My wife and I are expecting our third child in the Fall and our 4 year old daughter wants it to be a girl. We just found out that we will be having a boy. How do we get her to be happy about the news?

I'm getting real tired of this. My mom always tries to introduce me to other guys even when they clearly aren't interested. My husband to be has two jobs, treats me right, and deals with my crazy family. My mom doesn't like him cause he's black and works too much. I told her he makes way more than I do and does more than she will ever know. I don't make alot and she wants me to try to find someone who does, despite the fact I really can't offer much in the money department and I don't want to a house wife having only my goodies to give. He respects me but my mom can't get over the race thing. I'm afraid he's going to leave because this can cause a major trust issue if she keeps this up. I don't want him to stray because of this. I told my mom to help my sis find a man since she hasn't had one in over 12 years and she's 31. I'm 28 and sick of this crap.

So when my parents got married, my grandmother (supposedly) did not approve of it, and (supposedly) hates my mom. They divorced about 5 years ago but have recently gotten back together, and haven't told my grandparents about it, despite them living together for almost a year. Whenever I go to visit my grandparents, I have to make up lies about my family situation and constantly dodge questions, and it makes me feel uncomfortable that I have to suffer because my dad can't tell his own mother of a significant life event. Whenever I try talking to my dad about it, he just gets angry and says some stupid **** like "Well if you have a problem with it then stop going over there". I just don't wanna deal with this bullshit. Any advice would be helpful.

My grandmothers old Safelink phone is an older, Nokia type phone. It's in extremely bad shape and I would like to put her old sim card in a new phone. I need to buy her a new one. (Different model preferred) must take a Safelink claim though. REALLY don't want to talk to some Indian guy for 45 minutes to try to explain it. What are some models or a link to buy a replacement (Please don't waste my time with some unhelpful/sarcastic/irrelevant/pointless/ignorant answer. It will be reported)

She said I want to live alone to get ****** with anyone without her around me.She know I never had a boyfriend.Why is she doing this?

He went to recovery but because he was otherwise homeless, not because he randomly announced he needs help.

Please state your age if speaking from personal experience.

My parents no only would not allow me to go to school, they never educated me at all. Most of my life I spent locked in an apartment in a foreign apartment alone. As I grew older I had to fight for scraps. When I say no education, I mean NONE. Ny elementary, no middle...oh yeah and after being locked in the apartment all day they would come home and my dad would beat up my mom on almost a nightly basis. I don't know how to forgive them as I feel like I am where I am at because of them. I always wanted to go to college and I ready thousand of books because I taught myself to read, but it has been hard. Even to this day, my mother is verbally abusive. Just the other day she laughed in my face and said even if I had gone to college, I would never have made it. Yet, with her meanness, I still want to help her, fix up her house and help her pay her bills. I am so confused.

My mother fights to get us to hate our Dad like she does. Obviously she is divorced from him. She says I cannot have him to my graduation or the party at her house after. My Dad won't come unless she says its okay because he avoids conflict. SO now the day is wrecked for me because my mother is like a 4 year old. How do I avoid this happening? I have friends and a set of cousins with divorced parents and they see both Mom and Dad. I am kept from seeing Dad sometimes and other times my mother has to let us see them per custody but makes it difficult. Here, my day, graduation, is being wrecked by my mother's hate. So how do I fix this?

I caught my 17 year old brother jacking off, and, well he's very rude to me always putting me down I front of his friends always hitting me too. Should I tell my mom?

My fiancé & I are going to Asheville for Mem.Day to a friends' party for 5 days.My sister recently moved to Nashville from Boston & has been homesick.I mentioned to her that we were planning on going to Asheville & she said "Omg! That's only 4 hours from Nash!I should totally meet up with you & I can meet up with ppl I work with."I was shocked & said I'm not sure, i have to see b/c were camping & idk where she would stay.She said,"I've been looking for an excuse to go to Asheville to meet with them and this is perfect! Def let me know!"Now she's invited herself on our trip b4 we get married & I feel like I will have to babysit her the whole time.My plan was to ignore the convo & try to deflect.She said something last night & I couldn't lie.I told her what I already said to her & that I wanted this to be a trip for us b4 we get married & that she would end up being a 3rdwheel.She went crazy,got offended that I would call her that & she said that we're going to see friends so it should be ok for her to come.She made me feel really guilty, said she knows where my priorities are & she will remember this for the future & hung up on me.After talking to my mom, I realized I assumed she wanted to come the entire time & it was a miscommunication.I called her & apologized for assuming & said I DO want to see her and we should do something for her bday (the next wknd).She said no, let's leave it, I know you don't want to see me.I said I DO want to see her- she said she'd think about it.

My mother currently has a new boyfriend. She has told my siblings they don t have to stay with her if they don t want to and if they want to stay with me and my grandmother, they can. But, she continues to force them to stay with her and her boyfriend when they are uncomfortable. They have told her that they don t want to stay. But she forces them. What should I do??

I'm 23 & the oldest of 7. The youngest 3 are ages 2, 8, & 14. I fully took care of all my siblings until I got married & moved 3,000 miles away 2 years ago. Whenever I visit the house is a mess & the kids barely go to school. My mom for some reason has NEVER been able to do laundry. She is guaranteed to have a mildewy outcome -.- My siblings wear these smelly clothes to school but everyone else in that house smells great & looks good it pissed me off that the 3 youngest are being neglected. I think my mom has always been lazy/filthy but I was always there to make sure everything was good. I want to move my sibings in w/me but my mom says I can't take the 2 youngest. She doesn't even take care of them & the 14yo is practically raising them. He misses school to babysit even though my mom is at home ALL day. She can't raise small kids & never has. My dad works alot & never wants to be bothered when he comes home. He thinks it's a good idea for them to move out. My husband thinks they should move ASAP bc things are just getting worse at my parents' place. We're both educated, working & stable. The biggest issue is the limited space we have but we could move into a bigger place if they for sure came. I can't take the 14yo & leave the other 2 to fend for themselves. Idk what to do to take the younger 2. I talked to my mom & I want to get the law involved only as a last resort.

they try to give me a guilt trip sometimes saying that I never say I love them back and I do but I don't mean it because I don't but my brother asked i I loved his kid I said yes he said say it I said it wouldn't mean anything if you force me to say it or him or my mom gets mad if they don't hear me say it back to them my mom said my brother feels like I hate him sometimes and I do most of the time she said that is a stronge word yeah but so is love I don't love or hate any of them but I do hate them most of the time they drive me crazy

It seems the only way I can make it out of my hell on earth is to make a major decision..but, my mind is a mess. Even when I make a small decision, I am confused over it. I know none will have an answer for me. The facts are that Even in my darkest day's I try to reach out and help others, but I still hate myself. I go hike every day and my mind sometimes clears for a moment. I have found myself alone with no friends or family and stuck knowing it is probably all my fault. I would love to blame my parents who would not allow me to go to school and therefore I have no education. I would like to blame people, but I cannot and it does no good. I am here and this is my reality. I have a job and a roof over my head for the time being. I am barely functioning. I though I had been depressed before, but this is 10X worse and has lasted for a year strait. Every single day and every single minute it torment. I have nothing left to live for and when I do try to help others I feel like a hypocrite. Anyways, my choices are to stay in a job and buy a small apartment and go about my day back and fourth in a town that I really hate, or I can pack a backpack and take the little savings I have an go get lost. I feel convicted because I would be leaving my elderly mother and my challenged brother. She needs help fixing her home and paying her bills and after she is god there is none to help my brother. She is emotionally abusive and it is difficult to be around her.I cannot be strong anymore

As a child I always overheard my mom saying negative things about my looks. She would say I have a big nose like my father & she feels bad that other people will bully me bc I wasn't pretty. When I was 6 I cried & told her that I wish I could die because I'm so ugly. SHE cried & told me that I wasn't ugly. After that she would tell me how nice I looked & that stopped eventually. From high school to now she compares me to my sister. She has said "Your sis has an exotic look, she can wake up & go but you need extra help" "We're going to be visiting family soon so we really need to give you a makeover" When she hears someone call me attractive she jumps in & says how my sister is actually the pretty one. I know I should be used to her insults bc she does this every single day randomly. We'll be talking about having dinner & she'll jump in w/an insult. but I'm not. She's the ONLY person who insults me but I guess her opinion matters the most to me, it makes me so uncomfortable when people find me attractive. My last bf was really cute & when she first met him she claimed that he must want something from me. Everytime I want to talk about it she acts dumb as if she's a nice person. I'm tired of her & the way she makes me feel. I want to cut ties w/her, Am I wrong to do that? Should I try another approach? Its really bad,

From the moment my husbands father met a new woman online about 6 1/2 years ago, and she moved out here to be with his father, she has been nothing but mean, judgmental, and toxic towards my husband. She has spread rumors, forced her prejudice opinion onto him, and has stalked him. Well, he meets me, we fall in love, get pregnant, married, the whole sha bang. She gets worse n worse, the first time I met her and his father, I left crying bcuz she kept calling my husband a piece of **** and just being nasty. Well, over the next 3 years, she harrasses us sending us text after text making insane accusations, putting us down and putting herself on a pedestal. Pretty much, her saying were evil awful white trash and she's the queen of the world. Her and my FIL weren't there wen we married, for our baby shower for Christmas thanksgiving birthdays, they were too busy fighting with us to be apart of our lives. Things keep going that way, right up until they go too far and tried to turn their prejudiced opinions into facts and called CPS to take our son from us so they could control us with our son. We have different parenting styles so that MUST mean were bad parents. Well CPS comes, investigates, apologizes, closes the case and leaves. So we finally decide to walk away from them. Now 2 yrs later my husband tried to make up with his dad, and instead his dad wants to take us to court for GP visits. What do we do about it? They are abusive and our son isnt safe with them.

I am 14 years old. I am constantly under stress by my mother. She basically controls the whole family, and she ALWAYS without a doubt thinks she is right. Look so, the thing is she stopped stressing me about grades and shes okay with that and actually comforting. That's what confuses me. Sometimes she's pretty comforting and says nice stuff and makes me not doubt myself, while sometimes she completely turns different. Even HER mother knows this,and agrees with me. What she does is she keeps screaming at me for completely irrelevant things,and she doesn't stop. She keeps screaming and screaming and calling me names until I cry and I just can't take her anymore I've got a constant headache for 2 weeks already because of her and even pills are not helping. Like today, she made me lasagna, didn't even do it she just heated it up and when she was cleaning the plate fell out of her hands and guess who was guilty. ME. It was because i was an unthankful monster and If i never asked for food this would have never happened and she was screaming for 10 mintues at me. When my dad told her to calm down she kept screaming even more. Next thing, when I go to the toilet she also screams at me because I apparently went "too often" and she had to clean up afterwards, which makes no sense. And another thing that makes absolutely no sense is that she keeps calling me lazy and also screams at me that I don't cook for myself, YET IF I ASK TO COOK, she doesn't let me just keeps screaming at me.

Ok so my little brother is 13 and I'm 16 he recently fell off his skate board while going up the half pipe and broke his arm now he wants me help him *** should I do this

My brother in law is a recovering alcoholic. Before all this we would let him barrow money my husband and I. It went from 20 bucks to 50 to 100 to buying him a phone to paying his food etc. In his time of need we were all there. His wife Hates me but she has no idea that he has been cheating on her for a while now. He used our car and money to take this girl out. Later on we found that out. We let him barrow 140 to get a car out of the mechanic. He later sold this car for 500. We haven't seen any of our money. He owes a lot of people money especially for a weeding that never happened on his behave. And more then 1000 he owes us. Now I'm in desperate need to pay my daughters medical bills. My husband asked him if we can have our share of the money that he got from the car. He said he spent it on his DUI legal issues jail, classes ,fines etc. That he is so finacially in debt that he can't give us anything at all. 1 week later we find out that his wife is pregnant. If you can't afford to pay someone 140 that you've owed for over a year. Not jncuding my 1000 why the he'll would you bring another child into this world? Am I wrong to feel this way? We always had to help this guy out because he's my husbands brother. But now that we need help we get nothing. Should I feel this way?

Basically Carphone Warehouse are selling the iPhone 5S Brand new for £250. I have nearly £400 in my bank account... It's not like I'm asking them to pay for it. I can go and take £250 cash out my card right now if I wanted to. I'd happily walk down the road and to the store. It'd take about 25 minutes. They said "If you leave this house, you're grounded" My mum is from Brooklyn so she hasnt gotten used to the british terms yet lol. I'd order it online, but one of them would need to sign for it because I'm not 18 until September. right now i have a galaxy s3. i have done since early 2014. I love it but now the S7 is out, it's getting old lol I means I had the s3 since early 2013

Basically i am 34, i have always been really close to my parents & have always been there for them. If they dont see me every day, they moan & groan & ask me where ive been etc. All i ever do is work because my friends have always been selfish & dont like doing anything. I did start seeing this guy but its not really working as hes not always that nice, i even heard my father say 'She doesn't bother with us when hes home' but thats not true. I only see my guy for 2 days every month cos he works away. That shocked me because i see them normally every day. I have always wanted to move abroad but its hard finding work etc & ive always backed down because i know my mother would miss me dreadfully - she always wants to be with me, visit my house etc because dad goes to sleep after work very early so shes alone all the time. But he came home the other night & dropped the bombshell he and my mother are moving to France when he retires in a few years. He said they will be closer to my brother & its not so far so i can visit but ive suddenly realised I will be all alone in this town - my parents are the only people i see, its not from me not trying - I do join loads of things & always busy but i am 100% alone. My brother has said him & his wife will visit them & stay all the time but i am the furthest away so wont be able to so ill never see them. My brother earns way more than me. I think its really great for them & im happy but i dont know what to do. I want to move out of this town but i need to get a job first where i want to move to. I like in uk & would love to move to Europe. Ive put CV;s out everywhere but nothing yet & sometimes i wake up in the morning & think ' I dont want to be here any more, also when they move I will have nothing, so i dont evan want to get out of bed. I just want to sleep because loneliness it so bad. I dont have kids or married etc & i know if i ever do have kids my parents wont see them because they to far away. My parents are my entire life because we get on so well & are sooooo close All i see is an empty life completely alone with nothing. At least when my parents live here, i can see them & when they pass away I can visit their graves etc but when they move to a different country ill never see them again. I actually feel sick because i just cant make myself happy any more. Does anybody know how i can just move 7 start my life all over again by myself because thats all i keep thinking now, its just me & my two cats vs the world - completely alone! I have a house here & a mortgage which i could rent but i am on a high paid job here which means i will need to quiet & find a new one in france I am looking everywhere but cant find nothing & last night my parents were looking at houses for me miles away but my house is very pretty so i don't want to move somewhere horrible. My dad kept saying 'thats nice, this is nice' but they were like seriously squats - it seemed like he was just thinking 'Oh just go here so your out of our way & then we can move' i felt like crying & felt like an old granny being told im being put in a home. Pls note i do live alone, i dont live with my parents but they said they will only move when im in a better city but my dad started getting annoyed because i didnt like the houses there. My ex told me years ago (i was very young) & he wanted to move, i was trying to find a job & was a bit low cos i couldn't find one so i said 'Im sorry, i must be like a loose round your neck, holding you back' and he agreed & said 'yes you are!' He went on to cheat with his student & got sacked anyway but now i think 'oh god, i must be such an inconvenience to people' when all i ever do is be there for them.

I live with my grandpa and mom my home life isn t the best I m not abused but my grandpa yells at me 24/7 for me doing something wrong or me not doing anything and my mom doesn t care what I do she s never there for me when she is we always end up yelling at each other anyway. i won t let myself go into foster care cause I d be placed in a group home for the next 4 years. My boyfriend is in the same situation and we ve been talking lately about running away together. I kinda just wanna know if it s worth it or if I should just stay where I am till I m 18.

I'm an Indian expat living in Dubai. I was born there and did my schooling (k-12) in Dubai. I came home to India and did college in Bangalore. As I completed 12th grade, there was an agreement that I would finish 3 years in India, come back to Dubai do TOEFL, GMAT work experience for 2-3 years (and use part of that earned money for MBA along side my dad's financial help) and as well do PG course in order to fit the criteria required for admission in USA. Now that I'm done with college dad all of a sudden flipped and said that MBA isn't going to happen because I have only 3 years (he knows very well that a PG course can be done to fit the criteria) and he is instead planning to send me to Delhi for work experience training and that when I come back to Dubai I'm expected to start my career without an MBA. I got so pissed there was a huge argument and I ended up telling him to "f*ck off" and hung up. We have a really strained relationship. It got worse when he married without telling me when I was in year 1 because he was 'scared' I would not accept it (my biological mother passed away when I was a kid) he promised he would give me whatever I wanted after his marriage but it was just butter talks... He did whatever he wanted for his comfort but he lied the whole time of supporting me. I have depression problems and have a consular, she is trying to contact my dad to make him understand.I'm stressed here and haven't eaten well for a few days. I really want to do an MBA abroad ?

I'm 18 and I've told my brother that he is way too young to be smoking weed because he's still growing but he said he doesn't care. What should I do about this? I'm not getting my parents involved, unless they really need to know about it.

My Grandmother died a few years ago.My father told me she didn't leave anything but I really doubt that. Is there a way to find out if she did leave anything? *My parents are divorced and its on my paternal side of the family. They usually say things which aren't quite true, So some kind of law or something might make it a bit easier.

I have one son and one daughter (8 and 10) and I cannot conjure up a feeling of love for them at all. When they were born my family was excited, I guess I was happy-ish? My wife said that she is bored of them, and I agree. These kids are boring. They exhibit none of my complimenting features. They lack my good nose, almond eyes, and thick brows. All that they have of mine is my skin complexion and my hair, both of which are good, but not the best of my features. If they died I wouldn't feel sad. I actually want them to die. My wife said we should just kill them, but I said it was a stupid idea. The parents are always the first suspects. I used to be so happy and full of life, but they came along and ruined it. I miss the 90's. Why don't I love them? I mean, to a certain extent I feel free since I won't be weighed down by grief if they die, like I see other parents when their kids die and they look absolutely trashy. So, yeah, why don't I love them?

Before I get started, let me let you know that last year I got good grades in school, no problems with parents, no anger issues, no trouble, my life was completely fine. This year, I completely fell apart. During the first card marking, I had the "its only middle school i dont care it doesnt matter", and because of that I got a 2.8 GPA first card marking which really stressed me out. Because of the stress my grades have added on me, I've continued to do worse and worse each card marking. I've gotten suspended two times this year, 10 detentions, other forms of punishment because of my attitude and I can't seem to just keep my mouth shut. There's nothing for my parents to be proud of me of. I get bad grades, I don't listen to my parents, they have to constantly tell me to do things for me to listen, for instance, I never clean my room because I'm too lazy and my mom tells me every single day to clean my room. I've gained anger issues, I get mad very easily and I tend to rage at my parents. I keep digging myself deeper and deeper into a hole. Currently, both my parents are mad at me, I'm grounded, my recent GPA was 1.1 gpa, I'm on a suspension (Started Wednesday, ends Monday), I yelled at my parents yesterday, and not to mention, I've been sneaking out and I feel really bad about it and I don't plan on doing it ever again. The suspension I'm on right now made me realize how hard I'm making my life. I want to change, I want to be like everyone else. Please help me, I'm depressed.

We moved in because his grandfather passed and she said she needed help. Whenever we got there she said "Ya'll pay a third of the bills and buy all the food for the house and clean and cook" .. I'm just staring at her like what the heck?! I make roughly 7.50$ and hour an old work 3 days a week for 6 hours at that time?! MY CHECKS ARE PRETTY MUCH NOTHING. My whole checks will be going straight to the house. She makes around 1,000+ a month from disability. That don't even count the money she will be getting since her husband passed. Whenever I addressed this situation to my boyfriend he said he would take my part of bills and just let me supply food. I still think its crazy because she's pretty much getting a free ride?! But what is even crazier is we have no say-so as what goes on. We have our own room but she said she's allowed to come in and snoop through whatever she likes?! and she made our inside dogs (since they was born) be outside. Our dogs are friendly and house trained and she knows it?! Today she even went out to the store and bought stuff and said "When you get paid, you pay me back" I DIDN'T EVEN ASK FOR THE STUFF NOR WAS IT ANYTHING FOR ME?!? Me and my boyfriend decided we HAVE to leave, but the only problem is how will we save money to rent a new place when we have to blow our checks on her. Plus where we are from nothing is coming available for rent. I'm so stressed and miserable and we've only been here for 5 days. :(

I am always afraid the relatives of my mothers who she is not close to will think less of me as her kid since they don't see me as often. As a result I am more determined to impress them. My mother has two uncles she does not like. She chooses not to have a relationship with their children who are all really nice people. My mother's siblings (except one) are the same way. So my question is how do I avoid people feeling this way about me? I worry they do because of whose kid I am. My Dad was an only child so I have no cousins on his side of the family and it makes my mother's side all the more important.

me and my girlfriend have 2 kids together we both go out i go for a coffee she goes to my mums at night to watch the soaps but well first problem i get phonecall atleast 15 mins after i leave then it continues till i get back in then today about half hour ago she tells me to look for nappies where she says i look and told her they werent there she then starts saying to the bairn lets go look whre i just looked for the nappies because there there even my mum looked and none there so arguements insued between me and her but it hap[pens alot or the fact i cant sleep with my tablets at night so im up half the night but i get woke up at 6 every morning to go to nursery so she can go to bed then i get told to do stuff that she could have done like grab the wipes thats maybe 5 feet away from her or go make her a cupper or go to shop because she cant be botherd its maybe 50 steps from the house and after all this she still expects me to sit in the house with the kids 9 times out of ten then shes made me give up a cooking group because i can only take one of the kids because the oldest isnt aloud in the crech because hes in the nursery in the morning and now shes just told me her soaps are on every night so shes going to be out

My mother is always nagging me for being lazy. She humiliates me, always screaming out my flaws so loud that the whole neighborhood can hear. And she only picks out the bad things I do, she always tries to look like the one that does everything when it's actually not true. School is tiring and even though it really is, I still come home, sweep the house, clean the sink and cook. But none of this is good enough. When she cooks for just one night, the next day, I do everything but when she comes home she'll see that one of the cushions is on the floor and then start nagging me for everything under the sun, screaming out loud to the world that I was sleeping yesterday and she cooked. So everyone in the neighborhood hates me and I just hate it. The other time I argued with her (yay -.-) the whole neighborhood hates me even more. I realized she will NEVER apologize even when she is wrong. I had a really bad fever and I wasn't responding so she poured coffee on me which resulted in me crying the whole night and my dad was out somewhere drinking. Even when we found out I had Dengue fever, she never made any apologies for the way she treated me. I was still made to continue being the cleaner. Sitting her down and talking to her is not possible because she is always right. Nothing she does is wrong and she has nothing to apologize for. I hate everyone in the neighborhood for the way they look at me.

I have a cousin 22 years younger than I am. He is going to have a little sister this year which makes her 24 years younger than I am. My oldest cousin is 4 years older than I am which makes the age difference between him and the upcoming cousin 28 years.

Tonight I have been watching Ellen and how she gives money to people that are in need and I think of my mom and my family and I started to cry

My brother is a teenager. I still live at home and I'm 23 years old. He is actually technically my half brother (same mother, different dad). My brother spends partial time with his dad and some time here with my mom and I and my 21 year old brother, and my dad. He always complains how he likes his dad's place better and how our place is disgusting and messy when it isn't. Also, he hates not having his own room (he shares with my mom) because the space is tight here. My brother is always complaining. What to do?

They ve always wanted me to go to a medical school but I too admission in microbiology. Now every single day they keep demotivating me about how I am going to end up nowhere and will be left with no money. Also, music is my passion and I have always wanted to take lessons to enhance my skills but my dad thinks I dont have ability to learn to sing. They think I sound harsh so I shouldnt waste my time into all this. I feel so broken as my own parents never support me and I feel like killing myself. Please help! : /

Hi! I'm fifteen and I live in a triple decter(house with 3 apartments) and my father owns the house, we live in the first floor. A while back, a man and his mother moved in to the second floor. The mother is very close to me as she is my best friends grandmother. But her son is dangerous, violent, and aggressive. In short, he is crazy. He had a bad motorcycle accident a while back and now his temper is really bad. He may or may not do drugs, but he takes a lot of medicine for diabetes and whatnot. In six months alone, we had to call the police on him four times. The first was because he had a fight with my cousin (the crazy guy smashed his car window), the second was because he was angry for some reason and his mom called the police on him, then another time because he was angry. This morning we had to call the police on him because he was upset about the kids in the third floor (my nieces) making a ruckus (their room is ontop of his). He yelled that he wanted my mother in law and nieces out of the house and my dad had to come out. When we said that we were calling the police he freaked and broke my cousins car windows. Before all of that he got into a fist fight with my best friends step-father and punched his mother. And a month ago he choked my nieces grandma because he thought that she was a robber. I'm sorry if this is really long but I need to know how I can convince my father to kick this guy out. I believe that my family's safety is being compromised.

I am 20 years old, almost 21 and I feel like my parents shelter me too much. Im not allowed to sleep over at anyones house, not allowed to go for a weekend trip somewhere, or if I go out I have to text my parents constantly (which I can understand) I work 10:30-7:30 Monday to Friday and usually the whole week I spend at home, the only days I really go out is Friday, Saturday, and the occasional Sunday, usually my boyfriend has dinner with us Sundays though. My point is, for my age I feel like my parents are restraining me on a lot of things, and I don't think it's fair. It's to the point where I want to move out because it's getting so ridiculous. The other day I was sick and throwing up, so I was resting in bed, and my dad gave me the silent treatment and got mad at me for not doing anything. This happens almost every weekend, and if i don't go out enough, they get mad, if I do they get mad. It's a no win Ive thought about moving out, and I make enough to do so with my boyfriend so were ok. And it's not that if I'm out late they worry. they know exactly who I'm with and have their numbers.. One time i didn't reply to a text in 10 minutes and my mom started calling my boyfriend and grounded me..

I am 20 years old and have been going out a bit, I work Monday to Friday 10:30-7:30 and by the time I get home I will eat, and usually go to bed. My parents are very controlling and won't let me do certain things, like sleep over at other peoples houses, go on a trip somewhere for the weekend, or even let me go out without telling them where i am going. It's to the point where it's getting very annoying Also, I spend all week at home. The only times I go out is Friday and Saturday, and usually Sunday my boyfriend will come over for dinner or i'll stay home

My dad has aspergers and isn't involved in my life. My mom is very enabling and isn't physically abusive but she allows a lot of things to go on our house. She's very emotionally and verbally abusive. Things used to be very physically abusive between my sibling when I was younger, I remember having to run and hide from my sister because she tried to kill me with a knife. She lets my sister bring illegal drugs into our home and all of her druggie friends. My little brother is extremely violent, he throws knives, plays with fire, threatens to hurt me, had chased me around with a frying pan and thrown things at me. But then whenever I try to talk to my mom about it she tells me that I'm the one with the problem. Not a day goes by without screaming and fighting in my house. I hate it so much. I'm fifteen years old and I'm sick of living in this dysfunction. Would cps even believe me? Our family looks like the "perfect Christian family" on the outside but on the inside I'm scared for my life. How would I have to get cps to believe me?

first problem is that my sister's boyfriend has tried to attack me couple of times (by attack i mean he sounded like he wanted to rape me) i even have video. the obous solution is to move out, but the next problem is money. i do get money from ssi and for me to get that moeny i have to be depended on my mom is result my mom can take out the money. she had recently not given me any of the money (she takes out all the money before i cant get to the bank cause i have school) i can get a job and move out but there is another problem. i have two dog, one belongs to my mom and Im able to take her but the other dog "belongs" to my sister. basiclly 4 years ago my sister brought a dog home and paid for the vet bills for a year till she moved out and i had to pay for it. she moved back a year later and still didnt pay for the vet bills. i registered the dog under my name but i didnt know that she had paper ownership. she has said that if i move out she will take me to court. i have told her that she will pay me for what i have paid but she say "im not paying for anything because you stole the dog from me". many people have told me to leave the dog but another problem is that her abusive boyfriend kicks the dogs for barking and sometimes for no reason. fianlly my biggest problem is that if i can take both dogs and get a job, i have no where to go. there arent that many places in L.A. that allow dogs and worse these dogs bark a lot.many friends have said i can live with them but the dogs where always a deal breaker. what do i do? i have tried to think of ways to leave but i have ran out of ideas sorry that if you cant understand most of what i wrote its cause im dyslexic.

im 13 and i feel like i love my mom too much. i always want to be around her and i always want to have some sort of physical contact but i never hug or kiss her because emotions and affection make me uncomfortable and feel weird. i always get upset when my mom leaves to work and whenever she decides to go out with her friends and she comes home later than she said she was, i feel like she s abandoning me. and when she decides to hang out with a guy she s been talking to i get extremely bitter and short with my answers. i only want her to be with me all the time and whenever she leaves i feel as though she s betraying me because i dont want her to leave me. i want to talk to her about the way i feel but i feel uncomfortable talking about my feelings so i act out instead. what do i do? is this normal?

When i am at school i am quiet and shy but when i am at home im loud hyperactive and never stop talking

hi .........today was off to a crazy start i was woken up because a police officer came to my door ......sent by my aunt and after talking somehow it got to my mom who hasen't been in my life at all until a year ago and it came up that i was only born so my mom could get welfare money after hearing that i was hurt my dad dosent even care he said its nothing but its not happening to him so of course hell say that right? i was told a lot about my mom by my aunt like how she didn't want me due to my dad not wanting her but i try not to believe it but its hard not to because of the way she is i recently a few months ago kicked her back out of my life by deleting her on my social media due to other things and ignored her since i didn't even call her on mothers day i also have a step mother who i feel has done better anyways...i really.....want to die after hearing this has your parents said worse to you im curious...........im angry at my mom and dad and kinda hate them as well now is this normal...........my dad once said a few years back i was kinda a mistake as well but i dont know if hes lying that im was the best one to him........either way i dont know if ill still be alive tomorrow but if i am ill be happy to listen to any possible advise

My sister talks about me and my grandma it's very sad we trying to help her with her issue but she throws angry at me for no reason I try to be friendly me and my grandma both she is rude and disrespect and when my grandma ask her for money she ALWAYS sigh and shut and she complains about the teachers and are school and we are seniors also we took are finals so we can leave early and I was calling my grandmother on the phone to tell her im ready to leave and she ask when was my sister at I said I don't know and she want me to go look for her so we can get are dresses for prom and when I did she was in gym class standing their like a dummy and walking so slow and grin like a idiot. She thinks im the bad person when really we just trying to help her she is crazy. Were twins

I didn't do nothing wrong and all I was trying to do was make a conversation with her and she said "don't follow me and being rude and nasty and today I ask her can she do my hair and she sigh and got all mad I don't know what her problem is and she always repeated herself and gets mad at her cat say "MOVE OUT OF WAY" and stomps her feet she is ungrateful and rude I say to myself she well get payback. And today I want to use her panties and she said yelling at me "Why are you looking in my drawer" and today and yesterday she was taking forever in target and my grandma want her to hurry up she takes 3 hours in there. And today I had this thing at school I got a award on and she didn't graduate me on it very rude and mean and she sleep alot. PLEASE ANSWER ME. We both have no friends

I was asking my sister why was she looking in my dresser drawer and she gave me a nasty attitude, her response was: Her: "I'M BORROWING ONE OF YOUR F***** PANTIES, DUMB***" I just asked her nicely about why she was looking in my dresser drawer and she's yelling at me and cursing for no reason. She always gets a nasty attitude with me and I give her a nasty attitude back because it's wrong of her to do that and she starts it for no reason. She is the one who starts the nasty attitude, not me. She curses and yells really loud at me for no reason. We have this mirror in our bedroom and everyday she'll always be looking at herself in it and hogs it all for herself, taking pictures of herself for a really long time. She never talks or hangs out with me. And then she'll say some stupid crap to me, she'll say: Her: "NO YOU SHUTUP, YOU'RE THE ONE WHO'S MAD. NO YOU'RE MAD, NOT ME. YOU SOUND STUPID." I just say to myself "one day she'll get payback for the rude/mean things to said to me" We're feternal twins btw.

She makes me feel insecure and she is emotionally draining. I still live with her but I plan on going to school and getting a job. Right now I'm trying to gain confidence and get into shape, I dont want my problems affecting me. I live with her so its her rules, fine. Its just that she has no boundaries when it comes to what she can and cannot say to me. If I do a 1000 things right she'll focus on one thing I did wrong. She says she can talk to me how I want because shes the parent, even when its uneccessary. When I order takeout, she hovers at the stairs sometimes as if I'm too dumb to exchange money. I order all the time with no problem! If I dress a certain way she has an opinion about it then when I get insecure or upset, she says I have issues or retracts her comment because she know its wrong but she doesn't regret it, thinking shes witty. Many strangers have liked my style, its like gq or h&m. I been to therapy, she made me go. But when I told her the therapist told me I have toxic family she then said the therapist was crazy. She contradicts and confuses things, and is dismissive. When she has problems with certain family members she complains. When I complain about the same family members she says I should stop complaining and acting like a victim. Im a strong person but I know when I need to speak out. She wont listen, and she doesn't take my problems seriously. She gossips and laugh about stuff, letting other people influence her judgement.

I'm home from college this summer and I'm being kind of an a/hole my parents, especially my mom. I feel bad, honestly. My parents are good people. They've done so many things for me to help me succeed. But sometimes I get frustrated with them because I feel like they never hear me out. if I'm struggling with a particular issue and need help with something...they just never get it. Whenever I try telling my mom about something that's been bothering me, she just won't listen to me, or she just doesn't understand it and doesn't have any recourse or suggestions..it's like I'm taking this problem so seriously and my mom just thinks it's a joke which makes the problem so much worse and I start getting angry and lashing out. Anybody else have this problem? I would try therapy but I've had bad experiences with it and I don't feel comfortable with the whole idea.

my dad got a new job last year and he stays home most of the time and works at home and travels every few months for few weeks.. but my dad is very overprotective and treats me like a child. i dont get any privacy anymore bc he comes into my room every minute when he is bored and asks me questions and just looks at what im doing.. that makes me nervous idk why. i dotn do anything bad.. but i dotn like that. and he is always home, so i just dont feel compfortable? i spend too much time with him.. and he annoys me bc he plays the piano, guiter, or plays with my dog when im trying to focus on stuff. he also calls my name every min and if i dont asnwer, he gets mad and comes check on me so i dont feel compfortable listening to music, watching tv, studying, etc He makes me walk outside, ride my bike, go out for dinner, hang out with him when i barely have time to use the bathroom bc i take 3 AP classes and i need good. control. of. my. time! im 16 and im a girl and every month my mood can change to getting annoyed by everything and im also on my teen puberty and stuff so i get mood swings.. my dad is really annoying and i want to deal with this problem without telling him how i feel bc he is a very sensative person and im introverted and i just want to leave and go to collegeeeee :(

Like today we were in target and I was trying some clothes on in target and when I came out she was getting a nasty attitude with me and I wasn't even taking long trying the clothes on. This is what she said Her: "WHERE WERE YOU AT?" Me: "in the dressing room." Her: "FOR WHAT!" Me: "Trying on some clothes" Her: "GO PAY FOR YOUR F**** STUFF NOW, DON'T MAKE MO SENSE FOR SOMEONE TO TAKE THAT LONG" And then when we got in the car she she said to me: Her: "YOU'RE REALLY RETARDED. SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH YOU. DON'T MAKE NO SENSE FOR SOMEONE TO TAKE THAT LONG IN A STORE. YOU DON'T GIVE A **** ABOUT NOBODY. YOU DON'T EVEN WANT TO GO TO SCHOOL, YOU'RE NOT GOING TO MAKE IT IN ANY COLLEGE YOU GO TO" When she said all that mean stuff to me It really hurt my feelings and I didn't appreciate it. I am crying right now while typing this. I am feeling a little suicidal. I feel like nobody cares about me. I am thinking about killing myself, but haven't attempted anything. She's trying to say that I am worthless and selfish and I am none of those things. I just ignored her and mind my own bussiness when she said that to me. She is the mean and rude one for saying hateful things like that. She'll get payback one day for saying all those mean things to me. Please no trolling and no rude answers. My mother is deceased. Rude trolling answers. I reported you dumb idiots.

My step dad doesn't like me, my mom disowned me, and my brother and sister hate me. I cant take being here with no where else to go with everyone in my family hating me and me crying myself to sleep every night, this morning I just fell into an extremely depressed state and wanted to kill myself or run away but I don't want to have my family hurt by any choice I make but heres why before I ask for advice, my stepdad was dropping me off to school and the whole time he told my little brother to stay away from me that I'm a worthless piece of crap and he even got my brother to tell me no one cares about me whenever I started to tear up because he said even my mom disowned me and that she would rather love a bum off the street rather than me and shes my own flesh and blood and after that he started calling me the n word and how I screw up everyones life and why am I even on this planet if all I do is f up and my mom telling me she doesn't care about me shes only helping me because of my future daughter (if I even have one) and I really want to die, my family doesn't want me and I really dont know what to do because ive been having really dark thoughts please help me I don't know how to handle this **I meant If I have a child in the future

Hi so I've been on a swim team for about a year this is my second year on the team. So I have time trials coming up and I'm nervous because I feel like I'm not good. Idk what is considered "good" for a 13 year old but I know that some peoples get in the 20s but they have been swimming for years and years. So my last meet last summer I got 38.2 seconds. So I wang to know is that like good? Like I know I'm not a HECKA good but for a 13 year old girl who's only been swimming for a year is that good? Thanks and plz no rude comments

They're pathetic underachievers who do absolutely nothing right. I put my son in boxing, and chess club so he can bring me some pride, but nothing! He stopped going behind my back! I put my daughter in ballet and she is so clumsy she falls all the time. She doesn't put on any makeup, and she doesn't do her hair. She says she dresses for comfort, not for style. All my other friends have amazing kids, math wizards, spelling bee champions, swimming champions. Me- I get nothing from my kids. Every time I visit my mother she always says "Ty, when are you going to make victors out of those kids?" It's embarrassing. My wife is too lenient on them. I cut back on my leniency, like the times I let them watch t.v. Those luxuries are over. How do I make them more motivated? Please help, this is my last resort, I don't want to do therapy.

My dad and I were walking and I know this sounds really bad and disrespectful, I love my dad but I dont know what got into me and I just suddenly kicked him. I didn't mean to do it, I really mean it. I said sorry so many times but he won't even look at me. I would never kick him on purpose but I just suddenly kicked him. I feel so stupid and guilty and I don't know what to do.

My mean grandmother Is trying to blame me and is trying to say I did something on purpose to my sister's phone. I am not the type of person who would do things on purpose, i did not do anything on purpose i was trying to see if i knew the password to my sisters phone. Today, we were at this event and my sister was on stage for this sport celebration at school and this is what my grandmother said while we were at the event. And my grandmother was holding my sister's phone and she doesn't know how to work a cell phone so I believe she accidently did something wrong because my sister said that the password wasn't working. Grandma: "take some pictures on your sisters phone" Me: "I don't know her password on her phone. I'll take them on my phone" Then, when we got home my sister said that the password or something like that wasn't working on her phone. And my mean grandmother tried to say that I did something wrong on purpose and I didn't because I wasn't holding my sisters phone and I did not do anything on purpose and I only typed in one password that I thought would work on my sisters phone, but that password was invalid. I did nothing on purpose. Please no trolling and no hateful, rude answers. And then my sister said "EVERYBODY JUST SHUT THE HELL UP" My mother is deceased.