She is one to resent people easily and expect me to also. I never had a father. She says he didn't want me but I am starting to wonder if she made that up since he left her. She used to tell me her father never wanted to know me and yet he was thrilled when I reached out to get to know him. She'd fought with him over money and her parents breakup and divorce. I am afraid to seek out my father unless he really wants to get to know me in case he is the bad guy my mother says or has family that would resent me for looking. At the same time if they loved me then I do want to. I resent my mother for doing this but she is still my mother so I like her and all. I have a 2nd step-father and siblings from him. 1st step-father she divorced and we never saw him again nor did my sister, his child. There my mother did say "he didn't love you" but he did not leave, she left him. He was a heavy alcoholic though.

This being if I have the courtesy to go to the funeral or viewing. I go tot two or three a year. Like when my Mom's best friend from when I was a kid died they were disturbed I went to the wake. They similarly get pissed when I act kind to any of the people they hate (they are renowned grudge holders, my Dad more so in recent years). What is wrong about paying respects when someone dies and why might they be so upset by it? I can't ask them for reasons I don't have space to write. I am from a semi-dysfunctional family cause of my parents grudges. Outside of family though the funerals I have attended have not been anyone my parents hated other then maybe once.

He has not physically harmed her but did pull a knife on her when he was 13 (he is 15 now). He uses every inch of profanity imaginable including the C word.

I have a brother I like and one older half-sister is okay but distant. My other sister I don't like. So I am wondering if it is okay to dislike my siblings like an aunt of mine does. Is it okay to be mean like she is? She is very mean to everyone so we don't talk to her anymore. However, my sister I am nice to but try to get out of seeing her.

He put off seeing the friend again and again an then was going this weekend but the friend died last Thursday. He is at the funeral today. I didn't know the guy so am not affected (though certainly sorry someone died young) but wonder if this makes my Dad a bad person since he was a friend to this person since high school. The man who died was 57 like my father so it is not like my father is going to funerals all the time or anything, The man's wife is likely sad as well as any children of his. My father was never caring to his elders at all when they were sick other then his mother. As a result this didn't surprise me. He was terribly negligent to his grandmother when I was little and his father who died young at 59. He did reach out to his mother when she was dying last year.

My Mom lies about people so I know that is wrong and she is bad.

My aunt married this Mexican guy he calls my cousin papi and my other cousin mija

My brother and I have never really been close. He has always been extroverted and high spirited. I am more of an introvert and I find social gatherings to be draining. We are just too different to be close. Recently I have been going to a therapist. I have been feeling down a lot lately. I am not clinically depressed, I just feel like I am in a rut and I wanted to talk to someone. On top of that my parents had this huge, serious talk with me about our relationship and question if I even wanted to be a part of the family. I talked to my brother about the talk I had with my parents and he was really mean. He said: "What did you expect exactly? You live 15 min from mom and dad and you go there once a month. And every time you bring your gf. You sit there like it's a funeral. Talking with you is like pulling teeth. All you give is one word answers to everything. And have you thought that you are depressed because you live like it? You hate your job, you go home and watch TV, you have no friends, no hobbies and you have gained about 30kg i 2 years. You're not clinically depressed. You just need to get off your @ss and live life". I have that he acts like he knows me, like he has walked in my shoes. I am just so sick and tired of the pressure from my family. For them everything is always fine. I'm not like them. I'm just thinking about removing myself from them completely. What would you do?

Case and point My daughter had six A's a B and C- on a a report card once my wife jumped on the C- and wouldnt let up i argued that 6 grades of an A should cancel out the C- but she insisted that if we let our children get away with good enough, they won't strive for better. Another time she had cleaned her room spotless and even painted but my wife chimed in about her laundry still sitting not done. Ive notice this in general where people tend to focus on whats wrong or needs fixing rather than whats good Essentially my wife feels the parental role is one of correction and not so much throwing a parade every time she completes something well i think she grew up the same way so i cant blame her, i just want to change her focus a bit.

I am divorced. My son talks to his father every day, and has a habit of answering his calls on speaker. At home I ask him to take these calls in his room so he and his dad can communicate with respect and privacy. However, today he answered a call in the car, and I overheard his father grilling him and my parenting and instructing him to punch my other child (to resolve a dispute between them) . I cleared my throat so he would know I was present and father quickly concluded the call. I typically wouldn t interfere in a matter related to their private communication, but i a truly troubled by the instructions he is giving my son. Is it appropriate to discuss this with my child?

I had rules, my sister did not. She would be told there were rules but if she broke them it was no big deal. I am jealous. This sister is a cruel person but she got everything. How do I get over my jealousy?

Asking them to let me doesn't work. I am in trouble with them when they find out I saw enemies in the family. Right now the enemies are my mother's sister and her husband and we avoid their children to get the parents back. My mother was pissed when she looked at my phone and saw I had texted my aunt some old pictures. I exploited to get revenge on whoever the enemy is. A few years ago it was an alcoholic uncle but he died since and so we are nice to his kids again (we avoided them when he was alive). I feel bad estranging myself from anyone in the family and my parents mock this. They are good parents and I like them otherwise so don't want to cause too much of a strain but I am really tired of being used against enemies of theirs in the family. The enemy usually rotates and then aunt we have to hate right now is indeed cruel to her siblings but I am not her sibling so want to be neutral. PS--- I asked last night but got terrible answers so am asking again. One asked why I spam this question but I seldom ask it, someone else must have a similar situation.

Me and my boyfriend and brother have our own band we're doing a concert tomorrow. We're going to pay a tribute to the victims of the Vegas Shooting last year since it's the anniversary we were gonna sing songs by Jason Aldean , Eric Church , Jake Owen. Even though he wasn't there I don't remember it if he was but we're singing Drink A Beer by Luke Bryan and I Can Only Imagine in memory of them the song I Can Only Imagine makes me cry especially after seeing the movie now hearing the song just makes me think of the movie which makes me feel sad. I been to a lot of funerals where they played that. Some even my own family. Will it be ok to cry ?

I knocked over a table when I was trying to escape my mum who was hitting me, and now she is not letting me come downstairs and starving me. She went crazy when the table fell over because a plate broke, she chased me with slippers and clothes hangers. This is typical for Asians. If I go downstairs she threatened to beat me up even more. What do I do, it s 3 pm and I haven t eaten anything. I forgot to mention, I am VERY bored. Yes, I've snuck downstairs and I'm using the computer, but she's taken my iPad...

I asked today if i could have my own room (I'm 15) to study in. One of my parents said that it was unfair to my sister (who only got her room this year, she's 17) but i asked her and she said she didn't care if I got my room two years earlier than she did. I asked my parents again after that, saying that my sister didn't care,so then my parents just settled for the "no you can't, because i make the rules and i said so"... is this reasonable? Am I not thinking right and being selfish? Sorry, i worded the main title question wrong I already have my own room but i'm only allowed to sleep in it. I'm just asking to put a table and be able to study in it. Thank you to everyone who answered. I can see why I'm being selfish now. Really appreciate everyone's opinions they put in! :D This worked out better than I expected, its good to have other people's perspective on things instead of holding a grudge in my head without sorting it out. Cheers :)

Just curious. my daughter s father met a girl a year ago and they re just boyfriend and girlfriend. shes queen on flaunting on social media making a front like she s a "mom." At first I really didn t care, because it just all seems so petty to even overreact about something that happens over social media. But now there s "talk" about my role in my child s life. she literally portrays herself like she is my daughter s mother. she had professional family photos done of her, my daughter and my daughter s father literally less than a year of knowing eachother. At first I let it slide but it s only gotten worse. I don t know if I should feel like it s okay and it s normal for a girlfriend to feel like she has that right, or if it s really over stepping boundaries. She s also the type to try to make herself present like as if she were the mother when it comes my child s school, which I ve had to have a one on one with her teacher explaining to her what the situation was. it s quite embarrassing honesty. in my mind I feel like her being over bearing and everything is normal, but the more I talk to people/mother s they say different. I try so hard to be respectful towards her but there s times I feel like I just let things slide and she over steps her boundaries. especially when I have family and friends come to me questioning what is going on and if I m even in my child s life.

She made 40 buns to go with her noodles. My brother supposedly ate 25 himself(she also gives him benefit of the doubt & says maybe he only ate 21) she's making a 3rd batch but she's been ranting for hours. They got in a heated argument & it's really bringing me down. What should I do to calm the situation? Thanks

So I'm leaving with my mother in law and her daughter; her daughter makes a mess everywhere she walks, doesn't wash her dishes or cleans her mess when she eats but her mom doesn't tell her anything. But if I leave a plate or a mess my mother in law starts complaining and makes a big deal out of it, she says I don't help her clean the house when I actually do. I also have a 2 year old and if you are a parent you know how messy toodlers are but she doesn't get she wants everything clean all the time and is driving me crazy and depressed. Any suggestions or tips on how to deal with her and not get more depressed.

We met at the gym and he asked for my number we started talkng as friends. He asked me to movies and slowly we were going to movies/dinner. He bought me a coach purse and wallet for my birthday, an 800 dollar purse, made me soup when I was sick, bought me gorgeous roses. We were officially bf/gf for a month but dating 4 months. However, at the gym there was a trainer who was interested in me, he grabbed my hand one day when I was at the gym by myself. When bf asked multiple times then I told hi. Another time, I met a guy while studying and was really hungry so went to grab something to eat quick after the library. My bf facetimed me when I was coming home when he thought I would already be home from the library. When he found out he got very upset. Since earlier that week I had gone to the gym and was there for 3 hours and didn't text him when I was done, knowing about the trainer this caused his mind to doubt where I was and he said it was weird that I didn't ask him if he wanted to come to the gym. Fast forward a few days later I was going to the gym and asked him to come but he had to work and I got upset and said so when I ask you to come you say you have work when I don't you get upset. Anyway I said I was done with his attitude He said the attitude was coming from my lack of effort when he blew me a kiss and said have a good workout but I was going back to another issue. So he said if you're done then I wish you the best. Is it strange that if he was this serious about me he gave up this easily? We see eachother at the gym and have started talking like friends/ kinda flirty as well. But I'm surprised why he hasn't asked to talk or anything. I even wished him a happy birthday.

Asking them to let me doesn't work. I am in trouble with them when they find out I saw enemies in the family. Right now the enemies are my mother's sister and her husband and we avoid their children to get the parents back. My mother was pissed when she looked at my phone and saw I had texted my aunt some old pictures. I exploited to get revenge on whoever the enemy is. A few years ago it was an alcoholic uncle but he died since and so we are nice to his kids again (we avoided them when he was alive). I feel bad estranging myself from anyone in the family and my parents mock this. They are good parents and I like them otherwise so don't want to cause too much of a strain but I am really tired of being used against enemies of theirs in the family. The enemy usually rotates and then aunt we have to hate right now is indeed cruel to her siblings but I am not her sibling so want to be neutral.

So I was home alone playing csgo and when my family got home from going to petsmart to get my dogs nails cut my sister told me that someone put a phone in my moms purse, I think someone stole the phone and didn't wanna have it so they just put it in there it's a Samsung and it has an Id thing in it I was thinking of calling one of her contacts and try to return it but my mom is scared and she said she was gonna return it to dollar tree. My three sisters were in the car waiting for my mom and my mom said when she was paying she saw it in there what do we do, I think we should call one of her contacts and try to return it but I honest don't want my family to get framed

My stepmother is verbally abusive and scares me so much that I don't eat when she drinks because she yells at me. She drinks every other night and is constantly blasting music past midnight on school nights and throwing things around when she gets mad. She gets mad very easily. My dad doesn't do anything to stop her and I honestly feel like he doesn't care about anything at this point. She's threatened to put me in foster care many many times but she's never even gotten close to actually doing it. I feel unsafe every night and I have loads of mental issues because of it. If I got my 19 year old brother to call CPS would that help? I don't have a phone. I'd much rather be in foster care than be too scared to eat.

He's mean This happened over the weekend. I'm in charge of protecting my mother from her mean siblings.

She did not end up killing herself but wrote the note. So she is alive now. It was in the days before therapy and all was as common so she didn't get much help.

She is 15 and he let her out and out of trouble with a little slap on the wrist. Even the police took her in and they regularly let my addict brother off since we are rich. I am one of four kids and my parents have two good kids including me and two bad kids. They enable the bad ones, my mother especially. Anonymous: My two bad siblings are f***ed up. The rest of the family is fine. Anonymous: My Dad must need advise cause I am normal and where I am effed up it is because of my mother's bad parenting and my father enabling her to parent bad.

He was drunk like he often is and hunting and got shot and killed by accident by his wife's brother. His wife's brother is a bad guy big time but the shooting was an accident and even the police said so. It has been 9 days and I have not contacted his kids. Since he was not good to his wife and recently divorced now because of it they are going to just have a memorial party on his birthday in November. So should I contact the kids other then going to the memorial in November? Some of the kids were close to him but others not as much and he had been an alcoholic and still drank some. He was mean but had softened some since his divorce 5 years ago. I only knew him intermittently. His kids know he died obviously but I have not called to give my condolences.

His outgoing wife doesn't care but I am just curious as I know his lover's nephew at school and want to tell him we might be step-cousins but my Mom said not to say anything until we know for sure they are lovers. They are in Paris right now together but with other people but it makes us all the more suspicious. Not sure how much his outgoing wife or three kids know.

I know it is not legal and my sister is a very cruel person. But hypothetically what would happen and what would be wrong aside from kids being deformed (this being if we did not have kids).

They use me as a pawn to make a statement against her and so she is always on my mind even though she is not that kind.

Why my brother makes disgusting sounds, talks to my mother like she is a whore, does nothing but walk up and down the house 5 hours a day. Why my dad is sarcastic and callous towards my sister, even though my sister has proven herself as sensitive and well-meaning. Why my mother and father lie to me about subtle things and lift blame on my shoulders. Why people I meet in university or online are pointlessly sarcastic, cold or lethargic. That an act of kindness is met with robotic gratitude. Why some people continue to be manipulative even when its not in their interest. I don't understand anything around me... Either I'm a conscientious nervewreck that walks on eggshells, trying to please people in subtle ways, or I'm unconscientious and loving and put down after a series of unexpected rejections.

I asked Senora, my lab, what she wants out of life and... Are there any eating competitions for K9s in the USA?

They weigh 126 lbs and are both 5 foot 7

My sister is 39 and started dating this guy who barely turned 19. He's always at her house when I visit. She got her breasts enlarged a few years ago and dresses like a 21 year old she lets it all hang out and it's embarrassing. My son is 12 & I don't think it's appropriate for him to see a boy who's a few years older than him feeling up on his aunt and smacking her *** around. I think it's embarrassing

My brother is good at dealing with it because he's very bright, but she's so irritating and literally nobody knows how to answer to her not even dad.

Lately I been wanting a job or to drive because I can get my license in a few months she wants me to get that done first we haven't been doing it because her truck over heats easily I'm waiting to bug her when it gets cool here if not then I'm going to find a job with or without her I even told her this I have no problem with walking where ever I end up working at she always makes excuses or stares at me weirdly but I am giving it a certain amount of time if nothing changed by then I'm doing things without her or her permission not that it's about her permission she's getting me a new phone I kinda need a new one mine is hacked but I told her I can save up for one when I get a job she still wants to I'll let her but I won't let her use that against me in the future if she don't get her way she does that to people. I knew a kind of person like you would comment that I know it's not really a question but I can say it is cause I added a ? at the end maybe I am here to vent :)

My parents are the best parents anyone can ask for. They have struggled a lot to make money and raise us. They do whatever they can to make us happy. Now nothing makes me happy. Whenever I see them I feel like crying. I always have this thought on my mind that how will I survive if God Forbids somethings happens to them. I am very attached to them instead of enjoying time with them I just think I can't afford to lose them. Plz help me no matter how hard I try not to think about this I just cant help. What should I do?  Ps I live in USA as I am studying, they live back home. I visit them once a yea

I just started university and most nights I end up going to bed late because I'm doing work. My sister and her 2 year old are living with us. My sister gets up every morning to start her work on her computer at 5. This causes her child to wake up soon after. And we share a room and this is getting increasingly annoying. It's hard to fall asleep again after 5 in the morning. I don't know what to do. I'm sick and tired of both my sister and her kid.

About a month ago I asked a question about my 16 year old and her not being responsible at home. She half @ss does her chores, she is picks fights with her younger sisters, and she values her questionable peers. There are times when I look at her and there is so much love and potential. Other times I'm just frustrated and confused. She will do the dishes but leave the kitchen a wretched mess. I have no idea what she does while I'm at work. I come home in the morning after a 12hour shift and find the house the same as i left it. Her room..the laundry. So I was advised to let her get a job. That an employer would not be as compassionate and emotionally invested. I was told that she doesn't learn the way I teach. I did the same with all my kids but she is just different. She values peers over family. She has an opportunity to earn weekly allowance. But when she wants to go to homecoming she asks me about a dress. She wants to go to a Bastille concert but thinks that I'm gonna pay for it AND LET HER GO UNSUPERVISED. It's let her get a job and work for what She wants or to let her keep doing what she's (not)doing and not getting what she wants.

I have a brother who I think has an innapropiate gay sexual attraction towards me, he's given lots of unwanted touching and lots of unwanted staring throughout my life, but he found me an apartment because I'm on social security disability, he seems to think that just because he found an apartment that I should have to hang around him all the time, I pay for its my place, he gets very angry and shouts at me when I won't talk to him, when I just want to walk into my place without being bothered, he even started kicking my door one night when I wouldn't let him in, that was years ago, but still just the fact that it happened at all is really messed up, should I move out if I'm in an unsafe situation, and just become homeless

*my family moved in and the youngest cousin is the most obnoxious little **** ever. He's this spoiled little brat who's parents don't make an effort to correct him and instead find ways to shut him up like giving him a tablet and other things like that to shut him up but you know that just created a spoiled child. *my youngest brother is like that too but since I'm his brother I have called him out on all his **** and I don't take it I put him in his place but that's not the case for my cousin. *its been over a month now and I'm running out of patience? He doesn't respect anyone and I've been trying to avoid him because I don't like kids but it's not a mansion and I need to find a way to deal with him... should I start calling him out? He's only 8 and I know he's just a kid but I'm tired of it and his parents don't do ****... it's my house so would that give me some sort of authority over someone else's child in my own home? What should I do? Pls

Okay so today a lot of stuff happened to me today and I kind of realized I shouldn't be president of my high school band. So today, I went to pick up my family and my dad was high and slightly drunk. Well anyway we get into a fight in the car after I pick him and my siblings and mom up and he proceeds to start screaming and yelling at me. That I'm stupid, that I'm a failure, that I don't really matter. So I start sobbing so he has me pull over and I switch places with him in the car. At this point he screams at me that he can't even believe that I'm president of my band and that I suck at my job. He says he can't believe my directors would pick me to do such a responsible real job and I shouldn't of got it. At this point I'm hyperventilating and I end up just going home and crying all night as I realized he's right.I'm never prepared and I always manage to screw something up in some way. The more I thought about it the more I realized I shouldn't ever of been president and I wrote my resignation letter. I really don't want to let my directors down but I don't know what else to do. One of my directors told me that if something like this ever happened I could talk to her but I don't know. I know she doesn't want to deal with me or any of this and I'm sure they're sick of me as well. I just want to give them my letter and leave because I'll only disappoint them. I don't even know why I'm writing this.

I am 27, I have ADD, autism and I get seizures. I don't get a lot of seizures. I still live with my dad and step mom. my mom and dad got divorced 18 years ago, my dad moved and i lived with him and then when i was a junior in high school my dad got remarried. I am having with problems with my dad and or step mom. when one of them or both of them make me really mad i yell and argue then i leave go into another room to calm down and sometimes it takes a little long to calm down. it will be too long if i explain some of the problems. I think they are treating me like I am 10 years old with all these rules and problems etc.

The other day I was babysitting my cousins and my brother had to be there. He just turned 14, I am 16. My parents told him he needed to listen to me and be a good, Christian example. He said he would. As soon as we get there he starts in on sexual innuendos and cussing nonstop to show off to our younger male cousin who does that all the time. I was sick of hearing it so I told him to stop and ended up telling him to go to the other room because everything I told my cousin to stop doing because he gets in trouble for it with his parents, my brother did worse. So I tried to separate them. My brother refused. After my cousins parents returned I left my brother there for my parents to go get him. I was forced to go get him. We both got our phones taken away for the night. I am getting punished for leaving him at a FAMILY MEMBER S HOUSE LESS THAN FIVE MINUTES AWAY. He is not getting punished for anything. My parents are siding with him and refuse to listen to anything I say, even if it has nothing to do with this situation. I tell them things that I have to participate in at school and it goes in one ear and out the other so when I have to stay at school late they yell at me because I didn t tell them when I had told them the night before. Now it is more than half a week since this situation and I am still being punished for it and he is not getting punished at all, but instead bought him electric drums as a spur of the moment thing.

I miss him.

My younger brother is 22 years old but acts like a huge brat. He still lives at home and mooches off my parents without contributing to anything in the household. I was pet sitting for my parents 3 dogs and my brother was suppose to be home. Well he decided to leave out of town knowing my parents were not home and left his dog there. He knew I was pet sitting for my parents 3 dogs and automatically assumed I would care for his dog. What got me mad was that he didn t even ask me to watch his dog. There was no communication what-so-ever and he just left abandoning his dog with me. I have 2 dogs of my own that I brought over. Caring for 6 dogs, being a full time nursing student trying to study for my exam Monday and having a full time job it was already a little much. My problem is that he did not even ask and when he got home 3 days later he did not say thank you or anything. His dog is a border collie that is a lot bigger than my moms dogs and eats more but he doesn t buy food for his dog. He uses my moms food. So I ended up running out of food, having to use my own food. Then eventually went to the store to buy more. So I brought it up when he got home. I told him that it wasn t right that he just left his dog with me without even communicating it with me. Then that I had to buy more food. I was nice about it all. My mom got sick and lost her full time job. She is in recovery and I told him since moms not working right now, it would be best if he bought his owns dog food. Rest of summary: Well he went nuts, throwing things around. Trying to hit me. Calling me names. That I was telling him what to do. My parents got home around that same time and had to intervene because he kept saying he was going to beat the f out of me. I'm a female and he's a male. I do not think that's appropriate language for any guy to be saying especially to your sister. Then when my parent's asked, he changed the story and played the victim. All he had to do was tell me thank you. Which seems beneath him. I wouldn't of had to say anything to him. He knows my moms situation but if you tell him anything he goes psycho. But my parents bought into his story and are acting like I was starting problems. After everything I've done for them. I am just extremely frustrated. Maybe I shouldn't of said anything but he should know that it wasn't okay right?

My step-sister died 2 & 1/2 years ago. She was only 6 & died from getting stung by a swarm of bees. It was a tragical accident & my step-mom cant get over it even though its been so long. My real mom died when I was 4 & I got over it before i started kindergarden. Anyways i dont have a real bed room and step mom wont let me take the guest room cause we need it for when her son from her first marriage comes for visits. she wont let me have her room even if she is dead cause she keeps her room exatly like it was before she died & keeps her urn in there. I been asking for her room for a long time but the answer is alwasy no. I sleep in the den & theres no door on it & im not allowed to make it mine cause its the family room really. Step mom has called me uncaring & selfish & says the room is my dead sisters room. My dads no help. He tells me that i cant understand how awful it is to lose a child. If i cant have her room i should get the guest room right? No! Thats for J. i said he can have the den instead of me. They say i should be greatful for what i have cause some kids are worse off & have to live in there car.

I AM SO DONE WITH MY STUPID PARENTS!

I am 16 and my mom is going to kick out of the house in a week because I don't like my grandpa.She called me a pos for not liking him even though he hit me) and because I won't talk to my grandma. I don't know how to do much of anything. I have nowhere to go. I've never had a job. I have hardly any skills, no friends to live with, my family hates me and calls me a freak because I have autism, I have no street smarts, and i live in a small town with nothing. I don't know what to do if I find myself homeless?