I'm getting married next Friday and I just found out that my groomsman who is getting married in August didn't invite me to his wedding. And I have no idea why. He invited my best man and my other groomsman though along with 150+ other people. We've been friends for 12+ years and us 4 went to Panama City Beach for our spring break trip our senior year in high school. We haven't been as close as we were since we graduated high school. But still, I can't help but feel weird about this. I'm also 99.9% sure that he doesn't realize that I know I wasn't invited. Like how can you stand up for someone at their wedding even though you didn't invite them to yours and not explain why? 

I am only being invited out of obligation as her soon-to-be sister-in-law and she hates my guts. What do I get her as a bridal shower gift?

My fiancee grew up much poorer than I ...so she still holds dearly to the "I have to do everything for myself mentality" Therefore she only wants to invite our immediate nuclear families on both sides to her wedding. Everytime I add an aunt or uncle on my side she gets pissed off and says "how are we going to pay for them. I grew up in a a much larger family, and have many aunts and uncles that have helped me throughout school. I would like to invite them. I know that many wedding gifts usually consist of cheques. My aunts and uncles are mostly middle class, and I am sure they will contribute financially to the wedding once the day draws near. I know my family...I can trust them on this. But I cannot get my fiancee to understand this, or take a leap of faith..all she sees is "we can't afford to feed all these people" ...for every guest I add...she subtracts on her side; and I know these are people she cares about. I don't  know how to fix this. My fiancee has told me '"take a leap of faith" on so many things...yet for our own wedding..she is more calculating than I am. I get it. I know her family cannot contribute much financially...but MINE CAN...why can't  she just trust me on this ? I have uncles who are small millionaires....they have always been generous with their money all my life...how can I NOT invite them to my wedding, I know they will contribute and I dont have to ask them. I know my fiancee has struggled financially all her life, and her family is poor....but it will not just be our salaries paying for the wedding...OTHERS WILL HELP ! My Dad has already pledged 5k to help us out....yet my fiancee still complains that the wedding is beyond our cost....as if...she cannot even see that we are getting help. WE ARE NOT IN THIS ALONE....why can't she understand that ?!

Would you agree to be best man?

I want to ask my sister in law to be my matron of honor. I also want to ask my brother to do a "brother of the bride" speech during the reception. I am not having any bridesmaids. I know it's polite/customary to ask people to be in your wedding by giving them a gift. Should I do this for my brother as well?  He also doesn't really drink so I'm not sure what to get him as a gift? 

Approximately how long does it take to organize a wedding in New York City? Can you tell me? In this way I will have an idea on which date to choose to get married. I'd like a simple and romantic wedding. I don't want something glitzy or extravagant. I'd like to get married in the Rainbow Room while my boyfriend wants to get married in Brooklyn Botanic Garden. It might also be a good idea to celebrate the wedding in one place and to celebrate the other.