in a few short months I will be living in my pick up truck. I cant find work, unemployed for over one year. I have an Associates degree now but a lot of difference that makes. My nephew is getting married and it seems like that no one remembers my address to send me an invitation but yet my parents get one. now I feel like there is something wrong with me

My friend doesn't think she's hot, but I think she's lit. What do u think?

And yet I see ugly or average guys with beautiful girls. I've never had a gf, I'm 24. A college graduate. Fit, clean, healthy, smart, latino. And yet I've never had a girl take interest in me that was my type.

Very long story short, I have this friend. We became really close. And a year later I had fallen in love with her romantically. We're both girls and I have always thought myself to be straight. But I guess everyone has an exception. I know she has had romantic feelings for her friend from a few years ago/she still does (also a girl) so I mustered up some courage and confessed to her. She said that although she did love me, care a lot about me, and needs me, she only loves me platonically. And I want to be brave and get rid of my attraction for her, but I've been struggling with it. I went from having butterflies when I would see her, to just feeling dread because it is painful to be around her. I value her friendship so much. She's my best friend and I care a lot about her. But I just want more and no matter how hard I try to just convince myself that it's better to just try to be her friend, it just makes me sad and confused because I think of what we could have been. It's also making me have lower self esteem because I feel like it's my fault, even though I also know it's not. And I feel like the only thing I can do is stop seeing her for a while. But I know this will hurt her and that's why I am trying not to do so, even though that's hurting me instead. What do I do? I don't want to hurt her, but I can't stop thinking about her. Also we both go to the same college so it's not like I can just stop seeing her even if I wanted to .

He also spends more time with me and he is saving more money. He also cares a lot about me. He says he wants a future together. He told his friend that I was his future wife.

A lot of older women that I have spoken to, have told me (24/f) to marry for money or don't marry at all. I think that it is a bit of a cynical view. What do you think?

We often hear that women value long term relationships... we also hear about how men are afraid of commitment.. Yet, most divorces are filed by women, read the article "80 Percent of Divorces Are Filed By Women" And when it comes to "marriages" between two women, their divorces rates are incredible high " early studies suggest that lesbian couples are 50-167 percent more likely to divorce than heterosexual couples, and nearly twice as likely to divorce as gay men." So why are we often told that women value long term relationships when evidence proves otherwise?

My Son lives with me and her kids live with there Dad if that makes any difference

Every time I buy her something, I feel akward and think she resents me for it. She says she does not have good birthdays since she has been with me (I don't celebrate my own). And I feel she wants me to slow down and go slow for the sake of taking it easy. She doesn't want me to spend money and does not understand the American plight because she is from Japan, where everyone helps everyone. She thinks I am fighting to hard but if I let up we go to poverty. So frustrated.

I do occasionally but amtold other married women deny it, so what's the truth girls?

After many months of flirting kissing and semi dating I let him have me on Saturday . It was amazing sex, he is such a fantastic lover so well built and so into pleasing me. Never been into penis size but he has such a fat one it stretched me. Now my husband seems like a school boy with his fumblings, is it always this way with an affair?

My ex wife and I divorced last year in September. The reason behind the divorce was lack of help keeping the house clean, I mean the stuff was nasty. I was raised by "if u make a mess clean it up" I'm not saying she has to clean everyday but help and pickup after herself and make the kids clean up their mess. All we did was argue about it to the point I stopped caring about our relationship. Now not even a week after the divorce was final, she went out and had sex with another dude, when I asked her why she said something like" I was in my feelings" or something dumb. It's funny because before we got together she had sex with her so called "best friend" and she told me the reason behind that was she got drunk. I believe there is no excuse for having sex with someone. I believe when she had sex with he first dude it was planned, because all she would do was stay up late at night and talk on the phone. We were together 6yrs, I moved out after 2 months of her serving me divorce appears, she I reconcile, or move on?

I am divorced but my ex wife is still my friend. We did not have any children. We email each other occasionally just to catch up on what the other is doing. She has since remarried and we have both moved on with our lives. I got an email from her inviting me to dinner with her and her new husband. She said he wants to meet me. I am not sure I should go. I don't want to become buddies with her new husband. I can not imagine why he would want to meet me. I thought most husbands did not want there wife to have anything to do with their ex husband. Am I wrong about this? Would you please give the good and bad of meetings your ex wife's husband? Should I go to meet him?

I know for a fact he cheated on me with several girls when we were dating. I have brought up the general subject of cheating before but he never admits that he has cheated on me. I need him to come clean to me so that we can work out what we can both do so that he does not cheat again in the future. But I don't want this conversation to jeopardize our relationship. Help! How should I bring this up again so that he admits what he has done? Thanks.

It appears he has been taking pictures of women's booty with them unawares as they are walking, leaning over at various places. Also pics of them at the beach. All of this happening when we go on a holiday "together." He was quite a stash of them. Is he a sick and perverted man. He isn't all that young anymore, that not being an excuse. Cell phones seem to be the culprit since it so easy to snap a picture nowadays and the person would not know. It upsets me because these women have no idea he did this and we are on holiday.

Me and my wife got threatened by her mom that if these things didn't stop by a certain day or time, she would not let us see each other anymore and my fiancee has her own guardianship and her mom has threatened so many times that she was gonna get it and she hasn't yet because she is on morphine and has pain and problems everyday. She is trying her hardest to get rid of me cause she thinks that I'm abusing her daughter and hurting her and I've never hurt her at all, I believe that her mom is trying to set me up,the mother's other daughter threatened to call the authorities on me and that if I did not cease the relationship with my wife.

I started hanging out with guys at work and most of them are married and virtually all of them cheat regularly or have cheated.. mostly with prostitutes. So do you consider having sex with a prostitute to be cheating? If your husband or wife had paid sex.. would it be no big deal to you as long as they made sure to be "protected"?

guys, honestly how many of you still like the traditional wife? the wife that wants to stay home to take care of the kids and the house and cook and clean. or the wife that has a career of her own, so you both split the bills and have a nanny take care of the kids. so which one is it, traditional or modern? and why?

My husband is a very controlling person and he's verbally. but not physically abusive (My friends and family have both witnessed this). He is extremly jealous. He said he doesn't respect me and he always insists that I'm cheating on him (but he cheated on me, before we got married and I've never cheated on him) We cannot have a conversation without getting into an arguement, because no matter what I say or do, in his eyes, seems to be wrong. He refuses to talk about our problems and feels that being separated will solve them all. To top it all off...he's a closet alcoholic. I know there are always two sides to every relationship/story, of course this is my version and if you ask him, he has another version which paints me out to be this horribly self centered and selfish person. All my life, I have been told by many friends, co-workers and family what a loving and giving person I am. So, I am now in such a state of self doubt and confusion. It's horrible!

I am pretty young still; 20. But I am positive that I want to marry the man I am with. We often talk about marriage and children and it excites me. I can't wait to be his wife and the mother of his children. When we talk about this, I can see it that he is excited too, but he doesn't want to admit it. I have a lot of friends who are married or getting married, and who have children so it isn't out of the norm. I have no doubts of his feelings towards me, he treats me so well and we understand each other, but I guess I am afraid that he will takes years to pop the question. I don't think he understands that even if we got engaged, we could stay engaged for as long as we want. I just want to get our life going and officially be his right hand lady. Does anyone have any words of wisdom or advice? Thank you

How long have you been married? Did you argue/fight before getting married? Are you happy in your marriage?

Is it common for you or your spouse to at any time or multiple times feel "not in love" in your marriage and want out? I have been married for 12 years 2 children, this is the second time my marriage struggles. First time we worked things out. Now I am unsure of what to do. My spouse says I am a great mother and great wife, but he has just fallen out of love and cannot pin point the reason. We have what I thought was a great life together, we don't argue, do things together, give each other our space, have the same interest and when we don't I usually try what he is interested in anyways. I don't know if it is a midlife thing for him but I don't want to give up on saving my marriage if this is something that is salvageable but at the same time I don't want to continue trying to achieve something that is not realistic.

My wife had an online affair. I have chosen to forgive her and move on. Yet I can't stop thinking about it and wondering what she is doing or thinking constantly. I need to stop but I can't. Please help.

I mean think about it, when you get married in a love marriage you only see the good side of the person before marriage and then after marriage it is a bundle of responsibility and you end up seeing everything, not make up on, not dressed well, but temper, and all that stuff that can happen between husband and wife after they are married. And in a arrange marriage they say it is better to love the person you married than to marry the person you love, I would have to say there are probably more surprises in a love marriage than in an arranged marriage. In a love marriage the person may have loved a specific feature like the persons voice or face or body and then when they get married he may find someone that looks better and that marriage goes bad or as the person ages as beauty never last no matter how delusional these teenage and youthful people act like and how they look now old age is coming and whoever thought about love marriage doesn't really like the person anymore. And I think a statictic came out that arrange marriages and more likely to be succesful while love marriages are more likely to go to divorce. Please give your guys thoughts on this

I have been with my husband for 8 years (married for 4). His communication skills have been horrible since day one. If I bring up any kind of relationship issue what so ever(without nagging), he freezes up and says absolutely nothing at all. Literally nothing! He completely ignores me. It takes him no less than 2 or 3 days to talk to me about the issue and when he does it is very short and concise. I learned to accept the 2 or 3 waiting period but I never should have. I hate to be ignored. Now that we have 3 children together (a 4 year old and 2 year old twins), my husband's lack of communication is really pissing me off. I have tried everything to get him to talk to me but he won't. His communication is so bad that his own mother told him that she didn't think he would ever get married because of it. And looking back, as much as I love him, I should have never married him until he learned how to communicate and address issues. This might sound cliche but "Communication is Key." What should I do?

In the four years we've been together (2 married) I bet we've only had sex 30 times. In the past year its only been once back in july. In august I hired someone to follow her because I was thinking she had to be sleeping with someone. Well after several week and several thousand dollars nothing. She isn't messing around and I never really thought she was. I went to therapy by myself because she doesn't think its a problem. Nothing, everything I was told to try failed.  Well a couple weeks ago I said this is it. I spent $600 for a bed and breakfest. Set up a romantic dinner, candles in the room hot bubble bath and wine. Well about 1 am she said "well I'm tried, thanks honey this was romantic and nice, I love you" kissed me and went to sleep. REALLY? That's it?  When we got home we talked and she made it clear that our sex life was fine with her. She said she enjoyed it when we did it, but that it shouldn't be that important. She said that she has never been this emotionally attached to anyone. She said in past relationships there were based on sex and for the first time she felt someone wanted her and not just sex. So I said because I respect your wishes and treat you well you punish me with a lack of sex. She said that what she wants, and the emotional connect should be good enough. So I left, I moved out. I just didn't feel like she placed any weight on my needs to be with her physically. Its been four weeks and now she is saying that she understands how important my feelings and needs are. Now she claims she is willing to have more sex to please me. Now I'm thinking that she is only doing it to keep me. I don't want that, I want someone that wants to have sex with me, someone that is attracted to me. Secondly I'm not even sure I believe it. We have meet up about 5 times and every time she will say "let me prove it to you now". She still won't agree to see a therapist, saying they only ruin marriages. That makes me think she is hiding something. I guess my question is can she really change that fast, and would it last?

While discussing things with my wife about things that need to be worked on in our marriage, I brought up the desire for more affection. Such as cuddling, time spent in close contact, more than a peck on the cheek or lips for a kiss. Now we also identified items I need to work on and I took it in stride. Wife comes back and says that she can never please me, and nothing she does is every right. Was my request out of line if I felt this way?

He has been lying to her about his feeling for me and the fact that we are still living and sleeping together. He moved to her place for 3 days and then came back to me. How can he really love her if he keeps coming back to me?

Don't get me wrong. I do love my wife. She's a great mother to the 4 kids we got but she's been a dud in the sack for about a decade now. Plus she got mega fat and her tattoos look like ink blots after all these years. Before you think I am some gross slob myself. No. I shave my back hair, I do ten push ups everyday. I brush my teeth and I use deodorant (no homo!) I like to get Thai massages with happy endings every week or so. My wife calls it cheating but I call it outsourcing. If companies can get people in poor countries do their work for them why come I can't do the same. I work. I pay the rent. so why not outsource and take the pressure off my old lady.

I have read more than a few true, first-hand account stories on Reddit and other sites, where men have accidentally came home and caught their wife having sex with another guy.... and then when the husband fought and beat the other guy up, the wife actually called the police on her own husband!! What kind of sick woman would call the police on her own husband for fighting the guy she's cheating on him with? I'm in a kind of understand cheating if she finds the other guy more attractive, but wouldn't a wife still have ultimately more loyalty to her actual husband? What's up with that?

I'm just curious. I would think that would be very awkward, especially if you dont know each other well. Does sex necessarily have to come right away or can it wait until the people know each other and are more comfortable?

Does a divorce make life better? At this point in life I feel like I'd rather be divorce and free hen married and miserable

Been dating my husband on and off since highschool, now married almost 3 years with 2 kids. Feeling like things aren't right anymore neither of us enjoys each other's company. Whenever we're together it turns into an argument. Neither of us respects each other. Or have decent communication. I feel like I'm too young to have a life this miserable. This whole relationship has made me deeply depressed. I just don't know who to leave the relationship. Why am I afraid to leave?

I have been trying to keep my wife sexually interested in me lately by doing role play, but, she can never take me seriously. I have tried dressing up as a knight and claiming her pussy is mine, but that that didn't work. I tried dressing up as a copper and arresting her and hand cuffing her to the bed and spanking her and sticking my penis in various holes. But none of it is working! HELP!!

Okay my wife and I have been married for roughly 7 1/2 years and have two kids together (I'm 27 shes 25) P.S we did have a babysitter on this evening. Recently there have been some changes in my wife's behavior and I don't know if I should be worried, scared or excited. About 5 months ago our schedules finally allowed us to have more social time in our lives, my wife is the social bug and I'm a bit more secluded. But I'm supportive of her desire to go out with the girls more often. However, here is where it gets a little weird. When my wife gets to drinking her inhibitions tend to go out the window. She is very adamant that she is in no way shape or form bi-sexual. I've always accepted that women tend to be a little more touchy feelie than guys are. But last week one of our mutual friends was having a terrible day, so we invited her over to have a few drinks and to just hang out. I'll admit we all drank a little more than we should have and I know how alcohol can effect ones judgment. It was getting late and I was ready for bed, I went to the restroom, but on my gym shorts and went into our room. I remember coming back out to get some water, and then seeing our friend leaving with her ride. I blacked out (first time in YEARS) and have no memory of this next part; (long story short) apparently when I came out to get some water I sat on the couch and one thing led to another, and I am told that we all ended up naked, I groped our friend, she groped me, my wife groped both of us, basically anything and everything except genital to genital penetration. I am mortified at the thought of basically cheating on my wife IN FRONT OF HER!! But here is where my situation gets even weirder! The next day my wife, our friend and I talked, everyone was cool about everything, some crude jokes were made but that was it. My wife seems to be completely okay with whatever happened, I say whatever since I have no memory of this crap happening. Now my wife and our friend are making plans to party again this Tuesday. I don't know how I feel about this, considering there has been some crude humor about last time. Sly comments about me now having two wives and so on (I know its all in good fun, but am still weirded out a little). I guess what I'm trying to figure out is what could be causing this change in my wife (she is a born and raised christian girl from the bible belt, miss goodie too shoo, and this is WAY abnormal behavior for her)? I'm trying to figure out if my wife is desiring to be a swinger, or wanting to have a threesome with another woman, or something. Yet through all of this my moral compass is spinning out of control. I feel dirty yet excited about these changes and events. Is this wrong? I also wonder if this is some sort of mini midlife crisis for her, or a case of lost identity, or a desire to experiment since we did get married so young. Any advice, similar experiences or ideas are welcome and greatly appreciated.

My wife asked for a break since I don't let her go out with her guy friends , I ask her who she's texting or talking to on her Snapchat she hates it and now that I'm giving her a little break she's on her phone more and hiding her phone screen we still live together and she's always on her phone talking to someone ! Before we seperated we didn't have sex anymore and she didn't give me much attention anymore what should I do? Any ideas?

I was telling a co worker about a side effect of a medicine I am allergic to and how it causes seizure like effects. He said what happens? And I did an impression of what happens. He started making moaning noises and laughing and asked me to do it over and over "show me again what happens!" "How does that go again, do it again!" and I was wearing a tight dress and someone told me he was wanting to see me shake my body for him and not the seizure. Was he really concerned about the side effect or was he wanting to see my body shake provocatively?