Today my husband called me asking if I was still in the hospital. I asked what are you talking about. He then had to fess up he was trying to call the other women he talks to all the time and I am the crazy one thinking he is cheating. I have told him to just tell me he is talking to her but that doesn't happen until I say something about it and all I get is excuses why he didn't tell me. Now I look at the phone records and I see he has over 5000 text messages while I only have 500.  red flag?

I want other married couples opinions on porn use? My husband watches real porn on chatterbait (or however its spelled), as well as his guy friends send him gifs and inappropriate videos of girls naked doing all types of things. It really bothers me because in my opinion, sex and the naked body is something solely a married couple shared together. I dont think his friends should be sending nasty stuff, nor should he be sending it. Like I said I think sex and sexual things should only be shared within the married couple and them only? I want to know what other married people think and their thoughts about the issue.

So I know this question might sound silly or cliche but I'm getting married in February and I'm a virgin and I am so scared haha.  I know my husband to be obviously isn't going to judge me but still it's a lot of pressure on my part because what if I'm not good at it? What if I fail miserably? What will my husband think of me?   I'm 20 and my husband to be is 26 and he has had sex in the past.. so idk what if I'm not as good as the other girls?  Just so many thoughts and questions and I'm too embarrassed to talk about them with anybody. Any advice?

Three months ago my parents told me they are getting divorced after 25 years of marriage. This came totally unexpected, sure they would have arguments now and then but nothing out of the ordinary. My dad will move out of our house and move to Portugal next summer (which is where he is from, we live in the Netherlands currently) This was also their main reason of divorce, since my dad wanted to move back to Portugal in the long run together with my mom. My mother was always supportive of this plan but has seemed to change her mind and therefore they see no future for their marriage. I have been struggling so much with the whole situation. I love both my parents very much, especially since i have no siblings I am really close to them. It hurts me so much to think that I won't be able to see my dad every week/day. I have been crying myself to sleep almost every day for the past few months and I feel really hopeless. I feel like I cannot really tell my parents about how I truly feel since I don't want to make them feel guilty for their decision. Most of my friends think I should not be overreacting the way I do since I am 21 years old and would soon move out for good anyway. I just feel really lost and sad right now, I lost most of my motivation for everything. I am struggeling with combining university, my job and my feelings. Any advice? 

Like it gets to the point where it's exhausting. I brought a home 45 mins away to give myself a break and it doesn't work. Especially, my parents. Sometimes I feel the role has changed and I'm the parent and they're the child. I love them but they call me for every little thing like I have to baby them. My dad will wait on me to clean his house, make his drs appts and pay his bills. My mom hasn't worked in forever, has a husband but purposely do not pay her bills because she expects me to. When I brought my home she expected me to let her move in with her husband, let them have the master room and me pay all the bills. I feel bad because people are leaving this world daily so I try to keep in touch with them. But at the same time I have my own issues going on.

My husband and I took a walk today with our 2 month old and noticed 3 kids ( one girl was around 13)  abusing a cat. She was trying to run away but they'd catch her and throw her around hard on the floor and laugh and chase her. I wanted to say something but my husband said better not. However, i went at it ( something came over me i couldn't) i yelled to stop doing that that is a living thing and for them to not come close to the cat anymore. I asked them where their parents were. They started to laugh in my face and then i started swearing at them calling them ******* idiots.... I know its wrong to yell at other people kids but i felt so strongly about the matter. They are bullies torturing a small helpless cat. My husband said i shouldnt' have yelled at them because the kids' parents can call the police on me for that. Can they really? Their kids' are abusing animals.

I don't hate her but if my grandmother demands that I do I would feel terrible confronting my grandmother. I don't mind standing up to my mom but nobody else. My mom will always love me and so I don't mind standing up to her.

He is a bad man

I joined a bridge club and at my first meeting they introduced me to the other members. One of the members asked me where I worked and I said the XYZ company. She said I know a lot of people at the XYZ company. Do you know John Doe? I said "Yes I do. He is my boss. Then she asked me all sorts of questions about John. Like was he a good boss? I told her he was a great boss. She wanted to know if he hit on the female employees and I told her no but I wish he would because he was a great looking guy. I was getting tired of her questions and I wanted to talk to other club members so I ask her why she was so interested in John Doe? She finally reluctantly told me he was her ex husband and then asked me more questions about him. I told her I did not care to discuss my work or her ex husband. That really got her mad at me and she told the other club members that I had been rude to her. It was obvious that she and her ex husband had unresolved problems. I was not about to get in the middle of her problems. Was I being rude to her?

So a couple days ago my good friend had a get together at his house a Friendsgiving kind of Christmas party. Our friend group ranges from I'd say 21-28 years old, we are all pretty young and certainly not all of us are married like them.    But at the Christmas party my friends wife came up to me and said "kiss me under the mistletoe" and laughed and I chalked it up as us just being drunk idiots and maybe she just was being playful or whatever but then later on in the night she said "my panties are red wanna see" and showed me.    I know it's petty sh*t but I just feel guilty. I feel like it's not the type of behavior a married woman should have. Maybe she was just drunk and being silly but if my wife was saying that to my friends I know I would want someone to step up and tell me.   I also don't want to ruin their marriage but in my opinion he deserves better. 

My mon and I both received an inheritance last year. We both decided to save this money and invest it for our future. It was too small an amount to pay for professional management. On the one year anniversary of our inheritance we compared notes to see how our investments were doing. My mom had made 3 times the amount of money I had made on my investments. I asked her how she did it. She said she had a great investment advisor that did not charge her anything because they were friends. When I ask her who it was, she said she preferred not to tell me. I thought that was really odd. Why would she not want to tell her daughter. I finally got it out of her. It was my ex husband. She said she did not want to cause me any trouble. I told her my ex husband and I are still on friendly terms and this is business not personal. I want the higher returns she is getting on her investments. I am going to ask him to help me with my investments. Mom said, "I understand that you want you to make as much money from your inheritance as possible. However I am afraid your current husband is going to have a BIG problem with you asking our ex for advice". Guys, is my mom right. Would you have a problem if your wife was getting free investment advice from her former husband that was making us BOTH a lot of money? How do I explain to my current husband that this has nothing to do with him. It is just a business relationship that will benefit BOTH of us.

If it's true then thank god I'm living in good upper middle class life in a country where men have a little more rights than women. Atleast won't have to worry my soon to be ex-wife messing up my life after our divorce 

F no. If that were a deal breaker I'd die single, or find some who's head isn't stuck in their ***. It's the principal of the matter. I don't even have to explain, everyone knows the condescending principal behind this matter. And if you're triggered by this question or my answer then YOU NEED SOME MILK