I have everything that I want in my wedding whenever I do get married. Is it weird lol? I just want to be prepared& when I do get married I don't want to be running around worried or stressed out. I need opinions Please?

Im 23 year old female my fiancée and I been togther 2 in half years we have two children we haven't had sex in 4 months since my fiancée gotten sick with diabetes and other health problems. I get very horny how do I cope with it?

So my ex boyfriend who's 21, asked me so what's your plan for your future? When I thought to myself in my head like um okay why do you care? He'd already married and has a daughter so why would he wanna know about my future then? Since I'm out of his life...

My friend and her ex have been trying to co parent but it doesn t always work out. To be honest I think she still has feelings for him and keeps the child away on purpose out of spite. I told her to think of her child and put this aside but she don t listen. The ex got married recently and now he and his new wife who has had involvement in the child s life are suing for custody. I think they could win because they are more stable and my friend has 2 other children by 2 other men. I try to be there and support her but it don t look good. She thinks cause she s the mother she will win automatically. What do you think. Can the ex really win even though father hardly win custody?

Everybody acts like your wedding is one of the biggest events of your life. Funny thing is... I don't want one. I'm completely and totally in love with my girlfriend. I want to be with her forever. I want there to be commitment between us. We're lesbians, and I've kept our relationship from my family and don't plan on revealing it. We aren't close with my folks. I feel like a wedding would make me uncomfortable. But marriage would mean easier taxes. Is that worth it? Maybe we could just get promise rings. I don't know. I feel like marriage is so old-fashioned and just isn't "us". But I want us to be together forever. What should I do?

my parents aren't divorced but by home still feels pretty broken..

I can't go into details out of respect for my wife but her's the general idea: Wife and I experimented like normal 23/24 year olds do. Lots of sex, lots of kink, some toys, but lots of fun. She suddenly changes her story from "we're having fun and I love this" to "I only did this for you". By her doing this flip flop, she made me feel guilty for the things we did because she basically just implied that the answer was "no" and I manipulated her do it against her will... Not cool... Feeling ashamed of myself and unsure of the truth, I immediately stopped ALL FORMS of sex. It remained this way for 11 years, with her trying to start our sex life again several times but never truly getting it right because I'm making her take the initiative and she doesn't want to... Tonight I came clean with her about how that situation made me feel and she thinks I'm being "lazy" and "petty" for not initiating sex with her like a "man is supposed to" just because she told me that I "forced her to do things she didn't like". I explained to her that the law is set up that if she truly felt that way then she could have prosecuted me for marital rape. She said she would never do that and I told her that I wasn't going to take those chances; she lied to me once, she could do it again. I told her if she wants ANY sex that she absolutely MUST pursue me first so I know it isn't rape. She refuses and says it is a man's job to get the girl. What do you think? Am I lazy? Or am I covering my a**?

My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We have a two year old together and I have two children from a different marriage. Everything has been so great until recently. Some girl on Facebook ended up having apicture of his private part. They were even talking about how they both love sex. I then found him talking to a girl on Skype asking if she took credit cards for nasty pics. Then my 20 year old daughter and I talked about this she told me that when he gave her his old phone she saw nasty things. She saw that he was on Craig's list looking for women seeking men . I just do not know what to do. He works out of town and is gone most of the time. Two years ago one of his oil field buddies and the guys wife told me that my husband was cheating on me. I didn't believe them at first but now I have all this evidence of him cheating online.

Isn't this rude?

Can you believe this? Apparently, her highness made it my job to make her happy! Remind me how this works again? If i'm supposed to make her happy, isn't she supposed to do the same? What am i? A husband or a servant?

just recently I turned 18. So i can now legally I get married. why would i do that? is there a financial insentive to it? I am not "in love with anyone" but a friend and I might get married just for the sole purpose of some kind of benifits whatever they may be?

I have no interest in going to college which really upsets my parents. I am getting married next month after my high school graduation. My parents keep telling me that I am too young to get married and need to go off to college and "find myself', whatever that means. All I want to do is get married, have 4 or 5 children and be a housewife in a pretty house in a nice suburb somewhere. I want to be the perfect housewife and make sure my husband and kids are happy and fed. I don't want to ever work and want to be taken care of. My parents have said that I am going to end up unable to fend for myself in the future if I go down this path. You don't need to go to college to be a good housewife. It's also easier to have a baby than it is to write an essay.

They assured me they will not get divorced. My mother had a temper tantrum because my Dad told her he had a certain amount of money and she learned he did not. Also he hadn't filed his taxes in 4 years. I agree he was wrong to lie but feel my mother over reacted and my two siblings agree. So how can I stop feeling sad? People are asking me questions so much about it and asking if they are divorcing and when I tell them they promised not to they tell me not to believe them on that. One friend's parents had the exact same thing and his Dad turned out to be having an affair. I don't think that is happening here but I am scared it could be anything. Plus my mother, what if she is having one or planning a divorce and not telling me? I am 13.

Before you call me stupid realize I am looking for help not shame. She bullied us into giving her our ss# and dob. Now I am freaked out. I just want to know what we need to do to protect our info. We have pretty bad credit, but I need to know how to find out if any type of accounts have been opened in our names over the past couple of months.

I am in a trial separation and have decided to divorce the SOB now that I hear he has quit his job. I don't want my (technically our) three kids seeing him anymore. I want them to know how horrible he is. My mother has warned me this may do damage to them but I told her that is BS as they are mine now. So if we divorce can I be the main parent and decide that they are not allowed to see him anymore or if they were to only when I let them? Can he sue me like my mother claims if I tell them how evil he is?

My grandma (adopted) is extremely controlling and opinionated. She bossed my 1st husband around and told him how to run his life and marriage & he left and married someone else eventually. She is now bossing my current husband around as well. He wants to buy his own truck and start his business as an owner operator and she has gotten in his face & told him she won't allow it. On Thanksgiving- she chewed my father in law out about my son "being disrespectful" to me and basically told them they didnt know how to raise their son properly, they left right afterwards (she ran them off). I own my OWN HOME, across town and she tells me what I can do, says no pets and to get rid of the ones I have, etc. She does nothing but scream @ and boss my oldest son around @ restaurants. I dont know if it is an attention seeking behavior thing, but many people are commenting on it and it is bugging them. I have tried to tell her "this is none of your business " or "what I do in my personal life doesnt concern you!" her reply is "OHHH YEAH?! IT DOES CONCERN ME!" She constantly tells me to divorce my husband and just plain bullies me. What can I do to nip this in the bud? She is almost 93! About their son (my husband) NOT my son****

I love my wife, but for seven years all I wanted from her was a son and instead got 4 daughters. This issue has caused no end to problems in our marriage I'm fed up and at the end of my rope with this now. Right now I'm living apart from her with my partner. A year ago I had a fling with the waitress at the local diner, and guess what? Strong healthy boy on the first go with a woman I didn't even have feeling for then. And yet the woman I took to be my eternal companion can't manage that much for me, just once, in spite of the home and luxuries I've provided for her. No more. If she can't give me a son, I'm leaving her permanently for the woman who did. However, like I said-- Even though I don't approve of the progeny my wife has provided me, I do have love for her. So if possible I'd like to break this to her as gently as possible, so that if we can't be lovers, we may at least be friends.

For example my girlfriend removed the name from her ex husbands number in her contacts. This was after I discovered some rather friendly texts from him to her and a text mocking me. She still talks to him as they share kids however now when he calls his number comes up without his name. Also she will leave her cell phone face down when I am around and will take it into the bathroom with her. She also lied about what she had for dinner and where she ordered food from one night. I never confronted her. Is this odd?

He decided to leave a month ago and tells me he still cares about me know a month later I feel like I'm starting to be myself again we have been together for 7 years I dedicated all my teenage years to him and he decided to leave and I found out he was seeing someone behind my back I had to make him spill the beans and I would not forgive him for cheating on me because he left me pregnant and with my other child who is 6. I clearly told him if he was sure what he was doing and he just left so why is he playing games telling me he still loves me do you think he really means it?

i want to ******* die help me

My husband is very picky and thus sometimes very hard to please. Last year I got him a watch, T-shirt with a funny foreign word that he likes, and a cute mug for his birthday. I also had a gift basket delivered to his work. I remember he was not into anything I gave him at the time, and it got me upset and we even argued. This year I thought I would give him items that he can actually use. He likes to cook, so I got him a fish spatula, a brand new frying pan, and an apron that says "trophy husband". As he opened the gift I could tell he was not pleased. He then commented saying that what I gave him was barely a gift and that I am just putting him to work. It might have been a harsh joke but I was really hurt and upset because I really put a lot of effort in buying those items as I am currently not working. Now we argued about it today while he was at work because I brought it up. He doesn't admit to the fact that he is ungrateful. Am I being to sensitive or what?

I really wonder what do women feel toward their husbands. I'm married since 2004 I don't feel love toward mine anymore! I don't feel comfortable around him, I always feel I want to run away from him, I tried to avoid him in every situation.. I don't have any more conversation its all bad arguing...is that normal?

He's 51 years old and has been married for 28 years. Loves his wife with all his heart. Has 3 sons, a beautiful home. Believes in God. A few weeks ago he started a relationship with a 24 year old coworker. He's admitted to having feelings for her. He sends her "thinking of you" messages when he's home with his family and calls her a few times a week. He is an emotional person and demonstrates a sense of caring. What doesn't make sense is that he harps on the fact that he knows what he's doing is wrong, being unfaithful to his wife is terrible, but he keeps doing it. He says the 24 yr old weakened him, that he's a weak man. What's really going on? What's the explanation here? Here's the catch - he has not had sex with the 24 year old. Other things, yes, but not sex.

... is the wife responsible in any way? The reason I ask is because this happened to my mom and father. I think my mother was reckless and negligent and should have helped her husband. She had a duty. And, now he is dead. If my father had been in a nursing home then there would have been a "duty" of the nursing staff to make sure he wasn't falling out of bed either, right?

so I was going to marry my unlce but I aint know he was my uncle until after we had relations and what not. my parents been giving me the damn blue over this ish so I just don't even want to do it anymore now im getting death threats from his azz and I don't know what to do about it. I could go to the poh pohs but my aunt is a poh poh and I don't even want her to know whats going on I think she would kill his azz. what the hell am I supposed to do bout this ish? got myself in this bs now imam have to fck my way outa it

Its been a long time coming and its started to become more evident lately. I'm 3 years into my marriage and I feel that things are growing in different directions. My wife is becoming someone I feel like I never thought shed be. In high school, she was smart and ambitious and determined to get her life set up. Since weve been married shes become this yogi, lax hipster. She seems to be living in the moment and has on and off desire to get our lives foward. Im working and going to school fulltime, spending all my time trying to get my life on track, and it seems like I'm all by myself. Earlier this semester I met this girl in my physics class, and I havent been able to stop thinking about her. We have a lot in common and shes driven, about the exact oppiset of my wife. In the entire time I've known my wife I've never felt this way about anyone so I'm feeling confused about this. We got married after high school after going out with both of our parents objecting, it felt so right back then, and now its the exact oppiset. Are these the signs its coming to an end?

Sounds silly but I really just was looking at it and noticed that my clits look as if they're always closed in a way that it's blocking my opening so wondered if that's what they're there for or if they're just there

My girlfriend has had a brown vaginal discharge for over 10 days. It doesn't not smell bad or cause irritation. A lot of websites say it could be pregnancy or implantation bleeding (which we hope it isn't) but that those only last a few hours-a few days. She has had it for a while, does not have morning sickness, sore breasts, or really any other signs of early pregnancy. She also has a BMI of around 14.2. Her cycle used to be extremely irregular, than the last 2 times it was pretty constant. It's is currently a day before her predicted time. Normally her breasts get sore a few days before she gets it and that's not happening. What do you think is causing it? She does not have any STD's

About a year or so into our marriage, his mother got sick and passed away. At which point, he took his anger and pain and hurt out on me. He "left" me (its way more complicated than simply leaving me) he's a otr driver so, he doesntvget to be home much to begin with. He still took care of me and our son... He just, I don't Kno how to explain, he was NOT himself though, he was distant, angry, he barely would speak to me... He would pick fights with me and just come up with reasons to be angry. Well that barely lasted a couple months. But it was to the extream and the polar opposite of the man I married. He broke my heart to be honest, it hurt so badly the things he would say, and he'd ignore my calls for days at a time. He ignored everyone he shut himself off to the world. But, he slowly came back to himself, I pretty much had to drag him out of the darkness to get him back to himself. Family called me weak and insecure because I wouldn't turn my back and leave him. I stayed. Through the bad times. And now about 3 years later he's never left we talk thru any issue were stronger than ever and he is the only one I can count on. So, opinions plz. Yes my husband got lost, he was a complete a hole to me for a few months, did and said things and I pretty much non stop cried for a few months. But i knew it wasn't him. I stayed, and things are better than ever. Weakness or strength to endure?

My wife and I come from toxic paths. I've been beat up and treated like an outcast for most of my life; my wife had hurtful/opinionated parents and has never known how to form healthy relationships. To cope, we decided to shelter ourselves and live in isolation. But escaping toxicity has been hard; it's here, it's on Facebook, it's at the work place, it's in politics, it's in your social circles, everywhere! Since it's inescapable, we've had to develop different ways to cope; so here's how that looks: To be the fittest to survive, I guess I became a bit of a chameleon and developed a kind of "liquid" personality (I constantly evolve depending on who I'm around most). I've been nicknamed by some people as "Dust in the Wind" since I'm easily influenced/manipulated. The only thing "stable" about me is my deep desire to please others, and to live a pleasant & peaceful life. My wife is handling the toxicity differently. Rather than realizing it is a problem with our environment (like I have), she sees it as a personal attack and developed a bit of hyper-vigilance from it. She looks for patterns of abuse and she reacts quickly to protect herself and push power back. She chameleons like me too, but women have it harder than men; society requires them to be "interesting", so she's constantly doing new things, then fails back to apathy after a while (out of fear of criticism/attacks). TBH, keeping up with her is exhausting, but I try. With these details - answer the above question? To clarify, this is a marriage question, not a question about why you dislike me. I accept that you do not like me. Your dislike of me does not influence my feelings for you though; I will always see the good in others, even those who have hurt me countless times. If you come here to talk about my isolation and not my marriage, just know that answers like that will be treated as you taking jabs at me since I'm opening up to you; which honestly makes you no different than the bullies of my past. I should probably add a few things about our household. We do not watch TV. We decided that TV was one way that toxicity entered our life so we just don't watch it. No Game of Thrones, no Walking Dead, nothing. Our home life currently consists of chores, 6 websites or so, rated T or under video games, anime, and raising our kids. So we don't have the exposure like many of you do; we don't have that to relate with either since it just isn't in the home nor is it part of our culture. We've also lived most of our life POOR. We started our relationship moving into an apartment with nothing in savings. We furnished the apartment using my $7,500 credit card and her $1,500; both high APR. Already in big debt, we had a child 9 months later... Next month will be the first month in 15 years that we will have NO credit card debt; going forward we'll have a modest flow of money to create personalities/identities with. So the lack of money hurt our personalities, not mental health.

To start things off I am not a materialistic. I work full time and my husband works full time. We make decent money and we have two children. I picked out a $200 cocktail ring at a pawn shop before we were engaged. I wanted the ring to be a promise ring. I bought the ring and when we left he decided to propose with the ring while we were sitting in the car together. It was in no way romantic and the fact that i bought this ring and it wasn't what I imagined as a wedding ring... it really hurt. In a month our 1 year wedding anniversary will be here. I do everything a wife should do and more. We didn't want a wedding because we have two kids so we got married through the courthouse. It didn't bother me. IT DOES bother my that my husband thinks im materialistic because I told him I want a wedding set. The ring we got married with doesn't even fit my finger and I've lost 30 pounds since having our son. It falls off my finger all the time. I'm just ready to have an actual wedding set. Nothing fancy just something he put time and effort into. Hes a great husband and father.. but it's like he does NOT get where I'm coming from. Being a wife and a mother is hard. I do everything and more that I should do and I work full time.. He has asked my ring size several times this year but when I show him what I want ($1000 range and no higher ) he thinks im materialistic. Am I wrong for feeling a little cheated by the ring I bought ... : ( to the woman who decided to get ugly - does your ring fit your finger ? I never once acted unhappy with my husband. I was thrilled when he proposed and I was thrilled the day I got married with no makeup on and a $15 Old Navy dress. If my husband can afford to buy a pack of cigarettes a day he can find the time and effort to save up for a ring. Even if that ring is only $50 it would be the effort to buy a ring that fit over the dumb things he buys on a daily basis. I guess I didn't do enough background info lol. He asks me regularly over the past year what my ring size is. I have shown him several rings that I liked that were NOT pricey. I found a $100 ring on etsy and he said it was ugly and cheap. I have picked out bands and what not that were inexpensive. I chose a ring that had fake diamonds. IDK . He said if he ever did buy a ring he would want it to be 900-1000 range... thats where i got the pricing limit. For now I'll go to walmart and buy a silver band. and If he ever wants to change it he can. I married my best friend. The order in which I carried about my life has nothing to do with a ring when we both work full time and own a home.

I ve confronted my wife about the texting she does with her boss during the day, and after hours that is not work related. It drives me a bit crazy. They were texting non work related "funny" texts on our way to family vacation last year. Let me know if you think this is flirting... It was her birthday and her work group got her some candy, ice cream gift card, and a coffee card. Nice right. Well when passing pictures around at dinner, I saw that her and her boss texted the following. "Thank you for the sweet card! Thank you for all of the candy and ice cream, were you trying to tell me something?" Boss: "You ve just been talking about candy and ice cream a lot lately so I thought I would help satisfy your craving!" He addresses her as "L" on the card instead of Lillian like all the other employees. I just don t get it. Is this flirting? - why is this necessary? I would think that in a boss / worker relationship a simple "Thank you for the card and gifts" works? Thoughts?

We have been married for a difficult 4 years. We both work full time and have no kids. I study part time at uni and work a demanding full time job. My wife decided that she wanted to go back to China for three weeks and most of the time is being spent visiting her friends and running around... Anyway, I have exams and got left behind. I have been using the time to work on myself and eating healthier. Life is actually more comfortable and less stressful without her. She won't bother calling or replying to myour messages so I don't know what to make of it all. I just hope she is doing the right thing and that I am on her mind? This is the first trip in which she hasn't cared at all about contacting or replying to me. It exacerbates a problem that began months ago with her spending all her time at work and building up her own social activities. The lack of care about me has me wondering if I really should keep going towards moving into our new first home which will be finished in July. I guess I need some answers as to why she can post on her personal space but can't answer a basic message from me... Given the way she used to speak at me, I'm starting to question if I'm in a genuine relationship. I have doubts going through mind.

I found dozens of dirty magazines orderly deposited in 2 lever arch files. He kept even receipts (he mostly buys magazines while he is on a business trip). On the inner side of each arch files there is a list with information regarding purchasing (date and time, location, nr. of receipts, bonus material that was with magazines, for example DVD movie or condom etc.). Few magazines were with pages that stuck together or *** stained. We have regular sex and I am more than pleased with our sex life, but I can't understand why he buys dirty magazines when he can watch porn like many other men.

I bought my husband an apple mac air book laptop that he wanted for sooo long and he rejected it and asked me to return it as he did not like the model and it does not have all the feature he wanted. The bad thing about this situation is that he cheated on me last year with one of his student( he is a university professor) and she accused him but no body believed her because he is respected in his community ( showy person) I hate him and want out of this marriage however, I am in my postgrad school and busy . We have two children. I am so devastated and humiliated because I think he considered me a doormat that he can step on all the time.

My brother in law is a recovering alcoholic. Before all this we would let him barrow money my husband and I. It went from 20 bucks to 50 to 100 to buying him a phone to paying his food etc. In his time of need we were all there. His wife Hates me but she has no idea that he has been cheating on her for a while now. He used our car and money to take this girl out. Later on we found that out. We let him barrow 140 to get a car out of the mechanic. He later sold this car for 500. We haven't seen any of our money. He owes a lot of people money especially for a weeding that never happened on his behave. And more then 1000 he owes us. Now I'm in desperate need to pay my daughters medical bills. My husband asked him if we can have our share of the money that he got from the car. He said he spent it on his DUI legal issues jail, classes ,fines etc. That he is so finacially in debt that he can't give us anything at all. 1 week later we find out that his wife is pregnant. If you can't afford to pay someone 140 that you've owed for over a year. Not jncuding my 1000 why the he'll would you bring another child into this world? Am I wrong to feel this way? We always had to help this guy out because he's my husbands brother. But now that we need help we get nothing. Should I feel this way?

Im not into that stuff And when im sleeping she puts her butt in my face and says " fart attack"?

When you weed out horrible and abusive comments, there are still one or two worthy suggestions and answers. for that reason i tend to ask a fairly important questions and this is no exception. Question to all ladies and girls. How often you think is "normal" to have sex with husbands and bfs? Daily? Weekly? The problem is that I'm happily (for the most part) married with my love, and we never had a satisfying sex (as per my opinion), neither in frequency nor in quality. I always wanted more and better, as long as it stayed within our mutually respected limits. My wife is extremely conservative and old fashioned. we rarely make love outside our bedroom, 14 years of marriage we made love ONCE in our car and it was one-of-a-kind event that I will remember forever. I never cheated on her and I want to stay faithful, but I'm tired of satisfying my urges by looking at porn and masturbating more than I did when I was 15-16. I compare myself sometimes with a friend of mine, we know each other from primary school and have very similar life paths: same schools, university, marriage, kids, jobs... He has the same problem but he is far more prone to cheating and I estimate that he cheated his wife (during 12 years of marriage) more than 100 times, explaining "I don't want that she determines when and where we will have sex, my life and health are going down and I want to use what I have". His wife is aware of this and accepts it, admitting women have lower libido.

He's started smoking every day now. It really turns me off. It makes me feel like he's weak. Like he's not strong enough to handle life without a crutch. And it makes me feel like I have to be the strong one in the relationship, which doesn't make me feel feminine, and doesn't make me feel like he's masculine, and I cherish the feminine/masculine dynamic in a relationship. If was just every now and again at a party or something just for fun then I wouldn't mind, but he uses it to help him deal with life's stresses, and he always has an excuse to smoke it, which I find unrespectable and unattractive. I've told him how I feel about it in nicer terms. He just ignores what I say about it, not in a mean way, he'll still be nice and say he loves me, but he won't respond to the words I say at all, and just continues to smoke everyday.

This may sound like a very petty question but I have to ask it. For years my husband and I have had Facebook accounts. Rarely does he ever make me his profile pic. About the only time he'll change his pic to a pic of me is when it's my birthday or our anniversary. Other than that he's always got pics of his two grandbabies. They are plastered all over his FB page, his cell phone, tablet, and even the display on the radio in his truck. When you touch the button on his phone or tablet they're right there. His grandbabies are the wallpaper on his laptop too. This past weekend he graduated with his master's degree and and he just told me that he was thinking about putting a pic of him and his granddaughter, whom he took with us, as his profile pic. I emailed him to say, "How about posting a pic of me and you at the graduation….. or me and you period…. " Do I not mean that much to him to where he won't even put a pic of me as his profile pic? He said that he's looked at a lot of the friend's pages he has and rarely did he ever see any of them put their spouses pics as their profile pics. AM I asking too much? It even annoys me when my birthday rolls around or if it's our anniversary and he doesn't post anything on FB about it. Yeah, he'll tell me happy birthday or happy anniversary to my face but I just love it when I read other people promoting their wives on FB like the sun doesn't shine until they see them in the morning. He said people like that make him sick. No one is that much in love to where they have to keep telling everyone about how sweet their farts smell.

If gay marriage is legalised whats the problem with allowing polygamy? Since the "traditional Christian definition of marriage" argument is considered obsolete then what's the problem?

My grandma is in her 90s & has been married 2x. Whenever she finds out (usually through my mom or by obsessively trying to pull details from me) something negative pertaining to my marriage, she immediately tells me that I need to "call his mama & daddy up & tell them what Carl did". Whenever I have done this (after listening to her insisting) I get it from my in laws & husband. We hosted Thanksgiving last year and my grandma was there, so were his folks. She sat down next to my father in law and immediately started running my husband into the ground telling him a bunch of negative stuff about his son. My father in law gave her this weird look & shortly after that his parents left (why was this?) Each time I have taken she or my mom's advice to "run tell his parents on him"- I get a negative outcome. My mom has even called up my mother in law talking about our marriage and finances behind our backs. My grandma and mom have run my life for years (only child, adopted, mom never married) and my grandma is probably the most nosy/controlling person I have ever met in my life. Would you say that my grandma is right, that his parents need to be involved (given she is old and wise, as she says)? What do you think the in laws thought when she mocked their son? My family will sit there and push and push for info, if not they will bring up something from the past, like my grandma did to my father in law at thanksgiving My grandma also included her family in her marriage drama too.