Hi, so me and my twin sister have always been super close and been life long best friends. Me and my sister and my girlfriend (23F) share a house and split the rent between the three of us- my gf and sister get along brilliantly by the way. My sister who is a lesbian started dating her girlfriend (who we'll call Rosie) 8 months ago and I was extremely happy for her but upon meeting her girlfriend it seemed like she didn't really want to be there meeting my girlfriend and I which I guess was understandable but she made little to no effort when I tried engaging with her. The main incident as to why she doesn't like me happened just before Christmas when Rosie and my sister where out of town clubbing and I was supposed to pick them up and take them home at around 12:15 before I started work at 1am (a night shift as a security guard). I was waiting for them and it was getting really late to the point where I would be late to work if they took much longer. I texted my sister and told them they needed to hurry up to which she replied they would be their in 5 mins and I responded that if it took a second over I would be leaving and well they didn't come in those 5 mins so I left. Apparently they had to walk home in the freezing cold for over an hour without any coats and they had no money left to get a taxi. My sister told me the next day that Rosie was extremely pissed off over this and had been ranting about be being a selfish bastard all night and beyond.  The next day she confronted me about it herself saying I should have gone in the club to get them. I argued that I could have lost my job as I only just made it on time if I had driven them home first I would definetly have been late. She asked me to apologise which I did for my sisters sake. I thought it was resolved but at some point I confessed to my sister that I only apologised to keep the peace and didn't think I did anything wrong and well she told Rosie I said that so she hates me again. The other issue is that my girlfriend and I think Rosie should start paying rent as she stays over 4-6 nights a week, uses our water and electricity and keeps multiple things at the house. I asked my sister to talk to Rosie about it and she didn't take it at all well saying how she doesn't live here and is just a guest.  I also think Rosie is limiting the time my sister hangs out with me. My sister is very affectionate and hugs me a lot and you can tell by Rosie's face that she hates it. ately my sister has been firmly taking Rosie's side saying that we are fine for money and there's no reason for her to pay rent and that the incident where I left them to walk home was extremely cruel and rude. I dunno i just feel like I am losing my sister/life long best friend here and it's killing me. I don't know what to do. 

For some reason most people I know think you HAVE to love or put up with someone just because they're family. That...makes no sense to me. Who cares if they're family? Why does that matter?

Long story short. My mother escaped her abusive family when she was 21 with the help of my father 27 years old at the time. She moved to his country and cut all ties from her abusive family. I never met her parents, her siblings or extended family who she grew up with. I'm 20 years old now and a little curious. As a child I asked her once about her family and she told me not to bring it up because one day she would explain it all to me. About 3 years ago she told me everything and my mother survived hell on earth. She told me that when she escaped her abusive family that she was never going to speak to then ever again after what they did to her and I completely understand. She had me 3 years later and is the best mother in the world and she said that she never wanted me to get to know such cruel people and that she would protect me at all costs. However I am curious.  My father is German and my mother is a beautiful Angolan woman with some Portuguese ancestry. Two completely different cultures. I din't want to get to know the people who did this to my mother however I am curious to see what they looked like, find out more about them. I want to ask her but she is still traumatized from her past and never brings her family up in discussions. It's just that I feel so curious and don't know what to do because I don't want to hurt her by bringing it up again.

We are actually going on a cruise so it's a cabin but it doesn't matter. Our parents wanted their own cabin and put us in our own. This will probably be the first time we share a room. I am 16 and she is 18.

My father is supposed to get help from his nurse, but his nurse blown him off 3 times. I told my dad that if the nurse come today and we cant change him afterwards that Im going to beat the nurses azz. And nope. Dad still hides the phone number to replace him. I am so pissed and my stomach is upset. A lot more to what story? Some people are satisfied with anything, if your body is showing signs of problems THEN YOU NEED HELP. I figured it was common sense.

He's always stressed due to work but when he comes home he takes it out on me. He always screams at me calling me useless and stupid and throw things around. Sometimes he would hit my head especially when I say something back so I'm usually quiet and obedient. I always feel like puking. It's so irritating like why take it out on me when it's due to your work?! I know family is supposed to share problems with each other and sometimes I feel guilty because I can't do much but can't he do it in a calm manner instead of screaming? Am I allowed to feel mad? Should I be a good child and endure? My mom gets mad at me when I get mad at my dad? I know he's my dad and he's given me everything I wanted and has supported me growing up. I've always been told to respect my parents and repay back what they have done for me but I can't take it sometimes. Any advice? Am I being petty or what should I do?? I'm not sure if this is a proper question but I'm just so annoyed.

I recall an excerpt from a sex education film where a mother told her son "oh excuse me, [son's name].  I saw what you were doing.  It felt good, didn't it?", followed by a long-winded speech about how he has nothing to be embarrassed about and that she's sorry she didn't knock before entering, and that she promises to knock next time.  She then closed his door and left his room.   Putting aside the hilariously bad wooden acting from the mother, does that particular film snippet a representation of real-life open relationships between a mother and son?  Personally, it sounds rather horrific and taboo.  But since it's a sex ed. film, it's obviously not a parody, and therefore is meant to be taken seriously.  Are there any mothers who actually have that kind of laid-back persons when it comes to something private, i.e. have you actually reacted the same way as the mom in the sex ed. vid?  I am NOT a troll, but rather am flabbergasted by the film.

I'm not an expert as I am straight but I can say that my mom is wayyy hitter than my dad. Why is this almost always true?

im a 26 and a half year old male with medium level ADHD. Now add fuel to the fire when i was 7 my farther divorced my mom and betrayed me and my 2 younger brothers and had a affair with my mom. when i was 7 my farther would spank / beat me to the point of tears and i being only 7 i never understood why i remember one night i was at kfc and my stepmom got me all upset threatening me with my farther if i dont sit at the table with her my dad and youngest brother so i came sat down all upset in tears and so as a result of it i didnt eat my kfc order so as we left kfc my dad said to me just wait til we get to the house and at first i was sitting in the truck kinda thinking like do i go inside or do i like sit here in the truck??? so i got inside the house and my farther beat me to the point of tears and said here take this drink you had to have all angered at me and with me in tears dropped me off at mom. i was all in tears crying my eyes out and decided i wanted nothing to do with the man and that if or when i had kids in order to protect my kids it would be a cold day in hell long before my kids seen their grandfarther in order for me to protect them now years later every time im around my farther and my stepmom im a man of very few words and i keep silent at all times only speak to the server to order and even then i dont look at the server in the eyes insteadi look at the menu or table or something and thats it majority of the time im so silent that. on my mom's side im fine

We lived together for past 7 yrs. They sold house so my mom & I had to find new place to live. Sis-In-Law joined military, & will be stationed locally, but we won't be living together again. She put in for a "Family" change of address, and it is also MY last name, too. She has same first name AND LAST NAME as me, unfortunately. Post Office said the machine only reads LAST NAMES when sorting mail. She is gonna receive all of my mail, too. That is a huge problem. I am SO annoyed. I don't know what to do. The Post Office said the machine only reads last names. 🙄😩 My sis-in-law will be on Military base with her family, and it's close by to my town. But we won't be living in same exact town. 

I just found out that my crushes mom was in a car accident and flown her to a different town (I'm not sure how bad the accident was but I guess it was bad cause they flown her to a different town ) but I feel like I need to be there for him , his mom, and his sister but we don't talk that much ( his grandparents are my neighbors) but they didn't say anything about it so I don't know what to do I found out on Facebook . How do I stop from feeling like I need to be there please help I don't have his number though lol so  I'm kinda stuck

I'm sorry, this is a lot. I am seventeen and still live with my parents. Mother is a traditional religious zealot (homosexuality is wrong, sex before marriage is a sin, men are in charge and women are submissive, etc.), but is still loving and does a lot for me. Father is also religious but has extreme anger issues, is emotionally/mentally abusive to the both of us. He belittles me, patronizes & talks down to us, yells/screams often, is controlling and manipulative. I know this should be a much bigger part but my dad molested me when I was eight years old and I did not remember until I was around 13. I am 99% sure he does not remember. As I've gotten older, I've noticed a lot of weird, possessive sexual energy towards me, and each day it becomes a heavier strain having to live with. All of this combined has driven me to serious thoughts of suicide, but father refused to let me see therapist (school social workers are no help). I'm scared to tell people about what happened to me because I would feel super guilty about tearing my family apart. We still depend upon each other for things and I feel an obligation to them because they have invested so much money and time for my whole life. I feel ungrateful for being upset with them and wanting to leave and I can't help but feel empathy and not want to make them hate me even though I'm so miserable. I don't know what to do or how to cope because the situation is so complicated. Any help is much appreciated. 

A little backstory, my mom and dad have been divorced for years. In high school, I lived with my dad and brother in a 2-bedroom apartment. Then my mom and younger brother had to move in with us due to financial reasons. I am their daughter, I am in my mid-20's. So under the same roof, it is my dad, mom, my two brothers, and I.  My mom and younger brother have been living with us for 8 years. My mom and dad do not get along for obvious reasons. I want to move too but I only have ever worked retail and would need to go back to school. I only have an Associate's degree in English.This past week, my mom keeps pressuring me over and over for us to move into another place with my mom, two brothers, and I. My younger brother places pressure on us too. Everyday she keeps mentioning how she is unhappy living here and how she wants our own place now. She doesn't work so she is relying on us to move. My intentions are to move but every day I have to hear how horribly unhappy she is and her constant complaining. It is at least talked about once or twice per day. She says I have to try harder. It's getting really annoying. She also says if we don't move that she is going to move with someone else.What can I do about this? Also she said I have to start working, but my job is having me start mid July, I can't force my job to make me work now

First of all my family is not rich. They have good jobs but they aren't rich. They just have good jobs and good credit also. My 23 year old brother has a fairly large house nicely furnished. I feel like my boyfriend is weird around my family because they have luxury things. Nobody forced him to be 37 and still be living with his grandmother. He don't have to be Standoffish around my family because we like nice things and luxury and that doesn't mean they view him as less of. They have always treated him with respect and always went out of their way to be nice to him but he's always weird. He told me he doesn't fit in with my family's caliber. Wtf is that supposed to be mean. If he wants nice things sitting around being insecure and jealous isn't going to get it. My brother proposed to his girlfriend in Paris and my boyfriend of course had something negative to say about it like he was jealous. I know he can't afford to propose to me in Paris but he can at least be happy for my brother.

Would you be angry? or you don't care?

My sister and her husband came down to visit from Texas and my sister arrived a few hours earlier. They took two separate cars. My husband called my sister and invited her to dinner at six o'clock not knowing that her husband was coming at six. So my husband fixed dinner and he said he didn't have enough food for everybody. He threw a big fit. I said don't ruin the holiday. I said I will eat a cheese sandwich. He said I prepared the food for your f@xking family and I am not going to eat it. I said I already had a cheese sandwich. Please fix the food like you said you would. He said he wasn't going to fix a damn thing. My sister and her husband pulled up and my husband got almost in her face and said thanks for keeping me informed. I started screaming at him and said just let it go. You're acting like a complete ***. My sister said it's not about the food. It's being with family that counts. They wound up leaving due to my husband. 

I met this guy online and we hooked up a few times. I ended up getting pregnant and we just stopped talking. He moved to another state (not to get away from me/my son) and we started talking again. I messaged him today and he talked about me coming to visit him with our son so he can see him. My parents think it's a bad idea because I barely know him, but I kind of want to because it'll be a mini vacation for me and it'll just be good for my son to meet his father. He doesn't have a job due to COVID and so I can only really go over there. Is it a bad idea to fly out there with my son and visit him? My son is one 

I have this cousin around the same age as me, we're both in our 20s. I've lived in the west all my life, she came from the eastern world a while ago (not going to name countries for anonymity). But we have met every few years when my family and I would travel to that country to see her and her family, aka our relatives. Well, she is SO selfish and thoughtless, it's unbelievable. I've been going through severe depression and anxiety, and texted her about it, considering her my family member. She said she'll make time to be in touch with me at least once a week. Well, it's corona, no one's going partying anyways, and she's working from home like everyone else, but hasn't texted ONCE for over 3 months. Before this period, I would always reach out to her like more than once a week, only to get one word responses, for years. Point is that despite knowing I'm going through problems, she has not a dot of care to see how I'm doing. I'm simply not in her priority list, even though she knows how to smooth talk big time about how she does care about me and 'will' make time for me. Anyone else relate to this?

whenever I tell my dad about my opinions or giving him advises he doesn't listen to me at all and just keeps saying "you just came out of my balls, you don't know anything". I'm 20 years old. It's like I don't have any right to speak since "I'm a kid". How can I break that?

I had surgery a year ago after a car accident. During that time I gained a good bit of weight after being basically couch ridden for 6 months. I went from 115lbs to 135lbs since the accident. My mom is CONSTANTLY making comments that I have "a gut" and makes jokes about how much skinner I looked a year ago. I'm already self conscious about how I look. My mom isn't exactly the "skinniest" or most "athletic" person. I'm still unable to run on my knee (a year later) but I have begun walking. I'm really depressed. I've told her how I feel and she will laugh and say "chill out" I can't deal much longer.

My older sister has an issue with being extremely financially irresponsible and shows absolutely horrible fiscal and financial restraint towards her more fiscal and financial priorities responsibilities. Unlike myself, she lives in an apartment she relies on two different people living with her just to afford to be able to live in and rent, as well as on her credit cards for purchasing, and  shopping splurges on a great deal of unnecessary purchases, routinely borrows money from others. And has no problem relying on others to pay the tab for dining out and shopping expenses, my question is this I care about her but I want to help her guide her towards being more financially and fiscally more responsible and make considerably more financially and fiscally more realistic, smart, sensible, and conservative choices to get her back on the right financial and fiscal path  but how can I bring this extreme financial irresponsibility of my sister's to my sister's attention without offending her, wounding her emotionally to a point where we both end up having a big argument resulting in the two of us not speaking to each other until either one of us are literally on our deathbed ??

What does she mean by that? Is it still possible to lack humility without being arrogant?

Long story short my landlords driveway is absolutely terrible and is ruining the underneath of my car, funny thing is my landlord is actually my cousin. He knows how bad the driveway is but has yet to do anything about it. I've only lived here for a couple weeks and my car looks insane. What should I do? Ask for my $1200 security deposit back to pay for the damages of my car? Should I make him pay? I've been playing the nice guy card thus far and I've had enough. 

Would it be up to the extended family to take me in? I keep worrying about this and I can't sleep because of it. We live in Texas and everybody down here is dying.

My mom says we have to get them back and their bad guys (girls). The uncle and other cousins are the good guys like us.