I don't have a father. I only have my mom who is great but I really want a dad too. Any experiences about how it feels to have one?

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My baby's father is staying with me but he spends time with his other baby's mom (which I was cool with that because he knew her BEFORE we got together) so then she started telling me he cheated on me with her. Now she's going to press charges on him because he beat her up. He just went back to her house today. I wanted to feel bad for her but I really don't. SHOULD I feel bad for her?

My sister moved into our basement, like a small apartment, over 10 yrs ago and since retired and has become almost disabled over the years. It is not setup for handicapped and not safe to be alone, if she falls she can't get up, it has happened in the past. She needs a better environment but says she doesn't qualify for a nursing home, poor credit score. Where can we find a better place for her in NJ?

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It's just my daughter (turns 13 in 2020) and I. We are both born and raised in CA. I moved her to a small town about 5 years ago and she's a happy girl with her little group of friends. The hard part is, this single mama can't afford CA anymore. I need to think about her college and my retirement. I have found a state where I think would be better for us (weather, schools, crime, hobbies, etc.). But we haven't been there before, we only know what I've read online (articles and fb groups), and we won't know ANYONE when we first move out there. My parents are leaving CA in 2020 also (they were the main reason I stayed as long as I have), & they will be about 4 hours from our potential new home. How does one handle the emotions of all the change? I get sick to my stomach when I think about her not making good friends like she has here. I can handle being alone, and I'll make some friends in time, but I worry about her. I just need advise to calm my nerves that it's okay to move us for the benefit of our future. Please, kind words only as this is already hard on my heart. Thank you in advance. 

For example my step uncle on my mom side is all seriousness and no ******* around because he works for a company that makes military tank parts thinks he's right about most if not all things and is a serious pain in the *** because he acts like he can't take a ******* joke and he really pisses me off and makes me wanna break his ******* face and knock his teeth out because he's a stubborn and ignorant idiot who only wants to see **** from his point of perspective because he's an only child and feels disrespected if you disagree with him. What word ( s ) would you use to describe this type of person and why??

Shes fat, messy, and gets me to be lazy too. I feel like Im way out of her league. She knows Im.not that attracted to fat women and she does not care to lose weight. She needs to lose 100 lbs. and clean up her messy house, stop talking about her ex a d feeling sorry for herself. She doesnt work anymore, and it's not motivating for me. I'm afraid I might meet some one else. Shes very paranoid I might too. I feel like the good times we shared are not enough. Im.sick of hearing about her health problems or bad ankle. Or excuses not to get in shape, or find a job. It's been a lot of pressure on me. Plus we have a lot of pets.  I hate the area, the neighbors, her family is very rude.  My mom doesn't like this relationship, but I refuse to move back in with my mom.  Shes home every day now and I get no personal space either.

My sister and I have begun and estrangement and I'm wondering how to counter lies that you might tell during the coming months. I think it's lies that her perception distortions on her end not intentional lies. However she speaks extremely cruel about people and is a huge gossip. She has narcissism.

My sister was bitten by a dog I think and ever since then she's been sleeping like nonstop. I try to give her dinner or food but all she does is growl at me. How do I convince my mentor to take her to doctor or something? He says she is fine and needs her rest and that she only likes to eat at night when the sun isn't out. For some reason she really doesn't like sunlight. Also a crow keeps coming to our house and saying people words. I don't like any of this. What can I do to help my sister?

With me, as we are engaged. I love my girlfriend, she is such a good and innocent girl, she doesn't smoke, doesn't go clubbing, I was her first one (even sexually). One day they argued and her mom was so mad and crazy she told her these things. I know her parents, they have invited me often for lunch or dinner. They are both good and I have always regarded her mother as a good, hardworking woman who has always sacrificed for her family, overcomin many hardships. But when I insisted on  her telling me why she was so distressed and sad she told me crying her mother did this and pulled her hair during a discussion. She told me not to get involved but I cannot accept her mom treating her like s*** because she has a boyfriend. Should I talk to her mom anyway?

I really just need to vent because I have no one to talk to. I've been in a relationship for 4 years with my now almost 2 year old sons father. The relationship has always been rocky. Although, he's not physically abusive, he is verbally.  The verbal abuse got so bad that I moved out of the home and went to a domestic violence shelter and filed court papers last year. I was out of the home for almost a year and eventually moved into my own place. We ended up working things out but it hasn't been easy. The verbal abuse is at an all time high again. The situation is complicated, he's a truck driver and is only in town on weekends. Although we don't live together, he stay at my house on the weekends. It's miserable! I've told him I want to leave plenty of times. His response was I'm ungrateful because he do so much for me and Carson. The things he do for is great however, it doesn't cover up the mistreatment. He's a great father but an awful person.  His family feel he suffer from trauma of losing both his parents and that ever since he's always treated people like crap and that he's cold hearted. The problem is no one will tell him how he need help they act like it's not a problem except me.  I think he's bipolar! For a while I thought it was just me being sensitive and not knowing what a man should be like but I can't shake feeling like crap and hurt. 

Im 18 ill be starting community college in 2 weeks so im not in school right now im the fry cook at my job for 2 years now work 7.60 an hour I used to hang out with my girlfriend when I had 2 days off each week now the past 6 weeks they had me work every day from 3 to 9 cause the other fry cook had quit I asked them why and sje said that I'm the only fry cook they have but they do just fine when im not working but I had chose not to work those days anyway after 2 weeks my manager said that she will fire me if I no call no show again I will always request 1 day off and she's been making me work that day anyways I usually got days off in 2018 but not in 2019 they need to understand that I have a life and I cant work every day cause I'll eventually burn out but when i start comm college they will have to give me some days off 

Their Mom is fine, just the father is an alcoholic. Parents divorced long ago. 

And he want to kiss them

35 single male live by myself, good job, ride motorcycle in my free time. So I was raised by a covert narcissist mother who installed a twisted family dynamic among the kids. My father was a passive enabler. It all just made sense about 3 years ago. I've been gaslighted most of my life and as opposed to building a more peer relationship my parents still want that parent child dynamic. When I called them out my mother tried to call me crazy, of course using her cats paw (my father). I've gone no contact for a years and a half. My sister seems to have found where I moved to. Left a note at the door. I feel harassment is going to start. How do I proceed. Plus the note just stated that she came to say hi. Acting like the issue never happened, after I emailed everyone to leave me alone for now. My siblings also feel I am to be abused. How do I handle a subsequent visit? 🤔

and start telling them that maybe they might have to set more realistic goals 

My sister is believed to have cyclic vomiting syndrome so we are trying natural ways first to see if that can help heal her stomach. Me and my parents went to a store called invite and got the stuff she needed and one of the stuff they bought was L-caenitine which gives energy I heard it feeds your cells etc., then my dad bought for himself Edge Advanced Formula, DHEA, maca root, and Masculine.. this stuff was listen as the sexual program pack. That same night when my mom went to look at the receipt she looked a bit confused then the next day after I heard them talking in the kitchen I asked her what did daddy get and she said "It's to give him energy instead of him drinking those energy drinks, you have to ask him it's for that". Then few days later I still saw my dad drink those crappy energy drinks and before that my mom gave my sister the L-caenitine and I said to her why can dad just take that and she said "I don't know how that stuff works". Now does it sound like my mom is lying? Maybe he's taking it for fertility or is it because he's 45 and it's for other reasons? My sister has been in/out the hospital I been a second mother taking care of everything and my other sister it's a lot on me. Ask my mom has a belly button hernia and she said the other day don't have no more then 3 kids. I believe my parents use the pullout method so I walk in fear always I can't handle much more but from what you read does it seem their done with kids? We literally have no life

Me and my mom always got along but she has gotten so mean :(!!! I was going to go upstairs to talk to her like... 5 mins ago and heard her and my sister talking about me saying bad things. Shes so mean to me and always yells and doesnt trust me even tho i dont even do anything Its awful

My dad favors my oldest sister while my mum favors my second sister, while they are less supportive of the other. I am the third and it seems like they're neutral to me but I don't like that they're showing clear favoritism to my older sisters. I think they should be neutral to all but this is not the case here. How can I improve things?

I'm a guy and we've been together 2 years but I'm pretending to be a girl on skype and my online boyfriend is so hot and I want be with him but I'm worry he'll find out truth that I'm not a girl because he wants to call but i decline and come up with excuses he's 19 and i'm 17

we've been together 3 years and she thinks i'm gross because i have moles on my neck but i can't help it and she hits me

My sister is believed to have cyclic vomiting syndrome so we are trying natural ways first to see if that can help heal her stomach. Me and my parents went to a store called invite and got the stuff she needed and one of the stuff they bought was L-caenitine which gives energy I heard it feeds your cells etc., then my dad bought for himself Edge Advanced Formula, DHEA, maca root, and Masculine.. this stuff was listen as the sexual program pack. That same night when my mom went to look at the receipt she looked a bit confused then the next day after I heard them talking in the kitchen I asked her what did daddy get and she said "It's to give him energy instead of him drinking those energy drinks, you have to ask him it's for that". Then few days later I still saw my dad drink those crappy energy drinks and before that my mom gave my sister the L-caenitine and I said to her why can dad just take that and she said "I don't know how that stuff works". Now does it sound like my mom is lying? Maybe he's taking it for fertility or is it because he's 45 and it's for other reasons? My sister has been in/out the hospital I been a second mother taking care of everything and my other sister it's a lot on me. Ask my mom has a belly button hernia and she said the other day don't have no more then 3 kids. I believe my parents use the pullout method so I walk in fear always I can't handle much more but from what you read does it seem their done with kids? We literally have no life

My father left me and my little brother with my mom when I was 8. He hasn't come to visit us since. I have seen him a couple of times since then but it was short and only a couple of times. I am 22 now. My mom used to beat us up a lot but now that I am older she doesn't physically hit me anymore. Specifically because I have tried to hit her back too, but i never hit her. It didn't feel right.. But the things she has done to me were horrible. When I think back about it I ask myself how I am still alive or how could a parent do this to their kid. I have older brothers who have hit me. They scared me as a kid. To this day I still have fear about them hitting me even though they don't. Nobody cares how I feel.

My dad drinks behind me and my moms back and then fights with my mom verbally and accuses her of cheating on him all the time he calls her a ***** and a slut in front of me and my 8 year old brother and it gets worst every time last time he hit my mother and then called her names in front of me and my brother and he always wants to leave driving he is giving us a very hard time and I don't know what to do. What should I do about this situation 

Sorry in advance for the long description, I just want to give the most context possible. I am a teenager, so I know I am prone to overreacting or being "angsty", but sometimes I wonder if my parents are abusive.  My father for the most part is fine, I got spanked by him by a child which is pretty normal. He choked me, but only once, years ago. I don't think it even counts anymore.  My mother  constantly screams at me. I get As and Bs in school. Whenever I get a B she will sigh and make me feel guilty for it. I am on the track team at school, and I go on runs four mornings a week by myself. She watches me until I am done, and if I don't run fast enough or long enough she threatens to email the coach and tell him to kick me off the team, or compares me to the people from former meets that beat me.  Everything can set her off so I've learned to stay quiet or I lie so I don't get yelled at. If I cry when she yells at me, she tells me boys can't cry and turns it around so she starts talking about how bad her life is and how badly my father treats her. She tells me that I should be happy if she is happy and put my own feelings aside. She offers me help on things and yells if I don't accept, but then takes the opportunity to tell me my work is trash. My sister does much worse and never gets yelled at, but she is younger (and not gay. I should mention that they have suspicions and are very religious). TLDR: Are my parents abusive or am I just too sensitive?

He is not publicly drunk anymore. I ask just because my Mom insults my Dad constantly for being an alcoholic and bans me from associating with him and yet she is okay with me being around this alcoholic uncle in her family. Only difference in the two is the uncle is not drunk in public. Also my Mom loves her brother but hates my Dad. Yet I love my Dad and miss him horribly. The uncle I love but not as much cause he is not my parent. I have lots of uncles (7 and I know the four on my Mom's side) and yet I only have one Dad despite what my Mom says of her new husband being my new Dad. 

So I would like to meet this person, I have not before other then when too little to remember. She is a cousin of my grandmother's. However, her brother has said to my grandmother "be careful, my sister looks for handouts". He had a credible story but it was from like 40 years ago. My grandmother said to go ahead and meet this person and just not to make any promises to her. So I am going to go and meet her and her daughter. My question is in the event that this person's brother (who is estranged from her) is right and she tries to pawn favors from me with sob stories then how do I gracefully say I can't? I know my Mom will be annoyed I met a relative I do not know but I find it fascinating to learn about different parts of the family that have the same history (same ancestors as me). At the same time I do want to be careful.

Hi I want to know if I can overcome this major rift or 'baggage' between my mom and me. It has put our life at a standstill every time ... I am practically not sleeping because of our back and forth animosity..?! I have a little girl and newborn(!) and now she has been coming over almost every day as if she wants to help clean my 'dirty' home, instead of just hanging out with me and my kids.  Since about a week before giving birth she had been giving me hell about how my house isn't clean at all, which is because I'm so uptight and nervous from her coming that I lose ALL focus. She is lecturing and criticizing me like I am still in junior high, it has really gotten out of hand. The day I gave birth, (yes I did exert a lot of effort that day on my own) but when she came over, I felt because she kept pushing and pushing me to clean and cook that I just tried to get her to stop by trying to do everything so that I could get some control back; that night I gave birth and it might have been because of the mental and physical state... I need help I don't know where to turn to — please do not tell me to see a counselor - tried it.  I KNOW my mother has major issues she is dealing with on her own; and I know I should be there for her to lean on - I just don't like the way she talks and talks without letting me understand or how if I am saying something important, she almost always interrupts, and mostly her demands to do things - I feel so hollow now and so worthless 

Can I get custody of my grandchild from my daughter. She is acting in ways that are highly inappropriate around my grandchild. She lets her boyfriend say over, and spend the night, and they also sleep in the same bed, and I don't think a child should see that.  They are not married, and that is not her father. Now I come to learn they are looking for a place together.  I don't think they should be living together, and I don't think my grandchild should have to deal with that nonsense. Can I take her to court over it? 

How does it feel? I don't have one and I just wanna know how it is.

I have been a caregiver for a family member that had a stroke. I was asked to move in and keep company and she had a stroke before i moved in and the family said they will help since i am working full time and taking care of her full time in the beginning.  They barely helped out and i was expected to do so much even when i was kept up all night taking care of her when she wanted to use the restroom and she made it so hard on me on purpose by drinking so much before bed, quit taking her pee control pills and take stool softeners before bed time that would keep me up all night. She stopped doing all of those things when she was able to move out on her own. I had ro give up my apartment to stay with her and pay rent for two montha for a place i couldn't stay anymore. I had to stay at my place the last weekend to finish moving to move and my sister were supposed to help me but never showed up.  When i came back she pushed everyone to get on to me about mowing the yard but i never had the time because she would keep all my attention for every little thing and exhaust me from mowing also not giving me the space to actuallydo it.. She would make it seem like it was them making a big deal about the mowing when i caught her puhing them when she thought i wasn't nearby and she would say they wouldn't shutup about it and i should do it to shut them up. I didnt know anything about a mower and was trying to get it out. My sister was showing me and teaching me when my grandma wants  She wanted to stand behind me and tell me to go out there and mow and not allow my sister do everything and not appreciate all that i have done for her. This time i was only able to find someone help me watch her when i was working and i would come home to sink full of dirty dishes inhave to do and she would expect me to deep clean every day. She would complain about me about what i didn't do for her instead of appreciating what inhave done.  It has been harder and draining even though i have been able to sleep fully at night because she would overwork me on my only day off asking me to do this and that for her instead of allowing me to rest.  She would complain about me to the family and they would scold me about it. They would get on to me that she wants it like this and i tell them they could do it. She denies saying these things but i caught her saying she will have to do it herself if i dont do it right away but she would end It would be my fault if she falls. She end up falling when she is walking when she isnt careful which makes her regress because she doesn't want to be careful and gets distracted.  She compliments my family for the little they donto help but wants to complain about me when i exhaust myself for her and it makes me feel unappreciated and burned out. I would be more inclined to help if she stip complaining and tiring me I have asked her to stop because its the way it burns me out and feels unappreciated but she blames them for twisting her words  She asked asked me tondo things like locking her door then complains about me locking her door when my sister comes over. Right now she is able to.do most things on her own except for heat up her own food. No one will come over for ten minutes to heat up her food but says i need to pn my lunch break saying indont do enough I was supposed to wayer the plants but slacked off because i have to work extra at work and only given one day and work before daylight to night time. She told me they only meeded to be water once a week but when a family friend attacked me for not doing it every day my grandma jumps in and said no they needed to be wstered more not supporting me even though I was doing what she told me  It has been extra emotional draining and i cant get help. I have been extra tired infelt i was going to faint at work the other day and kept on making mistakes. I was thinking about moving out buy she would go to a nursing home. Its hard to find someone to help me but they would judge me for every complaint that she makes and says that she would stop complaining if i would do it. I would ask her to get them to do these things instead of complaining about me but she says she forgets  When i ask them for help they won't reply. They say they are tired of my venting but they want to tell me i need to do this and don't understand how hard it is and wo t help. Since moving in i haven't had a full day away and it is finally getting to me and it bothers me that i worry about how to make sure she can eat while I work. I am just losing my mind  I have tried home care but they day my grandma makes too much. My grandma doesn't want a stranger to come and take care of her and she refuses a nursing home.  My mother would try to make all these phone calls that would go nowhere and my grandma would try to exhaust her by making her make phone calls to keep her from teying to find help. Would my grandma really lose her home if she was in a nursing home if it is paid off?  For christmas she got me an air fryer so i can cook more but i dont have time. All i need is someone to feed her, clean cook and bathe her paperwork and organize what do you call that title and how do i find them? I have talked to her several times about how her complaining effects me and how the family attacks me My sister who doeant hepl mention she will help of she can get paid for it bug my grandma refuses tk allow me to fi d a way to get paid fornit I feel so bad for being snappy at my grandma but it is too much and i feel like she makes it harder on me on purpose. For example she fell early morning on my birthday and was cranky all day making comments like i wasnt there on my birthday that the fall was my fault

I am 41. I mean emotional hurt, not physical. 

So my brother and his weirdo family came over for Christmas dinner 2hrs late, luckily I knew they always run late so I was just finishing up cooking the meal. I went to the bathroom and came out a few min later. They had left and went to Sonics and bought food for themselves and their spoiled brat teenager kids that apparently didn't want my dinner. I say don't come to dinner then ever again!

i has been going on for way to long and he only listens the the same 2 songs. what should i do