So to start off, I run cross country and track for a small college. I'm the only sophomore on the team, and all of the other girls are older than me. I'm 19 and I'll be 20 next month. The rest of my team mates are 21-22. We have a group chat that we talk in and make plans in. Whenever we are talking and thinking of things to do, for the most part they always suggest going to a bar. I obviously am not old enough to drink, so I feel really left out. When they decide on this I usually end up not responding to them because I feel like I'm not invited since I obviously can't go. Sometimes they suggest going to a lower quality place that allows 18+ in but I feel bad because I don't want them them to resent me for having to change plans. These are the only friends I've made so far in college and I don't have any friends my age so it leaves me feeling depressed. I don't know if I should say something to them about how I'm feeling. I don't want to be annoying but I'm also uncomfortable watching them talk about plans in front of me that I'm not included in.

'because like I've said before, I don't know anyone that hates you'. The person originally messages 'I don't know anyone of anyone who hates you you're such a lovely person' about 15 months ago. Does the fact that they remembered what they messaged me 15 months ago suggest that they are a true friend?

We have recently acquired these and think them to be Amphora vessel/vase.  They have rounded bottoms and will not sit up alone. There are no seams, appear to be one piece containers. Any information will be appreciated.  Thank you, Tom & Tina

Lately i've been feeling alot more anxious around people i'm not that close to, for instance if somebody im not very close with asks to make plans for something, i would most likely make up an excuse or cancel it because im scared that we would have nothing to talk about and it would be awkward silence. if we're not constantly talking and we sit in silence, i'd just think of something dumb or random to fill the gaps and hold my fists tightly; i feel really awkward in social situations, and i dont know why :( please help or give advice!

On October 2018, I lent an old friend (lets call him Ed) $500 and at the same time my boyfriend lent him another $500 ($1,000 in total). This was because Ed had just been laid off work and he needed to get back on his feet. My boyfriend and I did not have much money back in 2018, so we scraped what we could to total $1,000 for Ed, together. It was clear to him that this money was borrowed and he assured us that he was going to pay us back. Almost every single month, I have been messaging Ed and he never responds nor answers my calls. At some point, he blocked my number because my calls/texts can't go through to him anymore. When my boyfriend texts/calls him, ONCE in a while he will text him back and respond but still does not respond about the money.  What can I do? I know where Ed lives but not his EXACT address (as to write it down, I just know how to get there). I don't want to show up at his door because I am not sure if he still lives there or not, or he will not answer the door.  This takes place in Orange County, California.

It's time to end a friendship. I plan to cut off all ties, including social media. She has a sibling I have no issues with. What is the best way to handle that? Cut ties with her and not the sibling? Or have to do away with both? 

I don't mean at weddings and showers and such...but like, she will invite our group over for lunch...and there's her mother sitting there-ready to join in. no warning--it wasn't that she dropped by...she lives in another state. I don't like this woman--don't really want to socialize with her--not sure how to handle it--I think it is odd.

Why would he do that? Why should a guy who always acts cold and serious do that to his girlfriend, who is a bit uncomfortable because it's the first time he ever does something like that to her?

So on an off for a few months I had been talking to this guy who has a child. Turns out he has a drinking problem, still messes with child's mother on and off, and some mental/misogyny problems in my opinion. He gave so many mixed signals and finally told me randomly "I love you and want you to be my girlfriend". It was so much drama - him mentioning other women, disappearing for days, refusing to communicate, bizarre behavior even problems with his own family. Anyways the last time I saw him I told him it would be the last time we see each other, I'll pray for his health, and best of luck. He acted very hostile because he had an errand to run but refused to answer questions so it was his fault really. He basically said he lied about wanting to date me and his feelings, that he doesn't wish me well in life, and didn't deny my conclusion that he didn't want me in his life based on his actions and words. Two days later he texted me "Hi!" Of course I didn't respond. I was like how could someone be so disrespectful, yell, look mean, act cold, and say they lied about everything (being in a relationship and wishing me bad in life) and send that type of text like all is well. I was creeped out and in disbelief. We have had arguments where I would not talk to him for days which honestly I should have never tried to forgive certain drama and disrespect, but clearly I was serious about what I said the last time I saw him. However, what was the point of him doing this?

Back in 1998, I met this guy and we became fast friends. We never dated but he'd always say that he'd marry me one day. Anyway, in 2004 I moved away and met my future husband. I had even told my friend when I got married in 2010. My husband and old friend finally met in 2013, the same time I finally got a ring. At that time, my old friend pulled me aside and said to never talk to him again. Then I heard through mutual friends that my friend got married in 2017 to a girl he started seeing a few days after I'd last saw him. I've seen a few recent picture s and they look happy. Last year, I unexpectedly lost my husband and my baby. My friend reached out to me a few days ago about meeting up before the new year. I don't know what to do or even think of this.

I've recently feel really unhappy with my life. Genuinely sad and lonely. My outlook has changed. I feel like all the people in my life I should stay alive just to keep them happy otherwise I'm selfish. I should wait for them to be like the ones who saw no more use in me and ceased communication. I'm scared of relationships since I feel like it's just someone using me while I get nothing. This is the first christmas I've ever spent alone away from family, friends, and all that since I'm at university. I'm looking back on my life missing all the good times and especially miss the friends I use to have. I don't know what to do anymore.

found my friend's mom on Instagram because it recommended me cause of mutual friends with her son,and started chatting with her shes pretty cool. And my friend moved to new York for his job. She seems interested in me and i think shes nice and pretty. But i felt guilty cause thats his mom, so I stopped talking to her and she deleted me on ig a few days later. This was in 2016. Now she messaged me few days ago and said hi. Im casually talking to her again but i don't know her intentions in chatting with me again. Should I ask her to hang out or what do I do?. Btw she doesn't know im friends with her son. Were not close friends or anything just regular high school friends.  Im 25 and I think his mom is 51 or something

I haven't seen a guy I really cared for in 10 years and all of a sudden he pops into my head out of nowhere. We met in 3rd grade and loved each and became best friends as much as 9 year olds can and eventually we were separated due to going to different schools.  After that every time I would meet him first in 7th grade and then college I always found out he had a girlfriend. The last day of college we bumped into each other and I found out he had a girlfriend but he started to try to pursue me but I didn't want to ruin his relationship and after that I'm never saw him again. Now 10 years later he randomly popped in my head and I'm seeing his name everywhere and what's crazy is he has an extremely rare name. It this a coincidence or something more?