I see it all the time. Why do men like marrying 300 pound whales?

And also are they expensive?

My dad is the patriarch our undivided family ( 5 families ) living the same house, shared properties in a unregistered trust. Dad is an old school patriarch who managed the affairs of the family so far. managed funeral ceremonies of his cousins whose children. He arranged marriages of his cousins children, undertook the weddings, bearing the expenses, Now he is aged, disabled now my elder cousins want the position my dad held all these years where he basically managed all expenditure of the family properties. Which are not shared but belong to Individual names. We have been living in an ancestral house all 5 families have been sharing since 5-6 generations that I am aware of. Now my cousins want my dad to pass on the baton to them. My dad doesn't his children Me & My brother to step in, but neither of us have the skill or the heart to handle it but, because we cannot disappoint our dad neither can we not give up. Dad has built up a legacy of his own & has a big name in our social circle of villages so everything is at stake for him but his children me and my brother are completely different and don't have the substance. What to do is a big question? Even our income will be jeopardized if we don't step in? Should I fight for something I don't have heart for or should I just hang on till dad is alive?

I know this question sounds weird but just hear me out. It s been just me and my mom for about 6-7 years now, my dad died when I was 11, and I m going off to college next year. I m worried about her being by myself, my siblings are all adults with their own families and worries and don t often have time to "hang out" with my mom. My mom doesn t have very many friends and most nights she and I spend together watching TV or other things. I m worried about her mental state when I go off to college with being alone for so long and just her in our good sized house by herself. I want to help her but I don t want to come off as condescending or not wanting to talk to her while I m in college, but I ll be out of state and won t be able to visit every weekend. Thanks

My father claims I don't help out the family at all. Here what I do: 1. Feed all dogs and cats every day 2. Throw out all trash and put trash can out on the street for pickup 3. Pick up mail every day 4. Do yard work like removing all weeds 5. Give everyone rides to airport and hospital 6. Stack firewood 7. Turn off stove that he leaves on that would've started a fire 8. Repair cars when they break 9. House sit whenever they go on vacations 10. Provide security such as when thieves tried to break in recently 11. Help find low prices on new cars they want to buy and give them rides to the dealerships 12. Many more!!!! So is he right that I don't help out at all?

She refers to herself in third person and has a huge ego. This isn't once in awhile and she does it all the time. When I say huge ego, I mean she says females don't hate her, they envy her, as well as she tells me she's perfect and blames everyone else but herself. She thinks police bugged her car and her phone? She claims people come in and out of the house to steal her things when she lives in a residential area and that's pretty much impossible. I'm 15 and I don't live with her but I do visit every other weekend. I visit for 5 week so for the first half of summer. The problem is is that she's ruining our relationship, talks bad about my dad, never properly takes care of herself or the house, she sold my xbox to help pay for her phone- I could go on. I told my dad about this and whenever she anything bad happens to call. She will scream at me and say my dad brainwashed me because I'm worried for her and says there's nothing wrong. I'm not worried for myself but my baby brother. He's two years old and calls everyone's mommy. He bashes his head against things and always has tantrums. I understand it's because he's two, but he shouldn't he punching himself or banging his head. I don't know what to do. I don't want to abandon my brother but honestly I cant really take this anymore. She threatens to go to court and take me back to live with her but I really don't wants that. She needs help but I don't know how to get it for her because she's in denial. What do I do.

I know two of my relatives ( not in romantic relationship) but they have very physically aggressive and negative relationship. For years many people said they should leave each other but they never do.

I can see my aunt anytime and am 16 so not a little kid anymoree Anonymous: You idiot, my girlfriend and I are forever. And family is NOT forever. My Mom and her brother and his family have not spoken since I was a toddler. My mother never knew her father and I only see my deadbeat father every other summer. Idiot, my love and I are forever, not family. Ryan: That was my idea but my Mom won't let me saying it is invite only and the aunt indeed is real formal.

She used me as a pawn to bargain with him to get help. She vented to me about it and worst of all, she lied to him I learned recently and would say "my two children and I will not play your games anymore" when in reality I did not make that decision. I wanted to see him and be close. She also claims I was complaining at age 3 and a half about his repulsive behavior when drunk but I can guarantee at the age of 3 and a half I did not know the word "repulsive" and did not notice he was drunk. Same with Christmas when I was 7 when she claimed this though I may have said "why is Grandpa in a bad mood" by that point but had no fear. She quoted me and threw things into embellishment I did not say. I recently discovered her letters to him as he died 13 years ago. My Mom stole my grandfather from me so she was the one who hurt me, not the alcoholic. I have a sense of shame, loss, and sadness that follows me to this day 13 years after his death. I am in my 40's and still grieving. We got close when he got ill and cut back on drinking so I was close for the last 13 years of his life. But from ages 7 to 15 I was grounded cause of his illness and possibly mistakes. Alcoholism is a disease but my mother punished him instead of showing empathy and rehab was not as easy in those days. How do I get over the trauma my mother inflicted on me as a kid by using me to get her father back for having a disease? Not seeking revenge on my mother for failing me, but seeking healing for my trauma my Mom did to me.

Since she did not come and even 3rd cousins and a 4th cousin were there does this mean she is not even family to us. She is a mean sister so we dislike my sister anyway.

I know someone who laid it on thick but I still rarely felt comfortable around them cause they would take their anger out on me and not apoligize after. But in writing/texts they wrote in a charming way.

I feel.guilt because they keep trying to say they miss me. I said no, you just miss a tag along and they agreed. Life isnt exactly easy living on my own, but I read that I do not have to forgive.

I've never felt like this before except for a girl. I met this guy, who is genuine, kind, very smart and has a very handsome face, he talks so softly and that makes my heart beat so hard. Every night I always think about him. I imagine him lying next to me in bed. And I want to make this true. When I met him I found out I was bi. I have no idea about his sexual orientation because he's very closed to himself, he doesn't talk about himself that much. I need some tips to find out more about him, but in a sneaky way.

My adult daughter has completely cut me out of her life, and I just don't know what to do anymore. She is 34 years old, and I am 62. We have always had a really close relationship, up until about 3 years ago. We had a massive falling out over her husband. One of her former friends told me that her husband cheated on her with some random woman, and I told everyone else about it - but they all kept it a secret. After I told everyone, her friend told me it was all lies and she wanted to get back at my daughter for spreading lies about her sister in the past. My daughter eventually found out, and scolded me for it. She said that she will never forgive me for spreading lies about her husband, and that she doesn't want to see me again. I've tried talking to her ever since, but she just won't. When there's a family get-together, either I'm left out, or my daughter leaves if she sees me there. Do you think I deserve to have my daughter cut me out of her life? Why does this question keep on getting moved to the "Abuse and Spam" section? Is what I did unforgivable? Am I the best mother to ever exist?

so my mom and i have a close relationship. she's like my best friend but i mostly appreciate her as a mother. she is the best mother i could ever ask for. well, ive been having issues with my aunt for a while, who also considers my mom a best friend. she's an attention seeking type of person and she also seems like the jealous type. it's like im in a competition with her for my mom's attention and it bothers me so much. she says things like 'she always gets your attention' to my mom (talking about me). and one time my mom and i were having a conversation and my aunt walked in and said 'am i interrupting something?' and my mom jokingly said yes. so she left and then came back a few minutes later (literally hardly even a few...) and said 'okay yalls time is up'. and she does several little things like this whenever me and my mom are doing anything together or talking. and it just seems so incredibly childish to me. so every time she comes around now i just feel physically upset. and she makes it seem as if she's more important as my mom's sister than i am as her daughter. ive been trying to just not be bothered by it but it's so hard. and i also have another aunt, who's my mom's sister as well. i DO NOT even have this problem with her, PERIOD. i feel like a baby and stupid that i even feel upset over this but she just makes me feel like i don't matter to my mom as much as she apparently does. and sometimes it even makes me mad at my mom and that isn't fair at all.

There have been obstacles in my life that have hindered me from graduating on time like the rest of my peers. My mom stopped communicating with me and seeing me. my dad doesn't want me to live with him. I'm craving emotional support from my family to help me get through this tough time but they are not there for me. My dad doesn't believe I can work somewhere nice or I'm smart enough. I'm trying to convince myself I'm an amazing person even though I have a 3.9 GPA in accounting. People I know are already starting their family, and have a place to live while I'm living at home trying to finish school. I will be 25 by the time I'm done.

My mom says I'll end up weighing 600 pounds but my moms a rhinoceros so I don't know if I should listen to her

My parents have always struggled financially when i was 9 and up until now (16). the first time we where homeless it was for about 2 years, and we pretty much staying in hotels and at relatives houses, and most of out relatives kicked us out after about 3 weeks. but then we finally got into a house we could rent and it was really nice until about 4 months my dad got sick and couldn t work anymore so we ended up getting evicted. This time being homeless lasted for about 1 year and we stayed at a relatives for much longer than anticipated, but then since we didn't have much money we had to start getting cheap motels. one of the motels we stayed at was a really bad area with a lot of drug dealers and gunshots every night . In our 2nd time being homeless we had a storage unit with all our stuff but we couldn t afford it anymore so we lost all our pictures, furniture, clothes, etc. Now i am currently homeless with my mother since her and my dad are getting a divorce and me and my sister have to sleep in the car occasionally or at my brothers, but my mom isn t getting a job anytime soon nor is she looking to stay sober so we could at least get into a homless facility since they denied us. I applogize this is pretty long but i just hate feeling alone like im the only one going through this and want to hear other peoples stories of getting through homelessness? Thank you. :)

The social worker is taking the fathers mother side instead of listening to my mom who has had my niece since about January. Is there anything we can do? Also she is only a volunteer and my niece only knows my mom. she is very close with her and cries when she isnt around. What can we do to try and help my mothers case?

So he's 16. Usual girls, smoking, and illegal stuff. He's been hanging around a bad group of kids lately and he's smokes (really likes switchers??) and he's always doing something with some girl. But like this girl he's so hung up on is a felon. Like, she has broken into and stolen items from vehicles. And the only reason he likes her is because she gives him what he wants. But now he's been doing some crazy stuff like hanging out with a 29 year old man with a wife and kids and they go driving around, speeding. I know I've seen a lot of people shake hands with him and be like "my man wassup!" And it just concerns me. Just recently he did a burn out and done some donuts and then got his car straight piped. His car was ruined and he got a flat tire. We could BARELY afford the expenses to fix it. When I confront him I'm very harsh and so is our mother and I can't help to think this is hurting him. I don't like to say much but I'm worried. I really don't want him to get in trouble, get kidnapped or raped because these people are for real sketchy. I understand he's 16 he's young but what about responsibility? Please help!

I blew a hundred dollars at a strip club today, because I work really hard and I was feeling like I wanted to relax because I was horny from all the caffeine I drink, and I'm so sick and tired of all my money having to go to rent at the first of the month, it's that I have to work my *** off just to eat and sleep, meanwhile trust fund kids have a tons of spending for doing nothing, it's just unfair

I was wondering if anyone experienced punishment like this One day me (10 years old) and my sister (12 years old) were arguing and fighting in our room. My mother and my aunt heard us and came to see what is happening. My sister told them that I was too mouthy. Before this, I received a warning from my mother about talking too much. She told me she would put tape on my mouth as punishment. We were too noisy when they entered the room and I thought she will do what she told me before. My mother said that she has to tie us up to get a little peace and quiet. Then she remembered the warning she gave me before and told my aunt about it. My aunt went to get some tape while my mom tied us to chairs in the living room she used black electrical tape to tie our hands and feet but she wanted our mouths taped shut with clear tape so she could see if our lips are sealed tight together so she would know when to change the old strips with new ones. She put two strips of tape on our mouths. So we spent the evening tied to chairs with our mouths taped while the rest of the family was watching TV. We were tied in front of them. It was very humiliating. We get fresh piece of tape on the mouth every half hour. we were able only to make "mmm mmmm mmmmf" sounds through our closed mouths. They laughed and told us that the same punishment would be used if we got too loud again. Anyone experienced something similar?

I am twenty seven and living in my parents home and they recognize I'm an ADULT and treat me as such. even though I don't have my own apartment they still treat me as though I'm an adult and don't give me curfews, they allow me to entertain guests, don't hound me about going out, they don't critize me etc etc... I'm trying to understand why some people tend to have parents that are emotionally abusive, controlling, and financially abusive. The " I give you a place to stay so you have to do whatever I want" mentality is financially abusive. I will never force my kids to become a robot to my demands in exchange for a roof over their heads or money.. insanity. I believe in allowing your children to blossom into their own person and I'm glad my parents weren't massively controlling and manipulating, I have a friend who is even older than me, she is thirty and her parents won't even allow her to entertain guests and she has to be home by welve am. I'm like are you thirty going on thirteen. That also handicapps your child. As my kids aren't in jail I'm not about to be acting all crazy and mental on them. EDIT: I have a job but don't earn enough to move out yet. not everybody comes from wealth sweetheart. I'm not embarrassed to say i still with my parents. I'm not moving out to compete with anyone or to be popular sweetie.

When today's late teens were the same age as late 2000's kids, most of them didn't grow up the same way as small children do now. It seems like today's toddlers and small children have different kinds of entertainment compared to before

So my family just moved back and I haven't seen them in forever. My sister has been dying to come over and she stayed over Sunday night but wants to come over again Tuesday night cause we'll be able to hang out longer that night. My roommate said no cause she has to get up at 5 am and her boyfriend is coming over. Am I wrong for being slightly annoyed cause I wanted to spend some time with my sister? I can't go to my family's house cause there's about 8 people staying there so there's no room.

I'm in my early 30s living at home with my parents which I'm not proud of. Failed school (Graduated high school) and had a tough time getting a job BUT the area I live in doesn't have big job opportunities. He is afraid if I move somewhere I'd get fired. He isn't letting me take the risk. I'm sick of being baby. I tried talking to him and he doesn't understand. I get I have a slight disability but I do have enough knowledge where I can move out of state or at least the area. I'm sick of it. I DON"T want to have a disability. I want it to go away for good. What would you do if you had a strict father like that as an adult? PS- I did have a full time that I did hate but I did Telemarketing for eight years so if I get locked into the right job I think I could handle it.

My dad died without a will 7 months ago, so my mother inherited the neglected old house and everything in it. She wants to clean the house out and paint it and fix it up to the best of our ability. My dad had TONS of stuff that he bought at rummage sales and my mother wants to throw most of it out. My sister is having a fit and she wants my mother to keep everything exactly the way it was and she is being nasty with my mother about wanting to throw stuff away. And I do mean he had tons of stuff. Boxes and boxes and boxes and boxes of second-hand junk. My mother just wants to make the house nice and neat. In fact, my sister often commented how she hates coming home because clutter gives her panic attacks, but now she isn't letting us clean it out. She even mentioned 5 years ago that she wouldn't bring her kid here because the house is "moldy and gross." Today, she had the gall to tell my mother that the house isn't hers, so she shouldn't try to make it hers. The house IS hers. And it's a pit. She had many chances to come home in the last 7 months to go through dad's stuff. She's on welfare and doesn't have a job, and her husband is a minister. They took a trip to another state to buy a $5000 puppy. My dad left my mother absolutely no life insurance and she's just struggling to pay the utility bills. She saved up enough to fix up the living room and now my sister is being so nasty about it. How would you handle this situation?

I m her older brother. Although she s younger, she s way stronger than me and can beat me in a fight and she knows this. Whenever I don t do what she asks, she comes to my room in a short dress and high heels, locks the door, and casually places her heel on my groin. In order to not get kicked, I need to do whatever she tells me to or else I ll receive a painful kick to my groin. How do I stand up to her without getting kicked?

Im not even sure why I'm asking this question on this site. Im mostly just venting but I still need to know if this made me a bad mom or not. Im a single mother im 19 with a 1 year old. My 1 year old is basically going thru her terrible 2 stage right now. Always complaining running all over the place etc, (which I'm always very patient about) She is my whole world and my life and everything to me. So I drove to the city nearest to mine was about an hour drive and my 1 year old didn't want to go to bed til 12pm last night I was and still am completely exhausted. She finally went to bed I fell asleep and she woke up at 6am this morning. Just screaming as loud as she possibly could. I took her bottle to go make her a new one but when I grabbed it she started screaming even more so as exhausted and pissed off I was i went to toss her bottle in her crib but it mistakenly hit her in the face and caused her lip to cut open from hitting her baby tooth. I didn't mean to throw it so hard I thought I only barely tossed it💔. She bled and cried a bit. I can't stop thinking of what a horrible mother I am I've never hit her before in her life. (She's gotten a few taps on the butt before) but nothing like this. I still can't believe it happened and every time I think about it im just so angry at myself. But from your opinions am I a bad mom for this? (She's okay now btw) she just has a fat lip😭💔

Either emotional, physical, or mental. I know 1 particular family member who used to physically hurt me on a daily ,as well as berate and degrade me in public any chance they got when I was a kid. Now that ive moved away and I'm doing everything I can to heal from the pain and try to forgive them they come in with emotional abuse constantly. Every phone call or conversation we have is them telling me that I'm somehow lesser than them. Its always something new: my intelligence, my health, my money. It wouldn't be a problem in theory, except they also turn other people in the family against me. There's no telling the rumors he's spread about me cause ive pretty much isolated myself from every one except a few of my brothers who see through the BS and therefore stand by me. I love this person but I feel like our relationship is a constant emotional battle ground where i always have to wave the white flag. If I kindly try to stand up to them I'm in for the verbal tear down of my life.