Hope you are doin good and I m married and my husband is very good and supportive. Everything is going good in my life. I just got a news that my ex is getting married. And I had a long term relationship with my ex. we couldn t get married due to some issues. Later we broke up and I never tried to contact him afterwards as I was happily married and settled with my husband. From few days I m feeling low and upset when I got to know that he is engaged and girl he is getting married it very pretty and well settled too. From then I m feeling and comparing myself with my ex fiancé. I want my ex to forget whatever happened btw us and get married and be happy with his wife. But why am I too upset. I want to get out of this feeling and try to concentrate on my work.. Please help me..

My normal monthly salary is around 10,000 (unless I work overtime, which is quite often). In addition to this, I also receive approximately 2500 a month in military retirement. We have 3 kids, have been married 11 years, and live in Kansas. (all figures above are before taxes)

Let me start by saying both my husband and I are full time employed. He makes a bit more than me, but for the most part we split the bills down the center. For his birthday in February I paid for all new camping gear and a trip to the mountains where we hiked and fished for three days. He was ecstatic. Well back to the question, my birthday just passed last Friday and he was planning on getting me a gift card to Sephora. Our cat then got very ill and so we ended up paying 300$ in vet bills. Because I was then worried about cash I told him to forget the Sephora gift card. I don t know if I should have been more clear, that I still would have appreciated something, but I got Nothing. Not a card or a date, nothing. I was initially humiliated and hurt so I said nothing to him and went about my birthday, both of us working. Since then I ve been secretly hoping for a late surprise, only to be disappointed day after day. I work 40+ hours at a restaurant, am constantly helping his and my family financially, and am not the type of woman to own nice things. I was so excited to shop at Sephora for the first time.. so my question is, is my husband an ***, or am I too complicated? Either way I feel horrible and underappreciated.

So. I think my dad is cheating. I actualy read convos off his facebook with a women a while back and had to know all that and keep the info to myself, of course i told some of my friends but never my mom. Couple days ago, My moms phone broke and she used my dads and I knew she was gonna read something she shouldnt have found bc I'm not stupid, i know my dad texts someone. But my mom just said "What are you making sure you are deleting everything?" and then said something about reading a conversation. and shes seemed sad and im really upset. I know my moms not happy with this relationship. My dad drinks alot and my mom doesnt like it and my moms talked about divorce a couple times but i blew it off bc idk i got scared. But i think it would be easier if my parents got divorced bc theres so much tension in this house and i hate it. i dont want to see my mom sad and if i ever saw her cry i dont know what id do. and if my dad is actually cheating im gonna be rly pissed. But im like crying right now and shaking bc i wish my family was good and perfect but obviously no family or relationship is perfect but im still really upset and sorry this whole paragraph is like all over the place i just want to rant and maybe get advice?

There has been cold shoulder between me and my husband, we were never in all fairy love, I would say, all along we were friends, only friends. I m emotional person and had many expectations from my man, he doesnt fit it, Thought of seperation came to mind many times, but have a 4 yr old kid and he is good father to kid. Dont want to take his father away from kid. But what about me, I know I deserve better, need basic love and care. I tried to introspect too, if I am going somewhere wrong. But as my memory goes, I always been doing all duties emotionally, spiritually, physically towards him. He has build his own world and does talks about 'I', he never has 'us','we' that makes me think, do I even exist in his life or he just living in compromise that we are married and in our culture we cant get away easily. Sometime I feel his emotional side totally off. Recently he wrote his first book (He has very good communication skills and using them often he will shut me off in any argument) and got it published, Its more of his own story but he claims it as fantasy. He did not mention to me that he was writing one to begin with calling it surprise. When I start reading a book, He has pages filled up with his past relationships but when it came to me, he has written 2/3 lines. After reading that I could map his behaviour all this years, ofcourse he doesnt have me in heart thats why he could not write about me. Am I going wrong in thinking, I dont want to live in such loveless life.

My significant other and I are engaged to be married this August. We are both 26 and have been together about four years. I've noticed how we spend a lot more time with each other than a lot of other couples (but still includes time spent with family and friends and being apart because of work etc). Seems today a lot of couples like to live different lives very much apart from each other. We are happy being this way but sometimes you get someone who finds it strange. Is it? Also, we both have many of the same interests and career goals (same career type too). So even our work can bring us together.

My husband and I are 20 years old. We have our own house, my husband pays all the bills, and I attend college full time. She was never really apart of my life, I lived with my grandparents since I was a baby. She was in prison for years and years because of drugs. She wrote me before getting out saying she would need a place to stay. And me being the super nice person I am, I said okay. Now she's living here. She was doing good for a while now she's running off with weird crack head looking people for days at a time and coming and going pretty much whenever she wants. She gets on my nerves, I pretty much don't like her honestly. She doesn't want to get a job, she just wants to do what she wants to do! And my husband and I want her gone! Oh and did I mention I'm 8 weeks pregnant so maybe I could use that as part of the reason! How do I break it nicely to her? Because she is kind of crazy and I have no idea how she will handle it.

Today I got home from class early and I find my husband in nothing but his boxers sitting with a half naked women on the couch. He swears nothing happened and that they were only watching Netflix. I want to believe him because I love him and I want our marriage to work being we have 9 kids together with a set of twins on the way.

and women never do this to men.

I grew up in Chicago. When I married my husband, he got a new job in LA. After 1 year in California, he was transferred to another office in Pheonix & 6 months later that office closed & he was transferred back to LA. After moving back to California, 3 months later he was then offered a lot more money to relocate to NYC. So now, we've been in NYC almost 2 years. His company wants him to now transfer to Atlanta GA. I hate NYC! I hate having to move so frequently. We haven't owned a home yet as we've moved way too much to buy a home. I've jumped from job to job from relocating so much!! All I can think about is "I want to go home" to Chicago. I miss knowing around my city as well as the state. I don't feel like I'm "home" I want to go back to Chicago so badly!! I've talked to my husband but right now he's making GREAT money & I know we'd struggle in Chicago as I'm currently unemployed. Any suggestions on what to say to my husband this is really bothering me!!!

He teases and jokes with loads of people and I had my interview today with his company. I asked him for directions bc I wanted to take the subway and after explaining the system to me he said it may be easier taking the bus. But I told him its bc I was hungry that I wanted to eat at the train station first and he said ok. The two of us have happened to be walking ahead of everyone else at times and we would just be talking. He joked and teased me too

My wife and I live in central New Jersey. I work as an electrician and my wife works in healthcare. We have a pretty "go-go-go" lifestyle since New Jersey is not only a very expensive state, it is also very high pace. My wife and I would love to have a slower pace lifestyle, a better work/life ratio, a more friendly place, and a wholesome neighborhood that would be suitable to raise a child. Also, we have 3 dogs and having a big piece of property for them to run all over would be amazing. Our thought was always to move out of state, maybe more south to find the lives we want. Now here is the issues... If we leave here, we will be leaving behind our friends and family. We are close with my wife's parents as well as my mother. We live less than 10 minutes from the 3 of them. My sister is 6 months pregnant and we would be moving away from watching my nephew grow up. What do we do? Is there a compromise?

When I was going through divorce my attorney told me that there is no such thing as full custody over my child in the state of texas so me and my ex husband (who lives in GA, that s also where the divorce was finalized) now have joint custody over our 4 year old. I have heard several different stories and I am now wondering if there is any way that I can get sole custody over my child?

I've met most my expenses, but life has been pulling and so many things are facing me unpaid! I get no help, so it's all me or nothing!

She immediately got angry and said "am I accusing her of cheating? She'd never cheat etc" I wasnt accusing her. That thought never entered my head. I thought it was a personal hygiene issue, which is why I told her. I wanted her to clean herself or clothes. I don't know what to make of this. She never used to smell.

I was the first girl and only girl my husband has had sex with and now 8 years later he wants to have sex with another girl to see what it's like. Does this mean he really doesn't love me or he doesn't like sex with me anymore?

I would think so, cause that's mostly why women initiate divorce from their husbands, despite the fact that he didn't cheat on her, refuse to tend to the kids care, physically abuse her, or became an angry drunk, she would still let her great husband go, cause she knows deep down, she'll have the house, the kids, while the guy get's nothing in the end. To me that shows men are being care takers but women aren't. Men should not be afraid to divorce their wives, due to her not being on the same page as her, if he knows he has good friends and family in his life, then there's nothing wrong with being single for a long time, cause a man needs time to himself after he closed that bad capture in his life.

Hey, I am a blonde, middle age white lady married to a white man and we are both from rural Texas. We are also very religious and attend church on a weekly basis. We vote republican and are middle class. My husband is tall and good looking but his penis is only average(5-6 inches) and the sex is getting boring. I really like the idea of meeting a bit more "rough" black man to satisfy my needs. Around town there are few blacks. Mostly white and hispanic men. I am thinking on going to a night party in Dallas or Houston so I can meet some black men while my husband goes. Is it worth it? Thoughts?

My husband went on a week long trip to visit his siblings during a family emergency. He's been well all week but this morning when I called him, he seemed down, but when I asked he said everything was great. I brushed it off thinking maybe it was just me but throughout the day when we texted or spoke his responses just seemed short and distracted.. I simply told him I hope he feels better and plan on letting him be until he's in a better mood.. Was this the right thing to do, or should I try to ask him again what the matter is?

Does he take care of you better than you even expected? Or did he turn I to a huge disappointment after you married him?

It seems like if a woman wants divorce, then people would see that as natural, knowing women are the one's who initiate it, but if a man wants it, then he doesn't get support from others cause society sees that as very rare and unusual. That's a double standard, that needs to stop. I want more men to initiate divorce, so it won't seem like men love and need the company of women, more than women need and love the company of men. Women have to be satisfied with the men they marry, knowing not every man can't be a famous celebrity or a rich guy. Also all I'm asking is please stick to answering this question and not direct insults at me, all because you don't like my question.

Male domestic abuse.? I suffer abuse from my wife. Not physical but mental. She blackmails me, and controls me. If I disagree then she goes nuclear and also gets her family to gang up on me. She makes me eat the same meals for 3 or 4 months at a time and last week I was actually sick, and she blew up about not being grateful so I finished eating. I can't visit my family. She allows me to visit my Mother every Tuesday night and she goes with me and pretends everything's lovely (as do I) Some Tuesdays she holds me back by saying she's sick or she's just put the washing machine on. And we don't leave until around 9:30 instead of 7:30. Mim goes to bed at 10:30 so I see her for about 45 minutes!! Only guys in my position will fully understand and I expect to be abused by people who don't (get a backbone etc) I can't choose what to wear or eat or go. I must be in bed by 11:30 and when I'm not at work she gets me up at 7:00 and hands me my list of household chores. She doesn't allow me to go to the doctor alone and I have to say I'm going to the shop to buy HER something as an excuse to call my mum and check she's ok. Any other guys in the same boat?

you misunderstand. I'm not married. I'm wondering how long it took others. I've heard this happens to many couples.

He only walks around his job with a broom all day telling people what to do then comes home to me and the kids and is falling asleep all over the place. What the hell is wrong with him? Why is he sleeping so much or sleeping for several hours at a time? Its so annoying I just want to leave him for it!

I feel extreme guilt. He's an excellent husband in many ways, but I feel like my words have no value and that he doesn't listen to what I have to say at all. I love him but I can't be in this with him anymore. How do I deal with this guilt? It's tearing me apart inside. I'm not a bad person, I swear. I just can't do it anymore. I'm so upset. Someone please help.

Hello I have been married to my husband for 3 1/2 years and I have known him for over ten years. I have a 9 year old who he accepted as his own and we also have a 2 year old together. I admit, while we were dating, I didn't know who I wanted to be with: My child's father or him. I married the one who my heart belonged to, but little did I know, he would have issues with me and hatred towards my child's father. Fast forward after marriage, He was moody, distant, downright intolerable because of what happened in the past. Before we got engaged, He told me he forgave me for all i have done to him and this was going to be a fresh start for us all. For almost two years, He was angry, distant, and started having chats on the phone with the doors locked, skyping people with Doors locked. I admit I put that man through hell when we were dating but I apologized and spent maybe five plus years making it up to him before we got married. I didn't want to think of him cheating on me, but the signs was evident. One of them was his cell phone. You would think it was an extra body part the way he carried it around. Three weeks ago, he slipped up and left it for our 2 year old to get access to it. I got the phone from him to see it opened to some girl he was friends with for years ( who knew we were married) talking about their little escapade together. I locked myself up in the bathroom, read every one of the texts until I lost it. I confronted him about it, which he didnt deny. He started to blame me because of all the pain I put him through in the past. I called him every name but the child of God bc I was upset at the fact he did this because of something he "forgave" me for. I left with my kids and went away for a few days to stay at my girlfriend's house. It was way too toxic at home and my kids didnt need to be in that type of environment. A few days later, he texted me and wanted us to come home so we can work things out. I love my husband but the trust was replaced with mistrust, fear, anxiety etc. I reluctantly went back home and he was telling me that he loved me, he was sorry, it was only one time, etc., but the biggest bomb he dropped on me was he wanted to REMAIN FRIENDS with this heffa. I told him hell no! and to cut off all contact (Fb, Skype, cell, text, etc) he had the nerve to say no! He said she was a truly genuine person and loyal ( um your wife should be all that and then some) and he was going to fix things between us and later on with her. When I object to the "friends" option, this is what I get: "If you don't trust me on this, them don't. I know who I am and I'm not going to do it again so don't consider her the problem because I was the one with the issues that compelled me to do this. Try and focus on us." I'm sorry but it's hard to move forward as long as she's around. Am I wrong for for feeling this way because this sure can be a strawberry letter.

I cheated on her repeatedly almost year and half ago. She find out I didnot lie and beg for forgiveness off course she didn't forgive me. she hate me but the only reason to stay married was children two of them. After that she let me loose I can do what ever I want can even have sex with her but no love or affection. we are living like two stranger after that. I tried everything to seek forgiveness but failed. Now 1week ago I had an accident not really bad but was on a bike. So a bad shoulder and arm. But 1st time did my wife act caring she actually cried (not in front of me) and even kiss me when she thought I was sleeping. So do you think I can still seek forgiveness. Because last time I try to talk with her she made it clear we will get divorce when little one turn 18. 5 year still. She act normal infront of others but when alone she always tells me she hate me and wish me a painful death. But when I now feel pain or hurt she still seems hurts but she always says if there is something she can do to make it worse. I am really confused because of the way she act. How can she says that and then cry after seeing me in pain

bank account as one? Is that a bad marriage? Why would they marry then?

Coming up this month, my husband and I will have been married for an entire year already! I want to get him something good for the anniversary, but I'm all out of ideas. Last Valentine's, I got him some chocolate, haha. He doesn't wear colognes or ties. He's not into sports or music. He doesn't drink much alcohol. He likes cars and video games... Any ideas?

I was jailed 4 years ago for DUI and sentenced to 6 months. When I was arrested, some local newspapers took me photos during hearings and transport to jail. My mom saved all coverage of my case, and my husband, when helping her to repair her closet door, found newspapers with me arrested, chained and dressed up with jail's uniform, and all the articles about my unlucky experience. Then he told me about it, and against my thoughts, he said he loves rebellious girls, and chains and orange on me make him horny!!!! It's normal he liked it???

I read many articles where husbands told the police after being arrested why they beated their wives. Almost all of them said they did it because they considered their wives 'inferior'. Wtf?! That is not a good reason at all, actually no reason is good to beat your wife. Do those scumbags who beat their wives and consider them inferior realise that the person who carried them for 9 months and suffered hell of pain while giving them life on this earth is a woman. So their mother is inferior as well then? If you are a wife batterer think again you piece of sh.t! The 'so called' inferior being according to you gave you life and if it wasnt for the inferior being you wouldnt exist, your father couldnt made you of his own. Show some damn respect you unthankful bastards you are failed abortions. I am glad i'm single, I wont marry ever, I can easy adopt or go to a spermbank cause I can financially support myself and I am good independent and strong and dont need a piece of sh.t aka a man. If you are a sexist swine or troll reading this go eat pig sh.t and f.ck off you manwhore bye!!

Ive been getting taller lately and my muscles are swelling so i should be able to get another girl closer to my age so should i date and meet her or just wait for another girl. She has no kids and is not married. The bad thing would be should we get old and id get bored. I can also wait because we are friends.i might be able to meet another girl that pretty but idk Girls never date me for fun for some reason, they think about kids

Me and my husband have been married almost 5 years, and he is a wonderful man, he treats me like a princess, and he has done so much for me the past years. If I leave him he will be devastated and I dont want to be ungreatful and break his heart. I feel like I own him so much, and I should stay by his side no matter how I feel. I don't want to cheat but I feel like, eventually, I will.

I suffer abuse from my wife. Not physical but mental. She blackmails me, and controls me. If I disagree then she goes nuclear and also gets her family to gang up on me. She makes me eat the same meals for 3 or 4 months at a time and last week I was actually sick, and she blew up about not being grateful so I finished eating. I can't visit my family. She allows me to visit my Mother every Tuesday night and she goes with me and pretends everything's lovely (as do I) Some Tuesdays she holds me back by saying she's sick or she's just put the washing machine on. And we don't leave until around 9:30 instead of 7:30. Mim goes to bed at 10:30 so I see her for about 45 minutes!! Only guys in my position will fully understand and I expect to be abused by people who don't (get a backbone etc) I can't choose what to wear or eat or go. I must be in bed by 11:30 and when I'm not at work she gets me up at 7:00 and hands me my list of household chores. Any other guys in the same boat?

So hubby made a deal with friends to buy their truck from them, since they are moving away. They agreed on a purchase price of $10K for a 2007 Ford F-150 Lariat. He made this deal without even consulting me first. While it would be nice to have an additional vehicle we can transport our kids in (they're still in car seats), we didn't have the money, nor could we afford such a large purchase right now. Again without consulting me, hubby borrowed $5K from our babysitter. He hasn't been able to sell his current pickup, and his friends keep postponing their departure date. Needless to say, there's no certainty of when we will actually take possession of the vehicle. No written contract was drawn up, and now they have the $5K (that wasn't even our money) and still have the vehicle. I've asked hubby to find out what's going on, but he doesn't seem the least bit concerned. IMO, he not only put us further in debt, but now we're left owing a large sum to the person who cares for our children (so essentially that's $5K down the toilet). If I even had $1M, I would still be upset. $5K is 5K! But I'm more upset that he has put blind trust in his friends. As long as I've known them, they've stood by their word. But as I said, 5K is 5K. And ultimately, the ones who will be suffering from losing so much would be the kids.

I have been with my wife for almost 6 years, going on married for close to 3. We have had our ups and downs. We have 3 children(2 of them being my step kids), house, the whole deal together. Now we have had our ups and downs like any marriage, but lately a pattern has emerged. She has a friend who by all accounts is insane, she dates guys while be married and my wife doesn't judge her. When she got divorced she was dating a guy and then cheated on him with her ex-husband. This friend disappears for months, then shows up and my wife drops everything to be what she needs. When my wife's friend starts getting all emotional about some guy, something in my wife starts up and then our marriage becomes affected by it. This pattern has happened 3 times now and my wife says when I bring it up I act immature because i brought it up. She moved her friend in and then moved into her room away from me because she said she's not sure she loves me. Her friend leaves then my wife is fine again. Her friend returns and bring s drama and my wife says we have issues again. She won't listen to me about her friend and I don't want to lose my marriage.

My husband was showing me an app on his phone, and an email notification popped up....he opened it up and it was from another Facebook account under another name....he said he didn't have another Facebook, but when he was sleeping I checked the account and the only friend he had on it was his ex fiance....the next morning I said I found the name and opened it....he said he didn't do this and he didn't know why it was set up to his email two of the people at work could of done it, but I've never heard of anyone at work having his phone....what do you think?

I always wondered why unhappy men stay married? Or why does a wife stay if she knows her husband does not love her and has told her so?

My wife has no common sense and it makes me crazy. She does and says stupid things and she does it so much to the point that I am constantly mad at her all the time. She is just constantly doing and saying things that makes no sense at all. For example, she has two older sisters, ones a half and the other is full blood and they are all four years apart from each other. A friend asked her how old was your oldiest sister when your mother met your father. My wife says "Uh... I don't know like 12." I got so embaressed and she does stuff like that all the time. I don't want to leave her cause I love her but when she drives to another town to get her oil changed instead of looking for one near by it just drives me crazy and it keeps me in a bad mood. I have told her on plenty of occasions to think before she does or says things but she just gets mad at me and yells about how I think shes stupid. I feel bad because she is the sweetiest person in the world but I can't handle her not useing her head anymore. What should I do?

This should be a follow up to my last question. My wife finally agreed to talk to me about our marriage although she clearly said that the topic should only be separation. That is my only chance to talk to her. To even tap her on the shoulder now is a luxury for me. A few days ago she admitted that she fell out of love due to my inability to communicate with her effectively. Most of my day is spent on working that I barely talk to her although I thought I was giving her enough attention. I realize that I was wrong, 100% and I acknowledge that. Our marriage is never violent, nor have I deprive her of financial support. Her reason is lack of communication. If that is the case, I made some research and found that separation is never the solution. I weighed the pros and cons and I concluded that there are more advantages in keeping the marriage than destroying it which is only 3 years old. I want to discuss this with her and so far, all of my previous attempts seem to fall on deaf ears. She's also stressed with the situation despite the fact that she is the one who called for it. She was never happy after her decided to keep herself away from me. But all of my attempts to reconcile seem to fuel her anger more. Last night she agreed to talk to me this weekend. I don't want to blow it. I want to tell her that there is more to keeping our marriage than destroying it. I'm not really an articulate person and I'm always prone to misinterpretations. I just want to be careful.

actually I can't delete this question. There is another question I made with more details. Please answer there.

I work full time. I work anywhere from 40-50 hours a week. My wife is a stay at home mom she has been for about five years. We have four beautiful daughters. There ages are 1, 3, 4, and 9. I also work anywhere from 80 to 120 miles away from home on the average day. I normally leave home at 5:30 am and don't see home until after 6. My problem is that half the time when I get home at night the same laundry is in the washer as the day before, there are dishes in the sink that I saw when i left in the morning. When I bring it up we always fight over it. I help out as much as I can. Now don't get me wrong I'm not expecting a perfect house when I get home. I know my kids, it is impossible. The biggest thing is that I'm out busting my tail everyday and when I get home we fight because I expect too much out of her. I let her have free time. She plays softball two nights a week. And she gets to go out on the weekends when she wants to. The other thing that really bothers me is that I adore my kids I always spend time with them. Since we have bought our house I have totally remodeled it, built a garage, re landscaped our yard. I take care of everything outside and I help inside. All of the work on the house has been done by me. Am I expecting too much of my wife? All I am asking is for the same effort that I put in. Whenever she leaves me alone with the kids I try to clean up unless I am dead tired.

My fiancé (4 years together) has full custody of his daughter, who his ex-wife rarely sees or calls (less than 2 weeks in a year I would say, due to her being extremely unstable) Tonight she was supposed to pick up daughter and there was an issue with her boyfriend s vehicle-there was a very heated exchange that came down to her not taking daughter. She said "I hope she (me) is reading these and finds out you cheated on her" I said what?! He said she is just trying to start **** and is pissed. I replied "oh when?" To her. He said that s enough took phone away and wouldn t let me read her texts-I finally got hold of phone and it "was pretty vague, but eluded to beginning of our relationship and was the last time she slept with his dumbass" and then started in on taking him to court etc calling him names . He says it never happened and she s nuts, but now I wonder if he DIDNT then why didn t he let me see the messages right away? It s driving me crazy cause even though he s adamant he didn t, you always wonder what if when its baby mama and history together....

Should the Husband help around the house and with cooking when he gets home.

will you stay to live with your husband eventhough your love for him fades away? will you do it for the sake of the kids like i do? how can my marriage survive without love for the mere fact that i have love someone more than i love my husband?