A.) Support them Unconditionally B.) Pretend you didn't hear them C.) Argue with them D.) Cry in Anger E.) Cry in happiness

Last year I left school after 3 years of studying to work two jobs before the pandemic to save up to move out... and I've been on unemployment since March and can't sign a lease if I'm out of work, despite saving a lot of my money.I still haven't developed much credit. My parents tell me I'm gonna kill them if I try looking for work and said I should wait this out, but as time passes, the pandemic is getting worse. experiencing a lot of emotional and physical abuse, discouragement, and hyper managment of my life choices for their own saftety is getting to me mentally. I wash my hands, wear a mask and use santizer everytime I have to go out, I am mindful of them, but they actively stand in my way to not even let me reach out to my friends that want to help me out. Now they've turned away because I've been too afraid to act on moving forward. My parents tell me i'm incapable and asking them financial advice gets nowhere. I feel very lost and I feel a lot of pain but I wanna do whatever I can to move forward even if this is the hardest time to do it. Give me tips, I really need it. Also, I might consider moving to another city because a studio apartment in my area costs a 1,000 a month at the lowest...and looking for a job that can sustain that  is very hard, considering I was doing service industry work all throughout school. I've been actively looking for roommates. I know its a huge jump but I dont live in a city that has a reasonable standard of living for young people I dont need much to be happy but I've been slipping into a very bad depression and need drastic change but I wanna be smart about this and not screw it up. the yelling is also very bad constantly, its been hard to plan even when i tell them that i need silence to think...and its been everyday fighting and full isolation. its just bad, i dont wanna forget what its like to be a functional human being.

When I was 14 I sat on my mom's lap a lot like in the car and on a bus. She was in her early 50s kind of thin and I was 14 and thin. how could she handle it?

I plan to move to VA from NY in September and I've been applying for jobs there. I just received an email from one of the jobs wanting to schedule me for an interview and to meet the people. Only problem is my mom has been against the idea of me moving. Every time I brought it up , she got really upset and angry. She yelled at me calling me selfish for moving away from the family, and this has been a constant issue between us now. I live with my parents as I'm helping out financially. She feels like the only reason I'm moving is because of my boyfriend who works in Virginia. While yes, that is part of the reason, but I've told her long before I even met my boyfriend, that I want to get out of NY if I ever got a chance. She just never took me seriously. And is not like once I move, I'm not seeing my family anymore, I'm not abandoning them. I told her that. My boyfriend's family is also here so coming back would never be a doubt. And compared to my parents who moved to a different continent from their family, I'm only a few hours drive away. I know this job pays higher than my current job in NY, but that's not what I'm mainly looking at. I feel that once I can secure a job (hopefully I get hired for this job), it would be an opportunity for me to move and be a somewhat legitimate reason for my mom.  She doesn't know about the September move yet. My boyfriend and I plan to tell her in August, hoping is not too late. What would you guys do?

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She's also gotten her daughter to dislike us though her sons know better.  

I yell a lot( I kinda have anger issues) and my step siblings can't handle hearing me yell. They live with my family half the time and with their mom the other half. My step siblings have not been at our house for awhile because of me. My mom thinks this is ruining her marriage. My mom is saying I am ruining her marriage. If my mom and step dad get a divorce, my mom my sister and I would be homeless. I'm starting to think it might be best to live with my dad(he lives across the country). My dad and step mom don't have any of kids that live in there house. I am 15 years old and I know that I have a say in where I live. Would it be best for me to live with my dad to save my mom marriage? Or would it be best to stay with my mom and risk her marriage? (P.s. my dad doesn't really care about what happens in my life. He barely calls me, I always call him. He also doesn't help pay for stuff I need) What should I do? 

I'm a Japanese university student. As a English class activity, I have to survey about family structure. please answer my google form. your answer only used in my class. Here's a link to the survey. https://forms.gle/WfuMrn2y7be5qVLfA

She is an adult bully

I get up at 5am but the rest of the house gets up between 9-10am.  I do housework during the morning, take care of everyone's (not just my) pets, and give myself a single hour of quiet reading time (and don't take breaks besides meals for the rest of the day).  My family always accuses me of not helping with the housework because I do it before they wake up. They think I'm lazy because I go to bed so early.  Two of our household members leave a trail of messes everywhere they go and seem completely oblivious to the fact that I follow behind them and clean up their messes.   If they see me cleaning they say things like "look who decided to help" even if it's clearly not my mess. 

So, I would be the first to admit that, as a child, teenager and and young adult, I was a bully. I would even go as far to say that I was a  Heather Chandler, Regina George and Cheryl Blossom cocktail. But now I'm in my late 20s, I have a newborn daughter, a loving husband and a sturdy home and work life. I should be living peacefully, right?  Not according to my old childhood chums. So, on Insta, a bunch of people I went to school have come at me with full force telling me how I ruined a part of their lives somehow. They told me how badly they feel for my daughter that she has to share my DNA and be a devil spawn...it's pathetic. Everyone gets bullied. Move on. One girl who I barely remember even told me that I almost lead her to suicide because I was bullying her when she was going through a hard time at home. She said she also had learning disabilities and that stopped her from doing well in school and she had to drop out. That made me feel kind of bad, so I replied with, "I am so sorry. I had no idea and that was horrible of me. I should have known better. But, sweetie, that was years ago, it's time to move on. We're not kids anymore. Thank you for expressing yourself to me. Much love." And she went ballistic on me, as if she could change the past.  I just want to know which loser decided that having people gang  up on me like this was a good idea.  Anyhow, why can't people let go of the past? Yeah, I a bully. Why can't people move on? Update: no, I'm not a troll. This is a real problem I need advice on. Please.

I am 16 and she is 38. Is this considered a young mom when also keeping in mind that this was in 2004.

My parents have been divorced for quite a while and my dad found a girlfriend. They have been together for 2-3y I believe and she is 28 while he is 40. They have unprotected sex everytime they bang. Isn't that dangerous? I have heard that you shouid always have protected sex.

My dam*ed MIL keeps coughing all the time and has been out with people because she's an idiot. My wife says that she might have corona and I think she's right about that. I was hoping she'd die already but is buying a coffin too drastic for now? I hate this woman, and if I had my way, she'd be under a hydraulic press to be squished into a crinkly, Republican, disgusting, tiny cube. Anyway, my wife insists we have a good funeral for her, she is currently 87 and we kno she's gonna die anyway so.

How do I get my boyfriend to clean? His house is a disaster. Garbage, cat feces, clothes and dishes everywhere. You can't see the floor. I cleaned up the kitchen 3 times and living room twice. I live with him, his 15 and 11 year old siblings, and mother. The house is also badly infested with cockroaches. I go out and work and give him things to get done while I'm gone 8ish hours. He barely does anything. He doesn't work and I pay for basically everything. The only thing he actually does is let the dogs out. I have begged him. I even stayed at my grandmother's for 3 weeks so he can get it done but he did nothing. I got his family clothes and new furniture. I get them groceries. Even paint and flooring.  I don't make enough to move out, I have pets and can't afford pet friendly apartment or even studio. He only cleans if I sit in the room & nag and still he gets angry with me. I love him and just need a way to make him do it. I even gave up a free family vacation so I could make him do it, but I ended up working a few of those days.

I felt scared, solid fear especially because my mother told us we would never see him again and I was a teenager before she let me see him. Age 18 to be exact. But then I blame my mother for the whole thing because she had held me back from him even though he was indeed wrong to run off. I idolized my father as a result in the four years that I knew him before he died of a heart attack. Now it's my father's grave that I visit and not my mothers as I'm constantly having to try to make up to my father for not seeing him those years where as my mother I resent.

I wouldn't care if she wasn't enabled. My mother even has me stay away if my sister is here instead of making my sister leave because she doesn't want my sister to get upset, classic enabling.

I understand that he has has sex with my mom. That is natural and completely but I hate when he tells me about it. Then saying **** like that he is going to switch to anal and jackhammer for 10s so she can't walk the next day. How do I tell my stepdad to stop?

My husband and I moved into my moms as my hubby lost work from COVID and we're planning on living in her home until our baby arrives in fall. My husband butts heads with my mom's actions sometimes. For an example my dad is disabled, no use of arms or legs, dementia, and hallucinations, and my mom takes him in the car when she goes shopping and left him in the car today during the 98 degree weather we're having. Naturally my husband was mad. Thing is, my mom listens at our door to my husband talking angry about her. And she comes to me later when my hubby's not around to talk angry at me about those convos n tell me he should learn to control his temper. On the contrary, my husband talking only to me about these things so I can help him work through his anger IS my husband controlling his temper. He never actually says what he's really thinking to my mom as he doesn't want to be mean. WHAT DO I DO? My mom seems to think no one can express anger or they have mental problems and need pills. That's the style of my whole childhood. My sister was hot-headed so my mom made her take bi polar pills and always blames everything my sister does that bothers her on my sisters bi polar. Even when my sister would dump boyfriends cuz they were jerks. It was always her bi polar in my moms eyes. 🙄 Anyway, back to my hubby n me, Is the only solution to this problem to just move out? Thanks.

My 19 year old and I got into a heated argument the night of July 3rd. It was over a miscommunication through text between the both of us. She called me into her room and apologized the next day and I apologized too. Then she went on to tell me that she cut her arm the night of the argument because she was so mad. I told her to show me her stupid *** decisions and she showed me her arm. It looked so bad. I didn't even know what to say to her. I was so furious at her for the ways she handles her anger. We have not talked at all since that conversation on July 4th. She has not come out of her room for anything at all besides to use the restroom. No, i don't check on her because that's what she wants. She has not eaten since July 2nd. It's been 4 days since she has eaten anything. I asked her this morning if she was hungry and all she kept saying was no I'm okay mom. I know she loves me a lot we are very close. I love her too but she always doubts my love for her because I adopted her and she's not biologically mine. What do I do. How can I help my daughter. Why is she doing this. Why has my daughter not eaten or got out of bed in 4 days. I don't understand and I don't know what to do anymore. Please I need some advice.  She also has a concussion right now so I'm very worried about her not eating. Usually she gets really dizzy and passes out when she doesn't eat. 

My now 27yo brother and I (19) don't talk anymore. He has me blocked on all platforms and won't bother to talk to me. This has been about a year now. All because I texted his girlfriend of 3 how I felt about her. She was always over at my moms acting like she's family. She would get really close to my mom and other brother and I didn't like how comfortable she was. The more she was around the more annoyed I got with them. She's a nice person, but she seems to change my family atmosphere. It comes off as fake. My family loves her. I can't say I texted her the nicest things, I just have no say in anything anymore. My brother now tells me he doesn't respect me, and that this being the woman he wants to "do life with" I need to respect her and apologize. I've made it clear I don't care for her, and now my mom cries about how her kids are not talking. He won't come over or even be In the same space I'm in. My older brothers never done half the things he does for her for our family, and it makes me mad how an outsider gets treated vs blood. We come from a hard past with our single mother, I'm his sister? Because of her I've lost my brother, there's just a big ball of resentment. Is he wrong for treating family this way? 

i gained weight due to thyroid and psychotropic drugs.My mom now yells whenever she sees me eat something.She yells DONT GO TO THE KITCHEN.My father says what do you want to do with her to stop screaming?Kill her?

I only have the hope of being waitlisted in the low income apartments. I do not have any options rather than moving out of my dads home and he refuses to help me and my son. I dont have any work and I can barely afford to get any food with the help of the city. Im also struggling to keep myself and my son surviving with the little food due to the fact that my sibling always throws our food out and my father and her eating our food. I dont have any money to rent a room and I need some help asap.