Family: Question: Was this abuse?

Question: Was this abuse?

Posted: 18 May 2017 01:43 PM PDT

When I was six years old, I was really scared of raccoons, and thought that they'd get into our car at night if we didn't shut the doors fast enough. So one night, my dad made me sleep in the trunk of his hatchback for a whole night so I could get over my fear. I remember I was okay for a while, but around 3 AM, I woke up to a scratching noise coming from outside the car. I looked out the window, and my dad jumped out at me wearing a raccoon mask. I was catatonic after that for like a week. Do you think he went too far?

Question: Is it incest to make out with your orphan brother or orphan sister?

Posted: 18 May 2017 01:36 PM PDT

If you go to an orphanage and you have a new brother and sister is it incest to kiss them on their lips?

Question: How to get my dad to start doing what is expected from him?

Posted: 18 May 2017 01:34 PM PDT

My mom complains a lot about my dad not doing little things she expects from him. My dad and his phone is inseparable. He is constantly on his phone, more than me and I'm 17. My mom would ask my dad to take out the trash and then the next morning he does it right before we have to leave to go to school then we're running late. When my dad tries something in the kitchen like making a spice then he doesn't clean up. Sometimes he does something half and leaves it there and my mom constantly reminds him to put it away or throw it away because she refuses to clean up after him, because he isn't a child anymore. We can't ask him to do anything as it doesn't get done, like handing me something I can't reach or to go fetch some extra chairs. It irritates me by how much I have to hear how my dad doesn't do anything. What is wrong with him?? He hasn't always been this way.

Question: Should I go to this party a week after giving birth?

Posted: 18 May 2017 01:14 PM PDT

I gave birth last Sunday (Mother's Day!) and this Saturday night is my mother-in-law's 50th. My son was 2 weeks early so I originally thought I'd just be heavily pregnant at the party and agreed to doing a speech... I know my MIL would understand if I didn't go but I still really want to! We are really close and I know this day means a lot to her. If I do go, my only option really is to bring the baby. I'll get a babysitter for my 3y/o but there's no way I'd leave my 1 week old... A 1 week old baby at a party though? Is that like socially acceptable? If I do go, I'm worried about what to wear. It's quite a formal event but I'd probably have to wear the baby, my outfit would need to be nursing friendly and I'm still having a bit of post-partum bleeding and pain so I can't wear anything tight. That pretty much leaves me with the option of a skirt and top (which you won't even be able to see because of baby)... Which will make me look underdressed. My husband is going in a shirt, tie and dress pants! 😬 so my questions are; do I even go to the party? Or do I just stay home and get someone to say my speech on my behalf? And if I do go, what do I wear!?!

Question: Would I exist if my parents had never met...?

Posted: 18 May 2017 01:11 PM PDT

Would I be born to a different mother or father?

Question: My mom said shed take all my clothes, phone, items, and shoes just because I want to live with my dad? Shes had full custody for 15 years.?

Posted: 18 May 2017 12:43 PM PDT

I finally told my mom my feelings about how i felt while living with her. I've been wanting to live with my dad for years now, and she has always said no. In Florida, the age to choose which parent to live with is 12, and I'm 15. There have been instances where she even uses my dad as a punishment. Like if i didn't have my room clean by a certain time i couldn't go to his house, etc. She has also almost kicked me out to go live with him, because our arguments got so bad. I don't know what to do, she threatened to take my phone, even though i pay for it all, the service and everything. she even told me that nothing from her house can go to my dads, including clothes, shoes, computer, etc. I don't want to hurt her but I'm tired of her manipulation.

Question: My step sister kissed me on the cheek?

Posted: 18 May 2017 11:41 AM PDT

My step sister kissed me on the cheek(playfully/jokingly) She also hugs me often. I like her... Does she like me ? (We're 14) Nice troll. Already moving my question. Sad...

Question: Does my dad hate me?

Posted: 18 May 2017 11:38 AM PDT

he has never been there for me and my mom raised me by her self. he doesn't know my birthday or how old I am. he only says something mean to me or ignores me and it kinda feels like he's just a man that likes my mom and is trying to get rid of her kids and he doesn't respect any of my hobbies (aquariums, painting, guitar and basketball). He keeps telling me to get rid of my aquariums (but I can keep them in my room thanks to my mom). I'm not allowed to paint in the house ''cause it smells bad'' even when I uses watercolours (but me and my friends do graffiti together and my dad doesn't know about that). my guitar is too loud and I'm not allowed to own a basked ball or play near the house (but my friend has a ball that we can play with).

Question: Why are some teenagers so bratty, ungrateful, selfish, hormonal, judgmental, impulsive, irresponsible, mean and just stupid?

Posted: 18 May 2017 11:31 AM PDT

Question: My brother is making life-changing decisions on the spur of the moment. What, if anything, can I do?

Posted: 18 May 2017 11:25 AM PDT

I want to say this started in October 2015 when our mother died suddenly. At the time my brother (I'm calling him John) was in college, about to finish his senior year before doing his student teaching. He took Mom's death harder than the rest of us. He's the youngest, and would get mad if anyone thought it, but he really was a Mamma's boy. She was his favorite parent, and I'm sure she was her favorite child. I know she let him get away with a lot of stuff none of us other kids would have. The January after her death he started student teaching. Then on Spring Break he announced that after college he was enlisting in the Navy. He had been committed, signed papers, taken an oath, been given a job before anyone of us knew it was happening. The following June, my sister got married. There he met the groom's sister for the first time. Before the honeymoon was over they were a full fledged couple. Then in August he started basic training. I thought that would put an end to the relationship, but the two continued a LDR through his A-School and permanent station. He has just announced they are getting married as soon as he gets back from serving aboard ship for 9 months next February. I know they have been dating for over a year, but almost all of that time has been long distance. I'm a minister and he wants me to officiate and I don't know that I can. It doesn't seem he is entering into marriage with the thought necessary. I've asked where will they live? Will he have housing for her on base? Will he move off base? Will she be able to join him or continue living at home. He doesn't know. He just says we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

Question: I'm a 12 year old girl and I caught my 16 year old brother masturbating and he got angry and hit me, should i tell mom and dad to punish him?

Posted: 18 May 2017 11:19 AM PDT

Question: I kiss my friend Emily sometimes against her wishes. Sometimes I say no homo and sometimes I forget! Does that make me gay? Pls respond.?

Posted: 18 May 2017 10:57 AM PDT

Question: Is it alright for me to not care about High School anymore?

Posted: 18 May 2017 10:54 AM PDT

So I'm a Jr in high school, and for awhile now, I haven't been really putting any of my effort into school, because I wish to attend a community college and see what happens from there. My GPA is a 2.3. and all I want is to just graduate. whether it be all D´s or all A's, I don't care. My ultimate goal in life is to just have a job, a decent car, live with my girlfriend, (possibly one more person) in a not too pricey place, smoke weed, and just go to music fests. I know this sounds immature, but I just wanna live life like a hippie. Getting a job isn´t a problem for me, and I already have a place to stay after high school ends. I've told my parents all this and obviously, they're not too happy about it, But I believe that life is all about doing what makes you happy, and if you aren't experiencing any of that happiness, what's the point in living it? and I know that if I pursue that lifestyle, I'll be happy for the rest of my life. Should I let what they say get to me? Are they right? Because I've kind of been letting them get to my head :(

Question: I am a furry but my family doesn't accept me but they accept my gai sister and brother when the get married?

Posted: 18 May 2017 10:30 AM PDT

Question: I don't see anything wrong with me holding a butterknife to my brother since I wasn't intending to really hurt him. What's the issue?

Posted: 18 May 2017 10:28 AM PDT

Question: How to break a promise?

Posted: 18 May 2017 09:40 AM PDT

I made a promise with my mom that id wait to join the military and go to college first(Im 17 and wanting to join the DEP) she gets really mad and brings up the promise everytime we talk about it. But recently she said she wouldnt hold me to the promise if i decided to join the navy rather than the marines. I want to attend JC classes senior year but she said that doesnt count as college. Keep in mind I made the promise not her yet shes acting like she can bend the promise every which way she wants. How should I approach her informing her I no longer want to keep the promise without looking like a crooked asshole? Please only real answers

Question: Would this be dumb?

Posted: 18 May 2017 09:21 AM PDT

i am handing out graduation invites. My bestfriend died and I had told her I would invite her before she had passed, she was my Bestfriend.. I am sending her sister an invite as we've gotten very close. would it be dumb if I put her (my Bestfriend who passed) invitation in the envelope with hers and sent it, asking if she could place it on her grave site ? In

Question: My mom and dad never believe me?

Posted: 18 May 2017 08:04 AM PDT

So yesterday I caught my little sister having sex, shes 13 btw. So when my parents got back from the party, the boy left and I got ready to tell my parents. Oh, shes also just turned 13 maybe like a month ago. I told them, they laughed it off as a joke. I kept telling them that I was being serious and that the boy should not be allowed over anymore. I know my sister is growing up but she was literally twelve 1 month ago, I did it at 13 and I regret it so bad. My parents don't believe me, and they have really never believed me. How do I get them to believe that what I am telling them is not a joke?

Question: Am I getting taken advantage of? What should I do about it?

Posted: 18 May 2017 07:00 AM PDT

My fiancee mom babysits, everyday she wants me to come to her place and help her with the baby and to clean her house. I don't mind helping sometimes but it's everyday. And if I don't help she threatens to stay away from her and lose her number..etc. I do the best that I can. but when I need help She say it's not her problem. I'm grown she don't have to do ****. I feel like getting used. How should I approach this manner. I'm sick of being used.

Question: What should i do?

Posted: 18 May 2017 06:57 AM PDT

There's this brat/prick who's giving my uncle a stressful time everytime he comes. For example he's constantly being rude, doesn't leave the house even though he finished and his mom is waiting outside claiming he's going to do his homework at my house (we live together) and doesn't even do it seriously, like something you can do at your own home, my uncle doesn't have a lot of free time until the next student come. Second he constantly messes up my bathroom by filling the trash bin with unused toilet paper practically wasting them and sometimes even clogging the toilet! My uncle always feels stressed each time he finsh with him and i feel so bad, what can i do? Even if he fires him it'll likely take a few more weeks which means few more weeks of toilet paper being wasted furnitures being wrecked and i have to repair and his mom doesn't even believe his bratty son is bad, typical "Oh! My son would never do such a thing!" Man... What can i do? Well do you guys think i should stop putting toilet paper there for a while? I mean my uncles worried about the other innocent kids but if i just leave it then my bathrooms gonna be a wreck... I'm trying my best to cheer him up but still about the bathroom part should i stop putting it there? Even though other kids might be annoyed. The others are great just that one brat

Question: I want to move out at 13. Please help. My mother blames me on things she has done or other people plus other things.Where can I go or do?

Posted: 18 May 2017 06:22 AM PDT

Question: Where does teen these day hides their weed? I want to know if my son have any?

Posted: 18 May 2017 06:13 AM PDT

I have ran out of my stuff and am pretty sure my son won't let me borrow his stash so I want to search it and steal.

Question: How to not be so anxious about telling our parents we are expecting?

Posted: 18 May 2017 05:38 AM PDT

We are both 22, but i grew up with strict parents and his younger brother just had a baby. I'm just so nervous about telling them. Any thoughts on how to calm down a little bit Thanks!

Question: HELP! I DON'T WANT TO THINK ABOUT MY FUTURE OR HIGH SCHOOL?

Posted: 18 May 2017 04:53 AM PDT

The end of eighth grade is approaching in less than a week, but alas, my teacher supposed it was a fitting time for her to discuss high school with the class today. It wasn't. Although most of my peers regard me as "the smartest student in school," a title that I'm quite hesitant at embracing, I constantly doubt myself and have an inclination to avoid being prudent about my "goals in life" and what not. The future, to me, is daunting and I frequently find myself vacillating between enjoying my teenhood( playing video games, watching tv, or listening to music at home) and planning ahead( preparing for high school/college, studying harder, and other school-related courses of action.) Every time my teacher emphasized that high school is a "major transition," I became more agitated. The days where my most frustrating problems were coloring inside the bolded lines and remembering the five times table are long gone. Sooner or later, I'll have to worry about my credits, take the sat and act, apply for scholarships, and then, learn to live without my parents' constant doting, rent/buy my own abode, find a job, and pay bills. The future is a disheartening truth that I have yet to find the courage to face head-on. Sometimes, I feel the urge to shelter myself from the endless responsibilities that I've been inundated with, like missiles bombarding me all at once. But perhaps everyone, young and old, desires "time-off from reality" to rejuvenate once in a while. How do I become more prudent about my life and not shy away from the future?

Question: Should I be a stiff mother?

Posted: 18 May 2017 04:23 AM PDT

I am a widowed mother and everyone says that I have to be a rigid mother, the one who stays on top, who almost does not let her daughter leave, I always tell my daughter the intentions of the people, I already talked to her when she had 13 years old when she's menstruating, when she finishes the task she can leave, I just do not let her sleep outside and go to bed alone because she's only 16, but people say I'm an incompetent mother because I'm a liberal mother. I have to be strict even if she hates me. She says she'll hurt me, sleep in a friend's house. As long as I know her parents sleep late, I'll leave on weekends, she does not have a boyfriend, but if she had to sleep with him, not her right, if she To have sex with him I'll leave it at home if she's underage because it's better at home than on the street.

Question: What if on Christmas my family casts me out due to some misunderstanding?

Posted: 18 May 2017 04:15 AM PDT

And I am alone and rejected forever

Question: Scientifically speaking, is it possible to accelerate human growth from childhood to adolescence in a matter of days?

Posted: 18 May 2017 04:13 AM PDT

I have 5 annoying nephews and nieces. They are aged 4 to 6 yrs old and they are extremely annoying. They are always noisy and exuberantly playful all the time. If only I could turn them into adults in a matter of days or even hours. Is it possible??

Question: Should a child know his father?

Posted: 18 May 2017 03:35 AM PDT

Let's say you were pregnant but hated your ex and chose not to tell him about your pregnancy.. Would it have an impact on the child's life? Would the kid later hated you if he/she found out the truth? It's impossible to find out the truth anyway unless the mother reveals the name herself

Question: Why does this bother me?

Posted: 18 May 2017 12:24 AM PDT

I have a middle name passed down from my grandma to my mom to me. I m actually the 7th generation. I m only 29 and taking my time on children. My grandmother died at 55. She was a respiratory therapist and always lived next to our house or bunked with me. Anyway I was 17 when she passed from ovarian cancer. She was like my 2nd mom. She sent me this card in the mail with meaning of my name. I received it after her funeral. Anyway my uncle married this new woman who never knew my grandmother and named her child my family name. My grandmother would repeat to me over and over it was for the first daughter of each daughter. So that is how it works. She told her son my uncle that i received this name and then my first daughter and so on. His wife became angry with me because I tried to explain what the name was for and why. My mother is okay with it but still wants our family passed down. With him knowing the background and how close I was to his mom and my grandma why would he do that? Now my aunt wants to name her grandchild after my grandmother. I m forced to decide if I want to add to this insanity. But I also feel like if I don t they win.

Question: When should I tell my father that I'm pregnant? (Bad relationship)?

Posted: 17 May 2017 11:01 PM PDT

I just found out that I am pregnant! Really happy but this is on my mind big time: My dad lives across the country and we're on fair terms now, but he was a horrible father and we didn't talk for many years. He is really self centered and I am dreading him only seeing my child as HIS grandchild. Our relationship now is only weekly or biweekly phone calls and that is all I want. This sounds messed up, but trust me that he was really a deadbeat to me: How far along should I tell him so that he doesnt feel like he's really "in the loop," but not so far along that it's a huge slap in the face? I don't want him to delude himself into a new role of grandfather of the year... I want him to understand out of the gate that he won't be involved like a typical grandparent who has a good relationship with their child. (Also he's been talking about moving in the near future and has considered my state, but is now zooming in on Florida, so I'm crossing my fingers that I can hold back this news until he moves somewhere else.)

Question: Should I feel guilty?

Posted: 17 May 2017 10:54 PM PDT

I'm going to make this as short as possible. My parents see me as a typical 15 year old high honor roll student who has accomplished more then thought possible due to past medical illnesses. My dad constantly tells me how proud he is of me and he cries talking about it. I was raised in a house with good morals and two parents who never touched a cigarette. Now.. here's the twist. Aside from my "studying" I hang out with my friends who are smokers and I caught on to their habits. My 18 year old boyfriend bought me an e-cig and if my parents found out it would break their hearts. How should I feel?

Question: Why cause a person not to remember something?

Posted: 17 May 2017 10:21 PM PDT

My dad collapsed from high blood pressure, that's what the doctor said. They might be wrong because I don't trust those doctors as they did the same to me when I was they said when I was sick. He is in the hospital right now in Africa, and my mother, siblings and I are in the US, but the unexpected part is that he does not seem to remember things. Whenever we ask him something, he needs to ask someone next to him. I am so stressed that something might happen to him. Please someone helps! He is everything I have in this life. Even though we are not next to each other, he has always been supporting of me. I don't get along with my family or other people, but he has always loved me the way I am. I really wish I can do something for him.

Question: Why is a past family member death affecting me now?

Posted: 17 May 2017 10:21 PM PDT

I lost my mother when I was 6 and I'm now 16. I don't remember a lot about her just small little things. When people asked me about her I would tell them no problem but in the past few years I've noticed it's harder for me to talk about her. I'd instantly feel like crying. I also worry about losing my dad or friends all the time along with not giving them my full trust. They haven't done anything wrong but I just haven't given anyone my full trust.

Question: My dad's family don't believe me and my mother.?

Posted: 17 May 2017 09:59 PM PDT

My father has been abusive to my mother for 22 years and since I was born, I would always see all of the fights. Ever since my father's side of the family found out that we left the house, they deleted me and my mother on Facebook. They think that my father is the victim, but that's false. The real victim is my mother. It pisses me off that he's acting like my mother did something wrong. I remember when he spit on her face and called her names. He even told me that he was going to kill my dog. Do you think he should be ashamed of himself? I can't believe his family is acting this way. I hate them now. I knew they were hypocrites. I have so much evidence that I can send them.

Question: What's the difference between discipline and abuse?

Posted: 17 May 2017 09:54 PM PDT

Heyyy, I'm 15 and I've have been having issues with my mom. Anything I say she twists it somehow and I typically get in trouble for it. When I do something wrong she blows it way out of proportion. For nearly 2 years my mom has resulted to hitting as a form of discipline, instead of disciplining me it makes me fearful. Tonight she was measuring something and she asked me to write measurements down. When we were done she began screaming due to my sloppy writing she couldn't read (it wasn't even bad). I told her that she was over reacting and that I would redo the notes. She then tried to hit me which I deflected out of fear. She continued to yell in my face as she continued to hit me. A little later she ran into the living room where I was sitting and began yelling again about something that had happened awhile ago, I raised my tone a bit defending myself which resulted with a smack, keep in mind this happens often. (I have always tried to be respectful to my mom, but when she is coming at me and I feel threaten I typically can not help when I try to defend myself). What makes me feel worst is that she is so nice to me in public and around my friends, and she often makes sly remarks how I should be more like my friends and what not. She hits me nearly everyday and there not hard smacks but I feel like she is trying to find the smallest things to take her anger out. I suppose my question(s) here are what should I do about my mom and is this normal behavior for discipline?

Question: Would this be silly ?

Posted: 17 May 2017 09:30 PM PDT

i am handing out graduation invites. My friend died and I had told her I would invite her before she had passed, she was my Bestfriend.. would it be dumb if I put her invitation in an envelope and set it on her grave site? Or gave it to her sister (my other Bestfriend)?

Question: Theres a certain mother and daughter I want to sleep with- how do I get the father out of the way?

Posted: 17 May 2017 08:48 PM PDT

Question: Men in their 50's going through a midlife crisis, acting young, and dressing young when does it dawn on you your not 20 and can accept 50's?

Posted: 17 May 2017 08:22 PM PDT

Question: Am i going to be placed in foster care?

Posted: 17 May 2017 08:07 PM PDT

Im 15. Soon to be 16. I was raped 5 years ago by my stepbrother. My parents know. I just now recently told my dad to bring it to the police. I want it to be known. Because its been 5 years, what will happen? And because my moms known about it yet still bring my stepbrother around, will anything happen to my mom? Also, if my mom lies about the situation, which is likely, will she be sent to jail? My dad lives in another state. Would i be sent to him? Or would i be placed in foster care?

Question: How do I handle family who always sets aside how I feel and think?

Posted: 17 May 2017 08:07 PM PDT

They say mean things about me, always compliment ng "beautiful" cousins in front of me. I know that we are responsible for how we feel and think but ever since I was born (as early as 5 I remember) that there seems to be a hierarchy among us cousins and siblings. For instance, my uncle who happened to be working abroad would go home to the country and shower my cousins and siblings gifts while I got nothing. Or my other uncle who gave money during christmas but when it's my turn, he would simply say that there is none left for me. My mind can't seemingly rationalize with the feelings I grew up with since I can remember... My aunts and uncles have never said anything as touching or as good as what they have been saying to my cousins (compliments). Please help me, I need help.

Question: How do I tell my parents this?

Posted: 17 May 2017 07:55 PM PDT

So I am 20 turning 21 soon. I just took a full-time job as an assistant manager in the front end of the grocery store Ive been working at for a couple years now. I took this job for a number reasons, the most important reason being I love the people I work with, I love what the company stands for, its a decent paying job with health care and many other benefits. The last one being I decided to take a break from school because I was doing so poorly ( 1.8 gpa). My parents seem to think that if they apply me to a four year school I will get in. (I know I wont get in because I failed more classes than passed honestly). It was my money that was mostly wasted at the community college, so I don't know why they think I am going to do any better at a four year school and have it costs 20 to 30x more. Not that its their decision anymore but my parents are very one-track minded and Ive tried talking to them about this a few months ago and they just said no your going to college. But I made my own decision now because Im 20 not 10. The problem is my parents seem to think they still have full control over my life.

Question: My dad hasn t talked to me in 4 days what should I do?

Posted: 17 May 2017 07:39 PM PDT

My dad got mad at me and my mom when we went to Reno on Sunday for Mother s Day.So my mom had asked my sister to take something off of her Facebook but my sister said she can t and couldn t see it but I know she could delete it she s in her 20 s by the way (my sister) and so I defended my mom by saying she could.Then my dad yells at us saying my mom always ruins the trips in public!!!And another thing happened the following day so first my mom had left my little brothers jacket at a restaurant and I told my dad we were going to get it,then he texts me but I didn t know and when we see him he says he texted me and so I checked he was right and so he got mad and said to not be rude he s my dad later after a couple hours when we went to a store my sister asked me a question but I couldn t hear her and he got mad at me for not responding and told me to stop being rude and stop having attitude.So now he hasn t talked to me ever since what should I do?

Question: Why do my parents favor my younger brother?

Posted: 17 May 2017 07:38 PM PDT

I bought a psp, dsi, Wii, PS3, and games throughout my life with savings and working and also purchased a laptop for 700 with core i5 for 700 and life time insurance for 300, total of 1k for college with my left over scholarship money which was earned by my hard work in high school and applying for $. Anyway, my brother who is a sophomore in HS is going to Disney payed by my parents and he put my sh*t up for sale. My games and consoles. He says I spend too much on my own things and he deserves the money and will spend it all on his trip. We aren't rich or anything but he was offered to go (but he must pay for his expenses) and accepted. My parents are letting him sell my things and they said it's because THEY need the money for their expenses because they have too many things to pay for. I told them they should just drop that super expensive trip and save 3k and leave my stuff alone. But they are taking my items and selling them for him. Wtf? What can I do? I am 20 and in college and I'm working and everything. I stay with my parents because I need to and I'm sure I won't be able to support myself alone. Why is it fair for them to sell my sh*t? I payed for it so why?

Question: Theres a certain mother and daughter I want to sleep with- how do I get the father out of the way?

Posted: 17 May 2017 07:28 PM PDT

Question: My sister caught me watching embarrassing videos?

Posted: 17 May 2017 07:22 PM PDT

I'm a guy and I live with my parents and my older sister. Our TVs have that stupid f*cking sh*t where you can hook up your phone to stream a video onto the tv. I was watching porn (like a typical teenage guy) and apparently it streamed to my sisters tv and she saw it. She threatened to tell our parents the next time I do something she doesn't like. I don't care if she tells them. I'm just embarrassed that she saw. Should I be embarrassed?

Question: I didn't call my Mom for mother's day because she is bad but now I feel guilty. Should I call her Sunday and say I thought it was this week?

Posted: 17 May 2017 07:16 PM PDT

Or how can I stop feeling guilty? Do I pretend I was away? Please advise. She is really bad but still there is a maternal bond. I am 38 so an adult and seldom see her because of how bad she is.

Question: What can i do to help my brother?! he is a horrible alcoholic and i think something bad is about to happen. healthwise, and also driving.?

Posted: 17 May 2017 07:10 PM PDT

my brother is 45 and has been an alcoholic for about 20-25 years. he lives with my mom who is disabled. they are crutches to each other. he sometimes cleans and cooks, he keeps her company, walks to the gas station for her, etc. he has 2 kids that live with their mom. he is skin and bones, constantly drunk. a very depressing drunk. stuttering extremely slowly.. staring off, not making sense. it looks like a little gust of wind could knock him over. hes gone to treatment and alwalys comes home for one reason or another. my mom has brain damage from a hemmorage and you cant always believe what she says. my priority concern right now is that he HAS A CAR. he "has insurance", but again, i dont really know. can i call someone? can i keep his keys? i doubt i can, but hes a ticking time bomb and i need to SOMEHOW get his access to a car taken away. he has kids he drives around. drunk? idk, but i wouldn't put it past him. HELP ME. if he dies, my family will crumble in more ways than i can explain.

Question: Is it wrong for a father to say he'll hit his grown daughter?

Posted: 17 May 2017 07:07 PM PDT

I am a college aged young woman with autism, and got into an argument with my father. I won't go into the details, but he threatened to hit me, so I quit speaking. Is it an assault for a father to strike a daughter my age just because I'm "below his level"? I can't imagine he'd get away with hitting (or even threatening to hit) any other woman "below his level." In other words, he'd NEVER ever think about saying he'll hit a female intern/entry level employee/etc so why should his own daughter be any different?

Question: My mother likes to beat me until I black out and nearly die. I called CPS and now I'm in a foster home. Am I safe from her or can she get me?

Posted: 17 May 2017 06:55 PM PDT

I am scared I am going to be sent back to her. I am 14 and have not seen her since December. I have no family. The foster home is like what people call a boarding school. At least I am safe though. I was in one home but molested so now in another one. The one I am in now is safe and good. I keep getting scared I will be sent back to my mother. She would bite me on the cheek, put cigarettes out in my eyes (once), force me to sleep outside in the cold. put my hand on the stove and burned it all up, and lastly she beat me and I nearly died. I called CPS when I learned what it was and was taken out of the home and she is in jail. If she gets out of jail though could she have me back to abuse and torture? I never want to see her again and I wish they could keep her in jail forever. The first foster home I was molested by an older resident so I was taken out and he was arrested. The parents lost their foster care license. Now I am in a better one. I am 14 and scared I might have to see my mother again one day. I had a sister and brother but don't know what happened to them. They were taken out to. My social worker asked if I want to see them but I am afraid it will mean they will tell my mother they saw me so I don't want to. They are in another foster home. So am I safe from my mother forever or could she get me back? I am especially scared because I am the one who called CPS when I saw an ad on the street. I worry she might want to get me back especially to torture me

Question: Will my sister be mad at me if i threw my nephew out the window?

Posted: 17 May 2017 06:28 PM PDT

hes so annoying. and he broke my keyboard last time. i wanna throw him out the windows. would my sister be mad if i did?

Question: My Dad's 2nd cousin who I only met once just died. Should I feel obliged to attend the funeral when I knew the man very little?

Posted: 17 May 2017 06:13 PM PDT

Since the man is related to us I am wondering if I should feel obliged. I had emailed him on Facebook to learn how we were related back in 2008 and then met him at my grandfather's funeral in 2012. I saw this morning on his Facebook page that he'd died Sunday of cancer. My Dad and his brothers are not going but my aunt is and a cousin of mine (her son as they knew the man a little more). Should I feel obliged to go? My aunt asked me if I wanted to and I said I might and would get back in touch. Funeral is not until Saturday after next (the 27th). By only met once I mean my Dad's 2nd cousin, not my Dad as I know my Dad well obviously. And I am aged 31 and living on my own so can drive to funeral if it is something I should feel obliged to attend. Also will the deceased man's family think it is weird I am there when I knew him little. I know his 1st cousins well (another set of my Dad's 2nd cousins) but the deceased, his kids, and his 2 surviving siblings I do not know other then meeting two of them once.

Question: What's up, guys ?

Posted: 17 May 2017 05:43 PM PDT

Question: My mom broke my phone on purpose?

Posted: 17 May 2017 05:35 PM PDT

I was using her shoes (she gave me permission) for a project and I had to wear them for my presentation. On the side of her shoes on the inside, some of the fabric peeled and she gets mad and says "These shoes were so ******* expensive and you ruined them" and then takes the hell and smashes my phone with it. And it's not just cracked, it's completely broken. She didn't pay for the phone, my dad did before he had to go away and that as his gift to me to say sorry.. My life's been so ****** up and my mom's basically crazy. So much more is happening then just that and I want to talk to someone about it because I just can't keep living with her, It's a nightmare. when I said "the hell" I meant to say "the heel"

Question: Is my friend being oppressed?

Posted: 17 May 2017 05:29 PM PDT

Note: I AM NOT AMERICAN NOR DO I LIVE IN AMERICA. Okay, My best friend is a really good person and really good in studies. He has 2 older sisters who are also very sweet ,kind and beautiful. But, whenever I see him talk to his sisters, he hangs his head low and obeys whatever they tell him to do without asking a question. If I ask him if he wants to hangout after school or hangout on weekend, his reply is "Wait, lemme ask my sisters first". I've asked him a couple of times why doesn't he ask his parents for anything, he says "They'll just simply say yes" and I have asked him alot if his sisters are being mean or doing bad things to him, which seems unlikely due to their personality. He gets mad and yells at me to not to include his sisters. He says that one must respect their elders so his sisters are his elders so he obeys them without a question. Its not that they ask him to do bad stuff or anything. Do what do you think is he really being respectful towards his sisters or he is being oppressed somehow ? What should I do to help him ?

Question: I am so-so-so sad that I have a sister who I dislike. But she is absolutely horrible. How do I convince my brain to like my sister?

Posted: 17 May 2017 05:17 PM PDT

Right now I would not shed one tear if my sister fell off the face of the earth. She is the worst person I have ever known. However, she is my sister. I feel terrible disliking her. I don't hate her, I just dislike her and see absolutely no redeeming qualities in her. My mother made her this way by enabling her (My Mom was the Queen of enabling). I have a brother my Mom enabled to become a drug addict and thief but that brother has since gotten his life together and is fine now. Also, that brother is Bipolar so it was more understandable. My sister on the other hand has no excuse. She is just an evil and despicable person with no soul.

Question: My dad's ex-wife keeps friend requesting me on Facebook., What's up with that?

Posted: 17 May 2017 05:16 PM PDT

My mom died in October 2015. Ever since then my dad's first wife has been sending me Facebook friend requests about every six months. I just got another today. I know who she is because my oldest sister is my half-sister with my dad and this lady. But we have never had a conversation. I think the most she ever said to me was "What a handsome young man!" when I was a groomsman at her daughter's (my half-sister's) wedding. Can anyone give me insight into what she's doing. Apparently none of my other brothers and sisters are friends with her on Facebook (except my oldest sister who is of course her daughter.)

Question: Dad, Mom, and sis are all active alcoholics. How do I explain this to my son when he sees them all drunk and beligarant and we leave early?

Posted: 17 May 2017 05:12 PM PDT

They are your classic alcoholic family. They are drunk everytime we see them. But it is my son's grandparents so I want him to know them. We do leave early if they are beligarant. My son is 10 and recently became upset when his grandfather called him a retard. We only visit three or four times a year despite living only 30 minutes away. So how do I explain this? My son's mother is not in the picture and so he has no grandparents on her side as he doesn't know them and the maternal grandfather was a pedophile so I obviously don't want him to ever know that person.

Question: My boyfriend is staring at my boobs should I pull my bra up or leave my boobs out? I am at work in my office?

Posted: 17 May 2017 05:09 PM PDT

Question: Let's try this one more time?

Posted: 17 May 2017 05:07 PM PDT

I do not need your parents or anything they think the can offer and neither do you. I am your family. We will leave within the means we can provide. Forget my parent debt, they deserve to suffer anyway. That 17 pages new plan I expect you to have already written, it needs to include cutting all ties with your family ASAP. You are to rewrite the plan so it can be supported by our budget, which eight now is whatever you can earn. I will start helping ASAP, I promise... Just come already so i can get off this chair and tell your mother what an ugly mongrel she is and how she does not deserve you... You may try to keep her so we can use her for money, but first dinner together i will beat her ****-less and end up in jail... Do not mess with me on this one... No wonder i resent my friends if I ever had any in this nasty place, if they made me leave you with your nasty parents... I'm sorry, the alternative was Abdul's family...