Lately my husband hasn t initiated sex with me. Always me with him. Sometimes he acts grouchy or that he will later or comes up with an excuse. A few times he hasn t even been able to get off and acts like he feels bad and blames it on his nerve pill. I honestly don t think he is cheating on me. Trust me. I know how possible it can be. Also, sometimes when I walk in room to talk to him or love on him or initiAte things, he acts a little aggravated and says things like "I m trying to do (fill in blank)" as in he s busy. Maybe it s me, but I feel like he doesn t want anything to do with me. He tells me he loves me a lot and does everything for me but I feel like he s not attracted to me. Or what else could it be? I just feel like he loves me and wants to be with me but is not into the romance lovey dovey part of the relationship. I m 23 and he s 25. I am an average sized tall woman with long dark brown hair. I have big hips and broad shoulders. I don t consider myself just a sexy fox (like before I had kids) but I do consider myself to be an attractive woman. Anyway it s just not how a man should act towards a lady he loves or is attracted to, to me. Seems like my husband would be eating up the fact I throw myself at him. Or like any other man, initiate things with me. Help. Any ideas would be appreciated. I feel so inconfident, like I m not allowed to try to do anything with him. Makes me not want to try because I feel so stupid and ugly when I m rejected

Hello. I just found out that my husband was sexchating many women. I m so depressed, and don t know what to do. There was nothing physical, but..... I don t know should I forgive him?

Hi, I am 23 years and newly married about 8 months. I felt really disappointed when i started know when i married with him that he gamer guy. Before married i don't know that he really addicted to game. so i feel really shock and sad. I know it may sounds weird that I look for help on such place bit I really didn't know what to do. My husband is addicted on computer 's games and he may spend whole day in front of the monitor. We don't even talk normally because of his occupancy with these games. If someone had similar problem please share your experience with me?

Now that I am home how do I vent.

By this I mean at the time of the divorce her husband was leaving his wife so half the family backed the wife even though she wasn't blood family. However, over the last 10 years people have realigned themselves with the blood relative (the cousin) and accepted the divorce and his mistress, now his wife. They also have lost touch with the ex-wife unless it is an event for the children, However, the first 5 years half the family wouldn't speak to the cousin on grounds he had left his wife and they were supporting the non-blood spouse (the ex-wife). So my question is if this is normal that over time people align back with the blood relative even if the blood relative caused the divorce?

My girlfriend and I are getting our own place soon and I need advice on this. I've never lived with a girlfriend before and I'm sort of nervous. I mean I've lived with my siblings during high school but we all worked and hardly saw each other. I'm in my senior year of college and bartend part time. Shes already graduated and working and will end up paying most of the bills so I'm trying not to break etiquette. Any tips?

I'm 26-not married or have kids and scared Im running out of time. Then I look atRhihanna and shes almost 29 and single with no kids or husband.

I have been going to the same doctor for last 3 years now, he has always been pretty speedy when he sees me, doesn't look me in the eye much, and sometimes during exams he excused himself from the room and would come back like 15 minutes later. About a month ago, I got a letter saying that I was basically kicked out of his clinic. It said he would see me for an additional 30 days if there was any emergency etc, but that I was terminated from that clinic. I thought there must have been some kind of mistake because I have never behaved in an innapropriate. Well, I called the office and asked to speak with my doctor, they said he was busy and I said I'd call back later but never did, well, I get a call from him today.... and he basically wants to date me ! He said he had been attracted to me ever since I walked into his practice but he couldn't say anything to me because it would be wrong, something about a patient-doctor relationships not being allowed. He let things go thinking it was just attraction and that it would go away in time, but he said he feels strongly for me and that's why he had to terminate our meetings by denying me access to him as my doctor anymore. Then he asked me out to dinner. I'm just confused by all this, is he up to no good with me ? I do find him attractive, we are close in age, the few times he let his guard down with me he was pleasant to talk to. But am wondering if I date him if later he will pull this on another patient and cheat

I really like sex. We had it three times a day when we first got married. Now, 14 years later, it is 3 times a year. I am frustrated to the point of tears most of the time. How can I work off this frustration? Not going to have an affair.

His Mom is real upset because she opened her arms to me after my mom said she'll kick me out if I decide. To keep it. In 26 my boyfriend is 31 but we both still love with parents and work minimum wage. I just signed up for college before I found out and was about to start. My boyfriend tried to convince me to abort since he said school should come first lose weight etc . I reluctantly agreed. His mom doesn't want me in the house anymore because she's sad I got the abortion and it's even as bad as her saying maybe it was another man's baby and I got scared..anyways I feel guilty for what I've done. I really thought putting my education first was the right thing to do. But now I feel just guilty and empty because my boyfriend turned his back on me also. I just don't get why he would try to convince me to abort and then when I do he changed his tune.

Can i take it back to the macanic so they can put in a new blub for free since it was obviously a bad part?

There is a book out about how to achieve getting a sponsor while married. To help pay for bills cars and a better life style. The book describes how it is possible to get a sponsor without having s.e. x with the man. You will only have a sponsor to get what you want without having to end up in the bed with the sponsor. If your not having sex is it cheating or wrong. I just want to help my family out more and I don't want to give up my body. So technically I will be bringing home the bacon to my husband without degrading my self or my body

We are going on vacation to visit family and received a call that my husband's two family members were murdered. So when we get there, there may be a funeral to attend. We have two small dogs and one has separation anxiety and he goes everywhere with my husband. My husband asked me if he has to attend the funeral, will I stay at the house with the dogs. I said I would, but my feelings were kind of hurt because I feel like he always tries to push me away from any type of family function...even if it is a funeral. We were taught that family always goes together to funerals, even if you don't know the person.

My best friend is sleeping with a married woman. He knew she is married. He is not an uneducated irresponsible person. He is not a guy who sleeps with one woman after another. I don't get having such disrespect for the husband of this woman. This guy did not do anything against my friend. Even if he did, sleeping with his wife is not how you resolve it. Do any of you have insight to share?

My ex wife is disgusting. I heard from my son who is 13 that she won't let him floss his teeth on his own and she does it for him. He just recently had braces put on his teeth and she justifies it by saying she just want his teeth to be healthy. What can I do ? I think she is a horrible controlling mom and bats*it crazy digging around a child's mouth like that.

I m 28 and he s 33. We are currently unemployed so spending too much time together right now. Sometimes he likes to act bossy around the house (very anal about cleaning the house and tidyness) and tries to treat me like a child. Of course I don t let him. He gets frustrated and falls into a depressive state. On the other hand, he lacks initiative on everything else: finding a job, taking care of his own paperwork, hobbies, learning, doing quality activities with me, exercising and socialising in general. Whenever I take the lead to do anything on my own he unconsciously belittles my proactivity, making me feel ridiculous for doing something (I do cartoons on my free time, take online courses, spend hours looking for jobs, workout, even eating healthier is a laughing matter). As an example, today I spent my day working around my resume, writing motivation letters and searching for companies to apply to - he did not say a word to me all day and acted disgruntledly. Other than this, we are a good couple. We agree on a lot of things and do share some interests. We are loyal to each other and have no trouble communicating, I have already expressed all the above concerns to him verbally and asked several times what can I do to make it better. All the answers I get are complete unrealistic such as "we should win the lottery" or "we should move to X country" - without any planning behind. I m frustrated. Any advice is welcome.

We got married young. Me 19 him 22. This match we'll be married 5 years. Long story short we married 5months into our relationship. (Special religious dad circumstances). He and I would clash heads constantly and I hated him for it. But about a year in I realized it took two to fight. When he got heated or mad and directed it at me instead of yelling I used calm words and thought before I spoke. Now I will admit I have my bad days, but even though most of the fights still are caused by him. If I apologize or try to give him space he finds a way to twist my kind words or actions. Leaving me in tears even though I specifically know whatever I did wasn't my fault. Even communicating when something is bothering me and he asks me it's hard to tell him. He yells at me if I don't tell him and if I do he makes the innocent subject about himself. Leaving me in tears once again. Half the time I'd grow touchy and resentful with him, but usually snapped back into a more calm disposition after a day or two. Now after going through this cycle for nearly 5 years, I feel I can't go back. It's been about two weeks now and every time I look at my husband I grow very angry. Every little thing he does annoys me. Granted he is usually only a serious person when he's yelling at me. But I feel guilty feeling this way. Can someone offer advice. No he will not go to therapy. I've went to therapy for most of my life I know how to handle most situations and to be understanding of the others feelings.

How fast can I get a divorce?

When I got pregnant with my daughter, my relationship with my sister-in-law changed. She is a very, very competitive person so much so that she scheduled her wedding on my due date. She even suggested to my husband (behind my back) that I be induced so she could have my baby wheeled down isle. Crazy! Not only that but every time she s come over to see my daughter it s been about her- how she s buying a big house, new car, new furniture.... Which she later flat out denied in front of my mother in law. I have had a hard time trusting her... Lately I have been getting messages that she is talking about me behind my back spreading rumors... Her friends are turning on her so right now there is a lot of drama from her. Tomorrow is my daughters 1st birthday. How do I stop her from ruining it? She will make it all about her. She will lie and say things like, "Oh I gave you that idea for the party" when she knows damn well she didn t. I am so sick of her lies. I am pregnant again now and she is struggling with fertility issues so God only knows what I ll have to deal with. Please help!

How long were you two together before you both decided to settle down and get married?

I live far from my husband for some reason but I will move in with him soon ! My husband always blame on me that I m cheated with another man , since he know I m always with my mom and we always stay home cos we run a business at home ! I cut off the relationship with all my friends even the female friends ! But he still think like that it damage my feeling since I honest with him only one ,, he know it too . I cry and mad Then he calm he try to be sweet and say something fun to make me happy ,,, but I don t want it . I just want him to apologize ! I want him to admit he is fault and saying his sorry but he never do it ... I really hate it .? If I m too much to request an apologize from him ? Why husband is always right ??? It unfair .

Hi I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. Before me he was married for 3years. We always talk about marriage but he is still married. Every time I ask him about his divorce he says "shes filing and I'm just waiting for the papers" I personally think she doesn't want to divorce him. What should I do? We are very much in love as well no doubt about that

He has 3 yrs left on parole but Violated Parole,got into trouble on 3 different charges ...then absconed from parole in NYC when he turns himelf in what can be his outcome? worst & least case scinerio. My ex is telling me he can get a 90 day program,I don't believe that though.Is that possible? been on the run for over a yr

Background first. You and your husband have been married for 7 years now and trust each other completely. The husband is a bit more sexually adventurous of the two of you and enjoys variety over traditional. He is not straying as this would destroy the trust built over the years. If the husband openly admits that he would like to bring in another male for her, would you? More back story. We have done this a few times, with the same person, bringing in another male. Everything was completely consensual between everyone and agreed upon while everyone was sober. We all had a good time while it was happening and we are still friends with this gentleman today. The husband would like to do this again, maybe once or twice a year to have fun, but the wife is not wanting to ever do this again. Again, keeping in mind that the husband is more then willing to allow you to be with another male. The woman has complete and total control over the situation and is not being dominated at all. No one is being forced or coerced into doing something they did not want to do. So, again, this question is for the women out there. Would you be willing to do something like that as long as everyone involved was willing?

Me and my wife have been married for a few weeks. She's 4 months pregnant with twins. We had sex every night before we were married. I told her maybe ever two months once a week but we only do it when she wants to. Which is still pretty much every night. How often should we really do it ?

Here is the deal. Got divorced 6 years ago and she has custody. I am the breadwinner but you know the courts...unless the woman is a deadbeat drug addict then the man never wins which is bullshit. She cheated on me and I divorced her and kicked her out of the house. I told my lawyer in court just let her have the kids and will visit once in a while. She agreed. I've been paying child support which is outrageous. Due to the bullshit laws in my state we had to sell the house so I'm stuck in a little condo in a dicey neighborhood. I went over there last weekend visit...I forgot how she told me never do that. I have to call her first which I hate talking to her. I just want to get my kids and take them out. She refuses to meet at a different location. I found out why she hates surprise visits as I saw this guy that was there. She said it was just a friend. I had to find out from my 8 year old DAUGHTER that this guy has been living with them for 2 years she told me!! Apparently my ex tells him to leave when I come over. This guy has been living with her stealing my money and banging her!!! I want my money back and taken off having to pay child support! What do I do?! This isn't right!!

The guy was supposed to be my "best friend". For five or six years they had an affair (even in my own bed and my son's bed). I never caught them, she finally told me about it and said she loved me and would never do it again and will never see or talk to this man again, should I forgive her, and how can I ever get my trust back, and get this knife I feel is sticking in my back out??? how long before the pain goes away, because I don't even want to live anymore, it hurts so bad. The guy's got an a** kicking when I see him, but should I trust her again?

My husband got drunk and tried to hang himself in the garage -- he had the rope and ladder all set up and in the process of putting the rope on himself. We've had many disagreements over how we should live our life many months before this. He wants to know every detail about my life -- where I'm going, what time I'll be back, etc; me at home at all times; and I feel that he wants to control my life. However, I have a pretty good job that involves not being at home during the most of the day. As a result, he gets depressed and drunk. I was considering leaving him for the past month but now our relationship has escalated to this and I don't know what to do. Should I stay at home, quit my job, and watch him so he does not commit a suicide or leave him for good at which point, he will surely commit suicide. Police came and took him to the hospital. Please advise on what should I do? We have two children living with us: one is young adult and one is almost one. I believe alcohol was a big factor. Can antidepressents and other drugs help him? Maybe therapy

We are in our early forties. I know that sounds incredibly old to some of you, but I feel better the next day when I have sex. Less stressed out and I really enjoy being with him. He is the only man I've ever had the big O with. I have cheated but don't anymore and don't want to. I just feel so frustrated all the time I want to cry. I need an outlet to get rid of this frustration but I work 12 hours a day (with my husband) and drive two hours. I don't have time to Do much. Any ideas ladies?

I've been walking lately for my health and to lose weight. Several weeks ago when I started I told my wife I was going to start off with 1 mile a night and gradually work back up to 4 miles a night by adding 1/2 a mile each week. Remember that. My wife will find every excuse in the world to not walk with me. "I'm tired." "I've gotta find clothes for work the next day." "You wait too late to go walking." I've gotten to the point to where I don't even ask her anymore. When she sees me getting dressed she'll sit there and wait for a special invitation, "honey, would you like to go walking with me tonight?" After hearing no so many times I've gotten to the point to not even ask. Now she feels I don't want her to go with me. Ok, I'm now up to 3 miles and last week when she finally decided to go again with me at 2.5 miles it looked like it wore her out. She had a hard time keeping up. I guess she thought we were going to walk like we're strolling around a mountain lake. No, I keep a certain pace. Wed she went with me again and half way through the walk she grabbed me on my shoulder (I had my headphones in and couldn't hear her yell) and she screamed at me, "SLOW DOWN!!!" Last night when I was about to leave she grabbed her workout clothes and was getting dressed and I told her, "I don't mind you walking with me but however I have gotten myself up to a certain pace so if I get ahead of you just try your best to keep up." She took that as I was being condescending to her like, "you can't keep up to me so don't try. I'd rather you not go." I told her that I walk at least 4 nights a week and I'm use to a certain level. She said she's use to a certain level too cause she use to be in the military. Ok, she hasn't been in the service in nearly 20 years. That's like a professional body builder who stops working out for 20 years then thinks he can just go back into the gym and pick up his workout routine right right where he left off. Should I cut my workout routine down because she wants to go one night a week? Then she told me that I carry a towel, cause I usually sweat pretty good, and I also carry a bottle of water with me. The shorts she wears doesn't have pockets so she can't take a bottle of water and I didn't even offer her any of mine. I asked her why couldn't she just carry a bottle. She said she wasn't going to carry a bottle of water. I guess she wanted me to carry her water so she could look cute in her workout pants and top. Was I condescending to her with what I said?

Well shoot. My hubby went to update our cell phone plan last night and ended up getting us really expensive new phones instead of keeping our old ones (like I wanted) that are already paid off. Money is tight and I m totally freaked out beyond all reason (anxiety, panic attack, the whole nine yards). The total monthly payment will only be $6 extra dollars per month with these new phones, but the difference is using the old phones meant having no debt and this new one means two years of more debt and crossing fingers that we don t break a phone until it is paid off. I love my hubby to death and want him to be happy (and having new tech-y stuff makes him happy). Should I just "take a chill pill" and take extra special care of my new phone and deal with it for the next couple years or should I return the new phones, pay the $75 return fee per phone (it ll still save us money), and be able to breathe easier?

I have lied to my wife a lot. If I want to do something I know she'll disapprove of, I usually do it and don't tell her or lie about it. She says it's a problem but I feel like she's picking fights and being a jerk. She thinks I need professional help for my lying and to save the marriage. What should I do?

Because mine did tonight. 9 weeks postpartum. He s English. I don t think most people would call me fat. I have a little belly from baby but I m healthy weight for my height. That aside....