I have been married for 10 years my husband is a narcissist. He's refuses to talk about anything other than his job and if I speak his starts going on his phone. I think he's only with me because of our kids and I'm the bread winner. He's all ways treated me bad and then says he loves me. And every job he get he want to leave cause he did something wrong are flirted and it backfired. He is nice sometimes but everytime I leave him he finds me and use people from church or my family. And I let him back in cause I feel sorry for him and I trust the people that vague for him. Then it's even harder to leave with the income I have plus my sons have medical condition where uprooting them would take a toll I am out of ways to make him get I don't want to be with him what can I do to make him leave I have tried everything even calling the cops ? Half me still love what should have been but not what is. Should sacrifice my kids home and comfort to get away?

My wife and I are in a debate over this question. I believe it is located in the middle and swear on it while she says no it's on the left side. Which is it?

Even though I haven't been in very many relationships. I do know a thing or two about how they typically work. Today,I watched a documentary about a couple that was on the verge of getting a divorce,because her son,and his stepfather argued frequently. After the program ended,the woman gave the producers an update on the situation,and she stated that she fell back in love with her husband after her son and husband started to become closer. I have a hard time believing that it is possible to fall back in love with your either your ex,or current spouse after you've fallen completely out of love. I mean,there's obviously a huge difference between loving someone,and having feelings for someone,and if you no longer feel either or,is it possible to rekindle your relationship? If someone claims that they fell back in love with someone. Doesn't it mean that they never did to begin with? I know that there are plenty of people that believe that they no longer have feelings for their ex,until they see them again. Especially if they saw them with someone else.

Cut my wrist again I stopped for two years had a relasp last week. I have nothing left to give I gave this life year after year living for everyone I love and who loves me I just turned 20 I had enough I gave them a selfless 20 years me and my bf just brokr up u can see in my other post. I was so strong and I can't believe I'm this low. I live with my bf I don't wanna go back home to my mom she just ripped me off for 1000 dollars and etc I'll never go back to many bad memories and resentment. I just got in touch with my dad after looking for him my whole life for him to conform he don't want me never did don't even know my bday. I Cant stay here and be treated the way I am my my supposed fiance. I'm at rock bottom have nothing to live for but my niece I love her so much that will be my biggest regret plus going to hell for taking my life. No one seems to truley care. All I ever wanted was love and guidance strangers are friendlyer than my own family. I just recently lost my job and looking for another one and trying to get back in school but I'm done!!I took all I could take I'm a young women I'm desperate I'm so weak now don't know how my foundation broke so hard. I have to leave so do harm to myself I need to be away from everyone I need somewhere to go I'm giving up all my money possessions I use to come from money always had so where nice to call home so I can't believe this is who I become. I'm trying so hard I need to move away and start over I need some guidece this is my last plea to live. I need someone fast I'm fighting a war against myself everyday I'm going to go to hell for this.

So here's the deal: I'm an engineer and there's this guy who works in one of the computer labs. I guess he intrigued me because I added him on Facebook one night after drinking. This happened MONTHS ago and I've still never talked to him- neither on Facebook nor in person despite seeing him nearly every day. I still want to get to know him but I don't know how to do so without creeping him out. What do I do? Should I message him on Facebook? He seems to be ignoring me in person and averts eye contact before I can even smile at him (again, engineer, so SUPER awkward).

Even when we where together he never help finachially with our daughter. He makes 70,000 has a house truck . He complains about money and threatens me out of child support. I tried to work with him pay me anything 100 bucks would be nice it took me 6 months put him on child support and he's ditching it really. I pay rent diapers food milk toys and I give every dollar to my daughter. I shop at Salvation Army just to but my daughter what she needs. Money from him would help! He just want help at all. It could take years to get paid back child support!

Its only been a couple of weeks and they have been hell. He is a father of a four year old and I have no kids. We are in the middle of settling a parental schedule for his son , and getting 50/50 custody. He lives in a small town basically in the country and has never moved b/c of his son. I was the one that had to move my whole life to this small town (I'm from the city 2 hours away) to be with him here b/c of his son. I completely understand that he has to be there for his son but i cant see myself living in this small town or raising my own kids in this town, there's no future here. We spoke about moving to the city in a year or two but that means that he will have to see less of his son and they will both suffer and i dont want that for either of them. And if i stay here i know i will be unhappy this is not were i want my kids to grow up. Please if anyone has gone through something similar any type of advice will help. I dont want to get a divorce because of this, but it is making miserable.

I will be 16 in June and I wan to live with my mom. If I go to court, will I have to tell the judge why I don't want to live with my dad? Also my mama gets food stamps, will that ruin my chance of getting to live with her? My parents got a divorce and have joint custody.

my husband of 7 years makes no effort in our relationship. He is a dedicated man, and works very hard to provisde a very nice life, but in general he has no interest in having a relationship with me, he is happy with our roles, me , the house maker, him the provider. Our anniversary was not long ago, he didnt take the time to even buy me a card. It made me feel super crummy, but he always makes ways for everyone else, he'll travel to meet others needs. not a one time occasion but more freaquently then ever. I am so lost in where we are, and I keep trying to get back on track, he shows no interests. what can i do? I feel like I am reaching the end. help.

My wife and I have been together for 5years now and i really love her but she never makes an effort to show she loves me back. During valentines she has never bought me anything at all, but when i dont buy her flowers she gets so moody. She thinks that since i'm the man i should be buying her all these nice presents. Last annivesary i made a massive effort of getting her favourite band to come to our house for a private show, but she didnt do anything for me. She doesnt work coz she thinks since i am a doctor my salary is enough, I have to do crazy hours at work 5days a week, but when i come home she doesnt even cook me anything, she doesnt even iron my shirts atleast. She just sits home and does nothing apart from gossiping with her friends, taking our son to and from school which is (20mins away). I really love my wife but she makes no effort, when i asked her about it she said since she gave birth to our son thats good enough. Am i the only guy out there whose wife or GF does this? It is really irritating me i have tried talking but she never listens. I really wanna work through this for my son. Am i just maybe overreacting or are married women like this ?

I am crying because my husband and I keep having the same fight. We have been married 7 years, I have been a stay at home mom and followed him throughout deployments and when he got out of the military I followed him in his oilfield career and then he got into drugs mostly heroin and I went through hell and back after that we moved home and he got a great job for almost 2 years now and I have been in school now for a year and I have maintained being on the deans list. He knows what I want to do with my life and I want to find a great job and relocate to a great state that will offer great benefits and a good salary. He yelled at me tonight yet again saying he will not leave his job or state unless I am making more than him because he will not leave his job for me to make less than him, he threw his water bottle on the ground and said he refuses to not work and started yelling saying if he wasn t working he would commit suicide because he absolutely has to work....screaming at me and I just told him that I have supported him and followed him through everything and when I finish school he should support me, it should be my turn to have a chance to do something with my life, I just don t understand why he is being so cruel and then screaming at me and calling me a ****. I am in my bathroom crying. Does anyone have any articles about this sort of thing recommended for spouses or husbands to read because I feel like he is being selfish.

my wife left me after 9 years of marriage and it's been 1 year and a half since we were separated, i tried everything that i can to bring her back but she doesn't want to, sometimes she gives me hope and sometimes she doesn't, she always feels happy with and always come to visit me and have fun with me, it's like we'r able to do everything with each other as friends but nothing more... I told her that i don't wanna be friends, i need a wife in the house, cause a friend can never give me what a wife can...I treat her so nice and buy her things she like and surprise her and she always seems to he happy around until i tell her if she changed her mind and return home, she start making excuses and leave fast... She left me, and i wasn't the reason for why she left...She left for stupid reasons because of my mother...i told her to divorce if she doesn't wants me but she never wants to return home or divorce, she just wants to stay like this "SEPARATED"...i just feel so depressed and like i have nothing to live for anymore, i can't afford a divorce and can't love a girl since i'm still officially married, we also have a 9 year old boy who lives with me, and i take care of him fully...she just comes to tell him HI or play with him a little....What shall i do?? is there any door out of this hell! no matter what i do, she remains the same, she turned like a stone! also she maybe needs a psychologist, cause she can never keeps a promise, THANKS!

What would you do if you found out your husband was back with his high school sweetheart 3 months after your divorce got finalized?

Children go into puberty and this culture confuses them greatly to be hedonists and huge consumers. Men dont want to posses women, they really dont have anywhere else to go. Its either what i suggested above, try going to church, or practice some Pick Up Artistry and seduction skills. Those are the single only options. Also, it has nothing to do with the envy of other people not liking the fact that some other people might have more sexual attention or might having more sex with them. It has to do that the emotional and mental suffering of someone being UNINTELLIGENT or WEAK is significant enought for a promiscous person to have ethical constraints.

A bunch of soft old farts is who I know and a wife that thinks Abba is rock music. Lmao

Was it painful? How did you get through. OR If you are currently in that situation, how are you handling things? For me. I cry almost everyday. I was in a very toxic relationship.. With a pending divorce it is hard. I put myself out there in a failed relationship and that hurt me. I wasn't ready for that. I am getting passed it as I need to. My mind is all over the place and I really don't know what to do. I do not like crying all the time and feeling like I am worthless. Replaying my mistakes and woulda, coulda, shoulda... just doesn't help. I recently joined a gym. I'm hoping i can get my energy back and focus again. BTW I am 32.

If he was promiscuous before, is he likely to be like that even after marriage? What about the high chances of being exposed to STI/STD? Where my misogynists at? When this was asked about women, so many of you had so much to say. What about men now? Nope, I sure didn't. The person who answered is not me. I just wanted to see what you all would say when the question was reversed. It's so quiet in here now. Lol, you're the same guy who whined and cried and deleted your answers yesterday when you got too many thumbs down, lololol! You're barking up the wrong tree kid. I can't move questions, and this is my only account. I literally copied and pasted the last question to prove this section is full of people who hate women like you.

Such as not being able to watch TV cause you like different things, hates spouses parents and is verbal about it. Mind set is different, ie...you want no more kids but other wants more and keeps pushing to get you to agree. Been together for 10 yrs but distancing due to not being able to have any common things....

Hi, I'm Dida, I have a problem that I think women out there can help me solve. My wife and I aren't talking. Reason, for the past few months she hasn't been feeling well and I've always been taking her to see a doctor. There's been always a problem somewhere and she's been given drugs all along. Problem is, she doesn't like taking them as prescribed and would find reasons to "forget". Recently when I took her for her first appointment since she's pregnant, the doc found she had hepatitis b and I didn't. Drugs were added including the folic acid she was taking daily. Now four days ago, I found she hadn't taken a single tablet the previous day and none on that day and got furious. I said that it doesn't make me happy what she does since I get worried when she's unwell and always the one too take her to the doctor. She laughed it off and said "well I'm not doing it to entertain you" and this got me really mad. I never said a word since I always avoid confrontations at all cost and she too hadn't talked to me since then. We're only saying excuse me, hi, thanks n others but no one wants to talk. I, for instance feel that she needs to apologize for her answer to me as I was only concerned about her well being. Does anyone out there see my issue here? What should I do? Am I wrong to have done or said what I said? Please advice.... Thanks. Dully Dida.

My ex wants me to leave my daughter with her boyfriend at his house ive never met. I said no I'm not doing that bc i dont know him. She is now saying that he will be her husband soon and I need to get over it and that she doesnt ask approval for my wife when I already introduced them and she knows her. She keeps throwing up how happy he makes her and how my daughter loves him. This is not about her it's about my daughter but my ex is making it about her happiness when I'm only concerned about my daughters safety. What should i do?

Ok, so I have been broken up with my ex husband (were still going through divorce proceedings) for 2 years. We dated for 3, were only married for 8 months (he was abusive) we do not have any children. The problem is, it has been 2 full years and I haven't seriously dated anyone. I've casually dated, but never as a relationship. My family and friends keep harassing me about why am still single, and they seem freaked out that I haven't found anyone else. Am a pretty girl, very nice and friendly, educated etc. Point is there's no reason for me to not find someone. Every time I like someone they don't like me back the way I expect, but that rarely happens, the point is am not interested in anyone. 90 percent of my family members are single, and am staring to freak out that that is going to be me. Am having breakdowns, I can't sleep, I can't concentrate, am freaking out. I do not want to be alone forever, and am only 24. How do I get rid of this anxiety?!?

My husband is very hysterical and bitchy. He's like "You should do this/that", "You never do this/that", "You don't care about me, you only care for yourself, you selfish whore!", "You don't spend enough time with me!", "You don't love me anymore!", etc. And also, he gets into aggressive cat fights with other men and whines, cries, and throws tantrums a lot. We are both 32, going on 33 this year even though he'll be 33 this year. My parents encouraged to marry him because he is also the same age as I am and stay with him as well. Anyway, would you rather stay with a man like this or not? @Anonymous1-My husband is a hormonal man. Always complaining that I don't love him as much as he does.

We have been together 10 yrs and married 2. together we have 3 children I don t work but he does, we live in a social house (council owned) and I ve made the decision I want to leave him but I don t want to leave my children behind he won t let me take them with me, I don t have anywhere to go and no money to get a place of my own as I m dependant on him. He has cheated on me in the past yet I took him back, we don t talk anymore we argue all the time it s not fair on the children! He is not violent in anyway! But he drinks a lot and goes out all hours at the weekend! I ve asked him to leave but he refused and says that either I should go or he ll get his parents to take my kids away from me! His mum thinks he is perfect in every way and feels I ve taken him away from her and hates me for this but that s not the case, I have said I m willing to walk away from what we have but not without my kids! anyone experienced this and how can I go about getting away but with my children!

My wife is very attached to her parents, especially her mother. I've realized pretty much anything I say, from an argument to an intimate conversation, my mother in law knows about. Now I have a really good relationship with her parents, and they're quite supportive, so I've got that going. They live pretty close by, so they're going to be in our lives a lot. In fact, a couple of disagreements we've had its been her mom who's gotten her to come around to my side (my wife even jokingly complains she sides with me too much). We don't fight a lot, or even badly, it's just if we discuss anything, mom knows about it. This includes our sex life: while my mother in law hasn't brought that up herself (thank God) my wife mentions she tells her about it. I even tried to talk to my wife that I think she tells her about too many things, and she told her about that! Now I've become really guarded and self-conscious about what I say. I feel like it's hurting our communication, as even my wife says I'm acting less open. It's also affecting our love life, when I realize her mom knows what I do in bed. And the hardest thing is I've noticed I now get really nervous around her parents. I didn't have much of a problem being around them before, but now realizing how much they know about us I feel like I'm on display (they're still great, and I haven't noticed a change in them, but I just get really nervous, like its the three of them watching me). Any advice on how to deal with this?

My boyfriend and I are madly in love regardless of the fact that there is a large age difference between us. We're used to getting a lot of looks from people when we're out in public but what still baffles me is when we get the occasional question from some brave asshole asking, "Some quality father-daughter time?" Obviously they know the answer to their rude and rhetorical question -- we behave just as any other normal couple would. Thanks guys!

My girlfriend is in her mid-40s, with two young adult kids from a previous relationship. I have no children. I earn a six-figure income and cover all bills and expenses. My girlfriend contributes nothing financially. Every now and then she pressures me about marriage, and I have to gently remind her that there is no advantage in that for me, only risk. Am I wrong? She seems to value a ring and a piece of paper more than our relationship and all the benefits she reaps from it. Should I tell her to just move on if she feels she has to be married?

So my wife has a hard time going to sleep at night so always claims she can't sleep because of our kids, neighbors, etc. So I work all day and then take over with the kids at 3 pm and she naps till 9 pm when I go to sleep. She claims she never does anything and doesn't think I need any time to myself ever, just because I surf for 3 hrs one time on the weekend.

Last year my friend came in our home and i saw her with my husband.She was holding my husband and he was begging i was in kitchen and when i saw them i thought that he was begging because i was at home then my friend whom i know from my childhood i believe on her she accused my hubby and told me that he is trying to rap her. I slap him in front of her and i call the police my husband was crying and he was telling me that he did nothing. While he was explaining this to me police officer come and i support my friend and they arrest my hubby. He was in jail. After 5 months my friend came and told me that she was doing this just for fun and its just a joke. When i heard this i was get amazed and i slap her.She was asking for forgiveness. Then we both went to police station and told every thing to police officer how ever after the bail i took my hubby at home although he didn't talk to me. I beg him to forgive me but he was just silent,he pack up his beg and went off. whole the day i was sending text of sorry and about love and i call him hundred times but after few minutes his phone get switched off and still. Now months are passed i never see him in the city and the bank where he use to do job i went there also but they told me that for 4 months he was not coming i also went to police station for a missing complain but they told me that your husband left the home by his own we cannot do anything but we will try to find him. i also went to his mother's house but his mother told me that she didn't saw him for a months. she asked from me where is my son his phone also switched off but i don't answer of her question and leave her house. i also call his some best friends but they answer me that they met him long ago. police offer told me that in most of the cases the people like your husband committe suicide. where i can go now to find him i love him so much i dont want to lose him ohhhhhhh God help me

My husband agreed years ago to only see male counsellors for his anxiety issues but has since then only seen females.. about 3 of them. One of them he became codependant on for about a year and a half and has caused me major anxiety now that he is seeing a new female one as we moved. Is this normal? He used to call the other up in between sessions weekly and became friend with her. My husband won't talk to me about my anxiety and just gets angry saying i need help and am being a bully. What do you think? Would you care or not? Trust is earnt.. he can't even go into a shop without shatting up a check out girl joking around with her and trying to impress her.. i hate it! And my ex husband cheated on me and even got her pregnant when we were still married leaving me with 3 kids on my own!!!

I hurt her, with my words and actions ( never would be abusive and have never cheated) I have asked God for forgiveness and also for hers she says she forgives me and loves me. I ve been treating her like she should be and helping around the house. Am I doing something wrong because she still won t open up to me. I m dull depressed, I want us back to the way we once where

My wife loved me very much and for we've been married for 3 years. Last week, she admitted that she fell out of love mainly because she felt I wasn't always there for her especially when she needed me most. Now, she's insisting for a separation. Reminiscing, yes she's right. I was always busy with work, thinking that is how I would best express my love for her - being responsible and assuring that we will never ran out of resources. There isn't a day since then where I was not attacked by the memories of some old moments between us and felt guilty for not showing appreciation for the affection she showed me. 1) Walking to the train station. - It was a fine day, close to weekend if I remember it right. She was so happy walking with me, the sun was shining, there are flowers along the way and she showed me how much she appreciated my presence with her that day. In fact, she a took a selfie shot with me. I felt guilty now because I remember giving her a blank face because I felt I was already late for work. God how stupid of me! 2) Her license exam - I took her to the school where the exams will be held. When we get there she was surprised because she forgot her calculator. I got upset because I thought she was more organized than me. Good thing I have my calculator with me the bad thing is she is not use to it. I immediately felt guilty that day for feeling upset. I know it was also my responsibility to ensure she has what she needs. I think I made it up to her later that day. But still the guilt haunts me. When I arrived home after taking her to the examination place, I miss her upon opening the door of my house that I was thinking of ditching work and wait for her at the school. Since the day she admitted she fell out of love, I didn't stopped wooing her again. She is determined to leave; I am determined to save our marriage and my motivation is love. I read that during these period of marital test, the more I go to her the more she'll want to leave me. But I don't care. I just need to express those unsaid love all those years. If I win her back, thank God; if not, still I would thank God for giving her to me and if ever she decides to come back, I would gladly wrap my arms around her again and pledge to be a better husband. I just hope that God will help me make her realize that separation is not the answer to our problem and in fact, it will be a terrible mistake. There are no third parties involved, our marriage is never violent whenever there is an argument and we're always well provided. She just burned out. I can't edit the question. I think it should be more like "Have you ever regretted not showing appreciation for the love your partner showed you?" Since she refused to hear me every time I attempt to reach her, I divert my longing for to show care and appreciation to the people we know, friends, even to random strangers and God, it felt really, really good although the hurt is there whenever I realize it wasn't her I was dealing with.

He has done it in the past several times. And he knows I don't like it. But when I catch him doing like tonight and let me know I hate it he acts like he doesn't care. That it's fine that I hate it and he keeps doing what he wants. Ive told him it makes me super uncomfortable and that it hurts me catching him. But he never acts like he cares it does. And when he tried pleasuring himself without it he made it blatantly obvious by saying he was depressed now because he could look at naked women.When to me it hurts me and it makes me feel unattractive. What should I do?