I met a married man on a chatting app, he's very nice and sweet and charming. When we first met he told me he was Single. I found out he was married because one time his wife caught him talking to me. She told me he's been telling everyone he's single. They have a 2 year old son and she told me there is one on the way but he told me she was lying about that. His side of the story is that his wife is a liar and she always argues with him about everything. He told me she just cares about the kid. We've been talking for months but there was a 3 month period we stopped talking because his wife caught him and she has his old number. This guy and I met on the app again months later and he gave me his new number and we started talking again and he tells me that he needs me and he has strong feelings for me and wants to actually live together. The other way I found out he was married was his Facebook. Should I believe his side or hers ? I really like him and I forgave him for lying.

My sister s husband left her when their baby was 3 months old, and my friend s husband left her when their baby was 1 year old. Im just wondering what would cause a man to do this? What is the psychological reason for this? My sister s husband said he left because "It was just ****" but the baby was literally only 3 months old so I dont understand why he wouldnt have just stayed a little bit longer. Why do some men do this?

He is getting divorced, lives in a shed, takes drugs and smokes in it, his soon to be ex-wife lives in a 3 bedroom tailor. Also his girlfriend who lives with him lies on foodstamps, says they have 4 people living in the shed that is not much larger than a bedroom and stays in the upper 90's inside even with AC. Also he or his girlfriend have jobs. Meant to say do not have jobs. The mother does.

A man that I know just went through a "pop up" divorce from his wife. Does this mean she cheated?

My husband and I have been married for 5 years , since the beginning of our relationship I've always had a problem with him watching porn , it just makes me feel like he's cheating on me and the thought of him getting off at other naked women makes me angry and sad , at first I didn't say much about it but after I would keep finding it on his phone I told him it really bothered me . He said he would stop and never hurt me again , months would go by and I would still find it occasionally on his phone , he would do it while I was at work , at my moms or anytime I wasn't home , eventually I gave him an ultimatum that he needed to stop or I was getting a divorce , he said he would seek counseling and do whatever it takes to never watch it again he feels like he has a porn addiction , I'm currently pregnant with our second child and I found it on his phone again last week I'm done , I just don't know if it's worth me getting heart broken and lied too .. what should I do ?

My wife loves to lay in bed and cuddle all night. Why ?

This guy worked at my job as a manager for over a month. He was training for another location and yesterday was his last day. During the time he worked with us, we got along really well. He flirted with me A LOT. To be honest, he'd be the only guy many of the shifts so he would kind of playfully flirt with everybody, but it was different with me. I'd catch him staring at me often and he'd check me out. He once implied I have a "great ***". He would be way too interested in my love life, including telling me I needed to date men instead of boys, thinking it was ridiculous that my boyfriend took me to McDonald's for dinner the other night, and making quite a few comments about a hickey my boyfriend gave me. Anyways, since yesterday was his last day working with my particular store, I friend requested him on Facebook and he accepted it almost immediately. He hasn't attempted to interact with me, though. Why do you think that is? Oh by the way, he IS married. He mentions his wife often. Why would he accept my friend request? He's 41, I'm 28. It's not an office, Grandpa. We work in food service. Nobody gave him the kind of attention I did and he only gave me the type of attention that he did. People took notice all the time of how we would flirt with each other...mainly customers. They could see it.

My aunt is a narcissist and divorced.

3. How did affect you emotionally while you were growing? 4. Do you wished not to have same bad relationship like parents had?

Husband and I have been married for 30 years. There have been many ups and downs but together we've raised two sons and made a beautiful life together. Things get rocky sometimes. He was unfaithful once in the past. Now I've discovered that for the past 2 years he's been having an affair - sexual and emotional - with another woman. They weren't just sleeping together, they went in a relationship. My husband did not tell me about the affair - I discovered it. Then he was honest about it, meaning he didn't try denying it. He showed me text messages that he's sent to her saying he cares deeply for her but will never walk away from his family for her. He told me that our relationship has changed (for the better) over the past two years and now I don't know what to make of that considering he's been having an affair behind my back these past two years. I'm at a loss of words, I'm hurt, and I don't know what to make of that or how to understand this. I'm not thinking rationally because there's so many emotions consuming me now. Can someone help me make sense of this? Thanks in advance for your kind words of insight.

I have three kids, ages 10, 3 and 2. My 10 year old is from a previous situation. I say situation because it was a surprise to me that I had my oldest son. At that time I found out about him, my now wife and I were dating. She stuck by my side even though it was a very difficult road - my ex has bipolar and has lost custody (and regained it) several times. Currently we have primary custody. Holidays are particularly difficult. Even Halloween. When oldest was a toddler, oldest's mother wanted me there, but wanted my wife excluded. She was concerned that oldest loved his stepmom more than her and didn't want to see it. My wife said she understood and stayed home. Now my wife wants to take our kids trick or treating this year. And she wants to be the only woman. Ex is not ok with that. I even offered for ex to take 10 year old without me. But ex wants us to go together; she even said she's now ok now if my wife and youngest two join us. But wife feels that she's stepped aside for years and wants ex to do same. That's not going to happen. Since my oldest has an established routine (and my ex would say things to him about me choosing his younger siblings; that's how she is) I am leaning toward going with oldest and his mother. I understand why my wife is angry. But my oldest only has a year or two more of trick or treating. We are almost at the end of dealing with this holiday; I wish wife could just hold on another year or two as-is. How would you handle? I have son that day; ex is supposed to get 30 min time according to agreement, but she always stays longer. So son is in my custody on that day. Otherwise, I'd just say I wasn't home or was busy. But I'll have him and she is entitled to 30 minutes time. I can't force her to leave my neighborhood or tell son to go in the house during trick or treat time without making an uncomfortable situation. I love son, but if I could go back in time, I'd be more responsible. Blended situations are tough. Thank you for the advice. history, It's weird that we need to walk our 10 y/o together around the neighborhood. But oldest son says he does want to go with us both. I'm not sure if he's told to say that to make her happy or if it's what he wants. Anon, there are many instances of parental alienation. She's been scolded on it before in court. But, as I already have primary custody, they are hesitant to remove more time from her. She blames mental illness & the courts have been sympathetic.

One thing people know about me is that I love to cook. I'm always talking recipes with people at church and I'm working with my mom to get her recipes before she dies. One thing I love to make and eat is guacamole. Last week I bought some avocados for fajitas but didn't use them all. To keep them from going to the bad I decided to make some guacamole. Once made I placed a sheet of plastic wrap down on the surface of the guac so it would stay fresh longer. Well, yesterday I opened the fridge to see that the plastic wrap was resting on top of the bowl and the surface of the guac was starting to turn brown. When I asked my wife if she had some she looked at me and asked "why?" When I told her that it was now brown because of the air that was in it she said she had gotten some. I tried to salvage it by stirring it up and replacing the plastic wrap down on the surface of the guac. Today I open the fridge and again the plastic wrap was on top of the bowl and the surface was again brown. I knew I had just had the conversation with my wife and unless she just didn't care or she's just that forgetful I seriously doubt she did it again. I sent a group text to her and her two sons who had been here this week asking who had some quac and her oldest son replied that he did. When I explained to him that the whole batch was now ruined because he didn't put the plastic wrap back down on the surface of the guac he told me that he had gotten some the other day as well. I knew then that my wife had lied to me to cover up what her 23 year old son had done. She had never gotten any guac but didn't want her son to take the rap for it. Why would she do that? It's not like I found a big dent in the side of the car or opened a bottle of whisky only to find tea inside of it. She lied and took the wrap for her son. Why? I'm having a hard time understanding that. Someone please help me out here.

Listening to a recent morning radio show, I had the opportunity to hear a woman named Michelle Afont plug her recent book, The Dang Factor. In a nutshell, she describes it as "inspiring and motivating women everywhere to evaluate the state of their love life and make the changes necessary to find, restore, and keep passionate love in their lives. It is about changing the way women love and learning to un-love and move forward when a relationship does not go according to plan." It might not surprise you to know that Michelle herself is a divorce attorney, and reports having left her own husband of twenty-five years after deciding she "had never really felt passionate love." (Ouch. I'm betting her ex-husband is fairly embarrassed. And really, what does that even mean?) She speaks on her website of relationships that have outgrown their usefulness, appears fairly concerned about end-of-life regret, and generally seems to equate love with excited, happy, adolescent feelings. So, it should also come as no surprise that (much to the amusement of my many small passengers) I started shouting at the radio when Michelle described how "successful" relationships ought to look: "you need to make sure it always feels like he's your boyfriend, and not your husband." (Seriously? Because I don't really miss dating. I kind of like being married. And, that sounds like a lot of work.) Read more: https://www.crisismagazine.com/2018/some-people-have-no-clue-what-marriage-is

you will spend an extra 340,000 dollars on her food bill after 25 years.

I hate her

we have household and children responsibilities. Our kids are young so we need to make them dinner and lunches for the next day. My wife is the one who cooks and cleans. She is a perfectionist as well. I do laundry help clean take kids to sports etc. She doesn't trust my cleaning. How can I help her get more time with the kids? I was thinking about cleaning while she gives them a bath. Any other ideas? This has actually made her mad at me so I want to help her.

I left her alone and then while at work I got s text about how I was out of line and I continue to hold things in and then lash out. I was upset b/c she said she thinks I don't care about her which is very untrue. She has had issues recently with medical and she has a miscarriage which left her depressed. I thought I am always there for her. Randomly bring her flowers, ask her her day was, help around the house and take care of the kids as much as her. However she still feels like I don't care. She said based on my comments last night it seems like I don't appreciate her. Is there anything that I can do? I am confused.

My husband earns a lot of money, I do not sweat and I do not have to clean up too. I do not know how to equate this :( I want to also feel something from me, so let me decide about everything BUT is not enough. What can I do for him yet? What gift is not for money?

we have been married 10 years 90% has been verbal abuse ive told my doctors I'm on antdepressants

Like is it true some husband are selfish and they don't wish their wife to be more successful than them?

im not happy in my relationship of almost 3 years. I've taken responsibility and talked when calm, been detailed in expressing my needs, patient with showing her how I like certain things. No matter how many times I show her something specific to me it's like I never said or showed her anything. She's a very defensive person. I used to be that way and I've grown so much and I feel like I'm with someone who's not even close to my mentally/emotionally healthy level. I try my best to present myself as open, calm and ready to resolve. I say "baby I need to speak with you about something that's bothering me" she gets tense. I reassure her we will get through it I just want to address it so it's no longer an issue we still end up arguing. I'm left feeling unheard, misunderstood, hurt. I treat her like i want to be treated and as an example as to how I need her to reciprocate the same level of understanding and emotional support for me when I have an issue. It's been almost 3 years and nothing has changed. She's been out of work due to an injury. Workers comp has denied her claim twice. I make good money so I've been supporting our household and her. I do it happily because generally she's a good person. My issue is since she's been home, she's not holding the household down. I feel like if I'm at work 60-70 hours a week. If I don't make the bed it doesn't get made. If I don't ask she's oblivious and when I do ask she defensive. I'm exhausted

I just feel stuck and am curious to see what others think. My husband and I have been having some difficulties of late. I thought just workplace stress & difficult teen stress. Yesterday he told me he wasn't going to work as he was sick. My sister called me on lunch to say she could see him at the same bar she was at for a work lunch with a woman and they were quite cuddly. I asked if she was sure she wasn't mistaken and she said there was no way she could have mistaken him. When I got home I asked him what he did all day and he said he was home in bed. When I said 'oh, Melissa said she saw you at ****' he said she must have been mistaken. When I asked him another question about it, he got really defensive and angry and lost his temper, which he never does. I couldn't help feel that this was a sign of something being up. I told him he could tell me if he went out, I just want to know what is going on and he stormed out saying I don't trust him. The fact is, right now I don't trust him anymore. I am unsure whether I should give him the benefit of the doubt and accept the possibility my sister was mistaken or choose to disbelieve him, but I don't know what that would mean for our marriage.