Conning them out of money, being envious and hateful to them, conspiring with criminals to do bad things to them.

She is aware of minor issues but I believe she thinks he s fine now. How do I relay all the details of the truth to her tactfully/calmly? He s 26, a father of two, and my spouse of six years. I knew him for six years before we dated and genuinely thought him to be intelligent, capable, and good. Twelve years later I realize I probably missed some very subtle signs earlier on. He has done things I never would have expected from him and I ve picked up his slack so many times which has resulted in me becoming reserved, resentful, and cynical. Six months ago he was arrested again - this time for his first felony offense for possession. Since then he has made a big turnaround but fundamentally the issue of addiction is still there. He has still been steadily smoking weed apparently and I m sick of it. I am not in a position to live on my own at the moment and I do love him and appreciate what he has done. However I am tired of suffering in silence over this and would like for his family to be aware of the true nature of things so I can feel more supported in this dynamic. How should I go about detailing the many problems to his mom without being too outright traumatizing?

Im dying a slow death with my family and have taking up drinking, im 33 and if i stay i will either end up in jail or killing myself, im thinking of leaving everything in the middle of the nite and driving to the west coast where no one knows me, how should i do it?

I'm an educator for a private school and last week I had a family come to me with a complaint regarding a local elementary school. The family was upset that the school "rejected" their child's kindergarten application because the fiance was listed as step-father to the child. The school claimed that the fiance could not be listed as anything other than an emergency contact...and that he couldn't volunteer with the PTO. I work with a lot of families who stretch the truth...so I contacted the school for clarification. Apparently, until they are married the fiance cannot be listed as the step-father. As a step-father...I was offended by this statement and wanted to know if I'm right or not? In this instance, the fiance has been the only real male role-model in this child's life. Aren't schools supposed to support family dynamics and accommodate different family roles?

Why do parents think its okay to burst in my bedroom when the door is closed?? I am a teenager and they just do this?

I have a bully sister who moved out and got married and a bully half brother whomed I never lived with. . My bully sister hung with these bully women, they were indifferent bullies I cut off from them at being 30 I am tired of all of the bs I still live with my grandparents whom raised me and still occasionally am put in positions where I cannot get away from them,. Any suggestions?

He got in trouble of course for the vape, but later we found out who bought the juice. What can I do? Isn't this contributing to a minor??

My older brother who is 26 and I'm 23, he is an alcoholic. He's especially the dangerous, really angry, insecure but feels powerful when drunk type of alcoholic. We all live with our parents. Last year in March my brother got so drunk he attacked my dad. He tackled him to the ground and my dad being 65 and not as strong as he used to be couldn't really handle him. My cousin jumped in to pry him off my dad. I couldn't help because I'm a female and especially not strong. I let the men handle it of course. My brother was angry, he thought someone took his gun when obviously no one did. He was unstoppable drunk, my cousin and my dad had a extremely hard time keeping him pinned to the floor. While my brother screamed on the top of his lungs for his gun thinking someone took it and hid it. But we knew to officially take his guns away at that point.A couple of seconds before he attacked my dad he pointed his shotgun at me. Fully loaded, off safety, finger on trigger and I jumped out of the way. My dad grabbed the gun and pried it out of his hands and then that's when my brother attacked my dad. After that we've done everything in our power to keep him from drinking and he stopped for months but went back to it recently (secretly).My dad plans to go to Romania in the summer. My brother asked if he could go with him and they are going together at the end of May. I don't trust my brother.I know my dad can't handle himself with him. Especially beer and liquor is like a dollar in Romania

The lingering effects and fear of relationships have continued. My mother during her divorce taught me that if my Dad loved me he wouldn't have lied to her and would have gotten a job. She also treated any suspicion as fact like telling me he cheated on her and I later learned he did not. I also learned he loved me despite lying about money to my mother. My mother told me is family didn't want a relationship with us anymore and she didn't let me go to town for my grandfather's funeral when he died in 2002 cause she was mad at my dad and his family (it was his father). To this day I feel his whole family must think I was so disloyal and so I am obsessively trying to make up to them and be nice but to an extreme sometimes. Christmas was when this was the darkest when my Mom got me estranged from my father. I knew I was unloved even on Christmas. So now I am 28 and all I do is worry if my Dad and his family think less of me. I am uncomfortable asking. I see them now but am not always included in things like weddings since I am not as close due to my Mom. I visit when in town but many of them say they are busy. I do attend a reunion each summer. I still hate Christmas and other family related holidays cause that shame is still there and so real. I forgave my Mom but in the process turned on myself as someone had to be at fault. My Mom I still feel anger at at times though she is not nearly as bad anymore. So how do I get over this and let go and forget about it?

I'm 19 and living with my parents. My dad doesn't work and is always blaring the T.V full volume from when he wakes up till midnight and doesn't help around the house and whenever he talks he's always yelling or screaming and expects my mom to do everything for him. My brother is also the same, my mom does everything for him, whenever he comes home he's on his computer playing games till midnight yelling at the computer (talking with his friends). My mom is constantly working in the house, cooking, cleaning, telling people to get their butts up and help (doesn't really work). I am also doing the same thing, i'm usually in college from 7-8 and i get home at 9 and i barely have time to help my mom around the house. I do often help her in cleaning, laundry, and i'm not that great of a cook yet, i'm the oldest. My little sister i have to beg her to help around the house, and it's really time consuming and makes me wanna cry, because i'm begging her to help out, she's the youngest one. I don't know what to do. I am tired of living with my parents and siblings, clearly we're all on different levels, but it's really bothering me to tell someone what they have to do all the time. I also don't like living with my dad, i try to sleep by 10 but he always has the T.V on till 11 or 12, so i constantly have my fan on throughout the whole day when i'm working on my schoolwork also my brother can't concentrate either because of my dad. I am thinking of moving out but i'm 19. also if you say, talk to your parents and siblings, talking doesn't help. I've tried to make them lower the t.v volume since i was in 10th grade im in college now, having the talk with them will not help because my dad is not an understanding person, and my brother and sister do not listen to me. The only person who does listen to me is my mom.

I am in a very tough situation right now. My Dad who lives out of state has been coming up to stay at my place to do work and make money as he has no steady job and teaches golf lessons to make money. Last year he stayed at my place on his own terms, for weeks on a time, on and off for months, for 6 months straight. He always invite himself over at the last minute and then stay 2-3 weeks at a time, leave for a week then repeat. He didn't do this again till last Thursday he just said I need to stay at your place literally the day before he did. I asked him how long and he didn't say until I asked him again yesterday and he said till June 1st. Not to mention that my place is only a 1 bedroom apartment and I'm not supposed to have guests that long. I feel smothered and claustrophobic. What worries me is because he's imposing this on me, is whether or not I can get in trouble with my new landlord whether it's by having my rent raised or worse, evicted. I mean it's tough because he is struggling to get by and he is family but at the same time, my apartment is not a hotel, let alone his place to do that and he makes me feel like I'm a selfish asshole, if I say he can't stay super long. I mean I could understand if it was just a few days to a week maximum but anything longer than that drives me insane. Makes me feel like I have to leave my apartment just to get space which is wrong. Anyone else been in a similar situation with friends/family? How do you handle it?

camping in the outback or boating at night? I'm tired of seeing stuff in the where babies die because of stupid parents.

Seriously, why do people insist on arguing? What point is so important of making that you can't do it with a calm civilized approach? When I am subjected to people wanting to start arguments with me, they get loud and annoying; I never respond to them and make it visually clear that I don't care about the subject. I show genuine apathy to them. Is it wrong to not engage in the argument? I'm a peace loving guy, I have a very level head and watch everything I say to keep those with short fuses in check, I never act irrationally and never raise my voice. I never start arguments, but I always end them with an uncaring demeanor. I hate arguments, and all that they stand for. I see no need in it when there is always an alternative that can be peaceful and still get the point across without making a fool of yourself. What can you say while yelling that you cannot while talking calmly and happily? Generally arguments never solve anything and often end with people hating each other and still retaining their beliefs anyway. Which means all you did was destroy your friendship or relationship all to try and justify a point. That no one cared about. heck, a lot of people who argue never stay on topic and make it personal Just for the sake of winning.

Please don t tell me "There s nothing you can do" or "try telling her how you feel". She s mentally, emotionally and sometimes even physically abusive. I m 20 years old and currently staying with my father. I ve just lost my job and I have no car. She won t even let me talk to him on the phone. So, what the hell do I do?!

One time I was at the grocery store with my mom and she said my family can't eat Wise potato chips, so she doesn't buy them. I don't know what this means. They were just regular flavored chips, not spicy or anything. This was almost 20 years ago and I still don't know, and I asked her and she said she doesn't remember saying it, but concedes she probably said it. Why can't my family have Wise potato chips? We eat other chips. P.S. My family does not throw up either. I am also wondering if you can choose whether you will be a vomit person or a poop person or if it is genetic. My dad doesn't throw up and neither do I, we just poop when we're sick. I wonder if this has to do with the Wise potato chips or not.

I'll try my best not to make this lengthy.. I guess I'll go back to my childhood. I grew up being forced to go to church every Sunday morning Sunday night and Tuesday night. Forced to go to church activities every Friday. I was forced to follow clothing rules such as.. I can't wear pants/shorts I can't wear short sleeves I can't wear any jewelry or make up I have to wear skirts/dresses that go down to my knees and sleeves that go to My elbows. I can't cut my hair. I had to follow these rules for swimming also. I never felt uncomfortable with it until I became a teenager and noticed everyone else my age were different I felt lonely and to be honest I felt like a freak. I met my boyfriend when I was 17 he was an outsider from my church and I can only date people In my church. Crazy right? He loved me enough to go to church with me so we can be together. He seems to get along with my family even though they still are a bit judgemental of him because he's a new convert... I love him so much and I want to be with him. I want to leave this crazy cult so bad and live a normal life. My parents are so strict and I want to move out and live with my boyfriend I'm 18 years old now I just don't know how to break the news to my parents I'm leaving without being a disappointment to them. I know they are crazy but I still love them... any ideas on how I should handle my situation? Thanks

My friend is all grossed out because I said I used to shower with my mom and sister when we were younger (I'm a girl). But a lot of people I knew and a lot of my relatives would shower with each other (same sex, though I do remember showering with my male cousin when I was like 3 or 4). It's not like we were 10 years old, I mean like we were 5-7 years old at the time or younger. I think it's cause she only had brothers and had probably never showered with her mom. It's normal to have showered with your siblings at a young age, right?

My mom always tells me I'm bulling her and that she's fighting in defense because I look scary... when I am staying calm when she yells at me. Does anyone else do this?

I am Graduating college and I want to get a thank you gift for my parents! PLEASE HELP!

My father, 55, had left his laptop open with tabs open on multiple college aged girls on Instagram. My sibling and I came across it, and were both very creeped out by this and are unsure of what to do (We re 17 and 15). This isn t the first time it has happened, so that makes it worse. I m not quite sure what to do at this point. Trying to figure out what the best course of action would be?

I'm a black young adult who likes anime,Video games, Heavy Metal. I feel isolated when I'm at home because nobody's like me at all. the person i'm closest to in the house is my sister and grandmother . i'm always in my room most of the time and basically be up there all day. whenever my parents come in i just turn off whatever i'm playing because they have this disgusted look on their faces and it's the same with anime. I can't be around my family because most of the time they annoy me and my parents take it like i have some sort of beef with them . the last few years we got into so many arguments about why i'm like this, why are you into this anime stuff, or something stupid like that. i'm currently taking college classes but whenever they're done for the day i don't come home till late at night before curfew because i don't want to be around them. i tried being around the family but i end up going upstairs. My parents think i hate them but i don't i hate the things they do and say sometimes and i drives me away from the family. i don't know if i'm wrong for being myself and wanting some space sometimes

My parents and I have never been on good terms but my mom and I just got into the biggest fight ever and I can't live here anymore. I have no one else to live with because my only stable family member lives states away. I'm at a loss I don't know what to do.

Lets just say your parents won 5 million dollars from the lotto. They buy themselves nice things but completely leave you out of the picture. How would you feel? Would you do anything? so everyone is saying that they wouldn't care?

Everybody has a mother, whether they passed away or are the bane of your existence. What would you say is the most important thing about motherhood?