He used to bully my sister all the time. When she fought him, started being nice to him, and shared her food with him he left her alone. He used to bully my brother. When my brother pushed him out the room when he tried to attack him, he left him alone. He used to bully my mom. When she started ignoring him and agreed with him, he left her alone. Now he only bullies me. If I leave my room he follows me and watches me and taunts me. I don't speak to him. I sometimes stand up to him. But he still won't leave me alone. I shouldn't have to kiss a bully's *** for them to leave me alone. The only reason he leaves my siblings and mom alone is because they kiss his *** and is fake nice to him. I don't wanna do that. I don't like him. And I don't have to. I don't like what he does.

I think he's crazy enough to try it. Sometimes I'm left home alone with him and he bothers me. My family tells him to stop but he's one of those people who don't know when to stop. He threatened to kill my sister too. He's a violent person. He beats my mom and tried to attack my brother. He's been living with us for almost 3 years now. I can't deal with this anymore. It seems like he's never gonna leave. I'm thinking about suicide to escape this.

Also I'm Swedish

Hello. This is such a petty problem for someone my age, but I can t stop feeling anger, sadness and unfairness when it comes to this. I just turned 26 and my little brother is 14. My parents let him sleep over at his girlfriends house. I didn t get to sleep over at a boys house or even be out later than 19:00 until I turned 17 years old. I had consequences in the form of my parents turning off my internet and by doing that not letting me have contact with friends at all. His form of consequences are that he will get less money than normal. I didn t even get money when I was his age, I mostly got money if it was my birthday or christmas. And they started giving me money when I turned 17. They didn t let me have the clothing style that I wanted and shamed me for it (at the type the clothing style was emo/goth), but they embrace my brothers style because it is more socially acceptable (His style is Levi s, Gucci, Louis Vuitton). I didn t get to go out late with my friends, and they let him do that. I didn t get to party as much because of it making me socially awkward since I didn t get to evolve in that sense. Today at 26 I am a socially awkward person who doesn t know how to talk to people my age IRL. This just feels so.. unfair. I want my youth back so I can do all the things I unfairly missed out on because of my parents. My parents sometimes tell me that I was fighting a lot with them when I was a kid. The only thing we fought about is that I didn t get to do anything. At the same time as I am feeling all this anger and sadness, I understand that my parents just wanted to protect me and since I am their first kid they were overprotective. And I am happy that my brother gets to do stuff that I didn't get to do. But right now I can't control these feelings of a wasted youth.

My sisters been very disrespectful towards my mom lately and my moms told her to shut up several times. Last night my sister was literally screaming at my mom, my mom got close to her and said she wants to slap her but she's not going to. Is this wrong or understandable??

My parents have been having a hard time with my 8 year old sister. She's been incredibly disrespectful towards my mom specifically. She screams in their faces, doesn't follow punishments, constantly contradicts them, and refuses to do a majority of the things she's asked to do. She acts like a teenager. My parents have had a hard time finding a punishment that works, especially since I never acted this way. What do you suggest they do???

My friend she is 21 and got married, Im happy for her but I feel like shock since I am one year younger than her and I feel I am not ready yet to get married. Yet I feel weird because like life went by so fast, Im still in college but my friend she is finished college just recently and she got married, so I still feel like a kid. I dont want to get married, because marriage is up and down, and I have to cook clean, work, and deal with in laws. And cheating. I dont think I can handle all those emotions, but I feel weird. I still like enjoying life but my friend she is married and taking responsibility, so I feel like Im less mature than my age. Any advice?

Whenever I disagree with her I get told things like " I raised you and put a roof over your head what the f*** do I have to cater to your emotions for too" but she put my other sibling in therapy. I get a boyfriend I was told "he's gonna leave you because when you get older your gonna get bigger and if he's not talking to you he's entertaining another female". And it's like I always get these degrading comments said to me and anytime I try to voice my opinion and she opposes then she makes it to where she along with the rest of the house hold gives me the silent treatment and with her it lasts for days.

I just recently got married and my husband is great most of the time but his live in 19 year old son does nothing around the house. He just expects me to do everything. I m tired of doing it all. I have had my throat jumped down for try to tell people how to deal with there kids so much that I can t do it anymore. What do I do?

My aunts in town, and is staying at my grandparents house. I went to go have dinner last night, and visit with my aunt, and than I remembered why I dont like being around her. Shes always acting like what I'm doing isnt good enough. I'll be honest. I'm 25, and have hardly done anything worth while with my life, but I'm happy with the job I just got. It's a low end job, but as long as I can pay the Bill's than I'm happy. Anyway, she got drunk, and told me I should come live with her in l.a. (I live on the Oregon coast) shes a manager at a Toyota dealership, and said she could get me a job washing cars. It sounds nice, and all, but I can hardly stand being around her for an hour. I dont think I could live with her. Not to mention it's in a big city and my dog is a very energetic dog, and she needs space. I just feel kind of crappy now becuase I know to some people ot would be a good opportunity, but it's such a bug decision, and so far away. If it didnt work out than that would really suck. Anyway, I'm getting way off subject. The barbecue is later, and I told them I would go, but I really dont want to talk to her. I know shes just gonna make me uncomfortable.

I was actually skinny my entire life. And I was always bullied for it. I am very sensitive when it comes to my weight. This past year I gained 22 pounds which really made me feel good, happy, proud of myself. My bmi is 18.5 which is like right on the dot for being normal. So I met with this guy I was talking to for a while at Starbucks. We met for a date. We talked about a bunch of things and clicked really well. Then we got into the topic about lifting weights and I told him I gained 22 pounds. He said, "Wow I can't even imagine what you looked like before. You are pretty skinny." And the way he was looking at me like he was concerned like I am a walking skeleton. And that made me feel weird. It made me feel bad about myself. And he's really skinny himself so it's like the pot calling the kettle black. I don't think he meant that as a compliment and I don't find it a compliment. I gained a lot of weight and I think... it doesn't show? I thought I was considered normal weight. Now, even though our personalities mesh really well, I feel like I can't date a guy who thinks I'm skinny. I don't want to start a relationship on a flaw about myself and especially about something I am extremely sensitive about. Id rather have a guy say, "You look good." And that's it and he doesn't have to say anymore. But like something negative, "Yeah you are pretty skinny." It makes me feel self conscious. He knows I'd prefer gaining weight over being skinny. Am I overreacting?

Im at my fiancés parents house and an arguement occured between my mother in law and sister in law which resulted with the mom crying and the sister being mad. I dont know what was said they were speaking Spanish and I dont know Spanish that well. I was going to go with my fiancé, his aunt and sister to a store but then his mom tells us she doesnt want us to go with her but my fiancés sister butts in saying that she doesnt mind us going with her that she doesnt get mad about that then even apologized to us about their moms behavior. I really dont know what was going on. What do you do in situations like this? I wasnt supposed to be here today but my job let me leave early due to not enough worl for the workers and when they found out i got off work early i got invited due to my job being close their home :/

Hi. My mother in law asked me if I wanted tea. I said yes and drank it. A few hours later I had the worst stomach pain and vomiting I had ever had in my life. Infact I passed out for a few seconds from it. The pain activated some nerve in my stomach that can make you pass out. Turns out it was laxative tea which she failed to tell me. The directions said to steep 1 bag for 1 minute. She put 3 bags and the bags were steeping the entire 20 minutes I drank it. She acted like it was an accident. My husband thinks it was too. I want a neutral opinion because I feel like it was done intentionally. Maybe I m judging the situation too harshly or maybe I m right about it. Thank you for the input.

whenever I tell my dad something. for example, there was sewage smell I said I can't take the poop smell anymore. he frowns and doesn't do anything. when my brother said the same thing he said I promise to fix it. when I called a plumber and the plumber said about the missing part (ptrap) he does anything the plumber says and is so tame towards. with? why then he treats me and my mom badly. why is that? I am not human like anyone else. also, any other adult outside treats me like this too. only my mom and one of my teachers treat me good. why is it like this. I am not bad at all.

I'm 16 and in my opinion a fairly normal teen. I have good grades , am graduating early , help out around the house whenever I can I've even been involved in a youth care giving group which helps my family out with things like Christmas presents, life aids and etc. However, whenever I go to my parents for things they always argue with me and say degrading things towards me and try to turn everyone in the house hold (well my mom does) against me. This last for days. Then I started realizing that this doesn't happen with my siblings at all. If they get mad at them is short term and never ends in a heated argument. I've been trying to deal with them for the longest but is seems like whenever we argue they throw up things that they know I'm sensitive about and then complain and say they hate the fact that I'm sensitive or cry when they argue with me. More things they have said include •"you always think things revolve around you but it doesn't and all you worry about is yourself" •"go ahead and kill yourself dumbass if you do we have life insurance on you and you don't go to heaven when you die so that's on you" •"you know what I hate about you , your always wining and I didn't raise you to wine so much , all you do is cry any time someone says something to you that's why we never say anything" And the list continues does anyone have any advice or input on how I can deal with this until I turn 18 I'd really appreciate it

So so this individual (A) when the other day with her girlfriends (one of which being my mother, who I'm close with and I'm still young). Individual A is middle aged, as is my mother. They went on a girls beach house trip for a little less then a week. My mother seemed very happy to see the handful texts and 1-2 calls I've made while she's away. No issues. Individual (A) now texted me to which it read and I woke up to "You need to stop texting her and leave her alone". I found it rude to be honest, I kind of know her but not great, and it's not her business either I think?

What if they have no job? How will they find a place to live or take care of their kids?

My parents growing up we're super strict and oppressive, like almost to the point of being harmful to me and ****... and controlling as all hell and used fear to keep me in line. Well eventually I found my backbone and now that I'm a bit older even if I'm close to someone if they try to make me do something that ABSOLUTELY DONT WANT TO DO, I'll do whatever it takes to remove them from my life, whatever it takes to not be controlled. And I'm not meaning like "go take out the trash honey" or anything like that. Like Serious **** like "you should try asking your father for help" like I will do whatever it takes to be free. Like if someone gives me the ultimatum ya know. Like do it or else I'll be like "or else then, bye" and literally all I've heard from people is "you've got issues" is something seriously wrong with me. I just thought I'd rather be my own person than have ppl dominate my life. But...

I told my dad tell buy me something. very little and inexpensive. food. he frowned at me and didn't tell mom.then when he came home and my brother asked him why didn't you buy me food. he said sir believe me the store was closed otherwise I bought it. my brother is totally lazy and I do anything in the house possible. my mom is also sooo fat so she cant do anything or housework or etc. so how come they treat him like a king and treat me like a doormat. my bro is 7 years older. they never ever disagree with him or say something bad to him. basically, if I do this stuff for other people then I was paid a lot .i am free butler here.

hey try to make you feel and think youre worthless and always wrong and need their "wisdom" but i just heard my narc mom flat out tell a LIE about me that makes her look better... Someone who lies like they breathe makes me angry and i hardly see their humanity. The reality is that liars show how worthless they feel inside and they make themselves VILE in my eyes... Thus i have no respect for them. Hahahha...you stupid mother spent your whole life trying to make me think im a worthless piece of traah but really you are closer to that than i am. I see that now. It feels better to be angry at liars for what they do rather than hate myself and abuse myself like that sick witch wants me to do. I cant want to move out and maybe never talk to this skank ever again. Never is remorseful. Narcissist to the core. Screw off disgusting .

My husband and I are very close with his family. He has 1 brother and sister, both married with 2 kids each. We attend every birthday/holiday we can when we aren't working (we work weekends in health care) and they also get together for dinner and cake for every adult birthday, including parents siblings. Its a lot. We celebrated my mother in laws birthday Thursday night with everyone. Today Sunday is our nieces 6th Birthday. My husband is working. I'm off and was going to attend alone... I picked up last minute over time yesterday and back to work tomorrow with an hour commute. Is it horrible I don't want to drive 45 minutes to nieces birthday party today? I'm exhausted and my family is having a get together 5 minutes down the road from me (celebrating Father's Day with my dad & grandpa as we work that next week). I feel my husbands family always comes first. I know I had birthday party plans first and it's bad to go back on my word. But I'm exhausted and don't want to attend without the hubby anyways. They're important to me though and I don't want them upset or my husband upset. Drive 45 minutes to and from nieces party as planned alone for in laws. Or relax since I'm working overtime with no time for myself and visit with my side of the family (parents and grandpa) I don't see as often as in laws?

How do I go about getting them to like me and include me? It always hurts that I am excluded and everyone else (my cousins, aunts, and uncles) are included. I just saw on someone's Facebook Page that it is 200 days until Christmas and so that is why I am thinking of it even though it is still so early in the year. Alijah: Terrible Answer, only picked it for best answer cause it is the only answer. Terrible answer though.

If someone loses their dad to an accident . and doesn't get along with their mom how can it mentally affect them

For as long as I can remember my parents seem like they love to single me out. Any time we get into arguments it's about little stuff that they turn into big situations. But I've noticed that when my siblings argue with them or they are mad at them the issue is resolved quickly whereas mine is prolonged. I've tried to tell them about how I feel but I'm always being put down or told that everything doesn't revolve around me my mom stays mad at me for days and my dad eventually gets around to apologize. But the situations are rinse and repeat. I'm currently 16 about to be seventeen soon and my parents have gotten even worse. I have started dating someone and any time we argue now they blame it on me growing up to fast or choosing him over them which I have never done. Even with him meeting them and taking over a lot of the the responsibilities they were supposed to do (paying the phone bill, buying my clothes/etc.) they still make it out to be a problem and always make me feel unwanted. I feel like they have internalized problems built up against me being that I'm not a problem child (good grades, graduating early, and every helpful) but I really can't understand why. So I need to try to find a way to deal with them until I'm old enough to leave but I'm not sure how. Can anybody help me ???

My mother in law hates me and I don't n know why. She is very mean to me and my kids. I always go above and beyond for her and she is so ungrateful.I bought my mother In law flowers for her bday. I txt her to say happy birthday and she didn't respond I called her and she didn't pick up, I received confirmation that the flowers were delivered and she signed for them but she never even called to say thanks. What should I do? Should I stop putting up with her rudeness or should I call her out on it?

Long story short, we last "heard" from him when I was maybe 12 or 13, 15 years ago. After that point he moved states away and we did not find out how he died or where, just when, via a letter from the VA. His widow corresponded once indicating she wanted contact w/ me in late 2013, then all communication ended there with that letter. I only found the address after intense years of searching online. I know she has the family photos he stole after breaking into our home years after disappearing. All wanted to know was how he died, copies of the photos and basic info. I don't know if there is any way to get some of those photos back. I dont care about any level of an inheritance. I doubt there would have been regardless. Request for service records submitted to NPRC

Okay so since i had my daughter its been harder to get back in shape but im getting there and its actually going good but i ran into a family member who i dont really have anything to do with bc of personal reasons and he said that i look like my mom (she's kind of overweight too) we're short ppl so its harder for us to lose weight if i don't stick 1000 calories a day i won't lose it as fast. Well he took it upon himself to comment on the weight i gained in my face meanwhile he doesn't look his best either he has a big belly and man boobs and yet he has the nerve to talk about me and right in front of my face too. Do you think that's rude? i avoid him but it does bother me bc its not like i planned to gain weight and it does take time to lose it. Also im not making fun of overweight ppl or anything im just saying him talking about me like that when he's not that different is hypocritical.

I have a family reunion I have to attend next week and I'm dreading having to face one of my cousins. He's nice to me half of the time, but the other half consists of his subtle put-downs and jabs. He talks crap about me to my older sister behind my back thinking that she doesn't relay the things he says back to me, so I know everything he says. This year, I was hoping that it would be different, but we haven't even met up yet and he's already throwing blatant put-downs to me via texting my sister. I try defending myself by countering his put-downs such as "you spent four years on your school's soccer team but you haven't done anything that special" but then he just laughs it off and says "chill, stop taking everything so seriously" like I'm crazy or something. I know that he doesn't do well in school, or in anything really, yet he has the audacity to act like he's superior to me. It infuriates me beyond anything but I haven't found anything to shut him up forever. What can I do?

Here's the thing I started dating this girl 7 years ago. And my parents divorced when I was really little Me and my biological sister have lived with my mom since we were really little now she recently my mother married the father of my longtime girlfriend. And me and her recently got engaged but omg I'm marrying my stepsister and my stepfather is becoming my brother-in-law. Also my biological sister is going to be my best man in the marriage to my stepsister. Am I gross?

If after 8 years a man tells your kid he hates them, has all kinds of sexual phone convos with other women while at the same time denying it even with the proof in your hand (says it was all one woman on different numbers and she said she would kill herself), got put on probation for smacking your kid in the mouth, but swears it was diciplinary, offered marriage, renigged every time.... Told you to get rid of the kid that got him on probation, but now says he was just mad, just to name a few issues. You finally got on your feet and left. But you got pregnant a couple months later and tried to make it work with the dad.... The further into the pregnancy you got the more you craved things you knew and your kids begged to go back saying thy missed him. You went back. He gave an ultimatum on the baby. You aborted to fix the family. Now you re pregnant with his child... And you can fake it. But every day it becomes more obvious that you don t love him... You question everything he does even though he goes out of his way to prove otherwise. But the kids are happy. And you can t abort. It nearly killed you last time. Your sister offered you a roof, but she s 6 hours away. Oh and you own the home with this boyfriend. And you have a really good job. What do you do?

I'm trying to enjoy my weekend, but my mom wanted to go have dinner at my grandma's, becuase my aunt is visiting. I drive my mom over there, becuase she had been drinking. I'm sticking around a little bit to be polite, but I cant stand my aunt. Shes always asking my questions, and jesus just kind of bitter. She laughs, and jokes, but she just makes me uncomfortable. My mom asked I fi was gonna be sticking around or go home. My aunt said she barely sees me, and wants me to stick around. I act like I like her, but I dont. My mom said that i probably want to go home, and spend time with my dog. My aunt said oh becuase that's sooo much better. Just now she asked my what I'm doing. I said I was texting someone, and she said every one always texting in an annoyed tone. Shes just so annoying. I guess I could just say that I need to feed my dogs or something.

Things were not quite right since 2nd year on when I met my partner. He wouldn't want to commit, so we argue about commitment related issues on and off. I stick around for more years because of my son. 3+ years ago, on one last discussion of commitment issues, I moved out of the bedroom to a different room. Strange enough, he wanted to commit a few time later, but I refused. We stay together like a family. Among many things, this man gives me no respect, nearly everything I say is wrong and there is no man to intervene when my teenage son is disrespectful. I realize what I thought benefits my son is not true. For the most part, we're civil and making the house operational. But occasionally I explode on stress. Can't deny I'm an emotional person and such situation is really unhealthy to me. On one explosion like this morning, I screamed at him we are done. He said OK. As I walked out of his room, I noticed my son was mad listening to our argument. I couldn't help the first time ever broke down crying in front of my him. I told him I'm sorry I'd tried so hard to provide him a stable family, but I failed.... after that, I tried to talk to my son about our plan moving out, but he doesn't want any change. I'm sure we'll talk about it again. Any advice on how to proceed with kid his age?

my dad always wears really short denim short shorts and tube socks. whenever we go out, he wears those immodest short shorts and tube socks with something stupid like mickey mouse or kangaroos on them . everyone has tried asking him to stop, but he just ignores them. what should i do? its so embarrassing!

He was very condescending toward me. Whenever I think about the manner in which he treated me, I get pissed. He is used to getting away with it because the truckers he encounters don't live in the area, most are over-the-road truckers, and he puts them down to make himself feel like a big shot. Well, guess what? I live in this area. The weigh station is just outside my small city. So I'm sure we live in the same town. I am waiting oh so patiently to catch this asshole in some place like a Walmart or a restaurant. I am not going do him harm, but I am going to disrespect the hell out of him. I'm going to show him I think he's a nobody. I don't have a plan exactly. I'll just play it by ear. How dare he treat truck drivers like this? Who does he think he is? My wife says I need to let it go. I won't.

My neighbour is fostering a 6 year old girl and my daughter made friends with her. The child has sexualized behaviour, anger outbursts, stealing and lying. It is never the child's fault and I'm not trying to victim blame, but I worry about my own daughter's well-being too. She's been exposed to behavioural issues that she normally wouldn't witness if she were playing with kids from good families that do not abuse or neglect them. I don't want to single out this child because she needs friends too. The truth is that this girl has issues that are beyond what's typical for their age level, and most parents don't want their kids exposed to it.