My husband and I are post 1.5 years after his affair, we have a 3 yr old. We agreed after that we both need to work on ourselves. In addition my husband lost his mother a few months later, he lost us and ALL of his lifelong friends, then he got us back 2 months after it happened. Since then, he's been so depressed and he has a lot of anxiety. it's really weighing down on our marriage and our family. I am depressed myself too but I've been strong enough to hold it together way better than he does. It is to the point sometimes he can't take care of our son and chooses to feed his anxiety and depression. Then I have to tend to our son even with how busy I am in my job. I work from home and I travel the state. When I come home I feel like he always needs my attention. Alot of the time I can't give him the personal attention and personal love that he needs. I feel like he might be able to find a better woman who can give him that. Between us two, I'm the mentally stronger one, I can keep my thoughts and emotions together. Between all of this I am also trying to keep my sanity. Sometimes I get so far behind in my work because I'm tending to my husbands depression and my son's need for attention. A lot of times I think we need space apart, and he needs to find himself. Is this a Right person, wrong time situation? I we've been together for 13 years, I love him very deeply and I want to be with him but I feel like we have so much going on individually that it's hard to focus on our relationship. I'm still recovering from the affair and we don't have a lot of help with our son where we are. Please don't say counseling, I would love detailed advice from couples who have been there.

I was staring at her butt to see if she got a nice one, I do this with aII girIs. I said I cant Iook but I can touch and she Iaughed and said your so funny wiII. So I thought she was ok. And then the next day she was Iike "For reaI,why were you Iooking at my butt", So maybe she thinks im not attracted to it sexuaIiy and I was just being funny, Idk what to teII her. Do I be honest and say I was checking you out sexuaIiy or do I Iie to spare her feeIings?

First time I was a toddler so have no memory of it. Second time my Dad had broken a piece of furniture in a fight with my Mom and she threw him out. He came back 3 weeks later. Third time was the first long term separation and it lasted 3 months. Mom was tired of Dad talking to her like she was dog poop and I don't blame her. Plus his drinking was too much. They separated and then got back together 3 months later. Fourth time both parents had become alcoholics and we thought they were done as a married couple as divorce papers were written up and they were apart for a year. .My Dad got prostate cancer and my mother welcomed him back. Mom stopped drinking but Dad went back to it. Now they have separated again. This time cause my Mom is not supporting my father in his recovery as he agreed to get help for his alcoholism as it has become severe. My Mom expects him to be perfect and he is not. This time around I side with my Dad though the other times I felt more in Mom's favor. We kids are out of the house and I am afraid they might be done this time after 26 years of marriage. I don't want them to divorce. I feel rooting for a divorce is like rooting for something bad to happen to an enemy. At the same time I feel like I am a sample Dr. Phil TV Show family with dysfunction. My mother has never alienated us from our Dad during separations but has from his family as she and his mother don't get along. I feel so sad this might be it but I have felt that so many times in the past and they end up back together. Should I be hopeful they reconcile for the 5th time? Am I supposed to cheer for a divorce since they are dysfunctional? I am sure the alcoholism comes from their marriage.

Or it lie? Like I notice lots of women and men don't get married and they just work.

My husband of 19 yrs comes home wants 2 hit the bed, doesn't like to travel I love to! he says that he loves me! but I don't' feel it, he doesn't take me on dates, no matter how many times I've asked. he doesn't like working on the house hates construction. He works 12-15 hrs 6 days a wk. he helps with our daughters lunch, occasionally with laundry. He feeds on the att. of other women ignores me. hasn't cheated that I know. Now that I'm done, now he says that I am his life! What do I do?19yrs!

Hi, need opinions from outside people:) while attending my brothers wedding reception I chatted with friends & family I hadn't seen in a while. My husband chatted with an old female friend most of the night and then to my surprise was slow dancing at the end of the evening with her. I'm heartbroken he thinks it's ok to dance with another women. He swears it was a just friends thing trying to cheer her up as she's going thru a divorce. I'm having a hard time with this and wondered what others thought of this.

I'm just curious, I'm calling BS on something someone told me but maybe I'm wrong. I was told by someone that he couldn't divorce his wife because they have a disabled child together, and she lives in Welfare housing. If he divorced her, he says that the child support would go directly towards paying her rent, and not supporting his child, so they have made arrangements for him to pay certain bills related to the well being of the child. Is this even remotely normal?

My husband and I are having too many arguments about my son. My son is 16, and out of control. I get that, but he is acting that way because his father, my ex husband don't even call them. My son had been in trouble With the police, with other teens, we caught him having sex in his room with an older girl, caught him with drugs, his attitude is not the best. I have no idea what to do and that pisses my husband. The other day we had a very strong argument, because my son came home at four in the morning, high and smelling awful. He was very out of place, my husband scolded him and he reacted mean towards my husband. So my husband beat up my son, I didn't know what to do, My kids and I suffered from domestic violence with their dad. I asked him for the divorce papers, he's staying at a hotel and my son is at the hospital. He keeps on calling to check up on him.and to apologize, he doesn't want to divorce. What should I do? Why do I like I'm repeating the same story?

My wife is very selfish; possibly even narcissistic. Unless she feels like it, she doesn't do anything; and if she feels like doing something that no one else wants to to do, she'll do it anyways. The world, revolves, around, her (so she thinks). We have two kids together, 16 and 12. They don't have a set bedtime, and my wife loses most of her energy by 7pm then goes to bed by 9pm. Meanwhile, she's done nothing to get the kids to go to sleep, so she leaves me to do it all alone. My 16 year old fights me and tries to stay up as long as possible. My 12 year old is fine. But we all get up at 5 or 6 am, so going to bed at 1am means my son only gets 4 hours of sleep (he's regularly in sleep related psychosis). And I don't know how to fix this problem without (1) abusing my son to make him go to bed sooner, (2) abusing my wife to make her go to bed later and help me, (3) abuse no one and get taken advantage of by both of my narcissists. Please help me. I'm tired. I haven't slept in a few months now. I'm really, really, tired. My wife on the other hand, gets 8 to 10 hours of sleep and then claims she's still tired. She's on medicine for anxiety/depression and she says it's the "right dose" so I don't understand her at all. It doesn't help that our senior cat (15 years old) encourages my wife to go to bed to cuddle with him and they sleep together a lot. So she uses his "cuteness" as an excuse to go have a nap. Meanwhile, I get yelled at if I even play a vidya game.....

I mean it is just money so I don't get why my Mom is divorcing him. He fibs a lot about stuff but never serious lies and he didn't even cheat on her. So is this justified or is my Mom just being a bully to him since their not rich like her parents?

I knew before I met him that he was a very talkative person and needs me to 'listen' to him with undivided attention talk about his job friends neighbours finding new home .. But he can take talking to a whole other level. He stays home during the day (aftet night work)and I've been chronically ill since the start of the year so we are together every waking second. As he talks so much he drains my energy that I don't have enough for my 3 children who rightly need triple the amount of attention.( He doesn't conversate with them by the way so everyone needs me for an ear) and when they want to talk to me ..He stops them to say "leave mom alone ". I dont have time to call friends, although i text He can interupt me when wants if i watch a tv show, i would need to pause..cooking pause , cleaning pause. I find myself getting less sleep over the years just to have quiet time ..just to watch tv without interruptions. I've talked to him over and over but he still the same and I'm not getting anything done as long as he is home. The only place I can have time is the bathroom. It's even so bad that if we eat together he will talk so much that I will finish my food before him. Even other people notice how much he talks The worst part about it is that o give him unlimited amount of my time but he can also talk to me any how he feels so if that means in a rude way, or be snappy god forbid I interrupt him during his quiet time. I I feel I've been shortchanged what do I do?

My husband and i need to divorce, tje only issue is i dont know where he is, i know hes on probation, and we have a no contact order, im not sure how to go about divorcing?

circle. Based on conversations with my wife, it seems that the women who know about this basically condone it. One of the women, Who will pretty much sleep with anything that walks has straight up sent my wife nude/erotic photos of herself and has sent her videos of pornographic pole dancing and asked my wife to join her. It seems like I'm the only one who thinks this is insanely inappropriate. 1. Is there a double standard where women think this behavior is acceptable for them but not for men? 2. Do I have a right to ask my wife to send a clear message to the one girl, that sending my wife porn pictures of herself is not going to be tolerated? Sorry for sounding like a prude but I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone.

After the incident my stepdaughter told me that she was going to was going on a diet. I told her that she didn't need to lose weight because she wasn't overweight. She tried to skip meals we got in an argument about it she yelled you're not my mother so get off my back I said young lady I love you & when your father is out of town I am responsible for you. She she has been refusing to eat the food up which I make her eat in front of me. Again my husband said it was a phase. I found a laxatives hidden under her mattress when I confronted her about it she said she was constipated I said young lady if you was constipated these wouldn't be hidden under your bed i told my husband he said well she could have been constipated. I called her trying to make yourself throw up and I stopped her. When I told my husband about it he said we'll talk to her about this she lied and said it was a one-time thing and he believed her and told me it was a one-time deal to get off his back. Yesterday my husband call her making herself sick and apologize to me he told me he didn't want to believe his daughter was bulimic and he promised me that we would get her the help she need. Last night his mother came over and we told her not to make any more remarks about our daughter's weight because she's bulimic. The woman freaks out blames me tell my husband to divorce me because they would be better off without me in their life if he didn't she what's new for custody