I am using anonymous because this is a sensitive topic for me so I don't want my family if they are on here to see it.  My brother and I used to be close but in the last six months he lost his job and he had some issues with the law that I called him out on and he is holding a grudge against me. I apologized to him but he isn't forgiving me. He told my other sister that he is really off of me right now. I apologized more than once but I was trying to let him know that he can go back to prison if he isn't careful. He spent 13 years in prison and I didn't want him to go back. Sometimes the truth hurts.  He called everyone but me on Christmas. I am ready to cut ties with him. Any ideas?

i'm really scared. im only 13 and this news that their sending a missile towards us as a christmas gift or something. i live in washington DC so i'm scared that they bomb us or something

My boyfriend and I met online last year and he has a tourist visa to USA so he visits me many times per week and once bought me a ticket to Russi. He always told me how he hates my country but he loves me. He always buys me lots of gifts, treats me so good and always makes me feel like a princess but the only thing that sucks is his hate towards my country. It's not about him hating my country but hating it making me feel insecure for being born for who i am and I told him that and he apologised and stopped saying that. But today when I mentioned politics in America, he told me that not to mention this country then continued to say they're evil people and deserve 9/11 which started an argument. He's so sad that I called him a bully but I ain't apologising until he does it first.  Btw my boyfriend is currently studying dentistry and beauty in Russia and he said his dad will open him a clinic in moscow after he's done. Also his dad is a very successful doctor with his own clinic in Moscow.

They should be greatful I sacrifice so much for them this is the thanks I get. I am pretty much in a fighting screaming raging mood when I get home from work.My daughter threw one of her Christmas presents back at me after I call her an ungrateful lying brat and accused her of stealing.She said that she is also pissed I threatened to call the cops and have her put in a mental institution because five diollars was missing. She said this is why her stepkids do not want to visit me.

Hello I am 37 years old and every time I tell my parents I want to end my life they fuss about it. I think it would be the best way to end my problems.

I got offered a job a hookah bar/ nightclub when I was out for hookah with my sisters. I have a job already but I really want to get a 2nd one because I am a high school student trying to save for university. I'm really considering taking the job because it could be good money. My mom and dad don't know and I don't plan to tell them because they'll disagree instantly. I have considered the risks and consequences of working at the club but I still feel it could help me out a lot. Can anyone help me Find a way for me to leave  the house at certain time and enter my house at late hours (3 a.m.). Also give me extra tips and advice please. I'm underage if u can't Tell 

Should an mother complain? Her 18 year old daughter is pregnant and her step father is a biological father of her step father. This is legal, because he did not have sex with her before she was 18.

A little backstory: When I was young, I was molested for years by my best friends father; he is now in jail and has been for over 10 years.  Fast forward: Two years ago, my cousin went to jail for molesting his step-daughter. Naturally, when I found out I was disgusted. However, the rest of my family has seemed to "forgive" him and thinks he still deserves our love just because he's family. They often talk about him in high regard because he's "doing so well in prison", my aunt makes us write to him on Christmas cards and brings his crappy artwork to our family get togethers so we don't forget about him. My mom especially gets mad if I say something like "he deserves to be in jail", etc. because it's her sisters son and she wants to be there for her.  When my family talks about him it seems like they forget what he did was wrong or they don't believe he did it (but he wouldn't be in jail for maximum sentence if he didn't commit the crime...) And when they talk about it, it makes me feel physically sick and like they forgot completely that I was a victim myself and how could they possibly be ok with it? What about the young girl who's life he ruined - why are they not more worried about her? I understand forgiveness, I understand commitment to family, but I personally cannot let this thing go. Am I being too stubborn? I've never said these things to my mom because she is so defensive, but I want her to know how I feel. Or should I just keep it to myself? In need of advice.

I'm 24 currently 24 weeks pregnant. I've been trying to find places I can go in Ontario or even outside of Ontario to get away from my baby's dad. At first he was sweet then when we found out I was pregnant he began to change. He's hit me a couple time's before but he has always made it seem like he didn't mean to do it. Before it was the mixture of weed and alcohol and then it was alcohol.. On Christmas because I did not want to watch his two daughters open gifts because I wanted to get ready for my moms Christmas party, he took me to the bedroom to argue and while arguing he punched me in the face. He immediately hugged me and begged and apologized but I've come to realize that it would never end and it's just getting worse. I use to trick myself into believing that maybe it was the drinking that made him hit me. I've spoken to my mom about it but she's just said to suck it up because we are having a son together. My only priority in life is to protect my son. 

i made my 6 year old child to read the Bible and he said it was boring I spanked him but he needs more punishment for being rude because he's a jerk for saying that and he needs to learn his lesson and believe in Jesus and god. But how should I punish him?

My stepmom wants me to have nothing to do with my mom she tries to make selfish excuses to prevent her from being a part of my life. I would go to my moms every Saturday. My stepmom is also trying to block her out of my life you see my mom wants to be apart of my life but my stepmom always stops her she also finds a way to stop me from going to my mom and step dads home she also won't let me speak to my step dad as well when my step dad called she answered and told him that I was sick and won't be coming over what do I do no rude answers please

When we're alone, he doesn't say anything bad to me or about me. He chases after me and tells me a bunch of sweet words. He loves me way more than I love him and he gets clingy when there's no one else around. When his family comes over, he starts acting different. His mother, sister and her husband came over for Christmas. The whole time, he was sitting there making fun of me with his mom and sister. He was saying things that he never says when they aren't around. He becomes so toxic and I hated him for that. He acts so "manly" and emotionless. He doesn't give a crap how I'm feeling. I was sitting and having a conversation with his sister. He came into the room yelling and telling me to go to bed. I told him no and that I'm gonna finish my movie that me and his sister was watching. He went over to the internet, and pulled out the plug and hid it. He had me crying the entire time up until his family left. Is this what men usually do to act manly around his family? I also cooked a lot that day to impress his family. I treated them like they were my own family. I don't know why he reacts that way when they're around.

I don't like to socialize much. I'm just now getting over the gathering at my moms on Christmas. I was so tired after it and the next day. Its only a few minutes drive to my moms so its not that far. If I don't go they think I'm mad at everyone. I'm not mad. Its just not my idea of fun. I'm tired of spending Christmas like everyone else wants me to. I want to spend it my way not their way. And tomorrow my mom expects me at another family gathering with her side of family, aunts, uncles, cousins. Only 5 minutes drive away. Oh my gosh my social anxiety and being so tired. Does anyone else hate these things? The gatherings with family? 

My college friend still has a difficult time overcoming getting attacked and raped when she was 15. The POS is serving a very long prison time for admitting to raping a couple other teen girls. She actually spoke to the POS's mother. Base on her description, the woman is a kind lady, her son and siblings were raised with a loving family (but he was the only odd child) and she apologized for her son's actions. Yet, the lady still visits her disgusting son once a month. She already knows she's guilty as sin (she turned him in herself when she found out about it) but still can't stop loving him. Is that mother's love too blind? What's there to love about a disgusting, POS? Base on their conversation, it was a very difficult decision for the lady to turn in her son but he wasn't going to stop. 

I want to starve myself to become a skinny girl because I'm fat. Sounds simple, right, just not eat. But no, the problem is my mom. She harasses me with her big, fat self to eat when I'm on a salad diet. And forces me to drink a cup of sugary tea, or says nasty horrible things to me and doesn't stop harassing me if I say I won't drink it. Then forces me to eat her high calorie cookings of lunch. So I finally did it. I attacked her, I came to her office, and brought a flexible ruler and hit her with it twice and yelled to her, let me try to be skinny in peace and to leave me alone if I diet. She got the message and started crying, told me to leave her office and go home, and says she's learnt her lesson. If she ever harasses me to eat a cookie again what should I do to her? She did threaten to call the police though. 

My sister lives in California she's been dating this guy who's been in prison she's been with him for a while. The dumbest thing about this is she's dating a guy who's 70 something years old back in the 70's he was one of the guys who went and murdered and raped girls her age or younger. I don't get why she would fall for someone like that in a way it's kind of scary yet he seems to be nice to her. I can't say who he is she wants to keep it private to protect him. I havent even met the guy yet I seen thousands of pictures of her and him online. I don't know why she would be in love with someone like that. She's even talked about marrying him wanting to have kids with him even though he's beaten and raped young women and children. I think that's sick. I even watched a show about him he's a scary guy I'm worried about her. They say he's almost as bad as Charles Manson at least he didn't send people out to kill like he did. They said he was similar to Ted Bundy and Manson. Should I be worried about her ? She's got her profile picture of her and him kissing it makes me sick 

I hate clutter. I go through my closet at least a few times a year to get rid of stuff I am not using, or enjoying anymore. I will only keep things I still use, or things that are extremely sentimental. I found a bunch of things I could actually make some money on. I'd rather have some cash in my savings account than material stuff filling up my closet. I just feel a tad worried, and guilty, because a lot of that stuff was gifts from family. I don't think they would find out but, at the same time, my mom uses Ebay a lot, and she is on Facebook. If I were to sell those said items and she found out, I am afraid she would get mad or upset. But, at the same time these are my things. They do belong to me. And I have my own place. Have for years. Therefore, my home, my things, I do what I want with them. Right? If I want to make money to put into my savings account, aren't I entitled to that? Also, the thought did occur to me that I could say "well, here you take it back then."  But...fast forward some years.  That stuff is just going to wind right back up in my hands...

I have realised over the past year I don't like my dad - he has always been strict on me and this isn't why because it's helped me do well in things like school, but I don't get on with him or like him at all. Him and my mothers relationship is loveless and I can see it takes its toll on her. He is a heavy drinker nowadays sometimes drinking up to two bottles of wine at night and being so drunk he can barely function. His father was an alcoholic and I feel he may be headed the same way. I upset my mum recently by telling her when I'm older I won't be home with my girlfriend/future kids so long as my dad is on the scene. Things in my house aren't nice at all and haven't been for a while to the point where I don't like being home and visiting even for the holidays. I have lost almost all respect for my dad and just want to live a life where I don't have to consider him. What are your thoughts??

I run into this more times than I can count in my line of work. Moms getting mad at us because we called their grown, adult, son about his insurance and not her. These are men with their own place, own cars, some even have a wife and kids. I know because I talk to them first before mom calls all ticked off that she "handles all his stuff." This has never happened with parents of grown daughters or dads with grown sons. Only mothers with grown sons. What is this all about? The only reason it irritates me is the moms are always mad at us for calling their grown boys and not them. Well...ma'am...it is his insurance. For his house.  For his car. That is his signature on the application agreement. I mean...

It's getting so annoying. They come up to her with money and ask her if they can have an hour with her and it's so gross honestly. My mom always tells them to go **** themselves but new weirdos come and go. It happens like once a month and I hear her crying to her husband about it. I wanna beat these ******* up. I don't even know why they would think that mom is a hooker. I'm 16 and she is 37.

I've already decided I'm going to lie to him this year a bunch. .:  My dad already destroyed the trust

So my sister is age 26 with the temperament of a nine-year-old. She bullies like a child. So Last summer I finally got mad at my sister for the first time and since then she wants nothing to do with me. I have had it with her bullying. So I'm Thanksgiving my mother asked me not to come over until after my sister left which was 2/3 of the way through the day. Then my sister was still there so my mom asked me to go sit in the other room till she left. So I just left. My mother apologize later. last summer I finally got mad at my sister for the first time and since then she wants nothing to do with me. I have had it with her bullying. So on Thanksgiving my mother asked me not to come over until after my sister left which was 2/3 of the way through the day. Then my sister was still there so my mom asked me to go sit in the other room till she left. So I just left. My mother apologize later. Christmas, however my mom did not want me to come over Christmas Eve or morning because my sister was there wanted me to wait until everybody was there so my sister would not get mad. Luckily my father told my mother that's ridiculous and had me over. My sister was not feeling good and had a huge conniption fit Christmas Eve so she was not around Christmas day which made the day better that she definitely put a damper on Christmas with her conniption fit. Not sure exactly what the conniption fit was about. So now we're about to hit the new year and I'm wondering in the new year is my mother right to segregate me from family activities when my sister is around? I don't make her segregate my sister when I'm around. I feel like this my sister screams and yells she gets her way and I think that's how she became like this as she always did get her way by doing that. 

I feel like my grandmothe  has been emotionally abusing me and I don't know what to do considering she has done a lot for me in my life. I feel she is always playing the guilt card on me and is always accusing me of doing absolutely nothing when in fact I do just as much around the house as she does and I'm constantly trying to please her. I can never go out or do anything because she will get upset with me plus I can never tell her no or I am the worst person in the world. But I have had enough, I have lived with this for the last 6yrs, what can I do to leave the situation? I'm 24 and I'm living with my grandmother as she doesn't like to be alone.

my sister is my best friend. i love her with everything in me and as my older sister, she has always protected me. we hang out every single day and theres not a person i love more than her. when we were younger we had a rough childhood. she moved out for college, but decided to come home after a few years to continue school. it is a known thing in my family that i'm the brightest and shes not so smart. this hurts me because it causes my family to constantly compare us and put her down. but she does do some not so smart things that irritate me. i occasionally say something unintentionally that i really like and i choose to continuously say, like a catchphrase. my sister frequently uses these after i do and it becomes a bit irritating. i told my mom yesterday how it bothers me and i nearly threw up because of how guilty i felt. another thing that isn't really related but still hurts me is that shes really thin and im a bit chubby and i guess im a bit jealous of that. she cares for me and loves me and i have negative feelings towards her and it makes me sick. just today she came in my room and offered to make me dinner because she knows i don't like what my mom made tonight. im crying now and im so sick of myself for being so terrible to her. she doesn't know these things bother me and id rather die than tell her. i love her and i don't understand why these things bother me because its really not that deep and i love her so much. i don't know whats wrong with me.

I'm a 17-year old girl and turning 18 in a few days, if I didn't have my mom I'd probably go insane. My dad is always trying to point out my flaws. For example just a few minutes ago he told me my hair is too long and I look like a homeless person. Then he proceeded to tell me I need to cut a foot off my hair. I got angry at him and went into my room. There are countless other times where he's done this. One time he told me I should exercise more to lose weight when according to my BMI I am within a healthy weight. Then another time he tried to hint to me that I'm ugly without makeup. Sometimes I wish he didn't exist and I never had him as a father. My sister acts the same way towards me except she targets my personality traits. I'm still in high school so moving out is not an option. @Anon: Get a life. If you had a father who constantly insulted you all the time you'd be irritated too. Don't be so bitter.

I got my mother-in-law, as a Christmas present, a simple black blouse with leopard details at the sleeves and first she said it's too big for her, she claims she is a Medium!!!! Although she very fat.. Hahaha.. And the next day she told me that it "smells" as if it was bought in a thrift shop.... I said I was sorry I didn't buy her something better and that I would get her something better...when what I really wanted to do was to point out how very rude that was of her... Oh she said "don't worry my dear I don't mind". Anyway, my own mother loved the blouse and kept it for herself....  My mother in law always acts like she is the queen of f..... Ing everything and I get so upset.... My husband gets very angry with her but says we should ignore her and let her be... He says old people say stupid things sometimes and I guess he's right...  Do you think I should tell her off?? 

I'm 23 and just graduated from undergrad. Luckily I've been able to land a job at 95k, but I worry that even now my parents don't see me as an independent, responsible human being. For reference, as a teen I was not allowed to walk outside, walk to the store, go anywhere after school, go to ANY parties, and much more. I wasn't even allowed to take a shower if no one was home. I've never disobeyed my parents and they have never had a reason not to trust me. I'm very responsible, truthful, and I've always done extremely well in school. Even still, I have never been treated like an autonomous adult. Recently I went apartment shopping, and my dad got angry with me for not bringing my mother since "she will be paying for it anyway." What? Since when is 95k not enough to rent an apartment? As I transition into my first job they will be continuing to pay for my cell phone bill (it's cheaper if I stay on the plan), my health insurance (I am legally allowed to remain a dependent until 26, so my mom says I should stay on that as well) but other than that I intend to pay for my rent, bills etc. on my own. I'm scared that I will need a cosigner for my apartment, I would really rather just leave them out of it so I don't have to hear my dad mouth off about it. My question is this: how do I break free? How do I stop them from expecting to be asked about every decision that I make in my life? How can I be seen as the 23 year old that I am?

I'm a new grad and today I went apartment shopping. My dad asked why I didn't bring my mom with me since "she will be the one paying for it anyway." I'm confused, my new job will be paying 85k a year and I have a good credit score. He likes to make comments like this without providing any further explanation or going into detail, so I want to know what you guys think. Am I missing something here? Do renters not like new grads?

My sister is an abusive mother to my 18 month old niece and two nephews. She smokes around them (both cigarettes and marijuana). Constantly curses at them. Screams and hits them. Doesn't properly watches them and allow him to get access to forks and other sharp objects. Let my precious niece wander outside with nothing on but a shirt and diaper in the cold and now she has a cold. Brings random men around the children and one man had the flu and caused everyone in the house to get it. Something I see on a daily and I can't say anything to her because she'll have it to where I can't see them anymore like she did with my oldest nephew when all I ever say it ways to make sure they're ok. She takes offense and tells me that I shouldn't tell her how to raise her kids as she doesn't care about their well being and it breaks my heart when I go and my niece cries for me. I'm begging anyone for help in giving information out how I can get them away. I know I'm just the uncle but I wish so bad I could get custody and raise them to not turn out to be damaged people. Please.

My little sister had a bad dream she wants me to sleep with her I'm gay also married. In a way I don't want to sleep with her but in another way I feel bad for her I can't get her to calm down she won't stop crying I tried everything I even tried singing to her. What should I do about it ? Is it OK to sleep with her ?

I asked a question about an adult child I'm concerned about that's selfish. I received several comments claiming it has to be my fault. I disagree!! My brother & I were raised by the same parents, & he turned out very selfish & I didn't. Sometimes it could just be generic, or just the way they want to be.  Meant to say genetic instead of generic. 

I still live with my family and single but my family fights a lot and they insult a lot. I have negative thoughts a lot and I feel frustrated. I see married people lives on social media I wonder if their lives better since they have their own schedule and they choose their own decisions. 

She was supposed to give me a new computer but she missed christmas because she was sick, i blocked her on everything bc she didn't give me a computer

My mother's relationship with me She: Constant criticism Controlling behavior Guilt-tripping and manipulation Humiliation Invalidation of your emotions Passive aggression One-sided relationship I have tried telling her how I felt. My mother said I was acting irrational and she did not care about me and my feelings or what happened to me. She then changes the subject on her and says I don't care about her or this and that. She then called the police. All I did was tell her how I felt. Absolutely, no physical or throwing of objects. Do you think this was uncalled for? Also, happened on Christmas! How should I go about this? I still live at home over the age of 19 and yes I am in the process of trying to find a place on my own. I am staying at a friends right now. I don't know if I can forgive her. Will she ever change? Anyone else have parents/parent act like this. Thanks.

So anyway I've been dealing with a breakup for months now, he is in his 30's still living at home and we'd always fight because of that and his mom was mean to me. I overreacted and said some harsh things to him, we fought a lot. However now I'm feeling guilty and having a hard time letting him go because I feel like it's my fault that he didn't want to be with me anymore. I've been self harming , my dad saw and got mad, raised his voice and I really tried not to yell back at him but I didn't. The next day I was fine until they got mad at me again and I tried hard to keep my cool but my mom was minimizing my feelings in a sense calling me desperate and pathetic and I overreacted on her said some mean things . Both of my parents now act like it's my fault that my ex doesn't like me because I overreact at times. I apologized to my mom for how I lost it but she doesn't think she necessarily is at fault at all because "what she was was mild compared to what I said to her". She called me crazy. My dad won't speak to me. My brother called me insane and they act like I'm terrible because I lost my temper and said those things. I know we r to forgive and let go but my mom many times has said worse than what I said to her and can get physical. I didn't do that. But now she's calling me abusive and said I'm not acting like a good person. Should they react like this or is it all my fault? 

She is age 26 but still a bully

My partner's dad's fiancé (lol that's a mouthful) is starting to refer to herself as my babies grandma which she most certainly is not. I'm really not comfortable with it at all, neither is my partner. For one she isn't her grandma she's no relation at all and she's not exactly a nice woman either. Long story but she's a bit of a stuck up b*tch. Plus, she didn't even ask us if she could be called grandma so I think it was rather rude of her to just start calling herself this. I really don't know who she thinks she is. My dads girlfriend isn't called Gran/grandma/nana or anything. And my partner's mother's husband (lol another mouthful) doesn't get called grandad, and they've been together 20 years. My mother passed away a couple years ago and unfortunately never got to meet my daughter but she would've been known as granny. As far as I'm concerned I only want my daughter to have 2 grandmothers; my mother and my partners mother (her 2 actual grandmothers). The other women in our dads lives can just get called by their names. Am I wrong or am I totally in the right to say that I don't want this woman to call herself my child's grandma. How do I go about this. It's really hurt me and p*ssed me off if I'm honest

I moved away for University, long story short the company I worked for closed just as I graduated and for financial reasons I need to move home. My father annoys me with his attitude, but I am grateful I have a place to stay whilst I save up to move out again. Thanks Trump In Jail. It sounds to me like you're an unlikeable person and for such a reason you will end up alone and die alone.