I'm 14 and at 14 you can't even do anything. I'm always being told that i have to be 18 for this, 21 for that. Etc and it's just so f*cking annoying and its not fair how my older brother and sister in their 20's are able to do **** and have fun but all of the things they can do I can't do and it just makes me mad. Being a kid is f*cking terrible. I don't care what anybody says! I would rather be a grown adult than a kid. My Life is so boring and i have to wait 4 more years until i can start driving, drinking alcohol, going to parties and clubs. Etc. 

When you live by yourself like me, are in your forties.... have never found relationships, you are on your own, apart from the support of your mother and father who live far away... My mum and dad are the only people who phone me... my dad phones me once every 2 days and my beloved mum phones me 4 times each day.... If it weren't for their phone calls, I'd be completely alone, with no help or support,.... then where would I be? I'm very lonely now and I dread the future when I'll be completely on my own, when my parents have passed... Anyone with any. Positive support?

my Cousins mum abuses her and shouts at her constantly, the girl is 30 years old and lives alone but when the girl goes to her mums place her mum shouts at her for  any little thing, she says that her daughter embarrasses her and sometimes beats her up. She has now tried to beat her with a hammer and has only managed to hurt her arm and chest. The girl doesn't do anything about it but I think the mother will hurt her badly. What can she do 

It is absurd to have children in this crap. The worst blind is the one who sees and cannot see. If they disagree with something so obvious, that's why I'm right.

I'll start off by describing my situation. I'm 21 and live with my father of 60+ years old. I have 4 siblings, two boys and two girls. Both my sisters ran away at 16 and both my brothers talk about my dad behind his back. What influenced me to ask this question happened a few minutes ago and happens basically all the time. My father called me out of my room to talk (I don't want to, but I go because I'll get screamed at if I don't) and he immediately starts talking to me about college. I tell him I'll talk to my counselors about next semester's classes because we aren't qualified to decide what a degree needs. He proceeds to tell me to shut the F*** up and go back to my room. I never wanted to come out in the first place, he asked me to come out. Either way I was getting screamed at, I can't escape it. This happens daily. Work, school, friends, going out to eat dinner with my friends, my dog, he screams about everything. Last night my niece (who is 5 years old) was sleeping over because her mom works night shifts. She weakly calls his name at around 11pm and asks for some water to which he screams at the top of his lungs to shut the h*** up and go back to bed. She sobs herself to sleep for the next 20 minutes. I don't know what his problem is and I'm getting sick of it. I'm moving out soon, but I don't want to leave hating him. How do I deal with this toxicity? It's ruined my self esteem to the point where I can barely make phone calls without stuttering.

Their mother is notorious for getting kids to go against people she hates. My parents will like this also. Uncle son lives with him and likes us but the two daughters don't like us I don't wanna talk to us anymore. In fact I learned the sun is barred from his mothers house supposedly because of coronavirus but we suspect us to punish him for wanting to live with his dad.

I am 18 and going into my second year of college this fall and I still currently live with my parents. I graduated high school a year early so I continued living with them for my first year of college since I was still 17 for the majority of it, but now I am 18 and planning on transferring to a college about 45 minutes away and me and a close friend are moving into a house together in september. Back when it was just talking about moving, I was so excited, but now that it's actually confirmed that we're doing it and I can't back out, I feel so sad and horrible about leaving my parents and moving out. I am the youngest of 4 children and one of my siblings passed away last year, and with me being the last child at home now, it's very hard on them for me to move out. My parents are so lovely and good to me and I just feel so sad about leaving them because I know that although they are excited for me to start a new chapter in my life, they are heartbroken that I'm going away. I also feel like it is very final when I leave my childhood home because my parent's relationship is not good and my mother has already told me she will probably be moving out shortly after I do, which makes it even worse. The thought of both my parents living all alone and my dad in the house we grew up in by himself has been making me cry everyday for days now, and everytime anyone brings it up or my roommate talks about decor I just get sad and no longer excited. How can I feel better about the situation?

We usually have a family reunion every summer but of course we could not this year because of the coronavirus. I feel so sad. I'm 38 years old BTW.

She's a really awful person and our mother keeps enabling her, what do I do?

All my childhood it was my abusive dad and now I am being abused by my brother? Why can't I just have a loving person to live with? What is the reason for this? I have no one else to stay with. It's either this or back to my abusive dad? My mom did nothing to help but continue to go back to him, which left me damaged all throughout my childhood to now and now I have to continue being damaged by my brother. On top of having no friends and being bullied and rejected. If this continues what will happen to me?

  I go to college 1000 miles away from where my parents live. I call them probably once every 2 weeks. They also don't call me first, and get really annoyed when I bring that point up and talk about how they've "tried so much" in the past and got no answer. Anyway, they complain about it all the time. But tbh, while I love them, they're really annoying and I don't think I can deal with them in large doses.  I know they love me, and take care of all my needs. That's not the problem. They're just really annoying. examples: -- my mom regularly pretends she's sick when I mildly upset her for attention --She constantly tries to make me paranoid about my relationship with my bf  --I took my computer out of its case once and she screamed at me and threatened to send me to a mental hospital --In elementary school I needed something. My mom made up a huge family-wide joke that I made this up for attention, and a few years later it came out that I actually did need it --My dad has said I'm "too biased" to pursue the career I want, though he is supportive sometimes. He also regularly hits on women in front of me, and in general is a raging sex addict with no self-control --I was a crime victim at 13. My mom was very mad at me and used this situation as leverage to not let me do things, and constantly talked about how i need to "mature' and "not be dumb." My dad found out too, and asked how I had gotten in this situation angrily. However, when I s-nuck out to have consensual sex, my dad was furious and threatened to burn him alive. He was just a random, consistent hookup. He had never wronged me in any way. --In general both of them treat me like I'm 6. I have to ask for permission to do the most minuscule things (I'm home for quarantine) -They've talked **** about every friend I have, in detail, and are surprised they don't meet many of them -Once they both took away my phone and made fun of how many guys were texting me, calling me a whore I MAY be the asshole? I Don't know. I guess I cuss out my dad sometimes but usually only because he says something VERY racist. In the past I've had issues with drugs and sex, but they routinely denied me mental health treatment when I asked for it, and honestly, if I had it earlier I don't think I would've gotten this bad. They're also multi-millionaires, this wasn't a money issue. Once I was high on coke at my dad's 50th b-day party, which I realize was bad.  I def stressed them out a lot, but I was tightly under lock and key before and after my issues. In general I wasn't that easy of a kid and frequently stressed out adults and family around me. I've gotten my life together since all of this, btw, and my current friends are genuinely good ppl. When I'm home my mom also basically does everything for me, but I think it's a control issue, too. I feel like that's the way she wants it, or she would've stopped by now. 

My husband claims I buy food only because I know we have money. It is really starting to get to me hearing him constantly saying this. As a child my family never had food in the house, my mom didn't believe in snacks, she didn't cook but 1 meal a day some days you had to fend for yourself. And no one in the house was allowed to use the stove or oven except my parents (my dad never cooked anyways) ... however I spend around $100 every other Friday for the two of us (also I am pregnant with a lot of cravings) ... besides the point he spends 200-300 a month on amo and guns. That doesn't count in his eyes. The fact of me trying to take care of my house and family is all he sees as money wasted. I am honestly at the point of letting go, giving up, leaving and not returning. It has been like this for going on a year and I am sick and tired of being blamed. I have kept my mouth closed as long as I can, but making me feel bad around his side of the family is pushing my buttons way too far. Should I leave and think about taking care of my soon to be newborn or should I stay so my baby knows her father? I honestly don't know what to do anymore. 

They want me to hate her but I don't really hate her and I feel uncomfortable hating people. Whenever my parents hate someone they assign me to hate that person to. It's usually family they hate so that makes it harder for me.

I recently left the father of my twins due to unresolved issues of my own and other problems. We have our house with other renters. So we really dont have privacy. He is from El Salvador and he told me yesterday that If I dont want to return to him he will just give up the house and go back to his country leaving me alone with the kids. And he knows that I already have a 6 year old daughter whos dad abandoned her. And tbh this makes me really depressed because I don't want him to abandon his kids because of that prior horrible feeling. I feel obligated to stay with him even if i don't want to just so i wont be a single mom again. What should I do, should I just let him go or stay " for the kids" , I feel so lost and stuck.  And he says he is going to start a new life with someone else in his country. And he already knows who. 

 I just recently moved back home with my father who I never really had Much of a relationship with growing up But because of the pandemic, I was living with my mom but someone she was working with came down with COVID and we weren't getting along - was better that I moved. So long story short, I'm not very familiar with my fathers side of the family. I grew up on my moms side who lives more *wealthily* I should say, higher expectations, etc. My dad is supportive of me going to college (I'm about to go into my last two years for my bachelors) he just wants me to pick exactly what I want to do before he helps me financially with a loan.. now my dads brother (My uncle) and his wife (aunt) live Close by and they are always there for me.. only issue is, My uncle makes an ok living working as an electrician but my aunt Doesn't really work. Now that I'm going into my last two years of school and because of this whole pandemic, I'm thinking to just go for something very stable and secure ($$), (I really don't have any *passions*) So I'm ok in math and thinking of going into Accounting. Aunt&uncle try to push me away from thinking about going to college for that & they think I should maybe focus on settling for an ok job (that I would love..) and maybe have kids and get married.. I would like that one day but not anytime soon.. do they sound jealous? I also already have my associates degree I'm going for my bachelors in the fall.

He has completely jet black hair and my mom has blonde hair. I ended up with a hair color like this.

Both sets of my grandparents have now passed away unfortauntely. But growing up I only ever really knew my Maternal grandparents.  My dad is from Spain and so my paternal grandparents lived there. I think I met them a handful of times when I was really little but they weren't a main part of my life at all. I bonded really closely to my Mom's parents, my Grandma especially. I think even if my dads parents hadn't lived in a different country, I think that I still would've been more closer to my moms parents. I find this is usually the case that grandchildren are often closer to their maternal grandparents and see them more etc. this is why I only want to have daughters lol.

So I was arguing with my dad and I wasn't even being rude I was just trying to explain that I wasn't talking bad- so things escalated and so I wanted to sit outside because I was tired of him and everyone in that household- he warned me to go back inside but I didn't want to because I hate him so much. I was expected him to leave me alone- until he grabbed a belt and ran after me outside with it to hit me. What should I do???? *either way he was going to hit me if I went inside  **** all of you for the horrible advice- shows how privilege y'all are 

So I was at my grandmas apartment with my mom to help her pack since she's moving soon and her deadbeat son aka my uncle was there and wasn't helping us pack at all, but he came into the room my mom and I were packing and asked if I would help him take some things to his car and for some reason I instantly got a bad gut feeling. I wanted to say no but didn't wanna seem rude so I helped him, and I couldn't help but think on the walk to the car, "what if something bad happens to me?" But alas nothing happened but as I walked back to the apartment my hands were shaking and I was still scared. I'm not really sure what to think of this, but I'm 16 if that makes a difference.

I asked her for a glass of water and she didn't want to bring it to me, because she was washing the dishes. I feel so upset about this situation. This is disrespect and so rude. She gave birth to me so she should serve me. What do you guys think?

Recently my grandad was diagnosed with cancer, I was told minute details about what was going on but I barely knew anything as I thought they were going to help him and cure him but it turned out there was nothing they could do. Two weeks later he passed away so suddenly only my grandma and mum were with him and I didn't even get to say anything to him or see him before he passed. When he was alive we were so close, we spent so much wonderful time together I just can't believe he's gone I can't even write this it hurts so much. I don't want to show my feelings to much and I'm scared to talk about him to my mum and grandma as I'm afraid I would only cause them to be more sad and that would hurt me so much. This all feels so surreal to me I can't process it at all. I saw my grandma cry today and it broke me, I will never see them together again and I feel so bad for feeling so upset when she knew him for decades longer than me before I was even born. I just don't know how I'm going to get through this I've never experienced grief before someone please give me some advice.

Let's say a woman got pregnant, and the dad went AWOL.  So she not only raised her son by herself, but ended up having absolutely no companionship until he was 17.  Five months before he graduated, she met a man on the internet who proposed to her within one month of their first encounter, moved in with she and her son, and constantly talked down to her son in a militant manner, as if her son was a sorry excuse for a human being who had to shape up or suffer the consequences. Basically, this man was just "acting" like a father (I mean, who the hell sets ground rules for an almost grown man whose mother he just met and asked to marry him)? On top of that, the man told his "fiancée's" son that his last name will legally be changed to his, as well as on his high school diploma. Fortunately, just a week before graduation, she did some investigating and found out that he was a con artist trying to swindle her. And since she met him when her son was almost through with high school, her son can't help but to have horrific flashbacks whenever he watches his prom or graduation on video. 7 years later, she met a man the old fashioned way — in person instead of the internet. But he's a genuine man who really does love her. But her son doesn't like him, because he has no job, lives off of her, lacks class and dignity, and is an alcoholic.  He sadly died of liver cancer.   8 years later, she meets another man, but her son is not very nice to him, either. Is that understandable?

I wanted him at my wedding but he said he can't make it because it's in another country and he has to work and save money

Lets say when you avoid and ignore someone you do not wish to speak to. How would you know if their feelings were hurt?

I am a 38 year old lifelong bachelor and I don't like being around my family. You can choose your friends but not your family.

For example my sister is a successful model and her life is extremely disciplined and planned by the 15 minutes almost. She has a strict schedule for diet, exercise, skin care, self grooming, meditation, plans out her social media posts and has special software for calendars, and managing her social platforms, has a social media and branding coach, makes time for vlogs, video editing, etc. Her whole day is constantly busy promoting herself and her brand and maintaining her image and health. She travels several times per month as well. Compare that to a regular person who has a 9-5 career and it's a completely different lifestyle.

I have an adult son, in his late 40s. He's not married and lives about 600 miles away. He used to visit about once a month. But I haven't heard from him much in the last 6 weeks and he hasn't indicated that he's coming for a visit. I asked him why he has withdrawn and he said that "there's a total lack of respect, both ways, which [he] accept[s] responsibility for" and he also said that I had told him to hold off on visiting. I looked through my emails that he mentioned and I had suggested that he "take a break" from visiting, but that was meant for his own well-being--he has a busy job and a lot of expenses. How do we get back to how things were?

I lived with my parents because I was covering a large portion of their cost of living (it was equal to what I spend living in an apartment now). When I was going to school my dad would often tell me if I paid more attention to the lectures, I would never need to study or open a book.  He claimed if I paid enough attention I wouldn't even need to do any assignments and could pass  with just exam grades.  If I was writing a paper he would refer to it as "video games" and tell me how lazy I was.  I wasn't allowed to drive until my early 20s, and so relied on my parents for transportation.  Sometimes my dad insisted on picking me up half way through classes (particularly right around midterms and finals) or else not let me go at all because he needed me to help him with moving things etc.  Once when i talked back about skipping school, he locked my textbooks away until my mom stepped in.  Considering how much money I was giving to live there I don't feel it was right of him to control me like this.  

Ex- I wake up early (5-6am) but my parents sleep till 9 am most days. They do not work late, just watch tv and drink late. When I go to bed earlier than them, they try and start fights insisting that I am just trying to be better than them somehow, and are insulted that I don't want to watch tv with them (which I don't even Enjoy) They say that it's ridiculous to wake up early and that I will die younger as a result. I don't wake them up, I leave the house to avoid doing so (the door is opposite end of the house from their bedroom).

Hi all! I need some help... My brother and his fiance are expecting a baby next month. They didn't publically announce the pregnancy until she was 7 months. My brother keeps harassing me and my parents about not buying things for the baby. Him and his fiance are making it seem like if we're not spending money to buy the baby things, then we're not excited and don't care. This is not the case... They didn't announce her pregnancy until she was 7 months. Now everyone is scrambling to buy stuff for the baby in the middle of a pandemic, when the majority of us DON'T have extra money to spend on a baby. Why is he so hellbent on us buying stuff? Can't we be excited and not have to spend money? Apparently, his fiance's family has already bought a bunch of stuff. They're trying to make it a competition. They're being manipulative and trying to make us feel guilty for not buying stuff for the baby. It's not that we don't care. But he fails to realize that money it right right now because people aren't working.  What can I do to help him understand? The last thing I want him to think is that we don't care. Because we DO! Help! Please!

I am a 27 year old female. At the moment I am living at home with my dad and older brother in an apartment. My mom and younger half-brother moved in with us about 8 years ago for financial reasons even though my mom and dad have been divorced for years. My dad never says hurtful things nor does he fight with me. Unfortunately, when my mom moved in, my dad and I kind of got estranged because my dad would only talk to me and my brother but not my mom. He still ignores her but my mom got mad so I kind of stopped talking to my dad so as not to rock the boat. My dad has always cared about my education whereas my mom doesn't. My dad hasn't ever really I guess tried to mend our relationship either I guess because he never goes with me anywhere alone. Every day, she says how I should move out but she wants her and my younger half-brother and my older brother to move in with me. She always asks why don't you move? I'm counting on you to move. If you don't move, I'm going to move in with someone else. If you don't want to move, let me know now. My younger brother is threatening to live somewhere else.  I feel I guess that she never really loved me at all. She is completely financially dependent on me whereas my dad gives me some money to buy things even if I say no. I feel extremely bad that I got estranged from my dad too it bugs me every day. I don't want to live with my mom at all even if I were to move out. She is extremely negative and toxic. My dad has always said that I should get a 1 bedroom for myself and is against me moving in with anyone else He has also said that I will eventually see my mom's true side that I didn't see it before but that I would eventually see it. That was a long time ago.

Both sets of my grandparents have now passed away unfortauntely. But growing up I only ever really knew my Maternal grandparents. My dad is from Spain and so my paternal grandparents lived there. I think I met them a handful of times when I was really little but they weren't a main part of my life at all. I bonded really closely to my Mom's parents, my Grandma especially. I think even if my dads parents hadn't lived in a different country, I think that I still would've been more closer to my moms parents. I find this is usually the case that grandchildren are often closer to their maternal grandparents and see them more etc. this is why I only want to have daughters lol.