My sister is sad because her boyfriend isn't going to the movies with her tomorrow after they talked about it all month. She said he just decided he didn't want to go. She said she's too sad to do anything she just got home from our cousin's house she's too sad to even get her suitcase cleaned out. They been together for about 3 months. She worries about him when she doesn't get to see him. She can't go to his house everyday because we don't drive also him or his parents don't drive either plus he lives an hour away on the other side of town. How can I help her feel better ?

So I'll put this into a nutshell. I never met the man due to the fault of my mother, she made that decision. She cheated on him and he asked for a DNA test and she refused. She painted him as this horrible person, now I know he isn't. (My mother is not well herself, she has a lot of mental issues and wasn't a good mother) (1 theory I have is that she didn't want him to take me away like her first husband did her first 2 kids) I am now 26, I reached out to him a year ago. No response, however, my mother went behind my back trying to stop it shortly before I reached out. My father told her to tell me he's not ignoring me, but she needs to explain the circumstances of my existence and he didn't feel it was his place to tell me. So I went through a year of just psychological hell. That time was definitely the darkest of my life. I reached out to his wife, come to find out, she knows exactly who I am. She's been the middle-man between my father and I for a few weeks. We're waiting on DNA test, but I look just like the man and his other kids. However, I understand why it is needed. Him and I have exchanged texts here and there, but I'm terrified of the man. 'm not sure to handle once all the dust settles, once everything is together. I'm afraid of him, not that he's violent or anything, just that fear. I also have some of my mother's mental issues and I'm afraid of this situation. Any advice that can help ease me into it?

I'm 19, my sister's 18. She's finished first year of university. I didn't know she had a boyfriend, but I overheard her talking on the phone with a friend. About how she liked him and then even that they had oral for the first time at his house on Friday. I confronted her and she just kept saying it was none of my business, that he was a boy in her class and she'd make her own decisions. I told her this wasn't right, and she took my arm and began to push me out of her room. At this, I became angry and called her a s1ut. She spun me around by the arm she was holding, and gave my such a hard smack across my face I didn't know what had happened to me for a moment. She grabbed my ear and told me I was never to dare say that again. She was so angry I nodded and apologized and she threw me out of her room. This is my little sister and I'm her older brother and she humiliated me while I was watching out for her. Why does she slap her own brother's face for the sake of a random guy?

I'm 29 (a male also) and my sister is 31. She's married and has a baby boy. My mom and I help babysit my nephew when my sister works each week. I think her son has brought my sister and I closer together in some aspects. But I also know she has a lot on her plate caring for her husband and son. Lately though I've been thinking back to when her and I were kids. We used to play a lot of video games together, watch movies, ride bikes and etc. I miss those days. During our teen years, we didn't talk much as she started hanging out with different people. But we're closer now. I want to text her just to chat with her but I'm afraid I'll bother her as she's a little high strung. What should I do?

We're getting pizza for dinner tonight. Now, I love to drink soda with pizza, Coke in particular. I asked my mom if she would get me a bottle of Coke when she went to pick up the pizza, but she said no! I asked her why and she said because soda is bad for me. My mom has always been a health freak, but I don't care whether a food is bad for me or not! I just want to eat it and enjoy it! My mom says I can drink water with my pizza, but I don't want water! I want soda! I'm 14 and all of my friends can drink soda! All of my friends moms would buy my friends soda if they asked for it! Why won't my mom do the same? My mom says that if I keep complaining then I can't have any pizza tonight, and that I can have leftovers from the fridge if i'd rather! I don't want leftovers! I want pizza! I just want a soda with my pizza! Is that too much to ask! I'm so upset and in tears right now because my mom isn't getting me what I want, but she's just telling me to quit being a baby! I am NOT being a baby! My mom is the one being a baby because she's not getting me what I want! I even tried asking my friends if THEIR mom would bring me soda, but my friends never replied! Only one girl replied saying "Ask your parents to get you a soda.". I did, but they won't get it for me! I can't drive and don't have a job, so I can't go out and buy my own soda! Please help me! I can't eat pizza without soda! Why is my mom being so mean? How do I make her get me what I want? If my mom loved me, she would buy me soda! I'm not even fat! I'm actually really skinny because I have a fast metabolism. If I have a fast metabolism anyway, why isn't my mom buying me soda? It's not like i'll gain weight from drinking soda!

Something that always gets me angry is someone telling me to be calm when something is happening in which I am already calm in the first place. example phone conversation: Me > Mom: Use extreme caution when coming home. I just saw some people with guns in the area. Mom > Me: Are you sure it's not the police. Me > Mom: I am not some idiot I know the difference, just be careful. Mom > Me: OKay OK, remain calm. Right after that I started to freak out. I was calm before, but say that and I'm freaking out.

I'm 23, going China in a week to see my girlfriend. I've decided not to tell my parents I'm going China, for the simple fact they would not accept me because they would down right disagree, they're controlling and I don't want to be made to feel bad about my own decisions. The thing is, I'm planning to move out 5 days after returning, I'm just concerned if they ask for photos etc. But I'm just keeping it brief, and saying I don't want to take pictures as it's a personal holiday.

I'm the one who would be traveling. My parents have some hesitations with allowing me to go alone, however do not want to accompany me. I would just like to hear some issues you guys may see with this so I can be prepared if my parents bring it up when I sit them down to formally ask permission to go. A little background, I guess. I'm traveling to visit my best friend. We went to the same school for two years before both our families moved, hers to North Carolina and mine to Ohio, so this isn't an internet-friend-turned-catfish instance. We've been facetiming/calling/texting constantly for years and things seem to have finally fallen into place for us to meet again, after years of trying. I have a reliable car and have saved enough money to make this trip possible, including any complications that may arise. The only issue we had was that of sleeping arrangements since both of us are minors and can't check into a hotel. Her parents have since insisted that I can stay in their guest room, which solves our only problem. Once again, I would like to know any issues people can find with it so I'm prepared with answers for reasons my parents wouldn't let me go.

All my life (I'm 18 years old now) my dad has provided for me and my family but he never shows any kind of affection. He never tells me he loves me or hugs me or anything. Today when I was in church I saw a dad hugging his daughter and it made me sad because I've never had that.

I'm a 19 year old female and I moved out of my mother's house when I was 18. Now I live in my faculty's dormitory. It's 6 hours away with car from my mother's house. However, my mother wants me to be with her during Summer holidays. I'll be with her for a few weeks or maybe more, but then I'd like to volunteer for teaching English in Africa (I have all the requirements for the trip). I need to be there for at least 10 weeks and I'm sure she'll get mad at me if I tell her about this.

41 y.o.

I am 13 years old and my mum and dad grounded me for 6 weeks all cause I stole a pack of chewing gum from the shop to fit in with my friends. I realised it was wrong and I tried telling my mum this but I just get my head bitten off, grounded for me means no phone and im not allowed out.

he bullies three of us because he knows we are weaker than him .

My younger brother often starts out by pointing out something he thinks I should have known. He often comes across as condescending or as if I am stupid for not knowing x, y, or z .. I feel the need to defend myself, he starts taking personal shots at me, and we're always left feeling angry at each other. Then it fizzles out, until the next argument which might be about a different topic but is still about his always seeming to know more than me. How can I let these arguments not happen and just stop caring what he thinks and if he thinks I'm dumb? Any tips on diffusing arguments would help a lot!! We're too old to be arguing this (in response to how old we are.) ***too old to be arguing like this

I feel like I would be being disloyal if I don't see them at the same time I don't want to be rude and the uncle near by is real quiet in a way that seems cold as his fiance. The kids are nice but won't be if the Dad and step-Mom are cold. They are adult children so not really kids other then the grandchild. I feel weird and guilty only seeing my parents' social village there and not the family. My parents friends will be there but their friends are not my friends (nothing against them).

Let's say a person lives a 4-hour drive away from her family, therefore rarely seeing them to the point where she's only spent about three Thanksgivings and Christmases with them. Meanwhile, she's spent about a consecutive 10-15 years of Thanksgivings and Christmases with her surrogate family, as well as all of their birthdays. Therefore, she not only missed a lot of her relatives' birthdays, but she doesn't know their birthdays by heart, thus Facebook keeping her on track with that. But every time someone in the family dies, she cries and reminisces. But if someone in her surrogate family, who lives a 10-minute drive away, dies, she's nonchalant and doesn't talk about what a great person the deceased was. As much as her surrogate family filled the void of no one to spend the holidays with, shouldn't her emotions be the other way around? How do you mourn someone you have no emotional connection to, while having barely any tears to someone you saw practically every day? To top it off, all the children in her surrogate family call her "godmother" and "aunt," but she refers to them as her friend's son/daughter. Meanwhile, she proudly calls her relatives she barely knows, her "cousins."

My sister is 33 and I am 28. She has been with her fiancé now 13 years. She waited a very long time (8 years) to get her ring. I've been with my boyfriend 2 years and we live together, so I expect within the next year or two we'll be getting engaged as well, which is literally riding the coattail of my sister's wedding next year. My sister passive-aggressively guilts me and says since her wedding is first and was SO expensive there is no way my parents could afford to have another one for me soon after and to not assume when my boyfriend will be ready that it could take years.... My sister essentially gave an ultimatum to get her ring. She's definitely fearful and insecure that I will get it at the same time as her or soon after. She puts doubt in my head and it bothers me that she can't realize I'm also growing up and I am at the age where I want the next steps of my life to begin.

Here is a little backstory of what's going on. My wife and I know that our son has been dating his girlfriend ever since he was in elementary school and we approved of it. His girlfriend has been throughout his entire life and they have dated for about 11 years to date (since 2008). Fast forward to today, what first came out as a joke, "since you've dated for so long, you two should get married," turned out to be something serious. I as a father have my concerns and have voiced them to my son, and my wife passed away from cancer about six years ago. I had told my son, "you are working two jobs (one at the supermarket and one at apple) and still attending college. Having a kid as well will just wreck your schedule." Of course, he had responds, "I will just drop college and work my two jobs. I make a lot of money anyway." I want my son to still attend college but not have a kid. He wants a kid and has talked his girlfriends parents into it but I object of this. Is my son right for wanting to have a kid at 20-years old and just work two jobs while dropping college or should I have him continue working his two jobs while attending college?

Hi I am 24. Today me and my best friend who is the same age as we were supposed to go out drinking. I decided to go over her place to drink and her brother was there who was drunk and acting really aggressive and scary towards my friend. He made me super uncomfortable and not safe at all to hangout there. My friend was also angry at her brother for being a drunken weirdo. I asked my friend if we could drink somewhere else and she was really angry, letting the anger out on me (it felt like ) and she said it's either drinking there or I can go home. I said to her that we don't have to drink but let's still hangout and go somewhere and she didn't want to. Her attitude was like we drink here or you leave. I felt like she was punishing me which made me feel awful. So I said I can't stay there and she took me home. (She picked me up) while driving back I tried talking to her to diffuse the tension and she would basically ignore me. When she finally dropped me off I thanked her and she just sped off angrily. She made me feel really awful and depressed. I feel like she took it out on me. For some reason it made me really stressed and I don't have an apetite to eat even though my stomach is growling and I can't fall asleep even though I feel very tired. I just feel really depressed right now and my birthday is on Monday which I want to be happy for. I also have two dates tomorrow and idk if I should go still. They are dinner dates and I don't think I can eat. Is this normal?

I used to cry a lot when my dad was gone. My mom told me one time before I could formulate My own memories I once cried for so long and wouldn't eat anything for days until my dad came back home. It was around this time that my mom had fights with my dad and they had a rocky relationship. My mom forced me to hate my dad and called him plenty of bad names and I feel bad for letting him go. I felt like my mom forced me to call him a bad person. Anyways. Was there any particular reason a kid like me would cry and stop eating if his dad was absent or left home? Is this normal? Soon later when I was in 3rd grade (i think) my dad left me, my little brother and my mom and got a new wife. Since then he hasn't visited me too often. He has tried to visit me but he keeps calling my mom a "hard person to deal with". He tried to give me money without telling my mom. He gave me hugs and kisses later in life but I felt like I needed that most when I was still a kid.

i was with my girlfriend and suddenly passed out. She says i was out for around 30 seconds. She keeps trying to get me to go to the hospital, but i wont. I dont like the hospital and will only go if something actually happened to me. anywho.. i got a throbbing headache and my nose started bleeding when i awoke from the blackout. now i have a terrible migrane and blurry vision, and everytime i get up to go somewhere I have trouble keeping a steady balance. anywho, i was just wondering if this sounds serious , or why its happening. when should i see a doctor?

My dad has always been a difficult person to talk to. He's the type that won't listen to reason and insists on what he believes is right. It got worse when he had to get an operation to remove a tumor from his leg, which caused him to walk on crutches. He becomes so unbearable sometimes that I end up yelling at him. I know it's not the right thing to do, but my temper clouds my judgement. I end up feeling guilty afterwards which doubles my negative feelings. We also run a family business, and when he starts to rant during work hours, it becomes twice as unbearable. Some of our conversations go like this: Dad: My leg is hurting again. Mom: Then go rest. We can handle it. Dad: No you can't. There's too much work. Mom: But you said it's hurting. So it's better if- Dad: There's too much work. You can't handle it. Mom: But- Dad: Too much work. — Me: *organizing the supplies, then hears a customer come in* Be right there! -After I'm done serving the customer, I go back to what I was doing- Dad: Get this stuff out of the way! You know how I hate seeing things messy! Me: Sorry, I was just- Dad: Clean it up! I need to pass through here. You know I have a disability! Do you even realize what I'm going through?! I think you don't even understand me at all! — I want to be patient with him, but his personality is hard to deal with. It got to a point where just hearing his voice irritates me. But still, he's my dad and I want to be patient with him. That's why I really need some advice.

Ok so I go on FB for fun and sometimes I ll put dumb little **** because I know nobody pays attention and I ll post about how I don t like that people smoke weed or I ll post about how I want shrooms because they are so hard to get. I basically got called a bad mom for posting the last thing. How many moms disagree?

They don't... Stay the f away. Oh yeah and stalking too. I don't owe you SH*T

I left school and help out at home and it's been like this for years so my heart is in my stomach Went on the family computer tonight and saw my mom google "preejaculatory secretion and pregnancy". Which basically is looking to see if your pregnant. I ask my mom does she think she's pregnant and she said "what even are you talking about" I told her what I saw I mean it was literally left right on the page, she said "no I don't think I'm pregnant at all" she keeps saying she doesn't think she is and she doesn't want anymore kids at all. She said also "I got to have a life I'm not 60 or 80 your always telling me how easy it still is to get pregnant". My mom is going to be 45 and they leave the box of condoms in the closet where all our towels etc., is so I'm just confused if she's lying to me that she doesn't think she's pregnant or.... she's in early menopause btw.

My son Jason is only four and I love him with all my heart but he's really mean to me. Not just to me but to everyone, he's violent and likes to hurt people, he's antisocial and doesn't make any friends, when he hurts me he thinks it's funny. He's never been an affectionate kid, he's never told me he loves me, even as a baby I could never get that bond with him but I brushed it off as me being a new mom. I was never really a bad kid neither was his dad so I don't know where he gets it from. I try to punish him but nothing works, he doesn't care when he gets in trouble, he tries to act innocent even when I know he's guilty and he thinks it's funny to lie and steal. How can I get him out of this before he goes into kindergarten? I'm afraid he'll hurt someone

Name some. What about brothers and sisters sharing dating experiences they have had in the past?

i purchased it a while ago, and am quite scared my parents will find it, so i want to get rid of it. but how will i get rid of it..??? without them seeing??? cut it up???

Ever since I was 15 ish to 16 I started an affair with a married man who has a wife and child which I know is sooooo wrong. When I was 18 and graduated high school the day after we ran off and got married when he was 43 and I 18. Ten years later we know live in a nice neighborhood with fancy cars and 5 children. I know live about twelve hours from my parents and haven't seen them in ten years. They were furious when they found out that I broke up his family so I just cut them off. But now with five kids I would love for my parents to see them. Thou I'm not really sure how to reach out considering all that's happened any tips thanks?!

It's a 2 story house. 3 bathrooms, and 4 bedrooms. Anyway. The siding in multiple areas need to be replaced. One of the boards in bulging out as well. There are several spots on the drywall that are weakened, and beggining to crumble. There is also a leak in the roof. Not a big leak, but it should get fixed. She keeps saying shes gonna call someone to get it done, but she hasnt. She more concerned about making the inside look nice. Like replacing the carpets, painting, and getting nice tile. Basically things it doesnt need. I told her that none of that's going to matter as long as you let the house basically fall apart. Every time I bring this stuff up she gets overwhelmed and frustrated with me. She wanted the house, but she doesnt even take care of it.

My 10 years old son and I were at the cemetery today because we visited my grandpa. My grandpa died 2 years ago and I'm glad he got a chance to meet my son. In the same cemetery there is buried a guy I went to high school with who at the time was my best friend. He passed away in 2004 before he wasn't even old enough to legally buy a drink. He passed away serving our country and I want my son to know that freedom isn't free. Should I take him to my friend's grave next time we'll go there? It's not like I go to the cemetery everyday,it might mean next year next time. It's just I want my son to know that we must appreciate our freedom. Idk but it seems right to me. I'm kinda afraid my husband won't take it well though but I don't really think it should be my husband's call...This was a friend of mine after all,that's it . What do you think? dman63: thank you for your answer. I lost my verginity with this friend and my husband knows about it so I'm afraid he might get mad about it,should I still do it?

My mom and my sister ( 8y/o) fight constantly. Sometimes it'll be my sister who starts it and sometimes it's my mom. My sisters been having behavioral issues lately. She screams at my mom when she doesn't get her way. But sometimes she'll comply with what my mom says but my mom just creates problems. Like today, as soon as I got home from work my mom was picking on her for 5 different stupid things. For example, she got mad at my sister for having a blanket on the floor, even though my sister didn't want to touch it because the cat peed on it. It turned into a huge fight and my mom just keeps coming back for more. Idk what to do because I'm tired of listening to it

I am older now and starting to see he may still love me but for years I have not felt that he does cause my Mom told my sisters and I that he left our family when he got a divorce from my mother. I am 16 now and since we still see him frequently starting to think my mother made this up. She still says it all the time and it has been 8 years since they divorced. He remarried last year and she was bothered I went to the wedding.