I work 40 to 50 hours a week. My husband is retired. He does what he wants, when he wants and he should, he's worked hard. But he won't pick up after himself and said it's my job as a housewife. Housewife? seriously. What is your view about this way of thinking

Should my husband feel insecure of my ex after me leaving my daughter with her dad? I dont understand him, he knows I hate the guy!

Hello everyone, I am posting here because a friend of mine is in trouble. One year ago, she got married to an american soldier in Montana. It's a proxy marriage as she is a foreigner and she has never been to the USA. At this time, her life was in turmoil and the guy took advantage of her to get married and earn money from it. She told me the marriage wasn't recognized in her country. But now, she would like to divorce this guy to move on though he doesn't want. What should she do ? Thank you in advance for you help

For two years me and wife, Carmen, were trying to get pregnant with our first born. During that two year period I've been to dozens of specialist getting my sperm count checked and making sure everything was in working order. Likewise she's been to gynecologist as well as other specialist to make sure her eggs were okay and her ovulation cycles were on track. After all that back breaking hassle, still not the slightest hint of a child, despite the doctors telling us we're perfectly healthy. I for the love of me was going off my nerve wondering was just wasn't clicking between us. Well a few days ago she and a friend of hers got into an argument at a get together and her friend blurted out that she told her she had been taking birth control at work this whole time because she didn't actually want kids. I am... incensed to put it lightly. I can't even look at or speak to her right now. She lied to me and wasted precious years of my life. I've been sitting here crying and reflecting on my feelings for her and I just don't feel like I want her or love her anymore. Funny that a couple of days ago she was my universe and now... where that love was, it's just empty. Considering what she did to me, should I move on?

My husband and I have been married for 15 years, and we have 4 kids. We are both teachers for the local school system. Our kids aren't active in sports, but the are active in karate, which happens 2 nights a week. Our sex life could be more active, but on average we have sex 3-4 times a week. Do you think we have an active sex life?

So i heard my mom in her room with my dad talking to my dad about go be with another women and i'm really scared and depressed that I start cutting myself, And my mom said something about its over and divorce and stuff. I dont know what to do? Should I end my useless life? Help?

A woman divorced her husband. They share kids and a dog. The dog has to be put down so she calls her ex husband to go with her since it was their dog. She has her husband come by her house that day so they can both go and put the dog down however her boyfriend is spending the night at her house and when her ex husband shows up early that morning the boyfriends car is there and the boyfriend is upstairs in bed sleeping. She expects her ex husband to go with her to put the dog down with him since it was heir dog. Is this normal behavior or is she being selfish?

Or do you guys do that?

Im married and beginning to question my marriage. We fight all the time it seems. He never wants anything to do with me when i want. He thinks because i am a stay at home mom that when he is home he doesnt have tk do anything. So what do normal couples fuss about that actually makes you cry? Or does that happen in a normal marriage and by normal i know there are issues but are they as bad as what i go through? Does your spouse make you question why you are with them ? I want to know if I leave him will i face the same issues with another man? Or is there truely a happy side to all of it

At my age most people are married and having more kids (I'm in my late 30's) and I'm stuck in nothingness. I try to be happy for my friends, family, and others. But I notice that even though I force a fake smile I feel really irritated. Then I come across acting weird or having strange behavior. I'll hang around them and I just don't say too much of anything because I don't want to spread any negativity.

A bit of background to what has pushed me to the edge of wanting to leave my wife... Over the four years of our marriage she has displayed a very volatile anger. She also kept doing as she pleased without really listening to me or following my advice. Over the past few months, she has been working ridiculous hours for her real estate job. Often staying in her office to study until 11pm. My calls and texts will go unanswered. It's obvious she is alone in the company because on rare occasions she will call me to come and help with something on the computer. I've done my best to support her earning good money for our property and the family. But it's the small things that upset me. The anger involves damaging property, insulting me or swearing at me. She has tried to sleep head to toe as well. We operate like 2 singles living under the same roof in the sense that we don't shop together, don't plan meals or eat together, don't plan a household budget etc. We will share the bills (I pay the majority) but we never spend time together. In her mind, it is OK that we live thus way. God help me if I try to talk about change. She just gets angry and says I'm complaining and don't appreciate her efforts for the family. She went back to China before my exams without really explaining (until the last minute) that she couldn't wait for my holidays after exams because her company are holding seminars early next month. She is in the middle of her trip.... She never bothered to contact me when she arrived. I just assumed she would have no signal and roaming charges are too high. Still, a 50c text would have been nice. After 8 days, I've had no response to online messenger texts but she has sent me random things she wants to remember and even posted to her own wall which indicates she has been ignoring my texts. So I called her (free under my plan) and she said she missed me which was nice. Then I noticed that she had posted on her wall that her passport was stolen. Of course this meant she had to cancel one of her flights and go directly back to her hometown... Out of concern, I sent her a string of messages. All went unanswered. Finally, I'd had enough of being ignored and left a message asking why she was ignoring my messages...what a mistake. I got back voice messages saying she has a bad mood... Next thing, she video called me (obviously she has Wi-Fi in her friend's home so she could have contacted me)...then she lost it by screaming at me violently to stop complaining and leave her alone. She blocked my number for a few minutes and then unblocked it to send a string of texts saying she doesn't have a good mood and she'll talk to me when she gets back next week (but who knows with the passport problem). Following this rage attack, she sent voice messages 5 minutes after the string of texts saying she still loved me and apologising for her bad mood. All I could say is please don't scream at me because I simply missed you and wanted to her from you. I care about your safety and ability to get back home. But honestly, the attitude of screaming and shuttinget me off has me wondering if I'm right for her since I just provoke her anger and not her caring. Normally a husband and wife would miss each other and want to talk. My wife just wants space to do her own thing for three weeks back there. I'm suspicious about that. Especially since there are a lot of signs pointing to her not being genuine. But at home, she has been trying to soften her ways and control her anger. She wants children and we move into our first home in July. But I'm asking the question of pulling the plug because I'm not an equal partner in this relationship. I'm pushed aside No one has a clue about the sadness I carry around with me about the way I feel treated. I keep saying to myself if she can't respect me, listen and let me feel wanted, then why should I stay with this woman? I cannot see much of an improvement with her. I thought a wife would be happy to her from her husband. Instead I'm a nuiscance for calling or sending messages. Why the lack of interest in me? It makes me want to tell her to leave.

My husband & I live apart (work) see each other every weekend. I was doing his laundry & found a t-shirt tied in a knot in the front like girls wear them. I asked him why his shirt was like this and first he said he was working on a car & didn't want to get his shirt dirty or oily. Really? Did he turn gay over night? He tucks his shirt in always. So I continued to question him. He then changes his story & tells me he was "jacking off" and didn't want to get lube on the shirt & me see the oil stains. He claims he was too embarrassed to tell me the truth. I still don't buy his story. I feel that he had some girl at his place & she was wearing his shirt "all cute & tied up" for him. What's your opinions? Am I overreacting?

Have you ever read something that made a really bold statement/finding and it made you think (or overthink)? Take these examples: "Spending money on others yields more happiness than spending it on yourself a study concluded." True or not, if you were a person who liked to spend money on yourself, reading this might make you think twice about spending it on yourself if you were regularly sad. Or worse, now this is fodder for an argument. Got a husband that spends all his check on lunches for himself and his truck? Tell him that spending money on others yields more happiness and shame him into giving. Or what about something that's just an opinion but it's being presented as a fact: "New Research Proves That Women Were Gold Diggers As Far Back As The Stone Age" I don't know how they could prove such a thing since much of our history is undocumented, but some how they did! And now a man who's easily manipulated will see his wife in a new light (either accepting or rejecting). Or how about this: "All Men Have Rapist Tendencies" That's not true. But if you were a woman mad at a man and looking for reasons to remain mad, this seed just gave you more fuel. Or what if you were a calm and loving woman who came across this lie and started to question her husband's integrity/morals? So my question to you is this - we live in the information age where everyone's progressive opinions are mixing with scientific facts, so how do you protect your marriage from "bad seeds"?

I mean, if you think about it, those really hold a person back and make dating or marrying far harder, and no one wants to marry someone who's poor or laden with debt or really down in the dumps (both guys and ladies).

Recently married,I love my husband. He is a package of 2. He has a 5 year old son. I love them both very much. We are in the middle of a joint custody battle since the mother of the child has used my husband as an " on the go baby sitter" or as her personal daycare only. Everyone dislikes this woman, shes not a good mother and uses the child as leverage all the time. Not caring about the child's well being.I'm trying really hard to not let any of this affect me. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to stay distracted, or how to deal with this in the long run without it affecting me and my husbands new life. Please any advice from someone that has gone through this will be preferable. Thank you!

So, I have been separated from my ex-husband for 10 months, but the divorce won't be final for another 4 months. It's uncomplicated, he left me and I get everything. Over and done, except for the legal waiting period. I recently met the most amazing guy (like seriously, AMAZING), and there is definitely a strong mutual attraction. He is a Christian, and doesn't know that I am going through a divorce. I have no intention of starting anything relationship-wise before it's final. My question is, how should I behave around him and interact with him so that I don't scare him off AND so that he doesn't lose interest? Some practical tips would be appreciated, I am going to the movies tonight with a group of friends and he will be there.

My husband and I have been together a little over a year and 3 weeks ago prior to our trip to Mexico we decided to get married at the City Clerks Office, We'd only been engaged a week but I knew I wanted to spend my life with him. He preferred the idea of eloping but wanted and tried to push for me to have the dream wedding I dreamed of and given that at first our decision to be together was not approved by some people because people were hurt in doing so, I decided that eloping would be the best option for us, we didn't want a wedding, we wanted a marriage, we wanted it to just be all about us and not having to worry about making choices like what plates to have, It was the best decision we made, our week away from new york was very romantic, he surprised me so much and I fell even more in love with him, We couldn't be happier. When we got home I told my parents that we married before we went away and I was excited to tell them, My mom was upset about it, she said she was disappointed that we didn't inform her about the marriage and more that she wasn't present at the wedding to witness it, bare in mind I am a 28yo woman. She is now insisting that we have a big celebration party in the next week or two for our families to celebrate our marriage, my husband and I don't want this as we are enjoying our time alone but are we selfish if we refuse?

Men are more likely to commit suicide after divorce and take much longer to enter nee relationships than divorced women. Why are divorces more emotionally impacting to men vs women?

Think about this question before you answer. You go to the local magazine rack and you have magazines about marriages and relationships and how to be a better lover and a bunch of other stuff; but are these the absolute facts about married life? Or is this what we are being cultured to believe and marriage can be anything you want it to be? Or how about this, you proposed to your wife to be and you are starting to plan a wedding. Do you feel that marriage has been industrialized based on culture and that's why we are (a) expected to wear white, (b) expected to buy expensive jewelry as symbolism of "taken"/"love", (c) expected to have vows that you two agree to for the rest of your life, (d) expected to have cake, booze, a dj, and a dance floor, (e) expected to have a honeymoon, (f) expected to have sex the first night.... Etc... I mean, what if you don't do any of that, could you still call it "getting married"? How much of our "free will" is really just ritual, routine, and rote? Back to marriage. As you know, we have SJW fighting to abolish marital roles. That's great, but does that put an end to marriage when a wife can't act like "a wife" and a husband can't act like "a husband"? Think on that. Feminine men and manly women have existed before the Millennials, were they less married than traditionals? Or better yet, if we could change marriage's definition, why did it take so long to allow gays? I don't have an answer in mind, I just wanted to discuss this. So go ahead.

Me and my husband have been married for 6 years, we are both 35 i honestly forgot that when we started dating I flirted with this one guy and kissed him and gave him a handjob all within the first year I dated my husband. (We were 16). I hung out with him a few times, I've been in and out of depression all my life and going through another low point right now. Should I tell him all this happened when we were younger?

With an often high divorce rate among "love marriages," statistically, arranged marriages have a much higher success rate. In fact as I have observed my Parents made a huge mistake in getting married because they're a terrible match. Not to mention, I wouldn't choose either of them to be a roommate based on sh!tty personal qualities!

After an abusive incident, my husband went to anger management. He seems genuinely sorry for what he did. Is it wrong that I took him back but still feel uneasy?

This is a debate that I have with a lot of folks on here. Some people say that society is to blame for putting sexuality in everyone's face all the time, which I feel is a valid statement. Some people say that parents are to blame for not educating their kids about the importance of college and birth control, which I feel is a valid statement. Some people say that it is the kids fault because they were being raised by Ivy League equivalent educators (parents, teachers, preachers, etc) and they should know better so they should suffer the consequences, which I feel is an INVALID statement and only causes shame to people who didn't feel they were properly educated. But I'm curious to know the truth. Who's to blame when kids under 21, without a college education or enlistment in the armed forces, and for some weird reason without birth control, choose to get married and have kids? Who's at fault for this failed policy of marriage and pregnancy? How might culture influence this? Homeopathy? Christianity? Large families with lots of babies and cousins? What about music? What about memes on the internet? What about tradition? I think it's really easy to blame the children (I define a child as anyone under the age of 25), but be completely honest with yourself - how many kids truly have freedom of choice? How many kids receive a quality education or a quality childhood? What about in the poorest areas of their state, does poverty matter?

I recently discovered my husbands little porn habit. Needless to say I'm disgusted. First of all, he's no kid, he's 55 years old. Second, we still have what I thought was a great sex life, plenty of everything on a frequent basis, no complaints at all. I'm very confused, and very turned off now that I know what he does at home when I'm not there. What should I do? I am a frequent masturbator, and I don't mind that my husband is, too. It's the Porn aspect of it that I don't like. I never use it, don't need it. Funny, I usually think of my husband. Just wondering why he needs "Clit to Clit Asian Sluts"???

We haven't been intimate for 3-4 months. Every time I bring it up it turns into an argument. She accuses me a of cheating at work. I work construction 6am-4pm No time to cheat. I've asked for blow jobs or hands jobs something simple. She declines. Any reasons why she might not what to put out??

we are having the same problems we had in the first marriage that he assured me we would not have. i want a divorce and he refuses to sign papers. he is refusing to pay any household bills or buy groceries. he says he will stay forever just to make me misrable. he cusses me and degrades me everyday. what can i do?

I guess it is my fault for starting a conversation with him. The crush may have developed to infatuation because I let it happen. I've avoided him many times but it made me like him more. I saw a glimpse of him this morning and it just hurts. Should I just tell him how I feel to get it over with then tell him to avoid me? It's just annoying.

FYI, she has never said no, its just not her thing. I dont feel this is rape. The way I see it, she will learn to enjoy it eventually. When the pain is too much, she uses a safe-word and I stop.

My wife is mad at me because I wear black Lace cheekies and hipster panties. I'm very straight with a feminine fetish side. Why can't a wife accept this and let me be who I am.

Hello, I am currently in the process of divorcing my husband. We ve been separated for 2 years and have a now 4 year old son together. I began the divorce process since October and its been a nightmare. He owes retroactive child support for the 2 years and is on child support now and is already behind one month on his first payment of child support. We went to court a few weeks ago for time sharing. He hasn t been an active father during our time apart although I ve encoruagred him to have a relationship with our son. The judge only granted him 2 hours a week of time sharing temporarily while we attend coparenting sessions . While all this has been happening I have been looking into relocating 200 miles away. I really want to move in order for my son to have access to better schools, cost of living is a lot lower , and I would even be able to get a promotion/raise by said transfer. My husband is going to make this process *** difficult as he possibly can just out of spite. Has anyone has experience relocating with a minor outside of miami dade county ? Any tips on a parenting plan?

I know that many people have this figured out LOOOOOOONG before marriage but my marriage didn't have that kind of time to discuss it... 15 years ago, when I was 19 and my wife was 20, we rushed into things because we were madly in love with each other. We started living together in an apartment (that we couldn't afford to rent or furnish) after 2 months of dating and we found out she was pregnant by the 3rd month. We honestly had no idea of the consequences of our actions because to us these were the norms and milestones we were raised to follow. We ended up being poor, "adult kids" with kids. We didn't know how to "adult", and the only way to catch up with our "needs" now was through high APR credit cards. Our parents set the bar too low, and we started a family too young... But I don't regret any of it. I love my children and my wife, so I would do it all over again if I had to. Sure, I don't like having early grays and no money in our savings (we're finally out of debt though - woohoo! Well, minus student loans and mortgage...), but at least I have the knowledge I can pass down to my kids of what happens when you start your adult life too quickly. So please, no shaming me in your answers - I've dealt with enough insensitivity on here to know my faults. Yes, our past is an ignorant one, but what's done is done; so elitist snobs, please help me with the HERE AND NOW - be fair to me! So, again here's my question: -- What are functional ways to make decisions in a marriage? If we used her parents as role models for decision making, the man makes all the decisions (her Dad was a traditionalist who believe the man was the king of his house). This is how our first 7 years together went. Using my parents as role models for decision making, God and fate makes all the decisions (my parents grew up either in a private Catholic school or attended a Catholic church - neither went to college) so we just shifted power to her for the least 8 years. But now we want equality!!! For those who are unable to remember facts or past questions - This is the former Mr. Overthink, UnderValued, Dreamer. But as you can see with my question, I'm not bashing my wife. We are just the product of bad ideologies and our life is a consequence of our environment. But that doesn't mean that we have to live this way forever. We can make changes that improve our life, like we have for the 15 years we've struggled. I just want help in knowing how to be MORE equal than we already are. I should probably mention what kind of decisions we need "help" with.... So, we are doing perfectly fine when it comes to domestic labor/chores. The division of labor is actually great now. BUT the problems that exist right now are the result of us having to 2nd guess everything since we don't trust our parents' upbringing. Social problems like (kids dating, kids being left home alone, type of friends WE want) and cultural problems (when is rated r okay? makeup or no? rap music? online gaming?) I'm seeing a lot of people trying to shift blame away from parents on this question. I can't help but feel that many people were bad parents and don't are trying to attack me because they were selfish while raising their own kids and don't want to be responsible for their kids mistakes that happened immediately after graduating high school... In other words, you people are not putting yourself in MY shoes, you're putting yourself in my parents shoes. And for that, you're disqualified.

I've been observing some of my neighbors (one of them is a stay at home mom) and the husbands drive ordinary cars like Honda Accord or Honda Pilot. But the wives tend to drive luxury cars like Acura TSX or Acura RDX (some form of luxury car). What is the reason for this? Why do wives get to drive luxury cars while the husband drives ordinary car? I should say some of them. Its not a problem though but was only curious. The neighbors are Asians actually. @Ashley makes a very good point but why does it have to be a luxury car?

The sex life of mine and my fiance seems to have become almost nonexistent, or just very boring. Hopefully somebody could give me advice and tell me what I could do to make it better. We have a 1 year old and a 4 month old baby, they constantly need my attention and care so I'm too busy with them and I feel I'm not able to spend time with him like he expects. I suggested maybe if he helped with them then we could bond together, but he says he needs to relax after working all day so he will just hang out with our roommate while I care for the kids nonstop which can drain my energy. He will go off to masterbate to porn in the bedroom and I can't join him because I need to tend to the children. It makes me sad that he watches porn so much, I told him we need to have dates regularly to help with this. He is not interested in looking into this. When they are in bed I'm usually too worn out by then to have energy for sex, and also it's boring that he never takes me out anywhere anymore so I'm bored of always doing it in the apartment. Another thing is he makes plenty of time to take our roommate out, who is his best friend, and ever since he moved in almost a year ago he stopped taking me out anymore.. i also told him it doesn't help that he has been sleeping on the couch for the past few months. This is from my point of view, I would appreciate suggestions on what I changes I can personally make.

I'm indian so its customary for girls to live with their in laws, but as me and my husband bought and own the home we are going to move into, i don't want my in laws to move in too. his mum and dad have their own home which my boyfriend pays for, i just want some space to myself without worrying about washing and cleaning and looking good for my in laws. im a lawyer, my job is demanding and tiring as it is without going home and having to cook and clean and make sure everything is done for my in laws. My husband called me bitter and selfish for not wanting them to live with us. I've lived with them since we got married its been hard, he says that his mother took care of him for 24 years so he should do the sam back. The thing is i would understand if she was alone but she has a husband. I've compromised a lot with him having a dog which im terrified of and dont like animals at all but now im bitter and selfish for not wanting to live with my in laws. I dont know what to do i mean am i selfish for this? also none of my brothers and there wives live with our parents, my husbands two sisters don't live with their in laws either. Its not like im the first one who doesnt want to My in laws don't live in a care home, they are healthy and fit and live in a home which we own a and is mortgage free so my husband just pays the bills. They go gym all the time, my gran who lived with me before i was married had parkinsons and was widowed, so i know whats its like to live with someone who is sick and god forbid if his parents got sick i would look after them and never put them in a home. As of right now they are healthy and fit, i mean they still work they're 55.

I don't know what to do. My fiance said he was unhappy with his life this morning. I have been unhappy too and I have been suffering from depression because of it. We have been bickering so much for the last year. Our family has been homeless 3 times because he doesn't know how to pay bills and save money. I have anxiety that it will happen again which makes me worried all of the time. He never touches me anymore either. I always have to iniciate intimacy for anything to happen.

I started dating my husband when we were 15. I never told him I kissed two guys, gave one a handjob and flirted/ hung out with him a few times throughout the first year we dated. We're now both 30, and I'm severely depressed because of deaths in my family, I hate myself for past mistakes. Should I tell him now? I feel like I'm living a lie.

I got a 40 hour shift this week and hubby only working 29. I'm getting all the rest I need but hubby wants me to cook him breakfast , iron a shirt and even just talk but why??? He's 27 years old !!! I'm 25. It's 7 am and I need a little more rest.

my husband has so may gfs just socializing was it for me till 7 years of marriage but later i got to know that he is serious fond of them.he shares with them everything even about simplest of our home kids etc. but he never shares with me his personal choices or opinions. he has facebook account instagram but he has only his gfs but not me. he love them.. yyyyyyyyy onmy warning for divorce he stopped using facebook and all but did not delete them nether did he add me. I f i talk about them he stops talking to me at all for days. yy.. i help him for his education for flat rent for kids . i cook for him daily. i laundry his clothes. y is he so selfish and a betrayal to me.. cant he judge good and bad ,.,,,or he is lover of just bad...

So I just discovered my wife of 3 years having and affair with his ex. she confesed to be in touch with him on whatsapp and phone...when i stressed she confessed to meeting him twice in 1 year when i stressed she confessed that they both held hands but she did not confess to having sex. I highly doubt that. Before my marrige she used to date this guy but never had sex then which i beleive....but it is very difficultf or me to digest that they been in touch on phone for over 1.5 now and did not have sex? She says they met only twice in coffee shop. For those who are saying it may not have happened what i suspect is if you chat and have a romantic relationship with someone for such a long period of over 1 year it is will lead to sex...as you develop a connection and love for each other Personally for me if i was going out of marrige and seek emotional support with a member of opposite sex and try to hide it from my spouse I would do it for sex.

you know he has been cheating for the last 5 years and for longer but she has no idea, you just want to get her the info without her knowing