I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, last year i fell pregnant and we moved in together he was persistent in bringing his mom as she would be able to help with the baby. I agreed I had no idea that meant id have to have his niece in my apartment EVERY SINGLE DAY. I've tried for the sake of the relationship and for the sake of our child to deal with it but it is becoming too much as I dont have any privacy and i dont like other peoples children in my house every single day while her parents are in their apartment relaxing i have to deal with their child and take care of my infant as well. ive addressed this situation multiple times with them and it gets better for a bit and then it goes back to normal. I know that this is because of her grandma. she insists on taking care of the girl because she feels bad for her but what about me? this wasnt part of the deal! I need a break i work go to school cook clean and take care of my daughter. i dont need someone elses child here everyday especially since we only have ONE child. not two. What should I do? Any advice?It is mine and my bfs apartment. 

Dear member of the community,  I was wondering what you think about the following: My native language is German, both of my parents are German and we have always lived in Germany.  My brother (29) grew up in Holland with his British mother and he still lives there. My dad lived together with his first wife until my brother was 6 and he has always spoken German to him, even after they separated. My brother speaks a mixture of English and Dutch and sometimes German, but we all reply in German. Despite the fact that he grew up with German, he has a very strong accent in German when he is forced to speak German and he makes the most basic mistakes. Noone seems to be bothered by his bad German. All of my friends (especially female friends) and my parents' friends think his accent is adorable/cute. He is not much into languages and he doesn't care about making mistakes. He has never shown any ambition to improve his German. I sometimes correct him, but noone else does. I talked to my dad about my brother's German and asked him why he never corrects him. He said it's not important he doesn't want to waste the precious time with him by correcting him since we don't see my brother often.  My English isn't perfect either, but unlike my brother, I haven't grown up bilingually and I don't have an English-speaking parent.  In your opinion, should my brother make more of an effort to improve his German? Should we correct him more often?  Thank you very much for your advice Charly I would like to add that Dutch is very close to German. Even I speak Dutch almost fluently just because I grew up hearing it a lot. Thus, German should not be too hard for him to learn Please correct my text if you detect any mistakes. Thanks

Unfortunately, my older sister and her husband of 18 years fight almost daily. She feels that he has become very distant and too much of a workaholic. It had become a very toxic environment for my 15- year- old niece. Recently she moved in with me, it was a family discussion & decision, so that she doesn't have to be around the fighting, and hopefully marital issues get resolved by getting the help they desperately need. No real timeframe on how long. When she does see them, it's separately. I myself am not married and have no kids. I live roughly 10 minutes away from them, have been in her life, always have the fun, laid-back, only uncle. She's been living with me since the first week of December and I'm just trying my best to not step on any landmines just because I understand how fragile the situation is. I know that she had chores at home, thus far I haven't given any. I don't want to burden her more. My sister will call, ask me if she's helping out, I just tell her everything is A-OK. Right now her schedule is just school/work, cheerleading, homework, dinner, hang out, bed. I just, I don't know how much " rope", I give her. I'm worried if I give her a lot of leeway, she'll just go buck-wild as an outlet for her emotions about her parents. I'm also worried if I start dishing out chores and rules, she'll flip out. I honestly have no idea if I'm overthinking this since things are going smoothly and she hasn't lashed out yet. TLDR: How much leniency should I give my niece

Hi all, I'm 17 and I still live with my mum and dad. My big brother (from my father's first marriage) is 29. He grew up abroad and still lives there, which is why we don't see him often. He visited for Christmas. The four of us went for a walk. My brother is quite vain (he works as a model) and when we were just about to leave the house he put on his normal jacket (fashinable but not very warm). At the same time, both of my parents said "Don't you want to put on a rain coat" (my father) and my mum to my dad "give your son a warmer jacket". He is f****** 30 years old!!!! Even I know that I should put on a winter jacket in the winter. Ok, sometimes my parents tell me similar things e.g. put on a scarf, but I'm much younger. My brother should know what to wear to avoid a cold and if he doesn't and catches a cold, it's his problem. Should I tell my parents that they should stop treating him like a child? Thanks guys and girls I want to add that my mum is not even his mum

When I was 9-12 years old, I used to love video games and my parents used to hit me so hard and shout at me for playing video games. Every time as a child I saved up for a computer but my dad breaks it months later due to him not liking me playing video games. My dad always forced me to cut my hair the way he likes until I turned 15 and finally stood up to my parents and said if they hit me again, I'm fighting back so they stopped but instead started shouting harder at me for just being myself. They just hated the fact that I didn't have much friends and was an introvert, Idk why they couldn't accept me as an introvert. My mom used to hit me at 9 yeaes old cause I didn't have many friends when it were people who didn't let me be their friend.  2 years ago I was 17 and a girl loved me but I couldn't return the feelings back to her so she spend her days crying and suffering cause I didn't love her back and I was made out as a bad person just for that when i didn't even do anything wrong. Last year, I had a girlfriend and she used to tell her friends my secrets and her friends used to bully me and she didn't even defend me so I couldn't handle this abuse and left which made her call me emotionally abusive and go to therapist when all I wanted is her love and I couldn't see it. Now I'm 19 and I'm in college and far from home living alone in an apartment. I'm just sad that I have no one in this world who loves me for who i am.

My wife Ann has an identical twin sister Amy. I can not tell them apart by looking. Both Ann and Amy have a good sense of humor. They are just fun people to be with. When I was dating Ann 2 times Amy pretended to be Ann and we went on a date. I did not know that until the date was over and we both thought it was funny and had a good laugh. It happened only twice (I think). Amy is spending a few days at our home while her home is being remodeled. My wife went to work and it was just Amy and me having a cup of coffee when Amy said I have some news for you. She said "You were great in bed last night". OH CRAP. Did they do it to me again? I think she is joking but I am not absolutely sure. My thought was "Am I in big trouble or did both of them plan this to see how I would react"? I am usually for sharing but this is just too KINKY EVEN FOR ME.

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My sister and mother CONSTANTLY blame me for everything, even when it's not my fault and I didn't even do anything. They also always accuse me of doing or saying things that I have never done or said. And I do not know what do anymore, I'm sick of always being treated like scapegoat everyday, and they never believe what I say, even though I'm honest and I never tell lies. They accuse me of anything and they blame and accuse me, every time something bad happens. I'm 18 and my sister is the same age.

I let my kid go to sleepover, I told the parent that my family is VEGAN so no animal product and I packed my son his own breakfast/lunch/Dinner for the weekend. When I pick him up in the morning I see that they have pizza boxes in their trash when I pull up. I did ask them if my kid had pizza, they said no he didn't. I didn't believe them whatsoever I got my son in the car and asked his and yelled at him and beat him to tell the truth. He started crying and said he ate Non-vegan all weekend. I was Livid. I hit him very hard across the face and I sent the voice messages tell them off and saying I was pressing charges. My son's father said I was being irrational. I am not. They harmed him. My Fiance says I should rethink the criminal aspect of it, and if it did go through they could those their kid I DO NOT CARE. THEY COULD HAVE HURT MY SON. Am I being irrational?? This happened a month ago and I'm thinking of driving down to the police station next week.

I don't know what to do, because a week ago she was nice and didn't care about money so much. Now, she wants to cut me off completely. I am no longer allowed to talk to her and spend the night at her house, all because I turned her air up two degrees, two!  She is so cheap and doesn't care that i am miserable living at my sister's house. I don't have a job now, so please don't say move out, that's not a feasible option right now. I have helped her with the little bit of SSDI money I get, but apparently it's not enough. What do I do? Because I am suicidal living here and I've told her and she doesn't care.  She is letting money ruin our relationship. I am crying as I write this. Help!

So we were at my house and she left the front door open while we were watching a movie and i didn't notice until after the movie when my house got really cold and right now the air conditioner is broken so it really messed up a lot of things and i screamed at her for doing that and she said she's sorry and didn't see and we argued a bit then she slapped my face hard where i got a bruise and kicked me, i was in shock and told her to leave my house as violence isn't accepted here. she went home and idk what to do from here

Dear community,  an aquaintance of mine doesn't see his grown up children often, but when they meet, he always hugs them and kisses them on the cheek to say hi or goodbye. Even his 31-year old son!! I think it is rather strange for a father to kiss grown up children, especially a son. Do you think it is normal?

I've always hated him, from the beginning. I'm the oldest, and my parents are saying I I loved in the beginning or I love him on the inside...I don't. He is not a benefit in my life in any way. He's 12 and can't spell nut! He watches kids shows all day and cries if he has to do a speck of work. Also, his teeth are all bent inward, he has 11 cowlicks, so his hair has a very unnatural shape, along with bug eyes. He thinks he can romp around the house with no shirt, which is an extremely repulsive sight. He eats his boogers and he's not very intelligent at all. He throws meltdowns over homework and having to write things. I have a motor skill disorder and can write better than him! He constantly wants things and my parents give in. He never plays with toys, but he throws screaming rages if our youngest brother (4) plays with them. He steals all my interests and claims them as his own. My grandparents like him better because he clings to their political views. I think they're very polarized and it's a field I want to stay away from. They made him start to cry at the idea that Trump won't win the election! He steals the one person I can talk to, which is our dad. He's now on my brother's side of things that I'm the bully. This kid cannot handle loosing a board game or even a joke! He instantly goes into a crying fit. He fakes everything from excitement to happiness. He doesn't get cues to be silent or cues to act a certain way. He's too hyper and he speaks in the dumbest way.    He cries whenever I have friends over and makes fun of my mental issues and deficiencies. I have a lot that are actually diagnosed and he's convinced my parents that the doctors were wrong and I'm just being petty and stupid. Though he's extremely petty, he won't go in a room if my clothes are in there! His sense of humor isn't appropriate for his age, he still laughs at things that would only appeal to 4 year olds. I have Sensory Processing Disorder (tactile defensive), and he triggers it bad.  I know I need to get over this, but it's hard. There's a reason why he has no friends and he certainly won't find one in me. I can't over this and especially because he bring up my past when a lot of my issues were untreated. He won't talk to me and I do have to smack him to get him to listen to anyone. He's too much for anyone and he won't brush his teeth. I want to get over this, but I most likely never will. I need help and advice. 

My sister, brother and I were sleeping in her bed. I then felt her starring at me. I glanced and then pretended I was sleeping. I had my eyes open a little and she would not take her eyes off me. She looked liked she was possessed and was going to kill me. After about 20mnts she stopped and fell asleep.  Today I was praying for her room then my sister whom was laying next to me said something is wrong with mom" my mom bursted out of her room and went into the kitchen. I turned on my phone flashlight on then 5mnts later I coughs her hiding behind the wall staining at us with one eye. I jumped up screaming mom!!! Then she ran to her room saying "I saw the flashlight on so I peeked inside" It was very strange to me, because when I have a nightmare and scream she always turns on my light and prays for me and didn't do anything this tim. I told my sister "before you said something is wrong with mom I said the same thing then she bursted out of her room" Then my sister said it feel like two eyes are starting at you. My sister said she feels like my mom does that to her every night. My sister says that she feels that my mom comes out her own body and se rounds her and watches her sleep. I felt my mom was doing that before she bursted out of her room. I felt like two eyes were watching me coming from her room. 

It's getting so annoying. They come up to her with money and ask her if they can have an hour with her and it's so gross honestly. My mom always tells them to go **** themselves but new weirdos come and go. It happens like once a month and I hear her crying to her husband about it. I wanna beat these ******* up. I don't even know why they would think that mom is a hooker. I'm 16 and she is 37. She wears denims shorts and sports bra so not hooker clothing.

My step daughter has been seeing her mother and step father every Saturday I did not want her to see her mother anymore so I tried to keep her away from her mom I also send her to military school but she was able to text her mom and I was able to block her mom from her Facebook and her biological mom was pregnant and I wanted my step daughter to have nothing to do with her mom or the baby so I stoped her from seeing her by moving to India but my husband and in laws are mad at me because I am being a selfish baby but I don't want her to see her brachial mother and step father and now 10 years later I saw her moms pohtos and I confronted my step daughter about it and she told me that she is moving back to the United States to live with her mom and step dad next week and she hates me she also brought a plan ticket what can I do to get through to her? Answer my question 

Dear all, I would like to ask you for your interpretation of the following. I'm grateful for any serious reply! This man I know (he is around 60) has a 31 year old son and a 28 year old daughter. The father used to travel a lot for his work (he is a classical musician). He is a very talented, artsy person who has many interests and hobbies. One could also say that, despite being a very loving father, is somewhat self-centered. His ex wife brought up the two kids more or less on her own. The kids have suffered a lot. There were disappointed by their father many times He was not there on the most important events in the kids lifes (e.g. birtdays, performances at school...). In the meantime, the kids are both grown up. When the son meets his dad, they always have a good time. Dad is a good listener, and he is lots of fun. He can show his feelings and hugs the "kids" and tells them he loves them. However, after they have met, the father hardly ever texts or calls the children. It's like "out of sight, out of mind". The son has had enough. He still wants to see his dad because "My dad is very funny and we always have a good time" but he also said that the father-son relationship is over for him. "We can still be friends though". I don't really understand what the son means by that. What is the difference between being father and son and being friends with your father? They are still father and son after all. How do you interpret what the son said? Thank you!!!

I consider my sister the enemy of civilization. I have never known a soul worse than hers. I'd have to look at someone like a dictator or a serial killer to find someone worse than my sister. I even knew a guy who I later found out as a pedophile and I'm not sure I would even consider him as evil as my sister is at least he acted civilized around us even though obviously his soul was evil like my sisters. 

Plus my sister was high and my mom was grieving with of my brother who committed suicide in September. And it was bullying my mom telling her she was a pill popper for taken antidepressants and lastly my father and stepmother decided to show up and my mother had never met his wife other than my brothers funeral. This led to a big fight between my dad and my mom and my sister called police when there was no threat. This is not a joke all of this really happened. So my question is the following, how do I get the family civil and stable into the new year so next year is not as disturbing as this? We also had a cousin who died during the year, the daughter of the uncle, and it was a drug overdose. All this is true as I am not trolling Some of it happened Christmas Eve and some of the Christmas day

She fears my sisters temper and my sister gets mad when I come over because I called my sister out on her narcissism once. So I'm only allowed to come to stuff like Christmas after my sister leaves. Yeah if I'm there she doesn't tell my sister to stay awake since I don't throw a conniption fit about it. How do I get her to stop doing this? We are adults so I wish my sister and would act like one and my mom would not protect her like a little kid.

Only my aunt and myself know, no other soul on earth. My aunt is her mom.

In our family we have communication problems. My dad hasn't worked for 10 years cause he is either mobbed at work or he won't get hired at all. My mom has alwaya worked. My dad often says: look your mother works. Maybe you should also do something to help her. I've been working for  2 years and I am 20. My dad always makes me feel at fault for the fact that my mom works when he is the one who always takes advantage of her. He is so spoiled, so much that my mom pampers him like a baby and as soon as he has stomachache or whatever she worries and he starts to complain and we all have  to hear him complain. He has this way of making me feel at fault when it's not my fault at all. I've been through a lot at school and have depression since school years and he keeps on hassling me. I already told him to stop it but he just loves to provoke and grins when we argue with mom 

My older brother (21) has been in a bit of a rut lately. He is my absolute best friend, we run a business together, attend the same college, and hang out with one another/ the same friend group. For example, he has a large social media presence, and we rely on social media to promote our business. But he hasn't posted on social media since August. Additionally, he has been very sad, lately. I tried to talk to him, because we go out to lunch or dinner at least once a week, and we have been since I was 15 and he was 17. However, I don't think he was interested in discussing it. I also asked our younger brother (16) if he knows anything about his situation, and he did not. What can I do to make him happy? 

A couple of years ago my father who was my best friend past away from Cancer and I had to clean out and sell his house right after he died. I sold and left my father's house within 6 months of his passing, It's been a couple of years now, and I have not lived with anybody and I am distant from my mother and half brother who are extremely hard to deal with. When I was growing up I was belittled and treated very poorly by my mother, and when my father was sick and I called her to ask her for some advice all as she said was "good luck", and hung up the phone. She has been texting me off and on the last couple of years trying to get back into my life due to the storm being over. Part of me really wants to be loved, but the other part says that it is not a good idea and that things would just go back to the way they were. What would you do in this situation? Also all of my Dad's family is dead, and I am the last remaining member of his blood line. None of my mother's side of the family calls me and I have a hard time finding reason to call them because there is just no common ground, and I feel like an outsider.

In my 40 years of living, I kinda understand why I'm lonely,.... This Christmas, although I make more than everybody in my family, I didn't get anybody anything... Today, my brother came by and gave me a late Christmas present... In total, he spent nearly 200 dollars on me.. I was surprised and felt guilty because I showed up empty handed.. I texted him earlier today and ask him what he wants, I will get. He texted me back and said he doesn't want anything because he has it all... A family, ps4, nintendo switch, camera, go pro, Bike, Scooters, MacBook and lots more.. He doesn't need or want anything from me... I never responded again, and the guilt just eats me up even more.....  I make over six figures a year... I have lots of cash piling up in my bank account... My main focus throughout the years was to just save up and retire, so I don't ever have to work a 9to5 again....But then something hit me...  Wow, I'm probably the stingiest person ever.... Here am I am making all this money but couldn't get my family anything for Christmas.... And yet, they make less but spent hundreds on me..... I snoop through their social media page after years of incognito, and I see they are having fun with family and friends.. I admit, I was a bit jealous and started to shed a tear....  Question, do you think it's a sin to be stingy? Is this one of the reasons I'm alone? Should I become an impulsive buyer to have more fun with life?

I don't think any 4 year old should regularly consume the product, however being a 31 year old male with my partner and our daughter, i work regular 9to5. We visited gf parents. My gf mother was shocked when my child asked me for a mayo sandwich and i said no, how about cheese or ham or something else. Future mother in law says what is your problem its only mayo, i said she had it twice already today that u gave her . She should have some thing healthier. " you drink tea with sugar and drink coke so u shouldn't judge ' she said. I said whats wrong for wanting my child to be healthier than me? " dont be so smart" she replied angrily. I don't deny my daughter treats but only if she achieves something productive which is regular.  Am I wrong to think this?

She has no disabilities that weren't this but rather was just a spoiled narcissist. She's 26 years old with no disability except ADHD and Crohn's Disease.

So I was at my house and holden came in and broke in then he grabbed my two 2008 20 inch iMacs and ate them in one bite then he grabbed my 27 inch late 2009 one and threw it at me and it exploded then he grabbed my 27 inch 2019 one and burped on it

So, my parents have been divorced for 10 years. They divorced because my dad was always drunk, and they couldn't stand eatchother, and my dad sobered up, and is a much better person. Hes been dating a women for 3 years. She has a daughter, and they are always spending time together. That didnt happen often when my parents were married. Anyways. I went to my dads for Christmas, and he gave me a card. It said to our son, and it was signed by my dad, his gf. And daughter. I unknowingly left it on the table at my moms house. I came home from work, and my mom was in her room crying. I asked her what was wrong, and she saw the card. I understand why it would make her upset. I told her that, that women is not my mother. She said "I just hate your father." I hate when she says that, so I told her "well, my friday night is ruined" I just hate when she does this. I understand why shes upset, and i wish my dad could have changed for us before they were divorced, but what's done is done, and I've eccepted that.

This relative of mine, is always negative and cynical and she constantly complains. I don't know what to do anymore, they are stressing me out. Can't exactly stay away from them, because I live with them.

I'm 16 years old and I feel shorter especially at school. My dad even said I look shorter idk if he's joking or not because he's 6'2. But even my stepmom and grandfather said the same. 

So my mom has been in & out of the hospital since November . Just a few days ago they said she has Hoskins Lymphoma on her liver . A small dot . They were going to start treatment on Xmas eve . she went to bed for the night woke up - complained of a headache so the nurse gave her Tylenol . She choked on that the nursing home said she was having a heart attack then heart stopped . They transferred her to the ER where they restarted her heart . They now have her on a breathing tube & when I visited her on Wednesday she didnt even know I was there . I stayed for 2 hours . My dad was too stressed and  couldn't be there so I left & went back to my house . He calls me today at work and says he needs me there . He is stressing me out he always wants me there . I work , I have my own life .  He also wanted me to look up his brothers numbers and I couldn't . Since online it wanted me to pay for it . I told him find a phone book . 

My sister and I have had a pleasant vacation so far but recently It went south. My dog jumped up on me and knocked her baby's walker. I didn't think the baby was hit  and when she started crying I said someone is crabby today. So she didn't respond and I said she didn't hit the baby. No response. So I said did she hit the baby? So she looked up and said I haven't responded, so why are you still talking to me. I said you don't have to act like a ***** and then she exploded. We haven't spoken since but my family insists I should apologize for calling her a ***** but she snapped at me first. My family is super hung up on that word so I need some outside advice to see if I am truly the person who should apologize. I know it's petty but the pettiest situations arise from family arguments. 

My sister talks normally and even loudly to other family members but talks to me in a soft tone where I almost can't hear her, why could that be?

so i was walking my black labrador dog harvey who is the sweetest thing and we were walking and suddenly a dog that was moderately big ran to us from a house we were walking by and jumped on harvey and tried to bite his neck and pinned him on the ground while harvey was screaming and whimpering and hair was falling off while i kicked the dog to get it away and the dog started to chase me and the owner ran to us and tried to hold the dog down but it got out and jumped on harvey again and i screamed at the owner to do something and he said he was trying and and then he grabbed the dog again while me and harvey ran away back home, i told my parents and my poor dog has bite marks all over his neck and i'm worried that it could happen again to someone else my dog has been sad and just laying down after what happened 

I'm 21 year old in my 3rd year of college. I'm an only child, and my mom is a single parent. I think she has either early onset Alzheimer's or dementia, because she's forgetting a lot, she has trouble connecting her thoughts/sentences, she has trouble comprehending things, she sits in her dirty pads/adult diapers (I have to make her wash up), she got into a car accident (totaled her car), and doesn't remember what happened. There are more things that convince me that she needs to see a doctor, but she won't. She's very religious to the point where she thinks that everyone will forget everything (except God) one day. She's 63, and is too stubborn to get help. However, I'm too close to graduating to quit school and take care of her. What do I do?