people may frown upon it. No. Its even though I still like girls like that, I missed the chance to be young with a lady. I want to be young with you and that is the impossible lol. A couple of high school crushes, I missed being young with them. We all old now lol. Besides, I don't think I'd be good company in a long run lol. When I see a girl, I push myself away. You'll don't have to worry about me lol. Just wish we couldve been young together and then reflect in our 30s how awesome it was and relive some moments lol. Later. You deserve a like aged spouse ladies.

Do you think some guy can't just pull a knife? I am not saying its right because its not its wrong for someone to hurt someone else. But what do you expect when you basically rob a guy of a life then he won't rob you of your life? I am not saying its right its obviously wrong but why would someone not get aggressive when society actively denies them a life? Its like if someone get bullied then pulls something its wrong but why did that happen? Why is it that a tiny minority of men get all sex relationships etc? I was talking to a woman I met a while ago she said something like she liked me but was with her boyfriend that was an ***. I am sure he great looking etc.

So there s this girl in my Chemistry class and she sat in front of me all year I never had the guts to talk to her now I lost my chance. Would it be weird if I follow her on instagram and em her?

So today me and my gf got home, parked the car in the garage and i had my skateboard there but in the skateboard my ex wrote her name and the a heart and then my name....so my gf saw and and the she started being mean to me and and i told her baby im sorry i know that was there which i really didnt until she pointed it out....and then i she said you would be acting like me if it was the other way around and told no i wouldn't why i trip over something so stupid and then we got into an argument and now were fighting, i want to kniw if shes over reacting or what?and what should i do? Please help

A girl I like, she works at an ice cream shop. I go in often whether she is there or not. The place isn't very busy. On multiple occasions, I've been able to talk with her for an hour or two. I think it's time to ask her to do something outside of her work. Any ideas to what I could tell her or ask her? Thanks

So, a good friend of mine is married to another one of my friends. The wife has an identical twin who I would be interested in dating but I m not sure how it would affect my friendships. I know there s probably only one way to find out, but if I ask, I feel it will add an awkward tone to the friendship. What would you do?

Me and a girl, we used to be good friends and makeout/cuddle & have deep convos and stuff. She really wanted to be with me but she also had a boyfriend and she was not planning on leaving him. But she led me on but she promised me that she was super honest with everything she told me. I believe her but now we don't talk anymore because of a disagreement we had about the situation. She still watches all of my Snapchat stories and sometimes I feel that she stares at me when I'm not looking in class. But I can't tell if she hates more or does she deep down still have love for me. I really wish things weren't like this.. she told me before that she loved me and that she would love to be my girlfriend . (But she has a bf she been with for like 10 months) idk if this would help but she's a Scorpio.. I'm a Pisces. Her bf is a Virgo

I'm in love. Please, help. I'm 17 and the girl I'm in love with is 17. She and I used to like eachother a long time from 7th grade to 9th. We're now in 11th and she's became quite popular by the upperclassmen. The guy she is talking to is a senior and doesn't graduate for another whole year. People keep telling me to give it time and that eventually they'll break up, but I need her before anything stupid happens between them and she possibly ends up pregnant. She's been quite an innocent girl until she met this guy, now she's different yet not as bad as it could get. She hasn't done anything and I want her before it does. I once tried explaining this 2 years ago and that's when her and stopped being friends because it caused problems. I know I can treat her better, I just don't know what to tell her. And I'm afraid I may say the wrong thing. I need advice on how to get her to fall back in love with me. We still flirt (physically and mentally) though she's madly in love with this senior and sees herself with him for ever. Please. I'm desperate for answers and need them fast. Thank you.

I really love small girls. So tight. So easy to pick up and have so much fun. Its like a fetish. Is this normal?

I need tips on how to tell weather or not she wants to do it. I know for a fact she is hormonal, but I don t know if she wants to. I know we may be young, but I want to try and I want to know weather or not she does to. If she does, how do I approach. Any tips would be appreciated.

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My husband and I would like to take a 4-5 day vaction. Can you give me suggestion for a vacation close to Kansas City. Where to go, what to do? Thanks!

Guy in my class dms me on fb if I want to hangout sometime. Should I answer it assuming he likes me and all?

I m only about to be 16 and it s this guy I work with who s like about 21_25 years old. When he first saw me he told me he liked me. I told him i was only 15 so he just talked to me as a friend but lately he s been flirting alot. A while ago he started calling me princess (All this takes place at work btw). He asked me if I could come over to his place and chill and I said I can t. Today when no one was around he said I have flower on my face and touched my face to wipe it off and I kinda pulled away he said I was "freaking beautiful". Then at the end of the day he followed me to the back and we were talking he then said how he noticed I don t wear belts and that my butt holds up my pants then he asked if I wore leggings and I said yea. He got quiet for a second so I looked at him and he was like "Oh sorry I was just imagining you in leggings and some other dirty things". I don t wanna get him in trouble so I won t say anything. Could that be bad?

So in one of my posts I asked for advice on which of the two girls I like I should pick. Well I decided B. Cuz A is kinda a b**** lol. Well now what? I'm scared to admit how I feel cuz I never actually held a conversation with her before. And everyday I just think I hope she admits she likes me (cuz my friend told me she liked me. And I hope she still does) even though I know that never going to happen. The school year is almost over and I want either her or me to admit that we like the other. But like I said, I'm nervous and I think she is too. So what do I do. Now I know what you giys are going to say. "Oh just be a man and admit it to her" Yeah I know but I'm not that kind of person. Idk I have low confidence. So can someone give me an answer other than that. I know that might be the only answer but still. I think about this literally every day and night. And different little scenarios that could happen that we confess to one another even though deep down I know that'll never happen. (lol Yeah I'm weird. I think differently.. and alot) But anyways yeah. What I do though? Hope she confeases to me? Just hope for next year? Hope someone else doesn't like her that actually knows how to do this stuff? Tell my friend that I like her and hope he tells her I like her? or??? Idk... I need help lol???