Hi to start off with I have never been a materialistic person... This is my first year of being married and I come from a family that doesn't celebrate any holidays because of abusive parents I let my husband know that I was extremely excited this year to finally be able to celebrate Holidays because It's always been my dream he has never celebrated any this first year of being married he always plans a perfect holiday and in the end it never goes trough this time around he said Christmas was going to be the one and I was extremely excited but instead of saving the money we already had saved he spent it all and let me know that Christmas was going to be just like any other day. Should I really be upset? Or am I being dramatic I feel extremely sad because it just seems like he doesn't want to spend any nice holiday with me or even take me around his family  I really just sit around these holidays and watch as everyone is enjoying with their families he seems to acknowledge the sadness but just gets mad at me for being difficult with him

My husband and I don't agree on what to spend our money on. We are both 29 and have been married for two years. I'm finally at a point where I want to completely separate finances because we are getting so behind in bills and all he cares about is spending money on material things. We have no savings and are currently renting. When I bring it up he guilt trips me since I'm the bread winner but also everything is my name so when we fall behind it is really only affecting me and my credit. How can I separate our finances in the easiest most compassionate way possible 

I'm in college and have math problems to do. She graduated two years ago. She said she is not interested in helping me with the math problems because she hates math and she's not good at it. Not cool. I go to her girly places with her like victorias secret but she doesn't want to help me with math problems.I text her and ask her to solve questions. I want her to learn this stuff too. Every time I text her about the math problems she goes " idk. I"m trying to cook."

I'm 31 years old and my life is falling apart. My now (ex) fiancé and I were engaged to be married. He accepted a job transfer and we had planned to move in November of this year. Prior to November I left my job and landed a job offer in the area. They needed me to start earlier so I moved 14 hours from everything I knew in September.  Once I got here, my fiancé started acting weird. In November (after I've been out here 2 months) he told me he changed his mind and decided not to take the job offer and also didn't want to be with me. I'm trying so hard to make it work here but I know absolutely nobody, my family is 14 hours away I'm depressed and miserable. Would it make me a loser to quit my job and move in with my parents back home? I'm not happy here. I'm just worried people may think I'm a loser at 31 to be moving home.

It may sound funny, but the problem is ruining his marriage and life. Any suggestions?

I love my wife we have been together for 20 years but married for 10 about 4 months ago she started talk in chat rooms and apps to people in different parts of the world she is wondering why I'm a little ticked off when she is telling these people that she is single and I love you on the phone to these guys and doesn't want me in the room when she is talking to them but I bet if I was doing the same thing she would be pissed I'm just looking for advice

He was extremely controlling and short tempered when we first started dating and I knew that, But I was so happy to find a man that wasn't cheating that i swept a lot of this under the rug. 10 years later I find myself becoming less and less attracted to him. He provides well for me financially but I feel like it ends there. I have to tip toe around what I say to him because I feel like everything I say enrages an argumement with him. I lost my virginity to him. He's 38. I'm 29. From the jump my parents never liked him. He has 3 other kids from previous girlfriends. We don't have kids together. He doesn't want anymore kids. I mean that part is fine, because I have no desire to birth kids anyways. From the outside looking in it looks like i have the perfect life because I get to stay at home and try to run a buisness ( he is funding my buisness), my buisness hasn't jumped off the ground yet so I'm not profiting. I also never learned how to drive because I've lived in New York all my life ans we just now relocated to a smaller city. He's always making comments about how I don't need to drive because my attention span is bad, but friends and family have been encouraging me to be independent. My mom told me "if this man leaves you then you will have absolutely nothing. it's a red flag that he's not encouraging your independence." He's not affectionate unless we are having sex, I don't even remember the last time I tried to hold my hand willingly. I'm so drained from this. I don't think it will get as bad as him keeping my friends and family away from me though. He hasn't tried to do that in all the years we've been dating. also, my husband tried to downplay my brother's engagement.. he's only 22 and he proposed to his girlfriend in Paris recently. My husband was like anybody can get married in paris" and he was saying how he didn't need to do all that to profess his love and how people just do stuff like that for attention.

I dress in sweatpants, slides, and oversized hoodies around my boyfriend all of the time and he doesn't care or comment. I've been with him for like 7 years but my friend said it's a bad sign. My friend was like " HE probably doesn't want you to outshine him because he's insecure. If you were walking around in stunning outfits all of the time it would make him insecure. how pathetic to have that little confidence." ALSO I was talking to my boyfriend about meeting up with one of my guy friends who can help me expand my buisness and all of a sudden my boyfriend started getting dry while we were texting and I could tell he felt some type of way. I have a fashion blog up he acts mad every time he has to take pictures for my blog. I find myself becoming more and more irrirated. I love that my boyfriend isn't shallow but sometimes I miss being with a guy that would appreciate my nice outfits and take pride in appearances. My boyfriend wears the same thing everyday , his shoes are falling apart to the point where they are starting to smell. I had a guy friend i would hang out with and although he was harsh i appreciated it. I came out with stained and wrinkled clothes and jokingly said " aRe you seriously going to leave your house like that" I feel like if someone really cares about you they won't have you out here looking crazy or embarrassing yourself. I mean my friend was harsh but honest and i appreciated it. My boyfriend doesn't hestiate to state his opinion everywhere else . Also, every time we have arguments he threatens to break up with me. I keep telling him that if we are going to be together forever then he needs to learn how to communicate better. breaking up and making up constantly is extremely toxic. Not once have I initated any break up and i've been frustrated plenty of times. I admire his loyalty because no one of my other boyfriends have been this loyal. and his ability to be there for me no matter what, when he thought someone was in my house he drove all the way back over here to make sure I was safe. But he has a my way or the highway atitude and a lot of times I feel like I'm walking on egg shells.

My son lived with me and my 2 younger kids until he was 24. He's my 1st so that's my baby and our relationships strong. I take family seriously, and family over everything. My DIL is very nice I like her very much. She stayed with us for about a year with my son when they were saving so she became apart of the household and like family early on. We went through ups and downs that same year but now her being the first married into our family we wanted to make things work and did. Now it's been a year since the wedding and I text my son to come over, or his siblings will want to come over and see him, I ask to make food and for all of us to eat together, call/text him everyday and I don't get a instant response or a response at all that day. I feel I come first in his life beside his wife, but now maybe he's focused on other things? Last time they were around us his wife was trying to leave after an hour. I know they want to start a family and all someday, but is the wife trying to keep him away from us? 

Not everybody knows yet. They have been married 30 years but had multiple separations. Very dysfunctional.

First off i kind of don't care anymore. It happened yesterday when i left for a counseling appointment. We had sex the night before and to be honest it was awkward as hell. We don't really ever have sex. He is constantly playing video games and doesn't shower and lives off of SSI money (nothing wrong with that but not my style)  i cried for a while, but now i don't want him to look at me or touch me or anything.  I feel empowered that he cheated!!! Like i have the upper hand. He is now my puppet lol jk but no i do feel empowered and almost free? I feel now like i don't need him and this was just an unfortunate, eye opening, cherry on top of all the things that he's done which include strangling me and hitting me. He is also very verbally abusive. I'm so ready to flee like there's no tomorrow. He is adamant he didn't cheat and i don't have any proof but the way he was acting kind of proves it. How do i just leave? He is always threatening to kill himself if i leave and i don't want that guilt on my conscience.

Me and my partner been together 3 years. We have lived together for 2 years and a few months and have an 18month old child together. My partner has 3 children from his previous marriage his children being aged 15 14 and 11. He was going through court at the time I met him to try and see his children as his ex had stopped him when she met her new boyfriend. After her and her boyfriend broke up she was a little easier in court and he got his child arrangement order in place and I met his children and after a couple of weeks of getting to know them they began coming over for weekends. I enjoyed them coming and they did too and enjoyed spending time with their half brother. All was going well. His oldest child never came to meet me or my child and sent my partner a txt message wishing our baby would die. She was 14 at the time and to me it seemed she knew what that message meant but I let it go she was maybe lashing out at her dad having a new baby with someone else. Now the other two children have said they don't want to come back they hate me and my child and never want to see either of us again. So my partner is spending time alone with them and taking them for days out that I am funding as he's not working at the moment due to an illness. He asked me for £400 for their Christmas presents and £80 for his daughters birthday. Iv done all of this and he's wrote all the gifts out to his children from him and our child's name... not my name as he says that would just upset them. 

From the start of the relationship they've never liked my exclusivity in life (more private, more into staying within a circle, & not being so involved in social media). They've expressed it as "weird & strange."  But anyways, as the months to years go by... there's been an increase amount of disrespect with excluding me from family weddings, family holidays, & family vacations. Any amount of my husband not responding to messages results in me getting harassed of "controlling" & "not wanting them to be a part of our lives." I've given reassurance, talked in person multiple times & have met up to ease the tension but nothing seems to change. I've hit a point where I'm seriously fed up, I've talked to my husband & he mostly agrees but believes if he responded & communicated with them better that none of this would happen. This has been ongoing for 2-3 years & I feel like I can't be completely faulted for being fed up. Me & my husband do have a son together (he's one) which increases the tension of certain family being talked to & others not.We haven't spoken to them in about 8 months. But then, just recently my husband has voiced that "it's unfair my family is around & his isnt" I have voiced that the relationships are different & that my family doesn't continuously put us down or harass us & he agrees but still believes we need to have them in our lives.We're about to divorce because of this disagreement. Any thoughts? Advice?

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