I married someone who is divorced with two kids. I'm fine with being a step parent but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have my own child. I like my step kids and care about them but don't love them and often wonder what it would be like to have that kind of bond with my own child. When I bring this up my spouse tells me "but you'll love my kids like your own" "my kids will bring you so much you won't need to have a child" is my spouse selfish?

I follow that to be a major problem in terms of his happiness. Becaue I dont look like those IG models I find him to be always upset at me. He is always on his phone while we eat, and even takes 45 minutes when he uses the restroom. So I found out that npt only does he follow woman on his personal account and has told me that he deleted all of these woman to prevent problems with me. So i found out he had made another page called amaturesexywifey where he has been posting photos of woman that he again follows. To the point that he is now taking pictures of random woman on the street and posting them. I have a lot of things going on at home w the children to still be dealing with his issue. He in the past has told me how ugly I am and maybe that is why it bothers me. He never spends time with the children. His life pretty mich is his cell phone. I feel like theres no trust and I must leave this misery. What should I do.

To a friend of theirs without telling you?

Did you had reached you had both reached your desired goals for your life together in things like housing, financial goals, children, etc? Or is there no goal and do you just keep working with no foreseeable end goal in sight?

The usage of "c*uck" and the movie "Adulterers" (in which a man kills his wife for having sex with another man) makes me wonder about that question: would a divorce be enough, or should the spouse punish the cheater with violence? I am just curious.

I once cheated on my wife with her best friend it has been about 7 or 8 years now and I'm still trying to get her back and also our child back would they ever come back or should I give up?

My wife and I have been married almost 17 years. She s 44 years old and I m 46. During the first five years of our marriage, we were very active and spontaneous. I d get an idea to take the raft to the lake and float around on it and she d enthusiastically go along with it. For the past several years, however, we ve slowed down considerably. We do regularly take 2-3 mile walks two or three times a week and our three children keep us busy. But on weekends, when we have time to do things, she turns down every suggestion I make to be more active. I end up taking one of my kids to play tennis or to the roller rink myself and she always wants to stay home. She has a thousand excuses why she doesn t want to be more active. Some are: 1) She s tired from housework or taking care of things for the kids 2) She s weak or sore from some body pain or another, or from her period 3) She can t breathe well because of poor air quality 4) Her allergies are plaguing her especially strongly that day 5) We don t have enough money to go anywhere 6) We should rest because the kids will get sick since they ve been too busy earlier that day 7) There are too many insects outside in the air 8) She doesn t like the type of people that frequent where I want to go ...And the excuses go on and on! We re only in our mid-forties but she acts like we re elderly! I know elderly folks who are more active than we are! Any suggestions?

do you think this insane? she says I pushed her at a concert. when a space opened up in front of her and I gently nudged her to step into it before the 7 foot giant behind her stepped into it.. lol divorce over this?

so I went to a concert with my wife. and we had pit passes so we were up front 3rd row of people all standing. the space in front of her opened up and she didn t want to step in it. but the 6 ft dude behind her did, so I say get in that space.. she said no (too stoned) I gently nudged her slowly into the space very slowly.. and nicely said just stay here that guy behind you is going to step in front of you - and you will have a terrible show.. now she s saying I shoved her and committed abuse.. LOL really??? I m telling you I was looking out for her I was worried her concert time would be ruined am I insane????

My husband and I are married for 7 years. He is a very nice person, loving, caring and supportive. He was there for me all through the time and we went through ups and downs of life together. Now the problem is he is not stable in his career. He changes his job every year and moves places a lot...like we moved to 7 states and 2 countries and 12 houses in this 7 years. Initially I thought it was fun travelling. But, now with a baby its hard. i feel I have to settle down somewhere. I have spoken about this to him many a times but he seems to hear all that and after few months make silly reasons, like office politics or something and change job. Now he got a new job again and doesn't want me to join him but wants me to be with my mother, which is weird. I don't understand. He points out financial reasons for that. Pls suggest what can I do. I love him, I want to work it out before making a big decision. And talking to him..have done lot of times. Sorry for the long post. Thanks.

I'm seeing a woman for 5 months now and her grown yes grown children doesn't know about me! my woman refuses to tell them because they'll flip out, They want their mother to never date again due to her husband and their father died 7 years ago, When she tried to tell her son who is 34 shut her down before she could talk stating if you date that man will never step foot in my house or do I want to know him same for her 28 year old daughter, are you ******* kidding me grow up for god sakes, what gets me is the woman wont stand her ground and say I'm sorry you feel this was but I'm not breaking up with him my question is it has been five months and no change at all should I wait though this or run. I myself would have told my children to grow up my whole family loves her and I never been invited to her house and yes her husband is dead! we went on vacation together for 4 days she lied to her children about who was with her, she told them her BFF all the pictures we took at dinner, at the beach, clubbing, has to be hidden, it kills me I have plenty of friends on FB who are asking me why I didn't post them I hate being in the closet so to speak I'm better than that, my question is below this Edit! I left her once over this, And she came into my apartment drunk late at night begging that I take her back and promised me she would tell them about me, We'll it never happened a month later. I really know the answer but I'm in love with her so why ask then right? if I know the answer!!!

My mother in law has pictures of them together, also writes nice comments to her pictures on Facebook ( and has not add me as friend since I asked 6 months ago) Also they accommodated her for 4 days last month in their house... And I receive a lot of rudeness from them constantly. How can I deal with this sh*t?

I have recently divorced, and as a result the court has ordered me to pay for counseling for my 15 year old. I am not sure if it counts as a dependent care expense since he is over 13, so I decided to ask on here. Thanks.

You spent most of your young adulthood married to someone and you just and your third chid with them (who is one) and they came out as gay and left you? Would you be mad or understanding?

My ex husband isn't the best father to our son that we have together. My ex husband also has some legal and psychological issues that prevent him from being the best dad. I feel sorry for my ex husband and care about him. My husband doesnt like to her this and thinks theres no excuse for him to be a crappy parent. He also thinks its pathetic that he choose tp have a child he cant properly father. I dont like to hear this and I will stick up for my ex. Is this wrong of me?

I have seen couples married for nearly 20 years with kids around 10-15 where one spouse decides to get a divorce and leave. I know in at least one case the victim spouse had done nothing wrong.He was a great guy, no cheating, drinking or abuse and provided very well financially. What would make someone break up a family like that? Isn't it irresponsible to accept the responsibility for a family and then abandon the children and spouse for personal reasons?

I been with my wife for the past 4 years. We have 3 kids together. For the past 2 years she s been very off her game as a wife to me. I had my patience and I stuck by her for everything she s been feeling and supporting her. She s a stay home mom so I can t imagine how it is to stay home with the kids. But I don t think it s selfish for me to ask for some sort of attention as well. I cook clean and tend the kids when I home. I m a good husband I would like yo say very aragontly. So after a long time of dealing with the same thing and same loneliness and feeling unwanted I did lose myself one night and I cheater on her. It wasn t my intention when I went out that day it just happened. That came to light and aside from me lying about it initially several times I ended up confessing to it and telling her. I told her how I felt and why I did it and all but obviously that s not enough. Please help. I do love her and I don t want to lose or break my family. I am genuinely a good guy. What should I do? I betrayed her as a woman and my wife and destroyed her trust in me. Please help.

I met a man, who recently broke up with his wife after like 7yrs. They have a daughter the same age. He has her full time, while the wife is living in a motel, doing drugs with her boyfriend. He two other kids, from a previous marriage are also living with him. She ran up credit card bills and he's worried he may lose his house.. Is that possible? If he divorced her, would she get half the house and alimony and stuff?