I wasn't upset with him because I felt like we were broken up and it wasn't cheating BUT my friend said it's cheating because we weren't even broken up for a full day AND we got back together the next day. He ended up having sex with the mother of his child. He called me and told me it was a huge mistake and begged for my forgiveness. We got in an argument and i had cussed him out so he said he felt hurt and was trying to get over the pain by having sex with her but he said he's in love with me and it only made him feel worse. we have also been together for 4 years. he's 36. My friend said it's wrong. My friend said " I would be too busy crying instead of immediately going to another man house to have sex with him." She said he probably been plotting that the entire time and probably just missed having sex with her..

I wasn't upset with him because I felt like we were broken up and it wasn't cheating BUT my friend said it's cheating because we weren't even broken up for a full day AND we got back together the next day. He ended up having sex with the mother of his child. He called me and told me it was a huge mistake and begged for my forgiveness. We got in an argument and i had cussed him out so he said he felt hurt and was trying to get over the pain by having sex with her but he said he's in love with me and it only made him feel worse. we have also been together for 4 years. he's 36.

He comes home he knows I am too tired to cook these days. We have two little kids and one on the way. He came in and I asked what we were going to eat. he has had some leftover noodles from the Chinese take out. He reheated that and ate it not even worrying about us. While I'm in the kitchen trying to cook something for us this late he asks me if the show that was paused was being watched by me? Like it's obvious it was me because it is mature content. But he was just trying to figure out if I was upset.I answered yes. So he proceeded on changing it to YouTube and putting on songs that were sort of making fun of me. Then songs telling me he was bad and I shouldn't trust him, like he was pretty much enjoying it thinking I was mad. I wasn't mad I just couldn't understand how a man who has a pregnant wife and two kids at home couldn't care less about feeding them first. I cooked and fed them of course. Then he comes and shows me a picture of a snake eating mice with the caption "when you get back with your ex thinking it's going to be different this time". He was trying to hint that I shouldn't get my hopes up about us because he hasn't changed. I'm going to file for divorce as soon as I deliver this baby and find a job. I'm not even hoping for anything anymore. I'm just being cordial with him because we have kids. But why is this too much for him to accept. Is it because I told him it was over between us?

I feel like many women are reliant on their significant other to always be there for them no matter what, even for the slightest thing, and if they don't get what they need or enough attention, they get upset. But if a man was always asking for his wife for attention, she would laugh at him. Basically women are enabled by men to be clingy and needy, but if a man exhibits the same traits, he's seen as weak by the same woman whom he supports when she is needy

If someone searches for your everyday on social media , on multiple social media websites such as LinkedIn , Instagram , and Facebook , is it safe to say , this person is a stalker or just maybe have a crush ?

I just got married a few months ago, my husband and I did not live together before we got married and I'm just now getting a sense of how messy he is. My question is how do I bring this issue up without hurting his feelings? I'm so frustrated! Examples of how messy he is: he does not know how to properly wash dishes and he never even does, does not know how to do laundry, when cooking he spilled on the counters and floors and does not wipe up. He would cook in a dirty pot if I didn't clean them. He throws his trash "near" the trashcan and won't pick it up. Same with the bathroom trash, he will spit in the sink and not wash it down. He throws his dirty clothes on the floor or furniture and never puts them away. He drops his shoes and socks wherever, leaves piles of papers and books everywhere without putting them away. He never dusts or sweeps or mops (now I do all of these things). He spills on his clothes and the sofa and chairs and does not care. He wears shirts with dirty pit stains and pants that don't fit (didn't do this while we were dating) it's unsanitary and honestly a turn off. There's more but you get it. I really need to talk to him about this without hurting his feelings! He's very sweet and lovely in many other ways, how can I bring this up???!

So, this is about my husband's friends. They're more like close acquaintances to me, I don't make friends easily. But I can usually see people's true intentions early on---Which is why I don't care for them as much as my husband does. They're essentially the doomed married couple that got married for financial benefit and got themselves into a doomed union from the start.  So, the wife. She's a sweet girl, she's a great homemaker and she's very naive.  The husband is about 7 years younger than her, very immature and self indulgent. While they were dating and even in marriage he has cheated on her several times with multiple women.  He's one of those people that likes to talk over everyone right after they tell a story, and he'll start off by saying, "that's nothing, one time I..." and then he goes off on these crazy, and fictional sex stories.  Anyhow, a few months ago while he was working out of state for several months, he got "the itch" and so sought out some female company from an app. He found it and for seven solid months he was living with her.  When his wife found out, she was furious. So, out of desperation, he said all of this could stop if they had a baby.  Why do couples believe lifes biggest game changer is going to mend a broken marriage? They're the first couple I've known to do this, but I've always heard that this happens a lot.  They immediately tried and now they're due later next year.  I feel they will almost immediately regret it. 

I got married to someone who I thought is my best friend then despite a large age difference. We are ethnically same origin but culturally very different. I am a vegetarian and he is not We both speak the same language but in a very different accent. He has not many family traditions but I come from an orthodox family and he questions me and disrespects a lot of my family beliefs. Now we have a child and he criticises my accent when I speak Tamil( my mother tongue ) and he  keeps correcting me when clearly I am not speaking it wrongly but just in a different accent. He refuses to accept and respect the differences and things are worse as he is not getting along with my mother. I come from a close but small family but he seems to keep his family close and  totally ignore mine. My marriage is falling apart and I sometimes think about parting away but don't think it is totally fair on my child who clearly needs both of us. How do I handle these differences in opinions ? 

Like a guy who's covered in zits, has cheetoh's cheese crumbs in his beard, unkempt unwashed clothes, smells bad, never showers, long greasy hair, never shaves, has horrible slumped over posture, is skinny fat with a beer belly but pasty skinny arms, etc etc, collects YuGiOh cards and plays pokemon still at 30 years old and is obsessed with my little pony and anime

 My girlfriend has gained weight this year and I think I should talk to her about it. It's been steady throughout this year to about 12-15 pounds. I'm honestly not bothered by it, but I don't want it to become more than this. When we first me she had a very toned body and loved to do outdoors things with me. She's become pretty lax this year and gained the weight, she's about 5'6 and it doesn't stand out too much right now. I know she won't always be the thin young woman she is but I don't want this to happen right now before we even gave kids and get old. Should I mention it to her? How?

....or face divorce if you refused

Or will she continue changing partners even after marriage as she is used to it and its nothing new fof her to sleep around? Specially some who thinks that its their body so they csn do anything with it, and its not her husband's business with whom she sleeps around with both before n after marriage as its thrir freedom?

I recently found out that when my wife and her female friend (who is also married) went out of town together, they ended up meeting this seemingly random guy, hanging out with him, going back to his place, and spending the night there instead of at relatives place. I found this out when I randomly came across some really strange pics of them, posing in front of this guy's bed, with their pants unzipped like they were just putting their clothes back on with a caption saying "good morning". She insists that I'm overreacting about this. That it's not weird they spent the night at some dude's place, that the pictures were all in fun, and that nothing happened with this guy. She never told me anything about this, and I'm supposed to believe that it's totally normal for two married women to do something like this? Even if she didn't do anything with this guy, I feel like the staying with random men and taking pics like this is beyond acceptable and has broken the trust anyway.

So last night my wife's sister who was over for Christmas was in her own room just as were were in ours.  At around 3 I got up and needed to drink water to so got out of the room, as soon as I opened the door; the other rooms door where she was staying had just opened up. That door is facing our rooms door. She had gotten out with no clothes on. I was too sleepy to realize sooner than later what the F I was looking at. By the time she realized I was standing 10 feet away from her I had seen enough of her to remember what I saw. She quickly went inside the room.  Now this is morning, I am not sure if she is in the living room but I am locked inside the bedroom not coming out. I told my wife I am not feeling well and taking rest.  What should I do? What is going to happen when I see her? Should I talk normally like nothing happened? How do I do it?

I mean i heard the term "cheatting "here a lot .it is the sign to end the relationship why does smb complain or it is a clinical nervous state of nerves ?

For clarity, there were issues before that I knew about, but at first it seemed like normal couples fights at first. Long time friends. Turns out the wife fakes being perfect and happy when company is around, but when at home or at her parents home, it's a psycho free for all from her. Her own mother is fed up with how she treats her husband. This was found out by accident dropping some items off and windows opened. She didn't know I was already there... the poor guy was holding it all back while she pounded on him and was screaming "you're a lazy piece of s**t, mother f***er", etc... I know for a fact she sleeps most of the day, can't handle the kids and spends every penny she can get and cheated on him twice. He is military and tried to keep it together for his kids. I saw her go back and forth from I want you ******* gone,  throwing his clothes in the yard TO why are you leaving, you dont care about me. He does a budget spreadsheet, cleans, cooks, stays up with the kids and works the same job title, at a more difficult location, has given her everything imaginable. He was thrilled to have someone just sit and play with the kids so he could do laundry because she won't do anything. She asked for another child, too.  I encouraged counseling, but it appears to be beyond that. I ditched her as a friend after watching it so many times after the first. She expected me to defend her.16yrs doesnt mean a damn thing if you're a piece of crap to your family (screams at babies too)

Our extended family is united against the wife and determined to hate her forever for leaving him. However he had a very bad temper that was never violent and had a girlfriend further separation before they were divorced. He also talk to her like she was a dog when I was younger. The wife's wrongdoing is she got a divorce and apparently she's kind of demanding. She also seems to be someone to hold grudges easily. They've been married 24 years. They separated in February and the divorce will be final this February. I have three kids two of them are now adults

My ex wife cheated on me and had a baby. So because the baby father never came to sign the birth certificate they gave him my last name which was hers at that time. Can I get his name changed to his fathers name or at least to her maiden name? (Texas)

I invited a friend over for Christmas dinner with my family. He doesn't have a lot of money and stuff so we thought we were being nice.  My family even got him 50 worth of gift cards to different restaurants so he'd have food. When it was time to leave he asked my mom if he could take food home. My mom said sure. He took so much food home he didn't leave enough leftovers for my family to eat!! As he was leaving he thanked my mother. He told us he wished he could have gotten us gifts but was happy he was able to at least get his best friend back home a gift card to Starbucks this year.  I found that to be a bit "tacky" showing up at someone's home with no gift, eat their food, take home almost all their left overs then as they are leaving tell the family how they could afford gifts for other friends but not them.  I know he doesn't have a lot of money but I still found this tackles. Thoughts?? 

My husband and I had his family over for Christmas. I honestly can't stand his family   and I want to put my foot down about them coming to our house but I don't want to be THAT wife.  They are from NY and I'm from Alabama. I've always felt like his family looked down upon me because I'm from the South. Almost like there is something wrong with me or something or that I am beneath them. We  did a gift exchange. His sister purchased me a shirt that was much too large for me. I'm very slim and generally wear a size XS. She bought me a M. It did not fit was swimming on me. She apparently bought it at some local boutique not close to us. She got so mad when I tried it on and it didn't fit. Made comments that I should just keep it and shut up and that I'm too fat to be an XS. I also heard her whisper to another family member that my husbands sister cooks way better Christmas meals then I do and we should have just Christmas at her house. I'm really offended. I never told my husband what was said (I'm sure he heard about the sweater but said nothing.) I don't want them in my home anymore! Should i tell my husband? I'm afraid it'll cause WWIII.

So my husband knows I'm sick he tells me to go with him to a restaurant i don't want to go and i tell him its cold and rainy but he kept insisting. Anyway i was mad but i went i sat with him did not complain . i get home Im angry so i go to be alone he follows me everywhere refusing to leave me be. So i go lay on the bed i don't want to talk because i don't want to fight. Im trying to be calm. And then he hold me down. He didn't let me leave. I yelled told him get off me let me go. And he didn't he even laughed.