English is not my first language , I'm sorry in advance . My parents were never good parents , my dad always physically/mentally/emotionally abused me . He's beaten me senseless.. I'm a petite woman , I'm 5'0 and 116 lbs (f16)I've had my hair pulled , thrown like a rag doll , pushed , slapped , had a blood shot eyes . Called every horrible thing you could call your own daughter in the book ... I try not to be labeled as a 'victim' - I try to not let my past define me .But as I get older , I start to close myself off from them ..My mother , though she was beaten herself .. she wouldn't leave . As I get older .. the more her and i begin to collide , she's judgmental & toxic . She's beginning to be like my father .. just she doesn't hit me . But her words hurt like knives across my skin . My past hits me in the face , every time I picture of having my own children .  I seem to feel no emotional connection to my father , at all . He could die & it'd be okay with me .. My mom shoves how my dad treated me under the rug , just because it's been years - she thinks it's nothing . She's constantly yelling at me , making me feel worthless ..  i love my mom . Cause though she stayed , and watched me get beat - she always cleaned up my face .  I don't know what to do anymore .. do I cut them off ? 

I try so hard to be on her good side. I try to maintain good grades, I don't smoke, do drugs, drink, etc.  Lately i've been going out at night with some friends and I come home at midnight. Whenever I go she asks me a barrage of questions and then she has to comment on everything and make me feel bad for doing whatever i'm doing.  The other night I went out without telling her the exact location and when I got home the other day she asked me if I was drug dealing or if I were a prostitute and then she told me that she thinks I lost my virginity and called me an idiot for giving it away.  I just wanted to be happy. I finally found some friends and now i'm public enemy number one. I'm almost 21, i'm not some little kid. 

It usually happens a few times a month but it has happened two nights in a row now on the holiday. Mom usually comes into my room in a robe to check that I'm sleeping but I pretend to be asleep to not get my phone taken away. A little while after that I can hear them doing it. I can hear slight moaning and clapping. It grosses me out everytime. I don't know what to do. I want it to end. We are 14 and 34.

WHAT DO I DO TO GET OUT OF THIS HELP!!!

We broke up 3 months ago when he cheated on me and then a month ago he broke up with the girl he cheated on me with and ever since then he's been liking all my Facebook pictures and messaging me asking how im doing and wanting to hang out

I have two sisters. one of which is 3 years younger than me, and we're very close, and the other which is 9 years younger than me, and i dont bond with her whatsoever. she likes me, but i dont like her. i haven't spoken to her in 5 years. everything she does, even if its normal things, annoys the everloving heck out of me. she's rude, and nobody notices, they all think she's an angel, but i do not see that at all. is this common or... just me? i forgot to mention, im an adult, shes a child. i dont hate kids either so thats not the issue. i do want to like her but i just cant :(

my parents and older sister have always had expectations for me. This always led me to feel like I have to perfect certain things, be a people pleaser, and I just haven't felt like myself for years. don't get me wrong they all did an amazing job raising me, but that's part of the issue. even after my parents decided to separate and divorce. They still managed to be controlling and then my mom decided to move to another state without even asking my opinion while I was still in the transition of college at 19. She moved because of her boyfriend, and it's always been a challenge since then. I've always gone above and beyond for my family making sure everyone's happy. But now I'm mentally exhausted and it hasn't been making me happy at all. Now that I'm healing and had to limit my communication with my parents and sister it's not because I don't love them but it's because I need to heal yo better myself. I tried explaining it to my mom, but she got upset saying how I shouldn't come back to visit her, and how I make her miserable Everytime I come to visit her. I never once raised my voice at her, never called her a bad mom, never did anything wrong except not react to her the way she thought that I would which is why we argue 90% of the time because she refuses to listen to anyone. I live my family, but sometimes idk because of the process I'm in right now.

I went ahead and opened a present I got for Christmas. I knew you were supposed to wait until tommorow but I'm 19 so i saw as just kids stuff. Now my dad is screaming at me and calling me selfish because of it. Did I do a thought crime, I'm not ******* 8 so why does it matter?

There is a lot of dysfunction in my family. Last year the police had to be called on Christmas because my stepdad Chuck my mother. My sister is usually high but she's in jail right now and her children my aunt has custody of which my mom resents as she wanted the custody. Since my stepfather is a registered sex offender if she could not get custody of the children. My mom is having over an uncle of mine who sexually abused me as a child and so I'm going to be very nervous but I don't want to be alone and so I'm going to go to my mothers. There is a lot of dysfunction in my family. Last year the police had to be called on Christmas because my stepdad Chuck my mother. My sister is usually high but she's in jail right now and her children my aunt has custody of which my mom resents as she wanted the custody. Since my stepfather is a registered sex offender if she could not get custody of the children. My mom is having over an uncle of mine who sexually abused me as a child and so I'm going to be very nervous but I don't want to be alone and so I'm going to go to my mothers. On top of all that my mom is an alcoholic and when she gets drunk she gets nasty. She's always drunk around the holidays and that was part of why my stepdad choked her last year. I have a sister that's going to be there at that blows up at everybody and an autistic brother they get scared and makes loud noises. Finally an alcoholic uncle might come over but I'm not sure. So what do I do tomorrow?

I am 13. Tomorrow is the day I have to return to my dad's house and im just not feeling up to it. Why, you may ask? I have multiple reasons. My stepsiblings are very rude and selfish. I hate being around them. My dad excuses this behavior however because their "outgoing." They are the reason I have depression. My dad doesn't listen when i try to reach out to him about how i feel. He usually says "just ignore it" "others have it worse" "just pretend your ok." He's compared his "depression" to mine before and thinks just because he ignores everything, so can i. It hurts too much to do so and the responses i get are beginning to piss me off. I understand hes my dad and i should appreciate how he puts a roof over my head, but i just can't do it. My moms place is where I prefer to be, but my dad just doesn't understand. His reasons given as to why i can't live there are very poorly thought of too. He also lied in court to get us on weekdays. Asking him about being with my mom is out of the question cause he came home screaming at me for like 10 minutes or so the last time I attempted. My request is, what should i do? I forgot to mention, I've spoke to my mom. She agrees to me living with her but my dad isnt at that point.

For example he lied last October about the holiday plans and made a sincere promise he has now broken. Another example is lies about money to keep my Mom from getting upset with him. I am 23 now so not a kid and I live out on my own but I have seen this over 23 years of being his daughter. 

Since I am not expecting her I will be upset if she comes but obviously it is my parents house so she is welcome also. She is a 26 year old adult bully with narcissism. World revolves around her so she bullies to feel good. She was the youngest of 5 and only girl so spoiled. My parents were busy with a brother who had serious behavioral problems as a teen that they, mainly my Mom, let my sister off for any bad behavior. The result is the brother straightened out and changed 360 but the sister is now a toxic person to be anywhere near. She has Crohn's, lucky for me, so it's not coming to Christmas most likely, luckily. 

I'm a 16 year old boy and U fiten get aroused by my mom in the sauna when I'm there with my parents. It's really embarrasing but luckily she doesn't embarrass me. I feel really ashamed of myself. She is 37. Often*

He's done nothing but verbally and physically abuse me before my pregnancy and during and I'm almost 8 months pregnant now. He wanted to be a family and get an apartment together but I suggested co parenting and said I can't be with him because he's unloyal and abusive. He got really angry and disrespectful calling me names and threatened to kick me out his mother's house. I have two very important doctor appointments soon and need to be here at his mother's house, I live two hours away. It's a lot.  I figured since he's so unhappy with me I'm giving him what he wants, his out. So why is he angry?

nov 11 my dad passed away from advanced cancer. He refused to let me help him other than cleaning his house and bringing him groceries, until about a week before he died my brother and I made him go to the hospital because he was confused, could barley walk, wasn't eating and wasn't safe to be home alone, refused to live with me, etc. he was there a week and they told me he could go home soon and the next day after they said that he got sicker and they told me to decide to do more procedures on him or let the disease take him. It was horrible, he suffered so much and was in so much pain and so afraid, I sat by him until he was gone. I'm still in extreme pain and my husband doesn't know how to deal with me and has trouble empathizing and hasn't talked about my dad at all since his memorial last week. I feel so alone and lost and I don't want to celebrate Christmas without him. I sobbed for 45 minutes in my car yesterday, I just couldn't stop thinking about how bad he wanted to live and how much he'd want to see my boys. I'm anxious when I think about all the wasted opportunities in the past.  Did it help you to do grief counseling? lol 

I was in a friend's with benefit relationship with the father of my six week old daughter. He passed away when I was 20 weeks pregnant. I have been wanting to reach out, but don't know the best approach. His sister is on Facebook, and I have their home address. I'm not sure if they know about me. I'm thinking maybe a letter? Any advice?

I am currently in a relationship with someone I am expecting my 2nd child with after 5 years of being with him. I am very happy it clearly shows in the midst of all of this I have my 1st sons father that's violating court orders he isn't trying too bring my son back it's court ordered for him too have him weekends he didn't care that I had plans with my son Christmas he has not braught him back. I wish he would move on and stop trying so hard too make me miserable like he is 😩😩 

They have kids yet they still hit or they lie and irresponsible. Why don't they change for better after they marry and have kids they say to themselves OK they have family to take care of? 

I got my older brother something from me only. My younger brother got a gift from both me and my mom only. Should I get him a gift from only me too? My older brother, sorry

My younger sisters are constantly berating me, bullying me, and making me feel like a waste of oxygen and space. They emotionally abuse me, and at times the youngest one (15) will get physical. Whenever this happens and I try to defend myself both of them will gang up on me and say they will call the police on me for hurting a minor since I'm 21. I dont know how to stop this and I never truly feel like I'm safe when I'm home. I had to put a key lock on my door because they were stealing my things when I was at college, and the youngest one even sold some of my things for Juul pod money a couple months ago. Nothing has worked and no matter how much my parents yell at them they still pick on me and make me feel useless, and that I can't do anything about it.  One even went to the point of making fun of me because I had a suicide attempt a couple years ago. 

I got plain white mugs and for my dad, I am going to put "Thank you for all that you do from cooking dinner to killing al the bugs in the house. I love you very much! You favorite daughter, (My name)." For my mom's, I am going to put, "Thank you got everything that you do from pack my lunch everyday to always listening to me and giving me advice. I love you so much! Your favorite daughter, (My name)." Is this okay even if the one for my mom is a bit longer than my dads? Is it a bit too repetitive? On the front of the mugs imma put Worlds Best (Mom/Dad). Is this okay?

Gathering for after Christmas when we feel well. My parents have a fever and I have a virus.  Everyone is saying I want to ruin Christmas  by rescheduling for another day.  They are calling me awful things and tell me I should return their gifts if I am not into meeting on Christmas Day. We are not children I don't see why we can't reschedule. We aren't even Christian we just celebrate it out of tradition.  Help

So my child's father who I'm currently pregnant by works a lot to get an apartment for us to live together as a family. The problem is he's abusive verbally/physically and unloyal. So I suggested co parenting when he came home from work today. I didn't say it nasty or argue with him, I said it calmly and nice. I let him know he'll be in our child's life and can always see her. This is something we needed to discuss as soon as possible because I can't live in misery. He just shuts me out and dismisses my feelings and he got angry, loud and said he didn't want to talk about it then he called me retarded. But I can't live with this man or be in a relationship with him, it makes me so depressed being in this relationship.

Being the youngest in the family your older siblings really treat you like crap they give no respect to you at all I get treated so bad like super bad from all my older siblings is like they dont even care what happens to me anymore. When you try to explain what you going though in life my older siblings will just be like nah your complaining to much & I would get ignore alot too like im getting treated super bad by my family. I hate getting ignore is very rude like your siblings will be talking about what they planning to do then you ask them the same thing then they will just ignore me my family ignores me alot like alot one of my brothers he wants nothing to do with me. Recently my dad did a thanks giving party I ask my brother to pick me up like 6 hours ahead he live like right down the street from me I end up missing it because he did not pick me up I have no ride this brother that did not pick me up ignores me alot too he never text me back. I have this other brother he really dont care about my problems he just says is your problem you hate it so much do something like I swear I hate my family I might buy a rv one day trash my phone delete my facebook run away & never contract them ever again because they dont care they all believe in themself only. 

I'm a teenage girl and my parents are middle class, but my dad has this thing where he likes overspending on me and my sister for Christmas. Personally, I'm A minimalist and don't require a lot of things. If I didn't get anything I'd still be happy that my family is together. But every year he buys so much, and most of the time I don't use over half of what he buys me! I appreciate every single thing, but I'm not able to use it due to time and obviously my minimalist beliefs. Is this ungrateful of me to not use everything my dad gets me every year?